His attitude towards me wanting a child in the future is affecting how I treat his 3 year old!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 years. He has a three year old son with another woman. They only dated for about a month and accidentally got pregnant and things didn't work out between them. I was originally ok with the situation. I ...
A. 15 June 2015: OH btw.... Forgot to add this:
DO not take your resentment out on a 3 year old, that is JUST petty!
This is between YOU and him.
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His attitude towards me wanting a child in the future is affecting how I treat his 3 year old!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 years. He has a three year old son with another woman. They only dated for about a month and accidentally got pregnant and things didn't work out between them. I was originally ok with the situation. I ...
A. 15 June 2015: This is one of those deal-breaker issues that NEEDS to be sorted out.
Him saying he might perhaps someday he doesn't know ya-da ya-da is him NOT wanting you to leave him. He DOES know if he wants kids or not, but he thinks by giving you HOPE tha... (read in full...)
I am confused, sad and lost, and can't stop my tears!
Q. How can I Trust my partner wen he calls me frumpy and unattractive and ogles and says how he loves other women's bodies and faces . Yet I'm 5.2 and 50 ks and often am told I look lovely and even his friend was shocked wen he found out that I am 20 ...
A. 15 June 2015: DUMP the loser!
There is nothing WRONG with you - EXCEPT for that "partner" of yours...
Let him keep his promise to his wife.. The dude DESERVES to be alone. What a creepy nasty man.
If you work where you are at now, see if a transfer is pos... (read in full...)
I was clear that I would only move if we got married ...
Q. Hi, my name is rebecca, Age 40 and from the USA. last July i moved to Sweden to be with my bf, 38 who is from Sweden. I have been in sweden for 1 year now and sadly he hasnt asked me to marry him yet. It was something i was very very clear with ...
A. 14 June 2015: So set a time line for how long you want to be living with him without the marriage, and let him know.
Let's say you give him another 6 months, then stick by your word and move home if he doesn't propose.
I understand living in a different coun... (read in full...)
I'm starting to feel like a side dish in this LDR. Am I being too controlling?
Q. I wonder what happened in our relationship. Has he changed or have I? We are in a Long Distance Relationship, but are able to see each other quite often. The first year we were together was pretty amazing. There was trust and love. We didn't ...
A. 14 June 2015: If I was you I would make the conversation VERY short if you can see he is busy doing something else. Without explaining it.
If he at some point in time ASKS you who tell him, I feel like it's a chore for you to talk to me, that is why you do i... (read in full...)
I said hi to my ex and regret it!
Q. Am I stupid ? I dumped my bf 3 weeks ago! It was a short one of 4 months He was cheating on me and dating others, he was stingy, liar , opportunistic and so sensitive , always uses me , always he has no money But loved him (I hate my heart) ...
A. 14 June 2015: You said he used you, so .. he probably didn't CARE a great deal for you. And his reaction was definitely one to make YOU feel bad about yourself.. and it worked.
Saying hi to an ex doesn't make you look cheap, unless you fling yourself on the f... (read in full...)
I need advice on my FWB!
Q. I became friends with benefits with my best guy friend. we've been best friends since forever and this wasnt something we talked about and decided to get into. Living together sort of just progressed into more things and then sex. he has a girlfrie...
A. 14 June 2015: I have to agree, you need to back off and go back to the room-mate/friend relationship - no more sex.
He and the GF may or may NOT work out, but YOU being in the mix is NOT helping them OR you.
I'm sure you wouldn't APPRECIATE if YOUR Bf used ... (read in full...)
Is he being affected by this girl who's been throwing herself at my BF?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years, we live together and I feel that he is my best friend. We trust each other and rarely argue about much. However recently I've noticed that during long spells of sadness (I've not been d...
A. 14 June 2015: I think he is being UNFAIR in reaching out to other women when YOU are not doing good. THAT is NOT a good excuse that YOU were sad, so he got on Tindr, I mean WTF?
On the other hand YOU need to learn to RELY on other people for support NOT just... (read in full...)
I slapped him, he slapped me back, what should I do?
Q. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend *lets call him Tyler) for 3 years. He proposed to me last month but since then we just seem to argue. He purposefully does and says thing to get reactions and when i snap he goes in a really childish ...
A. 14 June 2015: Him slapping you, is NO better nor worse then YOU slapping him. He might have reacted with the slap back as "instinctively" as YOU slapped him.
While I do NOT think ANYONE should HIT anyone, I do find it ridiculous that women think THEY get a fr... (read in full...)
I need advice please? It's the same girl, but things have changed.
