She says I have lost her trust, I say she is being over dramatic!
Q. my girlfriend says I've lost her trust and she wants to end things but I think she's just being over dramatic and refusing to give me another chance. My old flame called me to say could we be friends again so I met her for a drink didn't tell my gf ...
A. 9 February 2015: The nonny who makes this issue about age, is missing the point of all the "older" aunties/uncles" by a light year.
It's NOT that you ABSOLUTELY can not EVER NEVER be friendly or talk to an ex, it's that you think sneaking around and lying is the w... (read in full...)
She says I have lost her trust, I say she is being over dramatic!
Q. my girlfriend says I've lost her trust and she wants to end things but I think she's just being over dramatic and refusing to give me another chance. My old flame called me to say could we be friends again so I met her for a drink didn't tell my gf ...
A. 8 February 2015: She didn't misunderstand a darned thing.
I agree you were lying by omission and sneaking around. EVEN if the meet up was OH SO innocent, hiding it is not a good idea.
If you will lie about this what else will you lie about? Or "not tell" so YO... (read in full...)
Should I just walk away from the first girl?
Q. Hi Friends, I feel like I'm in a weird place. Several months back I met a great girl "Angela" and we really hit it off, spent a lot of time together, took a road trip with her friends, etc. A few weeks ago she got news that she was laid off fro...
A. 8 February 2015: Honestly, girl #1 is ashamed that she no longer has a job, that she had to sell up and move. I would PRESUME that you two are over, even if it hasn't been said. BUT pro forma, I'd shoot her a text wish her well and that you have decided to move on. ... (read in full...)
I'm depressed that my husband, like other men in my past, prefers smaller breasts!
Q. I see a lot of women write in worried about their small breasts but I have the opposite problem. I have large breasts and every man who I have been with including my long term marriage has preferred smaller breasts and not been at all interested in ...
A. 8 February 2015: I'm with Auntie Bim All the way.
I have to ask you this, DO you tell a guy.. Hey, let's get a ruler before sex because ANYTHING under 8 inches is not welcome? My bet is no, you don't.. So a GUY tell you that you NATURAL boobs are unattrac... (read in full...)
Did this girl play me? What should I do? She knows I was definitely interested in her.
Q. So I met this girl out one night with mutual friends. We used to speak every day for quite some months, flirting and we seemed to have become comfortable around each other and developing a friendship too. I gave an interest in her family and frie...
A. 8 February 2015: I think you were her "entertainment" or "flavor" of the month while she stayed in the same location as you, but once she moved away - it was out of sight, out of mind.
The fact that she blatantly refused to have sex with you may also be telling.... (read in full...)
When I admire nude women does that mean I am objecrifying them?
Q. I sometimes admire the female shape in nude pictures...mostly artistic photography but sometimes more erotic glamour pics. The elegant lines and curves are beautiful and endlessly fascinating. Usually I'd rather look at an excellent body than at ...
A. 8 February 2015: Is Michelangelo's David not ART, yet an objectified VIEW of the "ideal" (for the times) male form?
TO objectify - Quite simply, it means to degrade something to the status of mere object.
I think there is a HUGE difference between admiring... (read in full...)
What can I do? He wants to still see me, but he doesn’t want to tell
Q. My ex-boyfriend and I were together for a year we were wonderful together... But things started getting crazy. We broke up three months ago but still we were living together. He started talking to this girl and ended things completely with m...
A. 7 February 2015: Start looking for your OWN place to live. That should be your main concern, NOT what is on HIS mind.
He is keeping you as a spare. That is why it's a "secret" but he is trying to be a "decent" BF, so the no sex.
Honey, move out and move on.... (read in full...)
I asked him out but still no plans!
Q. Ok...there's this guy at work whom I really like; I like him more than just wanting to have sex with him-just had to put that out there. Anyways, for a couple months, there's been alot of back and forth flirting, so a few weeks ago, I got bold ...
A. 7 February 2015: Oh, a flirt will be a flirt whether he/she is single or not.
I wouldn't hold my breath for this guy honestly, to me his hesitation says (to me at least) I'm NOT that keen, but I like flirting so I'll play along.
Another little "kink" is that h... (read in full...)
Boyfriiend of 6.5 years cheated. should I forgive him
Q. My boyfriend of 6.5 yrs told me today that he slept with a German waitress while working on a ship where he spent around 6 months.I am so numb.Not sure what to say to him. We met 6.5 yrs ago and got attracted to each other though he is 9 yrs olde...
