I don't think our marriage is going to work unless I just hold everything in
Q. I won't go into the lengthy background but my wife and I have been together for about 10 years. We've had our ups and downs, nothing big - nobody has ever cheated or anything like that. But the biggest problem we've always had is not that we argue ...
A. 20 April 2021: There might be a few things at play here.
1. She takes YOU for granted. In the sense that SHE knows you will listen to HER "gripes" but she really doesn't have to or want to listen to yours. Apparently, she is of the opinion that ONLY women ca... (read in full...)
My husband admitted to seeking out male friends for me
Q. I've been married to my husband for 8 years; life's been good so far. We met when doing a Christmas promotional thing in the store I worked in at the time. Or so I thought. On Monday my husband admitted to me he'd been online posing a...
A. 19 April 2021: This is just wrong on every level.
I have to agree with WiseOwlE that HE (your husband) might be looking to FLIRT with men and used YOUR info as the "bait". Which is insane.
It is NOT a joke to USE your information, pictures to hook up with ... (read in full...)
How do I set boundaries with my narcissist cousin?
Q. A cousin of mine asked me to be a godmother to her twins, when she was still pregnant. I would have politely refused, but she was in the hospital and under a lot of stress (and meds), because she almost lost her babies. I made a mistake, but I h...
A. 18 April 2021: You mention that you grew up being her "caretaker" in a sense and you always wondered why, maybe your mom and her sister had a similar dynamic so it continued with their daughters without it being obvious.
How do you say no? I think you NEED to ... (read in full...)
Do you think my husband is cheating?
Q. My husband went and got another phone app on his phone. He told me it is to save money. But our current phone plan is only $25 a month. The new one is $20 a month and he went so far as to go through the trouble of switching to an app you can load on ...
A. 18 April 2021: That IS weird.
Have you asked him to show you his phone? While personally, I don't get the whole "go through a partner's phone" but some couples do this, and are OK with it.
Besides this app thing, has he made other changes?
Does he come ho... (read in full...)
I feel insecure about not acting like an 'Influencer'
Q. Lots of my peers (I'm in my twenties) wear lots of "Instagram makeup," the on trend style (which is very revealing - think low cut tops, hotpants etc), have social media accounts where they post pictures of themselves in bikinis, show off how big ...
A. 18 April 2021: Oops, cat hit the "add your answer"...
As the world is today, Fake is in. Morals, values and common sense, and common decency is out. And it's a crying shame.
Kylie Jenner doesn't even LOOK like her Instagram posts in reality. She had plastic ... (read in full...)
I feel insecure about not acting like an 'Influencer'
Q. Lots of my peers (I'm in my twenties) wear lots of "Instagram makeup," the on trend style (which is very revealing - think low cut tops, hotpants etc), have social media accounts where they post pictures of themselves in bikinis, show off how big ...
A. 18 April 2021: I'm of the opinion that IF you want to do make-up, then DO it.
If you are fine without it, then don't.
What IS it that you think you will "miss out on" exactly? Getting attention and hate from strangers online?
Social media is like ... (read in full...)
I am having a relationship with a woman 1/2 my age. She has sex with other men. I don't mind but my family does
Q. Im a 75 year old man who would like some honest advice...my entire family is upset with me..for over a year now Ive been having a relationship with a 36 year old woman..we spend alot of time together, traveling the world, going to restaurants, ...
A. 18 April 2021: Here is the thing, YOU are an adult, SHE is an adult.
What the two of you decide is OK between you two and in YOUR relationship, THAT is on you (both).
She isn't your GF though (if you ask me) she is your COMPANION.
I can see why your ki... (read in full...)
We broke up but still talk and I'm confused
Q. I don’t know what to think anymore. My gf broke up few months ago but we talk daily and still love each other. However due to pandemic it has been hard to move forward. However I have just realised she does talk to me but barely answers. It’s so...
A. 17 April 2021: OP, it's over.
Time to let her go so YOU can heal and move on.
Tell her you feel it's better to cut contact so YOU can heal and move on. That you wish her well and happiness.
The longer you KEEP her in your life the longer it will take befo... (read in full...)
Is my story a cautionary tale about waiting for a married man and being careful what you wish for
Q. You're probably going to think "you got what you wanted, now be satisifed with it" or "another typical case of woman takes married man and another woman's leftovers", but this is not quite that. I got with my current boyfriend in August 2019, a y...
