We argue every single day! Is this healthy?
Q. Hi, I am in a relationship with my partner for over 2 years,he loves me to death and I can see it in his eyes,the way he looks at me and cares for me!but I have one issue we argue a lot like every single day and most of the times he apologis...
A. 17 May 2015: Since it' mainly PETTY stuff you two argue about, maybe you need to consider having a chat about it.
Like, LEARN how to "pick a battle" and how to "NOT sweat the small stuff" - like (taking one of your examples) IF you have PRIVATE stuff at your ... (read in full...)
What am I to do about this flakey friend?
Q. At the beginning of this year, I starting getting on and becoming best friends with someone I had previously been best friends with. However, before this time we'd drifted apart a bit and weren't in each others' lives that much, so the friendship ...
A. 17 May 2015: I have to agree with Ciar and Cindy too.
YOU are USING this person as your personal therapist. Wanting to SHARE big and VERY personal issues might be a BIT over the top for her. It might be why she pulls back constantly. SHE is simply overwhel... (read in full...)
I've lost interest in sex after the birth of our first child. Is this normal?
Q. Hey, i need to know if it's normal to lose all interest in sex when you have a baby, as it's becoming an issue btwn me and my fiancee. We've been together 2yrs, very happy, engaged and live together. Usually sex was fun, satisfying spontane...
A. 17 May 2015: I think it is natural. You haven't adjusted to your "new body". Your body does change a bit after giving birth, that is just how it is. As for sore boobs, well I can see why you don't want them touched during sex + if you are still breastfeeding ... (read in full...)
I've recently become a bit jealous of my boyfriend's friend with other women
Q. Hello peops I'm not generally a jealous person, but for some reason for the past couple of months I've been getting a little jealous quite easily with my boyfriend. For example he's moving in next year with a mutual friend of ours and I sud...
A. 17 May 2015: I agree with Auntie "like I see it" - WHY is he planning to move in with a female friend over his GF of 2 years?
But back to the jealousy issue, I think it really boils down to YOUR own insecurities, and not really him. IF you constantly compare ... (read in full...)
I've become suspicious of my husband and my best friend
Q. Hi there! I'm new here and I have a question about my best friend and my husband. I have been with my husband for over a year, and my best friend and he have known each other for about six months of that time. Over the course of their friendship...
A. 17 May 2015: It does sound iffy and I'd cut this "best friend" off at least for a while.
What I don't get is that your husband didn't "claim" nothing was going on, but he just blocked her and then deactivated the FB?
Have you talked to him (without making ... (read in full...)
Always young and physically perfect: Why do the porn mags and sites predominately use these type of women?
Q. Lots of questions from women worried that they don't meet mens beauty standards and the usual answers say something along the lines of men are forgiving of flaws, women are their own worst enemies etc But when one looks at the images men consume ...
A. 17 May 2015: Porn is a business. It makes money selling fake. Fake sex, fake enjoyment, fake bodies, fake sets.. fake (well, everything). If you had a shop that baked cakes, would you put your "average" cake on display in the window to draw people in OR would ... (read in full...)
We argue every single day! Is this healthy?
Q. Hi, I am in a relationship with my partner for over 2 years,he loves me to death and I can see it in his eyes,the way he looks at me and cares for me!but I have one issue we argue a lot like every single day and most of the times he apologis...
A. 17 May 2015: Arguing EVERY day? No, not healthy - but it doesn't MEAN you guys can't fix it.
WHAT do you two argue over? Is it petty things? He said, she said things? Is it difference in opinions? (like religious or political, those subject ALWAYS gets peo... (read in full...)
I can't talk to him about how I feel I'm raising our daughters alone!
Q. Hello everyone I've been with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years we have 2 daughters lately I have been feeling like I'm a inconvenience to him we don't live together he doesn't want to live together yet or get married he goes to work drives over ...
A. 17 May 2015: Why did you have kids with this man? I mean BEFORE you even lived together, let alone got married or had SOME kind of commitment?
His view (if I guess correctly) is that it worked before you got pregnant, while you were pregnant and after baby #1.... (read in full...)
