I am unsure of the signals she gave after our second date
Q. Ok, so I had my 2nd date last night with a girl that I met on a dating app.. The 1st date was at a pub near her house and last night she came to mine, I put some nice cool easy listening to music on, lit candles and cooked for her. We talked from ...
A. 23 February 2015: I think Cindy hit a really GOOD point.
She might have thought ( he wants to get laid) when you suggested dinner at your house, but BEING that she IS a "good girl" and that she likes you - she still went. I think she was HOPING you wouldn't... (read in full...)
Do I swallow my pride and text him first?
Q. Up until last Friday I was dating a guy for nearly 2 month, I really liked him but on that friday he went on a night out with his ex , we argued and he said it was innocent they were only talking about something. But why not just speak over text or ...
A. 23 February 2015: I have to agree with SVC
I think they were on a "break" he met you and dated you. My guess is that they were STILL talking while he was dating you, and that SHE doesn't KNOW about you.
I think it's pretty skeevy to go out a night on the tow... (read in full...)
Why do the thongs I wear not seem go fit right?
Q. When I wear thongs, it fits like it should when I first put it on. They're comfortable and I have no problem with them at all. By the end of the day, I notice it makes its way up my vagina and sometimes, it rides up in the back and hurts a little ...
A. 23 February 2015: LOL @ Cindy!
I have never been a thong fan either - I think they make a woman's behind look like a trussed turkey. And for ANY woman who has HIPS they just aren't at all attractive.
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I am unsure of the signals she gave after our second date
Q. Ok, so I had my 2nd date last night with a girl that I met on a dating app.. The 1st date was at a pub near her house and last night she came to mine, I put some nice cool easy listening to music on, lit candles and cooked for her. We talked from ...
A. 23 February 2015: Ask her out again, and have the DATE in public. I think it's kind of bad taste to invite her over on second date - to me (as a woman) I would presume you are trying to get laid and I may not be comfortable about that on the SECOND date.
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Boyfriend and I are fighting over small things but he doesn't learn from our fights
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been fighting a lot lately. Ridiculous as it may sound, its over small things, like not saying goodnight, not saying I love you, forgetting to say goodmorning, not picking up when calling...frivolous reasons and some ...
A. 23 February 2015: I have to agree with SVC
You are TRYING to train him to behave a certain way, and now that he ISN'T complying you are unhappy.
You can't change who he is, you can "fix" this alone. IF he doesn't THINK that these issues are problematic, but... (read in full...)
What are the ground rules during separation from spouse?
Q. Just curious, what are the ground rules for separating with a spouse i.e. we need some time apart? Is dating and seeing others ok? Please don't look at this as an excuse but rather a consequence of separation....
A. 23 February 2015: If the separation is a time for you two to THINK things over and decide if you WANT to be together and work on it OR not, then dating others would be ridiculous in my book. A HUGE no-no.
If you want to all of a sudden DATE others, you are NOT real... (read in full...)
Are they really only after sex?
Q. I am a 27 year old virgin who has never had a boyfriend before. I am starting to get scared especially as I'm heading towards my 30s and I'm still single and never been in a relationship before. I have been out on dates. I went out on many date...
A. 23 February 2015: My best advice is date someone with the same values and mindset. Maybe even find someone through your church.
I don't think all men are JUST after sex.
And I don't think wanting to wait a BIT longer than 1-2 months is asking too much. You ba... (read in full...)
All of my boyfriends new friends are girls! Should I worry?
Q. Is it normal that my boyfriend has been befriending/talking with other girls lately? I'm in a serious long term relationship with my boyfriend. We're together every weekend so I notice things here and there., For the past couple of months ...
A. 23 February 2015: I think your BF is being a tad naive or really underhanded. He is not telling you about these girls to make YOU feel better about the " friendships" he is pretending to be transparent, so HIS actions doesn't SEEM so wrong. After all, you were OK ... (read in full...)
Why do the thongs I wear not seem go fit right?
Q. When I wear thongs, it fits like it should when I first put it on. They're comfortable and I have no problem with them at all. By the end of the day, I notice it makes its way up my vagina and sometimes, it rides up in the back and hurts a little ...
A. 23 February 2015: Most women aren't really BUILD to wear thongs, I mean seriously. BUT it CAN be the brand, cut or size that isn't right for you.
There is actually a Wikihow for thongs..
http://www.wikihow.com/Wear-Thong-Underwear
My suggestion? cut the thon... (read in full...)
