No sex with wife since our two year old was born.
Q. Me and my wife had a little girl alomst 2 years ago but since then we have only had sex a handful of times i have tried romantic baths etc. Have spoke to her and dont really get a response as to why we dont have sex anymore just wondering what else ...
A. 16 March 2015: Don't you love it when MEN knows ALL about postpartum? Like freaking Tom Cruise all over..
There is NOT time limit on PPD, it can start out rather "mild" and turn worse over time. Specially if untreated. Many women think if they just "wait" i... (read in full...)
He thinks I'm bitter and a gossip. Have I put him off for good?
Q. My ex use to think I was hot - until he started chatting up other women. So I became bitter and jealous. We were together losely - nothing serious, but I guess I was annoyed he was looking elsewhere. However now he has gone off me altogeth...
A. 14 March 2015: Then KEEP ignoring him. If anyone asks, just say I have no clue as I don't talk to him. END of story. Don't go into elaborate, he thinks this or that explanations.
Just pretend he is a total stranger.
Sooner or later HE will be the one look ... (read in full...)
I asked my wife to stop contacting her old boyfriend but she didn't
Q. A few years ago my wife got in touch with an old boyfriend through the wonders of Facebook. Actually, he sought her out. There some some contact through Facebook which led to e-mail which led to phone calls (always from him but my wife gave him...
A. 14 March 2015: I think she MIGHT be keeping HIM around because you DEMANDED she cut the contact.
She takes it as YOU not trusting her. You may SAY you don't trust her, but seriously, some people ARE quite capable with talking to old almost forgotten exes and... (read in full...)
No sex with wife since our two year old was born.
Q. Me and my wife had a little girl alomst 2 years ago but since then we have only had sex a handful of times i have tried romantic baths etc. Have spoke to her and dont really get a response as to why we dont have sex anymore just wondering what else ...
A. 14 March 2015: I have to agree with EVERYTHING Brown Wolf said.
Having given birth 3 times, I know there have been times post baby that I had ABSOLUTELY no interest in sex. And with hubby gone for work from 4am-8/9pm 5/6 days a week I was exhausted from tak... (read in full...)
I may as well be a single parent!
Q. Hi hope someone can help me as I feel so down I've been with my boyfriend for 19 month we have a 4 month old daughter I know it happened quick we have a good relationship we never argue always laughing but I feel like a single parent he has not done ...
A. 14 March 2015: Yep, you ARE a single parent.
Showing up once a week doesn't make him a parent. Does he AT LEAST help pay for the child? Or does he think showing up ONCE a week means he doesn't HAVE to contribute to the cost of raising HIS child?
Or does he si... (read in full...)
He thinks I'm bitter and a gossip. Have I put him off for good?
Q. My ex use to think I was hot - until he started chatting up other women. So I became bitter and jealous. We were together losely - nothing serious, but I guess I was annoyed he was looking elsewhere. However now he has gone off me altogeth...
A. 14 March 2015: Ignore him and his notions. They really don't make you bitter or a gossip because HE thinks so.
My guess is he went on the offensive when you told him off for chatting up other women. It's easier to talk SMACK about you then own up to his own lewd... (read in full...)
Did she unblock me to show me she's in a relationship?
Q. My ex recently unblocked me which is not uncommon as she has blocked/unblocked me in the past. Wewere together for a few yrs and it ended pretty messy. Bat shit crazy. Weve been split for a few years now. This time I thought she was going to msg...
A. 14 March 2015: My guess, yes. It's a neener neener thing.
But If I were you, I'd remove her and block her. That way she won't be on your thought as much. Why keep her around? Even on Facebook? ... (read in full...)
We divorced year's ago... but I am still having dreams about my ex husband!
Q. Hello all, I'll try to keep this as short as I can, but here goes... I have been divorced for four years, and was married for seven years. During the marriage there were constant issues with him cheating and things were very difficult. When...
A. 14 March 2015: If I had a penny for ALL the people saying "I know I stayed longer then I should have" I'd be one rich lady.... There is NO shame in having stayed when you KNEW you should walk. It's EASY to say WALK AWAY, but when your lives, finances, debt are ... (read in full...)
