My boyfriend doesn't know that I seen a text he sent to a friend where they were discussing a 3 way!
Q. Hi, Me and my partner was in bed and he was texting his friends in a group chat on 'WhatsApp', I glanced over (we've all done it) and his friend said "I think I was in love" to which my boyfriend said "Yeah, I think you was" (this is about their ni...
A. 4 September 2015: I agree that it's time to sit down and talk about some grown up things. Like boundaries, deal-breakers.
Ask him straight out of he isn't happy with the relationship any more. And tell him why. TELL him you saw the conversation and it made you ques... (read in full...)
All I do is give in this relationship. I get nothing back from her
Q. Ive been with my girlfriend for 6 years and we are about to graduate from college at end of year and because of her pre med school, we are set to move to Galveston. She wants me to propose to her, and she wants to be engaged by the time we move up. ...
A. 4 September 2015: I think she is missing the basic concept of feminism. It's NOT to make the MAN fill the WOMAN'S traditional role (and by the way it seems that is what she think it is all about). Feminism is about equality no matter what gender nationality or ... (read in full...)
I just wanted to make amends with my ex but now he hates me
Q. My ex hates me. We had a bad fall out over some big misunderstanding where he ended up blocking me before we could sort things out. Anyway things have just gone from bad to worse with us sending hate messages to each other via a mutual friend (who I ...
A. 4 September 2015: NEVER use a go-between. That us for pre-teens. That was your first mistake.
ACCEPT that he doesn't CARE that you want to make amends, he is DONE with the issue and you.
Learn from it and move on.
You can't MAKE him want to rehash the past ... (read in full...)
How can I break this cycle? How do I make my boyfriend less possessive?
Q. My boyfriend of almost 2 years is exceptionally caring, generous and always complimenting me. However he is also an incredibly jealous person, and gets angry at the slightest things, for example me liking photos that have boys in them on social m...
A. 3 September 2015: You can't "make" him less possessive, jealous or insecure - those issues are for HIM to deal with.... (read in full...)
I don't want to be bitchy over this. Any advice on how to handle this please?
Q. I messed up things with my boyfriend and did something wrong for which he dumped me. I am really sorry about it but he will not stop getting angry with me and texting me horrible things. We had a week long argument which resulted in him sa...
A. 3 September 2015: I think you are sabotaging the relationship because you want a way out.
If someone is having trouble with their BF they DO NOT invite another male over to "keep them company" - at least NOT if they don't want more drama.
Your BF have a flamin... (read in full...)
I don't want to be around my friend anymore. All she wants to do is argue
Q. Hello. I have a friend i met this year at uni. She is fun and likes talking a lot. We share a lot in common like religion(we go to the same church), some life values our drive for education and success. I like her but at times she wants to argue ...
A. 3 September 2015: I think the fact that you FEEL she hates you says a lot. Maybe more about you than her. Because WHO would want to hang out with a person they think hate them?
Sounds like she is very competitive and right now thinking she needs to "win" everythi... (read in full...)
I got back from a trip to find another man's pair of underwear in my bed. Do I believe my wife's story?
Q. came home from a week long trip found a pair of men's underwear in my bed that weren't mine. Was told they got mixed in laundry and got there when she made the bed. What's the answer? ...
A. 3 September 2015: That sounds really odd.
Her guess (that it got mixed up in the laundry) is as good as any guess I can make.
Does she do laundry outside the house? Or do more people share your washer/dryer? If so... it's entirely possible and like C. Grant sa... (read in full...)
Does he prefer older women, or did I mess it up?
Q. Hello, I found this man I worked with really attractive, he's really nice and fun and we get along great! I have known him for a few years now and consider him a good friend. My friends always tease me and say what a great couple we would make, an...
A. 3 September 2015: If he is seeing someone else, let it go.
He KNOWS you are interested and he didn't pursue it.
My advice - stick to NOT using your work environment as your dating pool or a cruder version, don't crap where you eat. (AKA Don't date where you w... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble knowing what to do. Relationship issues.
Q. I'm having trouble knowing what to do. I have been in a relationship with a girl for about 11 years. We have had a very up and down relationship. Our love for each other was the strongest and the compatibility even stronger, in the beginning. W...
