He said he wanted a threesome and then turned the tables on me
Q. My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for almost a year. We have had our ups and downs and he doesnt know how to communicate very well. I have an anxiety personality so when I don't hear from him after an argument it trips a trigger I have ...
A. 5 March 2014: I'd say the same, he was LOOKING for a way out of the relationship - this was just the BEST BS "solution" he could come up with that made YOU look like the "bad guy".
Block his number. Forget about him. He sounds like a douche.... (read in full...)
Should I tell her I'm studying so that I can avoid the 'nice neighbour' overdose?
Q. My landlady happens to be my neighbour too, so before Christmas I got her a nice snowflake to hang on her tree and a card...so a few days before I flew home, she invited me along with other expats to a lunch Christmas party...then after Christmas I ...
A. 5 March 2014: Jezz, she sounds needy and overbearing to say the least. My guess is that SHE is a lonely lady for a reason.
I agree with Cindy's advice - tell her there is no need to clear the air, that you are just busy with exams, YOUR social life, work and... (read in full...)
He said he wanted a threesome and then turned the tables on me
Q. My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for almost a year. We have had our ups and downs and he doesnt know how to communicate very well. I have an anxiety personality so when I don't hear from him after an argument it trips a trigger I have ...
A. 5 March 2014: This is not something you can fix. He was looking for a way out and created a "scenario" where he could make an excuse. He knew you would "word vomit" in text if he put you on the spot. He uses the silent treatment to get you going and you KNOWING ... (read in full...)
I want to be supportive of my boyfriend after the death of his son, but he's pushing me away
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend since 9/14/13. On 12/13/13, his 23-year-old son committed suicide. He and his ex split up many years ago and he had not physically been involved in the kids’ lives for about 10 years or so, though he did still keep ...
A. 4 March 2014: I would look for a grief counselor in your area and give the number/info to your BF tell him to seek help.
I think the IDEA of you promising to be there til he says go away, but I also think it's unrealistic of you.
You love him, no doubt. B... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a guy I dated? I've moved on, he hasn't.
Q. Hi everyone, I need advice on my situation. I met a guy back in December who was really lovely and had a great personality. I wasn't really attracted to him like that but he asked me out on a date and as I wasn't seeing anybody at the time I kind ...
A. 4 March 2014: Just un-friend him and block him from Facebook and POST whatever you like and I agree with Cerberus - grow a set, woman up and tell him you have absolutely no interest in him in a romantic way and that his lame attempts to put you down or "joke" as ... (read in full...)
Girls, would you date a guy who isn't funny?
Q. Girls say all the time that they want guys who are funny, well the truth is, that not everybody can make everybody laugh and be the life at the party. Some guys like me are not funny or sarcastic and generally don't have a sense of humor. I'll n...
A. 4 March 2014: I prefer guys with a good sense of humor. One who "gets" sarcasm, irony and at the same time can be goofy from time to time.
I don't need a stand up comedian, but if you have as much sense of humor as a rock, we probably wouldn't be compatib... (read in full...)
I am livid at his actions and beset with Insecurity and Jealousy!! Need some advice please!!
Q. Okay - I don't really even know where to start. My boyfriend and I are both in our early-mid 30s and have been together almost 3 1/2 years. Overall things have been well but we've had some rough spots here and there. Anyway, for most of ou...
A. 4 March 2014: Stop being silly and MEET these people. I bet you it will calm any fears you might have. What is your reason to NOT me them?
YOU are CHOOSING to see the friendship your Fiancee is having with these people as some twisted competition.
If he h... (read in full...)
I am so low on my fiance's priority list we havent met for a month!
Q. Dead Cupid, I'm in a long term relationship. Engaged last year, will be married next year. I don't know if it's a phase? But I'm starting to get sick and tired of my fiancé's attitude. He always pioritise his friends and will always second me...
A. 4 March 2014: Do you think it will change once you get married?
And instead of getting mad, sit him down and tell him you feel neglected and ignored. Maybe he is staying away because usually YOU get mad? I mean would you want to spend a night with a MAD part... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a passive aggressive sister?
Q. I have a younger sister whom I am generally very close with. However, she has a habit of having these mood changes which really upset me. What happens is that I will ask her not to do something, like eat food I am saving for a party, and she w...
