Husband suddenly showing physical agression, how worried should I be?
Q. Married for 15 years, we learned to deal with each others faults and most notably his short fuse, shouting and verbal abuse. He's been seeing a shrink for years now. HE was NEVER physically abusive. And yeas, he has some great qualities too (he's ...
A. 11 August 2015: Consulting a lawyer would be a good idea.
The friend that came to visit, is she able to help you in any way get on your feet?
And I would still look for a shelter if this escalate even further, I can't imagine there is nothing out there to hel... (read in full...)
I think I'm on the untrustworthy woman from college's target list to be friends and don't want to be, so what can I do?
Q. There is a woman who lives very near to where I do and goes to the same college as me who I do not trust and don't want to be friends with but she has what I think is a 'strategy' of being absolutely charming to everyone, usually with her own goals ...
A. 10 August 2015: Maybe she senses your panic too?
She seems like a person who reads people well, most manipulators do, they just forget that not everyone LIKES to discover they are being manipulated ( like the people who will have nothing to do wit her).
... (read in full...)
What are the chances we might conceive a deaf child?
Q. Not really a relationship question but maybe someone knows the answer to my question! My boyfriend and I are trying for a baby. My boyfriend was adopted and doesn't know his birth parents. He has very little information but he does know that his ...
A. 10 August 2015: Just wanted to add this.
I'm 80% deaf in one ear, 40% in the other (or so) thought it was due to having been thrown of my horse and having two concussion in one month... Turned out.. I have othosclerosis which is caused by abnormal bone remodeli... (read in full...)
Why do women do this? why allude that we have a future and then jump ship in the middle of the ocean?
Q. I've been trying to date a friend of mine for a few months. She said she didn't want a relationship. And I never forced her hand. So for months you don't want a relationship, but you were cool with us talking all night on the phone, video chatting...
A. 10 August 2015: If she likes to play games she is not happy that you don't play along.
She knew sooner (as soon as you removed her on FB) but she is now "pretending" she had no clue as to why....
Trust me she knows.
The friend of yours who knew her... (read in full...)
I think I'm on the untrustworthy woman from college's target list to be friends and don't want to be, so what can I do?
Q. There is a woman who lives very near to where I do and goes to the same college as me who I do not trust and don't want to be friends with but she has what I think is a 'strategy' of being absolutely charming to everyone, usually with her own goals ...
A. 10 August 2015: This is a WHOLE long obsessive post about a woman you DO NOT like you and feel threatened by..
DO like so many others have done and have nothing to do with her.
You are not her shrink and there is NO point in trying to figure out why and what... (read in full...)
What are the chances we might conceive a deaf child?
Q. Not really a relationship question but maybe someone knows the answer to my question! My boyfriend and I are trying for a baby. My boyfriend was adopted and doesn't know his birth parents. He has very little information but he does know that his ...
A. 10 August 2015: Best thing to do if you want to know this with any accuracy is to have Genetic counseling done. They test both of you genes for traits that can be passed down.
http://www.genetics.ie/clinical/
This might give you more info - speaking statist... (read in full...)
How do I get her to be more attentive to my needs?
Q. So I've been with my gf for a few months now. We started to progress things sexually. But it all seems focussed around here really. I spend a lot of time getting her off with fingers / oral, and all the lead up to it to warm her up - paying ...
A. 10 August 2015: So if she IS ready for it, she is ready for a "talk". While I DO agree that sex should NEVER be tit for tat.. I think OP is right in feeling it's uneven here. Yes, girls DO take a lot more effort to get off, but that doesn't mean SHE should be the ... (read in full...)
Why do women do this? why allude that we have a future and then jump ship in the middle of the ocean?
Q. I've been trying to date a friend of mine for a few months. She said she didn't want a relationship. And I never forced her hand. So for months you don't want a relationship, but you were cool with us talking all night on the phone, video chatting...
