My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 15 May 2015: Again, I wouldn't wonder about his motives. WHO cares! That needs to be your attitude.
Cutting the contact is a good idea. No need to keep people in your life who doesn't BRING positive things or good friendship - I don't really think he can offe... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 14 May 2015: I think you need to TRY and look as this as, WE weren't that great of a fit, instead of thinking I WASN'T GOOD enough.
People who fight a lot are usually not a great fit. Some people presume that fighting is a sign of passion and deep feelings... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 14 May 2015: Good for you OP.
Just know that it was HIS loss, and move on.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 30 April 2015: I'd tell him if he needs a break he needs to NOT contact you for that month. THAT way HE can figure out HOW important you are to him, OR not.
I think a lot of people make the mistake of having a "break" yet want things to not change TOO much. So... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong? Or was it just insensitive of her? She hasn’t been there for me once over the situation, did I just expect too much?
Q. Last year I found out my father wasn’t mine and my twin’s dad, but he was our elder sister’s father. Since this has come out we have had a strained relationship, mainly through her not understanding or being there for me. After months of struggle...
A. 27 April 2015: She IS going through it too, but as an outsider.
You "were" her sisters for 20 years, now you are "technically" her half-sisters.
HER way of dealing with it is to partly ignore it and partly trying to make it seem like it's not as BIG of a ... (read in full...)
!When I ask him why he doesn't give me any sex he answers that he just got lazy...Does that make any sense to anybody?
Q. Ive got a confusing situation that boggles my mind. But maybe there is someone out there with answers to help me understand things. Ive been with my guy for about a year now. I take our relationship VERY serious. Even when I have outside temptati...
A. 27 April 2015:
* I just get endless promises anymore... it sucks*
So now you know OP. YOU have to decide if staying WITH him is worth it long term. There is no RULES that say you have been together for a year so now you HAVE to stay.
Not cheating is Y... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong? Or was it just insensitive of her? She hasn’t been there for me once over the situation, did I just expect too much?
Q. Last year I found out my father wasn’t mine and my twin’s dad, but he was our elder sister’s father. Since this has come out we have had a strained relationship, mainly through her not understanding or being there for me. After months of struggle...
A. 27 April 2015: No, I don't think you bringing it up was any more "wrong" than HER bringing up that she is the favorite. You BOTH stated the facts.
But would I apologize over and over? no.
I would let her get some time and space and maybe she will realize tha... (read in full...)
I am 43 and I would like to have a baby.
Q. I am 43 and would like to have a baby for the first time. I was married for 15 years but didn't try for a baby because my ex husband didn't want one. Since we divorced 5 years ago I hadn't met anyone with whom I could imagine having a child and ...
A. 27 April 2015: I will echo the "check with your OB/GYN" advice. And maybe consider the egg harvest.
As for the rest, IF you can handle a baby BY yourself, and with the help of your BF/his family, I'd stop worrying about your parents and what THEY want.
... (read in full...)
Did I overreact? I felt like he totally blew me off so I basically told him to lose my number.
Q. I have been dating this man for approximately 3 weeks now after getting out of a 3 year relationship. On the second date, we ended up having sex. It was spectacular, I hadn't felt so sexually connected and charged by a person in years. It was early ...
A. 27 April 2015: I think you did the right thing, in telling him to lose your number.
He KNEW that you two had agreed that IF the date was to be cancelled he would DO SO by Friday. IF he was really interested and "missing you" he wouldn't FORGET you had a date pla... (read in full...)
!When I ask him why he doesn't give me any sex he answers that he just got lazy...Does that make any sense to anybody?
Q. Ive got a confusing situation that boggles my mind. But maybe there is someone out there with answers to help me understand things. Ive been with my guy for about a year now. I take our relationship VERY serious. Even when I have outside temptati...
A. 27 April 2015: So you are SERIOUS about your relationship, yet in ONE year he has cheated on you a "couple of times" with his ex? And he is "too lazy" to be bothered to have sex with you?
