An I over-reacting? My boy friend wants to spend some quality time with each of his children.
Q. Ok so I really need some advice... I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years and he has two kids ages 12 and 10 from a previous marriage... he's a wonderful father and that's one of the many reasons I fell in love with him, well anyway...
A. 13 May 2015: If you don't think it's fair, TALK to your BF. There is much else you can do.
I still think taking HIS kids camping is what a decent Dad would do. It's summer vacation for the kids.
YOUR 2 year old is not really missing out on the camping. Per... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to send his Mom flowers? My Bf's family treat poorly and bully me.
Q. I have been in a relationship,three years. my boyfriend's family hates me, no overplay on the word, hate; believe me, I wish I was. His sisters bully me at every opportunity they get. BTW, I am not young, I am in my 50's. I have no family ...
A. 11 May 2015: You have to DO what's RIGHT for you and you certainly can't live around a guy trying to please his family.
I honestly think you are better off WITHOUT all the drama that comes with this guy.
Good luck and CHIN UP!... (read in full...)
An I over-reacting? My boy friend wants to spend some quality time with each of his children.
Q. Ok so I really need some advice... I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years and he has two kids ages 12 and 10 from a previous marriage... he's a wonderful father and that's one of the many reasons I fell in love with him, well anyway...
A. 9 May 2015: I agree with CodeWarrior
Wouldn't be the first time a story changes because they are not getting the "advice" they want to hear.
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Where do I stand with this guy? He didn't ask me out after our third date.
Q. Hello All, I have been talking to this guy from work almost 3 weeks. On our 2nd date, I made a mistake bringing it up where was his craziest place to have sex? Since that time he started to text me that he wants to hold me ... Etc Last w...
A. 9 May 2015: My guess?
He was looking to get laid and ready to give it a 3 "dates" effort, but when you said no, he figured you wouldn't be an easy lay after all, hence the looking for another girl (getting phone numbers).
Sorry, but I would NOT contac... (read in full...)
An I over-reacting? My boy friend wants to spend some quality time with each of his children.
Q. Ok so I really need some advice... I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years and he has two kids ages 12 and 10 from a previous marriage... he's a wonderful father and that's one of the many reasons I fell in love with him, well anyway...
A. 9 May 2015: Ah, I see where this is leading.
Instead of this being about you not liking it, now it's your son.
How old is he?
And WHY can you not take the opportunity to have some one-on-one time with YOUR son? Honestly, why not jump at the chance o... (read in full...)
His behavior toward my belongings was vindictive and unstable. I think I am being emotionally abused!
Q. I think I am being emotionally abused. I have been on and off again with my boyfriend of 2 years. He's acted out , mostly when drunk. I have gotten really mad, broken up with him twice, and he always begs forgiveness , promises to change and then ...
A. 9 May 2015: Going by MANY posts on here with women who are with abusive men, they mention having a connection like no other. And here in lies the problem. These MEN (and women who are like that too) have an ability to make their partner feel OH SO special when ... (read in full...)
An I over-reacting? My boy friend wants to spend some quality time with each of his children.
Q. Ok so I really need some advice... I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years and he has two kids ages 12 and 10 from a previous marriage... he's a wonderful father and that's one of the many reasons I fell in love with him, well anyway...
A. 9 May 2015: What is it you don't understand?
That his kids are a priority in his life? Or that he wants to spend some solo time with them?
If you don't understand it, TALK to him.
As for not having a car, year I get that it would be sucky to be stu... (read in full...)
His behavior toward my belongings was vindictive and unstable. I think I am being emotionally abused!
Q. I think I am being emotionally abused. I have been on and off again with my boyfriend of 2 years. He's acted out , mostly when drunk. I have gotten really mad, broken up with him twice, and he always begs forgiveness , promises to change and then ...
A. 9 May 2015: Why does he do it?
To keep you around. Or because in a sick little twisted corner of his mind he ACTUALLY doesn't SEE the problem with his behavior, but he knows that if he does something hurtful, mean or stupid.. ALL he has to do is FAKE remorse,... (read in full...)