A. 17 April 2021: Here is the crux of it all, OP
"He's told me in the past week or so he wants to get back with his ex-wife, re-marry her next year post-coronavirus pandemic, and that our relationship is over."
So tell him, "good luck", get the F out of my hous... (read in full...)
I found out on my birthday my husband has been having casual, meaningless sex with another woman!!! How can I ever trust him again?/
Q. Can ANYONE here tell me HOW and WHY A MAN can go behind his wife or girlfriend's back to GET A BLOW JOB or HAVE MEANINGLESS CASUAL SEX here and there and CLAIM to LOVE his wife or girlfriend??? And PRETEND to be committed to his primary ...
A. 17 April 2021: Good for you OP to realize YOUR worth here.
You are going to be fine. IF this hadn't hurt you, you wouldn't have been that invested. It is natural to be hurt and angry. As long as you remember to leave that hurt and anger behind when you divorce ... (read in full...)
My fiance wants to move from Italy to Manhatten. Could we make it?
Q. I'm uncertain of how to deal with this. Thought I'd ask. My fiancee told me on Saturday that the coronavirus pandemic made her really question her priorities in life and realize life's too short to stay in Italy. She told me that she'd secretl...
A. 15 April 2021: Your fiance is 32 years old, so on the "old" side of the modelling industry at least for those who make GOOD money. Also, models and actors/actresses are a dime a dozen in NY and LA. She will be competing for jobs with 14-20 year old hopefuls and ... (read in full...)
We had a falling out I extended an olive branch to my close friend but he didn't respond. Now what?
Q. Ok, folks. I need your advice on this one. Here's the story. I had a friend and we were a part of a larger group of friends and we were all part of a local sports club. He and I were really good pals, in fact I would class him as one of my closes...
A. 15 April 2021: I don't think anyone thinks you are a "sub-standard" friend. You are someone who trusted a person you shouldn't have (Mr. Gossip) You won't be the first or the last to do so. I think ALL of us here have trusted someone who didn't keep that trust. So ... (read in full...)
My 45 year old husband wants to quit his job and work for the Australian army
Q. My husband told me yesterday he wants to quit his job, aged 45, and work in public relations for the Australian Army for 18 months. He works in sales and doesn't want to work from home any longer, claims working for the Army in public relation...
A. 14 April 2021: Working doing PR for the Army is not a dangerous job. He isn't joining the infantry. He won't get PTSD from working campaigns. He won't be going to warzones. He won't have to do boot camp etc.
But him working for the military might affect w... (read in full...)
Girlfriend shares bed with single guy but swears nothing happened
Q. We were at a single friends home having drinks. I laid down about 2am as my girlfriend carried on a conversation with the single guy,that include admitting she was not that happy.. I was listening. they talked for quite some time. there was a ...
A. 14 April 2021: I have to agree with Kenny, this is overall a really odd situation.
Why didn't you and your GD (if you live together) go home together?
And if you don't live together why didn't she just go home. (too drunk to drive?) If she was drunk and co... (read in full...)
We had a falling out I extended an olive branch to my close friend but he didn't respond. Now what?
Q. Ok, folks. I need your advice on this one. Here's the story. I had a friend and we were a part of a larger group of friends and we were all part of a local sports club. He and I were really good pals, in fact I would class him as one of my closes...
A. 14 April 2021: "My head says let it go, I sent an olive branch and it wasn't received."
It was received, he just CHOSE to not respond and/or not read AND respond to it.
You made a HUGE mistake in confiding in Mr. Gossip. THAT was your choice to do. Seriously... (read in full...)
I found out on my birthday my husband has been having casual, meaningless sex with another woman!!! How can I ever trust him again?/
Q. Can ANYONE here tell me HOW and WHY A MAN can go behind his wife or girlfriend's back to GET A BLOW JOB or HAVE MEANINGLESS CASUAL SEX here and there and CLAIM to LOVE his wife or girlfriend??? And PRETEND to be committed to his primary ...
A. 14 April 2021: For one, I'm sorry you are married to a man with a mindset like this. The "cheater mindset".
Secondly, YOU going out and doing whatever sexually with someone else is NOT going to make this right, it's not going to make YOU feel better. It would be... (read in full...)
