We messaged as friends after the breakup. So why the change in her tone, after so long?
Q. Hi guys Apologies in advance for this mammoth of an essay! I broke up with my girlfriend 2 years ago. It was a mutual thing (we realised we had different ambitions and priorities) and we managed to remain friends afterwards, even meeting...
A. 3 June 2015: Maybe it is a LITTLE bit about hurt pride here? She rather DUMP you as a friend than make her BF feel uncomfortable?
She has to do what's RIGHT for her, and if that means NO LONGER being friends with you, there really isn't much you can do.
F... (read in full...)
His friends are so miserable I'm wondering if the relationship can work
Q. OK this is going to be a long rant it seems. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months, everything was OK until one night where his friends all turned on me. There was a beer festival in my local town to which him and his friends went...
A. 2 June 2015: Honestly, I would end it with this guy. His friends ARE a reflection of him. And not a pretty one.
He lets a FEMALE friend BULLY you without doing ANYTHING about it. A decent BF would have told that female friend to b a decent human being or go F ... (read in full...)
Can women realistically start a family past 30?
Q. I suppose the purpose of this question is to hear from women who have started a family after the age of 30. Those of you in the UK might have seen that a top fertility doctor has just said publicly that women who want kids should try before t...
A. 2 June 2015: Look at Italy. PLENTY of late mom's there. And there is ALWAYS the option to freeze eggs. Which can help you have children in your late 30's, early 40's if so desired.
I had my first at 30 (almost 31) second at 33 and 3rd at 35. All healthy.... (read in full...)
We messaged as friends after the breakup. So why the change in her tone, after so long?
Q. Hi guys Apologies in advance for this mammoth of an essay! I broke up with my girlfriend 2 years ago. It was a mutual thing (we realised we had different ambitions and priorities) and we managed to remain friends afterwards, even meeting...
A. 2 June 2015: You can be annoyed all you want, but it doesn't make YOU right and HER wrong.
Many people do NOT have amicable break up, so there is always a bit of lingering drama. And those who do, sometimes just outgrow each other, or rather the "need" f... (read in full...)
I understand that he was unwell but why is he treating me in this way?
Q. So I went on a trip with my coworker who I met 1.5 months ago. We both have free flight benefits and i slept with him the week before we went on a vacation, like after our 5th date. I wanted to know him better and I really like him and he told me ...
A. 2 June 2015: Just tell him, no thanks.
Many guys will try the whole "fwb" or F-buddy thing and unfortunately many girls THINK if they have sex, a relationship will follow (which is rarely the case).
So again, just be honest.... (read in full...)
How can I find out who a phone number belongs to? They keep calling/texting but I don't know who it is!
Q. Hi everyone, Is there any way you can do a reverse phone look up for a US phone number? FREE? I am pretty sure it could be a mobile phone. Any FREE sites, services, resources? This phone number from Florida keeps calling me and texting me...
A. 2 June 2015: Why not just block the number?
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I understand that he was unwell but why is he treating me in this way?
Q. So I went on a trip with my coworker who I met 1.5 months ago. We both have free flight benefits and i slept with him the week before we went on a vacation, like after our 5th date. I wanted to know him better and I really like him and he told me ...
A. 2 June 2015: EDIT:
I wrote: So go slow, Do get too attached
Should have been:
So go slow, Do Not get too attached.... (read in full...)
Our relationship has been on the rocks since he got new co-workers
Q. my fiance has decided I'm no longer attractive, not just to him, but to amy other man. We have 2 children together so its not like I can just split up with him. I don't wear make up very often, maybe once a week. He's not normally like this, the ...
A. 1 June 2015: Time to get your ducks in a row. That means FIND yourself a job, because he is not going to be reliable in your life if a new co-worker turns his head that easily.
YOU need to be able to take care of two kinds on your own. To get yourself BACK. Lo... (read in full...)
I understand that he was unwell but why is he treating me in this way?
Q. So I went on a trip with my coworker who I met 1.5 months ago. We both have free flight benefits and i slept with him the week before we went on a vacation, like after our 5th date. I wanted to know him better and I really like him and he told me ...