A. 10 August 2015: Why does she care? Well, for one... you USED to give her a lot of attention and now you don't...
If she is not one for deep meaningful relationship, doesn't mean she isn't a attention monger. So was this the first time you heard from her in 5 day... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant with my FWB partner and he says abortion is the only answer
Q. I posted on here a few weeks ago about a friends-with-benefits situation I have with my ex who I'm still in love with. Well I just found out I'm pregnant- he doesn't want it. Says it irresponsible of me to even think about keeping it seeing a...
A. 10 August 2015: He feels If he had a say in this, the choice would be abortion.
I think it's VERY careless of the BOTH of you to have casual sex, and not make DARN sure there is no pregnancies happening.
ONLY you can make this choice, but you need to think on... (read in full...)
Do other women not wear panties under their dresses?
Q. My boyfriend gave me a gift card to luluelemon and said to buy something we would both enjoy. I ended up with a tennis style dress that fits perfect on me, but it is supershort. He told me it looks amazing on me but I'm a little selfconscious with ...
A. 9 August 2015: No, I think it can end up in a lot of trouble if you do this with short dresses, and I find it tacky.
Makes me think of the "Jersey Shore" girls *shudder* - I don't find it sexy, or freeing or whatever.
I think with a short dress a pair of ... (read in full...)
Do I text my brother's best friend who has a girlfriend?
Q. Dear Cupid, Oh god. So bascially my brother who is 3 years older then me has this really cute friend. A couple of months back I developed a crush on this friend and i used to think he liked me too. But then he got a girlfriend and I haven't seen him...
A. 9 August 2015: Nope, you leave him be.
Having a crush is fine, they happen. BUT ... HE has a GF.
How you feel of you had a BF and some girl started to text him because she has a crush on him? Bet you wouldn't like that... That's not cool.
So don't BE tha... (read in full...)
He didn't explain what made him angry and now he's sending me more abuse. Did I do the right thing by leaving him?
Q. Can someone please tell me if I did the right thing? I would love responses from both sexes! I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years, it was very on again, off again, mainly because of his verbal abuse. I would forgive him and go back ...
A. 9 August 2015: You know... I really LOVE the saying:
Insanity - is doing the same thing OVER and OVER expecting a different outcome. However, I think Insanity should be replaced with... Humanity.
Because IT IS very human to HOPE for things to get better. T... (read in full...)
Why do married men fancy me? And why do I respond?
Q. I am a 40 year old woman.. Separated from an alcoholic husband, no children but I work and manage on my own. I also live on my own. Of late I have a lot of interest from married men. This is the second one in 3 years and I like them as friends ...
A. 9 August 2015: I have to ask why your friend HAVE to be male? Do you not have any female friends? Because they can help and guide as much as any man can. And without the hassle of sexual undertones.
We all enjoy attention, but I think you set the bar way to l... (read in full...)
How do I get her to be more attentive to my needs?
Q. So I've been with my gf for a few months now. We started to progress things sexually. But it all seems focussed around here really. I spend a lot of time getting her off with fingers / oral, and all the lead up to it to warm her up - paying ...
A. 9 August 2015: Maybe she isn't REALLY ready for all this sexual things? But she "lets" you do her to placate you? That way she isn't really "involved" (as you mention she does nothing in return.)
I'd just pull back with the sexual stuff.
I get that you wan... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has his ex wife and kids stay with him when they are in the area. It feels like I'm the odd man out
Q. Hey everyone. Need advice. I'm in a newish relationship and all is well with us so far but... He has been divorced from his wife and they have two children both under seven. He moved to this city for A job that has been very successful so th...
A. 9 August 2015: I think on one hand it's great that he has this good relationship with the ex-wife (for the kids sake and because it lowers drama) but on the other hand...
I would NOT want to be the 3rd wheel in my OWN relationship.
I have the utmost respect f... (read in full...)
Does my ex want me to fight for her or leave her alone?
Q. After about a month of chasing after our split, I met my GF at her work recently and she mainly said forget about her. She said continued contact with her brother was ok so long as i didnt mention her name. I agreed. Her tone of voice was playful ...