If we can't be honest then why are we dating?
Q. So I have been seeing this guy for a few months and things are okay. He seems to do more with his friends then with me. We won't talk or text for a full day then out of the blue he'll text me and want to hang out. We'll hang out then he'll casually ...
A. 9 May 2015: So you have been "hanging out" for a couple of months and you feel he is being shady and rather spend time with friends than you.. so maybe it's time to let him go on his merry way and you find a guy who wants to DATE you and spend TIME with you.
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My guy never wants sex yet he's always using porn. Is it ok for me to cheat?
Q. Hello well i love sex who doesn't. MY MAN that's who we never have sex his always tired body hurts not to mention he doesn't take any notice when i dress up get my hair and nails done.when I'm out he is constantly watching porn like all the time ...
A. 8 May 2015: I would say YES, it's wrong to cheat.
WHY stay WITH him if he isn't making you happy? There is NO ONE making you stay with him. Dump him and move on to a guy who WANTS to have sex and wants to BE with you.
How is cheating going to fix a damned ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex-boyfriend think he can have it both ways?
Q. Why does my ex-boyfriend think he can have it both ways??He is still calling on occasion which after the phone calls I only feel worse and now he wants to get together for sex. I admit I was weak and suggested it and we did where I spent the night. ...
A. 8 May 2015: He wants someone to have sex with and make him feel less lonely.
That would be my guess, specially if he doesn't want you to come out and measure for these curtain, but you can come out for sex. IF he had wanted to STILL be with you, you would ha... (read in full...)
Is it inappropriate for my boyfriend to give his number to other women?
Q. Is it appropriate for my boyfriend to continuously accept other girls numbers and/or give his number out to other women? I'm in a long term relationship and I've noticed that my boyfriend has done this several times through out the course of ou...
A. 8 May 2015: Unless he is networking for a hobby or work, there really is NO good reason for him to give out his number to other girls. And to do it right in front of you? that is bold. It's a two part statement in my book, 1: you can be replaced in a heartbeat ... (read in full...)
An I over-reacting? My boy friend wants to spend some quality time with each of his children.
Q. Ok so I really need some advice... I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years and he has two kids ages 12 and 10 from a previous marriage... he's a wonderful father and that's one of the many reasons I fell in love with him, well anyway...
A. 8 May 2015: I think he is doing this MORE for the kids then for himself. THEY might WANT/NEED some one-on-one time with their dad, that is not meant to INSULT you or EXCLUDE you, but I think it's a good thing for him to spend some solo-time with HIS kids.
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Part of me wants to be with her, and the other part of me doesn't want to mess up our current relationship as friends. What do I do?
Q. Hey guys (and gals). Short sweet and to the point. I've known this girl for a pretty long time, and we're awesome friends. We make eachother happy all the time, and even cuddle and shit like that. But... I've been caught up in having romantic ...
A. 8 May 2015: I'd hold back a while longer and cut down on the "cuddling" a tad.
At LEAST till you are GOOD and over the ex. It IS not fair on this friend to (even if not intended)to use her as a "GF substitute" because you are trying to get over a bad break up... (read in full...)
My ex dumped me for another women. What can I do to stop thinking about the situation & being jealous of her?
Q. My ex fell out with me and dumped me for another woman who is still a friend of mine on Facebook. I know he was seeing her before we fell out - hence the argument - although she always maintained she didn't know we were still together. Howeve...
A. 8 May 2015: WHY be jealous of HER?
She didn't WON some great prize, she ended UP with a CHEATING guy (your now ex).
HE was SEEING her AND you. What a SCUZBALL! And you want him back? Whatever for?
Look, at some point in the NOT so distant future HE... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend is crossing boundaries in helping his female friend. Do I have a right to be concerned?
Q. Here's my situation. My boyfriend has been helping his female friend for the past week or so because she is going through a break up and child custody issues. Which is fine except I feel like he's crossing boundaries a little bit. He's been talk...
