I see his actions as being disrespectful of our time spent together. He sees my reaction as emotionally unstable.
Q. Guy I've been seeing for over a month won't stop texting when I'm around him! Was I out of line by the way I handled this? Is there a better way I should have handled it? I was over at his house. Literally from the time I got there until righ...
A. 13 March 2014: I agree with All the other Aunties and Uncles here.
CUT yourself some slack. Most people PU their VERY best foot forward when they date, and my guess is that when you go online (like dating sties) people "spruce" up their profile just a little -... (read in full...)
I see his actions as being disrespectful of our time spent together. He sees my reaction as emotionally unstable.
Q. Guy I've been seeing for over a month won't stop texting when I'm around him! Was I out of line by the way I handled this? Is there a better way I should have handled it? I was over at his house. Literally from the time I got there until righ...
A. 13 March 2014: So little bit of the truth comes out over time. Want to bet there are still more "skeletons" in his closet? Or baggage he hasn't mentioned?
Unless you want DRAMA to be the topic of your relationship, I'd say walk away now, no.. actually... (read in full...)
None of the guys I've dated since has been able to accept the fact that I'm friends with an old ex!
Q. Why do men find it such a big problem that im good friends with an old ex? Background- I got together with my first proper boyfriend when I was 15. We were together for 4 years and he was my first love and my first everything. We had a good young...
A. 10 March 2014: My first BF and I are friend and it's been 20 years since we broke up. I don't get to met up but we do e-mail and occasionally (not as often as you do) talk on the phone. There are no romantic feelings involved.
He is the only ex I talk to. The ... (read in full...)
He's one of the nicest guys ever, but the 'spark' isn't happening
Q. Hi everyone, I really need some help. I've been dating this guy for about 3 months. We were friends and I was happy with it as that, but we did hang out a lot so he asked if I would try dating. I wasn't really sure but he is a sweet guy so I agreed. ...
A. 10 March 2014: You are making this SO much harder on yourself then you need to. Tell him:"Bob, you are an incredible nice guy, but I just don't feel any chemistry between and I don't want to string you along, so it's over".
Don't worry about him HE will hav... (read in full...)
He's leaving for three weeks and I'm terrified I'm going to lose him
Q. Ok, so me and my boyfriend have been together for about 7 months now. We have known each other for a long time and fell in love with each other. Im writing this because he is going to trucking school for 3 weeks and i am going to be stuck here alm...
A. 10 March 2014: If you think he will cheat being away for 3 weeks then your relationship must be rather weak. 3 weeks is nothing. Just stay in touch with each other (and NO not while he is in school/training, but after.
And you need to stop with the "pity pa... (read in full...)
If he is too cool to talk to me is there any chance for me with this guy? What should I do?
Q. So there's this guy who I think I'm in love with, but he barely knows I exist. I see he staring at me all the time, but I don't know what to do. I want to talk to him, but he's too cool to ever talk to me. I messaged him, but all he did was read...
A. 10 March 2014: 1. you are NOT in love with him. Having a crush or being infatuated maybe, but that isn't LOVE.
2. (no idea of the content so that can make it harder to guess why he hasn't replied BUT in general) If you sent him a message and he has read it but C... (read in full...)
After all this bitter history, it's hard to trust her good will. Why would my co-worker pick now to be civil?
Q. Do you trust the good will of people you have a tainted history with? My experience is work related. I work in construction/development and I’m quitting a job I’ve had for about 3 years now, during which, I had to deal with a person at work who...
A. 10 March 2014: I agree, I rather people are honest and if they feel like I am not doing something right, I RATHER they come to me, instead of everyone trying to make me look and feel bad.
She could have NOT sent an e-mail, sh could have sent a snarky one but ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friends visit massage parlors for happy endings! Should I worry he is doing the same?
Q. Hello, My boyfriend is not asking for any physical pleasure from me lately and i found out from his friends that they are paying a visit to massage parlors for a quick and fun release from time to time in other words happy endings. I read many ...
A. 10 March 2014: I question the "friend's" motives in telling you this. And I question your reasons to believe you BF would do this. JUST because he CAN get a HE massage doesn't mean he will.
Getting a massage and a "massage with happy ending" are two VERY dif... (read in full...)
He's 22 years younger and wants to date me!
Q. I have just come out of a horrible one year relationship with a guy I really loved but am gradually feeling better. I met a lovely guy who said he was 38 to get my attentional. He is 26. He is good looking fit intelligent mature and a lot of fun...
