My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 15 May 2015: Again, I wouldn't wonder about his motives. WHO cares! That needs to be your attitude.
Cutting the contact is a good idea. No need to keep people in your life who doesn't BRING positive things or good friendship - I don't really think he can offe... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 14 May 2015: I think you need to TRY and look as this as, WE weren't that great of a fit, instead of thinking I WASN'T GOOD enough.
People who fight a lot are usually not a great fit. Some people presume that fighting is a sign of passion and deep feelings... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 14 May 2015: Good for you OP.
Just know that it was HIS loss, and move on.... (read in full...)
He's fine in person but is awful at texting!
Q. I was just hoping for some general advice. My boyfriend is incredible, and I'm head over heels for my relationship. We're both in college, so I know we're young, but I've never been happier with a significant other. He treats me like a princess. The ...
A. 1 May 2015: So if ALL of us misunderstood you and your BF misunderstood you... MAYBE you should take Lawncare's advice... AND CALL him instead OR NEXT time you are face-to-face tell him... I WOULD like for you to INITIATE meeting up, hanging out, dates instead ... (read in full...)
A close friend told me that my boyfriend isn't a good guy!
Q. A close friend of mine recently told me that my bf isn't a good guy!he said he s very mean and took his friendship for granted and took advantage of his friendship. he is telling me not to have a relationship with him as he might cheat on me or take ...
A. 1 May 2015: I can see why your friend would suggest these things after how their friendship ended, but ONE thing is THEIR friendship, another is YOUR relationship.
You friend might HAVE ulterior motives (such as "revenge" for the end if a friendship, or becau... (read in full...)
Is my personal trainer flirting with me, or only business?
Q. I have this personal trainer, very early days that messages me, is really friendly in person and asks about my day, my life, my history from school and where I've lived, talks about himself and what he hopes to do in the future. Sometimes when he ...
A. 1 May 2015: I think a LOT of personal trainers have an element of seemingly flirtation, they KNOW that if they make the client FEEL good about coming to the gym (looking forward to it and to seeing the trainer) they get better result, and make more money, maybe ... (read in full...)
How can I fix this where I can just make love with my husband and not have to do the toy thing every time
Q. Don't know if I'm not what he wants any more or what??? OK I've been with my husband for going on 10 years we have a great sex life I would like to think. I'm very open minded an very understanding but I just got a question is he into something I...
A. 1 May 2015: I think if it went from once in a while to EVERY time, he might be craving this in order to HAVE sex. Some people get so fixated on ONE thing sexually that the rest ( like the partner's pleasure) falls to the way side.
I would tell him that you... (read in full...)
How can I ask someone out through e-mail?
Q. Okay, I know face-to-face is best. It is, I agree with you. But in my current situation I don't have that opportunity anymore. I met this guy, let's call him Tom, during a study opportunity. Basically students had a chance to apply to specifi...
A. 1 May 2015: Since you have his e-mail I'd send him a mail. Did you guys talk about a place or movie or something - maybe ask him to see the new Age of Ultron movie (example) if you talked about that - or a new exhibit or show, comedy club or whatnot...
Alway... (read in full...)
She is on my mind all the time. Should I tell her or hold in my emotions?
Q. This has been on my mind for a while now. It happened a few days ago, but I am not sure where to progress. This is a long story, so bear with me. So here it is: A few nights ago, a large group mixed with work friends and others who I did not kno...
A. 1 May 2015: I would accept that she DOESN'T like you THAT way. She likes you as a friend. She fancies T. She is looking for a rebound or for some dude to make her feel special since she is having relationship trouble/ or just broke up... Either way.. She isn't ... (read in full...)
Why do women expect men to be mind readers?
Q. Why do women expect men to be mind readers? My wife has been grousing around lately. She finally erupted, "Just once I'd like to come home and find you made the salad for dinner!" "You want a salad? Call/text/e-mail and it's yours!...
A. 1 May 2015: I don't think women (in general) expects the husbands to be mind readers, but WE do expect the husbands to PAY attention. To pitch in. To be an EQUAL partner.
