My drunk texts have caused a problem
Q. I have been an absolute idiot and I’m so embarrassed. I met up with a friend yesterday, a few afternoon beers turned into a few more and by 6pm we were streaming. We were having a good laugh and chat. Anyway, obviously due to covid we were catching...
A. 16 August 2021: I'm glad to have helped, OP
I hope you two get to work it out and spend more time in person. It makes such a difference in a relationship.
Sometimes another person's perspective can help, sometimes not so much because they don't know the p... (read in full...)
My drunk texts have caused a problem
Q. I have been an absolute idiot and I’m so embarrassed. I met up with a friend yesterday, a few afternoon beers turned into a few more and by 6pm we were streaming. We were having a good laugh and chat. Anyway, obviously due to covid we were catching...
A. 12 August 2021: I would be honest with her. And maybe have a talk about where you both see the relationship going. And how are things after this "drunk texts episode" has passed? Are you two moving forward?
To me, it seems more like an FWB (I kinda agree with y... (read in full...)
Do men find women like me who don't gym or have toned bodies undesirable or not sexy enough?
Q. I am a 32 year old female. Of late I have been having issues accepting my body. I am 5'5" and weigh 63 kilos/ ~ 138 lbs. I watch what I eat and maintain my weight through walking regularly. I dont have washboard abs or a muscular body toned by gym. ...
A. 7 August 2021: Absolutely AMEN! to all Youcannotbeserious said.
I was fit when I met my husband and we got married, I stayed fit for years and years after, not by going to a gym but running after the kids and working out at home. I gained weight I lost weight. ... (read in full...)
My partner of many years has dumped me and I am not coping very well
Q. My partner of many years has dumped me and i am not coping very well. i cant seem to stop thinking about him everywhere i go reminds me of him as we went everywhere together around the uk holidays and local, shops, hotels, walks, seaside. i cannot ...
A. 6 August 2021: Ask yourself this:
What do you actually miss?
My guess is you selectively think about "the good times" and forget the bad. And that is kind of normal but not helpful.
From what you write this guy didn't really treat you all that well.
He... (read in full...)
She told me to forget about her. Should I?
Q. I met this girl we were friends at first and i knew she was instable she had a bad relationship for two years and she got out depressed and after some time she got back to life and going out ..... but she hated relationships and she said she feels ...
A. 5 August 2021: She isn't in a healthy head-space at the moment and really shouldn't be dating but focused on herself and her mental health.
Give her the respect she asked for. Block her and move on.
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Interested in pursuing a relationship with woman who has an eight month old
Q. I want to pursue a relationship with a woman I met online who has an eight month old baby. We met last year and we were both looking for friends during the pandemic. We have a lot in common in terms of hobbies, political views, religion, etc. We ...
A. 5 August 2021: I think you should listen and respect what she is saying.
SHE isn't looking to date right now. So if you can stick to PNLY offering friendship, then stick to that. Though, I'm not sure you can so that as you ultimately would want more.
Kepp mo... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend has become cold and distant
Q. My bf and me have been in a long distance relationsbip for 8 months we have only managed to meet and see each other the last three months due to the pandemic. So before he was kind and sweet and now he has withdrawn affection and romance somewhat. ...
A. 5 August 2021: I'd end it too.
He is not happy with his current situation and taking it out on you, (I think) So he is unhappy about something so he is punishing you. OR he is simply a total dick in person something he was able to his over text.
Ge doesn't WA... (read in full...)
Girlfriend always says she misses me and wants a hug even though I am with her
Q. I have a girlfriend and I love her and she loves me back as well. But my question is, she always asks for a hug and she missed me even though I am with her. Is that normal right? Well, it's not that I'm complaining. I actually love it because from ...
A. 5 August 2021: Your GF is a tactile person who likes to SHOW how she feels (hugs) and wants to affirm her feelings for you at the same time (telling you that she missed you).
This is who SHE is.
Your ex might have had a very different personality.
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Was my partner being mean and cruel about my appearance?
Q. I'm in need of some advice. I've gained a few pounds during the pandemic. I used to be in great shape before I was forced to stop working out. It has been 1.5 years of inactivity. Even so, I still think my body looks good. I have gained w...
