My boyfriend is too busy for me
Q. My LDR boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 7 months. He always forgets our anniversaries, but I'm used to it. For the past two months, we haven't been able to talk properly.. He says he's too busy with school even if i try to get in contact ...
A. 8 May 2021: This will happen OP, especially with an LDR
Everyone has lives outside of a relationship. He has school, family, and friends (and so do you). Where HE might prioritize his school or friends over you - you might not and then there is an imbalanc... (read in full...)
Blatant favoritism in my boyfriend's family and I'm fed up
Q. Hey there, Thanks in advance for your responses. My boyfriend rents a space on a close family member's property. Due to some unfortunate events, the second space on the property is opening up soon for rent. It's nice, much better maintaine...
A. 8 May 2021: If your BF isn't happy about the rent or property suggest that he looks for a place that isn't owned or managed by HIS family.
As for favoritism, I don't get it myself. I have 3 kids and I love them all. But I have seen it in other families... (read in full...)
Experiences with contraceptive pill? Am a lesbian but am considering starting it
Q. I am a lesbian, but am considering starting the contraceptive pill. My main reason for this is that I get my period cramps pretty bad to the point that I barely function for the first day or two of my period. I no longer take pain killers after a ...
A. 7 May 2021: My youngest has the same kind of BAD periods and we tried putting her on the pill - it made it worse. She would have several periods a month or bleed for a lot longer. It didn't work for her. She was on them for 9 months (doctor's suggestion) and ... (read in full...)
Should I contact my ex after 5 years no contact? Is 5 years enough for someone to change?
Q. I have an urge to talk to an ex from 12 years ago. We haven't spoke for 5 years and the last time we spoke I ignored her last msg because she was acting crazy. She was important to me and I want to reconcile but I don't want to msg her for fear...
A. 7 May 2021: Why do you have the scarcity mindset that SHE is the ONLY woman out there you can possibly date?
You know from experience that it didn't work out with her. That you both made mistakes to a point where it broke down the trust, love, and respect.... (read in full...)
I worry about my b/f cheating but what if I am wrong and throw everything away?
Q. My long distance bf is really sweet. He tells me he loves me, talks almost all the time when not at work or sleeping. He's doting and talks about the future. When we will see each other again. But I feel very insecure after getting out of a long ...
A. 7 May 2021: I have to say, I agree 100% with FA
SPOT ON!
You are letting your imagination rule your life. You think his actions are ALL about you ALL the time, come on!
He isn't online/offline to somehow insult or make you feel insecure. YOU are insecu... (read in full...)
The man I'm seeing doesn't seem to want to get vaccinated. I think its a deal breaker
Q. Hi, I have reconnected with a man, who a had a few dates with, a few years back. We really hit it off, but life sort of got in the way. I was an empty nester, but he was a widower with three kids home from 10-21. We started chatting in late ...
A. 7 May 2021: I also have had Covid and will probably not get the vaccine either. I also ASKED my doctor not the "court of public opinion) and based my decision on what my educated doctor said. I'm not anti-vax - I'm anti ignorance.
I know there are many peo... (read in full...)
People who continue to date when they aren't attracted and possibly lonely.
Q. I'm a 35-year-old gay man. I keep finding myself in situations where I meet guys off dating apps, and I receive all the signs they want to continue dating but something feels off, I realize they want to be friends. It's very confusing, one guy ...
A. 4 May 2021: Save the sex until you KNOW you want to date the guy and HE wants to date you, that might ALSO weed out some of the guys who are just looking for sex and/or friends.
While I know gay men and lesbians have a "subculture" when it comes to dating, ... (read in full...)
Why would my boyfriend mute me while talking to me on a whatsapp call?
Q. Hello everybody. My boyfriend is coming back to Canada after being overseas working. He called me from the airport as he is on his way home today. We had a nice, long chat. And all was great. Except when he put me on MUTE during the call. I was ...
A. 3 May 2021: Could it also be that he is in a crowded area and is talking to someone (like staff) and don't want to make an ass of himself (in your earshot)?
What I don't get is why he can't just say, hey I'm gonna run for a while talk to you later.
To me, ... (read in full...)