Am I being defensive about my boyfriends remarks?
Q. Hi, I can't tell if I'm over thinking stuff, and being defensive as he keeps telling me, or I'm sensing mixed signals from him recently. My boyfriend can be quite snobby. But just through insecurity rather than expertise of an area/or wealth. ...
A. 23 February 2015: First of all, I would NOT purchase big things TOGETHER. YOU two are not married so IF it came to a split, you would have a lot of potential drama over STUFF.
I would make SURE when you BUY a house together that EVERYTHING is done in a way that EIT... (read in full...)
Interested in a co-worker. Last week, she was playful and fun. This week, she's snapping and short-answered.
Q. I work with this girl on a bar. She is attractive, and met her a couple weeks ago while working. There was so real playfulness between us and I thought that there could be something. Fast forward to last night. Coming off the back if a great week,...
A. 23 February 2015: No, it doesn't mean you shouldn't try. JUST not with her. Unless you like getting shot down again.
Regard her as a "regular" coworker, not a woman you are/were interested in.
And look back that that conversation that went so seemingly wrong.... (read in full...)
I need advice about my married lover and his intentions
Q. hello my name is sweet c and i have a problem that i need help with. ok i met this guy and we hit it off the first night and we ended up sleeping together the first night. but the sex was different because he was having a hard time getting up. so w...
A. 22 February 2015: You say the wife is really worthless.. Wow, but who wen to jail? He did... didn't he?
I think you are (like 90% of women who mess around with a married man) WASTING your time and your life on a guy who CAN't GIVE you any kind of real commitme... (read in full...)
I've recently discovered inappropriate messages between my boyfriend and other girls
Q. My boyfriend left his snapchat logged in on my ipad and my friend was over using it and thought it was my snapchat and saw some things that were quite questionable. There are many message from him to other girls telling them they look extra hot ...
A. 22 February 2015: So you have been together LESS than 2 months and does this? Which means he might have done the WHOLE time he was with you and well, he MIGHT still be doing it.
If you are not OK with this, I would end it, because it's REALLY doubtful that he will ... (read in full...)
Emailed a co-worker my feelings for her after she quit. It's been seven days.
Q. Hello, I had a girl in my office to whom i love, I was never ever able to tell her about my feelings and one day she left the company and after she left i still have feelings for her. So i wrote a love letter after a one year since she left the ...
A. 22 February 2015: I think you are mistaken INFATUATION for LOVE. You are infatuated BY her, not in love WITH her, as you really DON'T know her as a person.
If you hear nothing from her, and she GETS ON her FB, I think you have a clear answer, SHE isn't interest... (read in full...)
I wish my LDR boyfriend would give me as much attention as I give him!
Q. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year, have known him for several, but we live in different countries. When we first started dating we would talk so often, cam often, etc. Now it's like the relationship has lost it's spark....
A. 22 February 2015: You have been dating a year, but he hasn't told his parents? Why not?
A guy who is in love (or a girl) would WANT to scream it from the rooftops. So WHY is he hiding you?
Do you two have any plans on living with each other or at least in the ... (read in full...)
Will my professor notice if I stop admiring him?
Q. hi! I am a student n I have a huge crush on a professor. He has come to know dat i like him .He also knows that i look at him. He is single n he is 5 years elder to me. By any chance will it affect him if i stop looking at him ? Will he notice that ...
A. 22 February 2015: You need to wake up from your little fantasy, honey.
A teacher SHOULD be a professional and not worry about flirting and making eyes at his STUDENTS. YOU should be focused on your courses NOT flirting or making eyes at your professor.
He is p... (read in full...)
I'm uncomfortable saying his name because of my accent
Q. This is going to sound really stupid but I'm genuinely finding it difficult to say the name of someone I've just started talking to platonically online. I haven't met them yet and, if I will it will be a while away, so I don't need to say it but t...
A. 22 February 2015: Ask for him to pronounce his name when you Skype. Most English speakers can't pronounce my name either - they make it into this "bastardized" version that just sounds well.. wrong lol so.. I have a nick-name that people call me and that is OK with ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about what my friends will think of my much older father
Q. Hey, I am having trouble... My dad, well, he's a bit older than most dads, I'm a teenager, and he's in his 70's. I love my dad, but this has made me so so so self conscious! Anyway, it's my birthday in a few days, and I'm having a party with my ...