A. 5 August 2021: I think he was putting HIS own insecurities on you. HE is getting old and fat.
And perhaps HE was way more into having a partner that is SKINNY than someone who is OK with some extra weight. Your partner might be more superficial than you knew... (read in full...)
I caught him clearing porn sites from his computer
Q. My partner and I were suppose to do some research together on his laptop when I stepped away I came back in the mist of him clearing his browse history. I was completely shocked, he said he didn't want me see his porn sites and was embarrassed. I ...
A. 3 August 2021: I don't think he is untrusting of you. I think he genuinely was embarrassed. He didn't want you to think LESS of him as a man.
And now you do.
So it's a loss/loss for him.
As to what he enjoys of porn why does he need to have a conversat... (read in full...)
Wife finally agreed to my fantasy of 13 years
Q. I have had a fantasy of wanting to watch my wife have Sex with another guy for over 13 years. My wife knows this and has just recently said Ok to doing so. Why is this such a huge turn on for me if watching her doing something she loves to do... ...
A. 3 August 2021: No one here can tell you WHY you feel this way.
But we CAN tell you what quite often happens when people "play out" this fantasy.
This is probably going to break your marriage.
This is probably going to make your wife resent you. I mean ... (read in full...)
Way too much drama involving my cat and my roommate while I'm away on holiday
Q. I left my cat with the woman I was staying with while I went to see my ldr bf. The trip is a month and I'm halfway through now. I never asked her to watch her she said she would and it would be no problem and since I got here it's been nothing but ...
A. 2 August 2021: Yikes!
Can you call a family member or REAL friend to stop by and feed the cat/clean the litter box every other day? Maybe offer them some duty-free as a payment?
I had a neighbor watch my cat while I was gone for a long weekend and THAN... (read in full...)
Why is my platonic friend blocking and ghosting me?
Q. Hi all, thanks in advance. I'm having issues with a platonic friend of mine. She's become my best friend and we've been close for about 2-years. 'L' and I both work together, we live nearby and often hang out and carpool, and we talk on the phon...
A. 2 August 2021: Respect the fact that she wants nothing to do with you.
I know it sucks but that is the reality.
I think it's ridiculous that she can't even tell you why, because there IS a reason here. Either she has caught feelings for you and is in denial... (read in full...)
My husband makes disgusting insinuations that our son isn't his!
Q. Hello So my husband and I have been together over 4 years. We share a son together. My husband makes remarks that really hurt and offend me. He implies his son isn't his. I have been faithful throughout this journey and he has not. I'...
A. 2 August 2021: I'd suggest you tell him to leave.
You could suggest a DNA test but WHY oh WHY would you put your son through this? And yourself?
Your husband doesn't trust you because HE isn't trustworthy himself. So he assumes that because HE has not been ... (read in full...)
Did she really forgive me?
Q. Hello. I'm a 19 year old guy and my girlfriend is 22. So, it's a 3 years gap and we are both okay with it. We dated for 3 months now hitting 4. And to be honest, I had a great time spending my time with her and her the same and we felt like we have ...
A. 2 August 2021: Yes, she probably forgave you "for real".
Just don't make THIS a habit. Of you doing or saying something "bad" and then asking for forgiveness.
You say " I did the unthinkable and childish way "- learn to THINK before you do something stupid... (read in full...)
I don't fit in and am not sure how to
Q. Hi aunts and uncles I feel so lost lately. I grew up working class. Dad worked in a factory and my mom stayed home with all of us kids. My father also pushed me to study to get ahead. The household was VERY hectic. He was mentally ill(talk...
A. 2 August 2021: It's not all on you, OP
I would stay away from your childhood friends. They aren't friends.
Volunteering is a good way to meet new people but you also need to work on your social skills. My guess is the "rough" around the edges can be "sanded" ... (read in full...)
Breaking up and not feeling bad for the other person
Q. My s/o and I have been together for 9 years. We have a daughter together that’s undergoing chemotherapy for Leukemia. The past 9 years though they have brought me joy have also brought me a lot of pain. He cheats and is always doing things he’s not ...
A. 2 August 2021: Think of it this way, when you break up it will be for the best for BOTH of you. Because it will leave you OBTH open to meeting someone (down the line) who is a much better fit, much better match.
If I were you I would tell him that you have rea... (read in full...)
We have so many holes in walls because my bf can’t control his anger and refuses to get help for it.