My daughter wants to go to college where all her friends are going. I'm worried she's not going there for the right reasons
Q. Hello, I’m a single mother of an 18 year old. I’ve been raising her and my younger son (her biological brother) for the past 12 years. My daughter will be starting College next year. She was accepted into several Universities, one of which is her ...
A. 3 May 2021: Good luck!
I hope the visit to the Dream Campus will show her that SHE has options.
Glad you had the talk with her. But also TRUST her to use the brain she obviously has :)
... (read in full...)
People who continue to date when they aren't attracted and possibly lonely.
Q. I'm a 35-year-old gay man. I keep finding myself in situations where I meet guys off dating apps, and I receive all the signs they want to continue dating but something feels off, I realize they want to be friends. It's very confusing, one guy ...
A. 3 May 2021: "Do I have to spell it out for them that I'm sexually or romantically attracted?"
On the FIRST date? No. I don't think so. You DO however have to show interest IF you are interested.
If you are not sure YOU want a second date (and they ask fo... (read in full...)
Why would my boyfriend mute me while talking to me on a whatsapp call?
Q. Hello everybody. My boyfriend is coming back to Canada after being overseas working. He called me from the airport as he is on his way home today. We had a nice, long chat. And all was great. Except when he put me on MUTE during the call. I was ...
A. 3 May 2021: I can see why this upset you. But I can also see this as being a mistake. Even if it's not easy to mute someone on WhatsApp (I wouldn't know I don't use that app, so I'll take your word for it).
If he hasn't done it before, I'd let this one go. ... (read in full...)
How should I tackle the issue of wanting to get back into the honeymoon period
Q. Hello there. I'm at the stage of our 4-year relationship where we now should be, theoretically, able to discuss more serious things, but my husband wants to recreate the honeymoon stage of our relationship (no, not THE honeymoon after we married...
A. 2 May 2021: A marriage takes work. It's not just - oh we have been together XX years so it's just routine now. No, there will always be something you can work on. We can easily fall into the "taking each other for granted" routine where we forget what we ... (read in full...)
My daughter wants to go to college where all her friends are going. I'm worried she's not going there for the right reasons
Q. Hello, I’m a single mother of an 18 year old. I’ve been raising her and my younger son (her biological brother) for the past 12 years. My daughter will be starting College next year. She was accepted into several Universities, one of which is her ...
A. 2 May 2021: Honestly? These days an Ivy League degree is not worth more than any other degree, it just costs more.
Unless the field she wants to study is very narrow and there are only a few schools where she can get a degree there.
Any teacher being mo... (read in full...)
What would you do if your partner called you an idiot and other names?
Q. What would you do if your long time partner called you an idiot, stupid, or insane or told you to shut the fuck up or fuck off, or go fuck yourself during arguments? And continually hang up on you? Or hang up when you cry or want to speak? Or hit ...
A. 1 May 2021: So if you think HE is cheating, again, WHY do you put up with that shit too?
Let's say he isn't cheating, OK? Then you really don't trust him, he treats you like crap...
I don't get it. There is nothing there for you OR him.
Even if you acc... (read in full...)
What would you do if your partner called you an idiot and other names?
Q. What would you do if your long time partner called you an idiot, stupid, or insane or told you to shut the fuck up or fuck off, or go fuck yourself during arguments? And continually hang up on you? Or hang up when you cry or want to speak? Or hit ...
A. 30 April 2021: I would end it.
Enough is enough.
Why do you put up with this shit?... (read in full...)
I am too shy to even look at her
Q. there is a girl that I like and she knows that I like her, but it is impossible for me to talk to her in person. we talk fine on google hangouts, but when it comes to in-person confrontation, I can't even look at her because I am too shy. I need ...
A. 30 April 2021: Good luck :)
Even if it doesn't work out with this girl it will be good for you to start practising your social skills :)... (read in full...)
Troubled relationship with ex. I want him to reach out but don't think he will
Q. Been on and off with an ex for a couple years. Broke up simply due to having different needs but still care for each other very much. Thursday night after a movie with his friends, he got angry at me over something I said regarding driving and ...
