Pregnant and confused! What should I do?
Q. heya, my head is so confussed, i just found out im pregnant! im not in a realtionship and have slept with two boys this month with about 3-4days appart, so have no way in knowing who the father is. this isnt the first time iv been pregnant,...
A. 27 February 2014: Have you talked to your own family about this? I mean being a single mom isn't ideal for anyone. But if you have a good support net of friends and family it can be "less" hard on you.
Have you sat down and figured out if you can afford a child? D... (read in full...)
Should I tell him about kissing a guy when I was 22?
Q. I have been married for a little less than a year to a man I love. I could never imagine betraying our marriage ever- I am completely and happily devoted to him. Before we got married, we dated for about 10 years since I was 18- long distance. ...
A. 27 February 2014: I have to ask, What do you hope to achieve by telling him?
A "forgiveness" or "coming clean"?
To me it sounds like YOU are struggling with having NOT be 100% faithful over 10 years ago. I have to be honest and say, if it was something you FE... (read in full...)
If a young female sleeps around, does it change the views men have of them?
Q. Okay! I'd like some opinions on this please. I am a college student and I have a lot of female friends who are my age (17-18) who simply enjoy to have NSA sex, one night stands, and FWB's. ...
A. 27 February 2014: Some boys will look at them differently, but so will girls. There is an OLD double-standard when it comes to girl's/women's sexuality and sexual partner and men's. I don't think it will go away any time soon.
As I see it, live and let live. If... (read in full...)
What can I do about my Bf's extreme aversion towards contact with me when I have my period? His actions are hurtful.
Q. my boyfriend is good to talk to, not a great listener, but he is very passionate when he cares, is helpful, understanding and not egotistic and is generous. but when it comes to me been on my period, it is a whole different box of cookies, i cannot...
A. 27 February 2014: Sorry, I would show him the door.
If he is in YOUR age group of 22-25 then he is being 100% ridiculous and immature.
I would sit him down and say we need to talk about this. Is he afraid of blood or JUST YOUR period?
I absolutely HATE per... (read in full...)
I feel intimidated and insecure due to boyfriend's female friends.
Q. I’ve been with my boyfriend for just under two years and we had a distant relationship for the majority of that time, although we lived within half an hour of each other for about six months. Just over a week ago we moved into a flat together. I ...
A. 27 February 2014: Go out and met them, I think often when female friend met the GF they tend to SEE the person as a REAL person, where as when they just HEAR About you from the BF, you seem less "real" - and therefore they don't feel as bad being flirty with your ... (read in full...)
I resent that his ex-wife expects me and my family to run errands for her!
Q. I am frustrated and unhappy and thinking of leaving my 3 year relationship. My live in divorced boyfriend's ex wife seems to think it is appropriate for everyone to run errands for her and thir child. She instructs him to tell me to pick up art ...
A. 27 February 2014: I'm sorry I would PUT my foot down. One thing is to run errands for things the child might need while she/he is at YOUR place, but to run errands for the EX wife? HECK NO!
For your family to act as taxi drivers so SHE doesn't have to pick up her c... (read in full...)
His home smells. Am I being petty. How can I solve this problem ?
Q. I am in an LDR and every other weekend I see my bf. I love him very much but I hate his house. I know it sounds very shallow but it is a very very old house. The bathroom has mould growing in it and green bathtub...toilet etc. The whole house ...
A. 27 February 2014: PETTY ( I do NOT think you are petty!), not pretty :) sorry!!... (read in full...)
Partner hooked by a particular type of porn... and has acted on it. How secure is our future?
Q. I just found out that my boyfriend of a year has an addiction to SHEMALE porn. He has been watching now for about 10 years and he is about to be 30. Not only does he masturbate to it on a frequent basis, but he has actually acted on it a few years ...
A. 27 February 2014: ****He says he loves me and wants to spend his life with me and that he's going to quit watching that kind of porn. I don't want him to suppress his sexual desires and then a few years down the road he realizes that's what he wants.***
TALK ... (read in full...)
I am overreacting or is he purposefully putting me down?
Q. I am older than my husband. He is from a different country and keeps calling me old woman. This has been going on for a while now and I find it very irritatating and annoying and when someone persists in keep saying and doing something that you ...
