Why is it the older I get the harder it is to control my hormones?
Q. Why does it seem that the closer I get to my twenties the more my hormones seem to crave sexual activities? At eighteen, I have managed to stay a virgin, but it seems to be getting harder to avoid sexual thoughts and the desire to be an attention ...
A. 24 August 2015: Sexual thoughts are pretty normal. And for some acting on those thoughts are ... pretty normal too.
Wanting attention? Again normal.
The older you get (till maybe 40?) your ovulation week can be a little like a tsunami of hormones all tel... (read in full...)
My manager's crush makes him act inappropriately. Should I film him and send it to his supervisor and wife?
Q. Has anyone ever cringed at their Manager, I work in retail and My Married should I add Store Manager has such an obvious crush on a customer. A young women around late 20s comes in every other day and my Manager, makes no secret he is checking her ...
A. 24 August 2015: Wow... you seem to have a LOT of anger about this.
Not so much about HIS behavior, but the fact that he offered her a job without having to go through the hoops YOU had to go through.. Honey, that is part of life. Some people DO get "easy" b... (read in full...)
Am I just too jaded and expecting too much of a my boyfriend?
Q. So is it me and my large amount of bitterness and cynicism? Here are the facts, and please lemme know your ace value opinion. My bf and i have been dating for 2.5 years. As of last month I told him I didn't wanna be w/ him anymore in an em...
A. 24 August 2015: I'm with Cindy.
SHIT or get off the pot.
(crude but effective way of explaining your situation)
Either you MAKE it work with him, or you END it for good. Not letting him stay to "help" out with bills etc.
One or the other.
If you c... (read in full...)
She said she'd be busy but I haven't heard from her in a week. What should I do?
Q. Hello, So I was introduced to an awesome lady through a mutual friend and we seemed to hit it off right away. We have had two other dates/hang outs and at least from my perspective, things seemed to go well. She would always text me after and say...
A. 24 August 2015: You have put the ball in her court with your text. SHE didn't shot it back for whatever reason. So as things stand, the BALL is in her court.
My advice? I think she is more bi-curious than bi-sexual. As in she LIKES the idea of a woman/wo... (read in full...)
Am I unusual for wanting to be dressed feminine ?
Q. what do most women think of men who like to wear female clothing? I curiously started wearing bras and panties way back in the 1960's when due to not having enough room in the bedroom shared by my two older sisters some of their clothes were stored ...
A. 24 August 2015: I think if you look for a place (website/community) where this is more common you might FIND such a woman.
But I DO think it's something you HAVE to be upfront about BEFORE getting "too" involved. Personally, I'd upset if my partner hid that fro... (read in full...)
I want to confront my ex friend about her lack of respect in our relationship but wonder if I should just let things go?
Q. I was friends with a girl for many years, even when we went apart to go to different colleges across the country. During this time, she got a boyfriend who lived in our home-town, she returned from college and they became very close. During t...
A. 24 August 2015: No, don't bother.
SHE knows why your friendship ended, she just isn't willing to OWN her actions (aka take the "blame") - it's EASIER to make you the "bad guy" as she doesn't socialize with you any more.
Some friend are for life, others are... (read in full...)
I have growing frustration over the ladies my best friend has chosen to be her bridesmaids
Q. I'll aim to condense this down (hopefully i'll manage) my best friend is getting married in December and i'm her maid of honour - couldn't be more excited! but... she has made some random choices for remaining 3 bridesmaids - I think. I know ...
A. 24 August 2015: You don't have to like them, but I'd advice for you to put your petty squabbles away for your friend's sake and just SUCK it up, or... not be her MOH.
This has NOTHING to do with you, with whom you like - the bride might not even have been abl... (read in full...)
Should I delete my male friends because my boyfriend asked me to do so?
Q. === should I delete my male friends because my boyfriend asked me to do it???? Hello everyone My boyfriend asked me to delete all my male friends on facebook! p.s: They aren't lot just 6-7 friends because only accept good friends. And when I ...
A. 23 August 2015: How long have you been dating?
And aside from getting likes from males friend have you don't anything that makes him think it's inappropriate to have male friend?
Are your picture semi-undressed/bikini kind or just various pictures of acti... (read in full...)
He says he ''can't do without me'' but he stays married. I'm single, but what to do?