Q. My boyfriend never wants to discuss issues or problems which results in me feeling worse than I already did and the problem still there. I just feel like I’m being silenced because whenever I start to talk about things that annoy me or that I ...
A. 1 August 2021: You need to leave.
At some point, he won't settle for punching a wall. You might think this is OK, but it really is NOT.
Your son is NOt benefitting from being around a man (who is his MALE behavior role model at the moment) - he will pick up ... (read in full...)
Why am I not good enough for a relationship, or even fun a second time ?
Q. Hi, please help I am really struggling I am trying to understand the pattern of events that keep happening. I have just got back onto the dating scene and wanted to have fun to gain casual experience, but ultimately looking for more. It see...
A. 1 August 2021: I think you need to decide what you want, casual or a relationship. If you are "ultimately" looking for a relationship then don't settle for something casual.
Doing casual means you will be "used" and "use" others for "fun" and really you will get... (read in full...)
Insecure about my girlfriend and other men am I overthinking and being unnecessarily insecure?
Q. Thanks in advance to anybody who reads this all the way through, it will probably turn out to be lengthy, and I appreciate any meaningful advice or insight on this. BACKGROUND: I have been in a relationship for about 10 years with a woman my age. ...
A. 31 July 2021: I don't think you can tell her - you can't go without me. BUT I do think you can tell her that you feel a little insecure when you are excluded from events. I would also tell her that you love and trust her and this is about YOUR insecurities.
... (read in full...)
I feel like I helped him mature for someone else to enjoy
Q. I’m feeling very shocked and hurt even though I feel like I got over this past relationship. A man I dated swore he’d never have children. He’d be uncomfortable around them and all. I once got him to pose with my friends baby and his own mother ...
A. 31 July 2021: Yikes, that can not feel good!
I have to agree with Anonymous 123. I think he deep down wasn't as into you as you were into him. (not your fault) and secondly, he might not have WANTED a child but the new GF did. Or it was unplanned and he has d... (read in full...)
I've never been in love my whole life!
Q. I feel really sad writing this post and I'm going to lay my heart bare by saying what I don't even want to think to myself. I am 38, married for 6 years, have a child and I have never been in love. By love I mean romantic love with a man. (I'm...
A. 31 July 2021: There are so many shades of "LOVE" out there, OP
What you read about in books or see in a movie is NOT reality. It's a fantasy that LOOKS or SOUNDS real.
The LOVE you feel for your daughter is special I think most parents have these overwhelmi... (read in full...)
Did I have a right to know about the abortion?
Q. I recently found out my ex-girlfriend had an abortion that she kept secret from me. Did I not have a right to know? We only went out for about 5 months before things went stale and we split in April. Last week I bumped into one of her friends i...
A. 31 July 2021: No, you are not wrong for feeling the way you do.
And yes, I think she should have told you. I don't think you had a "right" to know per se. But telling you would have been fair.
And no, I don't think she "happily told all her friends" about i... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend, but my soulmate is out there.
Q. Years ago, through work I met the guy of my dreams. We were actors that worked on set together and he was so nice to me, so handsome, just everything I wanted in a guy all my life. The way he looked at me made my heart just race. I felt like he was ...
A. 29 July 2021: You need to ditch the BF. ASAP.
"'ve tried explaining that I wish to be single but he never agrees to break up. "
He doesn't HAVE to agree! You have to decide this isn't working and then what you need to do to GTFO! that means you need to make... (read in full...)
How can I convince him I want HIM and not his money?
Q. Hey cupids, anyone got any advice for a girl who’s really smitten with this guy? I know he likes me too but thanks to the antics of his last girlfriend he is struggling to trust anyone because she tried to rip him off. How can I convince him that I ...
A. 29 July 2021: I would give him some space to sort himself out. He had to deal with a LOT with the last ex. The thing is, HE obviously has a type and YOU might not be it - at the moment.
And I would tell him that you will back off and give him the space he needs... (read in full...)
I got the married man, but I'm consumed with guilt
Q. I had an affair with a married man. He made the decision to leave his wife of 25 years for me. We have been in a real relationship for almost a year. But the insurmountable guilt I carry everyday for hurting his wife is eating me up alive. I feel...
A. 29 July 2021: Why didn't this guilt manifest BEFORE you broke up a marriage?
Perhaps because you know realize that if he can cheat on a wife of 25 years, he can cheat on you?