Found dildo's under my boyfriends bed. Is he cheating?
Q. I think my be is cheating on me. I found an anal sex beginners kit and purple rabbit vibrator already used hidden under his bed after I had been away from his house for 6 weeks. During my absence he would visit me only at my house and I wasn't ...
A. 14 March 2015: You ask:
*So now my new question is, should I contact the other woman and ask her if she is sleeping with my soon to be EX?*
Nope, just cut the contact. Does it matter if she is sleeping with him or not? She isn't paying for stuff for him for ... (read in full...)
He won't speak to me since I challenged him. Why do I still think about him?
Q. A few weeks ago I fell out with a man who won't speak to me or reply to my calls over the fact he was having an affair. We used to be close - but after I said I didn't want to get too serious - he started chasing other women. Feeling hurt I stated h...
A. 14 March 2015: I don't see how it's ANY of your business who he chases after - you are NOT his GF (your choice) and you are NOT the morality police either.
I think you didn't exactly challenge him, but you got offended that he didn't WANT to stick around w... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is bisexual and I'm really uncomfortable with it!
Q. My gf is bisexual and I'm really uncomfortable with it. I feel this way because we've had some issues where she was making lustful statements about women she knew on social media and basically flirting with other women while we were together. When I ...
A. 14 March 2015: I agree with SVC
You can't get "rid" of who/what gender you are attracted too. If she claims she is, SHE is lying. She is just hiding it (or actually she isn't hiding it anymore is she?)
And I agree with chigirl that the PROBLEM isn't th... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend manipulating me?
Q. We met online 4 months ago. Everything went fine and we started dating. She seemed like a nice, independent young woman (early thirties). She had a job, rented alone an apartment etc. After two and a half months her landlord told her that the ...
A. 14 March 2015: You know, I think it's great that you take SOME responsibility, but seriously IT IS perfectly normal to have rose tinted glasses on in the beginning of a relationship. For you to move in that fast was in HINDSIGHT not the best idea. But if SHE had ... (read in full...)
What can I do to help myself move on and feel better about this one night stand?
Q. I had a one night stand at the weekend with a friend of a friend. I found him very sexy and I was very glad for it happening. It was good sex and it had been a while for both of us, so it was a positive experience. However we were both very drunk, ...
A. 14 March 2015: By owning your actions.
If you say to yourself, well that was nice and NOT read more into the sex then it might make it easier.
The sense of guilt or shame or whatnot, is NOT because you did anything wrong, it's because you like so many oth... (read in full...)
Found dildo's under my boyfriends bed. Is he cheating?
Q. I think my be is cheating on me. I found an anal sex beginners kit and purple rabbit vibrator already used hidden under his bed after I had been away from his house for 6 weeks. During my absence he would visit me only at my house and I wasn't ...
A. 13 March 2015: Whatever is going on at your BF's house is something that DOESN'T include you.
Do you need more reason than that?... (read in full...)
What can I do to help myself move on and feel better about this one night stand?
Q. I had a one night stand at the weekend with a friend of a friend. I found him very sexy and I was very glad for it happening. It was good sex and it had been a while for both of us, so it was a positive experience. However we were both very drunk, ...
A. 13 March 2015: You write:
" Basically I've decided it was a good experience. He made me feel good about myself. I needed that. "
Then hold on to that, hold your head up high and don't worry about it.
You didn't commit a crime, you didn't cheat or sleep wi... (read in full...)
Do I just stay quiet or do I say something about my brother in law's visits to his ex, for sex?
Q. My brother in law keeps going over to sleep with his ex. I don't know what to say to get through to him! She is trouble, which is putting it lightly, and he only goes over to her after he's been drinking. He acts as if this is just a booty call, ...
A. 13 March 2015: Eh HIS mistake to make. HE knows what kind of girl she is. He dated her after all.
If he wants to do the booty-call thing with this fruitcake, that is HIS choice. My guess is, the SEX is great and that is why he keeps going back. Though, he seems... (read in full...)