Have you honestly ASKED him, what he would suggest? Should you... take ... (read in full...)
Shall I move out now in a hurry because of my partner and her friends or shall I stick to my mortgage idea for next year?
Q. My girlfriend wants to move in after two years of relationship, I would absolutely love to but u don't want to do it just because her friends and cousins are. All her friends are moving out, living in private rent, wasting £600 per month in ...
A. 27 April 2015: I can't see why your GF can't wait a year for you to be able to get your mortgage and THEN both of you move in, BOTH of you help contribute.
Sounds to me like she wants to live rent-free, but not with her folks.
You two already know that you ca... (read in full...)
Are my large breasts an impediment to finding and dating a guy? I feel my breasts are a turn-off.
Q. I have large breasts ,( an e cup )and have been single a while now . It seems to me that men don't like big breasts and actually find them a turn off. I am beginning to feel insecure and think no man will ever want me as every guy I talk to or re...
A. 27 April 2015: Honestly, I think you should SWAP out your sex partner and find one who isn't being such an asshat!
HOW do you think HE would feel if you told him you preferred a BIG penis and thus will have nothing to do with his "little" one?
YOU are who y... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 27 April 2015: Give him that month. TAKE that month and work on yourself. You say that you DO interrogate him a LOT and you know it's wrong.. so you NEED to find ways to STOP doing that.
You say you TOLD him things will be different, HE isn't sure about that. An... (read in full...)
My husband has gotten verbally abusive again - how do I help him stop?
Q. My husband has gotten verbally abusive again, even though things were getting better on that front for years. How do I help him to stop? (not so )Short intro: We've been together for almost 20 years. At the beginning things were OK. But as we finis...
A. 27 April 2015: I would honestly tell him that apologies are WORTHLESS when they are just given AFTER he has heaped verbal abuse on you. It's a slap in the face.
I'd tell him, EVERY time you start this, I will WALK away, I will REMOVE myself from the room/hou... (read in full...)
Friendly or flirty, how to tell the difference?
Q. Hello there I have been a member of a Facebook group for a few months. The group is for people who are interested in history and has a couple of thousand members. It's a great place to chat to people about our interests in history, share p...
A. 26 April 2015: I forgot to mention:
He sticks to talking about the posts and Facebook not about his private life or yours.. THAT is why I presume he is just being friendly.
If he started to comment on a new hairdo or picture (that has nothing to do with the F... (read in full...)
I got sick and missed the calls, now he wont talk.......
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together two months and we talk everyday. We work similar jobs and sometimes, overnight so we try to keep each other up. Friday I told him I had plans to go out but I ended up getting sick and fell into deep sleep, I ...
A. 26 April 2015: My guess is, he think you lied about being sick.
YOUR original plans were to go out, but you go sick and went to sleep instead, no answering your phone. TO him... it looks like you DID go out and maybe didn't sleep in your own bed or whatever... (read in full...)
Friendly or flirty, how to tell the difference?
Q. Hello there I have been a member of a Facebook group for a few months. The group is for people who are interested in history and has a couple of thousand members. It's a great place to chat to people about our interests in history, share p...
A. 26 April 2015: So far? He is just being friendly.
I would not read more into his messages for now. Now IF he asks you out for a dinner, lunch, trip to museum.... then I would presume there is more of an interest there.
... (read in full...)
Was my BF jealous that I gave these guys a dance lesson?
Q. I am a dancer. Recently I was asked to demonstrate some dance moves to some kick boxing students (most of them male) who take classes at the same dance studio. They were curious about the dance program. I was fine with it. I do not see anything...
A. 26 April 2015: Maybe they JUST wanted to see your dance,but.. they could have done that without having you instructing them.
They joined in, they had fun, you had fun - I don't see the big deal at all.
While kick boxing isn't about grace, the fluidity and bal... (read in full...)
He can't be happy with his girlfriend because he kissed me!