A. 3 September 2015: I'm going to give it to you straight up, no fluff.
No, you don't have a chance. She has moved on and maybe you can learn something from that. You have treated her as an inferior the whole time, no wonder she finally said, enough.
You were mad ... (read in full...)
I hit my wife. What can I do now to make her realize that I'm sorry?
Q. I need help. My wife and I have been in heated arguments near the beginning of our marriage (we're going on 6 years) which led to abuse. Both physical and emotional. I love her to death and can't imagine ever losing her, she is the best thing t...
A. 3 September 2015: If my husband hit me, EVER, It would be the end of the marriage. No amount of words or apologies can fix it.
ACTIONS might make her give you another chance, but words? Words are cheap.
You said she is about to deploy, so do you live in a milita... (read in full...)
My ex wife completely messed my life up. How do I move on from something like this?
Q. I am a 28 year old male who was married to a woman for the last 5 years and have a 3 year old son with her. I found out she was cheating for over a year with my best friend that Ive known since elementary school. I was upset but tried my best to...
A. 3 September 2015: There is no way to explain why she did it. And while I get that you hurt from the betrayal (who wouldn't) - I would suggest you let it go and focus on your son only. SHE isn't worth "trying" to figure out.
You family is right. Get a lawyer (... (read in full...)
I am still hurt by feelings of betrayal, humiliation and embarassment and need help on how to deal with this, please?
Q. I made out with a guy 5 months ago at a great party at university. I stay outside school so it was late and i had nowhere to go but to stay at the party until sunrise or at least when its safe to go to my room. I went there with some two girls so we ...
A. 2 September 2015: What do you really have to be ashamed of? For being with a guy and NOT knowing he had a gf?
Be glad he rejected you, he IS a piece of trash who tried to USE you.
Yes, it's a bit humiliating to think you are maybe dating someone, you do ... (read in full...)
Why did he encourage me to move all this way and bring all my things with me, but now he wants me to leave? What can I do? I feel stuck and penniless.
Q. am so confused, I need some good opinions. So, I have been with my now xboyfriend for over two years. I am from SC and him PA. We have moved back and forth together for awhile but it never works out from bad luck and the fact that we break up all ...
A. 2 September 2015: I forgot to add, if you have things you can sell - do a yard sale. Anything to get home.... (read in full...)
Why did he encourage me to move all this way and bring all my things with me, but now he wants me to leave? What can I do? I feel stuck and penniless.
Q. am so confused, I need some good opinions. So, I have been with my now xboyfriend for over two years. I am from SC and him PA. We have moved back and forth together for awhile but it never works out from bad luck and the fact that we break up all ...
A. 2 September 2015: Control is the first thing that popped into my head. He wants total control.
Do you have any kind of family who can help you out?
I would get out of there asap. And when you DO get out, cut him off totally.... (read in full...)
He rejected me years ago. Should I ask him to be friends again?
Q. I have been in love with this guy friend for three years now. He knows about my feelings because I confessed a few months before our college graduation. Unfortunately, he doesn't love me back and only loves me as a friend. We didn't talk for ...
A. 2 September 2015: You are making the assumption that because YOU like him, HE should like you back. That is not reality.
I don't think YOU can be his friend, because you will ALWAYS have this lingering hope that he want more. And he doesn't.
He will ALWAYS b on... (read in full...)
Men, what would you like your girlfriend to text you?
Q. Guy I'm dating likes to text me hello, asks about my day or what I'm up to or follow up questions and to make plans for when we see each other next. However, it is usually always him who initiates the texting. He has questioned why I never text him...
A. 2 September 2015: I'm not a big texter - I actually find it pretty impersonal. It'd like " I rather not REALLY talk to you but here is a text because everyone else are texting"...
I'd call him - if you know what time he gets up in the morning - call and say hey ... (read in full...)
Why did he lie about my singing? Should I raise this with him, or drop it?
Q. I was wondering if I should be upset or just let it go. My husband and I were at a birthday party dinner for one of his friends that I have only met once so I knew no one at this party. I fell easily into conversation with a women at the din...
A. 2 September 2015: Maybe he was trying to not make her feel bad about her own skill set?
Or didn't want you to feel pressured to perform or what not.
Why not just ASK him?... (read in full...)
Have I done the wrong thing by being direct with my partner regarding his personal hygiene? Should I have never said anything?
