Do you think there is any possible explanation to justify the pictures?
Q. Hi! So my girlfriend said she went to the museum with 2 friends and posted some photos to social media. However the reflections in the glass in the photos are weird. Firstly there was one of her holding a guys arm when he posed for a photo, so...
A. 17 August 2021: Gunno OP, that I wasn't the only one who thought you overreacted, yet you chose to attack me personally in my inbox.
So either you didn't clarify yourself enough or you just came on here to bash people who take time out of their day to TRY and ... (read in full...)
Could be have been going inside me and still leave some outside?
Q. I have been having sex regularly with my boyfriend over Summer break. Normally, he will pull out and go over my stomach or on the sheets below me. The last few weeks he has started to push deeper before pulling out but still leaving a mess o...
A. 16 August 2021: OP, I hope you have done the test.
We all know it's scary for you.
Is there an adult you can confide in? Who can be there when you tell your parents?
... (read in full...)
I feel I am being used as a sugar mama
Q. Hello! So my boyfriend and I have been together just over two years. We get together 2 or 3 times per month. Hes usually pretty good to me but also seems entitled and expects the best. For bdays as an example he thinks it's good to give him ...
A. 16 August 2021: OK Anon
I think there is more to acting than being pretty and smiling. But that is quite irrelevant here.
Let's pick a few smart ones. Bill and Melinda Gates.. Weird AF marriage! Or Elon Musk knocking up crazy-ass Amber Heard...
The... (read in full...)
Did I handle things in the wrong way dealing with my relatives?
Q. My cousin, Brooke, came out of the closet a few years ago, and her parents stop all communications with her. Brooke had to go to therapy due to the depression she had, which her parents were mostly to blame. Her own mother told Brooke "As far as I ...
A. 16 August 2021: While I think it's good to respect one's elders, they get respect when they are RESPECTABLE. Not because they are OLDER than you.
I think what you said was polite enough. Could you have "dressed it up in more flowery prose"? Sure, but what is ... (read in full...)
The girl I am dating tried to commit suicide because of a previous relationship. This freaks me out
Q. A girl I am seeing recently revealed to me that she tried to commit suicide before over a guy. She claims he lead her on, thinking they were going to have a relationship but he only wanted sex. In the end, he dumped her and said he was never really ...
A. 16 August 2021: You ask: "What should I do?"
I'll ask back, what would you LIKE to do?
So she didn't really TRY to kill herself, she TALKED about killing herself and the friend talked her out of it.
I think if she is still "raw" and in a fragile state... (read in full...)
Boyfriend spending all his time w a couple. Weird?
Q. My boyfriend of fifteen years off and on has been spending an unusual amount of time with a couple that he calls friends.the cute younger girl and him are very flirty and are very close. The girls boyfriend now husband seams oblivious to this. I ...
A. 16 August 2021: It sounds shady and weird. BUT I don't think you judge too much on pictures on Facebook.
If you have been together for 15 years and you have never met her? NOW that would have me call it a red red flag.
Demanding he TAKES you there and PROVE ... (read in full...)
My drunk texts have caused a problem
Q. I have been an absolute idiot and I’m so embarrassed. I met up with a friend yesterday, a few afternoon beers turned into a few more and by 6pm we were streaming. We were having a good laugh and chat. Anyway, obviously due to covid we were catching...
A. 16 August 2021: I'm glad to have helped, OP
I hope you two get to work it out and spend more time in person. It makes such a difference in a relationship.
Sometimes another person's perspective can help, sometimes not so much because they don't know the p... (read in full...)
I feel like I would drop plans with my friends in a heartbeat for him but he wouldn’t do the same for me
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for a year now and its going better then good he’s the most loving and caring man I’ve ever met. We love each other and everyday he goes above and beyond for me to make me feel special and loved. I had a very rough ...
A. 16 August 2021: I think it's healthy for couples to have some time away from each other, hanging out with friends. Being glued to each other 24/7 and depending on each other for company and entertainment is not healthy (IMHO).
YOU need to find things YOU can enjo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and his crazy family are getting on my nerves
Q. I have been with my boyfriend( he's 52) for 9 years now so he knows me well and I met his family VERY early on ( a bit to early in hindsight) They have never shown any interest in me.....never asked me any personal questions to get to know me ...
A. 16 August 2021: I'm surprised you have managed a relationship with this guy for 9 years! He seems like a clueless dickwad!
If you don't live together with your BF, thank your lucky stars!!
If this is how HIS family "function" then he probably work that way to... (read in full...)