Should a guy pay on a date?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for awhile. We've 'hung out' lots of times, but since we hadn't admitted we liked each other during those hangouts, it was like a friend thing and I always paid for myself. Even when I borrowed a few dollars for bus money ...
A. 17 May 2015: I think sticking to 50/50 (or your own cost) is FINE, even when you date someone. I do think if he invited you our for your birthday or Valentine's that HE should pay (ditto for you if YOU made the invite and plans). If you can afford your share, ... (read in full...)
Are stretch marks a turn off for men?
Q. Dear Cupid, are stretch marks a turn off to men? I'm a woman who is very tall at 6 foot 1. I went through a huge growth spurt in my mid teens which gave me a huge set of stretch marks on the middle of my back. I mean there's a lot of them. The...
A. 16 May 2015: Bio oils are good for fading stretch marks too.
I agree with the anon male who said there is 6 foot 1 inch of you to know and love - the stretchmarks shouldn't be important.
If a guy has problems with stretch marks (btw guys get them too) th... (read in full...)
How to cope with a girlfriend who cheated on you and then left you for someone else?
Q. How to cope with a girlfriend who cheated on you and then left you for someone else? Please help. I was with my ex and I thought everything was great. She blindsided me by cheating. Before I found out about it, she broke up with me what felt lik...
A. 16 May 2015: I agree fully with WiseOwlE
It may not seem like RIGHT NOW, but you REALLY DODGED a bullet here. Imagine having married her, having had kids and THEN she pulled this number?
She is messed up and selfish. WHY would you want to be with someone ... (read in full...)
Why do I find it harder to trust my married BF even after 2 years together?
Q. I've been with a married man for 2 years. Been here before. I find that after this long, it is harder for me to TRUST him. Can anyone enlighten me as to WHY I am having a harder time after this long trusting him? I actually found that...
A. 16 May 2015: Where in all this "fairy tale" romance relationship does the wife fit on?
Have you EVER thought of that?
Have you ever considered that YOUR action (just like HIS) are HURTING someone who DOESN'T deserve this?
Or are you like so many other "... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 6 weeks still talking to his ex but has proposed to mr
Q. My boyfriend is still talking to his ex ! does he have the right to do this ? We started dating each other’s about 6 weeks ago, In the beginning we liked each other’s a lot, we could not get enough from each other . We used to meet constant...
A. 16 May 2015: Eh, dump him.
He is NOT done with the ex, you have ONLY been together for 6 week, DON'T waste more time on him.
A proposal means nothing and it is WAY too soon to propose after ONLY 6 weeks, that is ridiculous.
He wants his cake (you) and... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't want a relationship but acts like he's in love with me
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up 3 weeks ago but things are very confusing. He told me he doesn't want a relationship and doesn't want to be with me, but it's not because he doesn't have feelings for me. Since we broke up he's been making excuses t...
A. 16 May 2015: Don't have sex with him, don't cuddle or kiss. If he doesn't want to be with you, all he is doing now is PREVENTING you for getting over the break up and move on. He is USING the fact that YOU still want to get back together. So he can get some of ... (read in full...)
How do I dig myself out of the depressed hole I am in?
Q. How do I get over my self consciousness of my body . I'm nkt overweight but after having children things are not the same . There are sags and scars . I look around at the mens mags and online stuff that exes have enjoyed and see that I'm about as ...
A. 16 May 2015: Well, aging is natural, nothing you can do to stop it.
Comparing yourself to women half your age and whom have been airbrushed is NOT helping you either.
Having kids change you. Emotionally and physically. Again, it's natural, not much you can... (read in full...)
Am I going to look back and regret settling with a guy 16 years older than me?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm hoping to gain some advice away from the judgements of my family. I met a guy through my work who asked for my number, we text for quite sometime and found we had so many similar interests and outlooks- it kind of felt like f...
A. 16 May 2015: I would say YES! you will regret being with this guy NOT because of the age gap... but because of his behaviors.
YOU are young and haven't had much dating experience, so you may think that possessiveness and controlling attitude equals strong e... (read in full...)
Why do I find it harder to trust my married BF even after 2 years together?