A. 4 March 2014: You say you live WITH her - does it means you SHARE a house 50/50 or do you LIVE at HER place - her HER at your place?
Sit her down. Talk to her. Set some ground rules you BOTH can agree on.
If you have paid for the food for a party she NEEDS ... (read in full...)
My man wants to sleep with the traveling chick we picked up in MY van...
Q. So me (24) and my boyfriend (42) pick up a traveling girl, we helped her break up with her boyfriend. Well my BF had been talking about bringing another girl into the bedroom with us... I'm not really into sharing and I warned him I might hurt her ...
A. 4 March 2014: I agree with WiseOwlE.
Break up with him, seriously.
He is taking advantage of you being so much younger then him, and he is TRYING to groom you into accepting whatever little kinks he can think up.
Don't blame the other girl. I'm guess sh... (read in full...)
Do her actions indicate that she still in love with her ex?
Q. I have a very simple question if a women keeps pictures of her and her ex husband even though there divorced and he's with a new women and they have a baby together and but she has these pictures posted on her facebook page of their wedding day and ...
A. 4 March 2014: I agree with Cerberus.
The only thing you can say for sure, is that she doesn't HATE him and most likely had an amicable divorce.
Being divorced doesn't mean you have to erase your past.... (read in full...)
My male friend has become distant since I confessed to being interested in one of his friends
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend because it was very clear how much we had grown apart in our 3 year relationship. A few weeks before I broke up with him, I started hanging out with a guy regularly. I was never attracted to him romantically but ...
A. 3 March 2014: Amen Cerberus.
If filling yourself with the notion that YOUR behavior had nothing to do with it, then go for it.
Don't own your actions. Good luck.... (read in full...)
What does "trying too hard" mean in the context of dating?
Q. Hi cupid I was wondering what "trying too hard" refers to when a girl/guy is pursuing a match or maybe trying to date? What are the ways to know if you are trying to hard and how does it come out as a big turn off ? Cheers ...
A. 3 March 2014: It varies from person to person. I agree with Cerberus.
If it feels like you are "playing a role", pretending instead of being YOU - it's a huge turn off. If you are pulling a "I'm SUCH a gentleman" and then orders my food for me - yikes.
... (read in full...)
Do guys really find squirting to be a turn-on, or was my partner just too polite to say it grossed him out?
Q. I'm in my mid 20's and I've known I was a squirter since I was about 19/20 due to masturbation. But despite having a couple of sexual partners and previously being married, I have never felt comfortable enough to squirt with any partner despite ...
A. 3 March 2014: I am pretty sure that if a guy finds it a turn off, they will speak up and tell you.
My questions is , why do you PRESUME he isn't telling the truth?... (read in full...)
Should I tell his wife her husband is sleeping with my wife??
Q. My wife cheated on me a few times then suddenly moved out leaving me with my 2 daughters who are still in school. The anger was eating at me so bad that I went to a counselor to keep myself under control, I wanted to make my wife's life as miserabl...
A. 3 March 2014: I get that you are hurt, feel betrayed and want vengeance on your wife.
BUT...
If you want to tell the wife of your friend, to HURT your wife, know that this woman (the friend's wife) will ALSO be as HURT as you are now.
If you want to ... (read in full...)
I feel so hated in my new job!
Q. I'm in a real mess Just started a new job and feel I have made a big mistake I work in a team of 6 and they are so cold and unfriendly and talk to each other and as a result I have lost a huge amount of confidence I know one of the team has alre...
A. 3 March 2014: Before I try and answer your question I have to ask,
What did you tell your co-worker that he felt he needed to take it to a supervisor?
... (read in full...)
He said he's met someone else ...
Q. I'm sorry. I cant write all the details of this at the moment as I am so upset.My boyfriend has told me that he has met someone else. I cant understand it. He still seemed like he was in love with me when I last saw him on Tuesday. He went to his ...
A. 3 March 2014: I'm sorry you feel so broken hearted.
I don't think he has cheated on you, but he might have met someone and fallen for her. If he is bi-polar his mood and emotions can be all over the board. From feeling he LOVES someone to feeling he doesn't.... (read in full...)