Do you think there is any possible explanation to justify the pictures?
Q. Hi! So my girlfriend said she went to the museum with 2 friends and posted some photos to social media. However the reflections in the glass in the photos are weird. Firstly there was one of her holding a guys arm when he posed for a photo, so...
A. 16 August 2021: She goes to the museum and then posts pictures which seems par for the course these days.
But you SIT and look for what is in the reflections? It seems like you really don't trust her to go to a museum with friends. Has she cheated before? ... (read in full...)
Things were great, then suddenly she blocked me
Q. Hey all and first off, thanks for taking the time to review my situation. So this started a little under a month ago, me and this woman I met through the internet have been chatting 24/7 every day. Met up a couple times and hit it off. Things ...
A. 15 August 2021: Do NOT call her at work.
She has made the choice to block you (for whatever reason) and all you CAN do is respect it. I know it feels horrible when someone CHOOSES to cut you off with no explanation or reason but THAT IS THEIR CHOICE.
If she ... (read in full...)
I can't forget about the foreplay. Is this normal?
Q. I have a question. Is it normal that I can't forget about the foreplay? Because honestly, he is my first boyfriend at my twenties and the first time someone kissed me on the LIPS!!!!!!! And I really liked it. Also, he is the first one who touched ...
A. 15 August 2021: Pretty normal. He is your first sexual partner. Imagine you live in a place where fruits are uncommon and then one person hand you a strawberry, then a raspberry, a banana, apple... You will REMEMBER that and the person.
I agree with YCNBS, B... (read in full...)
Is a 17 year age gap to much?
Q. Is a 17 year age gap too big? I’ve being dating a man who’s 17 year older than me. He’s got three kids to two different women. He’s never been married and I don’t know what went wrong with the two ex’s. It’s early days so I don’t want to ask too ...
A. 15 August 2021: I have to agree with WiseOwlE.
I think the issue is LESS about the age gap and more about the amount of time, and commitment he can give YOU.
Which is fair enough, to be WAY down on the list of priorities is not ideal in a relationship, EV... (read in full...)
Why does he try to please others but not his own family?
Q. I am wondering if anybody can explain the reasons behind my husbands behaviour. We are a second marriage of nearly 4 years and in our late 60’s . We each have our own family but my husband spends a lot of time ‘trashing’ his family but running ...
A. 15 August 2021: That sounds absolutely frustrating.
If you look at the people who raised him they probably also shaped him quite a bit. He might not even be aware of how TOXIC he is towards his own kids, just like his mother was with him. (in a different way, yet... (read in full...)
I feel I am being used as a sugar mama
Q. Hello! So my boyfriend and I have been together just over two years. We get together 2 or 3 times per month. Hes usually pretty good to me but also seems entitled and expects the best. For bdays as an example he thinks it's good to give him ...
A. 13 August 2021: Thanks for the update!
Good for you to see a red flag and trust your "gut".
As for the anon telling you, that you can't be successful and make bad choices or mistakes, ANON you are wrong.. Look around you. Johnny Depp? Anne Hataway? Just t... (read in full...)
Could be have been going inside me and still leave some outside?
Q. I have been having sex regularly with my boyfriend over Summer break. Normally, he will pull out and go over my stomach or on the sheets below me. The last few weeks he has started to push deeper before pulling out but still leaving a mess o...
A. 13 August 2021: Take the test. Just DO it.
If your last period was July 4th? Then yes, it could just be late (when people are stressed it can mess with the period, but you know what can also be the reason.)
NOT taking the test doesn't mean you aren't pregnant.... (read in full...)
My drunk texts have caused a problem
Q. I have been an absolute idiot and I’m so embarrassed. I met up with a friend yesterday, a few afternoon beers turned into a few more and by 6pm we were streaming. We were having a good laugh and chat. Anyway, obviously due to covid we were catching...
A. 12 August 2021: I would be honest with her. And maybe have a talk about where you both see the relationship going. And how are things after this "drunk texts episode" has passed? Are you two moving forward?
To me, it seems more like an FWB (I kinda agree with y... (read in full...)
Wife is sometimes too tight.
Q. Odd Question, I have been happily married for 30 yrs. Throughout three children, my wife's vagina has remained extremely tight. Is it normal for me to want her looser sometimes? I buy bigger toys to play with beforehand so when I get "up to bat", ...
A. 12 August 2021: Nothing wrong with liking a bit of a change to what you "normally" have :)
As long as you don't make it INTO a problem, right?
I'd say enjoy that you have a wife who still enjoys you and intimacy with you :)
... (read in full...)
