My boyfriend is 30 years old and his parents are too controlling
Q. So my boyfriend and I were going to use his family’s motor home for the weekend. His mom learned I was not getting the covid vaccine and told my boyfriends dad his dad then stated I couldn’t be in his motor home his house or his cabin. I was upset ...
A. 29 May 2021: I think it was probably for the best to break up with him.
He lives with his parents because his mom provides daycare for his child. And because it's probably cheaper than living on his own. (or even with a partner)
His ex (who has custody) CAN... (read in full...)
Are my parents right to take such drastic action to stop me drinking underage ?
Q. are my parents right to take such drastic action to stop me drinking alcohol underage ? in the past couple of weeks i have been coming home drunk ( NOT ON SCHOOL NIGHTS )my parents said they are worried and unless i stop drinking they will have to ...
A. 26 May 2021: EDIT:
You knew that you should get drunk to a point where...
Should have been:
You knew that you shouldn't get drunk to a point where..
Of course.... (read in full...)
Are my parents right to take such drastic action to stop me drinking underage ?
Q. are my parents right to take such drastic action to stop me drinking alcohol underage ? in the past couple of weeks i have been coming home drunk ( NOT ON SCHOOL NIGHTS )my parents said they are worried and unless i stop drinking they will have to ...
A. 26 May 2021: You think that you should be able to do as you please because you are 16. Even when you turn 18 doesn't automatically mean you can do as you please. If you live at home you have to follow your parents' rules AND the law.
It sucks that you can't go... (read in full...)
Blow jobs and the bad taste of urine.
Q. My husband and I have always been sexually active, up until he became incontinent. I never had any inhibitions when it came to blow jobs until I tasted urine. Now I am put off by the taste and smell and can not bring myself to do it. He is quite ...
A. 26 May 2021:
Sandwich bags? Yikes!
Use a condom? Flavored perhaps?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is 30 years old and his parents are too controlling
Q. So my boyfriend and I were going to use his family’s motor home for the weekend. His mom learned I was not getting the covid vaccine and told my boyfriends dad his dad then stated I couldn’t be in his motor home his house or his cabin. I was upset ...
A. 26 May 2021: I would walk away now.
This won't change and YOU shouldn't be the one to "decide" if he should cut his parents off or not, and certainly not at the risk of his son.
How can he temporarily lose custody? His MOM tells him he can't see his ki... (read in full...)
Are my parents right to take such drastic action to stop me drinking underage ?
Q. are my parents right to take such drastic action to stop me drinking alcohol underage ? in the past couple of weeks i have been coming home drunk ( NOT ON SCHOOL NIGHTS )my parents said they are worried and unless i stop drinking they will have to ...
A. 26 May 2021: What do you suggest they do instead of their "chosen" punishment?
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Is his behavior normal? Or suspicious?
Q. Pretty much looking for opinions please. Would you think someone would go to the pub (till 1am), go home on their own and stay awake for a further 4 hours? This is after consuming a lot of vodka and have work at 9am. For a bit of backgrou...
A. 25 May 2021: It is odd.
However, what is more, odd is that you are still with this guy who seems to go from wanting to date you to not wanting a relationship. Either he does or he doesn't.
And if he doesn't... good riddance.
And if you don't trust him..... (read in full...)
Blow jobs and the bad taste of urine.
Q. My husband and I have always been sexually active, up until he became incontinent. I never had any inhibitions when it came to blow jobs until I tasted urine. Now I am put off by the taste and smell and can not bring myself to do it. He is quite ...
A. 25 May 2021: How about just using your hands?
Has he seen a doctor about the incontinence? Is there a fix for it?
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How do I know if they had an orgasm?
Q. Hey peeps, So I had sex with a girl and I'm curious if she orgasmed. A couple of things. Before I had sex with a girl and she told me she saw something and felt something, but was not sure if she orgasmed. She said it felt really great and...
A. 25 May 2021: Do you think YOUR performance is the only reason a woman has an orgasm and if they have one... means you are good at sex?
Also if you are "eating" someone out.. a lot of the liquid is your own drool. Just saying. Not even sure if women can squi... (read in full...)
Are my parents right to take such drastic action to stop me drinking underage ?
Q. are my parents right to take such drastic action to stop me drinking alcohol underage ? in the past couple of weeks i have been coming home drunk ( NOT ON SCHOOL NIGHTS )my parents said they are worried and unless i stop drinking they will have to ...
