All my friends do sleep randomly with anyone. I don't because it concerns me. Am I too sceptical thinking it's dangerous?
Q. Is it dangerous to sleep with anyone randomly? Because all my friends do that and nothing happens but I'm very sceptical? I need answers because I'm struggling....
A. 18 July 2015: I'm 46 and have had 4 partners from 19-46 (1 partner the last 20 years).
But I DO think the NUMBER is irrelevant. AS long as you take care of yourself (health-wise etc)
And all 4 partners were relationships (last one marriage).
I ... (read in full...)
All my friends do sleep randomly with anyone. I don't because it concerns me. Am I too sceptical thinking it's dangerous?
Q. Is it dangerous to sleep with anyone randomly? Because all my friends do that and nothing happens but I'm very sceptical? I need answers because I'm struggling....
A. 18 July 2015: Oh and OP, I forgot to add that there IS a vaccine out to prevent HPV - I think there is a "max" age level though, but I would SERIOUSLY consider getting one.
My 2 oldest daughters (15 and 13) have both gotten the shots, even though they are NOT ... (read in full...)
My fiance's ex accused him of bodily harm and he was arrested. We are to get married in 5 weeks and now I'm scared!
Q. Please help because I am a little scared. I am due to be getting married in 5 weeks to a lovely lovely man who has 2 wonderful children who I adore. We have been together for 4 years and so so happy. However, after going through court to get...
A. 18 July 2015: Do she have any kind of evidence? Pictures etc?
And yes, I would worry about it continuing on after you two marry. It can be the closeness to the wedding that set her off.
And maybe FROM now on (talk to your solicitor again) to have a 3rd party... (read in full...)
All my friends do sleep randomly with anyone. I don't because it concerns me. Am I too sceptical thinking it's dangerous?
Q. Is it dangerous to sleep with anyone randomly? Because all my friends do that and nothing happens but I'm very sceptical? I need answers because I'm struggling....
A. 18 July 2015: YOU can ask EVERYONE you want to sleep with to show you they are clean. Personally, I have never done casual sex (because I don't think sex IS casual). But I have also never dated a guy who refused to get tested before we started having sex.
When ... (read in full...)
Together 4.5 years. How do I pick myself up and cope with him moving on, after our recent breakup?
Q. I have no idea how else to deal with this. My ex fiance broke up with me 2.5 months ago after 4.5 years together. There was no cheating or lying or anything else; just, I guess he grew apart from me. I was ready, absolutely ready for us ...
A. 18 July 2015: First off, I'm sorry - I can imagine how it feels to be blindsided like that, and it isn't a nice feeling.
But here is the thing. He didn't DO it TO you. What he DID do to you was lie, think he would "spare" your feelings.
Basically he ... (read in full...)
All my friends do sleep randomly with anyone. I don't because it concerns me. Am I too sceptical thinking it's dangerous?
Q. Is it dangerous to sleep with anyone randomly? Because all my friends do that and nothing happens but I'm very sceptical? I need answers because I'm struggling....
A. 18 July 2015: I agree with YouWish.
You say "nothing" has happened yet.. Well, ANY of them could have contracted HPV and just not shown any symptoms YET. That can actually take years to show up. And it's not something you can TEST for, unless you show cell cha... (read in full...)
My friends want him gone. Am I crazy for trying to still accomodate him?
Q. So here's my situation. I've been in a relationship with my bf for 2 1/2 years. We have been friends for almost 10. I thought we could make it work but we both have issues and we've come to a point where I broke up with him because we weren't ...
A. 18 July 2015: I think Auntie Bim Bim gave you the "right" answer.
The longer you let him stay, the LONGER you are holding him and yourself back. HIM from getting help, finding his own two feet and YOU from moving on, getting your health back, and from finding ... (read in full...)
He flirts a lot and he has a Gf. We've been texting. How can I make things less awkward if we do sleep together?
Q. There's a new guy that started at my work he's 32 bearing in mind I'm 20 but I don't think the age matters because we're basically like the same people. But the problem is that he has a girlfriend and he have such good flirty banter and I'm star...
A. 18 July 2015: I f you want your work place and life to be awkward continue down that path.
YOU know it's wrong. HE has a GF.