A. 22 February 2015: He is your Dad. He can't CHANGE his age to please your friends. LOVE him as he is and if THEY have problem with it.. well, isn't that THEIR problem?
I grew up with a VERY short Mom, she contracted polio and her growth was utterly stunted at age 1... (read in full...)
I'm in a bit of a predicament ......
Q. Ok so I'm in a little bit of a predicament. I really like this guy that works down the street from me at this food place and we do text each other and tease one another playfully when we see each other around town. Hes ridiculously shy and has told ...
A. 22 February 2015: Only once in two months? That isn't much if you are looking to date someone, specially if you two love/work close to each other.
A whole lot of texting doesn't = getting to know a person, specially if 50% is flirting. (just saying)... (read in full...)
I'm in a bit of a predicament ......
Q. Ok so I'm in a little bit of a predicament. I really like this guy that works down the street from me at this food place and we do text each other and tease one another playfully when we see each other around town. Hes ridiculously shy and has told ...
A. 22 February 2015: SLOW down..
Go out on the date. GET to know him before even THINKING of jumping his bones.
If he asks you what the question was, then tell him - maybe I wanted to ASK you out.
Don't try and USE joking as a cover for being nervous. It can of... (read in full...)
Interested in a co-worker. Last week, she was playful and fun. This week, she's snapping and short-answered.
Q. I work with this girl on a bar. She is attractive, and met her a couple weeks ago while working. There was so real playfulness between us and I thought that there could be something. Fast forward to last night. Coming off the back if a great week,...
A. 22 February 2015: Having worked as a bartender for years, MANY female bartenders will be giddy and flirty at work - it's a facade. And flirting with your co-workers is MUCH "safer" then flirting with customers, because many coworker will see it as banter (not real ... (read in full...)
Husband has apologised and wants me back, but I haven't changed since I left him.
Q. I left my husband because he had a problem with my body and would make comments. Mainly about loose skin ( dr says its as good as it will ever be again short of surgery which I'm not doing ) from babies and my breasts sagging , the general aging ...
A. 22 February 2015: I agree with Ciar.
He doesn't WANT to be alone, but haven't found someone else who will HAVE him, so he is hoping some "groveling" will make you take him back.
And I think you are considering it, partly out of familiarity (he is someone you a... (read in full...)
Christians, four months dating, and 23 year age difference. He keeps talking marriage.
Q. My question is about how age gap relationships work long term. I am 26 and my other half is 49, we are both Christians and enjoy spending time with each other. Weither we are dating or working for the Church he is a full time Evangelist so his life ...
A. 22 February 2015: 4 months is WAY to early to talk marriage -age gap or no age gap.
Considering that he HAS already lived a LOT and thus is now ready for settling down, he presumes that you SHOULD be ready too. What he MAY not really understand it, that YOU have... (read in full...)
How do I explain to his parents why mine wont be at the wedding?
Q. I haven't ever really been close to my parents, and I left home as soon as I could aged 16. I moved away from my hometown 4 years ago and haven't really seen my parents other then family parties ever since. I guess a lot of it is my bad relations...
A. 22 February 2015: I would be honest with your in-laws. Auntie Bim Bim put it pretty well.
There is nothing to be ashamed off. You did what was right for YOU. Now they may not totally get it, but hopefully them hearing the truth will have them stop asking and acce... (read in full...)
He gets mad over the small things?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. I love him dearly but I'm starting to get fed up.. I go home a lot near tears or just in disarray because of his yelling and stuff. An example of this is when he had locked himself in his ...
A. 22 February 2015: It seems to me that you two fail at communicating with each other. A guy who LOCKS himself in his room because he is MAD at his GF has anger issues and is trying to AVOID escalating an argument into.. violence or MORE arguments.
You on the othe... (read in full...)
My mom is an attention whore on the beach and it botherd me!
Q. My mom likes to wear skimpy bikinis to the beach! Ok so this has been going on my whole life but now that I'm beginning to mature it's starting to matter to me. My mom wear's the smallest bikinis in the world it seems even when we are going as a f...
A. 21 February 2015: You mom isn't a "you know" (as you put it) She just ISN'T an old frump either.
If she has the body, why hate? If she IS OK with flaunting her body, why hate?
You would rather she stays at home and hides herself from life? Or maybe wear a mu-... (read in full...)
Unavailable and attached....so why do I attract and seem to be drawn to such men? How can I break this cycle?