A. 27 February 2014: I would talk to him, if he doesn't stop and you don't like it, maybe find a name for him.
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Boyfriend has said "I'm a keeper" multiple times out of no where?
Q. So this past week my bf has said I was a keeper multiple times. Last night he tells me his boss wanted to meet me because he was telling her about me, he said "she's a keeper". Within the past 2 days he's said it 3 times. what does that really mean ...
A. 27 February 2014: I think it's a pretty high praise. A keeper is someone you want to be with LONG term.
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His home smells. Am I being petty. How can I solve this problem ?
Q. I am in an LDR and every other weekend I see my bf. I love him very much but I hate his house. I know it sounds very shallow but it is a very very old house. The bathroom has mould growing in it and green bathtub...toilet etc. The whole house ...
A. 27 February 2014: It sounds nasty and unhealthy.
Mold is nothing to "not worry about" specially if you have any kind of respiratory problems.
And if he lives in a pigsty on his own, how do you think it's going to be down the line if you move in together?
Tho... (read in full...)
Should I try to talk to him again or just let him be?
Q. There's a guy that I work with that always gets quiet and tenses up around me when I see him. I saw him when I was leaving and said, "Hi!" and he literally froze and pressed himself up against the wall. Another time, I caught him staring at me and ...
A. 27 February 2014: I would just be nice and polite. Dating at the work place is RARELY a great idea anyhow. But being civil, polite and nice is pretty much OK :)... (read in full...)
Do guys like being touched in the back of their neck?
Q. guys do you like it when a girl runs her fingers through your hair above your neck /touch the back of your neck too? ...
A. 27 February 2014: I'm with Eyeswideopen - my husband loves it.
But it's like everything else some people enjoy certain things others don't. And I wouldn't touch someone in that intimate way if he wasn't a partner.
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She's upset because I didn't change my FB status, am I in the wrong here?
Q. Thanks for reading - not sure who to ask so going to ask you lovely people :) I have been on a few dates with a girl - i am 26 and she is 24 and she is very pretty and when we had our first date, we hit it off. She gave me butterflies and ...
A. 27 February 2014: Yikes, you have been DATING for 2 weeks and she is flipping out over your FACEBOOK status? Seriously?
And she is DEMANDING you change you status? Wow, what's next? You have to remove ANYONE connected to your ex? Or dye your hair purple?
Sorry, ... (read in full...)
Why is the ex back in touch? Is he just playing games or is he for real?
Q. Dear Cupid... Its me again.... its been over a month now and I have not talked to my ex, he started calling me back about a week ago and he is still calling and sending me text messages.I have not responded to him at all. I mean he said that he did ...
A. 27 February 2014: If you don't want to get hurt again then BLOCK him from contacting you.
He hasn't CHANGED while being apart from you, so why do you think it could work again? Love is not a MAGIC fix. You already tried that.
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He lied to me about being married and now I feel wrecked!
Q. Hi, I met this guy who seemed to b really nice he treated me pretty well I don't know he was a married man, we had sex a couple of times but within 3 months he felt like he needed some space to study about a month, I felt hurt like i was gonna a ...
A. 26 February 2014: Sorry, from reading your post it seemed liked you had sex AFTER finding out. Either way the dude is bad news and will waste your time and feelings.
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His ex limits my access to their daughter, but she's about to get a sibling
Q. I'm hoping someone can give me some advice about the situation that I have found myself in. My boyfriend and I are expecting a baby in the summer, and my boyfriend's daughter from a previous relationship is really excited about having a baby bro...
A. 26 February 2014: What your BF can do is take her to court and have the visitation rights legalized and in writing, if she refuses SHE will be in contempt.
However, YOU have no right to HIS child. NONE. Even if you love her and want what is best for her, you have... (read in full...)
Why is the ex back in touch? Is he just playing games or is he for real?
Q. Dear Cupid... Its me again.... its been over a month now and I have not talked to my ex, he started calling me back about a week ago and he is still calling and sending me text messages.I have not responded to him at all. I mean he said that he did ...
A. 26 February 2014: My guess is he is feeling lonely and reaches out to you in hope that you can boost his EGO and soothe him a little, maybe even agree to some "FWB" sex since neither of you are dating again (yet).
It could also be to keep you from moving forward.... (read in full...)
Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while?
Q. Why do women lose interest in sex after being in a relationship for a while? Maybe this Isn't the case with all women, but it seems to be like a continuously notorious pattern in my relationships. Women lose interest in sex but I still want it....