Should I suggest having a threesome with my guy?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been with my partner for 3 years, a few months into our relationship he told me that he would like to watch me have sex with another man! This was like a bombshell to me. Our sex was great in the beginning but we only have sex ...
A. 13 March 2015: I think it would be a BIG mistake to do right now. YOU are not satisfied with your sex life, so ADDING another person is NOT the way to go.
TALK to your BF, TELL him you FEEL like he RATHER watch pron then have sex with you. INITIATE sex, she HE k... (read in full...)
My mom's friend complained that she wasn't invited to dinner. What should my mom do?
Q. My mom has been friends with a big family for a long time. The parents of the family are now dead, but one daughter, whom I'll call Alice, lives in the same town as my mom. Recently a son and his wife were in town and staying with his sister, ...
A. 13 March 2015: That depends. WHAT does your mom what to do? Do she WANT Alice to DICTATE whom she has around for dinner? Who she can invite?
Maybe she hadn't seen the son/wife in a while and thus invited them.
Though I suppose if your Mom KNEW they were s... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend manipulating me?
Q. We met online 4 months ago. Everything went fine and we started dating. She seemed like a nice, independent young woman (early thirties). She had a job, rented alone an apartment etc. After two and a half months her landlord told her that the ...
A. 13 March 2015: I understand that you feel responsible for her. But what you have SEEN from her is the TIP of the iceberg. I think there is a LOT more drama to come if YOU do not extract yourself soon.
Like WiseOwlE so methodically wrote - give her 30 days to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want me to come to his sister's sweet 16 party
Q. My boyfriend doesn't want me to come to his sisters sweet sixteen with him. We've been together for 2 years and out of town numerous times. I've met his family and stuff but this would be the first big gathering and he has been super reluctant ...
A. 13 March 2015: Instead of LYING and being offended ASK him straight out and TELL him how it makes you feel.
Maybe he isn't looking forward to the party himself and feels he doesn't WANT to drag you too a night of silly partying.
Or he rather you don't come. ... (read in full...)
He complained about my lack of memory and detail and I broke up with him. Now he's drinking heavily. Should I reach out to him?
Q. Hello so I dated this guy for about a year. everything was awesome between us for the first few months.his demeanor was always very alpha male. He liked to be in charge. He never liked to go out and party he liked staying in all the time sometimes ...
A. 13 March 2015: He lost his sexual attraction because you aren't detail oriented? That sounds like the oddest cop-out I have ever heard.
I'd say let him be. What the point in reaching out? The guy was LOOKING for an excuse to dump you... the "not detail oriented... (read in full...)
My baby daddy wants to wait till the paternity test results come back and then says we can be a family
Q. It's a weird situation but my baby daddy and I had a one nighter and had a baby. He ran away in the beginning so a new guy stepped in until he just didn't want a child that wasn't his. I've tried to tell the guy my baby's his for 1.5 year and ...
A. 13 March 2015: Why would you want to BE with a guy like that? If you don't want to BE with him, you DO NOT have to, BABY or not. Paternity results or not.
You had a ONE NIGHTER with him, the result was a baby - but that SERIOUSLY doesn't mean you have to take ... (read in full...)
My long distance boyfriend tells me what to do and doesn't want me talking to other men
Q. I met my LDR boyfriend online on a dating website, I live in a different country. He wants to meet me next year, now i am not comfortable to have sex before marriage. Now he has forcibly made me delete my account on the website right a month we met. ...
A. 13 March 2015: He sounds like a controlling psycho. How is it HIS choice who you talk to?
And how did he "make" you delete your account? Did he threaten to end the "relationship"? if so, you should have ended it.
Tell him to go fly a kite you are NOT his prop... (read in full...)
Rejected after first date?!
Q. So I joined eharmony. I was talking back and forth with this guy and we seemed really compatible, he even said so. He asked me out to a coffee date and I said yes, which was yesterday. I was really exited because he seemed attractive and we had so ...
A. 13 March 2015: Nope this isn't about YOU not being good enough, or saying the wrong stuff, THIS is about him just not feeling an attraction or wish to get to know you better.