A. 7 February 2015: Sorry, I would want to get my saving back that you spend on him and then dump him like a hot potato. Seriously.
You might never see that money though.
NO ONE leaves for 8 months and just drops contact. THAT is not a relationship. He... (read in full...)
My fiance's ex will not allow their children to be in our wedding
Q. Dear all Following a previous post, again I need some advice on dealing with a highly sensitive issue regarding my future lovely step children. We are getting married this year and they are supposed to be my flower girl and usher to which t...
A. 7 February 2015: There is no way I would be "guilt-ed" into inviting the ex-wife. NO way.
I would see a solicitor though. And I would NOT have told the kids till it was agreed upon by mom/dad. However, since she is JUST doing this to spite (because what other re... (read in full...)
Has anyone else suffered with trust issues that they just can't overcome?
Q. Has anyone else suffered with trust issues that they just can't overcome? I'm 34 and had 3 long term boyfriends, the first of which cheated on me twice with the same girl. The second cheated on me numerous times throughout the relationship and the ...
A. 7 February 2015: I think your BF made quite a few screw ups.
1. He didn't tell you about the contact with the ex. If he IS serious about you, KNOWING your past, he should also know that HONESTLY is what "could" set him apart from exes. Whether they have somethin... (read in full...)
OK, what about foreplay on men?
Q. This is a question mainly for the guys, and is something I've wondered about for ages. During foreplay, men have so many choices as to where to touch/kiss/lick a woman, there are so many erogenous zones.. instep of feet, thighs, waist and stomac...
A. 7 February 2015:
I'm not a guy, but I believe sex is a two way street - what you PUT into it, is what you get back. So if you let HIM do all the work, it becomes "work" for him and he will skip to the (for him) "good part".
Men have MANY of the same erogeno... (read in full...)
Is she slowly backing out of the relationship?
Q. Hi, recently i have been seeing a woman who is a single mother. Things got quite serious around Christmas time and seemed to be going well. Out of the blue she calls to say we should cool things down. I was a little taken aback but agreed. A few da...
A. 7 February 2015: To me it seems like someone backing out, but keeping you around, just in case she doesn't really want to end it. And I see it as her being a tad unfair.
You talking to a friend about relationship woes and YOUR feelings is OK in my book - if you w... (read in full...)
What's his message here?
Q. Dear Cupid, When I was 15 I had a huge crush on a guy who all the girls liked. We dated a bit, we never slept together. We nearly did but due to my age he behaved (he was 19 at the time). His on/ off girlfriend got jealous and we lost touch. I'm ...
A. 7 February 2015: He was reminiscing.
He DID the right thing back then. A 19 year old boy should have kept it in his pants, and this guy - DID THAT. So he was a decent guy. But he is also telling you that he WAS tempted, that he WAS attracted in "that" way to you..... (read in full...)
I asked him out but still no plans!
Q. Ok...there's this guy at work whom I really like; I like him more than just wanting to have sex with him-just had to put that out there. Anyways, for a couple months, there's been alot of back and forth flirting, so a few weeks ago, I got bold ...
A. 7 February 2015: You asked him "halfway out". You told him you WANT to go out with him, but YOU didn't really ASK him out, as you seem to be waiting on HIM to make that move.
Find something you'd like to DO with him (and no, not sex lol) and ask him to join you... (read in full...)
Should I be trying to experience more?
Q. Sometimes I feel alone even though I have people around me. I come from a good family, but sometimes I wonder if its too good. I never go out to parties to get drunk, do drugs, or sleep with different girls. It's not like I haven't thought about it ...
A. 7 February 2015: Be who you are.
I worked hard, studied hard AND "socialized" hard through college. I also had a serious BF throughout the time in college. I never did drugs ( I had a few pot-heads in my circle of friend) My big brother was big on pot for a while ... (read in full...)
"What kind of words I can use to tell a girl face to face "in a seductive way" that I wanna date her?
Q. Hi guys! My name's Jimmy, I'm 37 and I'm still single. I had a little number of girlfriends (about 4) and all of them were from out of my city. I'm a very good lover (good in the sack! lol) and they love that! I' a gentleman, I know how to express ...
A. 7 February 2015: Yeah, adding a "random" pretty girl on Facebook and then telling her she is beautiful, is NOT really a great approach for getting to know a woman. It SCREAMS, I want to play into your vanity to get into your knickers, and most women are smart enough ... (read in full...)