Q. I'm going to try not to make this too long but I met this boy from online, his name is Jordan, and I think he's really great. He's perfect apart from the fact that he has a girlfriend (They became official 3 days before I met him in person). I ...
A. 26 April 2015: He is playing the BOTH of you.
You think you somehow is "better than her", and thus should "have" this "prize called Jordan"... Even-though.. he CLEARLY isn't a prize.
Let's say he does dump her for you. How long do you think it will take bef... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing by canceling this trip to see my friend?
Q. Dear Cupid I just reunited with a friend of mine from years ago.He wanted me to come and visit him in a another state I felt ok about it but this morning I heard a voice telling me this trip I won't be taking my first thought was to run like hell ...
A. 26 April 2015: If you don't want SEX without COMMITMENT... HE is not for you. He has already told you... all he wants is fun and sex.
You have some feelings for him, even though you DO NOT KNOW him that well. You know how he WAS YEARS ago, but he is not the ... (read in full...)
Discovered that my soon to be ex got drunk while he was supposed to be caring for our child. He'll deny it. How do I confront him with what I've discovered?
Q. I have been separated from my husband for quite awhile now. Anyhow to make a long story short I have 4 kids, one of which is with him. Last week I was on vacation with my parents. He had our child and I had a friend babysit my other kids at my h...
A. 26 April 2015: Next time you are out of time DON'T ASK him to watch her.
How do you know about all this drinking that "supposedly" went on?
Personally, I would not bring this up. I wold instead have a chat about rules for when he has the kid(s) - such as... (read in full...)
I love him so much. But when he's been drinking he says nasty things and is argumentative. Why is trying to ruin our relationship?
Q. My partner is for the most part a very loving kind man who says he adores me and I am his world. However he likes to drink on his nights off work (he works nights) and when he has had too much to drink sometimes he can lose his temper big time. I...
A. 26 April 2015: Do you live together?
If you do I would suggest you take a week-end off from the shared house. If he asks you why, tell him I do not like to be VERBALLY ABUSED when you drink, so I'm taken precautions and having a quiet week-end at friend/f... (read in full...)
I feel stuck. Is it reasonable that I feel so hurt at his lack of priority for me in his life?
Q. I have just ended a relationship with my boyfriend due to his lack of time for me. He says he will come over and talk but says he is busy and has a lot on with work. He is self employed but spends a lot of time procrastinating and chatting to custo...
A. 26 April 2015: You are a lesser priority, so ending it might BE the right thing FOR you.
I would however NOT stay "friends" as it will hinder rather than help you move on to a man who WANTS you in his life.... (read in full...)
Any advice for me regarding my Girlfriend's actions during her previous relationship re nude photos sent to her now ex?
Q. My girlfriend has sent her nude photos to her ex about 2 years ago and that is over now. she said there was nothing more to that (like sex). She and I are together about a month and I really care for her and she does the same. She told me this bec...
A. 26 April 2015: She is being honest about something that happened in the past. What should you do?
Accept that she did it and move on. There is NOTHING you can do to change it, NEITHER can she. So why make a big or little deal out of this?
While I'm not... (read in full...)
Was my friend right to assume that I wasn't invited to a mutual friend's party?
Q. Shouldn't my friend have invited me to a mutual friend's party? Our mutual friend and I had some misunderstandings about a party she was holding, she asked me and my boyfriend to come over to what I thought was a couples date, and my boyfriend was...
A. 26 April 2015: Yes, I think your friend was right to PRESUME there was a reason you hadn't been invited.
And I DO think it's a bit of a misunderstanding or mis-communication that happened, NOT that the mutual friend didn't WANT you there.
It MIGHT have start... (read in full...)
Should his voyeurism concern me? How can I believe that I am the woman for him when all his thousands of saved images of women all look nothing like me?
Q. i am currently engaged to my partner of just over 2years. I have since constantly found images he has taken of women in public, on screens or saved of women. Also the usual porn etc... On his phone, email, playstation, in our new home (dvd's, ...