He is not going to dump her for you and you two will ride off into the sunset. He will sleep with you once or as long as he can g... (read in full...)
I told him I was leaving and he yelled he didn't want me!
Q. My so called man and I have been together for over 7 years. For a couple months now he has been going out every single weekend. I have talked to him about this and it always leads to a fight. Like tonight, he's gone after fighting and when I said ...
A. 18 July 2015: He had left the relationship a while back and has just been waiting for YOU to figure it out and leave him. THAT way... He isn't is the bad guy for ending it.
Sounds like you should stick to your guns AND leave.
Why waste more time on a man wh... (read in full...)
Am I being pressured into commitment by this guy?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for almost three months. He's in his early 30s. From the first time we went out he told me a bit about himself, he also mentioned to have been previously engaged. I am in my mid twenties and from that he said I should be ...
A. 17 July 2015: It's only been 3 months, I think, I would tell him to hold his horses with the whole settling down, at least for now.
3 months is is WAY to soon to be thinking long term, IMHO.
Now you may know by now if you can see yourself with him, but ma... (read in full...)
My close male friend's behavior seems like a slap in the face. I don't know what to make of it
Q. I'm a little baffled by the behavior of a close male friend who wants to be more. He otherwise is very engaging and warm but when there is any type of problem that I may be stressed, saddened or angered about and nothing having to do with him, he ...
A. 17 July 2015: I don't think he is doing it on purpose. I think, like Ciar said, he is just USELESS in certain situations.
My guess is he avoids conflict at any cost, even the conflict he isn't part of (yours for instance) He doesn't know what to do, so instead ... (read in full...)
I am scared he is saying all this to just sleep with me again and leave me.
Q. Please advise. A year and a half ago I came across my teenage love on facebook. He lost his virginity to me and was really into me. I was not a nice person back then and I broke his heart. So 15 years later I have grown up matured I'm in a c...
A. 17 July 2015: So date, keep sex out of the picture a while and I would NOT introduce him to the kids till after a 6-12 months dating period, depending on their ages. Your first priority are your kids, not what HE wants.
If he is ONLY wanting to hook up, he w... (read in full...)
If a woman asks you what is your type is, is she interested in you?
Q. Back at it again! It sucks to be a man and trying to figure out women. With that being said, if a woman asks you what your type is, is she interested in you? After I told her my type she said well i guess i'm your type right? And i asked why ...
A. 17 July 2015: Why not set up a short "coffee-date"? So you two can met and chat a while in person?
I don't think many girls would say yes to a date if they weren't interested, they would more likely give an excuse.
... (read in full...)
If a husband finds out his wife lied about multiple sexual partners, how should he deal with it?
Q. If a husband who was virgin before marriage finds out his wife had multiple sexual partners and hook ups before marriage and lied about it, then how should the husband deal with it?...
A. 17 July 2015: Well, he has a few options.
1. talk to her and ask her why she lied. IF it was out of fear of rejection ( that you wouldn't want to BE with her if she wasn't a virgin) it might be understandable in some culture.
2. Accept it and let it go. I... (read in full...)
How is it possible for him to feel aroused, when we were arguing and so angry at each other?
Q. We were in the middle of a heated argument and I noticed he had a hard-on. Later he disclosed that he was so hard he had wanted to rip off my clothes and have sex right then right there. How is it possible to feel that way when you are so angry at...
A. 17 July 2015: Ah, so you have had greats AFTER arguments before? In a sense it makes "sense" that he could get turned on by an argument because he knows what CAN come after the argument... as in great sex.
I think it's part biological and part conditio... (read in full...)
He is in very regular contact with his ex. What do you think of his reasoning and actions???
Q. I've been in a long distance relationship for almost two years now. I visit my boyfriend once every 4-6 weeks. I have two issues I'd like your opinion with. Thanks Aunties and Uncles! 1. On my recent trip to visit him, I discovered that ...
A. 17 July 2015: IF it works for you, then try it.
I think think it's akin to monitoring his behavior. You having the parent role and him the "wayward" child's.
I don't think it's entirely about insecurities, but boundaries.... (read in full...)