How long a man can stay hard in sex (just penitration time)
Q. There are a lot of myths. No man tells that how long he can stay during intercourse. so is it true that a man can stay hard without cum more than 30 mins? what your experience tells about it....
A. 13 April 2021: It all depends, OP
There isn't a "one penis" fits all. Or an "all penises" does this and lasts this long. I don't think there are "rules" for how long a man can stay hard.
Someone who is fit and healthy can probably stay hard longer. Someone ... (read in full...)
My husband took the kids and left me for his dominatrix lover
Q. I found out on Wednesday that my husband left me and took the kids to move in with his lover, who's 35 and a dominatrix. The note read "I've gone, aint not coming back because youre not the personn I fell in love with and Ive taken the kids j...
A. 13 April 2021: Definitely call a lawyer.
He can't just "take" the kids. And you have no idea if your kids are safe with him (sounds unhinged).
Skype or video call your parents if you need someone to talk to. Check your bank records as well. You might want t... (read in full...)
I am not sure if my partner and I are at the same place about having a family
Q. ’m unsure whether I’m being naive here or over dramatic, hopefully you can help. I’ve been with my partner 3 years this year. I’m 25, 26 in January and he is 24, 25 in January. I’m at the point in my life where I feel like I’m ready for children, as ...
A. 13 April 2021: You say your partner has had a "life-changing" diagnosis, I have to ask is that something he potentially can pass down genetically? If so, is it even a good idea to have his kids?
We quite often do not consider this BEFORE having children... (read in full...)
Can a relationship that started as an affair have a chance at succeeding in the long run?
Q. I am one of the rare mistresses who gets her married man in the end. He divorced his wife, sold the home, split assets. All the kids are grown and out of the house. And now we are together legitimately. I can walk on the street with him hold...
A. 13 April 2021: First off, BULLSHIT to your " But we are both taking responsibility for our actions."
No, you are not. You "won" your man and your relationship by stabbing another woman in the back. Doesn't matter HOW bad his marriage was or how horrible the wife... (read in full...)
I'm still in love with him even though he is cruel
Q. Once upon a time I liked this boy from my primary school when I was 13. I told him how I felt about him on Facebook and his response was that I have problems. But it made me fall in love with him even more. Then one day, he called me an ugly bitch ...
A. 13 April 2021: Probably start by not stalking him and not reach out to him anymore.
While he was cruel, I think it's a little creepy to declare your feeling to someone you haven't known for 20 years. Don't you realize that he probably is a VERY differen... (read in full...)
Is This Player Just Chasing Me Because I'm Hard To Get?
Q. The guy who likes me is a ladies man and party boy and has slept with loads of girls, so although I think he's hot I am not interested. He has constantly been flattering me for ages to the point his friends make fun of him but Im just not into him ...
A. 12 April 2021: Players prefer someone with a pulse who is willing.
They might have a type they "bed" and a type they want to "wed". Just like ANY guy (girl) our there.
If he has slept with LOADS of women, then generally he doesn't HAVE to do a lot of work to... (read in full...)
I want my husband to quit working so hard so that we can have a life together
Q. I have put up with my workaholic husband for 28 yrs in all this time I have got used to being second to his work. I guess it my own fault really I should have left him years ago but he a good man and I love him no matter what. Now he’s getting ...
A. 10 April 2021: I agree with Code Warrior.
You know what you want, you need to express it to him. But asking for something doesn't mean you "get it" so to speak. He might not want to totally quit working. Do you two have a good retirement fund?
Gave you two ... (read in full...)
He left me once and asked for my forgiveness. Can I trust him not to leave me again?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for five years. We became engaged in September of 2020 and then moved in together in December 2020. I was over the moon and life couldn't be better UNTIL he decided, seemingly out of the blue, to move out after ...
A. 10 April 2021: While I think self-improvement and self-exploration are ALWAYS a good thing, what happened IS NOT your fault. you, in fact, had no say in what happened. He just left.
He didn't TALK to you. He didn't express those "feelings" he had. But now... h... (read in full...)
He left me once and asked for my forgiveness. Can I trust him not to leave me again?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for five years. We became engaged in September of 2020 and then moved in together in December 2020. I was over the moon and life couldn't be better UNTIL he decided, seemingly out of the blue, to move out after ...