A. 26 April 2015: I'm 100% with Ciar.
Tea-towels indeed. Fleshed out tea-towels.
And personally I would be WAY more concerned with that fact that he is into pictures of women WHO DID NOT GIVE HIM THEIR permission to have their picture taken.
I agree with Wi... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong make up an alternative story for officials about how we met? She is my fiancée and we met via webcam. She was a webcam model.
Q. I met a woman. She was a webcam model. We fell in love, got engaged, and now are planning weddings. She is from Russia, me USA. We applied for fiancé visa and have the interview next week in Moscow. They will also ask us how we met, but we ar...
A. 26 April 2015: Stick to the truth. It would NOT be hard to find out what she did online for anyone with just an ounce of internet savvy...
Whether it's a good idea to marry her, I'll leave that up to you.
... (read in full...)
It's been a week and I am just want to stop crying. What's my next move to get over this breakup and all the hurt?
Q. Hi, I have recently got out a 3+ year affair with a married man I work with. We met when we both started at this company. We were both new to this city and with his family still based in his hometown, started hanging out a lot. He was the init...
A. 25 April 2015: It will get better. And you find find some solace and strength in the fact that YOU are the one who walked away. Maybe not today or in a week or two, but it will happen.
My advice is to spend time with people you KNOW care about you, family a... (read in full...)
Should just leave it or ask my mother why she felt the need to say such a thing?
Q. I had my first child when I was 17 with my now ex boyfriend. Due to ill health my mother spent a lot of time looking after my child as I have epilepsy and found it hard to handle both at the time. As my mother couldn't take my epilepsy away bu...
A. 25 April 2015: I agree with Ciar.
Your MOM is letting you know that she won't be able to help you out as much as she did with #1. BECAUSE SHE IS WORKING FULL TIME!! Not because she doesn't WANT to help out, but because she CAN'T.
You are looking for some... (read in full...)
When I mentioned I'd had a bad day he changed the subject. Is this lack of empathy an indication that he doesn't care as much as I thought he did?
Q. i'm not sure if i am over reacting or this is the sign for me to say bye to this guy. Hes 28, i'm 25, both from same country and same religion. we met of a matrimonial website. Cutting it short, we've been speaking for a short period of t...
A. 25 April 2015: My guess is... hearing about a BAD day when you are trying to have an UPBEAT conversation is quite the downer.
When he talks work, does he complain? And you try and cheer him up? If so, then yes he is a tad selfish if he can't DO the same for you.... (read in full...)
How mean is too mean? Who should pay for what in our relationship?
Q. Who pays for what in our two year relationship? Ok here is my dilemma and one that has really upset me to the point I am considering walking away because it has affected my respects for him. I am sure there will be many comments as I have googl...
A. 25 April 2015: I'm with Auntie Bim.
BE honest. TELL him to have a great week-end away that you CAN NOT afford it. That you ALREADY carry the COST of dating him.
Personally, I'd tell him straight up... that you can BARELY afford to date him.
It is HIS ch... (read in full...)
My daughter is being so excluded in her class by her classmates. How can this ostracism be dealt with?
Q. Hi, My daughter is being so excluded in her class. And the girls ignore her and don't really want to hangout with her. This of course has affected her and of course concerns me. She is almost 11, beautifull both inside and out., sweet but on the...
A. 25 April 2015: We moved across country a couple of years ago uprooting all 3 of our daughters as well as ourselves and it's taken a while for them to readjust.
My youngest is very quiet and very smart, so she did have some problem initially and what has been eve... (read in full...)
Why would he keep talking about the ring if he doesn't intend on getting it?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 1.5 years now. Half year ago, he told me he wanted to buy a promise ring for me. I was flattered and looked forward to receiving the ring. He said this in October. We researched styles online and he even ...
A. 24 April 2015: EDIT:
I wrote:
but it should have to COST you a lot to try and make him happy.
