Is my Bf too good to be true? I like him, my family don't like him.
Q. I just recently got into a relationship with this guy. I've had a thing for him a long time and he has too. so we decided to make it official. The problem is he is a bad boy. Half of my family doesn't even like him already, without even kno...
A. 26 May 2015: I agree with WiseOwlE this isn't about being dumb or not dumb. This is about using common sense (which MANY people at ANY age don't do when it comes to dating).
But consider this for your future, if your family who LOVES you warns you against ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of my boyfriend's mother blaming me when he does something wrong
Q. I'm tired of my mother in law (MOD NOTE: technically boyfriend's mom..they aren't married) I have been living with her for 2 years now but one thing she does in particular annoys the shit out of me whenever my boyfriend her son posses her off I get ...
A. 22 May 2015: Why are you living with your BF's mother? Maybe that is the root of her anger, not the episodes of your BF doing dumb stuff....... (read in full...)
He says nothing is wrong but always has excuses for not contacting me
Q. I met this guy on a dating site. He texts me often and we decided to meet in real life. A few days after we've both returned to our various countries he starts to ignore me. We had so much fun times together. He's active on facebook and Whatsapp but ...
A. 22 May 2015: Maybe he has another girl in his own country? He sounds like he is NOT really serious.
Neither of you have "invested" a lot in this, so why not let him go and find someone closer by who WANT to talk to you, and want to be around you and with you... (read in full...)
Will my compromise work? My boyfriend has become very sexually posessive, and it's starting to bother my husband.
Q. My husband has always allowed me to have sex with other men and this has, up till now, made for a very fun and happy marriage of almost 20 years. I have been with my latest lover for a couple of years now and am very much in love with him (and wi...
A. 22 May 2015: I find it ridiculous that your "lover" has more SAY over your sex-life then your husband.
And I find it even MORE ridiculous that you "let" him have this power.
A lover is replaceable, IS your husband?... (read in full...)
Is my Bf too good to be true? I like him, my family don't like him.
Q. I just recently got into a relationship with this guy. I've had a thing for him a long time and he has too. so we decided to make it official. The problem is he is a bad boy. Half of my family doesn't even like him already, without even kno...
A. 21 May 2015: I think you family is looking out for you.
"Bad boys" are called that for a reason, they are NO GOOD. I know there are a LOT of (specially) young women who thinks that these "bad boys" will change FOR THEM because well loves does that, right? N... (read in full...)
Why have I had no luck in love?
Q. Why have I had no luck in love? Is it normal for a woman who has been told she is fairly good looking with a good personality to have had such bad luck in love? For one thing - I never really started having relationships until I was in my ...
A. 21 May 2015: I have to agree I don't think it's a matter of "bad luck". Could it be you are attracted to guy who "look" good (kind of like on paper) but in reality they a are not?
You talk about this gorgeous guy who ended up "running off" with a friend i... (read in full...)
How can I come to terms with, accept, and overcome my jealous feelings towards a woman who has done better in life than me?
Q. My problem is some kinda jelousy. I am 52 y old now and I am an artist. I did very well on my career,but had some very powerful people that wanted to exchange some favors with me,which I never did. My career went to a higher level,but in som...
A. 21 May 2015: You took ONE path, she took another. I get that you feel jealous that she "got" to do thing and "get" material things, but YOU got you keep your morals intact. I don't think there is a price for that.
MANY artists do not get famous, but make a l... (read in full...)
What does privacy in a marriage mean to you?
Q. Thinking In regards to a traditional old fashioned marriage like your grandparents had/have, what does privacy in a marriage mean to you? What is considered snooping into other peoples things? Examples? What is considered snooping as far as social...
A. 21 May 2015: I agree that privacy is going to the bathroom by yourself with the door closed.
Privacy is RESPECT for each other as an INDIVIDUAL. We have each other's passwords to EVERYTHING, but that doesn't MEAN I go through his things. I don't snoop his Face... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this calculating intern before things get out of hand?
Q. I have a potential problem at work. Our company is really small - my boss, who has two other companies, and I. In the office (which is basically one room in his otherwise big apartment) there are only two desks, one of which is for my boss’ ...
A. 21 May 2015: Ah, I kind of figured it was a favor to a friend. In THAT case I would try and "endure" her for the remaining two months. I would find her some HARMLESS busywork to occupy herself with.
Messing with family connections can land YOU in hot water, a... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this calculating intern before things get out of hand?
Q. I have a potential problem at work. Our company is really small - my boss, who has two other companies, and I. In the office (which is basically one room in his otherwise big apartment) there are only two desks, one of which is for my boss’ ...