A. 9 August 2015: I'd back off.
Her behavior is kind of baffling, she will take a GIFT, which DOES have some kind of part in the whole arrangement/engagement process she smiles and bat her eyelashes and then proceed to tell you she doesn't want you to contact ... (read in full...)
We had a nice date but now he's acting cold. Should I ask him out or wait?
Q. I met this guy on tinder and we went on a date 2 weeks ago, it went so well, even he admitted he had "a very good evening", we have been talking a lot since, even when I was on holiday last week we were messaging. The last 5 days or so he's been ...
A. 9 August 2015: Hmmm, I think he lost interest or... he met someone else on Tindr while you were on vacation.
Or you could TRY and ask him out, see what happens, at least that way you will know where you stand.... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to act when a male friend sends me unwanted pics of his privates?
Q. Hello Agony aunts. My first question is what do we say or do about friends that send pictures of their privates to their female friends. I remember the first time my very close friend did that to me, I severed all contact with him. I was ...
A. 9 August 2015: I have to agree a FRIEND would not send dick-pics IF you hadn't asked for one.
This is someone who doesn't really respect you, as a person or woman. He might think:" My dick is so great she MUST want a picture and then we will have some FWB sex!... (read in full...)
Husband suddenly showing physical agression, how worried should I be?
Q. Married for 15 years, we learned to deal with each others faults and most notably his short fuse, shouting and verbal abuse. He's been seeing a shrink for years now. HE was NEVER physically abusive. And yeas, he has some great qualities too (he's ...
A. 9 August 2015: I'm sorry you are stuck between a rock and a hard place, but I have to ask... is it worth it to live with this man to get citizenship?
If you have been married a while an you work you have SOME kind of legal standing. As in the process for immi... (read in full...)
65 year old submissive cross dresser. How can I encourage my wife to be more tolerant and supportive?
Q. I'm a submissive,married crossdresser, and although my wife knows of my dressing, she does not participate or encourage me in any manner. I wish she could be somewhat supportive, and I could also share my other fetishes and fantasies with her. In ...
A. 8 August 2015: When did you tell her about being a cross dresser? Was is late in the marriage? before the marriage? recently?
Because I do think it matters.
An what are your ages? How long have you been married?
She isn't supportive because she d... (read in full...)
Husband suddenly showing physical agression, how worried should I be?
Q. Married for 15 years, we learned to deal with each others faults and most notably his short fuse, shouting and verbal abuse. He's been seeing a shrink for years now. HE was NEVER physically abusive. And yeas, he has some great qualities too (he's ...
A. 8 August 2015: Do you like Stephen King?
Read Rose Madder.
Then rethink your marriage.... (read in full...)
I really like her but she treats me like crap!
Q. I will say this will be quite long. I live in a small town and I am very friendly to everyone I know and see around. That is my nature, kind and caring. Sometimes doing too much for people meaning people can take advantage. I am usually well equ...
A. 8 August 2015: You don't OWE her anything. She really doesn't OWE you anything either. She doesn't even think she did anything wrong, which means... HOW she treated you... is HOW she treats SOME people.
How do you be strong? You CUT her off.
Help yourself... (read in full...)
Husband suddenly showing physical agression, how worried should I be?
Q. Married for 15 years, we learned to deal with each others faults and most notably his short fuse, shouting and verbal abuse. He's been seeing a shrink for years now. HE was NEVER physically abusive. And yeas, he has some great qualities too (he's ...
A. 8 August 2015: No, you are not blowing this out of proportions.
I would 1. refuse to ride bikes with him any more. If he then throws a fit, you WALK away. You tell him, I want to talk but I will NOT be your punching bag. Tell him when he wants to push your lim... (read in full...)
Doubts about a girl I dated and she won't say it's over.
Q. Hello,i'm having a hard time with this girl i dated back in July.Thing went really good,we kissed and the date was a success.Here comes the tricky part though.2 days after the date she had to leave to go to her hometown for the rest of the summer to ...