A. 1 June 2015: So go slow, Do get too attached. Have fun in his company, but don't have too lofty expectations because I think this guy would fail. Regard him as a fun hang out buddy.
Don't take him too serious. This is not a guy with hidden depths. ... (read in full...)
I think he doesn't respect me
Q. Hi. I just get this weird feeling that my boyfriend doesn't respect me. I mean I mentioned I can't see him at night, only during the day. But he wanted to see me that very evening. And I told him my evenings this week are packed, and he just texted ...
A. 1 June 2015: I would tell him ONCE, sorry no can do on the evening date, I have stuff to do. Now if he asks you again, feel free to ignore it. You shouldn't HAVE to tell him over and over that an evening date ins't possible.
Does it have to do with respect?... (read in full...)
I know I don't measure up to her ex. But how can I make my self more attractive to my fiance?
Q. I have been with my fiancé for 12yrs and we haven't had sex for the last 11yrs. I feel way too insecure to have sex with her because I am very fat and I have a very small penis (less than 3" erect) but I don't want to leave as she is my best frie...
A. 1 June 2015: You do know there is MORE to sex then penetration, right? You can SERIOUSLY please a woman and she can please you.... without actual intercourse.
11 years with no sex because you have a complex about the SIZE of your penis?! I'm amazed she is s... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will not apologize for standing me up!
Q. After looking everywhere on the Internet for an answer, I feel like I should ask my very own question out there. Boyfriend of 8 months is usually wonderful, I know that he does his very best for me and our relationship. He's very committed and ve...
A. 1 June 2015: Maybe CHANGE your usual routine. DO NOT be the one to reach out to him. You say he KNOWS what he did wrong, he probably does - but he also DOESN'T think he did anything wrong, or he would have reached out.
As for the whole not giving complime... (read in full...)
Is my sister's mental illness a reason for me to not have children?
Q. So, I'm at the age (early 30's) where my partner and I are thinking it's probably time we look at starting a family. But we're undecided as to what to do. I've always been a maternal person. I've always been excited about the idea of becoming a mu...
A. 1 June 2015: I understand your concern. mental illness is usually NOT on the list of things they can test for genetically. So on that note genetic counseling is out. (at least for that).
I would say unless there are SEVERAL family members with autism, attentio... (read in full...)
I understand that he was unwell but why is he treating me in this way?
Q. So I went on a trip with my coworker who I met 1.5 months ago. We both have free flight benefits and i slept with him the week before we went on a vacation, like after our 5th date. I wanted to know him better and I really like him and he told me ...
A. 1 June 2015: I think it's up to you how you WANT to handle it.
My question to you is, ARE you interested in getting to know him better? Or was this trip off-putting enough that you no longer interested?
If you WANT to know him better, I'd suggest putting ... (read in full...)
Should I apologize to my married co-worker for the touchy feely session we had?
Q. Hi there. I'm a gay man and recently went on a work trip with a straight co-worker (who knows I am gay).We went out one night and got very drunk. We ended up back in my hotel room having a nightcap. We got to taking our shirts off to compare bodies, ...
A. 1 June 2015: I'm 100% with YouWish.
If you have ANY apologies to make, it's to your partner, not the co-worker. Alcohol or not, he KNEW what he was doing...... (read in full...)
Is she just relying on me or is she interested in me?
Q. I have a female friend I've known for 8 years. Both married when we met, both been single 5 years. We used to meet up for lunch occasionally, had a bit of a falling out when she continually cancelled arrangements but have seen and spoken a lot more...
A. 1 June 2015: Personally, I would NOT date this woman, she seems a bit.. unstable. There is more going on then her being "lonely".
She isn't JUST drinking because she is lonely. So dating her wouldn't change that fact. The fact that she can't seem to control ... (read in full...)
How can I find out who a phone number belongs to? They keep calling/texting but I don't know who it is!
Q. Hi everyone, Is there any way you can do a reverse phone look up for a US phone number? FREE? I am pretty sure it could be a mobile phone. Any FREE sites, services, resources? This phone number from Florida keeps calling me and texting me...
A. 1 June 2015: You could try whitepages.
http:... (read in full...)
I understand that he was unwell but why is he treating me in this way?