A. 26 February 2014: Since YOU are the common denominator in your relationships, have you considered that it might have something to do with you?
Are you a selfish lover? Are you more focused on sex then the person you are with? Are you big on porn? Do you keep in ... (read in full...)
Tell me what I already know but don't wanna believe
Q. Hello! Heres the situation; I've been dating a guy for about a month, 'talking' for about two. In those two months we have been Facebook friends on and off, I have deleted him 3 times now, the first time was because a lady was putting comment ...
A. 25 February 2014: You know he isn't in it for you.
YOU need to accept that Facebook is JUST FACEBOOK - all this drama people create is RIDICULOUS. So he LIKED some comment or pictures and THAT made YOU feel disrespected, seriously? After two months of "talking... (read in full...)
Will he be better to her than he was to me?
Q. Will he be different with her? My husband and I divorced mainly because he was very emotionally/verbally abusive and he walked out. We have a child together-so I try to maintain a civil relationship with him because of that. He has a girlfr...
A. 25 February 2014: I agree with SVC - I BET he was real sweet when you two first started out too.
If abusive is part of his personality I don't really think it matters WHO he is with, it will come out one way or another.
However, they may be more compatible then ... (read in full...)
I would love for us to make a step forward in living together but he is not prepared to talk about any future plans!
Q. Hi , would love an answer to a complexed dilemma . My boyfriend lives in London . I live in Scotland , we have been seeing each other for three years . I would love to see a step forward towards us living together . I was told by my boyfrien...
A. 25 February 2014: So why can't you move to London?
It seems you two like the IDEA of your relationship, but neither of you are willing to do what is NEEDED in order to actually BE together.
You can keep this going for years, but after 3 years NEITHER of you h... (read in full...)
I want to be exclusive, he's not so sure
Q. I met this guy online, we've been talking for about two months. We've had a few discussions about us being together, but of course we both feel it's best to be friends first before we date. Though, I have mentioned being exclusive. We've gotten into ...
A. 25 February 2014: I agree with Tisha.
Slow down. He is being practical about it, he wants to KNOW YOU before being exclusive. If you want to "hang out" the DO so but DO NOT have sex. He wants to get to know you more and you want exclusivity - so take time to GET t... (read in full...)
We've been talking on the phone for 6 months, dating for 5 weeks, we are a perfect match and he has asked me to move in with him!
Q. I was speaking to a guy on the phone for about 6 months, he always asked me out on a date but going from his picture he wasn't my type. Then my car blew up and he said he knew someone who had a golf so 1 afternoon my mum and 1 went up to see it and ...
A. 25 February 2014: I would wait. Another 6-12 MONTHS of dating before moving in together.
What's the hurry?... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to give him a second chance? And I'm wrong for not holding our past over his head?
Q. I've been a single mom since my daughter was 8 months old. My ex and I got along and then i found out that he cheated on ( he fooled around with a girl at a party) we decided that we would break up but We have been co parenting my daughter and ...
A. 25 February 2014: Are you "wrong"? Not if it feels "right" for you. And as long as you don't take him back because he is the father of your child, but because you two genuinely get along well.
However, I would suggest you go REALLY slow this time. And make sure no ... (read in full...)
He wants me to move away with him but I can't stand the thought of leaving my friends and family behind
Q. A year ago, I met the man of my dreams. I am 21, and he is 27. He is originally from Australia, and had spent the last three years living in the uk. He moved over here to live with his father who is a British citizen. We met through mutual friends,...
A. 25 February 2014: For him to presume that moving in with him is like moving to Australia is ridiculous to say the least. Living together
IS a big step but it doesn't mean that from THEN ON (from the time you move in) EVERYTHING is about being together forever. Life... (read in full...)
Why is he acting like this? A late mid-life crisis?
Q. ok so theres this guy at work and usually i just say hi then carry on with my work. like i dont pay him much attention recently every time i walk past him he'll pretend to punch me(without making contact) /lightly punch my arm or like pretend to ...
A. 25 February 2014: I think he is just being a goofball.
My dad (when he was in his late 50's) would pick up 2 of his younger co-workers in the morning and drop them off if they needed it in the evening- because it was on his way to work and neither had cars. Th... (read in full...)
