My online girlfriend got married, should I leave her?
Q. Should I leave my online GF of almost 3 years, after finding out she is married just a few months ago? she has 2 children at home,and she can't really talk or email because her husband is around,and we haven't spoke by phone since January,and not a ...
A. 20 April 2015: I think she saw you as "fantasy" or "escapism" from boredom, she most likely enjoyed your attentions and affections, but since it was long distance so she found someone closer by to day and the "play relationship with you online"
WHAT she did was ... (read in full...)
I cheated twice then lied, how do I get her back?
Q. So me and my girlfriend have been together almost 2 years and were best friends for a year before we started dating. I fucked up about 8 months into our relationship and had sex with a girl after a party and was drunk and convinced myself it didn't ...
A. 19 April 2015: I don't think you can "just" wipe the slate clean. She has lost all faith and trust in you. And from what you write... she isn't interested in trying again.... (read in full...)
I left my abusive ex, so why am I in so much pain?
Q. Dear all. Your views would be much appreciated. I don't understand what's going on with me. In breif, I finally got out of an emotionally abusive relationship around six weeks ago. The ending had been on the cards for sometime. My ex bf used to ...
A. 19 April 2015: It's like when you quit cigarettes. You still crave them even if you INTELLECTUALLY understand that they are nasty and bad for you till they are ALL the way out of your system. You will have dreams of smoking and wake up feeling guilty. And you did ... (read in full...)
I cheated twice then lied, how do I get her back?
Q. So me and my girlfriend have been together almost 2 years and were best friends for a year before we started dating. I fucked up about 8 months into our relationship and had sex with a girl after a party and was drunk and convinced myself it didn't ...
A. 18 April 2015: I wouldn't take you back AT all, so I'm not really going to try and give you advice on how to "get" her back.
LEARN from your mistakes OWN you actions. Blaming your cheating on drug and alcohol is a piss poor excuse - specially the second time aro... (read in full...)
My online girlfriend got married, should I leave her?
Q. Should I leave my online GF of almost 3 years, after finding out she is married just a few months ago? she has 2 children at home,and she can't really talk or email because her husband is around,and we haven't spoke by phone since January,and not a ...
A. 18 April 2015: Jeeez are you seriously questioning of you should END it?
She already did. SHE MUST have been dating him while being your "online GF" - so OBVIOUSLY she didn't take your relationship very serious.
She is just using YOU for entertainment an... (read in full...)
How have others coped with pre-natal depression? I am 13 weeks pregnant
Q. I am currently 13 weeks pregnant with my second child to a new partner, it wasn't planned and ever since I have found out I have not really felt happiness. I feel quite depressed and i think its more then my hormones I don't feel excited and ...
A. 18 April 2015: Honestly, from your update I get it. You are worried about having to raise ANOTHER child n your own, because you are not happy with your partner these days.
If your OBGYN suggest a counselor, go for it. Sometimes talking it though can make a h... (read in full...)
Is he still interested after an argument?
Q. I had been seeing this guy for a few months (he had a mad crush on me for nearly a year before we started to 'date') and we had an argument (he was pretty upset) and he said that we won't work if we were in a relationship because we aren't ...
A. 18 April 2015: What was this HUGE fight about? You seem to have glossed that part over a bit... So I have to wonder.
But in general if someone tells you I don't think we ARE a good match, then let them go on their merry way. Don't CHANGE for them or expect th... (read in full...)
My husband is acting weird and distant and I can't figure him out! Should I get an attorney?
Q. Dear cupid, I have felt distant from my husband for some time now. He always did have a low sex drive so I don't think he is cheating!?!? Anyway.. I can't figure out where the feeling comes from. It might have several factors in play here. It c...
A. 18 April 2015: Sounds to me like he VALUES his privacy, but he also seems pretty immature.
As for his parents and the whole - respect our elders... IS that a cultural thing? While I DO think that there SHOULD be some respect for elders in our society, I do NOT t... (read in full...)
Should my girlfriend agree to come to a fetish club with me?
Q. I've been with my girl for 6 years now.She knows about my fetish for rubber clothing. We do normal things together ,like cinema, restaurants. But I want to experience a fetish club, which she's not into.I've asked her to go with me, just once is ...
A. 18 April 2015: You can ask, and SHE can say no thanks. After that YOU ought to respect her no.
She certainly do NOT have to accommodate YOUR fetish. I can't stand American football (sorry) but I love ice-hokey - if my husband wanted to go to a football game I w... (read in full...)
I feel he has crossed an invisible barrier somehow.