Q. I'm 22y old and still single. i love married man and he also loves me more. He says he can't do without me. but I can't keep doing fake relationship.what to do?...
A. 23 August 2015: He CAN do without you OR he would have left his wife already. HE is NOT going to leave her.
It's a choice to stay married, it's a choice to cheat and it's a choice to be someone's mistress.
He wants to stay married AND have you on the side, so ... (read in full...)
How do I break up with him without hurting his feelings?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I am not in love anymore. He's really a nice guy and I don't want to hurt his feelings. He's going to be very surprised and hurt when I tell him. I know he really cares about me but I don't feel anyth...
A. 23 August 2015: There is no easy way out. There is no way to spare him hurt feelings.
But... the sooner you do it, the BETTER for him. Staying with a guy because he is a GREAT guy, but you don't really love him... is stringing him along. And that is 10 times mo... (read in full...)
What can I do to ensure our relationship can work, without the guilt of feeling selfish about delaying having sex?
Q. Hello all! Please I need your advice on this issue. I and my bf have been dating for over a year now and we have never had sex. I'm a Virgin and he is a Virgin also. We ar both 23yrs. He really wants us to have sex but I don't want to until we...
A. 23 August 2015: If your stance is to wait, then THAT is what you need to stick with. It's not about being selfish.
He KNEW when you started dating that you wanted to wait till marriage. JUST because he WANTS sex doesn't mean you have to throw your values out the ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting or am I right to feel there’s something off about this new relationship?
Q. So, I've been seeing this guy for about three months. We met online through Eharmony and he's my first relationship since I broke up with my ex three years ago. The first month was great and I really felt like I'd found someone I really connecte...
A. 23 August 2015: I think if you already broke up once, and still feel there are red flags that you should end it.
Sarcasm, it's my 6th language and I'm pretty fluent in it. I try NOT use it if I sense the person I'm talking to doesn't get it. He doesn't understa... (read in full...)
I'm dating a woman who's bigger and I'm totally into her. Why do some people question my choice, my preferences and my motives?
Q. There seems to be an issue that's come up a lot in my life and I'm wondering if others have perhaps have experienced the same thing. Ever since I was a teenager I have been more attracted to females that are more full-figured. Its not that I don...
A. 23 August 2015: It's NOT OK for a "friend" to suggest you get a skinnier/fitter GF if you LOVE the woman you are with, regardless of size. If a "friend" told me something like that I would reply with YOU have issues, man. And not debate it.
And I would just be ... (read in full...)
My ex's new girlfriend has posted that she is in a relationship on facebook. How should I act?
Q. My ex's new girlfriend has posted "in relationship" with my ex on her Facebook page. She has slept around a bit and knew it would hurt me as we dislike each other intensely and usually she has her settings set to private so I wouldn't see. S...
A. 23 August 2015: I get that you want to tell her her actions were hurtful etc, but the thing is.. SHE is old enough to KNOW what she did was hurtful and she DID IT anyways. SHE doesn't care. You telling her won't "teach" her to be nicer in the future. It won't ... (read in full...)
I feel used by my lover. How do I confront this situation?
Q. When I meet up with my lover we always end up having sex, and don't get me wrong, I do enjoy it but I feel a bit used. When I book a hotel room for the night I always end up paying for it...not that I'm tight but I wish he would pay sometime...
A. 23 August 2015: for the room and always give in to sex? Yes, I do think that sounds like he is taking full advantage of your inability to tell him, your turn to pay.
Is he married by chance? If so... I can see why he would avoid spending money on you, one less... (read in full...)
Should I give him another chance? Or tell him to jog on?
Q. i'd like to see what people will say . i was supposed to go on a date from an online date , we've been speaking for 3 month . he cancelled twice ( one reason was he forgot it was his dads birthday and another his niece broke her arm and he took ...
A. 23 August 2015: I think he has had enough chances.
Being 30 minutes late (or no show) is just not OK. He isn't 15 ( I hope).
I would toss this one back and try again.
The whole I can see a future with you is bull crap - even though you have talked a lot on... (read in full...)
I really don't want to be the victim in this relationship
Q. I have three questions to ask. Is it inappropriate to do anything sexual on a first date? Can a serious relationship be determined on a first date? Can anything serious come out of a relationship which was based on the foundation of sex? I ha...