Q. So this is the third time i wrote here asking for questions... And its still about the same girl, to begin things change and doesnt go quite as planned... About four months ago i posted a previous question about asking my highschool crush out ...
A. 13 June 2015: She is pregnant, WITH someone else's child. SHE is with that SOMEONE, and no amount of her not being happy with him, makes you declaring your feelings for her OK.
Not only that, but are YOU ready to date someone who is (sorry" silly enough t... (read in full...)
She's my ex and yet she's still being demanding? What should I do for the best?
Q. Over a week ago I found my (ex) girlfriend on dating sites. It`s not the first time by a long way. Sometimes she lied about it, other times she blamed me for neglecting her, which I dispute and she would never explain why. In fact, it broke up...
A. 13 June 2015: If she is your ex... BLOCK her number and let her do her thing, while YOU do your thing.
SCREW what she wants! She is an ex for a reason.
And I agree someone is giving her some inside info, trying to manipulate YOUR life. Don't let her.
Tell... (read in full...)
My Girlfriend never let's me finish when we make love. Am I doing something wrong?
Q. This is my first time every doing anything like this, because i can usually solve problems myself, so please bare with me. But, this is different for me. My question is Ive been seeing this girl for almost 2 years it's crazy how we met but she's...
A. 13 June 2015: So because you pay for stuff you OWN her? You own the "mining rights" to her vagina?
Here is the thing, if YOU are not happy with the sex you are having, TALK to her, IF nothing changes and this is IMPORTANT to you, maybe you need to consider... (read in full...)
How can I get over this? The girl I was one question away from proposing to is gone, and I don't know what to do.
Q. My girlfriend of 3 years broke things off with me the other night and I am absolutely devastated and need help dealing with it. Let me start from the beginning. We met 3 years ago and I immediately fell head over heels for her. Her family didn'...
A. 13 June 2015: I think she was (still is) a little too young to settle down (with you or anyone else) right now.
My advice is accept that she is still growing and maturing and she HAS to find her own way, you can buy it and pave it for her.
If she has fe... (read in full...)
What does this tell you about her? I'm confused. Does she have feelings for me?
Q. So my friend has 3 best friends in order of S, J and L, I'm J but lately my friend who is in a lesbian relationship with L, told me she prefers me over S and L then asks if she's a bad person, I had sex with her once, and I don't know if she li...
A. 13 June 2015: Your friend isn't a lesbian, she is (if anything) bi-sexual if she sleep with both girls and guys. NOT that a label changes anything.
I think she has NO clue what she wants, so she string you along JUST in case she decides that dating a guy is w... (read in full...)
Am I being too harsh getting annoyed with my fiancé's bed-wetting and his behaviour when he is very drunk?
Q. Am I just being over sensitive? My fiance and I do not go out very often, mainly due to finances, but he does get to go out more often than I do. I don't mind this as I am a bit more of a 'home' person. However there is something about his beha...
A. 13 June 2015: If he pisses the bed, how long till be pisses on you - LITERALLY? EWWW Just super gross!
For someone to be SO drunk that they piss themselves, it is kind of extreme. I have been "blackout" drunk a couple of times but NEVER pissed myself. EVER. Th... (read in full...)
How do I let this much older man know I'd love to date him?
Q. Awww I need some advice please! I have had a crush immature phrase but that's all it is right now. On a older man I know, 18 year gap. He works local to where I live. He first caught my eye as he is handsome and always dressed in a suite. Always ...
A. 13 June 2015: There is a HUGE difference between wanting to get to KNOW someone and date them.
I think you OUGHT to start by getting to know him, that means start some small talk. Find out if he is married or single. Like Euphoria30 mentioned YOU DO NOT want... (read in full...)
When he flirts he says he's just being friendly. I need advice in any way you think is needed to deal with his behaviour please?
Q. Ok hi so this is my story. I’m 20 n my boyfriend is 33 he has 3 kids ages 7-12 I think. I don’t have any kids. We’re together one year six months . the people around us think that we shouldn’t be together for various reasons. When we now got...
A. 12 June 2015: I think you are wasting your time on this guy. He has 3 KIDS which means some REAL responsibilities, yet... he flirts with everything in a "skirt".
And while you think you love him.... you still kiss another guy. People don't kiss by accident... (read in full...)
What is he really playing at? He says he's working there. I think he has had a baby with another woman
Q. Six month's ago I found a new fb page of my current bf, which said in a relationship with someone else, when I confronted him he denied it and removed the account saying his brother made it. Anyway I kept the girls name and every now and then I g...
A. 12 June 2015: Is this the same guy you paid his car insurance for? The guy who couldn't get insurance on his own or what not?