Q. Please help. Apologies for the length of this but I want to give some detail so you can give better advice. The problem is that my new relationship is going rapidly downhill and I don’t know why. I’m starting to wonder if my new partner might be...
A. 18 April 2015: Either he is taking ALL his anger and resentment from PAST relationship OUT on you (which is unfair) - or he WASN'T the "victim" in past relationship BUT the abuser. Or he had been through BOTH.
My guess? The latter.
Is a new woman going to W... (read in full...)
My husband is as cold as ice between the sheets, but I love him and want us to be happy. Was I naive?
Q. Hello all, I'll get right to it. I am married and my husband is cold as ice between the sheets. I've tried some different things to spice it up, but to no avail. He says he's just not the romantic type, but we barely have sex anymore. It's ju...
A. 17 April 2015: Oh, so is he withholding because you pointed out to him that he lacked skills? Or because he was a selfish lover?
He got his male ego bruised and it might have turned him off sex.
And you married him KNOWING he was a (sorry to be blunt) piss p... (read in full...)
I need my fiance to grow up because I have to tell him I'm pregnant!
Q. My fiancee keeps changing his mind about what he wants, and whether he wants our wedding to go ahead, and now I'm pregnant I'm scared he will say he isn't sure if he wants a family. I'm just so confused by his behaviour and I need some advice on how ...
A. 17 April 2015:
Prepare to do this alone (pregnancy and child) and just tell him already. He will NOT instantly grow up or change.
If he is so wishy washy, he may not be the ROCK you need.
Was the pregnancy a "surprise"? Because I HAVE to question why you ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with the hurt? I am in love with my best friend. My feelings are not reciprocated.
Q. I'm in love with my best friend and don't know what to do. We first met about 2 years ago and ever since have been the best friends. I had always fancied her but had never taken it any further for fear of it affecting our friendship. The previ...
A. 17 April 2015: If I were you, I would STEP BACK from this. She likes you, but she either can't HANDLE a relationship or don't WANT one.
Every time you two get drunk together she "steals" little snippets of what she KNOWS you want, because she ENJOYS the IDEA of ... (read in full...)
I love my wife. I miss sex. I'm flirting online with an old friend. Help!
Q. I'm married, I love my wife we have a beautiful little girl together that will be turning 4 in a few months. I have never asked questions on a forum before but I like to give as much information as possible so you get the picture. I wo...
A. 17 April 2015: 1. Cut the contact with the "old friend" it IS NOT helping you or your marriage. YOU NEED to deal with this issue (your marriage) and not try and "emotionally branch out" with this "old friend".
2. on a day you wife is relaxed (so NOT after wo... (read in full...)
My husband is as cold as ice between the sheets, but I love him and want us to be happy. Was I naive?
Q. Hello all, I'll get right to it. I am married and my husband is cold as ice between the sheets. I've tried some different things to spice it up, but to no avail. He says he's just not the romantic type, but we barely have sex anymore. It's ju...
A. 17 April 2015: In short?
***Was I naive to think things would come around some day?***
yes.
Did he always have a low sex drive? Or disinterest in sex? Did you two HAVE sex before marriage?... (read in full...)
Is it possible that he loves me but he is interested in having sex with a prostitute?
Q. Hi. my relationship is going great now after hard break up half year ago. thanks to the aunts that gave me advices. ive been with my bf for 5 years and we broke up due to my fault. Im unsure about his feeling for me although everbody know th...
A. 17 April 2015: Just ask him?
I would NOT be OK with my BF flirting with other women on Facebook, prostitutes or not.
If he is interested in sex with a prostitute that would be (FOR ME) an absolutely no go - he can go have as MUCH sex as he can afford with ... (read in full...)
Would you stay with someone if you knew their health was going to deteriorate drastically over the next few years
Q. Would you stay with someone if you knew they're health was going to deteriorate drastically over the next few years to the point of posdible handicap! We've been together for two years and always up front about it but now that we're staring at this ...
A. 17 April 2015: There are no SET rules you have to follow.
I don't think it's selfish to STAY if you two work well together despite this illness, AS LONG AS you don't stay out of pity or because you FEEL obligated - that wouldn't be fair.
And I don't think it... (read in full...)
I'm pretty much a social reject!
Q. I can't seem to make any friends because I'm single with no kids. Everyone views me as desperate or needy and stay far away from me as possible. Even when I don't announce my relationship status I still get the lonely and desperate tag. At work, ...
