I need advice! My baby daddy impregnated another woman and I don't know where to go from here
Q. My bby daddy has impregnanted another woman....i hv been away frm him for 9months and the girl is 5 months pregnant....i didnt want to forgive him bt i did even thou the other part of me is still hurt and confused....he took a leave frm work to come ...
A. 12 October 2015: He is NOT such a good man, if he hides the fact that he is with you and has a child, JUST so he can get laid.
He isn't married to you, there is no real commitment. You share a child whom YOU do 100% of the raising/parenting. He on the other ha... (read in full...)
Did I assume too much about her? What's my next move?
Q. I came back tonight from work a bit disappointed. This is the situation. I work at a job that haves a cafe and the connection between me and one of the girls there is strong. She stumbles every time I am there and acts nervous when I apporoah her ...
A. 9 October 2015: It's not criticism, it's advice to respect a woman when she says no or no thanks.
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A married man at work is asking too many questions !
Q. Hi. There is a married man at a work (he doesn't work there), his child is in a class at the school where I work, I'm an assistant. He's been asking me personal questions like: Are you married? Do you have kids? Do you live close by? Do you ...
A. 9 October 2015: Just tel him in the nicest way possible, that it's really none of his business.
You don't owe him an itinerary o your life. Parent or not.
Now he might just want to make Small talk, not hit on you. BUT it really IS up to you if you want to d... (read in full...)
Which job do you take/keep?
Q. You have two options...Option 1 or Option 2? Option 1: Low pay most of the time you are happy there and the work environment is comfortable with AC (not hard and out like "in the trenches" kind of work). It's in retail at the local pharmacy ...
A. 9 October 2015: Option 2 is almost 3 times the wages.
Can you live on $10K a year?
Is option 2 with health benefits too? If so, it's a nobrainer for me, I'd pick #2.
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Should I pay for a relative's meal on my birthday where my significant other reluctantly paid part of the cost?
Q. My fiancé's parents are in there 80's and the dad is able to get around. The mother needs a lot of help walking due to overweight issues. The are still both mentally sharp. I have an aunt in her 90's and she is mentally sharp too and gets a...
A. 9 October 2015: I wouldn't go back and look at the cost of past dinners, but for whatever reason THIS dinner made your Fiance call you AND your auntie cheap and while I don't think you OWE him to pay anything, I would make the "payment" to him and his parents on ... (read in full...)
What is this "dirty wet spot" after oral sex?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and every single time he eats me out it leaves this "dirty" wet spot in the area. And I'm wondering when it is. I've never had a problem with hygiene so I know that's not a answer. Someone please help cause ...
A. 8 October 2015: EIDT!
When I heart dirty..
Should of course be heard not heart....
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When I heard(read) dirty.. ... (read in full...)
What do I say? Where to from here? I wanted his support and his response was insensitive
Q. Hi. I'm looking for support from someone out there :( tonight I felt so down and sadly I took it out on my boyfriend while he is working away (over the phone). I told him I wish he understood how I felt having pcos, but his reply was - 'you can walk ...
A. 8 October 2015: I agree, very few men would truly understand such an issue or the pain you go through having pcos. Only thing you can really do is talk to your doctor about your options. There are ways to lower the harder aspects of pcos.
A friend of mine had... (read in full...)
Did I assume too much about her? What's my next move?
Q. I came back tonight from work a bit disappointed. This is the situation. I work at a job that haves a cafe and the connection between me and one of the girls there is strong. She stumbles every time I am there and acts nervous when I apporoah her ...
A. 8 October 2015: Should you approach her again?
No. No means no. She told you no. Her saying :"she said I don't fraternize with employees" mean no I don't date co-workers. THAT includes you.
Just because YOU decided to take the risk ans tell HER doesn't mean... (read in full...)
I just found out my girlfriend of almost two years is MARRIED! Now what?
Q. Hey Aunts! I have been dating this wonderful younger woman for almost two years now. She is smart, ambitious, and beautiful and she is 10 years my junior. Our sex life has been amazing, but it was troubling in one way. She always pushed for o...
A. 8 October 2015: Wow! That must have been quite a shock for you, and I'm sorry you were put in this situation without your knowledge or consent.
Her husband "can" have been gone for 2 full years - if he has been station overseas he still get the possibil... (read in full...)