My male friend has become distant since I confessed to being interested in one of his friends
Q. I recently broke up with my boyfriend because it was very clear how much we had grown apart in our 3 year relationship. A few weeks before I broke up with him, I started hanging out with a guy regularly. I was never attracted to him romantically but ...
A. 3 March 2014: Well, I have to say I think you DO know why this happened.
He didn't like being used as a rebound. And then, of all the guys, you went after his room mate next.
You met him SHORTLY after you broke up with your ex, then a few weeks later you ... (read in full...)
Did he just dump me? What is going on with him? Was I wrong to be so upset?
Q. During the Christmas holidays, I got back together with an old boyfriend when I visited home for Christmas. He was my first love and we dated 7 years ago, after we broke up, he never met anyone else and still loved me. I've always loved him so ...
A. 3 March 2014: Yes, I think you just got dumped. And I think HE is strapped for cash due to him trying to play "Mr generous" to his friends and family.
He knew EXACTLY that he has promised to pay your ticket but was hoping you would get the hints that he actua... (read in full...)
He invited me, so why shouldn't he pay?
Q. Dear ok Cupid, I have male friend who I haven't talked to for over a year, asked if I would accompany he and his family to Disney Land n July 2014. He told me that all I have to pay for is my airfare. If this was an invite, don't u think he...
A. 3 March 2014: Why should he pay the airfare? It's PRETTY generous to offer entrance and hotel.
We had friends come up North to visit us from Kentucky - we INVITED them (and paid for the hotel because we have don't have enough room for guests) but they paid for... (read in full...)
Women, do you prefer it when a man delays ejaculation?
Q. I just want to find out if delayed ejaculation is necessarily than premature ejaculation where the female perspective is concerned. I sleep on a regular basis with sex workers. Normally, I ejaculate within a minute or tow, sometimes even within ...
A. 2 March 2014: Auntie TasteofIndia hit it spot on!
Most women PREFERS that BOTH of you are enjoying the sex. If you take forever and don't get her off, she will become sore and/or bored. Marathon sex works best if BOTH parties get off or get great pleasure... (read in full...)
My brother's future wife is lying about her age and her sexual past! Do I tell him or keep my mouth shut?
Q. Hey, everyone...am in desperate need of advice. My elder brother is set to marry this coming july. The problem is he is marrying a woman he dated for only two months. I know most will say that it doesn't matter how long you date. But I think he...
A. 2 March 2014: If you think he deserves to know all this, talk to her. Give her the chance to be honest with him. YOU might not know exactly what sh's told him.
Or you can suggest he wait a BIT longer to get married so they have a bigger chance of success ... (read in full...)
Will he cheat on me?
Q. please need advice ok I have a best friend and at the time he is with some one else so we got together and then it happened. well he still with her and wanting to leave her for me. is this going to happen to me? I am worried. I don't want to lose ...
A. 2 March 2014: Chances are he will. The fact that you can't trust him NOW as a "not BF" means you can't if he WAS your BF.
Why do you even have sex with a guy who has a GF? Why is that OK, but not OK for him to cheat if he was YOUR bf? Where does that come fro... (read in full...)
A man I dated returned to his ex without telling me but I can't stop thinking about him
Q. Hi i met this man last year i really liked him but he went back to his ex without getting in touch to tell me. i gave him another chance in january we met up both drunk and ended up having sex. i know this was a mistake now i haven't heard from him...
A. 2 March 2014: Yes you should BLOCK and unfriend the ex.
Why would you even MEET up with a guy if you KNOW he went back to his ex? Did he tell you he was single again? Because if he did, my bet is he lied.
He (the ex) is a dud. Let him go and MOVE REALLY ... (read in full...)
We cancelled the wedding and I am now stuck in limbo.
Q. is there any hope? I live with and had been planning to marry a loving exciting, thoughtful, generous man who I adore. He also will do anything for my children aged 21 and 18. Financially he has given everything he owns. The problem is that ...
A. 2 March 2014: I don't know if the UK have the same possibility to check your credit score (as we do in the US) but you can basically see if ANYONE has used your info for ANYTHING - such as credit cards or otherwise. Personally, I would end it. He ISN'T going t... (read in full...)
Should I let this go?
