I'm concerned over my father's "friendship" with a younger women.
Q. I'm concerned over my father's "friendship" with a younger women. Threw his work he met a girl in her late 20s. I couldn't help myself look her up on FB she's very pretty and has a toddler. My Father looks after the property's for a landlord h...
A. 9 July 2015: Well, OP I hope your Dad will take to heart what you said to him.
Middle-aged men (sorry guy) are sometimes REMARKABLY stupid when it comes to younger women. I don't know what it is, but I have seen it many times. All we can do is shake our head... (read in full...)
She is a newer employee. Why would our boss give her preferential treatment not offered to the rest of us?
Q. My boss gave a female cowoker 'blocked days' off that were forbidden to the rest of us.. A manager refused to give her those days. Then she asked the head manager, who gave her anything. Even the better work schedule. She's newer than most of us....
A. 6 July 2015: She might BE getting special treatment. She might excel at brown nosing OR excel at her work which have gained her the extra shifts.
Is she by any chance related to one of the bigger bosses? Or a friend of a friend?
... (read in full...)
Were these good or bad signs about this guy?
Q. So I went on a date with a guy who came across as very intelligent, confident etc. He was very pedantic about the fact he wanted to pick me up, and pay for everything, we had some coffee, he then took me to see a movie in which he insisted it ...
A. 6 July 2015: He is 30 and ready to settle down.
You are 20... and still learning the ropes. My guess is your "youth" is one of the reasons he likes you. YOU being so young might mean that you will defer to him and his "wisdom".
If you like him, I'd suggest... (read in full...)
Was it really my fault? Who was right and who was wrong?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles, I had a bad split with a guy for basically seeing another woman while we were on a short 'break'. I know he was free to see whoever he wanted - but I kind of got jealous and told people he was a bit of 'player' for moving o...
A. 6 July 2015: Let it go. This rally isn't about who's FAULT it was.
If you two had set NO rules our boundaries while on "break" he was indeed free to see whomever he liked. You feeling jealous that he started seeing someone else is also pretty normal, speciall... (read in full...)
I know that our relationship can work. How do I confront him about the naked sexual photos on his phone?
Q. Basically, I've found pictures of a girl on my boyfriends phone. The pictures were sexual, it makes me feel sick. We've been through this sort of problem before. Last time, I found messages and one picture. I told my self I would never let anyone...
A. 6 July 2015: I have to agree with Anonymous 123,
You have been through this BEFORE. No amount of you LOVING him will make him stop. No amount of you loving him will fix the trust that is now lost.
What you HAVE to realize is, YOU CAN NOT CHANGE him. YOU ... (read in full...)
Any advice on dating Indian guys? I'm not Indian and don't want to get my hopes up if his family might be disappointed that I'm not Indian.
Q. I'm currently seeing an Indian guy. Is there any advice. When it comes to Indian guys? Is their family strict about only dating Indians because I'm not Indian I just don't want to get my hopes up if this doesn't work out....
A. 6 July 2015: I agree with WiseOwlE
And I say this with NO OFFENSE towards any nationality or culture.
My friend's daughter (25) met a "nice" guy from India who was studying in the US. They dated a while (about a year) when all of a sudden he cut the conta... (read in full...)
She is a newer employee. Why would our boss give her preferential treatment not offered to the rest of us?
Q. My boss gave a female cowoker 'blocked days' off that were forbidden to the rest of us.. A manager refused to give her those days. Then she asked the head manager, who gave her anything. Even the better work schedule. She's newer than most of us....
A. 6 July 2015: Could have been part of her contract. I know in one of the jobs I had, I got certain weeks off in summer as my family had made plans for a huge family bash in the Mediterranean, and there was no way I was going to miss that.
Or it could be even ... (read in full...)
Shall I just cut my losses? When I talk about us moving forward she just blanks me
Q. Hi all. I am a guy of 32,I have been speaking to a girl of 25 for the past seven weeks whom I met online. We have met up and get on brilliantly. She is funny and beautiful. Me being me, I can't get out of my head something she said when we sta...
A. 6 July 2015: I guess it depends on what you mean by moving forward. Do you mean dating exclusively? Do you mean sex?
You say you have met up. So once? If only once I'd say you need to slow your horse and start arranging more dates "face to face" instead ... (read in full...)
Am I being difficult and expecting too much? My life is settled, now I'm looking to meet a guy for a relationship with sex.
Q. I went on a first date with a guy of 45. I am 40 with a grown up son, professional and have my own place and ready to date again after concentrating on work and the parenting side of life. I work out and stay healthy and feel very grateful in that ...