Don't give up because the first one was a dud.
Some people expect a "online match" t... (read in full...)
I don't want to seem pushy so how do I let him know I am interested?
Q. About a month ago I met a guy online and we hit it off immediately. On our first date we met for drinks and 4 hours later it was still going strong. We had our second date the next night and things continued to progress. He would text me every day ...
A. 12 March 2015: I'd say the same for 3 weeks and 5 dates as I said for 3 weeks and 5 dates.
If a guy stops being keen after ONLY 3 weeks... He just isn't INTO you.... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend manipulating me?
Q. We met online 4 months ago. Everything went fine and we started dating. She seemed like a nice, independent young woman (early thirties). She had a job, rented alone an apartment etc. After two and a half months her landlord told her that the ...
A. 12 March 2015: Yikes! YES she is (not trying, but ABSOLUTELY) manipulating you.
She is not the stable girl you THOUGHT you were going to date.
I think she manipulated you from the start. Like the whole apartment business. IT was rather "magical" timing... (read in full...)
I love him but his behaviour is repelling me!
Q. Hi all! I'm here cause I think my boyfriend is about to go through a mid life crisis. He's 39 and I'm 24. He's posting these teenage looking pics like one of them is with his very rare credit card and some with hoodies etc. it's turning me off. He'...
A. 12 March 2015: *** If I had wanted to date a twenty year old douche, I would have. I want my down to earth man back!! Please help***
TELL him EXACTLY that.
I'm sorry I HAD to laugh at that. Not because I think it's funny, but because I think you HIT the na... (read in full...)
What can I do to help myself move on and feel better about this one night stand?
Q. I had a one night stand at the weekend with a friend of a friend. I found him very sexy and I was very glad for it happening. It was good sex and it had been a while for both of us, so it was a positive experience. However we were both very drunk, ...
A. 12 March 2015: You really only have ONE choice here.
CHALK the ONS up to a learning experience. Now you know that ONS or casual sex is NOT for you. YOU DO get emotionally attached when sex is added to the mix. He obviously didn't.
So in the future if you fe... (read in full...)
Found out she cheated... lied for months and watched me have a breakdown. Can the relationship be saved?
Q. I'm pretty screwed up right now... Essentially my girlfriend of over 7 years slept with her best friend about 6 months ago, once drunk in the night, and again in the morning (though she claims se was still drunk). I've always suspected it. she ...
A. 12 March 2015: EDIT:
I wrote:1. she knew an ACTUAL relationship with the other dude was realistic.
Should have been:
1. she knew an ACTUAL relationship with the other dude was unrealistic.... (read in full...)
Should I stop having a FWB relationship? Or go with the flow?
Q. I've only been in two serious relationships... One ended because my ex forced me to give him head a few times and told me he was using me for sex. The other guy was recent, he was my everything, but I go to college out of state and it ruined us. He ...
A. 12 March 2015: I agree with Cindy... your closet is full of handbag and your shoes are falling apart.
YOU want/need new shoes (aka relationship) so OF COURSE a new handbag (FWB) won't help.
And to all the anon men telling you that you VALUE as a future wife... (read in full...)
I don't want to seem pushy so how do I let him know I am interested?
Q. About a month ago I met a guy online and we hit it off immediately. On our first date we met for drinks and 4 hours later it was still going strong. We had our second date the next night and things continued to progress. He would text me every day ...
A. 12 March 2015: Eh, I'd let him go.
If he was INTO you, as you are into him, he would NOT add MORE dating profiles on the web.
Time to move on.
He is doing the MULTIPLE dating thing. KEEPING ALL his options open. So many people think that if they DATE ... (read in full...)
Curious, maybe even suspicious...
Q. My girlfriend constantly calls me daddy during sex. She also likes to role play that she is 13 and I'm her father coming to her bedroom when everyone else is asleep. Her father is deceased but I know from her mother that they, my gf and her dad, ...
A. 12 March 2015: So, your GF has Daddy issues. Have you read about Electra complex? (Jung) It's basically the "female" version of the Oedipus complex.
