How do I win him back and feel better? My Mom and My Aunt don't like him
Q. I fell for this guy; I'm 23 and he's nearly 30. He seems to like me and he's also sexually attracted to me. However, I haven't been able to date him as I was trying to finish off my degree at the time. This is still an on-going problem as I'm s...
A. 29 May 2015: He sounds like a TOTAL ASS!
You changed your profile picture, BIG DEAL! and he blew a gasket? And YOU feel bad? Are you serious?
Then he pulls the "you should be grateful for my attentions", because look SO many girls want me.
And you feel... (read in full...)
He moved in and I feel trapped! How do I handle this situation?
Q. My bf and I started dating about 4 months ago. We were in a LDR where we would see each other one weekend a month (we had a previous long distance friendship for about a year). One month ago he came to visit me... and since he has gotten a job in ...
A. 29 May 2015: Is life easier for you now? When not sharing a place with him?
If the answer is yes, then GOOD.
And good for you to FIND your voice and tell him your concerns.
Good luck... (read in full...)
I'm considering plastic surgery as I hate my jaw - advice?
Q. I'm in my early twenties. I'm not bad looking otherwise and do get attention but I have a huge jaw and chin (think Olivia Wilde but my chin is really wide too) I am not fat its just genetics. It means smiling with my mouth open looks horrible (I have...
A. 28 May 2015: I would NOT go to Korea for plastic surgery unless you are fluent in Korean. It would be pretty BAD for ANY misunderstanding to occur on something as COMPLICATED as jaw surgery.
I would however, find the MOST reputable plastic surgeon in either U... (read in full...)
Do you think someone can have an affair without having sex with another person?
Q. I married my high school gf just over a year ago. Shortly after we got engaged I started working a new job and met this girl named Sarah, she's funny, sweet and we just had tons of fun working together. We started hanging out with each other ...
A. 28 May 2015: Yes. It's called an emotional affair. It's when you spend more energy, affection and attention on someone BESIDES your partner. You sister is right. And you know it.
You even SAY that you "kinda" are emotionally cheating with Sarah. So you know... (read in full...)
I just want my own identity. What needs to change in our marriage?
Q. My husband and I have been having so many problems lately. Financially, sexually, and emotionally and I really don't know what to do. We've have 3 kids and I'm a stay at home mom. Whenever I'm upset, I like to vent to him so I don't explode ...
A. 28 May 2015: Chi girl - Kindergartens are GREAT, but in the US they can be harder to find (not like in Scandinavia where you have government owned/run kindergartens/daycare) and they CAN be expensive.
Considering that a person on MINIMUM wages only make $6-... (read in full...)
Am I right in thinking that maybe he doesn't have time for a relationship?
Q. I'm a 26 year old woman in a relationship with a 30 year old man, who I've been with for almost a year. We are kinda long distance, we live two hours away from each other so only get to meet once, maybe twice a week. I was happy with this at first ...
A. 28 May 2015: I think you are RIGHT in think he doesn't have time for a relationship WITH you.
Because YOU want and need more 1-2 meet up a week and the occasional text/call.
I don't think THAT makes you "needy". I think you are at a time in your life where ... (read in full...)
I just want my own identity. What needs to change in our marriage?
Q. My husband and I have been having so many problems lately. Financially, sexually, and emotionally and I really don't know what to do. We've have 3 kids and I'm a stay at home mom. Whenever I'm upset, I like to vent to him so I don't explode ...
A. 28 May 2015: Sit him down. TELL him that YOU have needs too. All the you GIVE GIVE GIVE to the kids, the house and the family - YOU need him to WANT to BE around you, cuddle and watch tv, have bi-weekly nights out (they do NOT) have to cost an arm and a leg.
... (read in full...)
I need to learn to say no and I can't seem to do it
Q. I need to learn how to say no. I generally end up saying "yes" to everybody and stretching myself thin to keep my promises. I'm working on my dissertation at the moment and there's a company that really wants me to translate and write content fo...
A. 28 May 2015: Good for you!
For a "first step" in being an adult woman and learning to set boundaries and tell people no, you DID great!