A. 10 March 2014: I agree with iAmHereToHelpYou
What you want and what HE wants are two different things, which means it's an "unfair advantage" to sleep with him if that is all you want, when you KNOW he wants more.
Take it as a compliment and give yourself a ... (read in full...)
I want a fling with with this guy at work, but his mixed signals are hard to read!
Q. I started a new job in a new city. There’s this guy at work who’s behaviour I can’t seem to work out. I heard through ‘water cooler’ gossip that he recently got out of a long term relationship. I understand that he’s adjusting to being single aga...
A. 10 March 2014: Jeeez girl...
DON'T be THAT girl. YOU JUST started this job and you are already on the hunt on a guy who is (whether he admits or not) a little vulnerable and on the rebound and YOU "just" want a little fling?
You keep up that attitude and you... (read in full...)
After all this bitter history, it's hard to trust her good will. Why would my co-worker pick now to be civil?
Q. Do you trust the good will of people you have a tainted history with? My experience is work related. I work in construction/development and I’m quitting a job I’ve had for about 3 years now, during which, I had to deal with a person at work who...
A. 10 March 2014: I have to agree with the ladies.
Don't send back a sugar coated reply or a arsenic laced one either. Just a nice and polite one.
I think there is always more to why she behaved the way she did, I don't think she felt superior because she was ... (read in full...)
Don't tell me to get over it because I want him back!
Q. hi, I am in a really difficult situation right now and would need some advice. I was seeing this man for over 3 years, we had quite a big argument which was kind of the last straw for him. In my opinion I was only bit sarcastic and his reaction...
A. 9 March 2014: I agree with Auntie BimBim.
YOU can not MAKE this guy WANT to stay in a relationship with you. No matter how many times you apologize or show up.
No one here has a magic wand or advice that can instantly fix what happened.
My guess is arg... (read in full...)
What should I aim for first, baby or dream career?
Q. I need some advice on how to map out a few things in life!!! I'm 29 years old, I have a full time permanent job that I enjoy and the type of skill set that allows me to do nixers from home if I need extra cash. I have a bit of debt that is due to b...
A. 9 March 2014: Trying to break out into a new career with 1 baby and a second pregnancy? I can only imagine how hard that would be, no matter HOW supportive your partner is.
I would go for the clear debts, then career change, then babies.... (read in full...)
He dropped the bombshell that he didn't know when and IF he wanted kids at all!
Q. Hi. I'm in a tricky situation and I don't know weather to go with my heart or my head. I've been with my current boyfriend for 2 years , we also live together which makes things harder. My boyfriend has known since day 1 that I would like ...
A. 8 March 2014: I think he wasn't sure when you first dated, but over the last 2 years it's become more clear that me MIGHT not want any. And THAT is fair enough. YOU don't want kids with a man who really doesn't WANT to be a dad.
So you need to figure out if t... (read in full...)
As her boss should I let go and have sex with this woman who asked me?
Q. I am a divorced guy who manages about a dozen women where I work. This one woman asked me to have sex with her. We are both unattached and about the same ages. I said being her boss it put's me in a situation where it could become a lawsuit. She ...
A. 8 March 2014: Nope.
Don't crap where you eat.
If it turns out that the sex was bad (for either of you) Or one of you start to get emotionally attached and the other doesn't, you will have a problem and subsequently potential drama. Then you have OTHER emplo... (read in full...)
My husband is still friends with his ex-lover who he had an affair with and nearly broke up her marriage!
Q. My husband is still friends with his ex-lover (I'll call her Amber). When we married 8 years ago, I knew he was good friends with a couple in our neighborhood, particularly the wife (Amber) with whom he shared an common interest in golf. Once...
A. 7 March 2014: I agree with Auntie Em too.
This would be a total no go for me. Absolute deal breaker - I don't give a flying fart about them having things in common, he should understand how uncomfortable this "friendship" is for you and for (without doubt) h... (read in full...)
I see his actions as being disrespectful of our time spent together. He sees my reaction as emotionally unstable.
Q. Guy I've been seeing for over a month won't stop texting when I'm around him! Was I out of line by the way I handled this? Is there a better way I should have handled it? I was over at his house. Literally from the time I got there until righ...
A. 7 March 2014: Good thinking to talk to your mom.
And GOOD for you in finding some empowerment in KNOWING you weren't WRONG in how you felt. TRUST in yourself. TRUST your gut.
I agree with your mom up to a point. A guy HIS age SHOULD know that you do not ... (read in full...)
Lost the love of my life! My world is in bits, advice?