A. 8 May 2015: I think unless he has PREVIOUS experience in these matter, or he knows how custody issues work, HE can't really help her PAST being a shoulder to cry on. And THAT can easily lead to comfort and whoops...
Now HE may JUST be a GOOD friend. He may n... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to send his Mom flowers? My Bf's family treat poorly and bully me.
Q. I have been in a relationship,three years. my boyfriend's family hates me, no overplay on the word, hate; believe me, I wish I was. His sisters bully me at every opportunity they get. BTW, I am not young, I am in my 50's. I have no family ...
A. 8 May 2015: I'm glad the mom called and thanked you. That means She understood your gesture as a nice one.
As for the sister? Whew! she sounds like someone who has so many issues and someone who refuses to take responsibility for her own actions.
I think... (read in full...)
My ex makes me doubt myself and feel worthless, but I still have to see him because of our child!
Q. I have recently came out of a five year relationship and we have a child together. However we came to an arrangment of him having our child, but lately he turns up whenever he feels like it and chooses the days that suit him and not me. I don't ...
A. 8 May 2015: What you DO is go through Child maintenance and set up a visitation schedule. THEN have HIM pick the child up at your mom's or his mom, that way you DO NOT have to continue to take his abuse.
My guess is, HE is MAD that he can no longer control,... (read in full...)
His behavior toward my belongings was vindictive and unstable. I think I am being emotionally abused!
Q. I think I am being emotionally abused. I have been on and off again with my boyfriend of 2 years. He's acted out , mostly when drunk. I have gotten really mad, broken up with him twice, and he always begs forgiveness , promises to change and then ...
A. 8 May 2015: I have to agree with Cindy (as usual) You NEED to be the one to make the next move. GET OFF the carousel. You two go round and round and NOTHING G changes.
He keeps making promises, yet... he reverts back TO who he really is. An angry and vindicti... (read in full...)
Why does my ex-boyfriend think he can have it both ways?
Q. Why does my ex-boyfriend think he can have it both ways??He is still calling on occasion which after the phone calls I only feel worse and now he wants to get together for sex. I admit I was weak and suggested it and we did where I spent the night. ...
A. 8 May 2015: I'm with Sage on this... WHY does he think he can have it both ways? ...
BECAUSE YOU LET HIM!!
So, BLOCK and delete his number, if she still manages to get hold of you you tell him to go kick rock.
YOU are not some innocent "victim" here..... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to send his Mom flowers? My Bf's family treat poorly and bully me.
Q. I have been in a relationship,three years. my boyfriend's family hates me, no overplay on the word, hate; believe me, I wish I was. His sisters bully me at every opportunity they get. BTW, I am not young, I am in my 50's. I have no family ...
A. 7 May 2015: Nope, I think you DID a VERY sweet thing in sending her flowers. IF the woman and the rest of the family can't appreciate that, well SCREW them!
You sent your MIL flowers for Mother's Day in good faith and as a nice gesture - they CAN and WILL tak... (read in full...)
Do you think A's intentions are towards me are likely to lead to where?
Q. Ok, I'm not sure where to start here but please bare with me. I have been in an emotionally abusive/controlling/difficult relationship for 6yrs. I have tried to separate from my husband several times, I don't love him, I am not happy with him. H...
A. 7 May 2015: My advice?
CUT off "A". What you are doing IS cheating, it's an EMOTIONAL affair (at least from your side, not sure on his) nothing GOOD can come from it. YOU are using A as an escapism from your bad marriage and dull life, he... is using you ( I ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my father to stay out of my business and let me live my life?
Q. Hi everyone hope I can get some advice tonight. I am a full time student and I live with my father who is retired. I moved in with him approximately 9 months ago because his residence is very close to my campus. I don't kmow how to say this wit...
A. 7 May 2015: My guess is HE still sees you as his "little girl" and the fact that you moved back home might also make him think you can't quite handle it "out there" on your own, THUS are in NEED of guidance.