A. 29 April 2021: OP,
Your relationship NEVER worked. That is why it was off/on. You CAN care for someone and be absolutely WORNG for each other. THAT is what you had with him.
It's probably for the best to KEEP him blocked and MOVE on with your life. Just ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend cheating on me, or am I crazy?
Q. Is my boyfriend cheating on me, or am I crazy? F (32) I’ve been with my boyfriend about a month now, so it is early days. I do come from a broken home, so I will mention that I have a lot of trust and abandonment issues. I also seem to go for t...
A. 29 April 2021: You have been dating a month and this kind of crap pops up and you wonder if YOU are crazy?
You have instincts for a reason. YOU have previously ignored them and ended up being cheated on.
This guy, whom you don't REALLY know, seems to be talk... (read in full...)
Heartbroken and devastated, I fear my new relationship may end. How can I fix this?
Q. Hi all, I'm new here. Thank you do much for taking the time to look at my question. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 months. That might sound like a small amount of time, but I've never felt so in love in all my life, even compared to prev...
A. 29 April 2021: OH, OP
You need to rein it in! You are being overdramatic, desperate and becoming a cling-on!
You can't KNOW someone in 3 months. Certainly not love someone in 3 months, LOVE takes time. Infatuation, sure. Attraction, sure. Love? No.
Yo... (read in full...)
I am too shy to even look at her
Q. there is a girl that I like and she knows that I like her, but it is impossible for me to talk to her in person. we talk fine on google hangouts, but when it comes to in-person confrontation, I can't even look at her because I am too shy. I need ...
A. 29 April 2021: I agree with CodeWarrior.
You have put ALL your apples in this ONE basket. You think you will only have ONE chance with this girl. That is not reality.
Start out SMALL. Say Hi! when passing her. (if you go to the same school) If she is with f... (read in full...)
I was his mistress. Now that he's left his wife for me, I live in fear. How can I stop the anxiety?
Q. My boyfriend left his wife for me. He says he loves me. If so, why do I always feel so anxious, scared and insecure around him? Even though he's divorced and proclaiming his undying love and devotion to me? Do you think I could ever be happy with ...
A. 29 April 2021: Unfortunately, your relationship started out with lies, deceit, and cheating.
He lied to you (without doubt), he deceived you (without doubt) and he did the same to his wife with the added cheating.
So if you think now that you are together, he... (read in full...)
My ex struggles with issues and I'm not sure how to approach or help him
Q. OK this might be a bit of strange one but I'm interested to hear what other's opinion on this are. I have been with my partner for a year and a half. There's some things I have noticed that make me think or even research different behaviour problems...
A. 27 April 2021: Sounds like he could be on the Autism Spectrum, to be honest. And/or perhaps there is some OCD going on as well.
Given he is 40 and successful means he is "high functioning" regardless of what issues he has. We can ONLY guess as we aren't professi... (read in full...)
I believe I've met the love of my life, but he recently told me that I give bad head and he doesn't enjoy our sex. Can this be saved?
Q. So I'm 28, and 4 months ago I met a man and felt a love that I've never felt for anyone before. I've had longterm relationships in the past and experienced 'love,' I even lived with a guy for several years, but nothing like this. I know its early ...
A. 26 April 2021: Nice catch WiseOwlE
I do think we got a troll poster who will change the country and add or change up the story a little for shits and giggles.
... (read in full...)
I don't think submissive means you tolerate abuse
Q. Hello! My bf and I are from different cultures and English isn't his first language. He sometimes misunderstands me and then starts arguing. It's not normal arguments but very degrading ones. He calls me stupid, idiot, low mentality he wil...
A. 26 April 2021: I agree with anon female
GET RID!
You write:" He comes from a culture where men are superior to women."
No, he comes from a culture where men THINK they are superior to women.... BIG difference.
You two are from different worldviews... (read in full...)
My guy and I haven’t had sex in a year
Q. My guy and I haven’t had sex in a year. At least since CoVid started. Since then we’ve goI believe I've met the love of my life, but he recently told me that I give bad head and he doesn't enjoy our sex. Can this be saved? through the stress of ...
A. 26 April 2021: Seems like he is done with the relationship but is too much of a coward to end it. Or he feels he is in too deep financially to leave.