I don't like my boyfriend going to his ex's house!
Q. Hi everyone, my bf has 3 kids wit his ex. The youngest is only 5 months. They were split up while she was pregnant. Her choice as well as his. Sometimes he goes to the house to look after the kids. He says she goes out while he is there. I am not ...
A. 7 February 2015: His kids comes first.
This is about you not trusting him, my guess is you caught him lying before? Or you are insecure, because you think he might go back BECAUSE of the kids?
Whether she LEAVES to STAY shouldn't matter. Having a CIVIL "... (read in full...)
How can I get my ex girfriends to leave me alone? And I want my shirt back too - how can I get it back?
Q. Hello DC! Back again. So, this is something I may or may not have brushed on before, but... How the heck can I get my exes to get off my back? There's the first girl, she's "girl 1." She is VERY clingy and won't leave me alone, because I'...
A. 7 February 2015: So if you can't call her mom, you pull this girl aside at school NEXT time she wears it and tell her,:" I NEED my shirt back, it has meaning to ME because my grandmother gave it to me before she died."
And honestly I wouldn't CARE if her mother d... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is too rough during cuddles
Q. Hi everyone. My boyfriend isn't violent at all and he loves me very much, but when we go on our bed to cuddle and stuff, he's really really rough. He always squeezes me, pulls on me, pinches me and stuff and it really hurts. I've told him to stop ...
A. 7 February 2015: You GET off the bed and walk away. EVERY fracking time. HE knows you don't like and he doesn't give a fly's fart about HOW you feel. The whole "that is how I show affection" is a BS excuse. It's sorta equivalent to a violent/abusive person saying:" ... (read in full...)
Is this a red flag and how do I deal with it? I don't want to become the "rebound" guy
Q. Hey everyone, I met a really nice girl about 2 weeks ago and we had our first date yesterday. She is the girl-next door type, sweet and cute. I have to say I really like her. She is also a very interesting person with quite some knowledge. We...
A. 7 February 2015: I do think it's kind of fast to get into a new relationship, but the thing is with a LDR you kind of KNOW if it's heading somewhere or not. And I think she KNEW for quite a while that it was more of a "fantasy" than reality with her Brazilian LDR, ... (read in full...)
How can I get my ex girfriends to leave me alone? And I want my shirt back too - how can I get it back?
Q. Hello DC! Back again. So, this is something I may or may not have brushed on before, but... How the heck can I get my exes to get off my back? There's the first girl, she's "girl 1." She is VERY clingy and won't leave me alone, because I'...
A. 7 February 2015: CALL girl#1 parents, ask her mom when you can come by to pick up your shirt. TOTALLY exclude this girl from the whole shirt business, go STRAIGHT to the source (aka the MOM) Explain that "girl#1" had it in her pack and when you asked for it at ... (read in full...)
Will it hurt with my new Bf? My ex was much smaller
Q. I had sex with my ex bf few times 4 years back, he is slim and had a below average penis, some time still hurt me, even having a lot of foreplay and use lube. I think may be I am have a small vagina. I am ready to have sex with my new bf soon, ...
A. 6 February 2015: You do know that 10 lbs babies come out of a woman's vagina from time to time, right? a NEWBORNS head's circumference can be 10-15 inches... THE vagina HAS to be able to let that through. Women who gets C-sections because the babies are too bit.. ... (read in full...)
Do you think I was rude and attacking? And what should I do
Q. My boyfriend is super upset at me right now, and I think he is overreacting. Last week he was helping me update my macbook, as he knows more about technology than I do, and helping me make things faster. He kept wanting to download mack...
A. 6 February 2015: You both seems VERY stubborn. YOU both want, what you want, HOW you want it.
Yes, in hindsight downloading the Mac-thing was a bad idea. YOU both should have researched before DL. That way you could have shown him the "this is actual malware"... (read in full...)
Had a fling with a guy from work who's separated from his wife. We broke up. How do I now keep my distance from him?
Q. I recently had a fling with a guy that I work with. I knew it was just about sex, and it didn't bother me at first. He had just split up from his wife of four years and I hadn't been with anyone for over a year, and one drunken night, we slept to...
A. 6 February 2015: HE is still MARRIED, he IS still WITH his wife. And UNTIL he is DIVORCED - he is LEGALLY with her.
Your brother is right.
And IF the wife suspects a thing, it's more then just her wanting "stuff" out of the divorce, this isn't the 1950's where... (read in full...)