A. 17 April 2015: I didn't have kids till I was 30. I NEVER had any problems in the work place, with making friends (male AND female) or with having people refuse to work with me. Though of course the work climate HAS changed since then, and I'm sure there ARE men ... (read in full...)
What's the hype with men liking big butts?
Q. What's the hype with men liking big butts? Something I've noticed the past year or so is that a lot of men seem to be butt men. They like the 'Kim Kardashian' type butt, the big, round butt. Even the majority of my sister and I's male friends hav...
A. 17 April 2015: In the 1980-1990 BIG fake breasts were the "hype" (think Baywatch) and now women like Nicki Minaj are saying I'm loving how I look.
Then the early 1990-2000 it was women with no hips.
If you look around you will find that different things... (read in full...)
How have others coped with pre-natal depression? I am 13 weeks pregnant
Q. I am currently 13 weeks pregnant with my second child to a new partner, it wasn't planned and ever since I have found out I have not really felt happiness. I feel quite depressed and i think its more then my hormones I don't feel excited and ...
A. 17 April 2015: I've dealt with postpartum depression and it was no fun either, make SURE you talk to your OBGYN and LISTEN to their advice.
Why did you consider an abortion? Was it because you didn't feel ready? (nothing wrong in being a little scared, and ther... (read in full...)
She overstepped the bounds today! How do I deal with her if she comes up to me again?
Q. Well this is not really a romantic relationship question but it has to dowith a co worker who I felt overstepped today. I've a lazy eye that occassionally will act up if I'm stressed or tired. Anyway this co worker came up to me and asked me if I ...
A. 17 April 2015: I agree, I don't think she was trying to be rude, I think she wanted to be helpful.
I know you FEEL like she found this "flaw" in you and HAD to point it out - I think you totally misread the situation.
And Auntie Bim Bim is right... Just sa... (read in full...)
My gut is telling me there's something weird going on, am I too worried?
Q. I've been in a relationship with a guy for about two years now. He lives an hour and a half away so we see each other on the weekends. Recently, he's been in a class in which he is working with a girl I know and do not like. She used to date his...
A. 17 April 2015: He couldn't tell her to arrange a ride home so HE can stay with you over night? That I would find odd.
There isn't anything you can do, and for now nothing (as far as you know) has happened.
My guess? Your BF might not LIKE her in that way, but... (read in full...)
Why is he saying what a crazy needy possessive bitch I am, who won't leave him alone and is constantly telling him what to do?
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years is very busy. He has several jobs and, to be honest, has what I think are OCD-like tendencies. So, when he does have some rare time at home he spends it doing things like cutting holes in the walls to hide the wires BEHIND ...
A. 17 April 2015: Honestly? I can see why he is not longer with his children's mother.
HIS life is about HIM first, then his kids, then friends... THEN you. Because his priority is NOT his kids - he isn't EVEN paying attention to them if he is busy fiddling... (read in full...)
I just want to go to the party and make him wish he hadn't done what he had done, am I being stupid?
Q. I'm going to a party on Sunday night and my ex boyfriend is going to be there. He cheated on me a couple of weeks ago and stupidly I want him back. He hasn't called or text since we split up and I just want to go to the party and make him wish he ...
A. 17 April 2015: Yep I'm with Cindy.
YOU are so not over him and THAT will make you do something you KNOW isn't smart.
Going to a party and "hope" you can show him what he is missing? It's NOT going to happen. He won't care. He didn't CARE about how cheati... (read in full...)
I want my ex back so I lied and told him I am pregnant
Q. i broke up with my ex-boyfriend last month. after our break-up, I got sick and when he saw my facebook status about that, he called me one night and explained me why he broke up with me, how much he had loved me, we can still be friends and that i ...
A. 16 April 2015: Since I'm SURE you would WANT him to do right by you IF you were ACTUALLY pregnant, DO the same for him.
TELL him the truth and OWN the consequences of your lies.... (read in full...)
I'm a freshman, he's a senior, I'm pregnant! How' do I tell him?
Q. I'm a freshman in college, and about a month ago I met this guy who's a senior. We hit it off instantly, and after about two weeks of messaging and occasionally hanging out, I went to his room one night and we ended up hooking up. I was a virgin ...
A. 16 April 2015: Go see a doctor and have a confirmation of the pregnancy, though most tests these days are VERY accurate, a false positive or false negative CAN happen.
So go get PROPERLY tested first.
Then you go talk to him FACE TO FACE (not with a crowd aro... (read in full...)
Why would that girl and Mr. Admin talk about me a year after I left the site?