Brother's partner has suspected Nacissistic Personality Disorder, what to do!
Q. Hi folks, haven't been on here in years! To cut to the chase, in a heated debate about Jewish people, my partner was saying they were lovely people, my brother's partner was slating them. My partner and I overheard my brother's partner say 'All...
A. 12 August 2021: OP. I hear you
"Part of me wants to slap him for being so stupid, but that wouldn't help, lol."
Yes, it would be awesome if you could "slap" some sense into his head, unfortunately, you can't.
Your brother HAS to figure this out on his o... (read in full...)
He will be nice for awhile then ask for money, when I say no it's like a different person
Q. Hi, and thanks! So my boyfriend and I have been together about 3 years. When it's good it's great, when it's bad, its horrible! He has mood swings. Mostly money related. He will be okay when he has money, but if hes broke he acts like a chil...
A. 12 August 2021: " My friends think hes around because I was generous to him before and maybe their right."
Yeah... I think your friends are dead on. The dead give away? He gets "moody" when you tell him NO to giving him money.
"He will be nice for awhile then ... (read in full...)
Dilemma to tell friend I like her
Q. Hi Everyone! So basically i have feelings for a girl, but she is my good friend. We've known each other for more than a year, have a lot in common, get along very well etc. we did not meet through a dating app and bonded initially through a shared...
A. 12 August 2021: I like Kenny's idea to plan something more like a "date" with her rather than telling her.
From what you write she enjoys talking to you and occasionally hanging out, but she DOES seem like she blows hot and cold. Does that mean she LIKES yo... (read in full...)
Could be have been going inside me and still leave some outside?
Q. I have been having sex regularly with my boyfriend over Summer break. Normally, he will pull out and go over my stomach or on the sheets below me. The last few weeks he has started to push deeper before pulling out but still leaving a mess o...
A. 12 August 2021: 1. you all better be using birth control AND a condom!
You DO know that SEX is how babies are made, right?
"The precum fluid itself does not contain sperm, but sperm can leak into it as it travels down the urethra, where residuals may be... (read in full...)
Wife is sometimes too tight.
Q. Odd Question, I have been happily married for 30 yrs. Throughout three children, my wife's vagina has remained extremely tight. Is it normal for me to want her looser sometimes? I buy bigger toys to play with beforehand so when I get "up to bat", ...
A. 12 August 2021: Amen to FA.
"What you are describing has to do with healthy muscle tone."
No, the vagina is not like a sock that gets " super loose" after children years. It's a muscle.
Reasons this could be
1. she might not be SUFFICIENTLY aroused. The... (read in full...)
I just found out someone I briefly dated was dating his now wife
Q. Hello Not sure how to process this. I just found out someone I briefly dated was dating his now wife. I feel angry and used. I would never ever date someone taken. The fact that I was an unknowing participant hurts me. Actually the last time I s...
A. 12 August 2021: OP,
You aren't the "dirty" one in this equation. YOU are NOT responsible for this man's actions, lies, and choices.
Did he use you? Yes. Because HE is that kind of shitty person.
Did YOU dodge a bullet? When you LISTENED to your "gut" a... (read in full...)
Pornography has made husband a one minute man
Q. My husband's porn watching has become abnormal,he's now a minute man in bed.we've been married 4 2years.what should i do...
A. 12 August 2021: Is he willing to quit the porn?
Have you guys talked about it? Maybe if he can quit the porn and the two of you take a couple of weeks off abstaining from sex (and he needs to abstain from masturbation as much as possible) and then slowly reintrod... (read in full...)
I feel I am being used as a sugar mama
Q. Hello! So my boyfriend and I have been together just over two years. We get together 2 or 3 times per month. Hes usually pretty good to me but also seems entitled and expects the best. For bdays as an example he thinks it's good to give him ...
A. 12 August 2021: "What do you think?"
Well, I think you should listen to your feelings/"gut" and perhaps reevaluate the relationship as a whole.
I think you need to learn to say no and set some boundaries. If you are going to date a guy like this.
1. you ... (read in full...)
Why do I desire her so much when I know in reality is 100% a never?
Q. Why do I desire her so much when I know in reality is 100% a never?...
A. 11 August 2021: Maybe it's partly "forbidden fruit". Someone who you KNOW you can't have, so she becomes extra enticing?
The thing with this though is that YOU are wasting time and energy on something that will never BE anything. And while you focus on someone ... (read in full...)