Is something wrong with me? I don't seem able to have an orgasm
Q. Dear Cupid, I think there is something wrong with me. I am a girl, 17 years old. I do not orgasm. EVER. I had a boyfriend who touched me and I touch myself too. But I never seem to orgasm. I used to watch porn. The porn watching started when I was ...
A. 17 July 2015: Leave the porn behind you. It's fake, not reality.
Best way to find out how to orgasm is getting to know your body.
http://www.sheknows.com/love-and-sex/articles/1027607/self-lovin-sex-positions
http://www.yourta... (read in full...)
How can I possibly start fun and interesting conversations with my boyfriend?
Q. Hi, So I'm in a relationship and we both seem to be in it for the long term. We used to be super awkward around each other and didn't know what to say. We've gotten a lot better at talking and coming up with conversation but right now we are...
A. 17 July 2015: What is your BF into?
Comic? Movies? Books? Games? Does he draw? Write? Make floral arrangements? (well, you know.. maybe no that last one, but I'm sure he has hobbies and you do to and to talk about something you are PASSIONATE about (think f... (read in full...)
Anyone who's ever reconnected with an ex? Is it possible to fall back in love with an old flame?
Q. Is it possible to fall back in love with an old flame? We first started dating years ago. He wanted to concentrate on his career. I wanted more commitment. We split as we wanted different things. I have met up with him once or twice over the...
A. 16 July 2015: I have never gotten back with an ex. I think doing the same thing over and over is just not smart.
The thing is YOU might see him as the person you KNEW years ago, THAT is not who he is any more. He might still "look" the same, but on the inside? ... (read in full...)
If a woman asks you what is your type is, is she interested in you?
Q. Back at it again! It sucks to be a man and trying to figure out women. With that being said, if a woman asks you what your type is, is she interested in you? After I told her my type she said well i guess i'm your type right? And i asked why ...
A. 16 July 2015: Is she interested? It's hard to say, but I would presume yes. And she was trying to ferret out WHAT you are actually looking for.... (read in full...)
My fiance's ex accused him of bodily harm and he was arrested. We are to get married in 5 weeks and now I'm scared!
Q. Please help because I am a little scared. I am due to be getting married in 5 weeks to a lovely lovely man who has 2 wonderful children who I adore. We have been together for 4 years and so so happy. However, after going through court to get...
A. 16 July 2015: That IS a crappy situation to get in.
Without doubt GET a lawyer (solicitor) ASAP. Don't accept any plea bargains - I'd say FIGHT her. (in court that is).
She should NOT be allowed to get away with false accusations.
You FIANCE needs to b... (read in full...)
He couldn't handle the distance but says he still loves me
Q. 10 months ago I met this guy in an MMORPG (massively multiplayer online role play game) . Normally I don't talk to people I don't know because it normally aggravates me when strangers attempt to make friends with me. I prefer to be a solo player. ...
A. 16 July 2015: I think this is a case of fantasy versus reality.
The fantasy was great, and it started out while "roleplaying" as well. But reality is a much different kettle of fish. There is the distance, the family and other issues - the things WE all go t... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 3 years ended things, 2 weeks later he's in a new relationship and I'm still hurting
Q. I am 32 years old and about 3 months ago my ex of 3 years left me stating he did not love me anymore. To add to my devastation, he started a new relationship just 2 weeks later. At first I was beside myself but am slowly learning to accept their ...
A. 16 July 2015: IF he is paying off the furniture to the store, I'd go down and PAY it directly, preferable have the payments changed to YOUR name.
If the furniture is paid for and you just want to give him HIS share... then for now put the money aside (because... (read in full...)
Should I go to the funeral of a very dear friend even though I'll feel like an outsider?
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, Recently I received the devasting news that a friend of mine has passed away and not only am I grieving for him but it has brought up a lot of sad feelings. I knew my friend for many years (16 years) and he was best frien...
A. 16 July 2015: Go, because it's a way for YOU to say goodbye. He was YOUR friend at some point to.
It's not about whether THEY want you there or not. WHO cares? It's about you paying your respect. It can be VERY nice to have this chance for a sort of closure.... (read in full...)
