My boyfriend is living with a female housemate, is supporting her and I also found out they were involved at one time. Any advice?
Q. I've been with my partner for almost two years and we have a fantastic relationship together apart from one issue that is causing some tension between us. We don't live together, but he lives with a female "housemate" and her son. He financially ...
A. 16 October 2015: There are 4 people in your relationship. Him, her, her son and you... the 4th wheel. You are the STRANGER at his house.
And if the child IS his, nothing will change anytime soon - and if the child is not his, but he feel THIS strongly about ta... (read in full...)
What should I do in this terribly strange work situation?
Q. I am currently doing a 12 month apprenticeship in Business Admin at a company in the city centre. The company only just started at the beginning of this year, so they are new to the industry this is why I thought having the opportunity would be a ...
A. 15 October 2015: Talk to the company who is going to assess you. And see if you can get your apprenticeship either terminated or transferred to another company.
I think the BIGGEST reason you don't like the job, is because you have nothing to do.
So if you CAN... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is living with a female housemate, is supporting her and I also found out they were involved at one time. Any advice?
Q. I've been with my partner for almost two years and we have a fantastic relationship together apart from one issue that is causing some tension between us. We don't live together, but he lives with a female "housemate" and her son. He financially ...
A. 15 October 2015: OP - is the child his?
That is the ONLY reason I can see him REALLY wanting to make sure the kid is taken care off.
I think he is gas-lighting you.... (read in full...)
Is there any way around his refusal to sign these documents? It's stopping me from travelling with her.
Q. Is there any way around getting my daughter a passport when her father is refusing to sign for it or let me borrow any of the legal documents needed. He isn't apart of her life and never has been but when she was born, he came to the hospital...
A. 14 October 2015: I found this:
https://www.gov.uk/countersigning-passport-applications
Countersigning passport applications and photos
Check when you need to get someone else to sign your application and photo, who can and can’t sign - and what they have to ... (read in full...)
Is he thinking of her?
Q. During sex my boyfriend has always made it important to look in each others eyes. Now after he has cheated when hes on me he looks up or down or above my head. I believe hes thinking of her.am I right?...
A. 14 October 2015: I would presume he is more ashamed of what he did, than thinking of her.
But he would be the only one to know the actual truth.... (read in full...)
He hurt me so much, what should I do?
Q. Hi All, I need help.. Last June, I was dumped by a guy I thought was the one. By a guy I loved truly with my whole heart. He dumped me a month before our holiday to meet his family. It was a heart wrenching time in my life. Still, due to the fa...
A. 14 October 2015: You still have a LOT of feelings for him and thus see good in him even though he has treated you with nothing short of contempt.
My guess is you had already bought and paid for the trip to go see his family? That was why you were travelli... (read in full...)
My parents are splitting up and I need help to work out the best options for celebrating Christmas and where?
Q. Hi, sorry if this seems a really petty comment.. So last December (2014) when I was in my final year of University my parents told me they were selling the house. When I asked where they were moving to, they told me separate places. That was...
A. 14 October 2015: I'd split Christmas between your mom and your dad. For me Christmas is family and your BF isn't family (yet), so while his invitation is kind and nice - he isn't really the one to invite you... his parents are and they haven't, so I'd stick with ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is living with a female housemate, is supporting her and I also found out they were involved at one time. Any advice?
Q. I've been with my partner for almost two years and we have a fantastic relationship together apart from one issue that is causing some tension between us. We don't live together, but he lives with a female "housemate" and her son. He financially ...
A. 14 October 2015: Why is HE supporting her? Is the kid his? Because she is a friend? I mean I get that you can "take in" a friend till they get back on their feet, but no matte how saintly or good friend you are... 10 years is WAY to long to "help out" a friend.
... (read in full...)
I'm heartbroken over my married man!
Q. I have been having an affair with a married coworker for two years...the feelings are strong and even though we knew it was wrong we always kept going back to each other. I found out last month from a mutual friend that his plan to adopt a baby ...
A. 14 October 2015: Funny how you justify you reasons for revenge is because you think the wife DESERVES the truth... really? So that somehow exonerate you for YOUR part in it? And all those shared friends, who do you think they will blame for her heart-ache?
Why n... (read in full...)
I thought he was the sweetest guy but.... can anyone help?
Q. I recently got engaged to the most sweetest guy ever, or so i thought. He has recently been diagnosed bipolar and stopped smoking with the help of tablets as he isn't in the greatest of health. But, last few days if I speak to him I am babb...
A. 13 October 2015: He doesn't sound very sweet to me. And I think staying with him or/and getting married is the worst thing you can do "to" yourself.
He either insults you or give you the "silent" treatment all to control you, and have you be insignificant in the r... (read in full...)
I'm heartbroken over my married man!
Q. I have been having an affair with a married coworker for two years...the feelings are strong and even though we knew it was wrong we always kept going back to each other. I found out last month from a mutual friend that his plan to adopt a baby ...
A. 13 October 2015: The only ones you will HURT by your "revenge" is the wife (who is BLAMELESS in your affair) and the potential adoptive child.
Wow, if that doesn't make you FEEL petty - it should.
Dating a married man is like cutting of a few toes to fit a sh... (read in full...)
Is there any way around his refusal to sign these documents? It's stopping me from travelling with her.
Q. Is there any way around getting my daughter a passport when her father is refusing to sign for it or let me borrow any of the legal documents needed. He isn't apart of her life and never has been but when she was born, he came to the hospital...
A. 13 October 2015: I think you need to talk to a lawyer/solicitor for this.
Sorry, I'm not much help here. Even as you being the custodial parent 100% he can throw a wrench in the wheel here, just out of spite. ... (read in full...)
Is this sexual harassment? The actions of my new boss make me feel uncomfortable.