Q. I need help trying to explain why I only seem to attract, or focus on unavailable men. I am young, and I am seeing an older man, who is married with children. I was seeing a married man, yes this is unethical, and goes beyond values that I though...
A. 20 February 2015: I think it's AMAZING how HE made the affair and "break up" all about it being YOUR fault.
He didn't want to worry about you maybe CHEATING on him.. Seriously? He IS the married party so maybe he KNOWS ALL about cheating...
He felt by giving y... (read in full...)
He says he'll end it if I abort the pregnancy
Q. pls guys i need ur help, i am 23 nd my boyfrnd is 27 we have been dating for about 3yrs now, we love each other so much, he has promised to marry me nd we dont have any problem. He is into a very good biznes, nd i am currently working. We both ...
A. 20 February 2015: I agree with Anon Female, who said:
"I personally would not want to be in a relationship with a man who did not, ultimately, allow me to make the choice of whether to have a baby with MY body or not."
This IS a choice YOU ultimately will ... (read in full...)
So many broken promises from my Bf. After 4.5 years how do I break up with him?
Q. Modnote: some graphic language removed from post, without changing the meaning. . . . . . . . . . . I am so sick of the rubbish that comes out of my boyfriend's mouth. I'm at my breaking point and want OUT of this relationship. I'm miserable with h...
A. 20 February 2015: So saying to him enough is enough, I'm done. Done with broken promises, lies and halfass attempts.. I wish you well, good luck and I'm going to go no contact... so, don't call, don't text, don't show up. I AM DONE.
It's OK to get fed up and d... (read in full...)
Why do men expect women to be shaved down below? Porn?
Q. I'm out of a twenty year marriage so the last time I dates was some years ago. Since being single again it seems most men now expect or want women to be shaved down below. What's going on? I don't remember this ever being a request or even a prefer...
A. 20 February 2015: ******So_Very_Confused United States + ?, writes (20 February 2015):
It's not about hygiene at all. A person can have a full bush and still be cleaner than someone who shaves or trims.****
EXACTLY. but the ignorant notion of the MALE anon bel... (read in full...)
Aside from telling his ex to really stop it, what else can we do to make stop calling him?
Q. Dear Aunties and Uncles, I've posted here before about my boyfriend's ex who has been contacting him on a regular basis. It started with her grandmother being in the hospital in October, then her grandmother's passing in November - my boyfrien...
A. 20 February 2015: Well, it DOES complicate matter that they made this "pact" however, IF what she is doing is DETRIMENTAL to YOUR relationship, should YOUR relationship NOT supersede a "promise"? So many people make promises like that, that they WANT to keep (in the ... (read in full...)
So many broken promises from my Bf. After 4.5 years how do I break up with him?
Q. Modnote: some graphic language removed from post, without changing the meaning. . . . . . . . . . . I am so sick of the rubbish that comes out of my boyfriend's mouth. I'm at my breaking point and want OUT of this relationship. I'm miserable with h...
A. 20 February 2015: I guess the "not calling" every night is minor issue, but the latest "straw". He seems like one of those guys who LIKES to make all kind of promises, but doesn't follow through and if this is just the latest of his promises he hasn't kept, then END ... (read in full...)
Aside from telling his ex to really stop it, what else can we do to make stop calling him?
Q. Dear Aunties and Uncles, I've posted here before about my boyfriend's ex who has been contacting him on a regular basis. It started with her grandmother being in the hospital in October, then her grandmother's passing in November - my boyfrien...
A. 20 February 2015: He can just get a new phone number or BLOCK her number. Personally, I'd go with the new number, because if he blocks HER number she can just use a friend's phone.
However, this is your BF's ISSUE that HE has to deal with.
... (read in full...)
Why do men expect women to be shaved down below? Porn?
Q. I'm out of a twenty year marriage so the last time I dates was some years ago. Since being single again it seems most men now expect or want women to be shaved down below. What's going on? I don't remember this ever being a request or even a prefer...
A. 20 February 2015: I agree, both porn and general society are an influence. Images of female genitalia au naturel are now in a very small minority, and a large percentage of pornographic images show no hair at all. The partial or full removal of pubic hair in ... (read in full...)
How small is small for a man's penis if the man is 5 foot and 11 inches and 195 pounds?