If BOTH of you work full time, WHY is it her job to cook dinner EVERY night? Don't te... (read in full...)
He's fine in person but is awful at texting!
Q. I was just hoping for some general advice. My boyfriend is incredible, and I'm head over heels for my relationship. We're both in college, so I know we're young, but I've never been happier with a significant other. He treats me like a princess. The ...
A. 1 May 2015: I agree with WiseOwlE
An AWESOME BF is what you have, the fact that he isn't great at texting? Seriously? DO NOT try and carry on a relationship over text, that isn't real.
Dial it back a bit. Him giving you his daily itinerary is (sorry to say... (read in full...)
What can I do legally to get her to stop with all the crap shes doing so we can live our lives?
Q. Good day all... Here is the time for all you that give great advice to read my situation and give me advice on what I should do about it. I have been with my fiancé for almost 3 years now. Within a couple months of our relationship he ...
A. 1 May 2015: I'd tell him to sort it out... OR leave.
Like I stated in my LAST advice to you... this is NOT about her. IT's about HIM. She is nothing to you and you CAN ignore her.
You are not the step mom. You are the daddy's girl friend.
These are HI... (read in full...)
My concern is that he's rather stingy and that after almost 2 years he's not ready for being together in person. Advice?
Q. I've been in a Long Distance Relationship for almost two years. My boyfriend is a six hour flight away and I fly to see him once a month, duration of stay is 4-7 days each visit. During the time that we've been together, he has only visited three ...
A. 1 May 2015: It seems pretty uneven to me.
You paying for ALL the visits, the hotel expenses AND food for HIS family too? What does he think you are made of? Gold?
I don't think he is stingy, I think he is taking advantage of you and your wallet.
I agr... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 30 April 2015: I'd tell him if he needs a break he needs to NOT contact you for that month. THAT way HE can figure out HOW important you are to him, OR not.
I think a lot of people make the mistake of having a "break" yet want things to not change TOO much. So... (read in full...)
What are your opinions and reasonings on when sex should occur?
Q. After a while of not having sex, I recently did, with a guy who I met a couple of hours earlier. It's not something I do often, it actually takes me a while to start liking a guy enough to want to hook up, but on my opinion if I find someone I like ...
A. 30 April 2015: For me it has always been a GOOD while into getting to know someone (4-6 months actually). NOT because I played mind-games, not because I worried about being judged, but because being relaxed and comfortable with someone was MAJORLY important to ... (read in full...)
Why does every girl just want to be friends? I don't get past date three. And now this girl'stopped texting me !
Q. so this girl was a regular customer at my store, and we had so much in common. (How many girls love giant monster and horror movies lol) and we started hanging out, nothing serious at all. We would watch cartoons together over Skype and text all the ...
A. 30 April 2015: I have to say INSTEAD of asking a girl to "hang out" ASK her out on a date. (maybe ask her first if she is single).
THAT way SHE knows you aren't looking for a buddy, and YOU can sort the "I'm not interested in a BF or YOU as my BF" out of the p... (read in full...)
Moved away from girlfriend and the sister I have feelings for, did I do the right thing?
Q. I started dating my (now ex) girlfriend 4 years ago. She then moved in with her sister last year, which meant I spent alot of time with her and her sister. For 3.5 years I thought I was happy, well content maybe. Then slowly, my girlfriend, over a ...
A. 30 April 2015: Good for you OP!
Sometimes people ALREADY know the answer before posting on DC (just like you did) but they NEED to hear someone else say it for it to make sense.
And good luck. ... (read in full...)
Should a shy geeky guy visit a prostitute to gain some experience before I Try to find GF
Q. I'm a 24 year old male virgin who has never kissed a girl nor have I ever been on a date. I'm not particularly good looking and I don't have six pack abs. Not to mention I'm a giant film/video game/comic book geek as well. I research this to...
A. 30 April 2015: Having SEX one time (or two) with a prostitute IS not going to MAKE you a good lover. And I have to say MORE girls would be disgusted with the whole "paying for sex" thing WAY more then the "I'm a geek".