What is this "dirty wet spot" after oral sex?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and every single time he eats me out it leaves this "dirty" wet spot in the area. And I'm wondering when it is. I've never had a problem with hygiene so I know that's not a answer. Someone please help cause ...
A. 8 October 2015: I too am wondering about the "dirty" part here. When I heart dirty.. I think dark dirt (like from the ground) and that... should not be anywhere near the vagina... I hope.
If you mean it resembles egg-whites (wet and a little slimy) then that is ... (read in full...)
Have you helped your adult children financially, like pay for their wedding rings
Q. After the fact and the wedding, my significant other told me that he helped his son pay for his daughter-in-law's engagement ring to the tune of $800.00. It was suppose to be secret and only between him and his son. My significant other is d...
A. 8 October 2015: A LOT of traditions are tied in with the engagement/wedding ring/sets. Some GIVE their son their OWN (the mother's ) engagement ring to give to their fiance - some save up (there are all kind of rules of HOW much you "should" spend, depending on ... (read in full...)
Don't want this to backfire. Would sharing a room, with my male colleague, be risky for this holiday?
Q. A co-worker/friend and I are going on a weeks long vacation together since its a place we found we both were dying to visit but had no one to go with. The topic of hotel/hostel rooms came up, he specifically asked if we could just share a room. I ...
A. 8 October 2015: Since he is a co-worker I'd honestly try and keep the "romance" out of this vacation. You say you are going as "friends" so STICK to separate room.
Let's say he ISN'T interested in you in "that" way, how would you feel about him potentia... (read in full...)
What's some ''feel good'' to take to my boyfriend who is into fitness and keeps to a strict diet?
Q. Hi, My boyfriend is feeling weak and I want to take him something nice like food which would make him feel better keeping in mind he is working on his fitness and has a strict diet to follow..what would you recommendations do you have for "feel go...
A. 8 October 2015: Fresh fruit are always good. Same with fresh raw veggies (if that is part of his diet). Avocado is low in sugar, high in healthy fat, blueberries are low in sugar as well.
Nuts - like almonds (unsalted, preferable raw and UNTREATE... (read in full...)
Boyfriend driving me crazy! If I play hard to get he's upset, if I call too much he doesn't answer!
Q. My boyfriend and I were fighting too much as he puts it so he kicked me out but we are still together. He kicked me out because when he would give me the silent treatment because I wasn't talking enough and I would try to reassure him by holding his ...
A. 8 October 2015:
In advance, sorry for the follow "harsh" truth.
Your Bf is a controlling and manipulative nutter!
I get that living together wasn't working out for you two, so he "kicked you out" and now that you don't LIVE with him he feels like he ca... (read in full...)
I'd like my son to connect with his father and grandparents. Would sending a letter to the grandparents be acceptable?
Q. Basically I had a fling several years ago and got pregnant ... we barely knew each other so I can't blame the father for ditching me the moment i said "baby". I let him go. It has been 6 years and I wonder if he regrets his actions. I am harder to f...
A. 7 October 2015: OP, I wasn't blaming you for thinking your child is yours (alone) - he didn't step up, he ran and never looked back, never contacted you or... basically cared if you HAD a child or an abortion.
But biologically he is a father, not an anonymou... (read in full...)
My Bf donated his sperm before we got serious. How can I stop freaking and get over this?
Q. My boyfriend who I love donated his sperm 3 years ago. It was one of the first things he told me before we got serious and at the time I was fine with the fact that there were 2 kids with half of his dna. But then when things did get serious, it hit ...
A. 7 October 2015: How do you get over it?
By accepting that he did this prior to knowing you. By accepting that what he did had NOTHING to do with you.
Any children made with his sperm is not necessarily going to "have his face and features". I have 3 kids with... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lost it when I told him I wanted to look in on my brother as I'd promised my parents!
Q. Am I in the wrong? My parents are away on holiday and my brother has been left home alone (he's just turned 18, can't cook but he can heat up soup and do beans on toast) and my parents have asked if I can go out each day to cook supper and make ...
A. 7 October 2015: I DO think your brother is old enough to cook himself something edible and do the dishes ALL by himself, if not.. well, this is a good time for him to learn.
And you can CALL him to check in and see how he fares. It's TWO days.