Q. I've been with a married man for 2 years. Been here before. I find that after this long, it is harder for me to TRUST him. Can anyone enlighten me as to WHY I am having a harder time after this long trusting him? I actually found that...
A. 16 May 2015: Why do you find it hard to trust him? Because you CAN'T trust him.
A man who is WILLINGLY cheating on his wife, who is WILLINGLY lying to his wife (no matter his marital issues) will BE just as willing to LIE to you. To cheat on you.
To thin... (read in full...)
I'm at a loss as to why this non-committal man is now ignoring me!
Q. I am a bit confused and upset. I started to see a non committal man a while ago. Who kept changing his mind about what he wants. He decided he wanted a relationship then changed his mind. We still met up some weekends I stayed but was aware he ...
A. 16 May 2015: Let him go.
YOU want a guy to date, not fool around with so WHY settle for a "non-committal" fella, when it's NOT really what you want? Don't date someone hoping he will change his mind. It doesn't work that way. It's like buying a car without ... (read in full...)
Online guy I've been chatting with is missing his teeth and it turns me off. What should I do?
Q. Well I don't want to sound rude but want to know your thoughts and maybe some suggestions I met a guy online and we've been talking for about two months now. I really like him and he seems real nice so far. I would like to further our ...
A. 16 May 2015: TO aprilh
It sounds nice to say, date a person for what's on the inside... BUT EVERY single HUMAN being (and most animals) DO have certain turn on and turn off. It's biology.
IF you aren't physically attracted to someone, BE their friend if ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant but my anxieties and worries are stopping me from enjoying my pregnancy. What can I do about this?
Q. Hi everyone. My partner and I were thrilled to find out we are expecting a baby, after we had tried for quite a long time. I am now 15 weeks, and in the second trimester, and although I know that the risk of miscarriage is less likely now I cant ...
A. 15 May 2015: If someone brings up a horror story about miscarriages, tell them to stop OR walk away. YOU don't have to sit there and listen to that crap.
A miscarriage is a scary thing, but there are PLENTY of things to worry about.... if you want that sta... (read in full...)
Where am I going wrong with men? One bad experience after another (:
Q. Hi guys, short question (hopefully). Where am I going wrong with men???? I know I'm only young, but the majority of experiences I have had have been bad and the men have done me over. I know I'm quite a nice person I think I trust people so...
A. 15 May 2015: So you really only dated this cousin of a friend because PEOPLE suggested you should, you didn't feel an attraction?
I think your major mistake... is to sleep with someone BEFORE you really feel ready and before you really know the guy. You talk... (read in full...)
How do I get my lazy bf to clean up after him self?? Bitching hasn't helped.
Q. I've been dating my.boyfriend for over 2 years and we live together I'm 21 and he's 22. We used to have fun together, do stuff together, go everywhere together. But now all he does is sit at home stay in side and play his stupid video games. He don'...
A. 15 May 2015: Cut off the internet. I know that might not work... but it's a thought.
Have you ever asked him, hey while I vacuum can you take out the trash and clean the dishes? Instead of the bitching?
If you have.... I don't see this guy changing, y... (read in full...)
Could hormones be causing these feelings?
Q. In a bit of a dilemma here and hate feeling like this. I am pregnant with my second with a new partner have a three year old from previous who's dad does not bother with him. This man has been in our lives for two years but officiously together for ...
A. 15 May 2015: Ah, you have a 3 year old, who is a little insecure and unsure about what going to happen with the new baby - he is now HEDGING his bets with the BF to make SURE he is "number 1" still. 3 year olds are smart. And SELFISH. And manipulative.
Your ... (read in full...)
Dating 3 years, unexpected pregnancy but he says he will marry me when we are "ready"
Q. I need advice. I am 27 years old my BF is the Same Age. We have been in this relationship 3 years total and 1 1/2 year living together. We found our recently that we are expecting our first baby. It wasn't planned but we feel blessed and happy. ...
A. 15 May 2015: I have to agree, the guy is not quite ready for what he think is the biggest commitment in life, marriage. (though having kids is a FAR bigger one IMHO) And I think that he is being honest, he doesn't WANT to get married because you two got a ... (read in full...)