Is there any way to improve this situation? My ex is now working here and is dating a guy with a bigger job than I have!
Q. So I guess there are two parts to this that need explained. First my job. I've been working in my job for a while now; it's a job in the intended career path I've chosen for myself (got a degree at university to do this line of work). I'm go...
A. 25 February 2014: Yikes.
Well, I think you should have told your boss, she is my ex and I rather not work with her. Because you didn't it came back to bit you on the ass.
However, you CHOSE to take the high road and nothing wrong in that either. So my advice, do... (read in full...)
First one night stand has me wondering why boys are like this!
Q. On Friday I had my first ever one night stabd! But I really havebt taken it well I didn't know the guy I had met him that night And had spent most of the night with him we had got to talking and he took me back to his. Obviously everything happened ...
A. 25 February 2014: The whole point of a ONS is to have NSA (no strings attached) sex.
My advice though is to BE careful doing this, you have no idea who you are going home with.... (read in full...)
Help -- my manager is a bully!
Q. Sorry guys not really a relationship question but here goes... I really could do with some help regarding my job. I work in london in a very busy office of around 300 people. I'm in a good job, well paid and stable. However I'm feeling real...
A. 25 February 2014: Is it a branch office? If so, I would contact headquarters HR, but.. I would first get evidence of her attitude - if you have to - record her with your cell phone or get a voice activated recorder, take notes, find proof.
She sounds like a nightm... (read in full...)
How can I get the conversation away from these topics with these people??
Q. This may seem like a weird question but I need to ask. I have a couple of friends, (not close "see all the time friends") that I see ever few 4-10 months or so, usually for coffee/lunch. After the initial "hi how are you, whats up", etc etc the...
A. 24 February 2014: I think if you talked to them more often it would be lighter conversations.
However, I think they BOTH are showing how much they REGARD you as a friend by involving you in their problems and whatnot. That is what friends are for, yes?
Maybe w... (read in full...)
I am friends with a guy but it's too soon after my recent break up to take it further. What can I do? I don't want to lose him as a friend or potential partner.
Q. I broke up with an ex about 6 weeks ago and for the past 3 weekends I've been hanging out with a male friend. He's been wonderful helping me get over my breakup but last weekend he began dropping hints how he thinks I'm "wonderful", he said loves ...
A. 24 February 2014: Tell him that you are in no shape to start anything new any time soon, but that you would like to continue to be friends. BUT it has to stay on a friends level til you feel ready it date again. I would also tell him you have no intentions of ... (read in full...)
Does he want me or not? Why stalk me but not speak to me?
Q. i had a relationship with a man that was at the point of engagement. while there were some communication issues to be worked out, he left the relationship before sorting anything. now that we are apart, he does not want to be together and won't ...
A. 24 February 2014: I don't think you should have to re-shuffle your life because HE doesn't want to date you. Specially if you don't feel worried about him.
The reason I put up the pay attention and stay safe is because I was stalked, and it WAS scary. Someone ... (read in full...)
His breakup excuse has confused me!
Q. My boyfriend broke things off with me after 3 years saying that I am an "amazing" person but his "taste" has changed over the years since we have been together. What does that even mean?? I feel awful. I am a beautiful girl and was nothing but ...
A. 24 February 2014: I think it was a version of, "it's not you, it's me" reason to break up.
Which isn't a reflection on YOU or your looks, more that he has found he wants either to pursue another girl or he wants to be single.
It will get better and as hard as i... (read in full...)
I've come out as gay, but don't know where to go to meet girls!
Q. I’m twenty year-old college student whom ‘came out’ as gay last October. Initially, I felt great about this as I could finally talk honestly with my friends and be myself. However, as the months drag on and I still haven’t met any girl I like and ...
A. 24 February 2014: Congrats on coming out,just remember coming out is ONLY the beginning. And it doesn't come with a gift wrapped mate.
If the college has a LGBT group, why don't YOU try and arrange something (event) YOU would like to participate in? Talk to whome... (read in full...)
He lied to me about being married and now I feel wrecked!
Q. Hi, I met this guy who seemed to b really nice he treated me pretty well I don't know he was a married man, we had sex a couple of times but within 3 months he felt like he needed some space to study about a month, I felt hurt like i was gonna a ...