A. 25 May 2021: Good spotting there YCNBS!
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Are my parents right to take such drastic action to stop me drinking underage ?
Q. are my parents right to take such drastic action to stop me drinking alcohol underage ? in the past couple of weeks i have been coming home drunk ( NOT ON SCHOOL NIGHTS )my parents said they are worried and unless i stop drinking they will have to ...
A. 24 May 2021: You are under 18 (which is the legal drinking age in the UK) so you shouldn't be drinking, especially if they have TOLD you that you CAN'T while you live with them.
However, can they lock you in the basement? No.
But I do understand their... (read in full...)
My sweet boyfriend has turned into a really unpleasant man
Q. Hello thanks for your comments and advice in advance! So me and my bf have been together 3 years. At the beginning he was so sweet, caring, loving and thoughtful. This last year has been like a nightmare. Thankfully I didn't accept his propo...
A. 24 May 2021: You are LUCKY that you don't live together, it will make it easier to end it and cut him off.
You know this isn't a healthy relationship. You know he isn't a good guy anymore.
You know what needs to be done, now DO it. For you.
Ge will ... (read in full...)
I'm losing trust in my family. Everything is left up to me
Q. I am 55 and look after 2 disabled parents and sister. I always feel like i am not doing enough. Brothers do help but everything is organised and does not always work. Like Monday to Friday i do whatever i need too for my parents. Have no family of ...
A. 24 May 2021: Maybe you need to look into a paid caregiver? To give you some "me time" so you don't burn out taking care of everyone all the time.
It's very common for caregivers to get burned out doing it 24/7. You also need to talk to your brother. If he ca... (read in full...)
Boyfriend won't come over unless sex is a part of the night
Q. i have been with my boyfriend whos 42 for a few years now but he wont come over to take me out unless sex is involved. i just want to go out for a walk together but he wont come over unless i stay somewhere with him the night. i feel like this is ...
A. 24 May 2021: So maybe it's time to dump the chump?
He wouldn't come to go for a walk because you are on your period and thus sex is off the table? What the actual F!
Seems like you are NOT his GF, you are his blow-up doll and worse he seems to think that he... (read in full...)
My son received inappropriate photos from a classmate. How to proceed?
Q. My son, John, who's 16, told me yesterday he received two inappropriate photos from a classmate. Here in Canada, schools in our area are doing remote learning. We don't know when in-person classes will resume. My son showed me a WhatsApp he...
A. 23 May 2021: I think 2 things need to be done asap.
1. your SON needs to BLOCK this kid. Make sure he doesn't forward the pictures.
2. I think your wife has the right idea. "As it is, my wife is furious over this, said she'd discuss it with Steve's parents.... (read in full...)
He's the one who has cheated yet he doesn't trust me
Q. Hello, dear cupid, I want to know something about my boyfriend's behaviour. I've been dating him since the past five years it's a long distance relationship,we met in a youth conference, he asked my number and after that we started chatting and ...
A. 23 May 2021: Aww, OP
He is being abusive and has cheated 5 times, isn't it time you OPEN your eyes and see this guy IS NOT a good man? That he is NOT going to be a good and faithful husband down the line? If he has cheated 5 times already, getting married ... (read in full...)
Wife cant stop teasing me
Q. Six months ago my wife started commenting about some 'well hung' guys at her gym she goes to 3 - 4x a week. I wasn't worried about it and since she seemed to be always horny when she came home which lead to great sex, I haven't said anything. ...
A. 23 May 2021: Toss the pump.
It backfired.
Be honest with her. Tell her that you are done with the pump and that you have the penis you have.
I presume you haven't talked about "the perfect" vagina or tittes (that she doesn't exactly have? - because ... (read in full...)
Wife won't let me end our marriage and follow my religious beliefs
Q. I am married to a woman and I found Jesus Christ and now all I want to do is to follow his commands.I tried to break up with my wife but she refuses to leave and she gets very forceful and violent when I tell her that I want us to break up so I can ...
A. 22 May 2021: If the kids are YOURS (and not hers) I think the ONLY right thing to do is LEAVE with the kids.
If she is abusive and violent then you and kids shouldn't stick around, vows or not. No kids deserve to grow up with abuse. They can't just leave, Y... (read in full...)
Wife won't wear sexy lingerie for me yet I found a whole drawer full of it. She won't explain
Q. My Wife and I have been married for 32 years now. I have always wanted her to buy and ware super sexy sheer thong lingerie and G-string. But she always refused and said that she would never buy such things let alone ware them. Occasionally I would ...