She asked me to do a project for her...after she already asked somebody else to do the same thing!
Q. Hi, I am a single male in NYC. I know this woman who is very pretty and married. Let's call her S. I guess you can say we are friendly acquaintances. She has done things which have offended me in the past, like planning to meet up and then canceli...
A. 15 May 2015: Well, spoiled dishonest idiot MIGHT have been over the top, if you ask me. No let me correct that.... I think you threw a tantrum a 3 year old would have been jealous off.
She didn't TELL you that YOU were the only one she had asked, you didn't A... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 15 May 2015: Again, I wouldn't wonder about his motives. WHO cares! That needs to be your attitude.
Cutting the contact is a good idea. No need to keep people in your life who doesn't BRING positive things or good friendship - I don't really think he can offe... (read in full...)
My old friends found out I got engaged and I am afraid to say ''yes'' I am to them
Q. I'm 20 soon to be 21. I had a hard time in school for 2 years because I got tangled into the wrong group of friends. I left school at the later than average age of 19 and a half because I done an extra year. The friends i had at the time were ...
A. 15 May 2015: I'd just cut these girls out of my life, if I were you. They treated you like crap, so WHY the NEED to keep them in your life?
TRIM the fat! Cut away the dead-weight!
Block, unfriend, delete the people who are NOT a positive influence in you... (read in full...)
Does my boyfriend think I'm fat?
Q. I'm worried my boyfriend thinks i'm fat. We're about the same height and he's quite a skinny guy. i'm 5"7 and weigh about 162lbs... i know that since we've got together i've put on a little weight -mainly on my belly, and i do feel a little s...
A. 15 May 2015: I think he is disappointed, NOT that you aren't loosing weight, but that you are not putting the EFFORT and work into making YOU happy. That you are making yourself MORE unhappy.
I think your BF is a good guy. He told you to join a gym if YOU were... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's place turns me off and I don't want to have sex with him
Q. Im struggling with my feelings toward my boyfriend of a little over a year. I feel we only see each other once a week at best, and its a dull patern of food, tv/movies, sex, sleep. I feel he doesn't listen to me talk and that we aren't really ...
A. 15 May 2015: Eww, He sounds like a total slob!
Which may be "normal" for many guys this age, specially all those momma-boys out there who NEVER did dishes or cleaned at home because mom took care of ALL the chores, so when they are out on their own.. they liv... (read in full...)
What am I doing so wrong that my girlfriend gets to treat me like crap?
Q. If someone could offer some advice right now i would be very greatful, it might be a little long. Basically we have been together nearly three years and things just arn't right at the moment. About four days ago i was asking about her day and f...
A. 15 May 2015: She TREATS you this way, because you allow it. She KNOWS that you CATER to her, accept her philandering behavior and you let her walk all over you, give you the silent treatment when you don't "behave" as she wants.
This isn't about what YOU are ... (read in full...)
Why is my cheating ex angry that I have moved on?
Q. This is just a general question. Why would an ex girlfriend who cheated and left you for someone else, get extremely mad when they discover you've moved on yourself? My ex cheated and played the back and forth game for weeks. One day, I was the love ...
A. 15 May 2015: She resents the fact that she has been replaced. She doesn't LIKE it. SHE is the ONE who replaces people, NOT you.
Why are you even still in contact with this one? She sounds like an utterly manipulative flake!
LET her go, bro.
Focus on... (read in full...)
He is no longer interested in me. Do I give up? Or try again?
Q. HELLO EVERYBODY!!! I'm just going to come straight out and say it. I had sex (several times) with a guy who I only now realise I really, really freaking liked. The sex wasn't fantastic (for some reason sex is never that great for me), but he clim...
A. 15 May 2015: You know, as MUCH time, effort and thoughts you put into this guy... YOU SHOULD really put into your school work. Failing your class over a FWB that didn't go as you had hoped for, is NOT smart - and you SEEM smart otherwise. So wise up, girlie!
... (read in full...)
Online guy I've been chatting with is missing his teeth and it turns me off. What should I do?