Q. So I went on a trip with my coworker who I met 1.5 months ago. We both have free flight benefits and i slept with him the week before we went on a vacation, like after our 5th date. I wanted to know him better and I really like him and he told me ...
A. 1 June 2015: I agree with Cindy, he is NOT that into you.
However I've just had a 9 day bout of Strep throat (thanks kids!) and it hurts. There is no way I'd be kissing someone (or would WANT to kiss someone else with a sore throat, just eww)
I think first... (read in full...)
So men, does it have to be one or the other? Do you think he just doesn't want me?
Q. I am a good person, devoted and loyal to my boyfriend. Problem is his porn addiction and total obsession with woman, his rude comments hurt and he knows I don't like it, but hasn't stopped. Sex is very rare and mostly he wants oral sex. I'm lonely ...
A. 1 June 2015: Why spend time and emotions TRYING to figure out why this guy can't see the great woman in front of him, and GO find someone who CAN.
Sounds like you give and give and give and he just takes. That is kind of one sided.
Personally, I... (read in full...)
Does sex before marriage cause boredom once married?
Q. do having sex before marriage create boredom towards each other? that is not to get married?...
A. 1 June 2015: Why should be it more boring once you have a ring on your finger?
You KNOW your partner and have the rest of your life to explore them further.
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Boyfriend like swinging, me not so much. Will I be enough for him?
Q. The general dilemma is that my boy for three years likes to swing, or likes the idea of swinging. After a few times of play,.. I have realized that I am not so much. about 6 months after we started dating we looked into one of his previous "fu...
A. 1 June 2015: I DO think when it comes to swinging people might LIKE the fantasy of it a lot more then the reality.
I do NOT think it helps relationships. From what I have seen it is rather destructive to a good relationship.
Personally, it would NEVER d... (read in full...)
Should I let go now or forgive him since we weren't officially dating?
Q. Should I let go now or forgive him since we weren't officially dating? ok so I need some advice , so me and this guy have been talking for about eight months now but we are not officially together he and I both decided that until I moved then we ...
A. 31 May 2015: I have to agree with Euphoria30
The whole "we didn't have a label" is a poor excuse for what he did. Almost as BAD as the "I was so drunk that I had sex with this chick". IF he was REALLY remorseful he would have TOLD you two months ago and aske... (read in full...)
Can you think of examples where a woman initiated a relationship? I need some examples to demolish my long held view that this never happens.
Q. Because it seems, to me, that all boyfriend and girlfriend relationships are still initiated by the guy, where the man approaches the woman first, talks to her first and asked her out first, initiated everything or almost everything in the ...
A. 31 May 2015: I agree with YouWish.
It sounds like you want to hear that females initiate, so YOU don't have to go out there and do it.
As you can see PLENTY of women do, but that doesn't MEAN a woman will initiate with YOU.
You CLING on to your "precon... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never wants to go anywhere or do anything with me
Q. Hey everyone I be been dating my boyfriend for over 2 years we used to every thing together and we always found something to do together. But now we do nothing at all. I always have to do things by myself because he never wants to leave this house ...
A. 31 May 2015: It does sounds like you two have grown apart. Like he wants to end it, but doesn't have the nuts to break up.
And I agree with Code Warrior, why aren't you invited to tag along with him & his friends? Or go see his mom?
Personally, I... (read in full...)
How to deal with the games she's playing?
Q. My gf, 23 ,of 6 months is playing hard to get by randomly saying she has a new bf shes known for two months. Shes been nice and not distant. Ive proven myself to her several times in which she acknowledged back then. I talked face to face to her ...
A. 31 May 2015: I would wish her good luck with her "other" BF and quit talking to her. Honestly, if she has been hurt in the past SHE should know playing GAMES is not the way to make a relationship work.... (read in full...)
Should I tell the other girl about his cheating?
Q. Hi I just found out 2 days ago (by chance) that the guy I have started dating has a girlfriend. He doesn't know that I know this as I havnt confronted him yet. I'm feeling so hurt as I love him but I will obviously not see him again now I know he is ...
A. 31 May 2015: If you have "proof" as in texts, emails or what not then YES, I'd tell her.
YOU did nothing wrong. He lied to you. Probably to her too.