A. 20 May 2015: Call your Boss for a private meeting, and tell him she is NOT working out. That you spend more time "fixing" issues SHE is causing then HER actually being helpful. BE honest and be professional.
Is she a friend or family members daughter (of the ... (read in full...)
If your boyfriend's sex drive is suddenly higher lately, does that mean he is cheating? How can I determine this?
Q. If your boyfriend's sex drive is suddenly higher lately, does it mean he is cheating on you? We have always had amazing sex and he has had a healthy sex drive, like me, but just seems a little hornier the last week. Not sure why? We have ...
A. 20 May 2015: I don't think it's an indication that he is cheating, but it is an indication that HE feel comfortable enough to suggest the sex be about HIM (only). Now personally.... it takes two to tango, it shouldn't JUST be about HIM. Sorry, his right hand can ... (read in full...)
I don't think I can do a long distance relationship with a man who has a kid
Q. I have been dating a guy for two years with a kid. Recently, he's graduated from college. We've been discussing moving in together for a while over the Summer. He wants to take a year off from school but lately he's been talking about going to grad ...
A. 20 May 2015: The whole point of a LDR is to make it a relationship where BOTH parties are no longer long distance.
What he is suggesting is that he wants to take a year off and "play house" with you while he decides if he wants to do grad school, which ca... (read in full...)
How can I get over him? I am so hurt about the way he's communicated with me, and rejected me, in the past
Q. So I got with this guy at the start of freshers week in September, he's a friend of my housemate, he doesn't remember it and I don't remember much. Anyway my other housemate who likes to stir things keep on snapchatting photos of me to him so event...
A. 20 May 2015: Being friend with someone you have romantic feelings for is rarely easy and rarely a good thing to do. Because you end up standing on the side lines watching HIM live his life without YOU being a central part of it.
You said you tried to cut the ... (read in full...)
Feeling stressed by people's negative outlooks re job market. I'm majoring in Dental Hygiene. But I am hearing that the job market is experiencing no jobs in this field. what else could I study allied to dental where jobs may be easier to find?
Q. Hello- I am currently in college majoring in Dental Hygiene. I have been stressed out due to negative feed back people have been telling me. I have considered ultra sound tech, and surgical tech as well and just not sure which path to choose. ...
A. 20 May 2015: I think you should talk to your Campus Career Counselor and not just listen to what people (who may or may NOT know the market that well). Why not FINISH the Dental Hygienist and see where it takes you?
though if you want to stay in Dental b... (read in full...)
My 17 year old daughter has told me she is bi-sexual. I've accepted it, but I am very upset by this news. What's the best way for me to go forward?
Q. Yesterday, my 17 year old daughter told me she is bi-sexual. I have noticed for a couple of months that she has been very distant from everyone except me. I asked her to tell me what was wrong and she eventually told me. I am very proud of th...
A. 20 May 2015: Being bisexual just means she CAN be SEXUALLY attracted to BOTH genders, doesn't mean she will ONLY date women. It might be a mix of both at some time. I don't think she is copying her gay male friend. It doesn't mean she will all of a sudden BE ... (read in full...)
Is this a case of Grass is Greener Syndrome? She broke up with me so suddenly
Q. Hello people. I am hopeing to get some advice here. I will keep it short: She is 21, and I am 10 years older. As far as I know she only had one real BF before me, and he cheated a lot on her. We have been together for about 8 months. It h...
A. 20 May 2015: I think she is 21 and VERY immature and inexperienced.
You rode in on your white horse and tried to make things a LITTLE to serious a LITTLE to fast. Selling your house and getting a new job all within 8 months? Is too soon.
I don't think it's... (read in full...)
Why is he so against unblocking me & why is he still with this other woman? What does she have that I don't?
Q. Hi, I had a bad fall out with my ex a few months back over another girl he was seeing on the sly. I was ready to forgive him as we were only casually seeing each other - but he had already blocked me by then. The thing is - 6 months down the l...
A. 20 May 2015: What does she have that you don't? Who knows? Why compare yourself to her? What good does THAT do?
He was seeing two girls CASUALLY, you and her. When you found out you had a fall out with him, so he STUCK with the other girl. HE made that cho... (read in full...)
Why do you think I haven't heard from her? Is she waiting till I contact her?
Q. So I took a girl out on a date almost a week ago. She was very confident and poised and calm. She was definitely flirting with me, and when we were in the car she would look at me all the time and smile and when I would drive fast she would sa...
A. 20 May 2015: I would CALL her and plan a second date. That way you will know one way or another if she is interested.
Don't leave half open invitations, like are you doing anything tomorrow?