How can I determine and confirm if he just wants sex?
Q. I met a guy online and we talked for a few weeks before having our first date today at a coffee shop. We had a lot in common and he said very sweet things to me, which made me think he liked me. He knew that I was a virgin and that I had never...
A. 16 July 2015: Good grief! GROW the heck up. It isn't about feminism (though it' a shame you don't grasp THAT concept either)
And thanks Cindy for trying to explain the "slut" point. I figured it was pretty clear myself....
So OP call yourself a slut ... (read in full...)
First crush vs first love?
Q. What is the difference between first crush and first love? Gettin so confuse with this. Please give me a clear solution for this . ...
A. 16 July 2015: Crush is a fantasy infatuation with a person you either don't know at all (except from their looks - or a role they played in a movie, show etc.) You don't have to KNOW a person to have a crush. You will have MANY crushes over a life time. Crushes ... (read in full...)
Are all online dating & social sites full of men who are players if they suddenly dump you?
Q. Are all online dating and social sites full of men who are players if they suddenly dump you? Or is it they just get bored? Hi - I have read so many various problems on here over the last few weeks about guys who chat up girls online and the...
A. 15 July 2015: Na, I don't think ALL men are players. That would either make life VERY easy or VERY hard, if that was the truth. I think ASSuming the guy is a player can be way wrong.
Though there are MANY men (and quite a few women) out there who wants casual s... (read in full...)
Have I messed things up with guy I met online?
Q. Hey guys..... So I met a guy online and I'm totally new to the online dating thing, and not sure If I'm entirely comfortable........ So we went on a couple of dates and things seemed to be going well, he said he liked me and I do really like ...
A. 15 July 2015: I think with your update OP, that Cindy nailed that guy.
If he suddenly did a "vanishing act" after you did NOT want to sext/talk sex/share pics etc. then it was probably because he felt after 2-3 dates and some chatting she should be ready fo... (read in full...)
Is it normal that I want to see my girlfriend naked? Should I ask her?
Q. I am 16 and curious to see my girlfriends body. I have been dreaming of seeing her in the nude. I really want to know what she looks like naked. She is so beautiful. I want to ask her, but I want to know. is this normal to ask? Would a girlfrien...
A. 15 July 2015: It's normal to want to see your partner naked. ABSOLUTELY normal.
BUT.... you need to hold your horses. SHE needs to be ready for it. Are you ready to strip it all off for her? To "bare" yourself ? (pun intended).
Like everyone else mentioned, ... (read in full...)
He is in very regular contact with his ex. What do you think of his reasoning and actions???
Q. I've been in a long distance relationship for almost two years now. I visit my boyfriend once every 4-6 weeks. I have two issues I'd like your opinion with. Thanks Aunties and Uncles! 1. On my recent trip to visit him, I discovered that ...
A. 15 July 2015: WHY do you have to know if she calls and what they talk about?
I think you need to figure that one out.... (read in full...)
He is in very regular contact with his ex. What do you think of his reasoning and actions???
Q. I've been in a long distance relationship for almost two years now. I visit my boyfriend once every 4-6 weeks. I have two issues I'd like your opinion with. Thanks Aunties and Uncles! 1. On my recent trip to visit him, I discovered that ...
A. 15 July 2015: I don't think it SHOULD be your job to monitor your partner. HE knows what you think of it, he claims to have no interest in the ex - YET he continues.
All of a sudden you FEEL that he has to SHOW you he is keeping his word, and he should screensh... (read in full...)
What can I do? My Boyfriend's obsession with hot girls on Facebook causing problems
Q. So this is more of a rant than a question, but I would love to hear some other peoples' opinions or similar experiences to mine. I'm 25 years old and my 34-year-old boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months. I know, it's a young relationsh...
A. 15 July 2015: I so agree with Janniepeg and Cindy.
Seriously! A 34 year old man has nothing BETTER to do then be on FB "liking" pictures? I think it shows a LOW level of maturity on his behalf. More like a 13 year old who just discovered boobs...
I don't... (read in full...)
He is in very regular contact with his ex. What do you think of his reasoning and actions???