A. 23 August 2015: No, I don't mean that if you wait till marriage it's doomed. I mean relationships (WITH SEX) and the sex sucks are usually doomed.
People who wait for marriage can have great sex and they can have crappy sex and no know it..... So they may not ... (read in full...)
She's going out with someone but I still have a crush on her.
Q. There is this girl in my school, whom i've became good frineds with, and i've had feelings for her since before christmas 2014, and i've still got those feelings, and i do feel some sort of a connection with her, we share a lot of common interests, ...
A. 22 August 2015: You can't STEAL a person. They are not an object. Nor did you OWN the right to date her because you saw her first.
She sees you as a friend and thus there should be NO issue in her dating whomever she wants.
You blew it by not asking her out w... (read in full...)
My ex's new girlfriend has posted that she is in a relationship on facebook. How should I act?
Q. My ex's new girlfriend has posted "in relationship" with my ex on her Facebook page. She has slept around a bit and knew it would hurt me as we dislike each other intensely and usually she has her settings set to private so I wouldn't see. S...
A. 22 August 2015: Yep to Notsohappy's advice.
She is winning, she is living "rent free" in your mind.
WHO cares what her status is on Facebook? WHO cares whom she is dating? He is your ex, she isn't a friend, so stop wasting your time on two people who means... (read in full...)
How do I tell the guy I've been dating that I found someone else and to please stop contacting me?
Q. I have been dating a man for almost a year. About 5-6 months into this I knew this wasn't what I wanted. He was very clingy and I just did not like the behavior he showed towards me at times. I have tried several times to explain to him that alth...
A. 22 August 2015: Call your BF and tell him, I don't see us working out and I am going to block your number. I wish you well, but I want no further contact. If he tries his usual "give me a chance" debate, just tell him NO and I have to go. Then you hang up.
Next ... (read in full...)
Why would a guy break up with his girlfriend but then still be friends and call and message her?
Q. My ex and i had been together just over a year until he broke up with me 2 months ago and about three weeks after the break up I ended up getting a job in another country and moved. I had hoped in some way, that this would make moving on easier and ...
A. 22 August 2015: I agree with YouWish.
He wants to have SOMEONE to talk to, text to etc and YOU he knows, he is familiar with you. While he KNOWS you two weren't as great of a match as he had hoped he still likes you and talking to you. That way he can FEEL lik... (read in full...)
Should I be dating a man I work with?
Q. I started a new job 3 months ago and started getting close to one of the managers who also works with me. He was very forward with me and i knew that he was attracted to me. At first i wasn't too interested in him as he isn't my usual type but the ...
A. 22 August 2015: My advice in "office romance" is the standard - "don't eat where you crap" (don't date at work).
It can easily create drama, and problems at work if you do (or do not) work out. The fact that he has dated ONE co-worker already would also give me ... (read in full...)
Why would this woman I thought was my friend turn on me and befriend my daughter?
Q. I have had a friend for nearly 20 years. At least, I always thought of her as a friend. We first met when I was a struggling single parent who was attending college classes and working. We bonded immediately at a church function and would spend ...
A. 22 August 2015: I have no idea why she did what she did.
The only thing I can think off is she befriended your daughter to keep in touch and keep tabs on you.
I would sit your daughter down and explain why it upset you. But don'y tell her NOT to remain friend... (read in full...)
When he's had a few drinks he divulges far too much about our relationship to others. How do I respond to this disrespect?
Q. Hi so I've been kinda "seeing" this man for a few months now, his a lot older than me, we are both single may I add, and at first it was just a friendship thing, we enjoyed each others company I'm not looking for a relationship. Then one night to...
A. 22 August 2015: I agree with Cindy.
He is a GROWN ASS man. Bragging about whom he has sex with is pathetic and not "that is how men are"... Seriously? That is the excuse? Like men can't HELP themselves? Men can't show respect? SURE then can, but this one just don... (read in full...)
When do we feel like we're completely grown up?
Q. I am getting married soon. I have been excited up to this point, as I am with a really, really great guy. Now that it's becoming reality, I am having some strange feeling. I don't want to sound like a schmuck with low self esteem but I question ...