A. 10 April 2021: While I think self-improvement and self-exploration are ALWAYS a good thing, what happened IS NOT your fault. you, in fact, had no say in what happened. He just left.
He didn't TALK to you. He didn't express those "feelings" he had. But now... h... (read in full...)
Husband's secret past is worrisome
Q. I've been married to my husband for 3 years now, and found some quite strange pictures of him online by accident; the photos were of him wearing a bikini and leather skirt, and him eating a doughnut. It was a rather old-fashioned website with loa...
A. 10 April 2021: Print out a few of the pictures and ask him point-blank WTF is going on?
We can't tell you what's going on.
This is your marriage and this is obviously upsetting you so you NEED to take the bull by the horns and have this out in the open. The... (read in full...)
I think I am just a replace for my fiance's ex
Q. So me and my fiancé have been together for just under two years, but I’m not convinced he loves me as much as an ex girlfriend he was with for 7 years. Or even at all, I play around scenarios in my head where I wonder if he wishes he could just be ...
A. 10 April 2021: Well first off, SHE was a BIG part of his past - 7 years is a long time for many. SHE is also the reason he got help with his anger issues and apparently matured quite a lot. She has had a HUGE impact on him AND his life.
YOU wouldn't be dating t... (read in full...)
Lack of care, or being over sensitive?
Q. Trying to cut a long story short. I have had various problems with my Heath since giving birth to my second child 7 months ago. Over the past few weeks I have been suffering with pain down below and this evening it was so bad I couldn’t move from ...
A. 10 April 2021: I don't think you are dramatic at all.
I think it would have made perfect sense for him to stay sober and to take care of the kids while you go to the hospital.
But I'm guessing this isn't new behavior from him?
And if it's not... why have ... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to Cuckold him, I don't understand why
Q. Hi I am really hoping you ladies and gents can help me! 2 weeks ago my husband asked me to really consider letting him watch another guy have sex with me. This has thrown me hard, I don't understand it. He says he can't explain his reasons behi...
A. 10 April 2021: Yikes OP!
I'm so sorry. I just read your update. Seems like his "true" motive came out, didn't it? When he went on about how he wanted to screw your new online friend. Sure he also added that YOU would be screwing her husband at the same time but... (read in full...)
My dad lied and told my mother and I that he had coronavirus when he didn't. Now we don't trust him
Q. I'm 26, and live at home with my parents; moved back in after my 2-year relationship failed to work out and I moved in with mum and dad in March 2021 (I'd moved out aged 20). I've lived away from home since 20, then aged 24, moved in with my ...
A. 9 April 2021: I think your das have some serious issues to be really frank.
I can see people faking Corona (I have actually seen it - because it meant the person would get 2 weeks off while getting fully paid - and he did. He never showed proof of the results.... (read in full...)
I've made my husband feel guilty but he doesn't need to.
Q. This is going to sound like a strange one. About 2 weeks ago I walked in on my husband and his best friend watching one of our home made videos and performing sexual acts on each other. My first reaction was to act angrily, but really I wasn't...
A. 8 April 2021: I don't get why you aren't actually pissed at your husband here.
He hasn't seen his buddy in a while and then decides sharing some homemade porn is a good way to spend time with a friend? That is gross if you ask me. A GROWN-ass man in his 40+s... (read in full...)
Do I let my teenaged son know I seen him making out with his friend? Do I tell his dad?
Q. I have a son who is 14 year old son, Chris. He broke his leg and is on crutches. He is getting around okay on the crutches but I was worried about leaving him home alone, afraid that he would fall down, especially in the bathroom. Chris asked if...
A. 8 April 2021: They are 14, there is no chance of pregnancy. This might seem a bit sexist to say but in all honesty that is reality.
They might not be 100% sure of themselves whether they are bi or gay or whatever, they are still just curious.
I would not s... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to Cuckold him, I don't understand why
Q. Hi I am really hoping you ladies and gents can help me! 2 weeks ago my husband asked me to really consider letting him watch another guy have sex with me. This has thrown me hard, I don't understand it. He says he can't explain his reasons behi...
A. 8 April 2021: If you look around here on DC you will find that NOT a single person who TRIED adding a 3rd person had a good outcome. NOT a single one that I can remember in the 15+ years I have been on here.