It does get easier with age!... (read in full...)
Is my BF jealous of this other guy who is also a dance instructor?
Q. MY BF is a dance instructor. I used to dance in his class as a student. Now this other dance teacher took over his class who is male. My BF puts this guy down at every turn in front of me. Not sure why. Says the guy thinks he's all that but he ...
A. 28 May 2015: I DO think he is a little insecure and jealous of Anthonio. And yes, it can be in part because he met YOU through dance class.
Instructors can have quite the ego when it comes to their "craft". I remember having a kick boxing instructor who's GF... (read in full...)
He lied about having a baby and a wife, I can't trust him anymore but I'm still with him!
Q. I lived with my bf for a year.. He's from Iraq and I am from South America but we both live in United States. I discovered some pics on Facebook about him and a baby which I asked and he said it is his nephew..after that like 3 months after a woman ...
A. 28 May 2015: Why waste ANY more time on this guy? So he wants to marry you... or so he says, but your RELATIONSHIP of JUST one year is BASED on lies from his end. ALL lies.
No one lies about having a child or wife, unless they DO it on purpose.
I remem... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was acting grumpy/irritable towards me so I went home. Now he's even more upset! Ideas?
Q. I feel so aggravated right now. I hope someone can give me some advice.My boyfriend and I have been dating a year. We have our fun times but he can be quite a bear to deal with at times. Very moody. I chalk it up too him working a swing shift. I am ...
A. 28 May 2015: Why apologize to him? YOU didn't do ANYTHING wrong.
His behavior WAS not OK. And you should have stood by that. If he can't TREAT you right, you have EVERY right to leave.
Give him his few days and YOURSELF a few days to think on it.
Then T... (read in full...)
Not sure how she feels. But should I try to do some extra nice things for this customer, who I really like, for when she gets back from trip to Japan?
Q. so this girl was a regular customer at my store, and we had so much in common. (How many girls love giant monster and horror movies lol) We started hanging out, nothing serious at all. We would watch cartoons together over Skype and text all the ...
A. 28 May 2015: I agree with CMMP - don't give her gifts in hopes of making her want to date you.
ASK her out. ON A DATE. But wait till she gets back, DO NOT do it over a text/message - ASK her out in person IF possible.
So think of what might be a nice way to... (read in full...)
Is my wife lying? She says she can't remember back 15 years ago whether the guy had a large penis or not
Q. Ive been married to my wife 15 years. When I first met her, i remember her telling me of a former sex partner who was big in penis size. When i brought that fact up recently, she denies anything was ever big. She says she dont remember even ...
A. 27 May 2015: Again STOP obsessing over HER sexual past, it REALLY is NONE of your business.
TRYING to make sense of it, IS not your job or business.
You even KNOW how it UPSETS her to go OVER AND OVER this thing, so what is more important? FOR you to be "r... (read in full...)
Man 1 fathered my son aged 2. Man 2 fathered my unborn child. Just broke up with Man 2. Should I accept offer from Man 2 to still see my 2 year old son?
Q. So trying to cut it short. Pregnant with second child different man to first and first childs dad is not around. Been friends with this man 2 years together for 10 months .. My son is 2 and they get on well however since getting pregnant (un...
A. 27 May 2015: I think since this guy WILL be in your life and CAN be a positive influence for BOTH your children I would. I would NOT give him unsupervised visits with child 1 though.
... (read in full...)
Is it not as easy, as it seems, to get pregnant for some people? Anything else that could help?
Q. My fiancé and I have been trying for a baby for 8 months now, in that time we've only conceived once but sadly that pregnancy ended in miscarriage a few months back. Recently we've been trying like rabbits to conceive again, in every position you ...
A. 27 May 2015: I have to agree, why not WAIT till AFTER you have tied the knot and lived together as man a wife a little while before making new additions to the family?
25 is STILL young to have children. Live a little before having kids.
But back to p... (read in full...)