A. 8 August 2015: Yep, YouWish is right - she wants to end it, but doesn't want to be the one to say it and stick to it.
Just stop texting.
Sorry.... (read in full...)
My mom is sneaking around with a man she is too ashamed to introduce us to
Q. My parents divorced nearly 3 years ago now and not long after I realised my mum was seeing someone new which turned out to be her cousin. This has been going on for a few years now but I feel like my mum is being used. She sneaks out at night and ...
A. 8 August 2015: You mom is a grown woman and has to live her life as she thinks is right, however, that doesn't mean you have to lie for her.
I would tell her that you from now on will NOT lie to your grandparents when they call and ask for her. That you KNOW who... (read in full...)
Should I stop sending money to my ungrateful niece?
Q. I have a 20 year niece in college. I send money to her for school. Most of the time, I receive no thank you or word that she received the money. I stopped sending gifts because of this. She spends time with other uncles (younger) going to ...
A. 8 August 2015: I would cut her off.
While I get YouWish's idea to TEACH her something here, she is 20 and SHOULD have learned that you say THANK you to people who help you out. It doesn't take more then 5 minutes to either shoot a text, call, mail an e-mail o... (read in full...)
Why does my friend have to act like a kid and be nasty?
Q. ok this is more of a friend relationship question. i have a slight issue with 2 friends. its like we are at school, ive known them over 20 years and they are 40 and 43 im 38 . the 40 yr old seems to bully the 43 yr old into doing everything her way ...
A. 8 August 2015: I agree, separate yourself from the drama and distance yourself from the drama-llama.
Since you share many friends in common I would not "dump" the drama-llama just slowly stop being available to her.
If you still get along with the other o... (read in full...)
I really like her but she treats me like crap!
Q. I will say this will be quite long. I live in a small town and I am very friendly to everyone I know and see around. That is my nature, kind and caring. Sometimes doing too much for people meaning people can take advantage. I am usually well equ...
A. 7 August 2015: Why not simply block her number? BE done with her? She is NOT a friend, she is not a potential date/partner.
She took advantage of you and your friendly nature for as long as it benefited HER, when you got upset that she DID use you as a "tester"... (read in full...)
We tried a new sexual position and 5 minutes after finishing boyfriend was ready again??
Q. Last night my bf and I tried a new sex position for the first time. We've been together for years so we're not a new couple, we know each other. He came, I saw it, and within 5 minutes of us finishing he was already hard from "thinking about it", he ...
A. 7 August 2015: Nope, it doesn't mean it wasn't "good enough" the first time, it means it got him so excited he wanted to do it again ASAP - now maybe a few months from now, he will only be able to do it once, then need a longer break.
If your sexlife was gett... (read in full...)
Will meeting my ex after 8 years affect my current relationship?
Q. When I was fifteen, I met an incredible guy. He helped me through a lot and understood me totally. When my family and we struggling he even helped us without being asked-and asked nothing in return. We were long distance for most of the relationship ...
A. 7 August 2015: Does this "ex" knows you are in a relationship? Does your partner know that this ex has showed up and want to meet?
Why not invite him out to dinner, but BRING your bf?
If you don't think that is a good idea and you rather met him alone, then ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend values his dog over his own daughter
Q. Hi sorry if this is long I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now we have a 9 month old daughter the problem is he spends hardly any time with her he finishes work around 4 comes to mine at 6, spends an hour at mine then he goes back to his flat ...
A. 7 August 2015: Now this seem like a familiar post.. have you posted about this before? If you have READ the previous advice given. If not... I apologize.
Why on Earth should YOU clean up after HIS dog? Why not put your foot down on that? You already have... (read in full...)
How do I decipher the confusing actions of my ex?
Q. hello.. i'm pretty confused right now. I broke up with my ex for a month now, we rarely talked on the phone, most contact we have had was via email and probably like once or twice a day.. He asked me to phone him yesterday for just a general c...