Why does my ex want to hold on to me he has a woman?
Q. Dear cupid,my ex and I broke up years ago we talk from time to time now he has a woman but he wants to say in conversation with me I told him we have nothing to talk about.He told me he wants to to keep in contact just in case his relationship falls ...
A. 6 February 2015: I agree with SVC - you don't OWE him contact. YOU don't NEED the contact.
The whole, being "friends" with an ex is NOT necessary. IT doesn't make life easier or made you mean or ride to cut the contact 100%. Unless you have shared KIDS there IS... (read in full...)
His relationship isnt going well. Do I tell ex how I feel or wait?
Q. I broke up with my ex boyfriend (around 3 years ago), he tried to get back with me for ages but I was adamant I wanted to move on...Hes now been with his current girlfriend for around 2 years, and they live together. I realised last year I still lo...
A. 6 February 2015: Wait. If he wants to end it, let him LEAVE first. Don't be the reason WHY he left her.
And.... it might "sound" like things are n't going so well because he wants attention and sympathy from you.
Consider that if he is willing to cheat on her,... (read in full...)
Almost no dating experience. Have I become a red-flag to any guy?
Q. I really don't know how I've gone this long without getting into a relationship - but I want to move forward by putting myself out there more. I try to educate myself on how to maintain a healthy relationship, but there'es only so much you can lear...
A. 5 February 2015: I think looking for someone with the same values is a good starting point. Someone with the same amount of "relationship experience?" no.
Don't presume that because you haven't DONE something before that you won't be able to be good at it. It m... (read in full...)
What to do when there are mutual feelings of trust and attraction......but he's married?
Q. I can not believe, me of all people, would have this sort of dilemma, but here goes... I work with this guy, and he's like the male version of me. I could sit here and talk him up, but I'll spare my readers. I like him wayyy more than I should, ...
A. 5 February 2015: Honestly, I would nip this in the bud. He is WAY to tempting for you to not at some point say what the heck, I'll sleep with him, JUST one, and then.. well, maybe twice.
HE should be off limits and if all this heavy flirting is PART of the supe... (read in full...)
Is he flirting with his ex? I do really love him
Q. I have a boyfriend who is three years older than me, I'm 18. He has two kids aged 3 and 4, both from different mothers. We have been together for over six months and I have been introduced to the children. I have bonded a lot more with the fo...
A. 5 February 2015: The fact that he, at 21!! has two kids by two mothers DOES tell you something. 1. he isn't very thoughtful about contraception. 2. He isn't really considering how his ACTIONS affect others. 3. He is a bit immature.
MOST guy would LEARN after th... (read in full...)
Can I object to certain types of porn?
Q. Am I wrong for being angry at my partner for watching female solo masturbation? I am fine with him watching normal porn, as I do too.. BUT I feel watching a solo (gorgeous) girl masturbate and orgasm is a little different.. It has really hurt me a...
A. 5 February 2015: You can object til the cows come home, and it won't make a difference.
YOU don't "own" the right to dictate what kind of porn your BF watches. HE doesn't "own" the right to dictate what kind YOU watch. (if you watch)
Maybe consider that yo... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my best friend's girlfriend -- again
Q. I believe that I am in love with my best friends girlfriend. His fiancé to be exact... I've been in love with one of his ex's before while they were dating and I went down a dark road of betraying his trust in order to break them up. I used to ...
A. 5 February 2015: I agree with Chigirl, stay away from he as much as possible, DO NOT let her use you as a shoulder to cry on or vent about your BFF, I'm SURE she has GF's for that. She should BE SO far off-limits it's not even funny. After all she has said YES to ... (read in full...)
I'm jealous of my partner being in touch with her ex-partner's child!
Q. hi im a gay woman in my 30s and my partner in her 40s. i am really happy with her and she always says she loves me and is happy too. one thing though but i cant ever let my g.friend know this, i get very jealous but wont show it. not of other women ...
A. 4 February 2015: How do you cope?
BY accepting that your partner is a BIG part of this CHILD's life and the CHILD was/is a BIG part of your partners life. Then GROW up. Being jealous of a 10 year old is just too petty.
... (read in full...)
He's my Best friend's brother and 3-4 years younger than me (I'm 19) and I'm falling for him. How can I get over him?
Q. Hi I am in a dilemma. A while back my friend had a birthday party, which we all had alcohol. I had just a bit too much and started hanging all over my friend's brother, crying into his shoulder. It ended with us almost making out, but she w...