A. 6 July 2015: I think with online dating you might meet more "toads" than "not toads" - but there ARE some good ones out there. I think it's just about patience and not giving up.
If a guy seems like a DUD (like the one you describe) don't waste any more tim... (read in full...)
I'm single and have made a decision that I'll not become a mother. Is this a decision I might regret later?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 30 year old woman who is single with no children. My family (more so my parents and 2 sisters) have been getting on my case for lack of a better word, for not having started a family by now and for have been single for so lo...
A. 6 July 2015: If you FEEL like NOT having children is right for you, then stick with that. I don't think it's anyone else right to butt in and tell you how to live your life.
I didn't want children till I met my husband in my late 20's (27) and now I have 3. ... (read in full...)
What is love? Can anyone help me define true lasting love? How do I recognise true love?
Q. What is love? Do you have to first experience it to know how to recognise it, to understand how it feels? It seems to me as if most couples just go through the motions, they don't actually have love nor really understand it. They get together...
A. 6 July 2015: I think we ALL have our own idea of love, so I can't tell you that yours is wrong and mine is right. I do think you over simplify it.
I don't, for instance, think love is all you need. You can be in a relationship and think LOVE will fix everythi... (read in full...)
Was he a jerk for flirting with her in front of me just after I told him about my crush on him?
Q. Heya, Okay so basically I like this boy but the problem is so does my best friend!! So I told this boy how i felt and my best friend helped me tell him so everything was great then!! I then was talking about asking him out as a nice friend I s...
A. 5 July 2015: Is he a jerk?
Not really. JUST because YOU have a crush on him, doesn't mean he is bounds to have one on you, or OWE you some kind of special gratitude.
Your friend knows you won't go after him, but SHE gave you NO such promise in return, did s... (read in full...)
Is it time for me to leave this marriage? He frequently accuses me of cheating.
Q. I came to visit my daughter in another state for 4 days. My husband is sending me text messages saying that I'm out here messing around and he is done with me, all because he called my phone, and I didn't answer. He called my daughter and she...
A. 5 July 2015: It sounds like there is little love and trust in your marriage and that, is sad.
If you have never cheated on him, or in your past (that he knows off) I don't understand why he keeps saying you must be cheating.
Either HE is cheating and kee... (read in full...)
Is it totally out of order for me to be feeling like he doesn't care anymore?
Q. Hi I'm in desperate need of some help I'm getting to the point I can't cope anymore. So here's the back story, me and my boyfriend have been together almost 3 years. I am disabled so I cannot work. We both still live with our parents currently....
A. 5 July 2015: Would you be ABLE to share 50% of the cost of living away from your parents? If not, I think it's NOT so strange that he chooses to move in with some friends/co-workers who CAN afford to share the costs.
Maybe working as hard as he is, he doesn't ... (read in full...)
Is it fair to keep some things in your past to yourself and not share them with your partner?
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, Do you think its fair to keep some things in your past from to yourself and not share them with your partner? I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and we are already talking long term. We have a really g...
A. 5 July 2015: I have to agree, keeping things from your past IN the past is YOUR personal choice. NO ONE has a "right" to know EVERYTHING about you. BUT.... don't LIE about it.
If you think he can't handle your past, HOW do you think things would play out IF/w... (read in full...)
He wants sex but I'm not allowed until I'm married, what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend want to have sex.butI am a Christian and I am not allowed to have sex till I am married what should I do...
A. 5 July 2015: If you firmly believe that sex before marriage is NOT for you, then tell him so (my guess is you already have) and IF he can not respect that, he may NOT be for you.
NEVER let someone pressure you into having sex or doing things you really d... (read in full...)
I found a hotel key in my fiance's pocket. Help ! I don't know what to do
Q. I was doing the laundry last night and I found a hotel key in my fiance's pocket. The day before, he had gone off to run an errand as well as pick up the food shopping and he took so long I started to get worried about him. A trip that should h...
A. 5 July 2015: I'm sorry he couldn't just be honest with you.
I find it odd that he didn't offer to call his friend so that you could ASK about that card, if his friend really gave him the card I would presume the friend would tell you just that.
But aga... (read in full...)
Do guys usually ignore messages for no reason? Or playing mind games?
Q. Hello, so there is a guy who was at aplarty, a few days later he added me on Facebook and started talking to me. Basically, he started adding me on other social medias and also talked to me there and kind of flirted and complimented me. He was fast ...
A. 5 July 2015: My guess is, one of his friends gave him to LAME advice to wait 2-3 days before replying so he doesn't seem TOO interested..
Some people are VERY social and chatty online, but when it comes to "real life" they are not. It's SO much easier to seem ... (read in full...)