IF it is, you obviously do not take ANY of the advice given to heart as you still talk to him and still see yourself as his GF.
G... (read in full...)
Gym is packed most of the time, so how do I go up to him and start a conversation? Scared of rejection.
Q. Okay so I have been going consistently to the gym since january. Back when I was freshly single. I spotted someone very cute but I looked awful cause I go to work out not look at guys but something about this guy makes me want to go talk to him. ...
A. 12 June 2015: Start by saying hi when you see him. Hi and a smile. See how he reacts. That way... you have shown interest and unless he is VERY dense, he will pick up on that and return the favor.
IF he DOESN'T react in a positive way, then it's all good. An... (read in full...)
He says I'm being stupid. How do I get him to talk about our problems, instead of ignoring them.. and me? 2
Q. How do i deal with a fiancé who just wants to ignore problems and never talk about anything? My boyfriend and i just recently got engaged and for about the last month i've felt ignored. I've tried talking to him about it but whenever i bring...
A. 12 June 2015: Give him the ring back. I absolutely agree wit that advice. NEITHER of you are ready for marriage or mature enough for the commitment and work it requires.
If you are in the 18-21 age range WHAT is the hurry to marry? Specially a guy who doesn't ... (read in full...)
Colleague has become my best friend....but should we start dating?
Q. A new guy started working with me a year ago. He is the level above me and more qualified (im training to gain the same qualifications). Over the last year he has become one of my best friends. Hes great company and we get on unbelieveably well. He ...
A. 12 June 2015: I so agree with Anonymous 123
Don't go further with this. Not only was it a sorta rebound for you, but as sweet, cute, whatnot he is, he might just not be a very great match, and I think HE knows it.
Stick to being friends, good ones are HA... (read in full...)
My husband's family are monsters and I don't want them to be around us!
Q. Hello, I'm in need of some advice. Course aren't we all? I'm 6 months pregnant and have a 7 year old as well. I'm with a very amazing lovable man. He is a wonderful father, and a blessing as a husband. He is my best friend and lover all in one...
A. 12 June 2015: Honestly, I see NO reason why YOU can't cut these people out of your life if you feel nothing but hostility and negativity from them.
IF your husband STILL want to see/talk to them, I'd let him, but HE would go there BY himself.
Rumors of abu... (read in full...)
How can I start talking to her? Or should I just give up on her due to her being in High school while I'll be at college?
Q. So I just graduated high school ,but there was this sophmore in my spanish class. I always thought she was cute and I felt like she would be different from the girls I've talked to recently. The problem is I never talked to her and I really think...
A. 12 June 2015: I think you should let this little fantasy go for now.
1. You don't know her AT ALL - you only have some idea of her in your head.
2. She is 15/16 so ABSOLUTELY not ready for a serious mature relationship. And certainly not a LDR.
3. Colle... (read in full...)
What do I do? I feel so alone in this relationship
Q. Hi everyone I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years we have a son together who is 6 months old. Since our son has been born my boyfriend has changed. He goes to work till 4 comes to mine at 6 we don't live together we have tea he goes then I get ...
A. 12 June 2015: This is the 3rd or 4th post you have made, have you NOT read the advice on the other 3?... (read in full...)
How did we date for 2 years and not see that we weren't compatible?
Q. We broke up tonight because we're not compatible. Our views on things we deem important are not the same, we keep arguing about them over and over again, and just cannot and would not come to a compromise. He says I should forget his wrong doings, ...
A. 11 June 2015: It happens.
Dating someone who is JUST like you, or thinks JUST like you is rare and for some "too boring". We are not clones or cookies, there will always BE things in a partner you like more than others. And as you grow and mature what YOU find... (read in full...)
I don't know how tell my bf after five years together that I'm not satisfied with our sex life!
Q. My bf and I have had some rough patches but the past two years have been great. The only thing is: I don't want sex with him anymore....I love kissing him, being held by him and its bliss to hug him but not sex. I used to be very okay with it and ...
A. 11 June 2015: If you can't HAVE this conversation WITH him, what you will end up is a total loss of libido and piss poor sex and it's YOUR own fault. Harsh? maybe, but true.
Don't compare him to other men in bed (at least not to his face) because that will NOT... (read in full...)
He seems more interested in a stupid video game and getting high, I only get his attention when I offer something "sexy"!
Q. Okay sooooo am i overreacting? Or has something seemed to happen. So this guy and i have been bestfriends or at least thats what i always thought thats what it was but he told me the other day that he just called me that cuz he was "in love" with ...
A. 11 June 2015: You are scared that HE might leave? Seriously? He is just having you around for the sex... You are not even a priority, gaming and drugs are more important..