A. 4 February 2015: If you are 19 and he is 3-4 years younger he is 15/16, and yes a bit too young + he is your friend's LITTLE brother.
I'd honestly invite her to your place instead and pretty much avoid being alone with him.
But if that is NOT going to happen ... (read in full...)
Is it just his personality or does he like me?
Q. I've been working with this guy and have known him for almost a year....we've always been friends and I haven't been attracted to him until recently. He lets me borrow his DVDs of this tv show he got me into. I'm not sure if he likes me, but my ...
A. 4 February 2015: I think it's his personality. (sorry) IF he was into you, he would have taken either of the two openings you gave him ( the "I like your face" and "I miss you") but he didn't.
So since you guys work together I'd keep being professional and not ... (read in full...)
Six months into the relationship I find out she lied. How do we move on from this?
Q. Just looking for opinions what other guys would do in my position. Basically me and my girlfriend have been together 6 months, in the early stages of the relationship there was rumours had she sent pics of herself in underwear to a guy she had be...
A. 4 February 2015: I think first of all, that you two are old enough to sort this out without having other people meddle in your business. It kind of makes me wonder who TOLD you about those pics. Because I think that person has his/he own agenda here.
I agree wi... (read in full...)
I found out he lied about having a girlfriend, does that mean he isn't serious about her?
Q. Hi Agony people! I met this guy the other day and he seemed nice and chatty. He told me he was a year younger than he actually is too. I asked him on the qt unknownst to him if he had a girlfriend and he sad no. I thought he was geniune and a really ...
A. 4 February 2015: I too would question his character. Not mentioning a GF to you, doesn't mean he isn't serious about HER. He was just hedging his bets WITH you. As in he felt he had a better chance at getting in your knickers if he didn't mention the GF. Or just ... (read in full...)
How would you feel if your partner told you its not his fault you can't get pregnant because he already has a child?
Q. I feel terrible for even asking this but if you were having difficulties getting pregnant, how would you feel if your partner told you that it can't be his problem as he already has a child? We have been together for three years, and I adore his ...
A. 4 February 2015: Why don't YOU go see a doctor?
Now HE can still be the reason as to why it hasn't happened, but the likelihood is your ovulation is trickier than average.
For him to say OH IT's not my fault, is childish of him and rather callous, my gues... (read in full...)
How important is the online photo?
Q. been single for 5 years and now making a big effort to find someone. I have hated the idea of online dating and had some rubbish experiences 4 years ago, but now I am trying it out with a different perspective. I am a very private person and don'...
A. 4 February 2015: Don't use a fake picture. EVER.
I see nothing wrong in being a private person and NOT wanting a picture out there TILL you actually met someone you WANT to met. BUT it might make it harder for you to FIND that someone.
Pictures on a... (read in full...)
My husband wears his stinky socks, and wears them and wears them and wears them!
Q. My husband wears his thermal underwear for 3 or more days in a row and after wearing them all day, will also wear them to bed. He will also wear his stinky socks and take them off and leave them by the bed and put them back on in the morning. I ...
A. 3 February 2015: How many sets of Thermal does he have? If more then one I'd suggest to him when he gets home and has eaten dinner to go shower and put on fresh. IF he only has one or two sets, BUY him 2 more sets. (or suggest HE goes buy some more)
Right now, man... (read in full...)
Is he the Roof Police?
Q. I rented this flat, however, the landlady lives abroad so the only contact person is her cousin, who is a nice chap and all. Everything was going great until the weather conditions, rain, sleet, snow, hail you name it began... I've been having ...
A. 3 February 2015: Why not just ask the person who lives below you, if they have had any water damage over New Years? If they say, no then you have your answer.
If the cousin (handyman) is not a trained roofer he might not know how to actually FIX it, but only how... (read in full...)
Acne, a genetic skin condition and scars from an accident. How can I overcome by body insecurities that are ruining my life?
Q. I am very happy I found this site. I am very insecure with my body to the point to where I sometimes just look in the mirror and cry. I have been in 2 relationships. Both of them ended basically because of my body insecurities/iss...
A. 3 February 2015: From being a VERY active kid/teen (tom-boy pretty much) I have scars everywhere. I have had stitches maybe 15-20 times and the scars to match. BOTH my knees have scars, one from surgery (about 6 inches long) another from a bike incident, and a ... (read in full...)
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