Being a good lover doesn't come overnigh... (read in full...)
I just don't want to feel like I'm living with a lazy roommate any longer!
Q. Please tell me if I am overreacting. My husband and I have been married for 4 years. I am in the army, and we have no children. The entire time we have been married, because we have moved around a little I have been the main bread winner which I am ...
A. 30 April 2015: First of all, STOP picking up his dirty underwear. JUST leave them, if he drop them in (let's say) the living room, then pick them up and DUMP them on his side of the bed. As for dirty dishes in his office/car. IGNORE them.
Sooner or later he... (read in full...)
How do I cope with this breakup?
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years finished with me and is now in a relationship with another woman just 2 weeks later. I am in pieces. I cant eat I cant sleep I cant even go to work. We had a row and split but I thought we would work things out. But this time ...
A. 30 April 2015: You focus on your son.
While being "alone" or a single mom isn't as fun, having a dysfunctional relationship isn't working either.
My guess is... he has been wanting out for quite a while. You say you two row, break up and then "work" it out. T... (read in full...)
If I really am the woman he is in love with and plans to be with for the rest of his life why has he made getting married so difficult?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years going on 3. We have two babies and are pretty serious about eachother. The only problem is that we seem to have completely different views about marriage. I want to get married desperately. Every inch of my ...
A. 29 April 2015: Well, if you CHOSE to have kids with a GUY who isn't your husband, I would presume that HE thinks you don't NEED to be married to raise them...
You are 18-21 so pretty young, but I have to ask WHAT is the hurry?
I get that you want to be a fam... (read in full...)
I want to say something to him and at least find out if theres any reason why he thought it was ok to make a plan and then disappear.
Q. I met a guy online several weeks ago and we went out a few times and had a great time. Recently we had plans to go out on Tuesday but then he cancelled last minute, apologized and said it was because he was asked to pick up an extra shift at work ...
A. 29 April 2015: I'd just block, delete and move on. It's only been a few weeks and he has shown you that he rather disappear than call you and talk.
Cancelling last minute is not a great trait, though I do understand pulling an extra shift IS important and some... (read in full...)
She calls me her daughter but charges me $US 500 per month to live with her. Is that too much?
Q. Im 19 year old, I live with my ex guardian. I have been living with Her since I was 16 year old when I dad passed. She increased my monthly payment to $500 a month for staying there. I used to pay $300 before. She calls me her daughter but why do I...
A. 29 April 2015: What is the overall rent for the place?
Is the $500 including food and utilities?
IF YOU feel it is too much why not sit her down and tell her, that you feel $500 is too much for you to pay.
I have a niece who lives with her mother in a $55... (read in full...)
He has the stamina. But why can't I achieve an orgasm with my Bf? Do I need to see a Doctor?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years, we are very close and he knows me well. However, during sex I just don't seem to get an orgasm. He'll thrust and continue until he ejaculates and then bam, he's done. He can last for over an hour befo...
A. 29 April 2015: I agree, your BF doesn't know how a woman work (sexually). MOST women do NOT orgasm from penetration. (our nerve ending are mostly in the clitoris NOT the vagina).
Much like SVC said, if you can masturbate and achieve an orgasm you can show you... (read in full...)
He's been selective, about what he says, when he's communicates with me. Should I just end my relationship with him?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. We met on a dating website and chatted online for about 4 months before meeting. We then, or so I thought, had a good relationship seeing each other every weekend, chatting during the week. In ot...
A. 29 April 2015: Yes, move out.
IF you have had a feeling from the beginning that YOU weren't "good enough", then he WASN'T the right match for you. And the only reason he is no longer chatting with this other girl is because SHE removed HER profile.
So he I... (read in full...)
Moved away from girlfriend and the sister I have feelings for, did I do the right thing?
Q. I started dating my (now ex) girlfriend 4 years ago. She then moved in with her sister last year, which meant I spent alot of time with her and her sister. For 3.5 years I thought I was happy, well content maybe. Then slowly, my girlfriend, over a ...
