I told her I need some space and she's still texting me
Q. I recently told a friend how I felt about her, we became close friends and I started falling for her. She would send me text messages everyday and she would initiate it. She also did a few things that made me think she liked me. I talked to ...
A. 19 February 2015: I agree with WiseOwlE
If you don't want her to text you anymore, ask her not to.
Tell her when I said I needed a break I mean X days/week of non contact, hope you can understand and respect that.
Now if she DOESN'T feel free to either bloc... (read in full...)
Do I answer her or not? She messages me, I ignore her. She keeps messaging. How to get her to stop?
Q. Do I answer to this girl or not. We were family friends and became closer two years ago and at first she thought I was a player but as we got closer realized that I was far from it. I was trying to go from a "nice guy" to a jerk and she told me not ...
A. 19 February 2015: BLOCK her number. It's really THAT easy, OR get a new number.
At the gathering if she starts being friendly - say hello and walk away, then you just ignore her the rest of the time, talk to other people, enjoy yourself. YOU do not owe her squat. B... (read in full...)
Literally out of options with sex life. Help?
Q. Hello, I would like to ask for any insight possible on a big problem that's been lingering for quite some time. I've been dating a girl for about 6 months now. We've managed to enjoy our time together, seeing each other and everything's bee...
A. 19 February 2015: Your regular doctor can check your T-levels.
I agree with SVC, it's more then likely a "anxiety" problem not a medical one.
I DO hope you use condoms and I also agree with SVC, that HER wanting to to have penetrative sex CAN mean that you su... (read in full...)
Feeling of guilt for no reason!
Q. Hello, I'm in a relationship and have been for a few months, he is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I could not be happier. About a month ago I was out at a bar with friends and family and this guy I used to hang around with kept try...
A. 19 February 2015: Forget it, YOU didn't ASK this dude to
1. follow you
2. try and kiss you
You feel guilty because you "think" you should have foreseen this guy would TRY to kiss you. You feel guilty because you "think" it's YOUR fault he followed you and the... (read in full...)
I told her I need some space and she's still texting me
Q. I recently told a friend how I felt about her, we became close friends and I started falling for her. She would send me text messages everyday and she would initiate it. She also did a few things that made me think she liked me. I talked to ...
A. 19 February 2015: For her texting daily is "normal" for friends to do. She (I guess) felt 3 days was plenty of space.
My guess is, SHE doesn't really CARE that you went out on a limb and fessed up your feelings. SHE still wants you as HER friend. She wants to make ... (read in full...)
Did he use me? My married lover just stopped seeing me
Q. So I know that what I have been doing is wrong. I wholeheartedly know this. I just feel sometimes you cannot help who you have a real connection with. This is my situation in a nut shell; I am now 26. When I was 18/19 I used to work for a l...
A. 19 February 2015: I'd say you GOT lucky.
You didn't get sexually involved "just emotionally, which was "dumb" enough. But if you had added the sex? You would be hurting a LOT more then you are.
I think what hurts the most, is being "turned down" or "not picked" ... (read in full...)
Can open relationships work?
Q. Hi aunts. I was wondering if anyone had any experience with open relationships -- can they work, is it a viable option? How do you approach the subject? My partner and I have been together over 3 years, living together for 2 and a half years. We...
A. 19 February 2015: Personally, I think adding MORE people to a relationship is a cop-out. And it RARELY works.
For some it works, but ONLY if both WANT the same things. THAT is, till one of them develop feelings for another person they are being intimate with.
... (read in full...)
Literally out of options with sex life. Help?
Q. Hello, I would like to ask for any insight possible on a big problem that's been lingering for quite some time. I've been dating a girl for about 6 months now. We've managed to enjoy our time together, seeing each other and everything's bee...
A. 19 February 2015: Have you have your T-levels checked? (testosterone) - or did he JUST give you a "pill" ?
Do you (sorry for the personal question) wank a lot? Because if you are MORE used to your hand then a woman it might make it harder to STAY erect.
Or, do ... (read in full...)
I'm about to get married, and my fiancé has started to smoke weed- how do I deal?
Q. I began dating my now fiancé 7 years ago when we were 18. We both had very strong Catholic morals, including both being extremely against any form of smoking. Well, I found out he has lied to me for over a year and has started to smoke weed on ...
A. 19 February 2015: You know a wedding ring is NOT going to make him stop smoking weed right?
And that NOT everyone are capable of holding down a job while smoking weed ( many are, but those are usually the ones who smoke it for medical reasons). He might not even... (read in full...)