His comments about your BF and clothes are mostly b... (read in full...)
I think I want time to myself for a bit so I can be me, not have to answer to no one as I cant go anywhere without telling someone!
Q. Me and my other half have been in a relationship for 10 years, I'm 26 and he's 31, we have 2 kids together, he also has 3 from a previous relationship! I have recently started up my own business and I am also studying at the moment which is very ...
A. 7 May 2015: I agree with Auntie Bim Bim
It's a LITTLE too late to decide you want to be "yourself" after having put two kids into the world. Your kids should BE your priority.
My guess is you are a LITTLE overwhelmed with you current schedule and thu... (read in full...)
Why leave a good woman for someone who doesn't care for you??
Q. My ex bf of 3mths now has been texting me lately. we were together for a year. My girlfriend said that he's messing around with an old fling he had before him and I got together. She hits him...like, she's abusive and controlling And she put her ...
A. 7 May 2015: Honestly, as MUCH as I detest violence in relationships HE is making this choice, you can't DO that for him even if all you want is for him to be happy and safe.
I agree with LikeIseeit, he isn't really ready for a FULL relationship and used the... (read in full...)
How can I saw no without causing offence? Should family be putting this pressure on me, hinting that they want to come to stay?
Q. I broke up with my partner and live alone. I am not lonely and am enjoying my freedom. I work a lot of week ends. Since I have been single I have had strong suggestions from close family and friends for them to come and stay, with diaries ope...
A. 7 May 2015: I would find some NICE (but affordable) B&B, hotels in the areas and pass along the details whenever they ask.
I'd politely "ignore" the HINTS, unless they request staying WITH you, then I would just be honest and tell them you don't have room or ... (read in full...)
My bf wants me to come out but I feel that I can't!
Q. So I'll try to make this post as short as possible. I'm 31 years old gay guy ! I live a very conservative city , I work as an academic staff in a University. I'm in love with a young 23 years guy We have a very strong relationship (8 months )...
A. 7 May 2015: He wants to SHOW the world that you aren't ashamed of him or being gay, but... he may not fully comprehend that your PERSONAL SEX-LIFE is something you want to keep private due to your job and the small town you live in.
I think it's hard for anyo... (read in full...)
Could we be together again? Does she really want to just stay friends after all that's happened?
Q. Hello Everyone I'm coming to you for some help on if there's any hope for me and the girl I'm in love with. To try and make a long story short about a year ago I was engaged and that girl ended up leaving me, I bottled those emotions up which ...
A. 7 May 2015: Dude! 3 times you MESSED up. 3 times!
I think the BEST thing you can do for this girl is GTFO her life (sorry to be harsh). But a PERSON can only take so much crap for so long, before they decide they are wasting their time..
I'm sorry you... (read in full...)
How to avoid conflict with someone who does evrything to provoke one?
Q. I love my mother-in-law. She has great qualities. Being a good mother is not among them. Repeating a bad relationship she had with her father, she created one with her husband (who's no angel by any means) and in the end one with her son. She simply ...
A. 7 May 2015: I think the reason she was/is a sucktastic mother is because she puts herself first ALWAYS. THAT is just who she is.
Like the parents who complain about how they can't DO anything because children are expensive.... Well, the kids didn't just sho... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lied about hanging out with a group of female friends. Do I dump him or not?
Q. My boyfriend lied and told me he had to work all day and he ended up instead going to a beer festival thing with a group of female friends he has . Should I dump him for lying ? I don't understand why he didn't tell me or why I was not invited ? His ...
A. 7 May 2015: Why not simply ask him why you weren't invited? And I would also have a conversation about lying (or omitting the truth).
My guess is... he DIDN'T want you there. IF so, he should have been honest anyways. HE should be able to do things with his... (read in full...)
How to avoid conflict with someone who does evrything to provoke one?