A. 29 April 2015: Your ex GF treated you like trash, you broke up with her. YES, you did the right thing.
The sister might have liked you, but she also KNOWS that DATING her sister's ex is a absolute No-No. Not only would her sister get hurt feelings, her family a... (read in full...)
Should I walk away? Should I send the note?
Q. After 4.5 years of friendship, J and I began a relationship over Xmas which has largely been conducted online, because of her employment. I'm 32 and am plenty experienced, but this is the first time I feel I could be falling in love. Just recen...
A. 28 April 2015: Some long distance relationships works - because there is a PLAN to BE together geographically.
My husband and I were in a LDR for 18 months before our "plan" could be put into action. But once we formulated a plan of action we BOTH worked o... (read in full...)
I'd like to ask her out but I have misgivings of being thought of as a sleazeball!
Q. There's this girl in my honors seminar group at university that I have a sight crush on. While a part of me would like to ask her out so that I might be able to get to know her better, another part of me is reluctant to do so. I really don't want to ...
A. 28 April 2015: So have you hit on all the OTHER girls in the honors program? If not, ask her for coffee. That really doesn't make you a sleazeball.
Now if you have hit on ALL the other girls and she is just "next" on the list, then yeah... a little sleazy..... (read in full...)
She told me she needs to be alone for a while. Did I come on too strong?
Q. Hi folks looking for some advice. I started seeing this girl "R" in feburary after meeting online- we went for a meal and clicked right away- we talked for over 7 hours and when it was time to go we shared a kiss which was truley amazing. A fe...
A. 28 April 2015: Nope, I don't think you DID anything wrong.
SHE shouldn't have started dating WHEN she wasn't OVER her ex. She isn't over him and she isn't ready for a new relationship, no matter how great of a guy you are.
I know that is not what you want to... (read in full...)
I agreed he can come back only if he promised to make a doctors appointment for some help, am I making the right decision?
Q. My boyfriend of 7 months has finally admitted he has a drinking problem and needs help. He's changed a little since he met me he use to drink everyday but now it's weekend benders. At first it wasn't a problem as we were just having fun but as time ...
A. 28 April 2015: I'd HOLD off on the kids for a good 2 years (AT LEAST) since you have ONLY dated him 7 months, there should BE no hurry for kids just yet.
You say he has changed a little. He went from drinking EVERY day to "just" week-ends. THAT is a big change a... (read in full...)
He hasn't kissed me in a year. But he finds time to watch porn. what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend hasn't kissed me romantically in years. We barely have sex, and it is boring, always the same position. He watches very x rated lesbian porn and knows it bothers me and he obviously doesn't care. He is obsessed with woman and is c...
A. 28 April 2015: Why waste ANY MORE time on this guy? Seriously?... (read in full...)
I found out about his daughter a year into our relationship, and he didn't lend me money for my school fees because he puts her first!
Q. I'm 24yrs and my guy is 29yrs too we have been friends since childhood but he asked me for a relationship as at last year so after one year he told me he had a 10yrs daughter out of wedlock and he said the reason why he refused to tell me such at ...
A. 28 April 2015: (Cindy that is because the Mods changed the title of the question)
In the original title is said he asked HER to lend HIM money for the daughter's school fees.. Thus my confusion.... (read in full...)
Is this verbal abuse? Are we just not right for each other?
Q. I am on the fence about the man I have been in a relationship with for 2 years. I don’t know whether I am wanting to get out of the relationship too soon or if am avoiding the warning signs of what could be verbal abuse. Background Sto...
A. 28 April 2015: He IS abusive, He takes NO responsibility (it's always YOUR fault mentality) and he is manipulative. NONE of those traits are good.
After 2 years of this you are doubting that you are a good fit, rather than REALIZE and ACCEPT that he is an abusi... (read in full...)
How can I politely deal with people who offer their advice on whether we are having a boy or a girl?