I think this girl likes my boyfriend
Q. Hi everybody. Some advice please. There's this girl that I just noticed. I've been observing her behaviour. I noticed her looking at my boyfriend. At first, I thought it was nothing because maybe she looks at him out of curiosity or something els...
A. 11 August 2021: Yeah, she probably likes him.
And there might be other girls who lokes him too. If he is charming and social that will happen.
What SHE feels is irrelevant. You have NO control there. Your BF on the other hand might want to nip this "admiration... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does not work due to some mental issues but refuses to tell me what he has. Do I not have the right to know?
Q. Hello and than you! So I have a question. My boyfriend does not work due to some mental issues but refuses to tell me what he has. Do i not have the right to know? Am i being yo nosy ? I asked him and he says he gets an assessment every...
A. 10 August 2021: OP I forgot to ask, have your relationship (these 2 years) been mainly online and texting?
... (read in full...)
Are either of these guys right for me?
Q. Hello. I am confused over two men in my life, and am not sure if either is right for me. I was in a relationship for several months and it ended earlier this year. He was always too busy with work to be there for me, even when I had to go into h...
A. 10 August 2021: Neither.
Your ex didn't work out because you were not a priority, you still aren't and you won't be. You are just "entertainment and ego rub" for your ex. He has someone to talk to and get attention from but he isn't investing ANYTHING of himself ... (read in full...)
Partner in his 40s wants to go clubbing
Q. How do I settle down that my partner in his late 40s still wants to go clubbing? Wee have been together for 2 years and before he met me his life was work and then party every weekend. Which is fair enough he was a single guy, no responsibility o...
A. 10 August 2021: Yeah, he is getting too old to go "clubbing" if you ask me. That is something most of us outgrow in our 20's - with an occasional night out at a club in our 30's perhaps but late 40's?
That sounds desperate. As in, desperately clinging on to youth... (read in full...)
Does wife want a threesome or just role play?
Q. I have been happily married with my wife for many years. Sex is good. Sometimes it is romantic, other times is primal and erotic. We often flirt with the idea of a threesome, but more just role play as I think she is too conservative to follow ...
A. 10 August 2021: Keep it to role-playing. Fantasy is NOT reality.
It lets the two of you STAY in control of the "event" - whereas if you bring in a 3rd party there goes any control, even if you "set rules" there is always the risk of things NOT turning out as A... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is grieving the loss of his mother and has pushed me away
Q. Hi I would love some advice on how to deal with my boyfriend who is grieving and has pushed me away. He told me he needs time to deal with the death of his mother who was very ill for sometime didn't die suddenly and says he needs peace and quiet ...
A. 10 August 2021: This is hard.
It doesn't matter that she didn't die suddenly or anything. She DIED. HE is grieving. This isn't about you. HIS loss. HIS family's loss.
Now I understand that you feel you are now chopped liver and he thinks you have no "value" ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does not work due to some mental issues but refuses to tell me what he has. Do I not have the right to know?
Q. Hello and than you! So I have a question. My boyfriend does not work due to some mental issues but refuses to tell me what he has. Do i not have the right to know? Am i being yo nosy ? I asked him and he says he gets an assessment every...
A. 10 August 2021: I think it would be a HUGE mistake to move in with someone with "anger issues" and a "supposedly" unknown mental issue - that apparently is known enough by his doctor for him to get benefits and an assessment every 5 years.
Now it could be somet... (read in full...)
Do I say how I feel or remain quiet but regret it?
Q. Hey everyone, I’m in need of some help! So a few years back I was chatting to this boy ok Twitter (weird I know) but we lost contact due to me getting in a relationship and me living far away at the time. Fast forward and I’m out of my relationship ...
A. 9 August 2021: What you are feeling is NOT love. It's infatuation.
You have been building a FANTASY of this guy in your head. One where YOU are the ONE girl he won't fuck and forget. He will now want to have a serious relationship after years of fuckery.... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable when I question my partner on why I haven't met his parents
Q. Am i being unreasonable when I question my partner on why I haven't met his parents. It has started to really bother me. Wee have a good relationship, been on holiday together, he's good with my kid ect. I think I keep myself reasonably well....
A. 9 August 2021: I think if his parents live close enough for a visit, and they have already heard about you - it is really weird that you haven't been introduced after 2 years.
It could have been done over Skype if the Pandemic was the excuse.
However, it c... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does not work due to some mental issues but refuses to tell me what he has. Do I not have the right to know?
Q. Hello and than you! So I have a question. My boyfriend does not work due to some mental issues but refuses to tell me what he has. Do i not have the right to know? Am i being yo nosy ? I asked him and he says he gets an assessment every...