Q. So last week my girlfriend who I was with for about 6 month ended our relationship. Yes it was only 6 month but I truly was deeply in love with her. I had plans of us getting married having kids, the works. She decided to end it because she fe...
A. 7 March 2014: She wasn't your "soul-mate" and SHE did the right thing, for HER and for YOU.
6 months ISN'T that long. But if you are with someone you don't feel LOVE for, then it can feel LONG and WRONG.
We can be with someone we really CARE for, but after a... (read in full...)
Feelings of guilt over new relationship
Q. I am a 62 year old retired professional man, and I was widowed a little over two years ago. My late wife and I were married for 32 years, essentially we had a 'good' marriage, and I have one grown up son. Seven months ago (August 2013) I met in s...
A. 7 March 2014: All I can say is trust your gut and enjoy the journey.
EVERYONE deserves happiness in their lives. If she makes YOU feel happy and YOU make her feel happy then that is a GOOD thing.
I have to say, I DID worry when my Dad first met his Lady Fri... (read in full...)
How would you cope with learning she has a boyfriend?
Q. Hello Cupid What will you call a girl who leads you on for a good few months of dating until you realise she has a boyfriend already? How would you cope up with that and what will you do ? Confronting her or asking why she did it be of any ...
A. 7 March 2014: What would I call her? Nothing nice... Emotionally bankrupt" might be the "nicest" thing I can think of.
I agree, if you slept with her - get tested now and again in 6 months.( or as your doctor suggests)
Would I confront a person like that... (read in full...)
What's going? Does my gf still have feelings for her ex? Or even still in love with him?
Q. Dear Cupid Aunts and Uncles. I've been going with a girl for about 8 months now. But I think she still has feelings for her ex? I could be wrong. Last month her ex had an accident. He almost died. He's okay now though. At the time of his a...
A. 7 March 2014: Why do you let her have this much control in the relationship? She doesn't want YOU to come with her to the beach? The coffee-shop?
I'm wondering WHY you are with her? I'd be annoyed if my partner had places with special meaning where I wasn't w... (read in full...)
Should I take it personally that he goes limp during sex?
Q. Sometimes when my boyfriend and I are having sex, he goes limp...I have NEVER had this issue before with anyone I have been with. I haven't had many partners, and he is the first and only one who has been with me since I had a child (3 years ago...
A. 7 March 2014: I agree with Cerberus. It's NOT about you.
Double bag (use two condoms) it makes him feel less but it can also make him stay hard. Cock ring, same thing.
Also consider the positions you two use.
Again some men who jerk off A LOT are used ... (read in full...)
How do I get his attraction back before its too late?
Q. I am in desperate need of advice. I have lived with my boyfriend for 4 years. We are both in our late 20's. For almost two years now, we have lived together overseas. My boyfriend got a job here and I agreed to move with him with the ...
A. 7 March 2014: Get your ducks in a row and find a way to get back home. Ask your family for help so you can move home.
There is NO reason for you to stay.
If you have to, sell some of the stuff you brought with you.
It's over, your now-ex-bf is done w... (read in full...)
What's going? Does my gf still have feelings for her ex? Or even still in love with him?
Q. Dear Cupid Aunts and Uncles. I've been going with a girl for about 8 months now. But I think she still has feelings for her ex? I could be wrong. Last month her ex had an accident. He almost died. He's okay now though. At the time of his a...
A. 7 March 2014: Facebook aside, how is your relationship?
For the most part I believe that you CAN NOT conduct a relationship judging what goes on on Facebook. (that would be RIDICULOUS) Though I have to say her asking you to take down a status, where you said... (read in full...)
Should I stick around? Is he still interested?
Q. Hi there! I have a strange situation with my boyfriend of almost three years and I really need some advice as it's beginning to take over my thoughts! He has recently joined a touring band and we moved to the city the band lives in to be clo...
A. 7 March 2014: Are a lot of his band mates single?
Is he older the the rest of the band?
My guess is he is trying on new personas in case he gets famous.
He wants the "security" and "stability" of a GF (you) but I think he likes the idea of being ADORED... (read in full...)
Hasn't text me all day.. but got on facebook??
Q. My boyfriend is supposed to be at work today but I haven't talked to him so I really have no idea if he went or not. I text him about 3 hours ago and said "just thinking about you.. love you.. xoxo" and he didn't reply. I didn't think much of it ...
A. 7 March 2014: I know that a LOT of people (mostly younger then myself) text and talk to their partner ALL day or throughout the day when they REALLY should be working.
He's already told you that he ca't do a lot of talking while at work (which honestly makes se... (read in full...)