I seriously h... (read in full...)
He hasn't said a word to me in a week, I miss talking to him, what do I do?
Q. Our friends told me that the guy I like drunkenly told them he liked me but since then he hasn't said a word to me and seems to be actively going out his way to avoid me has he decided he doesn't like me what do I do it's been a week now and I miss ...
A. 7 October 2015: I agree with WiseOwlE
I'd let this one go. If he can only talk about his feeling when drunk and seems to avoid you when sober, what's the point?... (read in full...)
I'd like my son to connect with his father and grandparents. Would sending a letter to the grandparents be acceptable?
Q. Basically I had a fling several years ago and got pregnant ... we barely knew each other so I can't blame the father for ditching me the moment i said "baby". I let him go. It has been 6 years and I wonder if he regrets his actions. I am harder to f...
A. 7 October 2015: I think he has a right to know that he fathered a child. And honestly, I think he should have known when the child was born. (whether he wanted part in the child or not) Now you might have felt, he didn't want this, he ran, so the child is ALL mine ... (read in full...)
Is he ghosting me and I should just move on?
Q. This is gonna sound ridiculously teenagerish but I was talking to this 27 year old for the last three months. Our conversations started out friendly and they escalated on his side to flirting to the point where he was inviting me over to come ove...
A. 7 October 2015: I don't think he is ghosting you, but he isn't looking for anything serious. The thing is, if you two haven't met already it's a bot over the top to invite you to a holiday, wedding etc. I mean he REALLY don't know you from Eve and you don't REALLY ... (read in full...)
How can I be happy doing what I do at home?
Q. im a 34 stay at home mom for 11 years. im grateful to raise my 3 kids, but im depressed being at home cleaning and taking care of the house. this last year i started drinking in the day.. at first it made cleaning more fun, but i need to change. i ...
A. 7 October 2015: I agree Flylady.com is the queen of clean! and her website can help making cleaning less of a "chore", simply by managing it right. Some of it is a bit over the top (even for me lol) but you can always find something useful.
Secondly, HOW young ar... (read in full...)
He feels there is no spark and he just wants to be alone to find himself. How should I act towards him? Has he moved on?
Q. Hey everyone! I hope you could put some light into my situation. I started dating my coworker at work, in the beginning it was all perfect, i felt pursued he was so charming and really swept me off my feet. We went on many dates together and spen...
A. 6 October 2015: Honestly?
No.
Learn from this instead. Dating at your work place is not a smart idea in general. Be nice, polite and professional with the new member of the team and politely ignore the "ex" guy.
If he does start to want to be with you a... (read in full...)
I'd like my son to connect with his father and grandparents. Would sending a letter to the grandparents be acceptable?
Q. Basically I had a fling several years ago and got pregnant ... we barely knew each other so I can't blame the father for ditching me the moment i said "baby". I let him go. It has been 6 years and I wonder if he regrets his actions. I am harder to f...
A. 6 October 2015: Do the family know about the child?
I too would write him AND them. I would let them know a bit about the child and that you are NOT looking for financial compensation or help, but would like for your son to know his family on both sides.
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Do new couples usually have so many fall outs?
Q. Is it normal for a new couple to split up and get back together on a regular basis? My ex can be quite controlling and self centred. He also can have a short fuse from time to time. I notice (from comments on social media and friends etc) tha...
A. 6 October 2015: I think it's part of his pattern, you say you two split up over a misunderstanding after a short time together, so the whole "my way or the highway" might just be who he is.
I have actually never had a relationship that was on/off, not one wher... (read in full...)
Does he like me? I am not sure. But I really like him. So what can I say to him to advance things further?
Q. Hi I am a very shy person. I blush quite easily, I went on a second date with a guy who I really like, however I'm quite a quiet person so I don't think he's very interested in me. He messaged me the day after we met saying 'it was nice to see ...
A. 6 October 2015: I agree with Tisha.
Tell him, I would like to get to know you better and it was hard for me to talk over the noise at the bar, where as it would be easier to have a chat while going for a walk.
And don't be afraid to let him know that you ar... (read in full...)
Should I continue to date and build a relationship with someone newly divorced?
Q. I am dating someone who got out of a divorce about 5 months ago due to the wife cheating (more than once). Before his divorce, we were just friends for about 2 years. I am torn on going any further with this. We are not in any type of commited...