Is my wife lying? She says she can't remember back 15 years ago whether the guy had a large penis or not
Q. Ive been married to my wife 15 years. When I first met her, i remember her telling me of a former sex partner who was big in penis size. When i brought that fact up recently, she denies anything was ever big. She says she dont remember even ...
A. 27 May 2015: Society is SO focused on sex these days. She might have had MANY reasons to have sex.
Women OFTEN have different motives than men, that goes for sex too. And like Cindy said SHE even explained it to you. She felt ugly and boring.
And don't for... (read in full...)
He's not texting as much as he used to!
Q. Hi, I have been dating this guy for 3 months and at the beginning of the relationship he was all over hills for me. But now I feel as if he has been apart for a little bit. I confronted him two weeks ago and he said everything was fine. But he ...
A. 27 May 2015: What I would do? Is try not to conduct a relationship over texting.
If you two MEET up and SPEND time, how much he texts is irrelevant (and no, not every is on their phones 24/7)
He probably texted a LOT in the beginning to ensure YOU staye... (read in full...)
How can I ignore their inappropriate flirting?
Q. Hello. I have a question that has been bugging me. To explain, it has something to do with a female student in my college Psychology class. I have no idea how old she is. I think she is 18 or 19 like I am. I am also female. But anyway, she and my ...
A. 27 May 2015: By ignoring it?
Or talk to your teacher after class?
My guess is this is a little about envy here? That he pays (in your eyes) too much attention to her?
I think once you hit college there is a different dynamics for teachers/studen... (read in full...)
He said he can't love me because of my past, but I still love him!
Q. i am unable to get over my ex. we started dating four months ago and it was perfect.by the end of the first week itself i told him about my past, that i had lost my virginity to my ex. all he asked me was, if it was a one time mistake or more than ...
A. 27 May 2015: Yikes, get away from that guy.
He is holding your PAST over your head, knowing full well that YOU CAN NOT change the past.
And honestly, if he can't LOVE you as a person because you had sex ONE time, then he isn't GOOD enough for you.
Some... (read in full...)
Is there any way of trying to get her attention without it seeming really creepy lol?
Q. Hello I know this is going to sound kinda creepy but I thought I'd ask anyway. There is this girl, that I barely know, but I have her on Facebook. I really want to go out with her, she seems exactly like my type but I think its odd to just mess...
A. 27 May 2015: How did you "get" her on Facebook?... (read in full...)
Is my wife lying? She says she can't remember back 15 years ago whether the guy had a large penis or not
Q. Ive been married to my wife 15 years. When I first met her, i remember her telling me of a former sex partner who was big in penis size. When i brought that fact up recently, she denies anything was ever big. She says she dont remember even ...
A. 27 May 2015: Let me quote you:
Well 1 more question then honeypie, if 80% of women don't orgasm from penetration. Doesnt it say a lot for the 1 guy that got her close with penetration alone?
Nope. She may NOT be in the 80% first of all, second of all, h... (read in full...)
I met a man online, it started out great, then went south. Advice please!
Q. I met this guy online (long distance) about a month ago. We clicked instantly and have been in contact everyday. We're friends on social media, talk on the phone every other day, text on and off all day and have this thing where we text each other ...
A. 27 May 2015: I honestly would be hurt if some guy added a woman he SEES no point in continuing to talk to, and then to POINT it out to me.
If she is paying too much attention to him while in a committed relationship I'd question WHY he added her.
And thi... (read in full...)
With dating, how do you keep yourself from becoming jaded?
Q. At the end of yet another failed relationship, dating situation, whatever, how do you guys keep yourself from becoming jaded? I've dated quite a few women. Some relationships were great and fun, others were awful. About 2 years ago, I got myself i...
A. 27 May 2015: I think being a little jaded is a good thing, and I think.. it's unavoidable after a bad relationship. That means you (hopefully) know what to avoid (in terms of types).
One thing you DO have to remember is... THE past is the past. You can't "b... (read in full...)
Do you think being set up on blind dates will help me?
Q. im kinda shy guy....i cant talk to girls. i try and try but i fail. im not that social but the friends i have are very supporting and they are very good to me....like me n my friends have a strong bond. im cool to talk to my female friends but not ...