I meant....
but it shouldn't have to COST you a lot to try and make him happy.... (read in full...)
Not his girlfriend? How do I talk to him?
Q. Hello I haven't been on this site in a long time but I need some advice. I have been seeing this guy for about 7 years off and on. He doesn't even consider me his girlfriend bc he says I don't do anything a girlfriend does. I spend the ni...
A. 24 April 2015: He wants you around for sex and company, but he isn't WILLING to give you anything else. After 7 years I would have thought that would be CLEAR as a bell to you.
Not only that, but he is putting the "blame" on you. YOU don't act like a GF so he do... (read in full...)
My boyfriend likes to bite and doesn't seem to realize that I don't like it!
Q. I have been dating this guy for a few months and the chemistry is great. We're both really attracted to each other, have a great time spending time together and make each other laugh. These are all fantastic things that I'm happy to finally find in ...
A. 24 April 2015: I'd say EVERY time he does it WALK away, tell him I DO NOT want to be bitten, I don't like it and IF you keep biting I'm going to WALK AWAY EVERY time you do it.
If it's during sex or him trying to initiate - put your close on and GO HOME. He... (read in full...)
Is it right or wrong to find a sex partner for my mother?
Q. ..my mom is 55 nw . My dad died 26 years back..I know that its been long that she had sex..i even know how it feels with out sex for humans ..so m planing to find someone for her sex life...is it right r wrong..?...
A. 24 April 2015: I think finding her a friend would be a better course of action (and not a male).
Maybe get her interested in a charity or a hobby that the community can benefit from - that way she will get out of the house and met new people.
My grandmothe... (read in full...)
Do open relationships work?
Q. Do open relationships work? I'm not asking because I want to have one or anything but a very good friend of mine says that it keeps her and her husband happy while he works away. He had an affair a few years back and she decided that to stay tog...
A. 24 April 2015: I generally think that if you FEEL a need to add more people to the sheets.... that staying single and sleep around might be a way better option.
I have know a couple of couples.. (lol) who were into the open relationship/swinger lifestyl... (read in full...)
Our relationship is drained and I don't know what to do
Q. Well, my boyfriend and I have been through a lot. We go to the same uni and I'm really into him and he knows it. However, there will be times when theres no doubt in my mind he wants to be with me... He acts so into me and I'll take it as a step f...
A. 24 April 2015: I have to say I vote for "he is a dic. who is jerking you around emotionally.
He wants to have a GF (when it's convenient for him) the rest of the time you are annoying him and bothersome, clingy - ALL the terms NO girl wants to hear from her guy.... (read in full...)
Why would he keep talking about the ring if he doesn't intend on getting it?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 1.5 years now. Half year ago, he told me he wanted to buy a promise ring for me. I was flattered and looked forward to receiving the ring. He said this in October. We researched styles online and he even ...
A. 24 April 2015: A promise ring is "supposedly" a pre-engagement ring - which is ridiculous. Either someone KNOWS he/she wants to marry the other person and THUS buys an ENGAGEMENT ring.
Promise rings are for those (guys) who want to make SURE the girl stick ar... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong? Or was it just insensitive of her? She hasn’t been there for me once over the situation, did I just expect too much?
Q. Last year I found out my father wasn’t mine and my twin’s dad, but he was our elder sister’s father. Since this has come out we have had a strained relationship, mainly through her not understanding or being there for me. After months of struggle...
A. 24 April 2015: I agree that parents shouldn't have favorites. I have 3 FAVORITE children - ALL of mine are my favorite and they know it.
I think your older sister is being brat here. She doesn't fully understand the situation, but she also doesn't seem to under... (read in full...)
Should I report my sister to Social Services?
Q. Hi guys I just wanted some advice on a problem I am having. I I have a sister who is 29 years old and she has two small children. However she has started to drink alcohol around her children, to the point where she gets blind drunk, this has been...
A. 24 April 2015: I agree that you NEED to call Social Services on her. Not for HER sake but for her kid's sake.
... (read in full...)