Q. I'm absolutely fuming! Please read! Last night I went out to dinner for my friends birthday. There were 9 of us in total and a few friends of hers who I don't know. I wasn't feeling well as I had some work on my teeth and on tablets so I c...
A. 2 March 2014: I wouldn't bother either.
Personally I would have stuck to paying the 10.- that you ate/drank for and the rest could "share" if they like.
I don't think there is ANY ground rules that state you have to pay 1/9 of a 9 person dinner. Now if i... (read in full...)
Husband won't have sex with me until I lose more weight, but because I'm not begging him for intimacy he thinks I must be cheating!
Q. Hope someone can help. Here goes: I am currently on a weight loss journey. Though I have already lost 20 lbs, I am still pretty obese. My husband told me that he loves me but doesn't want to have sex with me until I reach my goal weight. Ok, fine , ...
A. 2 March 2014: Sorry, this would be a TOTAL deal breaker for me.
He still gets BLOW JOB but you get nothing because he thinks you are too fat for him to get intimate with? Seriously?
I would sit him down and explain that you have NO intentions of be... (read in full...)
He doesn't show much emotion and after having sex with him my feelings have cooled off
Q. I have a very simple question and what should I do... So I used to like this guy for 3 years and we were friends and everything, we started dating from the new yeas party. And everything is fine, like we joke, he is a very nice guy, I can trust hi...
A. 2 March 2014: How was the sex? Any good? Maybe your fantasy of finally being with him didn't live up to your own fantasy hype?
He is who he is, however if there are things you NEED from him (him showing emotions) then I would talk about it, but expectin... (read in full...)
Email, SMS and call all in one day from ex-husband!
Q. What do I do? My ex-husband remarried very soon after our divorce. This was a couple of years ago. He has never totally let go. He has constantly stayed in touch every few months or so. This last call was very heart wrenching as he laid bare his...
A. 1 March 2014: I agree with Auntie BimBim
Stop feeling SORRY for him. Let him go. ENJOY YOUR life.
He made his bed, if he is that miserable he can divorce - after all he divorced you.
What he wants from you, is for YOU to feel sorry for him and NOT mo... (read in full...)
Natural birth questions
Q. These questions are for mothers who chose to have a natural birth with no pain medications. I am expecting my first baby this summer and i want to do it with out pain medications but my mother thinks i'm not strong enough to and iv hear some bad ...
A. 1 March 2014: Find a good midwife or doula and talk over your fear and wishes.
I had my first two with epidural 12 and 8 hour deliveries - so not so bad - both BIG babies 9+lbs. I had NO pain medication for any of my 3, just he epidural and with #2 pictocin... (read in full...)
Why did she tell my Mom first, and not me?
Q. My sister is in her mid-30s and is married. We aren't super close due to our age difference, but we still talk and hang out. She called today and I answered the phone. She said that she was just calling to say hi and talked about her day. Then I ...
A. 1 March 2014: You tell your partner first, then your mom/dad, THEN your siblings/friends/the world. I think it's pretty much normal.
I think you are overacting a tad by assuming you somehow deserve this knowledge before others.
Just be happy for her and don'... (read in full...)
I am waiting for the text that will ruin my weekend ...
Q. Hello. I will probably get the answer to this question either later on today or tomorrow from the source, but I was just curious to find out other people's opinions and whether or not other girls or guys out there have had a similar experience. I...
A. 1 March 2014: I think she is playing it safe as well, I agree with FA. She might not be sure how she feels but she is interested.
I would suggest though that you go out and do things not just sit on each others couches and watch movies. That might... get a li... (read in full...)
My fab new BF ticks all my boxes but won't give oral
Q. Dear all Please advise. I ve been dating this fabulous guy for around a monthnow. He is kind, intelligent, reliable, handsome and has loads of otger great qualities. We get on very well and I could not ask for more except he doesn' t do oral whi...
A. 28 February 2014: FA's advice is spot on.
And honestly your text to him about tit for tat is kind of childish, you were hoping he would say OK I'll TRY to give you oral and he thought you two were negotiating.
You two are not sexually compatible, whic... (read in full...)
I want my ex back but he's not interested. What can I do?
Q. I still like my ex but he does not want to get back with me. We are both in our thirties, and our relationship was very complicated. He had kids, I have a child, ex-partners etc etc ......it was very difficult at times for us to be happy. We live in ...