A. 26 May 2015: Try it. Talk to whomever is setting you up first so you KNOW something about the date and HER interests, that way you can find some subjects to bring up.
It might NOT work for you, but really... you got nothing to lose by trying it.... (read in full...)
Do I ditch this good time friend?
Q. I have this friend, she reappeared out of nowhere, after I lived abroad for 4 years. She has lots and lots of problems, her girlfriend had gone travelling and she had an uncle pass away. It was strange she kept reaching out to me, it made me feel ...
A. 26 May 2015: Is there ANY good reason to keep her around as a friend?
If you can't answer yes to that, I'd ditch her. It's that simple. Some people are more of a DRAIN (emotionally, financially and physically) then they are adding to your life.
And I w... (read in full...)
His new girlfriend posted pictures of our daughter on Facebook and didn't reply or remove them when I asked!
Q. I need to get peoples view on whether I'm over reacting or not. My little girls dad's girlfriend recently posted a load of photos of the three of them together on facebook and has even referred to my daughter on facebook as "Our little princess". I...
A. 26 May 2015: I wouldn't contact her directly, I would contact the FATHER. One thing is that HE has pictures up (he has a right as the Dad) SHE on the other hand does not.
So while your BF might not see the big deal, YOU obviously do.
Go through HIM. NOT... (read in full...)
He seemed to treat our date as if I was on his payroll
Q. Hi everyone Please let me know if you think i am crazy but i went on a day out recently with the boss of a large firm. This guy has been flirting with me for ages and i agreed to go with him and his staff. I did seek assurance that i wouldnt be...
A. 26 May 2015: It would be a total no-go for me too. Having a SECRETARY text you? That is just impersonal as can be.
And honestly, HE couldn't call you when you were "lost" he HAD time to GIVE others your phone number so THEY could call/text you, so WHY couldn't... (read in full...)
Is my wife lying? She says she can't remember back 15 years ago whether the guy had a large penis or not
Q. Ive been married to my wife 15 years. When I first met her, i remember her telling me of a former sex partner who was big in penis size. When i brought that fact up recently, she denies anything was ever big. She says she dont remember even ...
A. 26 May 2015: There are women out there who go a life time without an orgasm through sex. They "think" it's their fault, but in reality these women haven't found how to ACHIEVE an orgasm with a partner, mostly because they presume that INSERTION is how you get ... (read in full...)
2 years of sleeping with ex who is married. Do I walk away?
Q. Been sleeping with ex for almost 2 years. He's married. I said to him "when you get divorced we can spend more time together". He said, "you'll find someone" I said so will you, since he's been saying he's getting divorced. He responded, "I have ...
A. 26 May 2015: Yes, walk away.. you have already wasted 2 YEARS being his "dirty secret" or F-buddy... WHY waste more time on him? He is not going to divorce her.
Cut the contact 100%. And next time, don't have a sexual relationship with a guy who is "taken" ... (read in full...)
Is my wife lying? She says she can't remember back 15 years ago whether the guy had a large penis or not
Q. Ive been married to my wife 15 years. When I first met her, i remember her telling me of a former sex partner who was big in penis size. When i brought that fact up recently, she denies anything was ever big. She says she dont remember even ...
A. 26 May 2015: EVERYBODY lies. It's a fact.
Let me quote:
Leonard Saxe, Ph.D., a polygraph expert and professor of psychology at Brandeis University, says, "Lying has long been a part of everyday life. We couldn't get through the day without being deceptive." ... (read in full...)
He made me feel special ... and then he let me down!
Q. Last week, a guy told me that he liked me. I didn't really have feelings for him, but now when I think about it, he makes me happy and I think I'm starting to like him.. The problem is, this week our friends started playing a game of 'who you'd ...
A. 26 May 2015: He is probably trying to NOT single you out. If he singles you out too much he will get teased by his male peers.
Don't take that game personal. Next week you might even BE in the line up of marry, kiss, kill. It's NOT a serious game at all and ... (read in full...)
He likes to show me affection but shuts me off when I do the same.