I feel so heartbroken, even though I broke up with him.
Q. So I've has a whirl wind 7 months. From the minute I met him he swept me off my feet and made me feel like the most special girl In the world! So what was the problem? His ex of 8 years who he has a daughter with, who left him and is now en...
A. 24 April 2015: I'm with sage.
YOU were dating an IMMATURE CHILD man, who at 35 was living at home, smoking pot, fighting with his ex (no wonder she left him) and attempting to make you jealous by messaging other women, and let's NOT forget the fact that you... (read in full...)
Shall I move out now in a hurry because of my partner and her friends or shall I stick to my mortgage idea for next year?
Q. My girlfriend wants to move in after two years of relationship, I would absolutely love to but u don't want to do it just because her friends and cousins are. All her friends are moving out, living in private rent, wasting £600 per month in ...
A. 24 April 2015: Wait that year to get your own place.
IF your GF is in such a hurry to move out, that is HER choice. IF she wants to live with a cousin or by herself rather than with her parents THAT is her choice. MAYBE a dose of reality would be good for her.... (read in full...)
Can she up sticks and go taking the children with her?
Q. My daughter in law is leaving my son and has made it clear that she is taking the children with her. Can she up sticks and go taking the children with her?...
A. 24 April 2015: Your son needs to find a solicitor and set up visitation plan and child maintenance.
Since they are married it is NOT as easy for her to just walk away WITH the kids. BUT quite often mothers end up the primary caregiver in split up/divor... (read in full...)
Can I expect a therapist to maintain privacy?
Q. My wife and I need counseling in a very bad way. I feel like all communication has broken down except for when we say things in an extreme way (loud fighting) and in that case it is not clear anyone is listening or even that what we say is the trut...
A. 23 April 2015: Maybe start out with individual counselors?
I have actually never heard of counselors who will promise confidentiality and then turn around and "betray" the client.. for the "greater good".
I did CBT as a teenager and my parents were onl... (read in full...)
He constantly is accusing me of cheating and he says rude things to me but claims he can't help it. What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a month now. This is the 2nd time we are in a relationship. The 1st time was 2 months prior. We were together for almost 3 months and he said he had feelings for his ex and so I broke it off with him ...
A. 22 April 2015: It is not "like" he wants to control everything - HE WANTS to control everything.
IF you have NEVER cheated (and he has) the accusations of YOU cheating is to KEEP you on the defensive so you don't notice all the "bad" little things he does.
... (read in full...)
Why would a mistress leave her married boyfriend?
Q. What is the #1 reason WHY a mistress will leave a married man she has been seeing for a long time? ...
A. 22 April 2015: Because she finally woke up from her trip to la-la land and realized what she has was not something she can build a future on. That the man she was with IS a liar and a cheat - and IF he will cheat in a Wife, he will CHEAT and LIE to a mistress.
... (read in full...)
My mom has always been mean to me ever since I was just a child, but she's gotten worse and worse and I'm really heart broken.
Q. I have not spoken or seen my mom in almost a year. To put it nicely, she was never a good mom. She was emotionally and physically abusive through out my entire life, and has never changed. I've always tried to talk with her about our problems and...
A. 22 April 2015: I fully agree with Eyeswideopen
Some people shouldn't have kids. And some people do not comprehend that HAVING them was NOT the child choice, that punishing the child for whatever misery, is NOT right.
If your mom see YOU as a "mistake" then t... (read in full...)
Can I expect a therapist to maintain privacy?
Q. My wife and I need counseling in a very bad way. I feel like all communication has broken down except for when we say things in an extreme way (loud fighting) and in that case it is not clear anyone is listening or even that what we say is the trut...
A. 22 April 2015: I think if you make an appointment and spell it out that you wish to discuss things that YOU DO NOT want brought up in the "couples session" your counselor has to respect that boundary and privacy.
BUT... He is my point of view. IF these things y... (read in full...)
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