She might think YOU are not interested, since you haven't bothered... (read in full...)
I'm considering quitting my job before I go on vacation.
Q. I've been working part time at a job for 4 years now and I'm starting to become very annoyed and bored with it. Also, both of my managers are assholes and treats me like shit, despite me being one of the best and most hardworking employees there. I...
A. 20 May 2015: Honestly I'd stick it out till you have something else. People are having a hard time finding jobs as it is.
It MUST suck to have bad managers, take from this job all you can (as far as experience) and use that in your next one. I'd start looking ... (read in full...)
One minute he wants space, the next minute he's worried...
Q. I had to break it off with him 5 days ago because he told me he wanted space. Would come back tell me he missed me and go on as normal. But if i asked about us he'd say he wasnt ready for a relationship, the demand of it. I waited for nearly a month ...
A. 20 May 2015: You know, I find it odd that SO many guys get into relationship and THEN find out that they don't want to be in one - yet they do not seem to COMPREHEND that the girl they are "toying" with actually gets hurt by this incisive behavior. These guys DO ... (read in full...)
Am I unreasonable to be upset that she won't come out for my birthday meal with family?
Q. IT is my Birthday next week and my family are going for a meal in the evening. Naturally they have invited my girlfriend of three years. She says she doesn't know if she can come because she has plans with her family during the day, and it may put ...
A. 20 May 2015: Unless she has a family member in the hospital, then YES I would be put out by her unwillingness to show up for your birthday dinner. How hard would it be for her to tell her family I have to be at XX place at XX time to go to a dinner celebrating ... (read in full...)
Should I text him, or just leave it be?
Q. Hi I usually answer problems as an auntie on this website, but I have a question of my own. I have been flirting with a man I like for about a year. He has done most of the flirting, I'm not good in being forward, but I do let him know his attentio...
A. 20 May 2015: I think as much as he likes to give you attention he ALSO likes to "withhold" it, and to make YOU chase him. He likes control like that. And I think he knows that you ARE interested, but still haven't done a thing to ask you out. Kissing you, yes.. ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but kissed my married manager at work and now I'm all messed up!
Q. I am in a tricky situation.. I've been with my Boyf for 4 years I'm 20 years old and recently got my dream job.. My manager is 25 and married. So recently I put in for another job within the Same organisation, however I was told my manager picked ...
A. 19 May 2015: I agree, you SHOULD feel like an idiot, because what you did WAS idiotic.
Not only did he pull the whole "my wife" BULL CRAP (I married too soon is just a variation of blaming the wife for him not being happy) and you fell for it hook, line and... (read in full...)
How to tell guy I'm seeing that he has bad body odor and a messy room?
Q. I've been seeing this guy I really like for about a month now. I dropped the other people I dated just to focus on our relationship (that's how much I like him). So far, so good. He's nice, cute and has an amazing personality. Here's the catch: I ...
A. 19 May 2015: Don't offer to clean for him. He is a GROWN ASS MAN and can clean his place himself. YOU are not his mom or his maid.
Tell him, honey I really like spending time with you but your place is disgusting, do you think you could clean it up? It's lik... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boss that I can't come to work as I'm already booked to attend a convention? Not sure how to break the news.
Q. Modnote: poster clarified that she holds 2 jobs. One weekdays Mon-Fri and one part time at weekends. .............................................................. I work as a Nanny full-time 9-5 Monday through Friday. A week or so ago, she told me ...
A. 19 May 2015: Well, I'm glad you told her and that she realized he doesn't "own" you.
Enjoy you vacation and hopefully your next employer will be a less "dramatic" person.
... (read in full...)
I still love him, I like the sex but I can't move on if this carries on can I?
Q. My boyfriend messed me around so much that I ended our relationship. But now I'm in a friends with benefits relationship with him, and even though our sex is great, and we get on better then we ever did together, I feel like I'll never get over our...
A. 19 May 2015: I think it's a mistake to keep sleeping with him (and SO do you). You think.... if you have sex and show him how much you care... HE will change his mind and WANT to be with you again, as a couple. HE doesn't.
You are holding on to the HOPE tha... (read in full...)
Do I unfriend her? Talk to my Bf? My Bf has been avoiding me for last few months. What should I do?
Q. hi.. i've added one of my classmates as my friend on facebook. she came to know who my boyfriend is from my relationship status on facebook. within a week since i'd added her on fb i'd noticed some changes in my boyfriend's attitude towards...