Q. I have been friends with this man for 3 years. We met online and gradually become really close friends. When we become friends, he was living a 1000 miles away from my city, now, he moved to my city, living only a mile away from my home. We meet ...
A. 26 May 2015: I agree with Cindy.
ASK him how he sees the future, and if you are a part of that. If he doesn't then either CUT off the friendship or KEEP it strictly platonic, which means HANDS off each other.
It's been 3 years HE KNOWS if he wants to marr... (read in full...)
My husband is pressuring me for a threesome.
Q. Hi..We r married not very happily but married for 6yrs..I feel n it's true my husband was never true with me.no doubt he loves me n kids but he's very confused b character less person.since 5 yrs he's pressuring me for three some.every time he wants ...
A. 26 May 2015: NEVER do something sexually or otherwise that YOU DO NOT want to do.
He will keep asking and you can keep saying no, YOU DO NOT owe him 3-somes. And you will NOT achieve domestic bliss if you agree. No, he will want more 3-somes and preferab... (read in full...)
He has disappeared with only a note 'I love you and want to be with you'
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, Please help, I'm going through a really tough time. My boyfriend and I have been together only four months or so, and it has been a bit of a roller coaster. It's the first time both of us have opened ourselves up to ...
A. 26 May 2015: ONLY 4 months together and ALL this drama already? Seriously? I'd walk away and never look back. A relationship shouldn't BE this hard 4 months into it.
Let him go 100% He needs to "fix" himself before dating ANYONE. You can't fix his depressi... (read in full...)
I like her, my friend likes her and she's with someone else. Do I wait?
Q. So it's the end of my first year at university and I realise that I like this girl on my course. She's a year younger than me, but I deferred last year to take some time out and do other things. I've only known her for about five months. The othe...
A. 26 May 2015: So BE her friend. Don't have ulterior motives when making friends, it usually backfires or worse ruins a friendship.
Having a crush on someone happens, we have all BEEN there, but that doesn't MEAN the other person feels the same way or that you... (read in full...)
Should I be allowed a lock on my door?
Q. Hello, opinions on my situation please. I currently live with my step mum dad and little sister. My little sister is my half sister my step mum is her mum. Ive only lived with them for a few months. I used to live with my mum other sister, I was ve...
A. 26 May 2015: You can have ALL the privacy and locks on your door when you live out on your own.
For now though, GO buy a footlocker with a key. KEEP what you don't want your nosy half sister and step mom to get into IN the foot locker.
Or, talk to your dad... (read in full...)
Is my Bf too good to be true? I like him, my family don't like him.
Q. I just recently got into a relationship with this guy. I've had a thing for him a long time and he has too. so we decided to make it official. The problem is he is a bad boy. Half of my family doesn't even like him already, without even kno...
A. 26 May 2015: I agree with WiseOwlE this isn't about being dumb or not dumb. This is about using common sense (which MANY people at ANY age don't do when it comes to dating).
But consider this for your future, if your family who LOVES you warns you against ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my friend without offending him that he is way too touchy for my comfort zone?
Q. I would love your advice with things please, please take into account im gay and things between gay guys are much more "homosocial" than normal: a) I have a dear friend who gets very touchy feel-y. He does this with everyone, but I feel unc...
A. 26 May 2015: If he tries to kiss you, back off and tell him you RESERVE kissing for people you date. If he grabs your ass or crotch, move his hand and tell him you RESERVE ass and crotch grabbing for people you date. And it's OK to tell someone YOU are crossing ... (read in full...)
Did I mess up asking for a second date?
Q. I'm a 30 year old man and I recently went out on a first date with a 34 year old woman. I had a great time. The next morning, I need to leave to teach a day long rock climbing course (i.e., no cell coverage) and I text her beforehand to say that I ...
A. 26 May 2015: I don't think you did anything "wrong" here. I think might be more of a miscommunication.
If you are INTERESTED in her, ask her out (date, activity & time) and if she DOESN'T acknowledges the request, I would wish her good luck in her future e... (read in full...)
I feel like there are 4 in this relationship..me, him and his parents!