If I don't want him any more why am I jealous of my ex?
Q. Why am I jealous of my ex husbands new girlfriend? I don't want my ex husband back, in fact, I am glad to no longer be married to him and tolerate his verbally and emotionally abusive behavior and general lazy unpleasantness. I know I'm bitt...
A. 6 March 2014: I think you are jealous because he has moved on. You are still working on raising your son and keeping your life as "normal" for you child as possible.
Do you have a custody agreement in place? A Child Support agreement? If so, then he really n... (read in full...)
I see his actions as being disrespectful of our time spent together. He sees my reaction as emotionally unstable.
Q. Guy I've been seeing for over a month won't stop texting when I'm around him! Was I out of line by the way I handled this? Is there a better way I should have handled it? I was over at his house. Literally from the time I got there until righ...
A. 6 March 2014: I agree with YouWish as well. What a douche-canoe.
Texting non-stop while you are there IS disrespectful. If he was SO desperate for a ride in the morning all he had to do was call the guy, no need to chat with him, just call and arrange a ride. ... (read in full...)
Are the obstacles worth it? He lives 12 hours away and doesn't earn a lot.
Q. I love him, but I am tired of long distance and logically, he really doesn't have much to offer. I have been dating a wonderful man for about 6 months. I admire a lot about him, and the time we have gotten to spend in person is wonderful. He li...
A. 6 March 2014: To me there seems to be to many more cons then pros to make it work.
... (read in full...)
Should I try to make our marriage work or just end it?
Q. I am torn on what I should do. Here is some background information first. I am active duty military, my wife and I are both 24, we have been together for 8 years and married for 4. We don't have any kids and I am currently deployed. Recently my wife ...
A. 6 March 2014: First off, I would suggest you and your wife take a break from discussing this further til you get home. Being deployed means loads of stress and add these marriage issues, it makes it harder for you to decide what is right for you.
1. I would su... (read in full...)
Boyfriend tells me my vagina is loose and we have other relationship problems. What should I do?
Q. Hi all. I'm sorry I have question. Me and my boyfriend is on long distance relationship now. He was staying in same country for last 3 months and now he's in his country for some visa and application purposes to come back here. Actually I feel a l...
A. 6 March 2014: He isn't a good fit for you in any way. ACCEPT that YOU can do better then him, ACCEPT that you DESERVE a better man then him.
Block him from all your social pages (if you have any), make his e-mail go in the spam folder, so you don't have to ... (read in full...)
My man and I have been brought up very dfferently
Q. I'm not sure that me and my man are compatible. I seen a post on here a while ago about a woman thinking her man was needy and although I didn't agree with all of it it made me think. Me and my man have been friends since school and in a re...
A. 6 March 2014: I think this is a case of growth and no growth. Since school YOU have grown INTO a hard working young lady, HE is still living and acting like a child.
YOU have taken on the "mother-role", by housing him, feeding him, cleaning up after him and ... (read in full...)
He dumped my in a cruel & demeaning way and now I pathetically stalk his instagram account!
Q. I was enjoying a healthy single life for years after a bad teenage relationship when I met this guy who swept me off my feet in as little as a couple months. It started as friendship where we talked all day long, only to turn into a fling very soon, ...
A. 6 March 2014: Block his Instangram, get of the computer. He was a DUD who knew how to play a girl. You tried to play him, but... YOU got played.
Next time, go WAY slower. Do not get intimate or lovey-dovey til you two are a COUPLE (if that is what you want).
... (read in full...)
He's gone a bit cold after our date.
Q. Sorry to ask such a banal question but I'm confused and don't know what to do. I have little experience of (healthy) dating and relationships so I would appreciate some advice. I met a guy a couple of weeks ago, we clicked, met for coffee and t...
A. 6 March 2014: You need to learn to chill a little.
You write *****
I've made a fool of myself enough times with other guys in the past, and don't want to put myself through the pain and humiliation of rejection again. **********
There is nothing HUMILIATI... (read in full...)
Have I lost Mr Right???
Q. Have I lost Mr Right?? Years ago I fell out with him and his family As he never told them the truth. Recently we have been meeting up and having intercourse and floor play. It's just as and when needed. He gets married next year. ...
A. 6 March 2014: He is NOT Mr. Right and am I reading your post right - he is already seeing someone else? If he is getting married next year I'm going to presume he is engaged and NOT to you.
What a dumb thing for you to met up and have sex if he has a fiance. ... (read in full...)
Why did she start to show interest when I ignored her? Should I pursue her?