She KNOWINGLY froze her mother out, her DAD knowingly froze the mother out. Now she may have seen it as her MOTH... (read in full...)
We divorced year's ago... but I am still having dreams about my ex husband!
Q. Hello all, I'll try to keep this as short as I can, but here goes... I have been divorced for four years, and was married for seven years. During the marriage there were constant issues with him cheating and things were very difficult. When...
A. 12 March 2015: Don't beat yourself up that you TRUSTED him despite his past. I don't think it's a WIFE'S (or husband's) job to snoop and become some great Sherlock Holmes to "police" their spouse.
Yes, you knew he had cheated before. You presumed he had stopped ... (read in full...)
Especially interested in a Male perspective. Why not just spare someone from the wonder and tell them the truth?
Q. I met this guy online and he seemed pretty respectable in how he approached me. We swapped pictures. I showed him my full profile front and side etc. He was happy with the pictures. Anyway, the way he messaged me was friendly and respectable. Bas...
A. 12 March 2015: I absolutely agree with WiseOwlE
It has NOTHING to do with your level of attractiveness. This is NOT about how you look. This is not about YOU not being good enough, pretty enough or whatever enough.
My guess is he has SEVERAL ladies lined up ... (read in full...)
Found out she cheated... lied for months and watched me have a breakdown. Can the relationship be saved?
Q. I'm pretty screwed up right now... Essentially my girlfriend of over 7 years slept with her best friend about 6 months ago, once drunk in the night, and again in the morning (though she claims se was still drunk). I've always suspected it. she ...
A. 12 March 2015: If you can't work towards forgiveness? then yes, I think you should end it.
You seem to have a LOT of questions about her actions, but have you actually SAT her down and talked? For her to say to someone else that she LOVES him and unsure about he... (read in full...)
How can I improve my social skills so that I can hold on to a job and improve my life?
Q. I am scared what will happen to me as I have no useful skills and no future. I am a social pariah, so out of 100 desperate job applicants you would not pick me. Lucky for me I have a nice family and my mum lets me live in the house, but at 27 I need ...
A. 11 March 2015: Do you have time to volunteer? It will give you something for your CV but also chance to improve your social skill. Unfortunately it doesn't help you financially (YET).
Being encouraged to leave is NOT good for a CV. What were the real reason f... (read in full...)
He takes his phone everywhere and if I ask to use it, he'll grab it and mess with it real quick. Should I be concerned or am I just paranoid?
Q. My husband has always looked at porn-despite how I've told him it makes me feel, a few months ago he actually stopped for a while (his phone broke) and he said wow I'm a lot more into you since I stopped watching porn, gee thanks, he says that's ...
A. 11 March 2015: I think you have good reason to be concerned. IF he had nothing to hide he wouldn't need to do all those extra "steps" before handing it over.
If I need to use my husbands phone I either JUST take it ( I have a pay as you go - he has free text/cal... (read in full...)
I think we are broken up but I'm not sure, and I need help in getting some of my things back. Help?
Q. Hi, I have been dating my boyfriend for the past 2 years now.. we have been fighting a lot,arguing so much that I can't remember of a single restaurant or a place we went where we haven't fought (not public fighting but just no talking to each oth...
A. 11 March 2015: Call him and say hey, I have some of my stuff at your place, WHEN is a good time for me to pick it up. If he tries to pick an argument or a subject he KNOWS you two will disagree over, KEEP to the subject of finding a day and as soon as you have a ... (read in full...)
My grandmother's medical condition is dire. But have we, her family, let her down by accepting medical advice that her body cannot hold on much longer?
Q. Hi everyone. I don't really know if anyone will be able to help me but I thought it was worth a try. I wrote in a few days ago about feeling really stressed, one of the reasons being that my Grandma is really ill. Well, over the last few days sh...
A. 11 March 2015: Did she have a good life before she fell ill? If the answer is yes, I would look back on her GOOD life and celebrate that.
I understand that you WANT her to be around for as long as she can (and as long as she wants) - but sometimes out bodies d... (read in full...)