A. 7 August 2015: You and your BF lived 6 YEARS? with your parents?
Seriously? I can see living with parents at your age, if a parent is sickly and needs assistance, or they have a house so huge that you can rent half of it and live more like "renters" rather t... (read in full...)
Have my actions and behaviour been inappropriate or sufficient to bring on his jealous and possessive response?
Q. Hi all, my boyfriend finds it weird that I hang out with my male friends (I only have 3 male friends). He says he can get jealous. I don't hang out with my male friends one on one. It is always in a group of guys and girls and thus far the onl...
A. 7 August 2015: I don't think you are doing anything weird here. And I do think the sooner he meets them the sooner he will "get over" whatever is bothering him.
I have always has plenty of male friends and always made it a priority for my BF to meet them. I ... (read in full...)
Is it considered cheating if you get turned on by another person's smell?
Q. Hey I have a somewhat odd question to ask Basically I'm in a long term relationship and I adore the way my partner smells. I won't go into details but basically it really gets my motor going, and I'm pretty sure many other people must feel a simi...
A. 7 August 2015: Would I consider it cheating that someone's scent is a turn on?
Absolutely not. UNLESS... you go further then just smell, notice and move on. What scents turn you on is not entirely under your control. Same as seeing someone VERY attracti... (read in full...)
My very well off boyfriend spent time with me on birthday but didn't get me flowers, candy or a gift. He says I shouldn't complain because he spent time with me!
Q. Hello, I am dating a man for 7 months and we have been intimate and exclusive. It was my birthday; but he didn't think it important to send a card, or flowers or take me to dinner. He came over my house and spent time with me, in our intimate way...
A. 7 August 2015: Did he not know it was your birthday? I mean did he forget? Or was your "gift" to you, him showing up and having sex with you?
I think after 7 months together a little something is appropriate - flowers and a card can be done CHEAPLY if he is no... (read in full...)
My boyfriend calls me names. I want to break up with him, but how?
Q. How do i break up with my boyfriend... he and i have been together since april, we fight constantly hell call me names etc. Well ive finally started putting my foot down and he promises hell change blah blah blah. Well idk if i want to wait and see ...
A. 6 August 2015: You break up.
He knows that you are not supposed to call your GF names. Unless he was raised in a barn.
YOU have to accept that you CAN NOT change a man (well in your case a boy) and it is NOT your job to raise this one, if he has no class or ... (read in full...)
What makes a man fall in love with a woman and want only her?
Q. What makes a man fall in love with a woman and want only her?...
A. 6 August 2015: Depends on the man, doesn't it? And the woman?
There is no magic recipe.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend can't last long sexually and I'm wondering the reason why?
Q. Hi, my boyfriend seems to lack physical endurance in bed. He's in pretty good shape, plays sports and lifts weights several times a week, so it's pretty surprising to me that we can't have sex for more than 5 minutes without him feeling physically ...
A. 6 August 2015: Does he spend time on foreplay? To get YOU in the mood and ready?
And maybe, he wanks so much that he has desensitized his penis to a point where your vagina doesn't grab as rightly as a hand does, so IF he wanks a lot it might explain it. Also... (read in full...)
How can I let go when I felt so much for him?
Q. I am feeling messed up after dating this guy. We hooked up a couple of times. I started to like him. Then he told me he just split up with ex. They got back together. I was upset, but moved on. He made me realise that I do want a loving, sexual ...
A. 6 August 2015: I'm sorry you got caught up in all that drama, that had NOTHING to do with you.
He should NOT have started to see you, when he clearly had SO much unfinished business with his on/of GF.
My advice to you?
BLOCK his number, block, delete an... (read in full...)
Hot and cold? playing hard to get? Does this guy like me? Or just loves me as a friend?
Q. Hello, here is a guy at my college that i've met him in a party. He started adding me on social medias. And he also texted me alot and asked for my number 3 times until i gave it to him. He would flirt with me a lot and compliments me. He also som...