Q. Hello everyone sorry to be the umpteenth guy asking this question but how small is small when it comes to penis size? Im 23 and have had sex with over 20 girls but its always been in the back of my head that I'm unproprtional and small. My size is ...
A. 20 February 2015: You ask if you should go for "less attractive" or the "hotties"...
You should STOP thinking with your dick.
The size of your penis means squat to a woman who CARES about you, and IF you can USE what you got (not just your penis) but mouth... (read in full...)
I told her I need some space and she's still texting me
Q. I recently told a friend how I felt about her, we became close friends and I started falling for her. She would send me text messages everyday and she would initiate it. She also did a few things that made me think she liked me. I talked to ...
A. 19 February 2015: I agree with WiseOwlE
If you don't want her to text you anymore, ask her not to.
Tell her when I said I needed a break I mean X days/week of non contact, hope you can understand and respect that.
Now if she DOESN'T feel free to either bloc... (read in full...)
Don't want to settle down yet. Should I be making more of an effort to find a partner and settle down?
Q. I'm 21 years old and don't feel ready to settle down for ages. I've been single my whole life (had a lot of things to deal with like an abusive family) and would rather be single right now too. Superficially society might consider me most physical...
A. 19 February 2015: Live your life as YOU see fit.
There isn't a cookie cutter mold for a happy life. What makes ONE person happy may not make the next one happy too.
YOU have to do what FEELS right for you.
At some point in time you will met someone who is ... (read in full...)
Married with kids. She is seeing other men. I love her dearly...but when is enough enough?
Q. Married with kids. I love her dearly...but when is enough enough? I would really appreciate insight from the outside looking in. I am going to be 100% truthful here. I have no reason not to…I just really want thoughts and advice based on my s...
A. 19 February 2015: She MUST be out of her mind!
You have shown WAY more compassion and adaptability then she deserves.
She HAS left the marriage, but she has EVERY intentions of wringing the last drops of "whatever she can get out of you.
I would FILE for LEGA... (read in full...)
Should I reach out to my rich grandfather for help?
Q. I don't come from a wealthy family. The only person in my whole family who has been well off is my grandfather. He's very rich. However, I rarely speak with him. He's a somewhat distant person from our family and I've always felt rather weird around ...
A. 19 February 2015: I wouldn't do it.
I just don't think it's the right thing to do. Take on another side job and KEEP sending out resumes for jobs YOU DO want to work.
If he was a big part of your life, I could see asking for a LOAN, but he is a virtual stranger... (read in full...)
How can I stop cum leaking out after sex?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now, but there is this thing thats been annoying me for some time now... Whenever my boyfriend cums in me after sex, it never like stays in me. Whenever I stand up I can feel it leak out, especial...
A. 19 February 2015: Do you vagina isn't a bottomless pit.
BLAME gravity...
Common sense dictate that it will LEAK out. What you do is get up after sex, go pee and clean yourself up. That way you can also lower the chance of UTI's.
Or have a box of tissues at... (read in full...)
I've been seeing him for six months but he won't show me his home
Q. I meet a guy for the past six month now,he's an engineer,and and i'm begining to fall in love with him,but the problem is i don't know his house,we stay 2geda in hotel sometimes,and i have asked him several times his house,but he kept on telling ...
A. 19 February 2015: He sees you at hotels? THAT screams MARRIED!
And he said he is staying with family and doesn't need disturbance? So he SEES you as disturbance?
Sounds weird.... (read in full...)
Do I answer her or not? She messages me, I ignore her. She keeps messaging. How to get her to stop?
Q. Do I answer to this girl or not. We were family friends and became closer two years ago and at first she thought I was a player but as we got closer realized that I was far from it. I was trying to go from a "nice guy" to a jerk and she told me not ...
A. 19 February 2015: BLOCK her number. It's really THAT easy, OR get a new number.
At the gathering if she starts being friendly - say hello and walk away, then you just ignore her the rest of the time, talk to other people, enjoy yourself. YOU do not owe her squat. B... (read in full...)
I told her I need some space and she's still texting me
Q. I recently told a friend how I felt about her, we became close friends and I started falling for her. She would send me text messages everyday and she would initiate it. She also did a few things that made me think she liked me. I talked to ...
A. 19 February 2015: For her texting daily is "normal" for friends to do. She (I guess) felt 3 days was plenty of space.
My guess is, SHE doesn't really CARE that you went out on a limb and fessed up your feelings. SHE still wants you as HER friend. She wants to make ... (read in full...)
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