Q. Ok, so my fiance I have been thrilled to be expecting our first child. We dont want to find out what we are having because I cant wait for that moment when the doc says "its a..." when it is born, but I have had a lot of people who dont seem to get ...
A. 28 April 2015: Ah, the "gender game"!
I HATED people (strangers) who would walk up and touch my tummy when pregnant, I found it really offensive. But the gender guessing... IT does get old fast, but it's less offensive (to me at least).
But let me tell you ... (read in full...)
He's told others that I'm ''easy''. But was what I did wrong to him, by blocking him and ostracizing him?
Q. Where do I even start? It all began when I started dating this guy for almost a year and then he dumped me. He started dating his ex girlfriend and I knew right there what a complete jerk he was. But, when he and his "new ex girlfriend thing" b...
A. 28 April 2015: Should you be "blamed"? No.
And unless you AGREE with him, let him talk all the smack he wants, IT DOESN'T"T MAKE IT RIGHT! You can't control what he says about you, you can't control what he thinks or do.
NOW you know 100% that he is a jer... (read in full...)
I found out about his daughter a year into our relationship, and he didn't lend me money for my school fees because he puts her first!
Q. I'm 24yrs and my guy is 29yrs too we have been friends since childhood but he asked me for a relationship as at last year so after one year he told me he had a 10yrs daughter out of wedlock and he said the reason why he refused to tell me such at ...
A. 28 April 2015: Well, his DAUGHTER should be more important than a friend's bills.
You shouldn't borrow money from a friend anyways, that is a sure way to ruin a friendship. Nor should you LEND him any money.
WHY would he ask you to lend him money if you had... (read in full...)
Yes, there's depression (being medicated). And the desire to be more positive. So how do I get a more positive outlook?
Q. How do I get a more positive outlook on life? I am twenty years old and I am struggling with severe depression. I currently work in administration with no hopes of furthering my career as my job contract ends here soon, and before that I have alw...
A. 28 April 2015: How long have you been on anti-depressants? Because they DO take 4-6 weeks to kick in. If you have been on them longer than 6 weeks, you might want to revisit your doctor and switch type.
And maybe MEDS alone is not enough. You might need to talk ... (read in full...)
He's ''not sure about our relationship''?? Is this a temporary natural phase in a relationship? Or is it likely to be permanent?
Q. I've been in a wonderful relationship for over two and a half years now, and I thought everything was alright until last year. My partner said he wasn't sure about this relationship, so I gave him some space, and he eventually decided that he want...
A. 28 April 2015: Speaking from personal experience, I have only felt doubt like that when I wasn't SURE it was the right thing for me to STAY with someone. I think when you get to a point where you have one foot out the door... you ARE ready to leave.
Don't... (read in full...)
I'm having sexual feelings for him but I'm not yet ready to have sex. What can I do?
Q. I'm 24plus and my guy is 29plus. He has been my childhood friend but as of last year he asked me out. We both love each other and as of this having been having sexual dreams which both of are involved. Now have been having sexual feeling towards ...
A. 27 April 2015: If you are not ready, then you are not ready. AND that is OK! Be honest about it, so he KNOWS where you two stand. And if he can not or will not wait, HE isn't for you.
Sexual dreams doesn't mean you HAVE to have sex or that you are ready, i... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong? Or was it just insensitive of her? She hasn’t been there for me once over the situation, did I just expect too much?
Q. Last year I found out my father wasn’t mine and my twin’s dad, but he was our elder sister’s father. Since this has come out we have had a strained relationship, mainly through her not understanding or being there for me. After months of struggle...
A. 27 April 2015: She IS going through it too, but as an outsider.
You "were" her sisters for 20 years, now you are "technically" her half-sisters.
HER way of dealing with it is to partly ignore it and partly trying to make it seem like it's not as BIG of a ... (read in full...)
What can I do about about my partner's willingness to be too kind for his own good?
Q. Situation is this.... My partner and I have been together for a year and a half and we live together. My partner has an ex wife with whom he is still going through separation issues and settlements. The separation was nasty so he has left it al...