Q. I recently approached my partner about sometimes his personal hygiene being not as good as it should be, I had tried to encourage him through being tactful, playful etc for quite some time, and it hit a final straw recently, as it has effected our ...
A. 2 September 2015: If he is in your age group (26-29) there should be no reason to NOT have a decent hygiene. If you tried in many "less confrontational ways" to tell him and nothing happened, then NO I don't think you should have held it back.
YES it hurt his feel... (read in full...)
If your partner cheated, would you want to know?
Q. I've been on this site for a while and I'm horrified at the number if times cheaters have been told to keep quiet about the affair or the kiss 'to spare the partner's feelings'. If my partner cheated on me I would want to know. If he cheated and t...
A. 2 September 2015: I think cheating should never be swept under the carpet. If you can't be honest with your partner what's the point?
We have had stories/post where someone "think" they shared a drunken kiss a year ago and I think is pointless to bring up - a year... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and he's 15
Q. Hi, I have a pretty big dilemma right now and I don't know what to do! I recently met this boy through some volunteer work I do, we got on really well in the group setting and had fun together, it started pretty casual but I could feel the flirting...
A. 2 September 2015: EDIT
I have a 5 year old at home,
Should have been...
I have a 15 year old at home,
... (read in full...)
Do other people question their sexual orientation?
Q. Has anyone else been questioning their sexuality? Do you think questioning it and having to remind yourself of things means your gay? Okay I really am tired of having obsessive thoughts about my sexuality (I have anxiety and I'm pretty sure I ha...
A. 1 September 2015: I think your generation are a little nutty with the NEED for labels on their sexuality.
YOU are who you are. And you will LOVE whomever you will love. You will be sexually attracted to whatever gender you are attracted to.
My 13 year old have... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and he's 15
Q. Hi, I have a pretty big dilemma right now and I don't know what to do! I recently met this boy through some volunteer work I do, we got on really well in the group setting and had fun together, it started pretty casual but I could feel the flirting...
A. 1 September 2015: I think you need to nip this in the bud, right now.
18 is considered an adult (young adult, but.. an adult) a 15 year old is a teenager, but STILL a kid.
Keep the flirting and sexual talk out of it, for now. Be friends, no more.
I have ... (read in full...)
How much effort do I put in to getting his father to attend my son's birthday party?
Q. My son's father and I are estranged. He hasn't spoken to me since June, though I've kept him updated on our son. His mother keeps in touch pretty well, but I cannot get him to respond to one text. Our son will be turning one in a few weeks and I'm ...
A. 1 September 2015: Invite him, but don't have any expectations. Tell his mom too that you invited him. Invite her as well.
You can't MAKE him be a father. And it's NOT your job to "make" him want to be one. It's EASY for him to SAY he wants to be part of his son'... (read in full...)
I need to put my hurt and anger behind me -- quickly!
Q. Hi, I just wanted to write here as I can't seem to shake off these terrible feelings I'm experiencing. I'm 24 years old and lately for two months. It was the first time in about 3 years where I'd felt a bond with someone and that I could trust hi...
A. 1 September 2015: You made a mistake and fell for a dude who sounded sincere but wasn't. IT HAPPENS.
He wouldn't be the first guy to "declare" undying love in order to get a girl in bed.
ACCEPT that you got conned. He didn't care as deeply as he pretended.
NE... (read in full...)
He's showing no interest whatever in wedding planning
Q. What to do if he's stopped showing interest in planning the wedding? After two years in a long distance relationship, my fiance and I are finally living together(we've been engaged over a year)-going on three weeks. We have both been busy gett...
A. 1 September 2015: Ask him straight out?
Remind him of the time issue and then ask him to SIT down with you and talk wedding. A where, when, who (will attend), what time etc.
I get that he might not be overly interested in the process, but... it doesn't mean he ... (read in full...)
I need advice about my daughter's boyfriend please ?
Q. Hi there, I need advice please about my daughter's boyfriend. First of all, a bit of background info. re. my daughter. We now have no family at all - no aunts, uncles, grandfather's etc. No one. It has been this way for many years and, before t...
A. 1 September 2015: I agree with YouWish.
I think this is more about YOU not liking the fact that HE isn't bending over backwards for you. HE is HER BF - so no, he doesn't have to "ingrain" himself - seems like he is actually a busy guy who works hard, take care of ... (read in full...)