If my girlfriend truly loves me then why does she talk to other guys?
Q. My girlfriend said she loves me and can't live without me but talks too guys and let's them call her sexy ass and other stuff if she truly loved me would she keep talking to guys ...
A. 5 July 2015: I agree with CMMP
She is insecure and needy (wanting as much attention as possible from whomever is willing to give it to her).
If you don't like it, ASK her how SHE would feel if YOU talked to female friends in the same manner. If she s... (read in full...)
I'm concerned over my father's "friendship" with a younger women.
Q. I'm concerned over my father's "friendship" with a younger women. Threw his work he met a girl in her late 20s. I couldn't help myself look her up on FB she's very pretty and has a toddler. My Father looks after the property's for a landlord h...
A. 5 July 2015: I understand how you feel. It's not nice seeing your father act like a moron over a woman, just to have his ego stroked.
Have you asked your dad why he thinks it's appropriate to take this chick for lunch etc.? Now he may "claim" that he is just ... (read in full...)
Why does he lie about watching porn?
Q. My boyfriend sometimes lies about watching porn. Sometimes he doesn't but sometimes he does. Like I came up to the room and the door was locked and he just said he was cold and locked the door (I know he was masturbating though for sure so I'm not ...
A. 5 July 2015: Oh Gawd, men are NO more "visual" than women nor do they NEED porn more than women.
It's a choice. Some use it because it's "instant VISUAL gratification" rather than use their imagination.
I agree with the other ladies who say "men are more vi... (read in full...)
Is this man serious, just being nice, or what?
Q. Hi, iam on a dating website for 1 month now i met an Italian man who lives in my city his 49 years old i checked his profile and he checked mine then i started sending him messages like nice photo just normal messages. Actually he was the only man ...
A. 5 July 2015: I agree with WiseOwlE too.
He is being nice and UTTERLY vague at the same time. Back off and see if he picks up the conversation.
And not saying WHAT he is looking for might mean something, might mean nothing. I'd guess that he isn't looking fo... (read in full...)
He's saved 25GB of porn on his computer and his desire for sex with me is declining. Are my concerns an over-reaction?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and a half now. I knew he watched porn in the beginning, which was fine because we weren't sexually active until about 8 months ago. He has a normal sex drive, and I have a relatively high one. ...
A. 5 July 2015: Honestly, is sounds like he is NOT into "normal vanilla" sex and ONLY has sex with you out of .. courtesy to you, to keep you "happy".
As for HOW much porn he has? Well, I don't think the amount is the issue. I think the fact that he would RA... (read in full...)
Should I call her out for her lies? And attempts to make me feel guilty? We broke up in March.
Q. Hi everyone I just wanted to hear other people's view points on this. My girlfriend broke up with me on march the 1st. It was long distance. We had been together for 3 years. she said it was a temporary break up until we could live toget...
A. 5 July 2015: If it make YOU feel better write her a note, telling her JUST how you feel. I think she deserves to hear it.
I also think she was seeing "knob" while still pretending to date you. And that she asked for a "break" so she could walk away from you... (read in full...)
How can I let go and get over all the things she said to try to make me think she cared?
Q. So I am a 19 Year old US Marine, and i made the mistake of joining the Military while in a relationship, (i know im still young, dont remind me..) things were great. Until i told her we should take a break, since my for my job (MOS School) i had to ...
A. 5 July 2015: You realize that she was IN FACT not good enough for you. She wasn't mature enough, kind , caring or even emphatic enough to date you (or anyone else to be honest).
Then... cut the contact. BLOCK her number, BLOCK and un-friend her on Facebook... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been texting a girl asking her to be his mistress. She refused him. What should I do about my BF?
Q. My boyfriend admitted to me that he asked this girl best friend if she would have sex with him and she said that she would. However, she says she respects our relationship so she won't sleep with him. Yet he keeps texting her that she's irresi...
A. 4 July 2015: DUMP his dumb cheating ASS! How hard is that?
SHE has more respect for your relationship than HE does.. Seriously, kick him to the curb and stop wasting your time on a loser like him.... (read in full...)
Should I tell him that I don't enjoy sex with him? Or break up with him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little bit over a year. Things were pretty nice at first, then we started having sex. I've never enjoyed sex with him, and I still don't feel any pleasure when we have intercourse. I've stayed with him ...
A. 4 July 2015: Should you ignore it? Oh HECK no! WHY have you been settling for mediocre sex for a whole year? SEX is not just about GETTING it over with or PLEASING him. It's a two way street for BOTH of you to enjoy.
NEVER FAKE in bed. Never say things a... (read in full...)
Should I have said no to a kiss?