You are sure he will cheat on you too. So this is more about YOU not wanting to g... (read in full...)
I met a new guy and don't know if I should end my current relationship
Q. Hello, I need advice on what to do regarding someone I met. I met a guy on Twitter. We’ve been talking for a month. I’m 25 and he’s 32. He lives miles away from me but we get along really well. I’m in a relationship and he’s single. I’ve been fal...
A. 29 July 2021: What you are doing is called emotionally cheating. Whether you like it or not. And it's not OK.
You NEED to decide if your current relationship has a future or not. If it doesn't... END it. It's not fair for you to string along with your BF.
S... (read in full...)
How do I explain how my boyfriend and I met?
Q. How do I tell my fiance's parents how we met without revealing our secret? I met my fiance at a concert and had sex with him in the bathroom. I know it was risky and stupid but I was young and wild at the time. I thought it was just going to be...
A. 29 July 2021: Just say concert but you kept talking to each other online.
They don't need to know the two of you got jiggy with it at a concert.
My advice? Don't lie. You will get caught in it eventually. BUT that doesn't mean you have to tell them EVERYT... (read in full...)
I don't want to attend my daughter's church services
Q. My daughter is 24 years old and lives with me. She has severe depression as well as BPD and anxiety. Her condition has improved greatly, which I contributed to therapy. However, she told me it wasn't just therapy but religion. Apparently, she got in ...
A. 28 July 2021: I would tell her that you are comfortable with your own beliefs and wish her well on her journey to find the right path for her. That you don't feel this is for you.
It seems this is a path that works for her. Even if it can seem a bit hippy or... (read in full...)
A friends with benefits relationship
Q. I was contacted on fb by a fake account which I am 99% certain that it was my fb boyfriend bc he has done this in the past in order to reveal things about himself and to try to "test me"( I know how he talks and he always said things to me verbatim ...
A. 28 July 2021: Yikes!
I think a lot of (women especially) lie to themselves and think an FWB means no emotional connection but for most, I don't think that is true.
Just block the dummy. YOU can do better!
... (read in full...)
Girlfriend keeps talking about her ex - Will we ever work?
Q. Is it normal for your partner to talk about their ex so much? I’m guessing not. Been with my girlfriend for 2 months and I’ve lost count of the amount of times she’s mentioned him already. They still message each other a lot and she even gushed ...
A. 28 July 2021: I'd let her go and wish her well.
She isn't over the ex.
You will constantly be compared to him.
She still keeps him around in her life...
Just Nah.
I have found that people who talk a LOT about an ex (negatively or positively) a... (read in full...)
Ex's Jealous Wife
Q. My ex was married about 14 years ago. Previously we were together about the same but never married. We talk on the phone and catch up on kids, events, etc. His wife has forbid him to talk to me. She checks his phone daily and has confronted him ...
A. 27 July 2021: Just block her?
I presume when you say she is "following you" that you mean on social media? If so, block her. Make your profile private for people you aren't friends with.
Whatever she wants is nothing to you. I wouldn't waste a moment thinkin... (read in full...)
A friends with benefits relationship
Q. I was contacted on fb by a fake account which I am 99% certain that it was my fb boyfriend bc he has done this in the past in order to reveal things about himself and to try to "test me"( I know how he talks and he always said things to me verbatim ...
A. 27 July 2021: Can a woman be in an FWB and not develop feelings?
Sure. Some can. Especially (I would presume) in the beginning. There is no commitment, less pressure, and a sense of "freedom" (I put that in "" because it's not the exact right word but the best... (read in full...)
Does he feel the need to be in control?
Q. I am in communication - emails and occasionally video chats - with an older man (late 60s) who recently became a widower. I knew him a bit before he moved to another country and before his wife died. I enjoy our correspondence quite a lot. I a...
A. 27 July 2021: I don't think you HAVE to be the one to keep the communication going. IF he is interested (being friends or more) I think he would do some chasing and initiating.
So in MY book if someone doesn't seem to participate and occasionally initiate... (read in full...)
Husband just isn't interested in sex, its been a year and me talking to him isn't working
Q. I need suggestions, advice, direction... Whatever you can give. Thank you in advance and apologies for any confusion. I promise to try my best to include everything of the topic. I am a married, stay at home mother of 3. I have found myself...