Q. Well I don't want to sound rude but want to know your thoughts and maybe some suggestions I met a guy online and we've been talking for about two months now. I really like him and he seems real nice so far. I would like to further our ...
A. 14 May 2015: Honestly, it would be a turn off for me too. Same as someone who looks unkempt/dirty. I mean a guy have have "scraggly beard" or a few days worth of stubble - and STILL look groomed. But missing teeth?
One of my BIL's exwife was addicted to pain ... (read in full...)
Should I listen to my instincts and cut her from my life?
Q. Hi, I am writing again to put this into more depth so you Aunts can help me decide a bit more if I have the problem or does she? I have become really suspicious of my so called 'female' friend. Last year we used to get on well - until she became...
A. 14 May 2015: Change your setting so she can't see your pictures and posts - or simply block/unfriend her.
If you CAN fake through the girl's night out, I'd just block her from checking your page and then unfriend her after.... (read in full...)
I'm tired of being his dirty little secret!
Q. Dear cupid me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years now and I still have not meet his family or his 10 year old son his wife passed away 6 months before we started dating everytime I ask him to meet his son he just tells me that he doesn't ...
A. 14 May 2015: I think the whole story stinks (not you OP) but how he is treating you and the relationship.
I get that he wanted to make SURE he son was OK with him dating again, but.. how did he explain all these Fridays away? 7-8-9 (and up) kids are SMART, t... (read in full...)
Should I put myself out there??
Q. I apologise if this gets long. I have been friends with a guy for nearly 8 years or so and we have been very close. A few years ago we started to get closer and became more intimate to the point we slept together. At the time he wasn't in the righ...
A. 14 May 2015: Stop sleeping with him, see if he is still confused.
It really doesn't matter if he has had some bad break ups, EITHER he is interested on MORE then FWB or he is not. You got nothing to lose by talking to him and laying it out there.The whole dy... (read in full...)
I didn't even notice he was cheating on me .......
Q. My ex cheated on me repeatedly throughout our relationship, until I had a bad car crash and spent a long time recovering. He would later tell me that it made him realise what he had and he didn't want to lose me. I thought everything was going ...
A. 14 May 2015: How convenient for HIM to blame HIS cheating on you and your job! And what a load of horse manure!
HE CHOSE to cheat because he didn't RESPECT the relationship and though he "deserves" as much sex ans he could get. THOSE ARE HIS choices and his ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 14 May 2015: I think you need to TRY and look as this as, WE weren't that great of a fit, instead of thinking I WASN'T GOOD enough.
People who fight a lot are usually not a great fit. Some people presume that fighting is a sign of passion and deep feelings... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 14 May 2015: Good for you OP.
Just know that it was HIS loss, and move on.... (read in full...)
I met this man and the chemistry was intense, so what happened next was ............
Q. Dear Cupid.. Long story short, have been texting 24/7 with a Guy i met 2 weeks ago. We been out together with friends 3times partying And made out once(french kissing). He is crazy in the head And i completely get his sick sense of humour. We t...
A. 13 May 2015: I don't see why you are upset either. YOU did YOUR BF/partner WRONG. Even if your partner doesn't know it.
And since you don't EVEN care that you considered cheating on your BF, why not SET your BF free? So he can find a girl who can and want to ... (read in full...)
Do you think it is a reasonable action on my part to ask my boyfriend for a loan? I don't think I can ask anyone else
Q. I'm a young female who is currently going through a struggle financially. I had lost my job and am in the process of finding a new one. I've been in a serious relationship with a great man for over 3 years. He has a great job and does good for hi...
A. 13 May 2015: How big of a loan are we talk and what is the money for?
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My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 30 April 2015: I'd tell him if he needs a break he needs to NOT contact you for that month. THAT way HE can figure out HOW important you are to him, OR not.
I think a lot of people make the mistake of having a "break" yet want things to not change TOO much. So... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 27 April 2015: Give him that month. TAKE that month and work on yourself. You say that you DO interrogate him a LOT and you know it's wrong.. so you NEED to find ways to STOP doing that.
You say you TOLD him things will be different, HE isn't sure about that. An... (read in full...)
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