A. 19 May 2015: 1. You can't steal a person. So this "friend" didn't "steal" him from you. For whatever reason your BF isn't the faithful type and HE wouldn't be LOOKING elsewhere if you two were doing fine and if he was a one-woman- kind of guy.
2. Block HE... (read in full...)
Wife refuses intimacy, except for procreation. Threatens to deny access to children. I can't put up with her behaviour. What can I do?
Q. It started almost the first month we were married, there was no intimacy. After years of no intimacy and no physical contact in our relationship, I was very resentful. The only time we had intimacy or physical contact was when she wanted children...
A. 19 May 2015: She can't TAKE the children and deny access. UNLESS there is a good LEGAL reason and I don';t know if she knows about the prostitutes.
Blaming your wife for your LACK of control in seeking sex elsewhere is a cop out. SHE didn't MAKE you go look ... (read in full...)
Should I be feeling guilty? She got offended because I WANTED to use a condom
Q. I really am losing faith in humanity. Here goes: I’m 26, and a mature(ish) student at University. I recently got with a girl who I’d had my eye on for some time. We’d been hanging about in the same group of friends for several months and would fl...
A. 19 May 2015: NO, no, no.. YOU did the right thing! Using a condom with a NEW partner is ALWAYS the smart thing to do. ALWAYS. Let's say the ex were shooting blank, BUT you aren't... BAM! a one night stand turns into a pregnancy! You ready for fatherhood? Do you ... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of him? I thought he was nice but now he's driving me mad!
Q. I was wondering if someone can help. I met a guy, and I thought he was nice, I was honest from the start in that I am not looking for anything but friends plus I didn't fancy him one bit but he seemed nice. (I was with someone I was really in lo...
A. 19 May 2015: You are right in not wanting anything more to do with this guy, TRUST your gut. And this guy? There is something totally OFF with him. He actually sounds like a dangerous guy. He tries manipulation with you (like crying on the phone when you c... (read in full...)
I feel like they're being clingy and am hesitant to move in now that they've expressed annoyance about not being there every weekend. Am I right to feel this way or am I being a bad friend?
Q. This year at college I made friends with two girls who are a couple years younger than me. We all hang out a couple of days during the week and sometimes on the weekends as well. The two of them hang out together almost everyday. Recently we all ...
A. 19 May 2015: Nope you are not being a bad friend, they are being a tad selfish, which I supposed it "normal" for their age group. They still think the universe revolves around them. You have BF whom you see as much as you can while being in school - I think it's ... (read in full...)
Why is the UK obsessed with drinking?
Q. Having lived here in London for my whole life, I went through the usual British routine of going to the pub and getting wasted every weekend right through my teens and twenties, but since I turned 30 I've found no enjoyment in getting drunk anymore ...
A. 18 May 2015: I's not just UK that has a "drinking-culture" - The Irish, Danish, Swedes, Italians, Germans, Dutch, French, Finnish, Russians, Polish.... YOU name ANY European country and there is a "drinking culture". There isn't a HOLIDAY that doesn't involve ... (read in full...)
What did this kiss mean from my ex/FWB?
Q. I would really value some advice on my ex fwb, then friend, now I-don't-know-what! We've always kept in touch since the benefits ended (I got a boyfriend, but not anymore). He says he always enjoys my company, and recently we have started to go out ...
A. 18 May 2015: I'd personally, pull back a bit with the flirting and the light intimacy (kissing and hand holding). I'd "reserve" that for a partner, not a friend.
I DO think he could be looking to resume your FWB, that he enjoys your company, but dating? ... (read in full...)
I have a long distance boyfriend but male in lab is trying to be my friend. What should I do?
Q. I am a postgraduate student at university and I help teach a first year laboratory. One of the students in my lab has really latched onto me. He is older than the other students and from another country so he really wants a friend. I have a ...
A. 18 May 2015: You say, you don't really WANT to be friends with him, so don't. YOU are there to teach, so teach and be professional. You don't OWE the students friendships. You can still help and be friendly. But YOU get to choose YOUR friends. And i this guy is ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend treats me badly and I worry that it will continue after I marry him
Q. hi I am 23 year old and I know my boyfriend since primary school. our parents are friends and we became friends as well .we are in a relationship since 10 grade. the problem is ,he sometimes abuses me , makes me cry for some stupid nonsense stuff an...
A. 18 May 2015: It will continue after marriage, without doubt. BUT what you are seeing now is but the tip of the iceberg. He doesn't respect you, he doesn't respect women in general I'd say.
He KNOWS you are QUITE a prize - but that is all you are. Not an equal... (read in full...)
Does no response from her means we aren't friends anymore?