Should I keep working or put myself through college?
Q. I'm not sure how to explain this but here it goes. I got into a full time job right after High School, I never went to college. This was mainly because I needed/wanted money because I wanted a car, needed to put some money into savings, and oth...
A. 11 March 2015: The sooner you get started on a degree, the sooner you will be done!
If you can find a part time job WHILE doing college, you can HELP your dad while living with him.
... (read in full...)
Why do girls avoid eye contact with me? What do I need to keep in mind when trying to connect with girls?
Q. Every time I'm in the mall or any other public place girls will avoid looking at me. I'm NOT ugly at all and it's not because they're shy because even outgoing loud girls don't look at me. I really get the feeling I creep them out or something...
A. 11 March 2015: You write:
*I've been told I come off as creepy and I'm also very quiet.*
Your BIGGEST tip of the day? GIRLS are no different. If you can connect with a male, you can connect with a female.
YOU are not repulsive, I seriously doubt it. ... (read in full...)
Is he just not ready for anything serious and wants to play the field?
Q. So A few months ago I started dating this guy, and before we became officially in a relationship he was talking/ sleeping with this other girl. When I found out, I told him that he couldn't both be with me and her, he had to make a choice. He chose ...
A. 11 March 2015: Is he just not ready for anything serious and he needs to play the field more?
He doesn't know what he wants, other then sex.
I don't think he is mature enough or ready for a REAL relationship. After all the guy was having unprotected S... (read in full...)
Found out she cheated... lied for months and watched me have a breakdown. Can the relationship be saved?
Q. I'm pretty screwed up right now... Essentially my girlfriend of over 7 years slept with her best friend about 6 months ago, once drunk in the night, and again in the morning (though she claims se was still drunk). I've always suspected it. she ...
A. 11 March 2015: YOU made a HUGE mistake in proposing to someone who had JUST cheated on you with her "best friend".
I get that people don't want to feel like they wasted x amount of years with nothing to show, but I think YOUR mistake was to think that a proposal... (read in full...)
Should I stop having a FWB relationship? Or go with the flow?
Q. I've only been in two serious relationships... One ended because my ex forced me to give him head a few times and told me he was using me for sex. The other guy was recent, he was my everything, but I go to college out of state and it ruined us. He ...
A. 11 March 2015: An FWB in NOT going to make you feel better about yourself. Nor is it going to make it easier for you to FIND someone you WANT to actually be with.
I get the whole "I want to be held and adored" but I think it's rarely a great idea, as the GUY ... (read in full...)
Curious, maybe even suspicious...
Q. My girlfriend constantly calls me daddy during sex. She also likes to role play that she is 13 and I'm her father coming to her bedroom when everyone else is asleep. Her father is deceased but I know from her mother that they, my gf and her dad, ...
A. 10 March 2015: Yep, I'm with Cindy. It's fantasy. The FACT that you play along would (if we follow YOUR rationalization) mean that you are a child predator going after 13 year old girls.
If the fantasy makes you uncomfortable tell her.
My guess Is that sh... (read in full...)
We divorced year's ago... but I am still having dreams about my ex husband!
Q. Hello all, I'll try to keep this as short as I can, but here goes... I have been divorced for four years, and was married for seven years. During the marriage there were constant issues with him cheating and things were very difficult. When...
A. 3 March 2015: Could it be that if you start working on letting go of him and the trust issue might help?
Having trust issues with HIM was justified, but at some point you will HAVE to remember that THAT was him, can't put the issues you had with him ONTO the... (read in full...)
We divorced year's ago... but I am still having dreams about my ex husband!
Q. Hello all, I'll try to keep this as short as I can, but here goes... I have been divorced for four years, and was married for seven years. During the marriage there were constant issues with him cheating and things were very difficult. When...
A. 2 March 2015: I think your sub-conscience is still trying to figure the mess he left behind out.
Part of it is you blaming yourself for maybe not know he was a cheat before marriage or as you say getting blindsided. Most people PRESUME that the wife KNOWS. L... (read in full...)
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