A. 9 August 2021: Are you living together?
If so, I think it would make sense for him to tell you.
Even if you are not living together why does he choose to not tell you?
I don't think you have a "right" to know but I can't see why he wouldn't share this if h... (read in full...)
I actually can't talk with him about anything without it turning into an argument
Q. My bf says some things that really bother me and I think I need to get out before it goes worse. We've been together 8 months. I'm 33 and he's 30. He can never just have a discussion as he takes things so personally and like an attack and is ...
A. 8 August 2021: THIS is who he is, Op
And who is he is a SHITTY person and partner. Yikes! Just Yikes!
However, WHY do you WAIT around while he takes HOURS to get ready? Do as he does and JUST leave without him!
Personally, I would end this relationship. T... (read in full...)
I can't seem to get over losing my best friend
Q. Hi everyone. I lost my best friend a few years ago and I am not coping very well with the grieving aspect. We met as teenagers, we were so close and we would drive out until the early hours and just lay looking at the stars in his car just cha...
A. 8 August 2021: I would seek help from a grief counselor. This isn't healthy but I think it's NORMAL to feel grief for someone you love and knew for so long.
If you can't afford a counselor, I'd suggest you go on Spotify and find some podcasts about HOW to deal ... (read in full...)
Should I stay friends with my ex-boyfriend?
Q. Trigger warning: this involves a suicide attempt. When my boyfriend and I were together, he was very selfish and stingy. I accepted this about him, because I understand he is an anxious person when it comes to money and he’s afraid he’s goin...
A. 8 August 2021: I think you should look into some kind of assisted living facility if possible. So you don't have to live with your mom.
"Now, I had discussed suicide with him before and it didn’t bother him. " I don't think that is true. Most people just don... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for refusing to babysit my niece and nephew until I get my drinking under control?
Q. I have a niece and nephew. My brother and sister-in-law are mad at me because I refuse to babysit them. The reason that I am refusing to babysit is that I realize that I have a drinking problem and I don't feel comfortable watching my niec...
A. 8 August 2021: Of course, you are not wrong. Do they know you have an issue with alcohol?
You don't OWE them an explanation OR to babysit. Drinking problem or not.
Work on your issue. Get it under control and then IF you want, you can babysit but I would advi... (read in full...)
I wanted to cuddle after sex but he just rolled over and went to sleep
Q. Hi, has anyone had this happen to them. I’ve being dating a man for about 6 weeks. I’ve only ever slept with him once and that night, after we slept together he just turned over and went to sleep. I’ve never experienced this before, I like a cuddle...
A. 8 August 2021: Just tell him that you like to cuddle after sex. If he likes that too he will know and probably cuddle with you.
HE CAN NOT read your mind, OP
And if it's hot where you are at, he might not be a big fan of a hot sticky cuddle.
Not e... (read in full...)
Do men find women like me who don't gym or have toned bodies undesirable or not sexy enough?
Q. I am a 32 year old female. Of late I have been having issues accepting my body. I am 5'5" and weigh 63 kilos/ ~ 138 lbs. I watch what I eat and maintain my weight through walking regularly. I dont have washboard abs or a muscular body toned by gym. ...
A. 7 August 2021: Absolutely AMEN! to all Youcannotbeserious said.
I was fit when I met my husband and we got married, I stayed fit for years and years after, not by going to a gym but running after the kids and working out at home. I gained weight I lost weight. ... (read in full...)
My drunk texts have caused a problem
Q. I have been an absolute idiot and I’m so embarrassed. I met up with a friend yesterday, a few afternoon beers turned into a few more and by 6pm we were streaming. We were having a good laugh and chat. Anyway, obviously due to covid we were catching...
A. 27 July 2021: Send her flowers.
Tell her you were a dumbass.. She will get over it.. if it doesn't happen again.
And do talk to her if you are a little insecure about where your relationship is going etc. It's OK everyone has that moment at some point.
... (read in full...)
My drunk texts have caused a problem
Q. I have been an absolute idiot and I’m so embarrassed. I met up with a friend yesterday, a few afternoon beers turned into a few more and by 6pm we were streaming. We were having a good laugh and chat. Anyway, obviously due to covid we were catching...
A. 26 July 2021: Good grief,
You are in your 40's? Drunken texts should be a thing of the past!
There is no excuse for this. Sorry, you stepped it in.
Yake a few minutes and consider, HOW you would feel if SHE had said the same to you.
And take some ti... (read in full...)
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