A. 27 July 2021: First of all, no harsh judgment from me.
Having the DESIRE to be with someone (at this point ANYONE) for intimacy is not strange at all.
However, having sex with someone else... won't FIX the issue in your marriage. Cheating never fixes anyt... (read in full...)
My cousin and I gave our baby up for adoption and now she wants to meet us
Q. When my cousin and was 16 years old, we were left home alone. We ended up having sex (not the first time) and she ended up getting pregnant. Our parents were angry (rightfully so). We ended up putting up our child, a daughter, up for adoption ...
A. 27 July 2021: I think you (or your cousin) should ask your daughter if she wants to meet you one-on-one or both at the same time. Let your daughter choose.
Let HER decide how long the first meeting will be, where it will and if she wants to bring someone with... (read in full...)
Messed up relationships have made me afraid to date
Q. I know no one owes me anything in this life. I guess I made the mistake of expecting some level of loyalty? I was with this man for three years. I chose to help him during his health issues. Making a long story short, I had been struggling with my ...
A. 27 July 2021: Good for you for being sober for 8 months! Congrats on that!!
I think the reason your ex-bf acted this way was that YOU were so good about hiding your various addictions and self-medication so when he moved in and saw all that, he saw them as ... (read in full...)
How can I stop feeling guilty and scared to have lost my virginity?
Q. Hello Everyone I am feeling so awkward about losing my virginity. I am no teenager or anything but I a come from a very old fashioned family that has instilled in me, the idea that a woman who isn't a virgin is worth less than a woman who keeps ...
A. 27 July 2021: Oh, honey,
MOST women have had more than one partner, it doesn't make you a "worn-out shoe".
And trust me, SOMEONE will want you. A priest who is supposed to be celibate has no REAL concept of having a relationship. He can not compare it to "b... (read in full...)
My drunk texts have caused a problem
Q. I have been an absolute idiot and I’m so embarrassed. I met up with a friend yesterday, a few afternoon beers turned into a few more and by 6pm we were streaming. We were having a good laugh and chat. Anyway, obviously due to covid we were catching...
A. 27 July 2021: Send her flowers.
Tell her you were a dumbass.. She will get over it.. if it doesn't happen again.
And do talk to her if you are a little insecure about where your relationship is going etc. It's OK everyone has that moment at some point.
... (read in full...)
Confused cross dresser
Q. I am a CD who happens to be gay. I have been seeing a straight guy for intimate encounters. My question is: We have intercourse but he never touches my penis or even wants it exposed when we are together. I feel like he might as well be with a r...
A. 26 July 2021: You could ask him, you know? If you have sex on a regular basis, I'd assume you can also talk to each other?
He might not want to tell you.
If there is some denial or shame around man/man sex in his head that could be it. It's easier to "prete... (read in full...)
Is My Friend A Creep? He Kept Sleeping With Young Girls At His Work...
Q. I was in a big bunch of friends from school etc. but we didn't see each other as much at/post uni, however we have still kind of kept in touch. Anyway there was recently drama in the friend group as I heard most of them stopped talking to this one ...
A. 26 July 2021: Yeah, your friend is a gross and creepy dude at work.
These uni-aged girls are there because they NEED the experience etc. They might initially have found him charming and the flirting flattering, but HE is a WHOLE-grown man that should know bet... (read in full...)
My drunk texts have caused a problem
Q. I have been an absolute idiot and I’m so embarrassed. I met up with a friend yesterday, a few afternoon beers turned into a few more and by 6pm we were streaming. We were having a good laugh and chat. Anyway, obviously due to covid we were catching...
A. 26 July 2021: Good grief,
You are in your 40's? Drunken texts should be a thing of the past!
There is no excuse for this. Sorry, you stepped it in.
Yake a few minutes and consider, HOW you would feel if SHE had said the same to you.
And take some ti... (read in full...)
Am I self sabotaging because I can’t trust men?
Q. I met an older guy a few weeks ago through work. He messaged me and we just got talking none stop. I found him really nice while working with him, even though it was briefly and he was saying all the right things. We went on a date and I met h...
A. 26 July 2021: There was nothing to "fight" for. You two only really spend a little time over a couple of weeks getting to know each other.
You made the choice to READ/DETERMINE that he must have been lying and not wanting to see you. Without really knowing ... (read in full...)
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