Q. Hi I am an individual who doesn't believe in mind games and find it a big turn off! I was chasing a girl and dated her for a while until suddenly she became distant. I thought maybe she's not interested so I confronted her. She didn't give me a...
A. 5 March 2014: She likes the attention, but it doesn't matter WHO it comes from. I would just be polite when you run into her, but otherwise MOVE ON.
She is playing DUMB (like she doesn't KNOW you like her) that way she can be nice and flirt with you (when SH... (read in full...)
Feelings of guilt over new relationship
Q. I am a 62 year old retired professional man, and I was widowed a little over two years ago. My late wife and I were married for 32 years, essentially we had a 'good' marriage, and I have one grown up son. Seven months ago (August 2013) I met in s...
A. 5 March 2014: My mom passed away a few years ago, after 47 years with my dad. He found it VERY hard to not only be on his own, but the whole idea of dating. There was a rather persistent neighbor lady (who by the way was hitting on my dad while my mom was still ... (read in full...)
His ex-wife is trash-talking me all over town.
Q. The man I was seeing is now trying to get back with his wife and she is harassing me and telling everyone I stalked him and wouldnt leave him alone when in fact we had a 3 month relationship which he instigated and I finished. He had already split ...
A. 5 March 2014: If she keeps at it on Facebook contact FB and have her comments removed as harassment.
Other then that, not much you CAN do. Unless she keeps at it, if she does I would consider calling the police and ask what you can do. They might tell you that... (read in full...)
He said he wanted a threesome and then turned the tables on me
Q. My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for almost a year. We have had our ups and downs and he doesnt know how to communicate very well. I have an anxiety personality so when I don't hear from him after an argument it trips a trigger I have ...
A. 5 March 2014: I'd say the same, he was LOOKING for a way out of the relationship - this was just the BEST BS "solution" he could come up with that made YOU look like the "bad guy".
Block his number. Forget about him. He sounds like a douche.... (read in full...)
How far should the "my house, my rules" concept be taken?
Q. I am curious to know your thoughts about the concept of "my house, my rules". Recently there was a question posted by an (over 18) OP living at home with her parents, who wanted to get a piercing against her mother's vigorous oppositi...
A. 5 March 2014: I agree, great question!
(except the trashy platinum part.. my middle daughter and I are both natural platinum blonds and I don't consider us trashy because of our hair color.. LOL) THAT aside...
I agree with SVC. If they are over 18 all you ... (read in full...)
My fiancee thinks I am putting my car before our wedding and moving into our own place! Is she being fair in her response?
Q. My 23 year old fiancée thinks I (26) am putting my car in front of our wedding and finding a place to live. My grandfather left me the car, granted it has sentimental value to me, being the only thing I really have left plus it is quite a rare car...
A. 5 March 2014: You are currently living with your MIL (mother In Law)? If so, I'd focus more on finding a place and move out then the wedding.
I think you need to in a gentle way (I guess) put your foot down with your fiance. She has had FREE run on the wedding ... (read in full...)
I don't want our relationship to be all about sex, but I feel I am making it that way.
Q. Hey well I am a 20 year old male and I am dating a 22 year old virgin and I know she wants to wait and I do too. The problem is I've been wanting to have sex with her lately really bad. I have been pushing for it and feeling horrible. I love her and ...
A. 5 March 2014: If you have BOTH agreed to wait (for whatever reason) then you NEED to stop pushing for the sex. Stop mentioning it too. One thing is to THINK about it a lot (which is totally normal) another is to make her feel like she will HAVE to have sex with ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her I'm studying so that I can avoid the 'nice neighbour' overdose?
Q. My landlady happens to be my neighbour too, so before Christmas I got her a nice snowflake to hang on her tree and a card...so a few days before I flew home, she invited me along with other expats to a lunch Christmas party...then after Christmas I ...
A. 5 March 2014: Jezz, she sounds needy and overbearing to say the least. My guess is that SHE is a lonely lady for a reason.
I agree with Cindy's advice - tell her there is no need to clear the air, that you are just busy with exams, YOUR social life, work and... (read in full...)
He said he wanted a threesome and then turned the tables on me
Q. My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for almost a year. We have had our ups and downs and he doesnt know how to communicate very well. I have an anxiety personality so when I don't hear from him after an argument it trips a trigger I have ...
A. 5 March 2014: This is not something you can fix. He was looking for a way out and created a "scenario" where he could make an excuse. He knew you would "word vomit" in text if he put you on the spot. He uses the silent treatment to get you going and you KNOWING ... (read in full...)
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