My guy is addicted to his phone. Am I overreacting? Is phone addiction normal with guys?
Q. My hubby is addicted to his phone. He is either on fb(mainly political stuff) or playing games or watching cricket. It annoys me to the core sometimes. Even when we sit down for coffee in the morning he can't keep his eyes off the phone. I have sn...
A. 1 September 2015: Why not set some boundaries?
At our house there is NO tech at the dinner table (nor for breakfast/lunch either).
You feeling sick and being in bed might NOT be as exiting for him, so I can see why he took the phone out. At least he hung ou... (read in full...)
Can I tell my teacher how much I love him? Or should I not tell him?
Q. I don’t want 2 post my name...I have this strong feelings for my new teacher...he doesn’t teach me Of course but every time I see him my heart beat fast... he is the man of my dreams I don’t want him to lose his job but I also can’t afford to look ...
A. 1 September 2015: No, don't tell him. You aren't in love - you are experiencing a crush - a HUGE crush or infatuation with him.
What exactly do you think will happen if you tell him? That he will declare his undying love for you, like straight out of some romance ... (read in full...)
No one will take me serious when I say I don't want sex or partying?
Q. My siblings and I grew up in a house where my parents made it their goal to make sure that we a) graduate HS b) while not experimenting with drugs, alcohol, or sex. They let us listen to most the music we wanted to and read most the books we wanted ...
A. 1 September 2015: I see Cindy and I are on the same page. I had the same deja vu feeling about this post.
Of course you can say no to sex, no to drug and no to partying. It's a choice.
People can't "MAKE" you date guy and then have to have sex - it's a choice. S... (read in full...)
Can she claim to be interested still? do I date him or do I just forget about him?
Q. so I really like this guy and he really likes me. the problem is, one of my friends (we used to be close but now we're not) really liked him about a year ago. They didn't even date. he claimed he never liked her but she has told me previous...
A. 1 September 2015: Is this really the only available guy around?
And honestly if you and your "former" friend are in your 30's aren't you just a LITTLE to old to call dibs on this guy?
If you and your "former" friend aren't really friends any more I don't see... (read in full...)
Does anyone have advice for these terrible anxious feelings I get?
Q. I know this is a site for relationship advice, but I've spent quite a fair amount of time on this website to know that many of the responders on here are extremely mature and have quite a bit of life experience. So mainly I'm just looking for ...
A. 1 September 2015: While I'm NOT a fan of medication for everything, you could talk to your doctor about it and look for another option BEFORE taking meds. I kind of agree with your parents, however, THEY are not living in your mind when you get a panic attack.
... (read in full...)
Boyfriend found out I cheated while messed up and ended things. Will I ever be able to make him forgive me?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together three years and we got engaged last year. We then went through a rocky patch, but then things were great again. Until two nights ago when I ruined everything. I was at a rave, and was off my face and took a ...
A. 1 September 2015: You might see it as a stupid mistake, he sees it as betrayal. BIG difference there.
I really think the ONLY thing you CAN do is respect is wish not to talk to him and leave him alone. If he is able to forgive you at some point THAT will be up to... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend is letting a girl interfere in our relationship and I don't know what to do about it
Q. So, my LDR boyfriend just started attending a new college and immediately made acquaintances with this girl. She's in a few of his classes and is working at the campus radio station. She's pretty annoying and not so bright, which we've both ...
A. 1 September 2015: I would tell your BF that it annoys you and that it IS his job to set boundaries for others including this girl.
I mean WHO starts a conversation when someone is on the phone? (or Skyping, but basically the same thing, you are having a conversa... (read in full...)
Paying on a date. Am I making this too big of a deal?
Q. Am I making this too big of a deal? I have been seeing one guy for about 3 weeks now. Everything is good and I really love to be with him, he wants to be with me, we have fun together and everything is easy and we just click. He is very caring...
A. 31 August 2015: I agree with Notsohappy.
I would just PRESUME that he pays for his, you pay for yours. If you don't like it, maybe he isn't for you.
If he knew you got a coffee but went and paid for HIS only, I think he is a bit on the stingy side - I'm norma... (read in full...)
Are we too close after just 3 weeks of dating?
Q. Hi All, I really need a different perspective on this as this is on my mind a lot. "Andy" (fake name) and I have been dating for two months. It's that story of an immediate connection, talking for hours and intense chemistry. He's gorgeous, funny an...