You sounds like you dodged a bullet there.
What an asshat!... (read in full...)
I want to meet my online guy but my parents likely won't allow it
Q. Hey everyone! I really want to meet this guy that I have been having contact with for more than 2 years. We always Skype and usually text or talk on the phone. He's willing to pay for my flight but I have a dilemma. My parents are pretty stric...
A. 31 May 2015: Why can't HE come see you? Met your parents? ... (read in full...)
In a long distance relationship at the moment but I want sex
Q. My boyfriend had been away for about 8 months now . He went of to study in Wyoming and I am in Illinois. I have been going through allot without him and I am having a really hard time being faithful. In a relationship I am always a hot head. I ...
A. 31 May 2015: Is it wrong? Yes. If you WANT sex with someone else, have the DECENCY to BREAK up with your BF FIRST.
If you can't DO long distance then DON'T.
Whether you are a hot head or "NEED" sexual action, facts are you are IN a relationship. If... (read in full...)
He's dragging his feet over a second meeting?
Q. About a month ago I met this great man online. He had some health problems and we weren't able to meet in person for a while but we'd spend long hours texting on Skype or talking on the phone. Finally, the day came in which we met. We spent the ...
A. 31 May 2015: Honestly, I would presume as you did that he ISN'T as keen as he might be claiming OR that he is seeing more than one women at the moment.
Personally, ONE date in over a month? Wouldn't make me wait around for him to have "a quiet time" in his b... (read in full...)
How to prove that he is not cheating while its 99% he is
Q. Hey there I met a guy online through a gay dating app 3 months ago, I am 30 and he is 20 years Things were fine , I liked him from the first beginning and I couldn't get enough from him ! he said and acted the same ! I had trust issues with hi...
A. 31 May 2015: Just DROP the user!
You know he is ONLY after someone to TAKE CARE of him while he runs around doing this thing.
He is still VERY immature and NOT ready for a relationship. You do NOT have to show him PROOF that you know he is a lying sack of ... (read in full...)
Want my ex boyfriend back but how. running out of ways
Q. Me and my ex have been broken up since April. I have tried all I can think of to get him back etc told him how I feel, asked him out again stopped being as needy. Alot of girls always try and flirt with him alot. I like him alot even though we was ...
A. 31 May 2015: Stop chasing this guy.
I'm sorry, but ...He doesn't want you. He has found that if he treats you like you dirt you keep chasing and while he doesn't WANT you, he DOES like the attention, BUT ANY girl's attention would do.
So STOP chasing him... (read in full...)
My ex and I talk/text sexual things but he's got a girlfriend
Q. My son's father and I are not together anymore. We haven't been for over a year. He's had another gf for about a year. I've been single since we ended things. About 6 months ago, he and I were talking and things started to go in a sexual ...
A. 31 May 2015: "You can tell him STRAIGHT out, you know BOB these conversations just don't sit right with me, when YOU are dating someone else. I know it's all fun and games for you - but I can not continue, so FROM now on, we can talk about THE CHILD, ... (read in full...)
He's a drama queen and blows everything out of proportion. But how can I give him support?
Q. So I've been in a relationship with my bf for almost 3 years. I have known him for almost 10. when we first got together, it was the beginning, that joy, we couldn't be stopped. Fast forward to now and I feel like I am going crazy. Needless t...
A. 31 May 2015: Well, I AGREE with your BF on one thing, you wanted a second opinion because the counselor didn't validate your feelings. He isn't wrong in that statement..... Though I seriously have to question a counselor who thinks playing video-games 18 hours a ... (read in full...)
Can you think of examples where a woman initiated a relationship? I need some examples to demolish my long held view that this never happens.
Q. Because it seems, to me, that all boyfriend and girlfriend relationships are still initiated by the guy, where the man approaches the woman first, talks to her first and asked her out first, initiated everything or almost everything in the ...
A. 31 May 2015: Yep, my first two relationships were ME initiating. It lasted 4 1/2 years. Good guy.
My second BF was one of my older brother's friends, one I had had a crush on since I was 15? I ran into him one night (maybe a 8-9 months after I broke up with ... (read in full...)