I told my married lover I am free to see others and he said he wants a future with me. Is he stringing me along?
Q. I have been seeing a married man for 5 years I have divorced my husband but my lover is still with his family, he said he cannot leave his children until they are older and less dependant on him, he does idolise his kids.I said I was free to see ...
A. 19 February 2015: You have already waited 5 years, you think he is going to drop that family NOW for you?
First it's "he has to stay till the kids are old enough to understand" then "he has to stay till they are 18" then it will be" he has to stay till they are... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's child is 15 months old and her tantrums are frazzling my nerves!
Q. So I've recently started dating a woman about 4 months ago. Things between us are fantastic. We get along amazingly and chemistry between us is definitely there. However, there's one thing I'm having a hard time admitting is a problem for me. Her ...
A. 19 February 2015: I have 3 kids, none of them threw tantrums like you describe. My oldest though was colic and it was hard to deal with the lack of sleep and the crying (on and off from 3 pm til 7 pm) - but thankfully she outgrew the colic and was an easy kid after ... (read in full...)
What happened to 'getting to know you' first?
Q. Since I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years, I started dating and the situation is that guys that I meet only want sex immediately. I hardly have any dates though I give my phone number. I don't understand what changed during these 4 years. ...
A. 18 February 2015: It's NOT you.
Like CMMP said, a LOT of guy are JUST fine being single if they can get some sex on the side. WHY do you think FWB is such a common thing today? It's not really a great idea for MOST women (some it works for, most it doesn't)... (read in full...)
How can I help our best friend who’s fallen ill and is being used by a gold-digger sociopath?
Q. For several months my husband’s and my best friend has had all sorts of problems and we stubbornly stood by him doing everything we can to help him. The only positive development is that he had left a horrible marriage behind, everything else ...
A. 18 February 2015: I have to agree with SVC.
I can only imagine how hard it is to watch someone "screw" themselves over, specially if he is not doing so well mentally and emotionally.
And yes, talk to his mom (and if the Dad is any influence, talk to him too)... (read in full...)
Sex with my bf is bad. how can I tell him he isn't pleasing me ??
Q. I've been with my bf for over a year now. And I love him, which is why I haven't left. But the sex with him is horrible. When he tries it, he doesn't make sure I'm wet enough before he tries to slide it in. Then, he had to use his finger to guide it ...
A. 18 February 2015: Well let's start here:
How can I direct him to doing the right things while he's eating me out ?
BY being able to VERBALIZE what exactly you want him to do. If you DON'T tell him he is NOT pleasing you, you will continue to have crappy sex,... (read in full...)
He's in jail and was my wild Bf. How can I help him without it becoming a relationship agani?
Q. I have recently split up with my boyfriend but I'm really confused about what to do. I was in a relationship for 8 years with a guy who was really quite boring, we had nothing in common and my life was a bit mundane. After I split up with him...
A. 18 February 2015: You write (and I quote)
"I know that it's my fault he ended up like this "
It's not. EVERY single adult are responsible for THEIR own action.
HE CHOSE to be controlling, HE choose to BEAT you. CHOICES, not something YOU "made" him do.
Th... (read in full...)
What can I do to help him understand he is ruining our relationship?
Q. Im in a relationship with a younger man there is no doubt on my mind we love each other, he goes to work I am home I rarely go out I pretty much stay to myself before the relationship began I was always surrounded by fam and friends they were always ...
A. 18 February 2015: The dude is a whack-job and you CAN not make him understand squat.
Someone who is THIS controlling and isolate you from family and friends? NOT a good sign.
Honestly, I'd back off, WAY off... AS in end it.
... (read in full...)
I truly love my boyfriend so why do I want to call this married man?
Q. Dear Aunts, I love my boyfriend of seven years fully. Yet, there's a married man after me. He drops by where I work weekly and always talks with me. He brings me gifts mostly every time and says he simply likes our conversations. I keep telling h...
A. 17 February 2015: STOP accepting the gift, STOP the flirting and playing coy, toss out his number.
If you are NO longer happy with your LONG TERM BF, then end that relationship. Having these little fantasy "relationships" or emotional affairs WILL not make your rel... (read in full...)
Am I paranoid or right to be concerned about the attention she receives?
Q. My girlfriend of three years has a very competitive career which means sometimes her male clients use the fact that they are the business source as leverage for attention. That results in my girlfriend having to go to lunch or maybe even happy hour ...