Q. I hung out with this guy I just met. We were going to be just friends but that has changed after that night. He wanted to kiss me but I told him no. Should I have let him kiss me? Should we go on another night out? Will he ask me out? ...
A. 4 July 2015: Should I have let him kiss me?
Not if you didn't WANT to kiss. If you two were talking friendship, there should be no kissing, no doubt.
Should we go on another night out?
IF you WANT to go out with him AS a friend. IF not TELL him ... (read in full...)
Should I tell a girl I've never met that her boyfriend is cheating?
Q. Should I tell a girl I've never even met that her boyfriend of one year (living together) has been cheating on her constantly? My boyfriend works with the guy, and he brags/shows photos and shows no remorse. Usually I wouldn't meddle but ...
A. 4 July 2015: Are you sure the guy is ACTUALLY cheating? not just bragging and full of locker room crap mentality? Like WiseOwlE said, you only know this second hand. You have NO names, no REAL details you can pass on.. only "I think your BF is cheating because ... (read in full...)
Why did he choose to not go out with me as a couple when we dated?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year now. As a couple I would like to do things with him. He doesn't even have to spend money. For example I would like to take walks on the beach, camping even a drive thru at McDonalds would do. But we ...
A. 4 July 2015: He is your ex, right?
So who cares WHAT EXCUSE he might have used to not go out and do things with you, fact ARE that he didn't.
Time for you to GO out with friends, family and DO things you want to do, and things you want to see. NEVER sit a... (read in full...)
Dating: she doesn't orgasm and doesn't seem to enjoy the sex. Is this going to work? Because I'm not feeling the chemistry much either
Q. I'm an dating this great girl. We have been together for about 8 months. The sex was never mind blowing. She is young and hasn't been able to orgasm with me. I think ( and she's said a lot of it was mental) she says she enjoys having sex with me, ...
A. 4 July 2015: I think think she either doesn't REALLY enjoy sex, or... you two are not a good match sexually (as in.. not pleasing each other). My guess is though, that she has a very low libido - THAT will not change unless she finds out the root of it. Like the ... (read in full...)
Is it natural for men to openly stare at every attractive woman they see?
Q. hi hope someone can help me with this question I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years we have a 7 month old son together. my problem is he is always staring at other women for example if we are sat on the sofa at home the blinds are open a w...
A. 3 July 2015: It means he has poor manners. Have you ever pointed his behavior our for him?
IF not, do it. Then try and DO the same thing when out (just looking at men) and see if he notices.
There is the "golden rule" of 3 seconds. You can look at a person... (read in full...)
Had sex for the first time, scared I put the condom on wrong?
Q. Hi all, I recently had sex for the first time, but some thoughts keep surfacing from the back of my mind. I recently learned that it is possible to put a condom on inside out. By doing so, it is no longer effective. I didn't realize this was...
A. 3 July 2015: I agree with WiseOwlE
Before you have ANYMORE sex, you need to practice practice practice!!!
If it went easily to the base I doubt it was inside out, however....
Practice!!
We had a class in biology where we got 3 condoms - 1 we had to p... (read in full...)
How should I handle my jailed ex who's written to me out of the blue?
Q. My ex boyfriend - who was always in and out of trouble with the law has just written to me out of the blue - from jail. I used to be madly in love with him - only to find out that he only ever wanted me for handouts and money. Anyway, to cut a...
A. 3 July 2015: That is a tough one.
Because on one hand it would be EASIER to ignore him and hope he takes the hint..
BUT if he thinks he still have a chance to manipulate you I can see him find a way to get TO you and just show up on your door-steep and t... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I think I have herpes
Q. A couple of days ago, a cold sore appeared on my lip. After doing some research online, I found out that cold sores are caused by the herpes simplex virus. Believe it or not, I didn't know that until two days ago. I've never had any other ...
A. 3 July 2015: Go see your doctor before you guess to much. And there are treatments to keep the cold sores in check.
THEN talk to your BF.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with these negative emotions (lack of trust) while engaging in a possible relationship with this new guy?
Q. I have severe trust issues due to an absolutely HORRIBLE 5 year real-life relationship that I got out of 4 months ago. 2 months ago I met this man on xbox while playing a game and we hit off instantly. The connection we share is unlike anything I've ...
A. 2 July 2015: What I would suggest is that you stay cautious.
He COULD be talking to ALL the other women he plays Xbox with, JUST like he talks to you, you really don't know him THAT well... YET. After all THAT is how you met him.
BUT hold back on the int... (read in full...)
We were once close. Why do you think he is re-connecting online now, after all these years?