What could be the reason I am so consistently declined for jobs I apply for?
Q. Hi there I started to feel sad and upset with my situation. I have a degree in event management and also worked for 2 years for a well known company with good money too. Since I had the baby I left the job because I was commuting long distance. ...
A. 30 May 2015: Is it THE reason? It's hard to say. It think it depends on what kind of events management/planning you are looking to work in.
If it's weddings for instance, I can see someone thinking that a covered up girl has NO experience in that.
Some pe... (read in full...)
Is there any chance we could end up with a deeper relationship? Am I fool thinking I can wait for her?
Q. Figure I might just see if any old souls can offer wisdom. Almost a year ago now, I met a girl in an interesting state of mind, who recently broke up with her boyfriend. We work together at a late night restaurant which I rent an apartment above,...
A. 30 May 2015: I agree, first.. quit smoking. It will not only save you money, it will save your health. I smoked from 18-24 and I was so relieved, when I finally stopped smoking. I did a calculation of how much money I spend on that habit and it was a LOT. Try ... (read in full...)
Why is this happening? Anything I've said has sparked an argument this week.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been arguing since Monday and its now Saturday. I booked a week off from work to redecorate my room back home where I'll be moving back to in September. Early Monday when it came to me getting ready to leave, my boyfri...
A. 30 May 2015: So he feels like he isn't a priority?
For you to SIT about and wait 2 hours for him to be ready to go shopping is honestly a little ridiculous. HE knew you were leaving, but decided to try and "make" you wait around for 2 hours. Maybe he was w... (read in full...)
He has blocked me and is ignoring me now. So how do I get back the money he owes me?
Q. Dear Cupid I am having on and off relationship with my best friend. We are very close year back, for last 1 year its all going downhill. He is avoiding me, not picking up my calls, telling me lies all the time He blocked me in phone, everywher...
A. 30 May 2015: I hope to goodness you some kind of written proof of this loan, if you do, go find a lawyer and let HIM/HER handle it.
How do you get over him? Seriously, you need help getting over him after he borrowed money from you and then pretend you don'... (read in full...)
He says he's been vaccinated for hepatitis B as his father has hepatitis B. Are my fears justified that I could catch it too, in this situation?
Q. I've recently started seeing a man. We get along very well and I do hope to continue into something more serious with him. However when we were talking about our families he mentioned in passing his dad has hepatitis b and a weak liver. He said he ...
A. 30 May 2015: I agree this is easy enough, get vaccinated and GO get tested together.
... (read in full...)
Why are women turned off by inexperienced men?
Q. Why does inexperience turn women off ? Why is it that if a guy never had a girlfriend before, he is a turn off to the vast majority of girls that are non-virgins and have had their share of boyfriends or just been in a relationship before, and sadly ...
A. 30 May 2015: Maybe PRIMATES in the wild follow those rules you quote, but human being are not exactly as "simple" as primates when it comes to mates. The quote you mention is about "evolutionary psychology" which is... CONJECTURE. Probably even written by a ... (read in full...)
Why do I continue to have drama in my life with friends? How can I be better, what should I do?
Q. I continue to have drama in my life with friends. No matter what I do, drama follows. Nothing seems to work. I still end up losing friends. I partly think it's because I expect so much from them. Whenever I have a friend, I expect them to treat me...
A. 29 May 2015: I agree with CodeWarrior.
There ARE different types of friends. What you WANT is BEST FRIENDS, the people you can rely on, trust in and confide in, but what you HAVE are acquaintances or fair weather friends. People you can hang around, have fun... (read in full...)
How do I win him back and feel better? My Mom and My Aunt don't like him
Q. I fell for this guy; I'm 23 and he's nearly 30. He seems to like me and he's also sexually attracted to me. However, I haven't been able to date him as I was trying to finish off my degree at the time. This is still an on-going problem as I'm s...
A. 29 May 2015: He sounds like a TOTAL ASS!
You changed your profile picture, BIG DEAL! and he blew a gasket? And YOU feel bad? Are you serious?
Then he pulls the "you should be grateful for my attentions", because look SO many girls want me.
And you feel... (read in full...)
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