A. 17 February 2015: I think WiseOwlE gave a great answer.
Consider that women who works "male-dominated" areas often have to work MUCH harder (to be take serious and not looked on as an oddity) you also KNOW from your OWN experiences how demanding these kind of clien... (read in full...)
I walked in on my 15 year old cousin masturbating
Q. I walked in on my 15 year old cousin masturbating. My mom told me to go see if he was sleeping and if not tell him breakfast was ready. It was silent and I thought he was sleeping so I peeked in to look and forgot to knock (worst mistake ever) I ...
A. 17 February 2015: What is there to talk about?
YOU walked in on a private moment. IT happens. Now you know, ALWAYS knock first.
Let it go. Ignore it happened. It's not like he was doing anything HORRIBLE - he was just masturbating.... (read in full...)
I have trouble having an orgasm during sex. Can this be fixed?
Q. My problem is with climaxing, Ive only ever orgasm-ed with my ex of five years, we broke up a few years ago, I havent been able to with any men before or after him regardless of what they did oral or hands, by myself I have no issue but I always ...
A. 17 February 2015: I'd say put the vibrator on the shelf a while. I do think it's partly the reason you don't orgasm easily.
Secondly, if you expect to orgasm from insertion only, you may be one of those women who can't. (which is 75%)
TRUST do have a lot to do... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's best female friend doesn't want to be friends with me!
Q. Hi guys, I have been dating my boyfriend for just over 2 years and we are great, but I have a question I'd love your opinion on. In around 2007 my boyfriend dated someone for just shy of 2 years, for names' sake let's call her Heidi. My boyfri...
A. 17 February 2015: I agree, she doesn't HAVE to be YOUR friend (honestly, she isn't your BF's friend either). And I wouldn't WANT her as a friend. Seriously with a friend like her? Who needs enemies?
You BF? Sorry, he is an idiot. HE KNOWS full well that "Heidi" ... (read in full...)
Friend and I were going to date but then he pushed me aside for another woman and I feel like a failture!
Q. I feel an idiot , my friend and I had feeling for each other and was going to make a go of it , then he said he was confused and didn't know what he wanted. We made plans to see each other but panicked and cancelled. He now told me he went on a date ...
A. 17 February 2015: I can't say that there is ANYTHING wrong with you, except maybe that fact that you are willing to SIT and WAIT to see if they work out or not.. Just no. HE had a chance to DATE you, to BE with you and he BLEW it because he was unsure.
You say no g... (read in full...)
I care for my husband but don't love him. I'm confused and made to feel guilty because I want out
Q. Hi all, I am a little confused at the moment and am not sure what my feelings mean! Please help. 9 years back I opted for a traditional marriage with a cousin from India (I'm from the UK). Before we were married he said he had business ...
A. 17 February 2015: How on EARTH did you last 9 years of marriage with this .... BRATTY man-child?
If you want a house, YOU have to buy it? What? If you both work, WHY are you taking care of 90% of the costs and duties?
I know arranged marriages are different, b... (read in full...)
Wife and I fought over circumcision
Q. My wife and I recently found out she is pregnant. We don't know the sex of the baby yet and probably will let it surprise us anyway. We were talking about baby names when my wife asked me about circumcision. This wasn't a topic we had ever disc...
A. 17 February 2015: There really is not GOOD medical argument for circumcision these days. MOST of European males are NOT circumcised and they are NOT more "dirty" or unhygienic).
Unless it's for religious reasons, WHY do that to an infant?
TALK with a doctor, d... (read in full...)
Pills and periods?
Q. Hi, I just wanted to get some input or thoughts from any ladies. I have been on different birth control pills over the years. Since I have been on the pill, I never get my period. Do you find this as well on the pill or is this actually not nor...
A. 16 February 2015: I'd talk to my doctor/GYN since THEY are the ones who prescribed that particular brand. That way you know if everything is fine or not.
... (read in full...)
His "male banter" has me reconsidering moving in with him!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years we plan on living together next month. He gave me his phone to use a few days but he was so uncomfortable when I had it that I did something I shouldn`t have and looked at one of his messages from his ...
A. 16 February 2015: I am glad you poke to him OP
So many women would have "pretended" it didn't happen. And I'd tell him:" just because your friend is a ass doesn't mean YOU have to as well." ... (read in full...)
We keep talking about meeting up but nothing comes of it!
Q. I have been talking to this guy for a while and we always talk about metting up but nothing ever becomes of it. We go to different schools so I see him once a week in the bus and even at that he smiles and then sits with his friends. We talk all the ...