Q. I'm interested to know your points of view on this. Here's a little history: About two years ago, I joined a chat site where people go on to chat about movies. The admin of the site and I clicked immediately and within a few days, he made m...
A. 16 April 2015: Because the girl was/is jealous of you and because she felt like you were an easy target.
Ignore the site, Ignore these people.
There IS a reason it's not doing so well and it might BE the combination of the Admin and this girl.
Did she... (read in full...)
I think my friend is using me because I have money
Q. My best friends name is Beth and for awhile now she keeps on asking for stuff and money, and she called me fat and ugly and she just acted like she did nothing, she told someone that she thought I was Turing into a bitch, and she slapped me in the ...
A. 16 April 2015: You tell your mom and dad. And then you STOP hanging out with Beth, stop giving her anything and if she keep bullying you, you and your parents need to contact the school and her parents.
She is NOT a friend. THAT is not how people treat friends.... (read in full...)
Her parents don't approve of our relationship!
Q. Hello I've started dating a girl who is of a Sikh background, I'm English (no religion too), and she told me in their culture it's supposed to be disrespectful for a girl to have a boyfriend or something similar, which i find sexist and ridiculous ...
A. 16 April 2015: It can be hard for someone who has grown up in a "you can be with whomever you love" society to understand the various caste and fundamentalists religions - I think it's less about you "contaminating" her, more about you being a UNSUITABLE partner ... (read in full...)
Should I be apologizing to my Bf over something I don't believe I did? He's mad at me and he has pictures of me that his friends want to see.
Q. Hi :) I'll just skip to the main thing.. So today, my boyfriend told me his friends are trying to get hold of his thumbdrive as they assume that there are some special pictures in there of me. However, this friend of his happens to be in one of ...
A. 16 April 2015: You BF is being a immature and insecure brat. Since when can't a girl LAUGH at something a boy or another girl says?
Mt advice - GET those pictures back if they are in ANY WAY something you don't WANT your parents, family or friends to see.
... (read in full...)
What should I do about the painful photographs from the past?
Q. I have a slightly odd problem relating to trying to put a relationship - and the past in general - behind me. I have a big bag of photos - both of family and my ex partner (20 years). Problem is, my Mum and Dad were abusive to me and my sister...
A. 15 April 2015: You are welcome.
One thing my mom taught me, was to ALWAYS find a silver lining in negative situations. And I do.
As for organizing the work into smaller (and easy doable portions) it makes a task less daunting.
I'd also like to add that pu... (read in full...)
Random Girl In Library Was Rude To Me - How Would You Have Reacted?
Q. I walked into my library a few hours ago and sat down at a long study desk (there's a row of chairs where people can sit) next to some random other girl (it's busy today so there aren't many spaces left). I noticed her staring at me the whole time I ...
A. 15 April 2015: Eh, the girl was having a bad day, or having bad manner. Either way, it's NOT worth you getting upset. YOU didn't DO anything to upset her on purpose.
Maybe she thought she would have the library to herself and she might have felt she did, til... (read in full...)
My wife wants children and I don't she knew this when we married. Am I selfish?
Q. My Wife thinks I'm selfish because I don't want to have children, whereas she is desperate. I'm 29 and she is 30, we've been together 5 years, married just under 1 year. To be honest I don't like kids, I've never understood the appeal of children. ...
A. 15 April 2015: I don't think you are selfish AT ALL. I think people who DON'T like or want kids, shouldn't try and have any, NOT for all the tea in China.
You write:
" I guess she just thought as I got older I'd change my tune, but I haven't."
She KNEW go... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend depressed or lazy ??!!!
Q. I want some opinions on my boyfriend. We have been dating 7 months now. He wants me to move in and get married already but I still have reservations. Something that concerns me is his lack of motivation. I can't decide if he's lazy or depressed. ...
A. 15 April 2015: Sounds to me like he wants the cook and maid to move in already...
As in.... he isn't doing ANYTHING because he is hoping you will soon be there and DO things. You know like a "wife"... YES there are guys out there who thinks that it's the WIFE... (read in full...)
What should I do about the painful photographs from the past?
Q. I have a slightly odd problem relating to trying to put a relationship - and the past in general - behind me. I have a big bag of photos - both of family and my ex partner (20 years). Problem is, my Mum and Dad were abusive to me and my sister...
A. 15 April 2015: IF you want to keep these, I would suggest you take 10 pictures a day - LOOK at each of them and commit them to a keep or burn pile. Take the week-end OFF from this so you have SOME "rest" of the pictures. When you have 100 pictures (2 weeks work) ... (read in full...)