A. 28 February 2014: Honestly what do you think would happen if you had a second go of it? The same thing.
If whatever broke you two up isn't resolved, trying again is futile.
And you are GOING to have to accept that he DOESN'T WANT to get back together with yo... (read in full...)
Could he have been right? Am I too close to my mum?
Q. Am i too close to my mum? My ex boyfriend who i was with for 4 years and lived with recently dumped me becuase he said i'm too close to my mum. He's made me question myself, tourture myself, caused a gap between me and my mum and has made me hate...
A. 28 February 2014: I don't think you are too close to your mom either. HOWEVER, I DO think you mom has been TOO involved in YOUR relationship. Her fighting with your BF and having "a go at him" is just not right.
Now I'm only going by what you have been writing ... (read in full...)
Should I back off and forget him?
Q. About a month and a half ago, I was at a local bar with my best friend and his younger sister and her friend. One of their guy friends came over to the table. I will call him Michael. I had seen him around before and thought he was good looking but ...
A. 28 February 2014: I would leave him be. He is trying to do the right thing "as per bro-code" and not date his friend's ex. However, he thought it was OK to see you if your EX was dating again?
I would be polite when you run into him, but don't chase him and don'... (read in full...)
My fab new BF ticks all my boxes but won't give oral
Q. Dear all Please advise. I ve been dating this fabulous guy for around a monthnow. He is kind, intelligent, reliable, handsome and has loads of otger great qualities. We get on very well and I could not ask for more except he doesn' t do oral whi...
A. 28 February 2014: Sorry, he has never tried and never will was his statement?
I would just think you two aren't sexually compatible. Because as lovely as he is otherwise, if you are left unsatisfied because he doesn't want to do oral, you should just "suck it... (read in full...)
Can I ever really trust her after I found out about her threesome?
Q. 6 months into our relationship my girlfriend went on holiday and I later found out that she had a threesome with two men she met in a nightclub while she was away. After she said it was just a crazy one off I forgave her. But I just can't get ...
A. 27 February 2014: I find it a little surprising that 6 months into a relationship she cheats and then call it a one off. If she is YOUR age group I kind of find it a little disturbing that 1. she kept it from you (you found out about it from HER friends) and 2. that ... (read in full...)
Dumping on a girlfriend for a man you hardly know!
Q. My american friend (girl) has been planning to come over for a ages and so I invited her to stay with me for a few nights. She's been texting me on her progress with planning her trip for months and I got my spare room ready for her, booked a ...
A. 27 February 2014: That IS rude. Her excuse was lame too, like she REALLY decided to hook up with Mr. London to make YOUR life easier? Bullshit!
However, LOOK at the silver lining, you now have a CLEAN SPARKLY house and a couple of days off . make the best of it.
... (read in full...)
Should I tell my FWB I'm talking to someone else?
Q. Should I tell my FWB that I'm taking to somebody else? It's not sexual with the other person, but it is something I see turning into a relationship with....
A. 27 February 2014: I agree with iAmHereToHelpYou
If you are looking to POTENTIALLY date guy #2, you should end the FWB arrangement.
Does guy #2 know about the FBW guy?
As the "rules" goes with FWB - it's as casual as it can get. You owe him no explanation (... (read in full...)
Is it ok to date a separated person?
Q. I'm divorced and met a woman through friends who's married but living separated lives with her husband for financial reasons. Long story short, she invited me out for a date. Is it wrong to date a separated woman who's husband is already out there ...
A. 27 February 2014: I agree with SVC
It would REALLY depend on WHY they haven't completed the divorce 5 years later.
Personally, I wouldn't date someone who is "separated" yet still living together. That is an oxymoron. Separation require LIVING separate........ (read in full...)
Pregnant and confused! What should I do?
Q. heya, my head is so confussed, i just found out im pregnant! im not in a realtionship and have slept with two boys this month with about 3-4days appart, so have no way in knowing who the father is. this isnt the first time iv been pregnant,...
A. 27 February 2014: Have you talked to your own family about this? I mean being a single mom isn't ideal for anyone. But if you have a good support net of friends and family it can be "less" hard on you.
Have you sat down and figured out if you can afford a child? D... (read in full...)
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