A. 31 August 2015: I don't think you need to worry about a time-table here. If it happened all organically and feels right, I think it's a good thing.
I think the more time you spend together getting to know each others likes, dislikes, quirks, morals, values, ... (read in full...)
Am I reading signals wrong from my ex?
Q. After a long time of asking questions about my love life, this one really takes the cake. So to summarize my extremely long and currently non-existent love life: I used to have a huge crush on this girl that i had a connection with during high ...
A. 31 August 2015: I'd say, start OVER - reset your "love-life" with someone new. Someone who doesn't hold your past against you or who didn't really want you.
Respect her request.
Hopefully you learned something from the relationship/crush.
1. a CRUSH is n... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's phone rang, I went through his messages and now I feel sick
Q. I did something really horrible, my boyfriend left his phone at home, it rang and I saw the call from a woman he had done work for.but recently I saw a text, not sure if it was to her or from her saying "I am on my way see you soon." I went through ...
A. 31 August 2015: It's hard to give advice here as the situation is clear as mud.
What were said that upset you? That she stopped by HIS house?
What work did he do for her? Would it make sense for her to pick something up at his house?
Were the texts of an ... (read in full...)
My ex's wife doesn't want me to attend his service
Q. I was engaged briefly to a man about 4 years ago but prior to that we were very close friends since high school. I loved him dearly. Unfortunately he passed away last week and I was only notified yesterday. I had lost touch with him when he got ...
A. 31 August 2015: No one is "bashing" you, but trying to get through to you to SEE things from the widow's side of things.
It's not about how long they were married versus how long you have know him. She asked that you (and some other ex) not show up. It's a s... (read in full...)
I still want my ex-Bf back.Do you any suggestions on how I can convince him to date me again?
Q. I recently rekindled with my ex boyfriend, and after two months he tells me. He is "not interested in a relationship with me. Just fall back." I asked him twice what made him change his mind, and he has not responded. Here is what happened ...
A. 31 August 2015: If he gets so pissed off over a picture of you with a guy that he DUMPS you instead of just ASK you who it is, he is not really serious about dating.
You can't dump a partner at the drop if a hat every time you get pissed off...
As far as get... (read in full...)
Am I totally crazy for "loving" someone I've never seen, and who lives in another country, and he has a Gf?
Q. Ok, this will be a long story so forgive me. So, I am a 20 year old gay male and I've played this online game for years now and like 2 months ago I met 2 really nice people, a male and a female. Over these 2 months I've grown pretty close to them,...
A. 31 August 2015: It's not love. It's infatuation. You are infatuated with a "fantasy" character (how you THINK this guy really is, not the real him - as you honestly DO NOT know him that well).
What do you do? Having a crush/infatuation with someone you don't kn... (read in full...)
Is it time to bring this to a close? Seems I am now just a text friend and there has been no apology.
Q. May I ask for advice I fell out with a guy I got close to He gave me the impression he was finished with the person who he was with but was not the case as he has bought into a flat and had to see out the contract Anyway because I felt le...
A. 31 August 2015: I would. There is no real point to keeping in touch. He is not a friend, or even a friendly acquaintance.
I'm not much of a fan of keeping people in my life who isn't a positive influence. This one? He seems to just text when bored or having n... (read in full...)
My ex's wife doesn't want me to attend his service
Q. I was engaged briefly to a man about 4 years ago but prior to that we were very close friends since high school. I loved him dearly. Unfortunately he passed away last week and I was only notified yesterday. I had lost touch with him when he got ...
A. 31 August 2015: Grief will do strange things to people. Among that anger and hostility. Why she has chosen you and another ex-gf to direct it at is anyone's guess...
The matter of fact is.. SHE is his wife/widow. You are just an ex GF.
You can easily talk to h... (read in full...)
My ex's wife doesn't want me to attend his service
Q. I was engaged briefly to a man about 4 years ago but prior to that we were very close friends since high school. I loved him dearly. Unfortunately he passed away last week and I was only notified yesterday. I had lost touch with him when he got ...
A. 30 August 2015: I agree with WiseOwlE
Pay your respect to the parent in another way, and at another time.
While you dated him in the past, SHE was his wife. Whether you like her or not I think you should respect her wishes.
Now I have no idea why there i... (read in full...)
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