A. 6 October 2015: I agree with WiseOwlE
I think you already know that this may not be a long term thing. I can see you being a "rebound". Someone who "got" him out of the slump of a bad marriage, but maybe not a serous partner for him, or for you.
So if you can... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to hurt the feelings of his ex?? Is that a poor excuse to give to the new Gf?
Q. This is the scenario: Guy breaks up with his girlfriend of a few years. They remain friends. They start hanging out and talking on the phone as soon as a few weeks after break up. A few months later, he dates someone new. A new girl he appears ...
A. 6 October 2015: What is he really thinking?
That his "friendship" with his ex is more important than the relationships with the new GF.
Unless he ran of to join a monastery the ex ought to know that eventually he'd date someone new. Not telling her is m... (read in full...)
Should I pay for a relative's meal on my birthday where my significant other reluctantly paid part of the cost?
Q. My fiancé's parents are in there 80's and the dad is able to get around. The mother needs a lot of help walking due to overweight issues. The are still both mentally sharp. I have an aunt in her 90's and she is mentally sharp too and gets a...
A. 6 October 2015: I think your Fiance is being a total dill-weed. Your AUNT is an important person in your life, someone you love and care for. Someone who LOVES you back and care for you. She is family of the "good kind"! He should TREAT her with respect. And the ... (read in full...)
He feels there is no spark and he just wants to be alone to find himself. How should I act towards him? Has he moved on?
Q. Hey everyone! I hope you could put some light into my situation. I started dating my coworker at work, in the beginning it was all perfect, i felt pursued he was so charming and really swept me off my feet. We went on many dates together and spen...
A. 6 October 2015: I think he initially liked the "idea" of you two together, but in reality? not so much. It was "too much" work for him to maintain a relationship with you and do what he wants at the same time. Like... flirt with other girls at work or where ever.
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Dating a month, was I a rebound?
Q. This post is going to be a bit long, apologies for that. My boyfriend and I were good and it's been just a month together. Out of the blue, he texted me this morning that "Don't mean to be hard on you but I am not sure about this relationship. I ...
A. 5 October 2015: While a month might be soon soon to REALLY know, dating someone who is STILL stuck on an ex is not a good thing either. He is NOT over her. He is pining for someone he can't have. No matter how much you love him, you can not erase the past.
You s... (read in full...)
I'm missing my ex although he was never the guy that would make me happy!?
Q. I feel like my heart is falling apart. I broke up w/my ex a week ago. I was the one who ended it, I am extremely broken. I wanted so bad for the relationship to work. When I started having doubts I approached him in a mature manner and he accused me ...
A. 5 October 2015: It's been a week, just one week. It's pretty normal to feel some loss, and some sadness.
It takes a good while for two people to really get to know one another, you build a bond of sorts, and when a relationship ends, you are left missing that BON... (read in full...)
How do I know I'm reaching the cum stage? I can't feel it reaching that point.
Q. Okay when my bf and I are having sex he asks me all the time did you cum, and I tell him that I don't know. And he says how don't you know if you cummed or not, and I say I don't know. He knows that i do cum because he can feel it, but i can neve...
A. 5 October 2015: 80% of women don't orgasm from penetrative sex, but most women CAN orgasm from clitoral stimulation, because THAT is where the nerve-ending are on a woman, not inside the vagina.
I agree that if you can't feel it, it's not happening for you.
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I need advice! My baby daddy impregnated another woman and I don't know where to go from here
Q. My bby daddy has impregnanted another woman....i hv been away frm him for 9months and the girl is 5 months pregnant....i didnt want to forgive him bt i did even thou the other part of me is still hurt and confused....he took a leave frm work to come ...
A. 5 October 2015: I agree with looking to get child maintenance/child support from this guy and do it asap. You child might need it.
You call him "baby daddy" not BF, so I will presume that you are not a couple and that this guy seem to have a habit of knocking... (read in full...)
I want us to return to being just friends. I've apologized. Yet despite that why is she distancing herself from me?
Q. I have a very close friend (a girl) who I have known for almost 6 years now. During the time that I have known her I watched her grow and mature into the young adult she is now. I find her to be attractive and I am especially attracted to her body...