What kind of man would treat a woman who is all about him like this?
Q. Im hoping someone out there can help me thru this or someone reading this has been thru the same thing where I can find out what steps I should take to get over this and move on with my life: I met my fiancé online almost 3 years ago. Withi...
A. 15 April 2015: I think.... that YOU can not change a guy like this - not for ALL the love in the World.
HE is who he is.
He MIGHT temporarily change to get you to stick around, after all... YOU are his meal ticket.
As for the "home-wrecker comment" -... (read in full...)
Help me decide to do the right thing!
Q. I met my boyfriend in online dating , two days after we talked and chat . He was persistent to move in with me . We was only still trying to get to know each other.. part of me I was shocked and also willing to give him a chance but a lot of doubt. ...
A. 15 April 2015: Good grief Girl!
WHY was it YOUR responsibility to GIVE him a "home" after 2 days of chatting online? That is NUTS! HOW would it be YOUR fault that he would be homeless?
I think you have been raised to be TOO nice, to be honest - and yes there ... (read in full...)
A friend of two years, do I let go or keep trying?
Q. Heya all help needed... I've been mates with this boy for 2 years and we have shared so many memories and we were like bro and sis! He decided to stop talking to me and started making up all these excuses on what i have done and we haven't talked i...
A. 15 April 2015: What a jerk. CUT the contact 100%. If people come to you with lies he is telling about you, roll your eyes and say oh he needs to come up with some better lies than that and then let it go.
Don't play his nasty games, LET him make a total asshat o... (read in full...)
This girl feels bad that I like her!
Q. So my friend was talking about me to a girl I like and she said that she thinks she likes me and she feels bad for not feeling the same way. I won't lie, I am a bit crushed by this news. I'd love if it were possible to possibly get her to like me ...
A. 15 April 2015: I wouldn't tell her, you already know she doesn't like you THAT way, so why make it totally uncomfortable for her to be around you? ( by declaring you feelings).
JUST because YOU have a crush on HER, doesn't mean she OWES you to feel the same way... (read in full...)
Why continuously flirt if you don't mean anything by it?
Q. There’s this guy I used to work with, I now work for another company but in the same building and the same floor as the guy does, well, he passes by my office everyday and takes the stairs when there’s an elevator he could take that’s even closer to ...
A. 15 April 2015: Because it makes him feel good? To make a woman smile and pay attention to him?
I'd say for SOME flirting is a way of getting to know someone and to "tell" them in a roundabout way that they are interested..
FOR others it's just WHO they ar... (read in full...)
Does porn viewing encourage men to treat women with disrespect?
Q. Does porn viewing encourage men to treat women with disrespect. At times I notice my partner becomes somewhat disrespectful and dismissive of me. At times it almost seems like a little contemptuous . Without fail , everytime I have noticed this , I...
A. 15 April 2015: I don't know if there is a correlation at all.
BUT there IS a lot of porn (made by men FOR men) that are all about degradation of women, calling them whore, slut, bitch- slapping, hair pulling, where she is JUST basically a prop - showing domi... (read in full...)
Should I respond or was she giving me the brush off?
Q. Hi, I met a girl nearly a month ago we met at a party and we've been exchanging messages ever since. She has been on holiday and came back to start a new job. I asked if she wanted to meet up again this week and she said sure what time etc. Well ...
A. 14 April 2015: I'd just let her know to settle in with her new team and to get back to you with a time/date that works for her. THAT way you still seems interested but not too pushy.
IT's WAY too soon to try and "read her mind" or glean info from short messages... (read in full...)
Can and girl ask a guy out? And how does it impact on the relationship if the girl earns more than the guy?
Q. Straight to the point! should a lady ask a man out? Whats your opinion on the impact on a relationship if a man earns less than the lady? ...
A. 14 April 2015: Amen, to all that Wise said.
I think there are PLENTY of guys who would enjoy being asked out. And those who can't "handle" that, are they a good match for you anyways?
I see no need to bring up that you make more money. Just like I don't see... (read in full...)
What kind of man would treat a woman who is all about him like this?
Q. Im hoping someone out there can help me thru this or someone reading this has been thru the same thing where I can find out what steps I should take to get over this and move on with my life: I met my fiancé online almost 3 years ago. Withi...
A. 13 April 2015: Now I'm NOT going to sugar coat my answer, so take it with a grain of salt.
I think you are with an UTTERLY selfish and self-absorbed man. He LEFT his ex while she was HUGELY pregnant with HIS twins or right after their birth? OR was SHE smart en... (read in full...)
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