Q. I fell out badly with a close friend a while back and we didnt talk for 18 months We spoke the other night and two days after I had the idea of messaging saying how happy I was we were talking again etc and could she add me to Facebook she read ...
A. 18 May 2015: What ever happened in the past, SHE isn't over it. She was being polite and trying to avoid drama, so she behaved herself.
THAT would be my guess.
Let her be. IF she wants to be "friends" again, she knows how to find you.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex believes we were cheating before they broke up and keeps writing nasty things online about me
Q. I've been with my boyfriend officially for about a month, but we have been seeing each other since early February. We worked together for a while last year, so I knew him before when he was with his ex girlfriend. I totally admit, I liked him then...
A. 18 May 2015: Why is he still friends with HER friends on FB? Does he enjoy this drama?
I mean it all sounds so high school, to be honest.
First of all, "you" (general you) can not STEAL another person. HE made that choice. She didn't like it and instead o... (read in full...)
Separated from Husband and he won't talk to me
Q. Hello, never done this before so please excuse my inexperience. I've been with my husband total 17 yrs. been married for 6 yrs. this May 2015. We never had fights just disagreements here and there. He also treated with love, kindness, respect ...
A. 18 May 2015: If he doesn't WANT to be with you any more you can fight all the windmills you want, he isn't going to change his mind.
I know it's hard to accept, but WHAT he wants from you, is to be set free.
File for divorce, get the ball rolling, if ... (read in full...)
My ex girlfriend broke up with me because of trust issues but I don't think she has moved on
Q. Hello Agony Aunts Recently my Ex girlfriend and I ran into some troubles in our relationship. We've been on and off because of some poor choices I've made so she ended up having some trust issues with me. I tried really hard to show her That I ...
A. 18 May 2015: Stop playing games with her. Be honest and tell her I still want to date you, but if you can't see us together, let's not play this "friends" thing as it will holds us BOTH back.
If she CAN see a future with you in it, ASK her what she NEEDS fr... (read in full...)
He's been visiting a single female friend's home and did not tell me. Am I over-reacting to this?
Q. Would you be ok with your husband going to single female friend's house to hang out alone with her? Husband has done this more than once without telling me and i've just found out. He promises nothing is going on with her and that he just wasn't t...
A. 18 May 2015: Have you met this friend? Do you trust your husband?
Have you told him that you would LIKE to know what he is up to, generally speaking, not an itinerary?
You ask if I would be OK with it? Yes, I'm his wife NOT his keeper, but my husband would... (read in full...)
Is it worth my time to keep dating a cold fish or should I move on?
Q. Hello I am an older women (OP is 66) and a widow my husband died 2 years ago and I am trying to rebuild my life somehow and have started to go out with another man who seems quite nice. The problem is he says he is a cold fish and does not believe ...
A. 18 May 2015: If cards mean something to you, then he isn't for you. Calling himself a cold fish seems like an defensive move, so when he forgets or ignore things that many people STILL do (birthday cards etc.) he can always pull out the.. well, I told you I ... (read in full...)
We argue every single day! Is this healthy?
Q. Hi, I am in a relationship with my partner for over 2 years,he loves me to death and I can see it in his eyes,the way he looks at me and cares for me!but I have one issue we argue a lot like every single day and most of the times he apologis...
A. 17 May 2015: Since it' mainly PETTY stuff you two argue about, maybe you need to consider having a chat about it.
Like, LEARN how to "pick a battle" and how to "NOT sweat the small stuff" - like (taking one of your examples) IF you have PRIVATE stuff at your ... (read in full...)
We argue every single day! Is this healthy?
Q. Hi, I am in a relationship with my partner for over 2 years,he loves me to death and I can see it in his eyes,the way he looks at me and cares for me!but I have one issue we argue a lot like every single day and most of the times he apologis...
A. 17 May 2015: Arguing EVERY day? No, not healthy - but it doesn't MEAN you guys can't fix it.
WHAT do you two argue over? Is it petty things? He said, she said things? Is it difference in opinions? (like religious or political, those subject ALWAYS gets peo... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boss that I can't come to work as I'm already booked to attend a convention? Not sure how to break the news.
Q. Modnote: poster clarified that she holds 2 jobs. One weekdays Mon-Fri and one part time at weekends. .............................................................. I work as a Nanny full-time 9-5 Monday through Friday. A week or so ago, she told me ...
A. 1 May 2015: She told YOU ... Well, I'd tell HER that unfortunately your LAST day will be the 26th (or 25th) as you have a vacation booked already and can not change the dates.
She can either accept it or not... What is she going to do? ... (read in full...)
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