Q. I love my mother-in-law. She has great qualities. Being a good mother is not among them. Repeating a bad relationship she had with her father, she created one with her husband (who's no angel by any means) and in the end one with her son. She simply ...
A. 6 May 2015: KILL her with kindness.
If she complain about stuff you got for her, suggest she saves up and buy JUST what she wants, and LEAVE it at that. DO NOT take it personal.
I think PART of her behavior is due to her life and part of it is some reall... (read in full...)
I think my Father is making a huge mistake! There is red flag after red flag with her!
Q. My Father is making a huge mistake. My Mom died over 12yrs ago and my Father has remained single for the most part. He is now in his 70's and met a woman 30 yrs younger. She is actually only a few months younger than my oldest brother. I ...
A. 6 May 2015: Your dad is a grown man. He has to find someone that makes HIM happy, not one that makes his kids happy. (though both would be great too).
I'd say unless he asks, I would respect his choice, even IF she isn't whom you would want him to date. BU... (read in full...)
If we split up I would be completely alone as all my friends live far away. What should I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for four years and I worry that were no longer compatible together anymore. We are doing completely different things, he is in university and I work full time. I do get frustrated when every day he doesn’t get up t...
A. 6 May 2015: So according to YOUR logic it's better to stay with someone you have outgrown? The better the devil you know? That because he was your first in a lot of respects you are now STUCK with him, no matter how unhappy you may feel? YOU are 20, not 95!
... (read in full...)
Is it sex that he's after, or am I just projecting my past experiences onto this courtship?,
Q. I had a second date with this guy I met online and he's pressuring me to invite him to my place. I don't know him, so I said no. He was very persistent, and said he's not looking for sex. Anyway, I didn't let him in, but needless to say, I didn'...
A. 6 May 2015: Go with your gut instinct. There IS not need for him to come to your place or you to his until you FEEL you are comfortable around him.
I would honestly NOT like if someone tried to PUSH me into letting them into my home. While being persiste... (read in full...)
Is he telling lies too? He is calling me a liar about changinng my mind
Q. Okay I have a simple yet complex question. My boyfriend and I were arguing and he was calling me out for having said that I used to think my boyfriend was well endowed and once I got with him, my thoughts on that changed. Whether that makes sense or...
A. 6 May 2015: You both have a LOT to learn when it comes to relationships. Comparing your partner or yourself (or his/her body parts) to an ex is ridiculous, petty and hurtful.
And it's something you can't really take back.
While I DO get what you BF said... (read in full...)
Would girls laugh and blow kisses to someone don't know, but they do find that person to be attractive, to them?
Q. Interesting scenario and am interested in hearing thoughts. There is this guy I know who us girls find cute/good looking. I saw him trying to drive out of a parking bay at the side of the street. He was blocked by bit of a jam of cars coming t...
A. 6 May 2015: I'm with Cindy - it wasn't because they GUSHING over his good looks.. It's was a tongue in cheek middle finger.
My guess is, they DO know him.
Another guess? THEY were making sure they got his attention. Blocking him in leaves him STUCK right ... (read in full...)
Is there any thing wrong with me? He cheated on me so often. I cannot trust him any more.
Q. I apologize in advance for the length of this post. I dated a guy for about 9 months long distance. We met online and for the first 2-3 months we would spend 8-10 hours a day talking and skyping. Being in person together felt right and we got...
A. 6 May 2015: Ah one of THOSE guys....
My advice drop him and do it fast.
YES, you shouldn't have gone through his phone, no matter how much you had a "feeling". You should have TRUSTED that gut feeling and left.
He wanted ALL the details of YOUR previous... (read in full...)
I still have feelings for a past hookup, but he's a player and I don't want to get hurt!
Q. Please help i am really confused! Last year during the summer season I had a bit of a thing with a guy I work with it was just sex and i knew that there was nothing more in it and i stopped it in the end as i felt i was beginning to have feelings ...
A. 6 May 2015: It's not your heart wanting to be with him.... It's a bit lower.. like your libido.
LISTEN to your head and USE common sense. YOU already know what kind of guy he is. HE isn't going to change, nor will he become this super guy "if only" you care... (read in full...)