I can't imagine being in my 20's and not have a healthy sex life with my partner. While sex isn't the "be all ... (read in full...)
My friend wants me to get with his wife that is in love with me
Q. A friend of mine, Victoria (not her real name) has admitted over email she is in love with me, and via WhatsApp. It was out of the blue, the email, sent to my personal, well, work address (me at mydomain.com) since I work freelance; hadn'...
A. 26 April 2021: Wait until she is fully divorced and on her own for a while.
Jump in now and you will be her rebound.
Also, WHY is it your job to fill her husband's shoes? I mean are you the ONLY guy out there? Seems like she is just latching on to you to HAV... (read in full...)
Female Nudity Movies
Q. There is too much female nudity on TV. There was a completely naked girl in a movie I watched with my BF last night AND the night before. Why can they show female genitals? Not ok. It was disgusting. Hate it. No male nudity? I was...
A. 26 April 2021: I have seen WAY more MALE nudity in the last maybe 10 years than ever before and about the same if not less female nudity. However, it depends on what you are watching.
I mean HBO? versus Hallmark?
You will be seeing WAY more nudity overall o... (read in full...)
Would you get upset or angry with your boyfriend if he was long distance and he was talking to you and forgot you were online having a conversation with him?
Q. Would you get upset or angry with your boyfriend if he was long distance and he was talking to you and forgot you were online having a conversation with him? He and I are in a long distance relationship for the time being. As you know, in long...
A. 26 April 2021: It's called LIFe. OP
Yes, I can easily see him (or you) being sidetracked because something else requires their attention. You were having a CHAT with him, nothing important, life-threatening, or a topic with an expiration date (such as booking ... (read in full...)
I found out my ex is a registered sex offender and don't know what to do with the information
Q. Hi dear cupid. In November last year I found out my then boyfriend is a registered sex offender and has seven years to go on the registry... I took a photo of the paper I found as evidence. he was never going to tell me... I walked ...
A. 26 April 2021: For me, it comes down to what "level" of sex offender he is. My oldest went to High School with a boy who dated a girl a few months younger than him and when he turned 18 HER parents called the police on him and now he has a record. Yes, they know ... (read in full...)
My son's father has anger issues and its starting to show up in our son
Q. So my partner has a short temper and anger issues and I don’t know what I can do to help. He isn’t willing to help himself and try and change but whenever I offer help or advice it makes him worse and he snaps at me. We have a son and he is now 2...
A. 25 April 2021: This would be a deal-breaker for me.
I wouldn't want to watch my son grow up and become a man "like that". One without a sense of self-control.
Your BF needs to get help ASAP or get lost.
While that might sound simple in writing, I can... (read in full...)
I think my LDR girl may be lying but what if I'm wrong?
Q. So, I am in a long distance relationship with someone whom I have never meet in real life! We are supposed to meet each for the first time for christmas in december. We video chat and messages everyday, but she has this habit of randomly ...
A. 24 April 2021: OH!, anon asked a really valid and good question,
HAVE you sent her any money? If you have STOP. You can't buy real LOVE. If she asks YOU (a total stranger whom she has NEVER met in person) for money, I'd say it's edging on being a scam.
... (read in full...)
My husband who is away does not seem as sexually interested in me. Is it my imagination or are his needs being met without me?
Q. My husband and I are having a major problem right now and it is my hope that the aunts and uncles here could serve as mediators to our ongoing argument. My husband will be reading this if posted. He is in South America for 3 months. We have ...
A. 24 April 2021: You know, He has to trust you as well as you have to trust him. It's not a one-way only.
And since YOU seem to put WAY more emphasis on being horny and needing attention, I honestly think HE has more to worry about than you.
So if YOU can stay ... (read in full...)
My insecurities about a woman my boyfriend works with are causing big problems
Q. So I want to start by confessing I am an anxious person and unfortunately due to previous experiences struggle to trust. My boyfriend and I are having big problems in our relationship because of my insecurities but I don't know how to stop. The on...
A. 23 April 2021: The only one who can control what you do, IS you. So either get a grip or walk away.
It's not fair to yourself OR your BF that you CRY over a woman who has done NOTHING to you.