Q. I was friendly with a man for 5 years - we were both divorced and single. We became very close very quickly and I developed feelings for him and we became intimate within the first 6 months. He then told me that he didn't want a relationship w...
A. 2 July 2015: You already know he USED you in the past as his "fall back girl" and nothing HAS changed, but my guess is... the women are further and fewer these days, so he does the "OH YEAH I have a fallback girl!" and contacts you to see if you are willing to ... (read in full...)
Why my ex remodel the house exactly as I'd always wanted, but he never did it until after I left him?
Q. I got divorce last year, it was my idea. My ex didn't take it well and basically dragged me trough hell with himself. I see him regularly because we have a 7 years old daughter. He is still hurt and he and his family did their best to destroy me a...
A. 2 July 2015: Maybe because all the things you suggested (for remodeling) made sense to him? And I think partly he has done it to show you what you are missing.
It's great that me remodeled, but... HE still lives there and honestly, HE doesn't sound like a g... (read in full...)
How can I talk to my daughter about just expecting me to do everything? She'll blow up!
Q. My adult daughter dumps every thing on me,she expects me to do as she says.I have grandaughter after school but dont want to look after for the holidays as myhusband likes to go out,we dont plan things but go where we want.also she turns up at any ...
A. 2 July 2015: Sit her down and tell her, HERE are my boundaries. If we PLAN for you to drop her off, I will watch her, I will NOT watch her on the drop of a hat. YOU (to your daughter) CHOSE to have this child, while I LOVE to spend time with my grand-daughter ... (read in full...)
I've looked forward all year to going into the ocean but because of recent shark attacks my mother is forbidding it!
Q. This isn't exactly about a romantic relationship,but I'm really hurting and hope you will please help me. It's hurting me a lot. I've got a dilemna. I'm from the coast, and the ocean was always a big part of our lifestyle, and I never had any ...
A. 2 July 2015: How come your mom still tells you what to do? If you are 26-29 aren't you old enough to make your own choices and mistakes?
Going to the beach can be unsafe in other ways too, undertow, certain types of jelly fish, pollution, bacteria etc.
... (read in full...)
Am I nitpicking or are these various issues, such as her very bad breath, deal breakers in our relationship?
Q. Hiya Agony Aunts. There are a few things that nag at me about this girl I just started dating, and I'm not sure why. As y'all are likely older and more experienced than I am, I'd like your perspective. We started dating about 3 or 4 week...
A. 1 July 2015: I think YouWish summed it up perfectly.
She is NOT a great match for YOU.
All these "little" things that makes you go hmmm, will compound the longer you date, they will before a pattern of her personality - what you are seeing now... at 3-4 we... (read in full...)
How can swingers so easily have sex with someone they don't love?
Q. I hope this doesn't sound silly. I'm just curious. I know there are people that enjoy sex without love and those that can enjoy sex ONLY with love...or at least feelings for their partner. I'm just curious about swingers. Do you think they can ...
A. 1 July 2015: I can't speak of HOW they do it, I have never done swinging nor felt an interest in it. I missed that day in preschool where we were taught sharing.
I DO think there are people who are QUITE capable of separating sex from love (or sex from emo... (read in full...)
No show, no text what should I do?
Q. I met this guy at work. We started texting recently we even made plans to hang out one night at the Movies. He kind of made it clear were friends but still flirts with me. He canceled the plans for family reasons. He hasn't texted me for a few days. ...
A. 1 July 2015: Let him go.
He is a flake.
He made plans but then cancelled at last minute. While I get that FAMILY IS more important, it seems a little convenient for him to use it as an excuse.
If you are looking to make friends, he is not going to be a ... (read in full...)
I found a hotel key in my fiance's pocket. Help ! I don't know what to do
Q. I was doing the laundry last night and I found a hotel key in my fiance's pocket. The day before, he had gone off to run an errand as well as pick up the food shopping and he took so long I started to get worried about him. A trip that should h...
A. 29 June 2015: Obviously, YOU know him better than us. But I do think he was lying. He was straggling to make up a lie you "might" swallow and thus told you two "different" lies - one that he got the key card a couple of days ago and then the lie that it was one ... (read in full...)
I found a hotel key in my fiance's pocket. Help ! I don't know what to do
Q. I was doing the laundry last night and I found a hotel key in my fiance's pocket. The day before, he had gone off to run an errand as well as pick up the food shopping and he took so long I started to get worried about him. A trip that should h...
A. 26 June 2015: I agree with WiseOwlE
Call and confirm check in/out time/ Single/double room. I seriously doubt they will tell you ANY juicy details unless it's a tiny hotel, the staff might not even remember him. After all the front desk staff might have see... (read in full...)
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