I don't even get the fantasy but that is beside t... (read in full...)
He left me once and asked for my forgiveness. Can I trust him not to leave me again?
Q. My fiance and I have been together for five years. We became engaged in September of 2020 and then moved in together in December 2020. I was over the moon and life couldn't be better UNTIL he decided, seemingly out of the blue, to move out after ...
A. 7 April 2021: Should you trust him?
Absolutely not. It's only been a few months since he dumped you and "ran away". No one becomes a different person in a few months.
You say you love him, so WHAT exactly is it that you love about him? Does it outweigh what... (read in full...)
how we can a couple work if neither likes the other's family?
Q. I have a few issues but they all sort of tie in together. First of all, how we can a couple work if neither likes the other's family? I don't really know exactly what he thinks of my family but I know he has problems with at least a few members. I ...
A. 7 April 2021: I have to agree with Kenny.
This has less to do with his family and more to do with him (and you).
You say you have noticed he is "tuning into" them. He isn't though. He is who he is, but as he grows older the toxic behaviors he grew up with ... (read in full...)
The Guy Who Likes Me Abused His Ex Girlfriend, how didn't I spot it?
Q. I'm in complete shock rn, I went through a breakup recently and there's another guy who likes me a lot (he's told me). He's good looking, a few years older, has a reputation for being a player and a few of my other friends know him. He comes off as ...
A. 7 April 2021: Other than the Valentine "thing" you haven't really spend enough time WITH him to really SEE red flags. However, the Valentine "thing" SHOULD have given you pause.
My guess is you are young and have LITTLE experience with abusive people. ... (read in full...)
MY boyfriend's new job leaves no time for us. I'm worried our relationship won't last
Q. Recently my boyfriend got a new job driving lorries and it seems like hes constantly working and i never see him anymore. He works mon to fri has to be up at 4am then works til 5pm but often til 9pm. Weekends hes on call midnight saturda...
A. 5 April 2021: I'd say give him a bit more time to settle into his new job. Learn to "entertain" yourself a bit too.
For now, he is the "new guy" which means he has the shittier shifts and routes. He will also settle into his new routine and schedule. It takes... (read in full...)
I want to move on but I know it will forever change the relationship between my ex and I
Q. Hello, I realise that people will think these concerns are crazy, but here I go... I’ve been separated for 2.5 years, I’ve had 2 dates within that time and I really had to build myself up to go on them. Both were fine dates but I always find an ...
A. 5 April 2021: Your ex has moved on, GIVE yourself permission to do the same.
Sure, he can make life harder for you when you move on but you don't KNOW that he will. You just HOPe he won't. That shouldn't stop you from having the life you WANT to have.
... (read in full...)
Is it asking too much for my girlfriend to notice when I make changes in myself?
Q. Am I asking for too much for my gf to notice my hair. I have not been looking after myself, as depressed and lockdown. I went and got major makeover and she has not mentioned it even once. I am so tempted to take pics and send to others and I will ...
A. 5 April 2021: I'm with Code Warrior on EVERYTHING.
I will just add this:
"Than I stop bothering with clothes and realised she doesn’t notice. Than I paid attention to fact we barely talk. I’m realising maybe I missed the signs."
Don't stop dressing N... (read in full...)
What to do in regards to an ex friend and her repeatedly calling my land line phone?
Q. Hi and thank you to everyone who takes the time to respond to my question. A couple of months back I posted on here about a so called " friend' with whom I had a falling out. She sent me a text that she had contacted the school board that I am ...
A. 5 April 2021: You could change your number.
OR contact a lawyer and have HIM write her a cease and desist.
The more proof you have the "easier" it will be for the lawyer to proceed. ... (read in full...)
How can my husband and I obtain common ground so we can adopt a child?
Q. Not really sure where else to discuss this. I've been married for 4 years and my husband and I both want children. Not our own, but adopting a child. I didn't want the medical issues that came with pregnancy (my mum told me that giving birth to...
A. 5 April 2021: Maybe you two should start by looking at an adoption agency first? To see if you qualify?
Then see what they have to "offer" as far as where kids come from.
Personally, I don't think the "WHERE" they are from is the tip priority (or rat... (read in full...)
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