A. 6 August 2015: Eh, the guy has discovered that if he keeps pushing he can get a girls number. He likes the chase, he likes to be able to call/text LOADS of girls because it makes him feel like a stud.
IF he was seriously into you, don't you think.... he would ha... (read in full...)
He didn't invite me to the Barbeque and also acted differently.What should I do?
Q. I met a guy at work... We went on a date and hit it off. I was a little worried that his friends at work would put ideas in his head. I expressed how i felt more than once and he told me I was becoming annoying with it. I back off a little bit.. Th...
A. 6 August 2015: Leave him be, he isn't interested.
And in the future... don't use your workplace as a dating pool because WHEN things don't work out (like in this case) things can get awkward and uncomfortable.
... (read in full...)
So what do you guys think? Am I playing with fire? Can I trust that he has changed?
Q. My bf and I have been together for a year and a half and we live together. Before me, he was a real stud. He slept with almost 200 women and even today is never short of women's attention. Any gf he had before he cheated on them. He admitted all ...
A. 6 August 2015: I think going by your gut instinct is usually smart, but... I don't blame him for being a little annoyed if you bring up the possibility of him cheating "let us say every few weeks" - if he REALLY has changed it must be quite demoralizing to be semi ... (read in full...)
What should I do about this married co-worker coming on to me?
Q. Hey guys, I know this might have been posted a few times but I need your advice ASAP. I'm a 27 yr old IT guy and if I may be specific the only black guy at work so you can imagine the volume of sexual harassment I get from women. Recently I visited ...
A. 6 August 2015: Does your company have an HR department?
Did you get a company handbook?
If yes to both, check out the book first, then go to HR.
Don't accept that these women are harassing you. It's NOT part of your job-description to get hit on by various... (read in full...)
Falling in love with a girl at work, she texts that she loves me but then says she doesn't mean anything by it??
Q. I am a female an I am falling so in love with this girl I work with! Lately we have started texting an she will always say I love you an An send emojis with hearts when she hugs me I feel like I just melt I feel like it's pretty clear she feels the ...
A. 6 August 2015: First off, this is your work place. I'd honestly keep it a bit more professional if I were you.
Secondly, does SHE know you are gay? Or does she just think you are a GREAT female friend that she has bonded with?
If she doesn't know you are gay... (read in full...)
I feel unloved by my partner and don't know how to fix it
Q. I feel really unloved by my partner of six years and dont know how to fix this. Every night when we get home from work he sits on playstation and I sit downstairs alone. If i get him to spend time with me, he acts ezasperated and like hes doing me a ...
A. 6 August 2015: I think the "kissing" you did a year ago was a wake up call more for YOU than him. Yes, he tried to be a decent but NOT for you, but to avoid conflict and to avoid you leaving.
Is he depressed? Is that why he is always on the play station?... (read in full...)
Why do women do this? why allude that we have a future and then jump ship in the middle of the ocean?
Q. I've been trying to date a friend of mine for a few months. She said she didn't want a relationship. And I never forced her hand. So for months you don't want a relationship, but you were cool with us talking all night on the phone, video chatting...
A. 5 August 2015: I agree with pretty much everything Auntie Cindy said.
She was honest when she said I don't want a relationship. But she wasn't finishing that sentence. Like Cindy pointed out.. it should be "I don't want a relationship with YOU" or "I don't wa... (read in full...)
What should I do about this married co-worker coming on to me?
Q. Hey guys, I know this might have been posted a few times but I need your advice ASAP. I'm a 27 yr old IT guy and if I may be specific the only black guy at work so you can imagine the volume of sexual harassment I get from women. Recently I visited ...
A. 3 August 2015: First off, I'm sorry you have to even DEAL with this.
Secondly, I would (If I were you) tell her EVERY single time she calls you babe/love - (I wouldn't use my first name with her either, but my family name, it's less familiar) I am not babe or ... (read in full...)
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