A. 22 August 2015: Oh, honey!
If you ever discover WHEN we are supposed to be "real" adults let me know. I'm 47 and still not there yet.
Yes, I go to meeting at the school for my kids, I go shopping, I cook, I clean, I mow the lawn in summer and shovel snow in w... (read in full...)
A brazilian wax has left a cut, should I treat it?
Q. Hey guys. I could use a bit of advice. I had my first Brazilian wax yesterday... it was okay, if painful. When I got home and looked underneath I saw some skin had been pulled off with one of the wax strips, leaving a cut about a centimetre long. ...
A. 21 August 2015: I'd get a tube of Neosporin Antibiotic Ointment and apply it twice a day. Or you can go the more organic way and get some Tea Tree Oil Cream. ( the latter soothes the itch from the cut very nicely.)
I always carry a tube of Neosporin (one in the c... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend doesn't give me the attention that my old one did
Q. I am not getting the same attention I got from my ex boyfriend as my current boyfriend. I and my ex always talked everyday till we got tired of each other. Not to seem to clingy or something, my current bf can go a day without talking to me. It's ...
A. 21 August 2015: DING DING DING
Your current BF is not your ex. He is not a carbon copy of the old one and is NOT going to be doing the EXACT same things as the ex. He is not going to LIKE the same things, wear the same things, eat the same things etc....
It's... (read in full...)
The widower I'm dating talks of his dead wife all the time
Q. Dating a widow. I have been in a relationship with a wiodow for some time now. He is sweet and kind person, and we get along well. He talks about his dead wife and their life together all the time. Yesterday I hadn't seen him for 4 days, we went ...
A. 21 August 2015: His wife was a HUGE part of his life and I would guess he still misses her terribly.
I would however bring it up, because it annoys you. I would tell him, I know you loved you wife and that she was a big part of your life, but I really wish she... (read in full...)
Should I give up my virginity as well be a FWB to a married man?
Q. I am a mid-20's non-religious virgin. There is no such thing as a romantic history for me, unless you count two short-term relationships. Both had ceased due to intimidation towards my career. STEM-related. No, I have never been in love. I r...
A. 21 August 2015: Why would you do this? Mostly to yourself? He is asking to USE you ask his "racial blow up doll" while he is away from his wife and family.
You are a fantasy to him, because he "missed the opportunity" to "collect" sex with "one of your ethnicit... (read in full...)
Am I unreasonable? He didn't reply to me and I didn't sleep all night worrying about him
Q. I've just started seeing someone but I'm heavily attached to them. I am upset because I always like to make sure he's okay and maybe I am too concerned for his welfare. Last night we went out and I made sure I texted him to see if he got home ok b...
A. 21 August 2015: I do think it's a "bit" overreaction to not sleep because he hasn't answered a text. IF you were SO overly concerned why didn't you call?
You need to learn to chill.
I'm a worrier. I worry about EVERYTHING (seriously) it's obsessive and in... (read in full...)
Should I speak up for myself or stay silent?
Q. Hi - I was on earlier about a friend in the next town who had deceived and lied to me over a man we both liked and was seeing. She is dating him now and has done some pretty mean things to me, on the sly, which I have only recently discovered ...
A. 21 August 2015: I would just ask the "mutual" friends to keep her out of the conversation in the future as you want nothing to do with her.
And I would keep silent. SHE knows what she did, you know what she did. You cut her off, no need to re-hash what she did.... (read in full...)
I really don't want to be the victim in this relationship
Q. I have three questions to ask. Is it inappropriate to do anything sexual on a first date? Can a serious relationship be determined on a first date? Can anything serious come out of a relationship which was based on the foundation of sex? I ha...
A. 21 August 2015:
Is it inappropriate to do anything sexual on a first date?
1. For some it is, for others it is not. It's absolutely up to you and your partner. And as LONG as you don't you HAVE to do sexual things. Personally though, I don't think it's smart t... (read in full...)
33 year old boyfriend is not motivated
Q. I am a 25 year old woman into my career, with my own home, a degree, and huge goals for my future. I have been dating a 33 year old guy for a few months now, and he still lives at home with his parents (who are not sick or elderly in anyway). He has ...
A. 20 August 2015: I think he is who he is. He has NEVER been motivated to move out of move up career-wise because he has two elderly parents who dotes on him and like to have him around.