Honey, why would you get engaged to this guy? Are you either desperate for a mate OR ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant by a married man who lied to me. How do I get support for my baby?
Q. Hello everyone, I would like to share my story to everyone and please give me some advices. I dated this guy. He's older than me 15 years old. When I dated him, he told me that he's single and never married before. He always promised me that...
A. 11 June 2015: There are housing help available to single moms through State's HUD housing/Section 8 and they can help you find a home.
You NEED to contact Child Support Agency, make sure you HAVE his full name, his address, phone number (AS MUCH info as you c... (read in full...)
My Bf discovered I was flirting with guys on Tinder.So we broke up. How can I convince my now ex-Bf he is the only one for me?
Q. My long term bf has found out Ive been harmlessly flirting with guys on tinder without wanting to meet them. It was just harmless. We had a bust up over me going on dating sites and we were broken up for for a month. I never wanted anybody else...
A. 11 June 2015: I agree with Ciar.
"Harmless" flirting wasn't so harmless in his eyes. And I BET you, that if the shoe had been on the other foot and HE was "harmlessly flirting" with other girls YOU would not be a happy camper either. Don't play coy.
LEARN f... (read in full...)
Should I contact her and tell her that I know its her? Or just leave them to it? She's clearly playing some sort of game but should I rise to the bait?
Q. Mod note: OP is 27, the account predates the requirement for age information. >Dont know where to start....such a mess....basically my ex finished with me 2 months ago after a 3 year relationship. I found out that he lied about stuff and we had been...
A. 10 June 2015: Eh why BOTHER paly this pathetic games?
He is your ex. She might be horrible, so what? Sounds like those two deserve each other.
Move on honey... And btw.. giving your bank info? May not be a smart move on your behalf...... (read in full...)
Could he be setting up an affair?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been dating a man for 2 going on 3 years who has never been in a relationship before me. I have found out (he never tells me) on numerous occasions that he has bought gift cards and small gifts for other women. For example this...
A. 10 June 2015: While I much rather have a nice cooked meal for Mother's Day than "bath-products" gift, it's a little weird in my book that he RATHER spend his money on buying another women a present than me. But again it's his money, he can spend them as he ... (read in full...)
Are we just wasting our time by staying together?
Q. Dear Cupid, Let me start by saying I love my man. Love him, very much in love with him, and I don't doubt he has the same feelings towards me. We just don't have sex, which hurts on so many levels. Allow me to offer some background infor...
A. 10 June 2015: I have to agree he is with you out of habit not love. And out of convenience - living with your parents I'm sure is easier on your finances.
He will "take" a blow job but he doesn't WANT to touch you. My guess is, he is turned off by you, but don'... (read in full...)
Am I in love with her?
Q. What began as curiosity, turned into a friendship. I joined a club in college in hopes that I would get to know her an I did. I fell for her while she had a boyfriend and it was hard. We remained friends throughout that, and whether or not she know...
A. 10 June 2015: No, you don't LOVE her. YOU love the IDEA of her. I know sometimes it's pretty hard to "see" the difference, but it's there.
She ISN'T looking for a relationship with you. I DO think she enjoys your company and friendship, BUT NOTHING more. No... (read in full...)
I need help coping with betrayal by my longterm partner, as I'm stuck living with him!
Q. I am looking for some advice... I am a 29 year old female, I've been with the same person long term for years now, having lived together with eachother for the past almost three years. In January of this year, after some investigating, I caug...
A. 10 June 2015: Wow, that is a LOT to deal with!
What a CRAPTASTIC BF and friend! Yikes!
I've been in a situation where I was utterly blindsided by a partner, so I know the pain.
For me, the ANGER helped a lot - it made me able to detach from the situa... (read in full...)
What sort of a relationship is it where insults and sarcasm are common?
Q. I feel so upset/down and uncared for at the moment, it's been building for a couple of days now. My partner hasn't really been as talkative the past few days or affectionate, she gets like that sometimes so basically all I asked was if she was o...
A. 10 June 2015: I think she is so NOT OK with herself, and she wants you to feel equally bad about YOURSELF.
THAT is not healthy at all. Neither is having a relationship where YOU can't be you. You aren't "allowed" to cry, ask her questions (you are obviousl... (read in full...)
His daughter has moved in with her boyfriend and his parents and wants my boyfriend to pay her child support directly to her!
Q. So I've been dating this guy for a year his daughter is 17 now and my bf pays his ex wife child support for this girl but the mom doesn't spend it on their daughter so every month the daughter txt her dad for stuff that she "wants" I've have enough ...