A. 15 February 2015: Doesn't FGT mean faggot? ( Yeah, I actually asked my 12 year old lol)
I would just ask him. You can ask him in a text what he meant, because the message wasn't clear to you.
Then judge if you want to continue to chat or not.
... (read in full...)
He said there was no chemistry .... but I thought we had clicked!
Q. I been dating a guy for the last week. Went on a first date last weekend that went very well then subsequently saw each other three times during the week. We had a really good time, made out, kissing, hugs but didn't sleep together, came close to it ...
A. 15 February 2015: It's only been a week, I wouldn't WASTE any more emotions or worries about this fella.
My guess is he DIDN'T end it because of the "lack of chemistry" because if things got hot an heavy a couple times, there IS/was chemistry.
Maybe, he WAS... (read in full...)
Is there any point in me telling him how much I love and admire him?
Q. If you like/love someone, should you tell them how you feel even if you KNOW 100% that nothing will happen between you? Like is there any point? Only asking because I have feelings for someone and the only reason I want to tell them is because I ...
A. 15 February 2015: I wouldn't. Just like I think 90% of the time when people CRUSH on a friend they really shouldn't tell. It's RARELY for the other person's benefit, its so that YOU can move on. And I find this happens often when the other person is "taken" be it ... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 15 February 2015: Oh Amen YouWish!
It's the AGE old IDEAL (actually VERY VERY OLD ideal) that a WOMAN'S worth is tied to how LITTLE sex she's had. That she is somehow more "pure", "better" the less partners, but men!! no the more partners the better.
UNLESS ... (read in full...)
I want a break now. Life was simpler five years ago before knowing him
Q. My bf isn't romantic, didn't expect anything for V-day so I was happy to just spend some time with him. Then, I find out he had plans for tonight. I wasn't included. I always work on Saturday nights, he never asked me to take the day off etc so I'm ...
A. 15 February 2015: Why not bring these things up? Like the envelope? Like the BBQ's you are not invited to?
TALK to him. At least GIVE him a chance to ease your mind or to fess up. I know you rather not rock the boat, but not talk can make things get blown out of p... (read in full...)
Can some men be interested in just being nice and your friend?
Q. Can some men be interested in just being nice and your friend? I know a man from work and have became good friends with him over the past few months, he has also helped me out around the house. I have just moved into my first house myself, he helps ...
A. 15 February 2015: Personally, I would gradually decline spending time with him. I would also extend my social circle to people your OWN age.
Just be polite and professional at work.
Does he have kids? I was actually thinking that it COULD be "empty nest" thi... (read in full...)
In love with a very famous professional athlete
Q. I had a chance encounter with a world famous professional athlete last summer on social media. I began tweeting him cute silly things figuring he'd never notice me because he gets virtually thousands of tweets everyday, especially from women. Thin...
A. 15 February 2015: You are NOT in love with this guy. YOU are in love with the FANTASY of this guy. Why do I say that? BECAUSE you really don't know him from Adam.
You have an IDEA of who he is (or who you WANT him to BE) it is this IDEA (IDEAL) you are crushing... (read in full...)
Should I stay even though he says he won't love me anymore!
Q. I'm married with two kids. I have been married for about 11 years,going through some tought time with my husband. I'm so stress out, will my husband wants to end marriage because he says I don't listen to him and is always talking back, I feel tha...
A. 15 February 2015: If you try and row a rowboat with one ore you would go in circles and get no where. It's the same in a relationship or marriage. IT takes TWO willing people to WANT to work together and make it a viable relationship/marriage.
As HARD as it may s... (read in full...)
I want a break now. Life was simpler five years ago before knowing him
Q. My bf isn't romantic, didn't expect anything for V-day so I was happy to just spend some time with him. Then, I find out he had plans for tonight. I wasn't included. I always work on Saturday nights, he never asked me to take the day off etc so I'm ...
A. 15 February 2015: I think it's a little unfair that you EXPECT him to sit at home if you USUALLY work on V-day. And they you "guilt" him into not going out.
I am not sure how that segue into cheating all of a sudden. YOU were supposedly going to be working so he fi... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend gets distracted when we are skyping!
Q. What do I do about my constantly distracted long distance boyfriend? I've mentioned to him before how I hate that often when we're Skyping or on the phone, he'll get distracted for significant amounts of time browsing the internet, chatting with ...
A. 15 February 2015: I agree with Auntie Bim Bim...
Next time he stops participating in your conversation simply pull the plug and walk away.
THAT simple. IF he is SO distracted there IS no point in trying to have a conversation.