A. 24 February 2014: CUT him out of your life, WHY on EARTH did you get back in touch after you ALREADY knew he was married? THAT is not OK, you should have told him to go fly a kite or jump in a lake - instead you SLEPT with him? WHY? You thought he would leave his ... (read in full...)
My crush says she doesn't trust men, but I really like her!
Q. now being a freshan in high school, dating is fairly useless. I like this girl and we are great friends, so i decided i wanted to date her. i have given her gifts, hugged her, and put my arm around her all in order to get her to like me a little ...
A. 24 February 2014: You need to slow down there lover-boy. Don't FORCE yourself on a girl, putting your ARM around her and giving her gift is not the way to go with a girl.
Don't GIVE gifts to MAKE her like you, because that means the GIFT comes with a "string ... (read in full...)
I am being shut out by his language!
Q. Hi! I need advice on a relationship with language differences. When I met my boyfriend he didnt know any English, but he insisted on being with me. He worked hard to learn English and did well. Now his daughter came to live with us full time and he ...
A. 24 February 2014: Amen to YouWish! Spot on!
I agree how about YOU learn Spanish?
If nothing else it will HELP you later on in life. MANY workplaces prefer people who are either bi-lingual or multilingual.
I speak 4 fluently and 2 so-so, but can make myse... (read in full...)
Hurtful comments from stranger .........
Q. Today I went to a coffee shop and ordered myself something to drink. While I was about to leave the shop, I walked by a group of guys and they were looking at me and laughing at me. I heard one of the guys said, "did you see that girl?" "Did you get ...
A. 24 February 2014: You need to learn not to give a shit. Its' that simple. THESE are strangers, WHO cares what they think?!
They are not only strangers but rude, thoughtless, malicious and petty strangers. Again WHY care what people like that think? They think ma... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I am cheating because I am 'too loose".
Q. Help, my boyfriend, we've been together for 2 years and he thinks I'm cheating because I feel "loose", and I feel it to. We used to have sex everyday, but it began to lessen. Now we have sex once every two weeks, and even then I still feel loose, I ...
A. 24 February 2014: What a dumb-ass !!(your BF)
Your VAGINA is a muscle. It doesn't get loose by having sex. That is like saying his penis got smaller because he had sex with someone.. it doesn't WORK that way, he logic is flawed and his ignorance of the human bo... (read in full...)
How do I get an aggresive suitor to back off a little without chasing him completely away
Q. This year, I told myself and God that I am going to get married. I don't have a boyfriend yet but just dating. I went to Dublin to see my ex December and even though the long distance is still an issue we are still very hopeful. Then when I came bac...
A. 24 February 2014: Then tell Mr. Africa that it's moving WAY to fast for you. IT IS OK to tell a guy that.
And being upfront with a guy telling him you are talking to/dating more then one guy is the right thing to do. Don't act like a kid in the candy store. If th... (read in full...)
Does he want me or not? Why stalk me but not speak to me?
Q. i had a relationship with a man that was at the point of engagement. while there were some communication issues to be worked out, he left the relationship before sorting anything. now that we are apart, he does not want to be together and won't ...
A. 23 February 2014: Block his access so he can't CYBER stalk you. It's freaking creepy.
Why does he stalk you? Because even if HE didn't want to be with you, he still wants to keep taps on you and he doesn't want you dating someone else.
Stalkers can be quite dan... (read in full...)
How do I get an aggresive suitor to back off a little without chasing him completely away
Q. This year, I told myself and God that I am going to get married. I don't have a boyfriend yet but just dating. I went to Dublin to see my ex December and even though the long distance is still an issue we are still very hopeful. Then when I came bac...
A. 22 February 2014: How do you tell a guy he is being a little to "Aggressive" in his approach to you?
YOU TELL THEM.
Next time Mr. Africa tells you he LOVES you, tell him it's a nice compliment but that he doesn't know you well enough to use the word love. And t... (read in full...)
How do I get an aggresive suitor to back off a little without chasing him completely away
Q. This year, I told myself and God that I am going to get married. I don't have a boyfriend yet but just dating. I went to Dublin to see my ex December and even though the long distance is still an issue we are still very hopeful. Then when I came bac...
A. 21 February 2014: You don't think all the out of the blue contact and profession of love has to do with a green card more then actual love?
As much as you two have talked on the phone and through e-mails you don't really know the guy.
Now you say he is a frie... (read in full...)
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