Q. Hi I''d like some impartial advice on whether I'm over-reacting and getting ahead of myself and secondly how I deal with the situation. My partner and I have been together a year and a half, he's nearly 10 years older than I am so we've moved fa...
A. 26 May 2015: First of all, don't let them get to you. THEY are looking out for their son, and while he might be in his 30's they see him as a "kid" - THEIR kid, still.
As for equity. Well, none of their business. You and your BF might decide to keep his flat... (read in full...)
My ex is confusing me.. Why is he still explaining himself?
Q. Me and my ex broke up a week ago. I ignored him and his texts since then but he keeps msging me. Today he msged me asking why i was ignoring him... So i said he made his decision. I respect it but I'm not settling for any less than what I want (he ...
A. 26 May 2015: I agree with Cindy.
He is missing the attention you were giving him, and HE still wants that. He can't seem to understand that you DON'T want something half-asses either.
He might also feel guilty that he hurt your feelings and want to feel LES... (read in full...)
I like her, my friend likes her and she's with someone else. Do I wait?
Q. So it's the end of my first year at university and I realise that I like this girl on my course. She's a year younger than me, but I deferred last year to take some time out and do other things. I've only known her for about five months. The othe...
A. 26 May 2015: She has a BF and THUS she should be off limits.
I have to say it's a REAL douche-bag move befriending a girl and then hoping her relationship falls apart so you can swoop in, talk about vulture behavior.
Focus on your education. IF yo... (read in full...)
I need to learn to say no and I can't seem to do it
Q. I need to learn how to say no. I generally end up saying "yes" to everybody and stretching myself thin to keep my promises. I'm working on my dissertation at the moment and there's a company that really wants me to translate and write content fo...
A. 26 May 2015: I agree with WiseOwlE
PUT your education first. A shitty dissertation is worthless. POUR your work into making THAT a great one.
As for this dude, if he is not a person you see often, but he calls/texts - I would tell him, HEY why don't I get ... (read in full...)
Is my wife lying? She says she can't remember back 15 years ago whether the guy had a large penis or not
Q. Ive been married to my wife 15 years. When I first met her, i remember her telling me of a former sex partner who was big in penis size. When i brought that fact up recently, she denies anything was ever big. She says she dont remember even ...
A. 26 May 2015: Good Lord, why are you bringing up a "penis size" 15 years later?
She might actually not remember the actual size, she might not GIVE a fly's FART about some past lovers penis.
She brought it up 15 YEARS AGO - GET frigging over it!
You may n... (read in full...)
He seemed to treat our date as if I was on his payroll
Q. Hi everyone Please let me know if you think i am crazy but i went on a day out recently with the boss of a large firm. This guy has been flirting with me for ages and i agreed to go with him and his staff. I did seek assurance that i wouldnt be...
A. 23 May 2015: Wow, he couldn't be BOTHERED to seek you out himself or CALL you himself? Seriously?
Honestly, I'd just be polite but NOT waste ANY MORE time on him.
No wonder this guy is single...... (read in full...)
Is my Bf too good to be true? I like him, my family don't like him.
Q. I just recently got into a relationship with this guy. I've had a thing for him a long time and he has too. so we decided to make it official. The problem is he is a bad boy. Half of my family doesn't even like him already, without even kno...
A. 21 May 2015: I think you family is looking out for you.
"Bad boys" are called that for a reason, they are NO GOOD. I know there are a LOT of (specially) young women who thinks that these "bad boys" will change FOR THEM because well loves does that, right? N... (read in full...)
He moved in and I feel trapped! How do I handle this situation?
Q. My bf and I started dating about 4 months ago. We were in a LDR where we would see each other one weekend a month (we had a previous long distance friendship for about a year). One month ago he came to visit me... and since he has gotten a job in ...
A. 9 October 2014: Ask him to find a place of his own. That this is TOO soon and too FAST for you. NOTHING wrong in that. Then either break up or go back to actually dating each other.
4 months (and a LDR to boot) is WAY to fast and WAY too soon to be living t... (read in full...)
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