A. 27 April 2015: As for the separation, I would actually bring it up and tell him you FEEL like YOU and YOUR relationship is in a limbo. Because it IS.
HE IS STILL MARRIED (in the eyes of the law).
Separated does NOT mean single.
Maybe he isn't rockin... (read in full...)
!When I ask him why he doesn't give me any sex he answers that he just got lazy...Does that make any sense to anybody?
Q. Ive got a confusing situation that boggles my mind. But maybe there is someone out there with answers to help me understand things. Ive been with my guy for about a year now. I take our relationship VERY serious. Even when I have outside temptati...
A. 27 April 2015:
* I just get endless promises anymore... it sucks*
So now you know OP. YOU have to decide if staying WITH him is worth it long term. There is no RULES that say you have been together for a year so now you HAVE to stay.
Not cheating is Y... (read in full...)
I am crushing on my best friend's boyfriend!
Q. So I'm a terrible person. Today, I couldn't stop thinking about my best friends boyfriend. Today, was the worst day ever because I haven't ever felt so much good and bad. We were all hanging out and ever so slightly we'd periodically look o...
A. 27 April 2015: I think you need to NIP this crush in the bud. All this sitting and casting glances, looks and long stares IS not right, and you know it.
You say you would never hurt your friend, but what you are doing.... could lose you a best friend if you KEEP... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong? Or was it just insensitive of her? She hasn’t been there for me once over the situation, did I just expect too much?
Q. Last year I found out my father wasn’t mine and my twin’s dad, but he was our elder sister’s father. Since this has come out we have had a strained relationship, mainly through her not understanding or being there for me. After months of struggle...
A. 27 April 2015: No, I don't think you bringing it up was any more "wrong" than HER bringing up that she is the favorite. You BOTH stated the facts.
But would I apologize over and over? no.
I would let her get some time and space and maybe she will realize tha... (read in full...)
I am 43 and I would like to have a baby.
Q. I am 43 and would like to have a baby for the first time. I was married for 15 years but didn't try for a baby because my ex husband didn't want one. Since we divorced 5 years ago I hadn't met anyone with whom I could imagine having a child and ...
A. 27 April 2015: I will echo the "check with your OB/GYN" advice. And maybe consider the egg harvest.
As for the rest, IF you can handle a baby BY yourself, and with the help of your BF/his family, I'd stop worrying about your parents and what THEY want.
... (read in full...)
!When I ask him why he doesn't give me any sex he answers that he just got lazy...Does that make any sense to anybody?
Q. Ive got a confusing situation that boggles my mind. But maybe there is someone out there with answers to help me understand things. Ive been with my guy for about a year now. I take our relationship VERY serious. Even when I have outside temptati...
A. 27 April 2015: So you are SERIOUS about your relationship, yet in ONE year he has cheated on you a "couple of times" with his ex? And he is "too lazy" to be bothered to have sex with you?
Have you honestly ASKED him, what he would suggest? Should you... take ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants "space" for a month and I am scared he wont come back!
Q. My boyfriend requested time apart. He said we're arguing too much. He doesn't want to end things, he wants to re-evaluate everything and he wants to be with me. I asked him not to string me along if he knows it's over, but he said he doesn't know. ...
A. 27 April 2015: Give him that month. TAKE that month and work on yourself. You say that you DO interrogate him a LOT and you know it's wrong.. so you NEED to find ways to STOP doing that.
You say you TOLD him things will be different, HE isn't sure about that. An... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong? Or was it just insensitive of her? She hasn’t been there for me once over the situation, did I just expect too much?
Q. Last year I found out my father wasn’t mine and my twin’s dad, but he was our elder sister’s father. Since this has come out we have had a strained relationship, mainly through her not understanding or being there for me. After months of struggle...
A. 24 April 2015: I agree that parents shouldn't have favorites. I have 3 FAVORITE children - ALL of mine are my favorite and they know it.
I think your older sister is being brat here. She doesn't fully understand the situation, but she also doesn't seem to under... (read in full...)
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