I get separation anxiety. My Bf is about to be posted overseas. Should I wait for him or breakup now?
Q. I am a 36 year old woman and my boyfriend is 29. We have been dating for 1 year and we have agreed to register for marriage in August. I feel that I am the one who pushed for it and we agreed August for practical reasons as my sister who lives ab...
A. 5 May 2015: I think you are putting WAY to much pressure on him to BE the MAN you want. Why do I say that? Because YOU write:
"I am just desperate for a settled family life."
THAT isn't FAIR that because you WANT everything RIGHT now, he should WANT that as... (read in full...)
I'd like to hint to her that I think she's hot. How do I bring up the idea of maybe going for a drink?
Q. So I am a closeted bi sexual girl, and am really attracted to this girl at work. I was speaking about this girl to a work colleague who told me she was gay, however I really don't know if she fancies me, or what to say to her to make it seem tha...
A. 5 May 2015: I would ask her out for a drink and see where it takes you. I wouldn't be TOO Captain Obvious about the fact that you find her hot. Just ask her out, see if she bites.
If she does, GET to know her. SHE might think you are just wanting a female f... (read in full...)
Every man I've ever been involved with has sought out porn featuring women who look different than me!
Q. Why does every man I'm with seem to prefer the typical porn star look to me . Without fail every man I've ever been involved with has sought out potn Witb womrn who are compeltely different to me , usually young and blonde and thin I'm pretty s...
A. 5 May 2015: Have you considered that he DOESN'T choose women who looks like you because HE doesn't want to "degrade" you? For some men they want their partner/spouse to be this "Madonna" type but they LIKE to watch "sleazy" porn stars when it comes to porn.
... (read in full...)
She is refusing to face financial facts and is moving back home to her parents
Q. How can me and my fiancée come to an agreement? She's lived with me in a house I own and I knew she had some debts so I sat down with her to help sort them out. Around £20,000 in debt including car payments. She has 3 horses which cost her around £...
A. 5 May 2015: I'm sorry it didn't work out the way you wanted it too. However, you CAN look back and know that you DID TRY. You didn't just toss in the towel.
Competing in dressage is EXPENSIVE, I have a couple of cousins who (when they were younger) competed... (read in full...)
Despite my initial good feelings about him: should I just cut my losses and move on, or actually try to make him reconsider?
Q. Three weeks ago, I met a man on an online dating site. We have a very strong connection and started dating, even though we live an hour and a half from each other. For the first time I actually felt really comfortable around a man, and let down my ...
A. 5 May 2015: 3 weeks and he goes through your phone? Yes, I think you should cut your losses, and thank you lucky stars!
I DO think agreeing to one thing and then changing your mind, deciding to omit the truth is SHADY of you. And NOT a good way AT ALL to s... (read in full...)
He smothers me and I no longer feel butterflies when we talk. Is it time to end this LDR?
Q. So,this guy and I had been dating off and on for a few years now. We recently got back together, though I think it was out of pity for him. He's very clingy, and he smothers me a bit. We're in a long distance relationship, so we don't talk as much ...
A. 5 May 2015: LDR doesn't work unless there is a COMMON GOAL to BE together geographically and physically at some point, otherwise it's more of a online FWB/pen-pal relationship.
It seem you are OVER this relationship, so yes you should end it. It's HARDLY f... (read in full...)
She is refusing to face financial facts and is moving back home to her parents
Q. How can me and my fiancée come to an agreement? She's lived with me in a house I own and I knew she had some debts so I sat down with her to help sort them out. Around £20,000 in debt including car payments. She has 3 horses which cost her around £...
A. 10 June 2014: I think you are being spot on, actually.
600 for 3 horses is cutting it at the low end. Farriers, feed, stabling maybe but then you have the emergency vet fund (and hopefully insurance on the horses too) and with all that i can definitely run well... (read in full...)
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