A. 22 May 2021: You two are now roommates who are married.
YOU wanted an open marriage. YOU wanted HER to be open and honest.
I can tell you this. You made a presumption about your wife early on that broke her heart. And that was. that you couldn't trust h... (read in full...)
My Girlfriend cheated on me - Why does it turn me on?
Q. I found out my girlfriend cheated on me last week. I should be angry and upset with her. Heartbroken even. But I’m not. In fact the thought of it turns me on to the point where I wish I could’ve watched them do it. It happened about 6 weeks ag...
A. 20 May 2021: Overall, yikes.
I have to agree with the uncles here. It's not really the "normal" reaction for someone who REALLY cares about their partner when they find out said partner cheated.
That doesn't mean there is something "wrong" with you.
It ... (read in full...)
Wife has a day planned with her friends that I want no part of
Q. My wife is planning a big family day out in the next few weeks with all of her friends and our/their kids but I really don’t want to go. I can tell she’ll give me grief if I tell her though because it’ll be our first proper day out since the end of ...
A. 20 May 2021: If none of the other husbands go, you should be "allowed" to bow out too.
I can see why you felt out of place and just didn't want to be there - regardless of being neurodivergent.
I would have been uncomfortable too. Especially if th... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend right? Am I a jerk?
Q. I have had an on and off relationship with my girlfriend for the past 3 years almost. We have been living together for 2 years and she does a lot around the house and is helpful. The problem is that she can be very moody and quick to anger over sma...
A. 19 May 2021: I don't think you are a jerk for ordering some lunch.
I think it would have made more sense to go OUTSIDE and let her know hey, good is here, I figured you could use a lunch break. Instead of sending a text. Ignoring that she didn't come inside s... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't want me to get a dog. Is this petty? Or controlling?
Q. Hi guys and gals So for the past 5 years I have been in a relationship with a man who has massive anxiety issues, ocd , depression and has control issues to which be has admitted. Before I start I should mention, we are not engaged , we do ...
A. 19 May 2021: You know OP, your relationship doesn't sound happy or healthy for you AT ALL.
You sound like you are in a somewhat caretaker role and that you will NEVER have a family with him. You will never LIVE together.
I think NOT having a child with thi... (read in full...)
Husband of 8 years just confessed he has a 12 year old daughter he didn't tell me about
Q. Note: I've changed names for privacy here. I've got a husband and a 7-year-old daughter. Last night my husband told me over dinner that he had a huge confession; he had a daughter, but left his girlfriend Kimberley and his daughter when ...
A. 19 May 2021: I can understand your hurt, HE should have told you this BEFORE marrying you. HE knew BEFORE. It's rather underhanded of him to not only abandon his first kid and GF but omitting to you that he HAS a child? I find that really scummy.
If he is on... (read in full...)
Advice on how to deal with people with different communication style.
Q. Dear Cupid, I've struggled for a long time with people who have a different communication style. Just to help you understand my own communication style, I often respond to messages, and try and do it quickly so as not to inconvenience others, I feel ...
A. 16 May 2021: I'm not here to cuddle you. OP. I'm here to give my HONEST and OPEN opinion and advice. You can freely take or ignore any and all things I say. It's OK. That doesn't constitute you slighting me or any such thing. If you don't find it helpful, skip ... (read in full...)
Why Is This Couple Rude To Me Every Time I See Them?
Q. I live in a small town where everyone bumps into each other often. Twice recently, a random miserable couple I do not know has been extremely rude about me loudly for no reason as I have been minding my own business! About a month ago, I was walki...
A. 15 May 2021: Why do they do it? Because they are "gutter people". Some people get off on putting people down. Especially people who THEY presume feel superior to themselves.
It can be that it's a game to them. How can we make a random woman feel insecure... (read in full...)
What if a guy cups your face in his hand?
Q. How relevant is it if a guy cups your face in his hand? Does that mean he has deep and loving feelings towards you? Or is that a side of physical attraction? Was he thinking about a kiss? I am talking about taking one hand and gently cupping a...
A. 15 May 2021: "shakes my magic 8 ball"
The answer is "hazy, try again".
There is no way any of us can determine WHY this guy made THIS choice at THAT particular moment.
No one but this man knows what he thinks when he does the things that he does.
... (read in full...)
Is my husband weird or is it just me?
Q. Is there something (seriously) wrong with my husband or are the circumstances weird? Due to some financial difficulties my mother-in-law moved to my apartment over a decade ago. My husband and I live in another country. When she moved in, I...