There will ALWAYS be a woman out there who is prettier than yo... (read in full...)
I think my LDR girl may be lying but what if I'm wrong?
Q. So, I am in a long distance relationship with someone whom I have never meet in real life! We are supposed to meet each for the first time for christmas in december. We video chat and messages everyday, but she has this habit of randomly ...
A. 23 April 2021: Do you expect her to be at your beck and call when you want to chat?
Can she not have a life? (and I don't mean see other people but have a life in general).
She will have to go to the store, to work, someone will call and chat, she will n... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got someone else pregnant but I still love him
Q. Dear Cupid My boyfriend and I started dating from last year May I've really fallen for Him and he has too He spent so much on me and made sure I was happy Just last month, he cried confessing to me that he's impregnated someone mistakenly a...
A. 23 April 2021: He didn't impregnate someone "mistakenly" - HE had unprotected sex while CHEATING on you.
You are so young to waste your time on a cheater and soon-to-be dad with another woman.
Whether he marries her or not, is up to him. Another choice H... (read in full...)
I Feel Like Everything Changed In 2012, I Have No Friends
Q. What are you supposed to do when everyone just watches anime, netflix, and talks about food? Every person i meet now days just does these things or talks about their family how am i supposed to find someone to hang out with or do things with? Can...
A. 23 April 2021: I think it might depend a bit on WHERE you are looking to make new friends. If you play sports, join a club and you will find people who are ALSO into sports. Same with lifting or anything.
It's not abnormal to talk about your family though, ... (read in full...)
Is a man capable of abstaining from sex for four months?
Q. Can a man go without sex for FOUR months? Let's say he is away from his wife or girlfriend for FOUR months. Can he abstain or will he be weak and succumb to his little head? Any action is better than no action? Just wandering, are men are capa...
A. 23 April 2021: What do you think would happen if he didn't have sex? Would his dick fall off?
Of course, a man can abstain for 4 months or longer. A little self-control is something we are ALL capable of. Men, no less than women.
Sure they might be horny,... (read in full...)
Husband's promotion of his car company has caused problems and I'm worried about being harassed
Q. My husband has been the victim of cancel culture over something he posted on his business's website. He runs his own car dealer, has done so for 15 years, but has 24 years experience in the motor trade in total. This current incarnation of t...
A. 20 April 2021: If he worries about his politicizing his dealerships why doesn't he just take down the post?
It sounds like talking points with a political agenda. Whether it's left or right I don't care but I can tell you when a company (big or small) starts t... (read in full...)
Husband's ongoing affair with big name woman in our town. I don't know how to handle everything
Q. I've been married for 3 years, then later found out my husband had been for our whole engagement (a 3-year-long one) and marriage sleeping with another woman. But the identity of this other woman is a local news anchor, she's a big name in town...
A. 20 April 2021: Contact a lawyer (don't tell your husband) Keep moving on with life. Sue for full custody, child support, and a reasonable visiting schedule.
Also, get copies of all "incriminating proof" and keep them in a safe place.
I get that it hurts to... (read in full...)
What will be the fallout/possible outcomes of my husband divorcing me for another woman?
Q. I've used some affair jargon in this post, and also, names have been changed. OW = other woman AP = affair partner BS = betrayed spouse HW = homewrecker STBXH = soon to be ex-husband WS = wayward spouse If you see these in this post, that ...
A. 20 April 2021: Honestly, I know this all weighs in your mind but YOU need to STOP wondering and worrying about him and HIS future with her, it's NOTHING to you.
Focus on what IS important, YOUR child and YOU.
I would probably sue for full custody because ... (read in full...)
I don't think our marriage is going to work unless I just hold everything in
Q. I won't go into the lengthy background but my wife and I have been together for about 10 years. We've had our ups and downs, nothing big - nobody has ever cheated or anything like that. But the biggest problem we've always had is not that we argue ...
A. 20 April 2021: There might be a few things at play here.
1. She takes YOU for granted. In the sense that SHE knows you will listen to HER "gripes" but she really doesn't have to or want to listen to yours. Apparently, she is of the opinion that ONLY women ca... (read in full...)
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