OR schedule "skype-dates" a... (read in full...)
Was I a fool to expect too much of him as a friend? Should I have been less supportive towards him, earlier?
Q. The friendship issue i have is a few months ago my friend was jobless and he was at home almost for 7 to 8 months . While he was at home taking care of stuff{cleaning, taking dogs for walk.cooking(partially) } I put my personal life on hold...
A. 15 February 2015: He sounds like a manipulative and selfish guy to be honest, but... I also think you were catering WAY to much to his whims when he was job-less.
YOU chose to NOT go out, you CHOSE to hang out with him instead. NO matter how much he "guilted... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend what I want?
Q. Hi (please no negative words) I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months now and things are amazing between us but....I want to give him head, want to sleep without underwear on, want to also bring him out of his "close the door and get dressed" thi...
A. 15 February 2015: Since you live with him AND his mom (which mean... you LIVE at his mom's house) - I don't think sleeping naked is entirely appropriate.
Why not get a cute little silk/satin baby doll number to sleep in?... (read in full...)
Being so close to Valentine's day, what is the best way to break-up a relationship around this time?
Q. hi everybody! happy Valentine's day! Need some advise on the best way to end or quit a relationship that you are just tired of after a year or more . Is it Ok to tell the other partner that 'I am tired of this relationship and I don't wish to cont...
A. 15 February 2015: There is NEVER a "good" time to dump someone, but honestly - BE UPFRONT. Call him or ask him to meet up.
If you are "old" enough and mature enough to be in a relationship... you are old enough to call that guy/girl and tell them, hey, I don't th... (read in full...)
She's falling for my ex-crush. How can I deal with this and not lose friends?
Q. Hey guys, so I'm in a pretty complicated spot here. My best friend and I are very close, but them last week something happened. She's falling head over heels in love with my ex-crush. I have a boyfriend, yes, but she feels like she shouldn't go...
A. 15 February 2015: If she likes a guy, you USED to (and maybe still a little) crush on, doesn't mean you can call DIBS, after all you didn't DO anything about said crush and... YOU have a BF.
Having a crush on someone doesn't give you exclusive rights or entitlem... (read in full...)
Do women really regret their sexual past?
Q. This question goes out to the ladies and girls out there. Do you regret your sexual past especially when you've only dated losers then finally one day meet the man of your dreams and you wished he was your first or that you had met him in the past?...
A. 14 February 2015: I don't see the point in regret.
I waited til I was 19 and met someone I was head over heels for and who felt the same way. So I don't "regret" him. We were together from 4 1/2 years and I'd say 4 of those years were pretty outstanding. The last... (read in full...)
I know I'm his bootycall. What should I do?
Q. Hey, I'm writing, because I would like to get some help. Any help would much appreciated. Well, there is this guy I've known since October, and everything was going quite well. I then developed feelings for him, and I thought that he liked me t...
A. 14 February 2015: Midnight Shadow is correct - "booty call" mean a late night call for sex not just texting and chatting...
But your update talks about you "talking" to a guy who you are crushing on and who is 5 years older. IF you are 13-15 - he is 18-20 and shou... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend what I want?
Q. Hi (please no negative words) I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months now and things are amazing between us but....I want to give him head, want to sleep without underwear on, want to also bring him out of his "close the door and get dressed" thi...
A. 14 February 2015: You should be able to talk to him about these things, if you can HAVE sex with a guy, you can open your mouth and express how you feel.
However, DO NOT bring the ex into the chat. The ex has nothing to do with your current relationship.
As for ... (read in full...)
Can some men be interested in just being nice and your friend?
Q. Can some men be interested in just being nice and your friend? I know a man from work and have became good friends with him over the past few months, he has also helped me out around the house. I have just moved into my first house myself, he helps ...
A. 13 February 2015:
The dinner idea is PRETTY good way for YOU to gauge what he really thinks.
It is very possible to have male friends. When these males a married OR in a relationship it is ALWAYS wise to get to know the partner/wife.
Personally, I wou... (read in full...)
His "male banter" has me reconsidering moving in with him!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years we plan on living together next month. He gave me his phone to use a few days but he was so uncomfortable when I had it that I did something I shouldn`t have and looked at one of his messages from his ...
A. 10 February 2015: You know, I have NEVER understood the "woe is me I'm married" and the "ball and chain" when guys refer to their wives. I JUST don't get it. NO ONE HAS to be married (or dating) if they feel it's so LIMITING and HORRIBLE.
It might BE male banter. ... (read in full...)
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