A. 15 May 2021: A lot of people haven't handled the whole Covid thing very well and I understand the fear (sometimes irrational to some) but it's still understandable. We fear what we don't understand. And we become fearful when we get told scary stories.
You t... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing getting married when I still have such strong feelings for my ex?
Q. I am female and i had been dating a guy for about 3 years before leaving him and meeting someone else after. We were engaged, supposedly, but after a few months of our engagement he told me he might not be able to go through with it any time soon, ...
A. 15 May 2021: "Butterflies" from a guy are worthless long term.
Think about it. He was keeping HIS ex around as a safety net and keeping you around as well. But he didn't want to marry you as he was still carrying a torch for the ex.
Now you are doing the AL... (read in full...)
Advice on how to deal with people with different communication style.
Q. Dear Cupid, I've struggled for a long time with people who have a different communication style. Just to help you understand my own communication style, I often respond to messages, and try and do it quickly so as not to inconvenience others, I feel ...
A. 15 May 2021: You ask:
"am I well within my rights to ask them to meet me in the middle?"
To almost stranger??
No, you are not.
It's not your "right" to demand they communicate to YOUR satisfaction or with the same intention as you. Because they a... (read in full...)
Three years have went by without speaking to our mother. Do we try to reconnect? Or move on?
Q. Three years ago my sister and I had a talk with our mum that has left us not speaking to her since then. She is with a partner who is emotional abusive and I suspect has the capacity to be physically abusive too. There has been instances throug...
A. 14 May 2021: You write:
" Deep down I don't think anything will change and honestly not sure I can forgive her for not protecting us when we were younger."
I think you should find a counselor and figure a way to work through what happened to you.
And ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to talk to an ex while dating other girls
Q. Hello, I have a question about whether it's okay to talk to an ex while dating other girls (but not boyfriend and girlfriend). Here is the story: I had just recently broken up with my ex whom I had been dating for a few years. We broke up due to ...
A. 14 May 2021: It was wrong to LIE.
And I'm not sure you would NOT have lied if she has said YES to dating. Seems a little like you wanted your cake (the new girl) and eat it too (the EX for ego boosts).
There was NO reason for you to lie. And IF you will ... (read in full...)
My fiance expects me to help his mother financially. I don't want this to continue
Q. Hello and thanks! So my fiancee and I have been together for 4 years. He expects that I help his mom monthly. She is always needing something. bill's, food, clothes this that. I seen a recent picture of her with nice gold earrings and a t...
A. 14 May 2021: Definitely a scam.
And IF it's not... Then he will PRESUME if you do it now, you wILL do it after marriage. Do you want to be the ATM for his family? The breadwinner?
Why isn't HE working and taking care of his mom? That isn't YOUR obligation ... (read in full...)
My 17 year old song met up and had sex with a male prostitute. We don't know how to handle this
Q. My son, Carl, is 17, and told me a few days ago he had a confession; he'd slept with a male prostitute a year ago (in February), not long after his birthday. He admitted he'd paid the guy $250 (well, technically it was two payments of $125...
A. 14 May 2021: Yikes!
I can see why he did it, but that doesn't REALLy make it better.
He wanted to explore his sexuality in private (without his friends and peers knowing) and he did. With a prostitute.
What would I do as a parent? Well, firstly I ... (read in full...)
He's broken up with me 5 times in 2 years. Should I continue to see him?
Q. Hi I need some advice about a relationship I am a widow, my husband died 8 years ago and two years ago I met a lovely man and fell in love. But he has finished our relationship 5 times so far and caused me a lot of heartache. The last time it ...
A. 14 May 2021: I can see TRYING it again if this was the FIRST time he had broken up with you and if he was really remorseful but... HOW many times will YOU accept being dumped? By the SAME guy?
There are no guarantees that he won't do it again. It's probably... (read in full...)
How do you cope with the feelings of not letting go?
Q. How do you cope with the feelings of not letting go? My ex and I broke up almost 3 1/2 years ago. However, we were together 6 years. I've had ups and downs over these 3.5 years. I never felt like I had closure from the relationship end. (He did the ...
A. 13 May 2021: You are projecting, OP.
You look at their social media and think THAT is reality. It's not.
People don't post when their BF is shitty (unless they want sympathy) they tend to post these curated and narrated happy idyllic things that are not qui... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my cheating husband and divorce?