Q. I've been in a long distance relationship for almost two years now. I visit my boyfriend once every 4-6 weeks. I have two issues I'd like your opinion with. Thanks Aunties and Uncles! 1. On my recent trip to visit him, I discovered that ...
A. 15 July 2015: Yep, he is lying to "keep" the peace and make you think he wants nothing to do with her.
She IS obviously still VERY much in his life. And he is OBVIOUSLY a bit dense. I mean he KEEP lying and KEEPS getting caught. The thing is... there are no c... (read in full...)
He's acting like a douchebag and I'm so hurt. How do I forget about him?
Q. How do I forget about him, he's horrible to me:(? So there's this my brother's friend who I really liked and we use to talk all the time but all the sudden he stopped ringing me and would always want to argue as if He can't stand me. He says I a...
A. 15 July 2015: I think it's easy. ACCEPT that he doesn't give two plucks about you. IT happens. Not everyone is going to like you or want to talk to you.
So distance yourself and leave him alone.
... (read in full...)
Based on his past actions, am I being too judgemental here, or is this a red flag?
Q. I have been chatting to a guy who was married for 15 years and has been divorced five years and who has two thirds of childcare responsibility as his ex wife has a mental health condition. He told me he had an affair when the two children wer...
A. 15 July 2015: I agree with SVC and I'd like to add that the FACT that he TOLD you about this can mean several things, 1. he wants to gauge your reaction 2. he feels little to no remorse or 3. he is even a "little" proud that he did it.
Had this "wealthy... (read in full...)
Why am I still so angry about his relationship? It feels like he won. What to do?
Q. Several years ago I fell for a good friend I'd had my whole life, but who was living in another country. We began an LDR that lasted 8 months. It ended when he struggled to support me emotionally, as I had some mental health problems at the time...
A. 15 July 2015: I can't get over that there is NOt a single word of regret towards his GF - who was an innocent bystander is all this drama.
And what did you lose?
YOU "lost" access to a dysfunctional cheater. You "lost" the ability to SCREW over yourself an... (read in full...)
Apart from seeing the doctor and taking the medication Dr recommends and all I've tried: What else will get rid of my recurrent thrush?
Q. Hi, For almost a year now I have been struggling with long term thrush symptoms. Sounds silly but it's driving me insane and affecting my sex life. I have been to the doctors about this on more than one occasion as try just tell me to buy the ...
A. 15 July 2015: Does your partner have it too? Because it IS common that it's transferred back and forth if not BOTH partners gets the treatment.
Cutting sugar is hard. And it will take a good 3-4 weeks before you feel like you don't HAVE to have it.
You nee... (read in full...)
I know we can NEVER be together.. but how do I emotionally detach myself?
Q. How do you detach yourself from someone you know you can NEVER be with? There's this guy I've kind of fallen for and there's no chance of it going anywhere other than friendship so how can I pull away without him really knowing I'm doing so. If he ...
A. 15 July 2015: I'd go cold turkey - tell him WHY, wish him well and then CUT all contact. DELETE all info, so you don't feel tempted.
Then spend time with family and friend and doing things you enjoy to help you not think about him so much.
That's what I... (read in full...)
He's suffocating me. Voicing threats against my friends. why does he begrudge the time I spend with male friends?
Q. I've now been dating a guy for 6 months. We were friends before we dated and I liked him because he was funny and we used to go on nights out with our friends and have a really good time. However since we've been dating he doesn't want to ...
A. 15 July 2015: I'm sorry 6 months into dating and he is THIS nutty?
First off, his CONTROLLING, MANIPULATIVE, CLINGY behavior is "not just" how he shows he cares. THAT is bullsh!t and the WORST excuse I have ever heard.
He is IMMATURE as well, and if you... (read in full...)
Should I be more strict in regards to visitation? Or just let it go?
Q. I need some advice on how to deal with a situation I'm facing in regards to my little girls dad, and how best to approach this. I had my daughter when I was 16 and her dad was 17. We have always had a good relationship even when we broke up when...
A. 15 July 2015: I would ask to met her again. Let him know that you HAVE a right to met the people who are LEFT to watch her. She is 18, you have NO idea how much experience she has with kids and as a mother you have EVERY right to know who takes care of her in ... (read in full...)