A. 5 October 2015: She sees you in a different light now. Someone she trusted and cared for as a friend, sees her as a piece of ass - someone he'd like to have sex with, but NOT be with.
Yeah, it's not really that strange that she is pulling away.
You stepped o... (read in full...)
How do I get him to move into the spare room and take things from there?
Q. I am tired of crying sleepless nights over my marriage. It is loveless, no tenderness and we have tried to keep it together but it seems like a battle going around and around. I'm am quieter than my husband. I have asked him to sleep in the spare ...
A. 5 October 2015: 5 years? Good grief! well, better get started then?
And if you move into the spare room it just shows that you are serious, and that you don't want to play whatever "game" he is playing.
Of course he is doing this to annoy you and control you,... (read in full...)
Why do people say a couple is being ''selfish'' if the couple make a conscious decision to have one child only?
Q. Why do people consider you selfish for making the choice to only have one child? My boyfriend and I have thought hard about this. We have decided to have only the one child when we marry. It's a thought out decision. We are both self employed a...
A. 5 October 2015: I had planned ti only have one child as well, but ended up with 3. I have no regrets. I don't think I would having regretted only having 1 either.
DO what's right for you and screw what others think.
If you decided to have 5 kids, people wou... (read in full...)
Question for men: is it really difficult to leave your wife if you've been having an affair? Or am I right - is he just offering me excuses?
Q. I have done the unthinkable for the last 8 years of my life. Please don't hammer me. I have been dating married man. No kids. He's much older than me and at first I was just having fun but it turned into love. He's taken me on many trips an...
A. 5 October 2015: Honestly he has been making the same "promise" for 8 years, you really think he NOW will keep it?
And he wants to wait for the wife to leave him? HOW convenient for him and how utterly coward-like!
My question is to you, how long do you thin... (read in full...)
Friends and family tell me to date the younger guy who's actively pursuing me, but I can't stop thinking about someone else!
Q. Hello, I'm writing this because I need opinions of people that aren't my family/friends. Basically I was in a relationship for around 8 years, from the age of 14 to around 22. It ended because my life got busier and he'd moved away a few...
A. 5 October 2015: Eww little black book of his conquests? That would be a no go for me. One thing is a guy having one, another is him BRAGGING about it.
Don't use the 20 year old as a way to get over there other guy, firstly cause it's not nice and secondly... (read in full...)
How do I get him to move into the spare room and take things from there?
Q. I am tired of crying sleepless nights over my marriage. It is loveless, no tenderness and we have tried to keep it together but it seems like a battle going around and around. I'm am quieter than my husband. I have asked him to sleep in the spare ...
A. 5 October 2015: Why does HE have to be the one to take the spare room?
I mean I know the argument is moot, because there is not "rebuilding" going on - it's a battle of wills. You don't want to lose face by accepting that it's NOT going to work and thus HE must ... (read in full...)
Did the culture difference break this up, or is he just not that into me?
Q. Firstly, sorry for the length of the question but I just wanted to give as much information as possible! So I met a guy online four months ago. He is 21, I am 22, and we are from quite different backgrounds - he is Turkish but was born in the UK a...
A. 5 October 2015: I agree with WiseOwlE
98% of Turkey's population are Muslims. I know growing up in Denmark that the younger generation acted much like their Danish peers except for the fact that they didn't date Danish girls/boys openly. Specially the Turkish ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I should log onto the dating site?
Q. Hello I have subscribed to a dating site for 1 month, and have agreed , to meet a woman for a date , she has said , we can meet , when she is back from ...
A. 5 October 2015: I guess it depends whether you are OK with dating several people at the same time.
This lady that you have met and set up a date with, MIGHT not be a good fit when you met in person, so sitting on your hand and waiting for her to come back mig... (read in full...)
Why will my boyfriend not say anything bad about this one particular ex?
Q. I have recently gained some weight and it's making me feel quite uncomfortable. My boyfriend always compliments me even when I look like a walking dead extra or my hairs a mess. Well he basically compliments me every time I see him. I asked him ...
A. 5 October 2015: I think you ARE being silly. Him putting her down to make YOU feel better about yourself, sounds kind of petty to me.
My husband's first wife is a 400 lbs woman now, she is HUGE. I think my husband knows that she ins't happy about her weight, ... (read in full...)
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