Personally, I don't think you two are a great match as far as goals, dreams a... (read in full...)
Should I get breast implants because my boyfriend wants me to?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to get breast implants, and I don't know how I feel about it. I am naturally very flat chested, an A cup. I've never really liked having small breasts but as I've gotten older I've learned to accept it. My boyfriend wa...
A. 20 August 2015: In my honest opinion, no.
NEVER go under the knife and have plastic/cosmetic surgery unless YOU feel strongly about doing it.
Would he go and have implant in his penis? Or his pecks? If you wanted them bigger?
How is it HIS business how your... (read in full...)
My ex says he doesn't hate me but can't be with me
Q. My boyfriend of 6yrs broke up with me 5weeks ago. We have remained friends but he will not give me the closure talk I feel I need. I see him Sunday as we have a dog together n he came down as he moved 100miles away to his mums and in that time as ...
A. 19 August 2015: He cares, but he isn't IN love with you.
Babe doesn't really MEAN anything in the big picture. It's a nickname a term of endearment, but he might call the dog babe too... so really, don't read anything into that.
Sorry. Some times we just fi... (read in full...)
We dated for a year I treated her badly and now she ended things
Q. i am 19 from india and i am really confused!! I was dating a girl for a year and first 2 months was amazing and then later i didn't spend time with her and i was super possessive and i always use to fight with her and when her birthday was there i ...
A. 19 August 2015: It's over. That's what.
You can learn from this... When you treat a girl with such callousness and cruelty at some point they will walk away, (run, hopefully) and never look back.
If you can't treat a girl with respect, love, consideration th... (read in full...)
How do I let my son see my mother without all the animosity from the drama she causes?
Q. Ok so this is a long story which basically will take a while to read and is quite complicated so please bare with me. I'll start off with saying this about my relationship with my mother it has always been we are very close ir completely not s...
A. 19 August 2015: What does your partner (son's father ) think about all this?
I think if you WANT her around your child I would met on neutral grounds, like a playground, museum, or something you son likes and let them interact.
Personally, I wouldn't really ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend sat naked in front of guys we just met.
Q. My girlfriend and I recently went to a lakehouse with one of her friends. Her friend brought her boyfriend and 2 of his guy friends. We had only met the boyfriend for lunch once and had never met the other two. We stayed there together for 2 ...
A. 19 August 2015: Uh I'd dump her in heartbeat.
A girl doesn't do that to her boyfriend. Seem seems rather desperate for attention and that is why she went back for more.
No matter why she did it, I would NOT be OK with my partner doing this. It would be bye-bye... (read in full...)
Issues with his ex. Am I crazy?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for 10 months, and I love him with all of my heart. We've never had any serious problems. He tells me this is the best relationship he's ever had. About 2 months ago, I looked at his Instagram for the first time. I ...
A. 19 August 2015: If she had REALLY wanted to get to know you, she wouldn't have done it at a public forum such as a concert. (IMHO)
She did want to met you, but not to befriend you. I think it was more of a peace offering so you can see there is no threat from her... (read in full...)
Do I bother him too much then..? Or am I worrying again about this situation?
Q. I have a crush. We've been friends for three years.I told him about 6 weeks ago at camp were we work that I like him kinda. I'm very conflicted as he's my first crush.I was raised in a male only household so i have a knee jerk reaction to not ...
A. 19 August 2015: He didn't go back-packing to avoid you. That is pretty certain. He probably wants to enjoy his trip without having to be on his tech (phone,laptop,table) constantly. Why does he check in? He probably have parents who want to make sure they are OK.
... (read in full...)
She broke up with me because I'm leaving the country for a year to travel. Anyone else experience this?
Q. Hello guys, I have been in a relationship for 9-10 months. We get along very very well, have lots of fun, similar sense of humour, sex is amazing, similar character and from the same "stock", as they say. However, I have been planning ...
A. 18 August 2015: Not much you CAN do. Accept it. She had decide that she doesn't want to sit on her hands while you travel the World for a year, but she is at the same time cutting you off so YOU can do as YOU please that year you travel.
One of my co-worke... (read in full...)
| *oneypie's friends
These are mutual friends, so *oneypie has
added them and they have added *oneypie!
|