My girlfriends brother asked me some inappropriate questions about mine and her sex life. Should I be concerned?
Q. I met an Asian girl from Singapore a few years ago and she has been my girlfriend for three years now, about six weeks ago I met her family for the first time. The first time I was alone with my girlfriend's brother he started to ask me some ver...
A. 15 July 2015: It would be NONE of your business where he sleeps. Just like it's none of his what you do in bed with his sister....
Though.. I find it a tad creepy for an adult male to sleep with him mom.
Maybe he is sleeping there to give you and your GF spac... (read in full...)
I know we can NEVER be together.. but how do I emotionally detach myself?
Q. How do you detach yourself from someone you know you can NEVER be with? There's this guy I've kind of fallen for and there's no chance of it going anywhere other than friendship so how can I pull away without him really knowing I'm doing so. If he ...
A. 15 July 2015: See now THAT makes more sense, no point in hiding that!
I still say, I'd cut the contact because WHILE you two keep the contact and the "fantasy" of being together alive you are holding yourselves back from meeting SOMEONE who could be a GREAT fi... (read in full...)
Why is he so commitment phobic? Is he frightened of commitment?
Q. I am a 51 year old women who looks quite young for my age. I work as Air Cabin Crew and also as a college lecturer. I met up with my first love a few days ago after not seeing him for over 12 years. He came to me in a dream and I felt it was a ...
A. 14 July 2015: So maybe just enjoy the EX as a friend? Do things together but no sex since you want a relationship to go with the sex.
I would look elsewhere, without doubt, for a life partner though.... (read in full...)
I know we can NEVER be together.. but how do I emotionally detach myself?
Q. How do you detach yourself from someone you know you can NEVER be with? There's this guy I've kind of fallen for and there's no chance of it going anywhere other than friendship so how can I pull away without him really knowing I'm doing so. If he ...
A. 14 July 2015: TELL him that you can not longer continue the "friendship" - GROW a set (of ovaries) and be honest with the guy.
After that... CUT the contact. Block and DELETE his number. Remove him from FB, all apps and social sites.
Why you can't "tell us" ... (read in full...)
My girlfriends brother asked me some inappropriate questions about mine and her sex life. Should I be concerned?
Q. I met an Asian girl from Singapore a few years ago and she has been my girlfriend for three years now, about six weeks ago I met her family for the first time. The first time I was alone with my girlfriend's brother he started to ask me some ver...
A. 14 July 2015: Why not simply say, I have no intentions of giving you any details of MY sex life, because it's none of your business.... (read in full...)
Why is he so commitment phobic? Is he frightened of commitment?
Q. I am a 51 year old women who looks quite young for my age. I work as Air Cabin Crew and also as a college lecturer. I met up with my first love a few days ago after not seeing him for over 12 years. He came to me in a dream and I felt it was a ...
A. 14 July 2015: Seems like you are looking for a replacement for your "Children's father" and this blast from the past seemed at first glance a good option.
But the reason you POSTED this question is because you KNOW he is not. YOU might feel "sad" that he hasn'... (read in full...)
How can I determine and confirm if he just wants sex?
Q. I met a guy online and we talked for a few weeks before having our first date today at a coffee shop. We had a lot in common and he said very sweet things to me, which made me think he liked me. He knew that I was a virgin and that I had never...
A. 14 July 2015: First off, drop the term slut. Don't use it for yourself or any other woman ever again.
Second of all, HE took advantage of you inexperience and you curiosity. YOU told him you were uncomfortable and HE didn't stop! That is a red flag. HE shoul... (read in full...)
Have I messed things up with guy I met online?
Q. Hey guys..... So I met a guy online and I'm totally new to the online dating thing, and not sure If I'm entirely comfortable........ So we went on a couple of dates and things seemed to be going well, he said he liked me and I do really like ...
A. 14 July 2015: I think modern day online dating can be more complicated than it should be.
1. I DO agree that for WOMEN if you start to ignore someone, it's usually because the interest is gone and the woman is hoping the guy will "catch" the hint that she isn'... (read in full...)
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