Q. I've been married for 18 years now, and our anniversary is coming up on November 7th this year. I found out a big revelation from my husband last night; he'd been using prostitutes in the run-up to our wedding and actually slept with one particu...
A. 13 May 2021: I absolutely understand why you feel the way you do. I would be SO disgusted if my husband had done this to me.
And I'd also wonder WHY I didn't see this WAY back when. Before marriage or early on.
The thing with that is, YOU can't change the... (read in full...)
Anyone living with their partner in an anxious-avoidant type relationship, did living together help to improve the relationship?
Q. I am firmly in an anxious-avoidant type relationship (as the anxious one). It is often very difficult for me but I guess we have decided to stay together anyways. We are both aware of this dynamic between us, and it seems like we gradually get ...
A. 13 May 2021: I have to agree with WiseOwlE
You already worry that it won't work, because it probably won't. You are not compatible.
Building a "fantasy future" where everything is hunky-dory is futile. It's all talk and all fantasy.
You want something fr... (read in full...)
Husband won't admit he has a problem and I'm tempted to cheat
Q. My husband can’t keep an erection but is in complete denial that he has a problem. I’m so frustrated that I’m getting more and more tempted to try and cheat with an old friend each day. It’s been an issue for the best part of 5 years now ever since ...
A. 12 May 2021: You do know that cheating won't FIX anything. It might catch an itch FOR YOU but then comes the guilt and the wanting more, the no longer having trust in your partner or your casual sex partner either. It's a slippery slope right off a 500-foot ... (read in full...)
Is relationship sex better than casual sex? What is the difference?
Q. I have never had casual sex in my life. Am I missing something? I have had relationship sex, which has been very satisfying for me, and just seems to get better. I am asking for everyone to weigh in. Is relationship sex better than cas...
A. 12 May 2021: This is a question I can't answer.
Because I CHOSE to keep sex with partners I was committed to who ALSO was committed to me.
That doesn't mean I can't add my 2 Cents here.
I think the difference is that IN a relationship you get to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's career hasn't taken off and I don't want to feel like he's taking it out on me
Q. hi everyone, hope you're all well! I'm having some trouble in my relationship with my boyfriend and would really appreciate some advice.. I met my bf in a house share and we got on really well. It's been a couple of years now and we've fi...
A. 12 May 2021: Of course, you should have an honest conversation with him! Always.
I'm guessing a "rolling contact" in the UK is like the American version of "land-contract" that offers a buyer the right to purchase but until THAT contact and finances are in p... (read in full...)
Should I try to pressure Jack into going to prom so he won't regret it later or just let him and his friends do their thing?
Q. My youngest son, Jack, is graduating from high school this year. He is refusing to go to prom. Instead, him and a group of friends are just meet up and do their own thing (they are talking about going bowling, than having a pool party at their ...
A. 10 May 2021: No.
He is old enough to make this choice. My oldest never went and she couldn't care less. My middle one couldn't go due to the Covid and was so-so about it, she is more excited about starting college soon.
The ONE thing she was annoyed abou... (read in full...)
I loved being the mistress but now that he's told his wife about me, I'm not sure I want him because I don't see him as a life partner
Q. Hi, I am really struggling. It is a heart vs mind battle. My heart loves my boyfriend. My mind is telling me he isn't right for me. We had an affair and now he is saying he loves me and sees a future with me. He has told his wife about our relati...
A. 9 May 2021: So you were happy enough with breaking up a marriage but not content with having to make a relationship out of it?
So why in the world didn't you just FUCK around with a single man? If you just wanted some rebound sex and companionship?
How cal... (read in full...)
I don’t want to leave my husband for this guy but it shows me what I’m missing in my life
Q. Hello, I am looking for a bit of advice really. To be honest I’m not even sure what I expect from this. I’m currently in my late twenties and have been married to my husband for basically all of my 20s. When we got together he was fun and outgoing ...
A. 9 May 2021: Maybe what you need is a long chat with your husband. Don't bring up other men but bring up what you MISS in him, the guy he USED to be.
People change over the years, that is a given. But people who were very outgoing and social rarely turns ta... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too busy for me
Q. My LDR boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 7 months. He always forgets our anniversaries, but I'm used to it. For the past two months, we haven't been able to talk properly.. He says he's too busy with school even if i try to get in contact ...
A. 8 May 2021: This will happen OP, especially with an LDR
Everyone has lives outside of a relationship. He has school, family, and friends (and so do you). Where HE might prioritize his school or friends over you - you might not and then there is an imbalanc... (read in full...)
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