A. 10 June 2015: I think that is really an issue between HIM and his ex-wife.
My guess is he can't say no to his daughter, maybe there is some guilt over the divorce or whatnot, but HE is a grown man and you should not have to TELL him what to do with HIS money.
... (read in full...)
Should I send this woman a message? My husband has deleted and blocked her
Q. Hello, I have a really hard time getting over jealousy. Before my husband deploy to overseas he used to have this female friend who would call, text, email, facebook message him and she will talk for 4-5 hours just complaining about her boyf...
A. 9 June 2015: No don't send her a message. Your husband realized that the friendship was not a good thing for his marriage so he blocked her. My guess is he also knows she has (had) a crush on him at some point in time.
She is NOT being respectful of him OR h... (read in full...)
What does he behave like this? I feel disrespected. He surrounds himself with porn and girly pictures.
Q. What is his problem? Stacks of girly magazines, pictures on the wall, lesbian porn DVD's (a lot) and will look at anything that implies he might get to look at woman. I hate it, fed up, neglected and disrespected, just want to know why? BY the way ...
A. 9 June 2015: Sounds like a midlife crisis to me, honestly what GROWN man hasn't outgrown having centerfold on the walls?
What is his problem? IF he is your BF, I would say his problem is that he hasn't figured out that porn, girly magazines and pictures... (read in full...)
I have no desire to get back together with my first love, but he keeps contacting me and I am running out of excuses!
Q. How do you get rid of a first love who keeps coming back? I know I'm going to sound like a nasty, selfish person - but obviously I'm not nasty and selfish enough - as I still can't seem to shake my first love off. The thing is - we (I'll call...
A. 9 June 2015: He might have gotten the message, but when YOU don't actually SAY it, he keeps pushing the boundaries pretending to be oblivious... OR.. he is a bit dense..
Either way, your hints haven't worked time for some honesty.
... (read in full...)
She's asked me twice to take her to the hospital, but something doesn't seem right!
Q. So this girl I've know for a couple of months has asked me to take her to the hospital now twice in a span of about 4 to 6 weeks. She'll kik me out of the blue telling me to take her but then apparently she turns her phone off because my messages ...
A. 9 June 2015: *Desperation makes you do stupid shit.*
Yes it does. That is why you need to practice some Common Sense. Stepping away from a situation that your INSTINCTS tell you to stay away from is common sense.
Maybe also set your aim a little higher th... (read in full...)
I have no desire to get back together with my first love, but he keeps contacting me and I am running out of excuses!
Q. How do you get rid of a first love who keeps coming back? I know I'm going to sound like a nasty, selfish person - but obviously I'm not nasty and selfish enough - as I still can't seem to shake my first love off. The thing is - we (I'll call...
A. 9 June 2015: Obviously, he sees your hesitation to telling him to go suck an egg, and leave you be as an opening. An opening HE can exploit maybe for some casual sex. I say that because of his lame attempts at "sleeping over".
You are TRYING to be nice and... (read in full...)
Blocked me, sometime later messaged me. Should I respond or delete the email ?
Q. If you fell out with a girlfriend/boyfriend and blocked them out of anger (if they thought you were trouble) - would you reply to them if they tried to send you a message or contacted you a year or two later? By the way - this is about a guy who ...
A. 9 June 2015: Do people ever forgive and forget?
Forgive yes, forget no.
And if you DON'T want contact, to talk to hear him out, make his e-mail go to the spam folder (not hard to set up) that way he can wrote all he wants and you will never see the e-mails.... (read in full...)
She's asked me twice to take her to the hospital, but something doesn't seem right!
Q. So this girl I've know for a couple of months has asked me to take her to the hospital now twice in a span of about 4 to 6 weeks. She'll kik me out of the blue telling me to take her but then apparently she turns her phone off because my messages ...
A. 9 June 2015: Amen! to YouWish's answer.
This makes no sense at all, IF it was an EMERGENCY, she can use 911 not KIK... seriously.
Block her and move on. You KNOW something is VERY iffy here. If she WAS trying to get away from a BF, she should tell you.... (read in full...)
My Girlfriend never let's me finish when we make love. Am I doing something wrong?
Q. This is my first time every doing anything like this, because i can usually solve problems myself, so please bare with me. But, this is different for me. My question is Ive been seeing this girl for almost 2 years it's crazy how we met but she's...
A. 8 June 2015: Are you using condoms? Is she worried about you ejaculating INSIDE her?
Or like the other aunts mention, if you ARE big, no amount of lubricant will make it not painful.
Also, do you go "deep" ? If you do you could be hitting her uterus and w... (read in full...)
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