Q. I have just started working in a new role and have found my boss's behaviour odd. He has asked me whether I am serious with boyfriend, if the relationship is flexible and can be moved around for work, how old my boyfriend is, if my boyfrien...
A. 13 October 2015: You know his behavior is not appropriate, but I think you are in the "stunned" phase right now where you don't exactly know what to do.
As for him to ask if your BF is OK with you and him (the boss) eating breakfast in bed, all you had to say was ... (read in full...)
How do I walk away from my vicious boyfriend and stop myself from communicating with him?
Q. I've asked a few questions on here lately because I'm in kind of a messed up relationship but today I know I have to walk away from it. Two years ago I was raped and my boyfriend was totally unsupportive. After he brought me home from the police ...
A. 13 October 2015: If you don't live together, first thing I'd do is change my locks (if he ever had a key), I'd then BLOCK him on the phone, Facebook etc.
You are expecting some kind of validation from him, even though you never got and never will. ACCEPT that. He... (read in full...)
Is it more romantic to be proposed to in a public or a private place?
Q. Just wondering if some ladies (or gentleman) can help me out . Do you think it's more romantic If you were proposed to in private verses a public place. I've been thinking about asking my girlfriend to marry me but I want to include her daug...
A. 13 October 2015: EDIT:
and ASKED the daughter to be HER step dad
Should be:
and ASKED the daughter IF he could be HER step dad..... (read in full...)
He goes too deep, how can I make it easier?
Q. I hope someone can help. My husband and I have hot sessions in the bed room department but my main issue is getting him to come. He prefers to be mega deep penetrating but I find it really uncomfortable. Does anyone have any advice on how to ...
A. 13 October 2015: The reason it hurts on you is probably because he is hitting your cervix. THAT is pretty painful. And like YouWish mentioned HIM going "deep" is not necessary for him to climax. If you two have sex in missionary position, I'd switch THAT up with ... (read in full...)
Is it more romantic to be proposed to in a public or a private place?
Q. Just wondering if some ladies (or gentleman) can help me out . Do you think it's more romantic If you were proposed to in private verses a public place. I've been thinking about asking my girlfriend to marry me but I want to include her daug...
A. 13 October 2015: I know a friend of ours took the woman he was going to propose to and marry's daughter out to a dinner and ASKED the daughter to be HER step dad (he had already asked her parents for consent) the daughter was 10. She was also VERY good at keeping ... (read in full...)
Should I just tell her I think I'm straight?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for a couple of months. Not long but she loves me (im a girl too) Ive only ever been with men but i really liked her when i got to know her but now im thinking that i just need to be with a man i think i...
A. 13 October 2015: Well sexuality is not something that you can "wish" and "poof" it changes. You have found out that you think you are straight, so if you keep seeing her, you ARE leading her on. But at the time you met you weren't sure. Could be that you were a ... (read in full...)
I hate my husband for throwing me a suprise party!
Q. My idiot husband threw me a suprise 50th birthday party "knowing full well" that I dispise parties of anykind. I had to lie to everyone and pretend that I was enjoying it, while secretly dispising the whole thing. It has been months and I still have ...
A. 13 October 2015: Tell him, honey I know you meant well, but IF you throw a "surprise party" for me again, I'll walk out of the party.
I get that you don't like surprise parties (I wouldn't be keen on any myself) but... look at the bright side, he didn't forget y... (read in full...)
Is it more romantic to be proposed to in a public or a private place?
Q. Just wondering if some ladies (or gentleman) can help me out . Do you think it's more romantic If you were proposed to in private verses a public place. I've been thinking about asking my girlfriend to marry me but I want to include her daug...
A. 13 October 2015: I think private is more romantic - for the simple reason that she won't feel any PRESSURE to say yes, if she isn't sure.
But it can be done in a semi public manner with family around and still be romantic.
I just don't find the "score bard prop... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps tickling me, how do I get him to stop?
Q. Sounds like a really stupid question, but here it is. How can I get my bf to stop tickling me? I really really hate it. He gets a great kick from it and how I react and squirm. And he does it practically daily. Most of the times, he will end up p...
A. 13 October 2015: OK this one is simple. TELL him BEFORE he gets started if you that if he doesn't stop you are leaving the house, so when/if he starts get up and GO. Even if it's to a friend's house or your parents. And KEEP doing it.
What is wrong with him? I m... (read in full...)
My daughter thinks my husband and I should date other people but not divorce
Q. Had a strange conversation with my daughter and need opinions. A little history: I married very young at 18 because I got pregnant. My husband at the time was 9 years older. We were in love, only had 1 daughter and we made a life together. I ne...
A. 12 October 2015: I'm sorry, but you daughter sounds a bit callous or just very jaded when it comes to relationships.
JUST because you two aren't acting or feeling like "teenagers in love" or lusting after each other 28 years later, doesn't mean there is no love,... (read in full...)
Men act like they like me but turn me down when I ask them out
Q. I keep asking guys out that act like they have feelings for me but they keep turning me down and I can't take it. What am I doing wrong?...
A. 12 October 2015: Stop asking them out. IF asking them out back fires, then stop doing it.
You say they "act" like they have feeling for you, do you sleep with them? Or do you just "think" they have feelings for you ?
If a guy seems interested but doesn't ask ... (read in full...)
I need advice! My baby daddy impregnated another woman and I don't know where to go from here
Q. My bby daddy has impregnanted another woman....i hv been away frm him for 9months and the girl is 5 months pregnant....i didnt want to forgive him bt i did even thou the other part of me is still hurt and confused....he took a leave frm work to come ...
A. 12 October 2015: He is NOT such a good man, if he hides the fact that he is with you and has a child, JUST so he can get laid.
He isn't married to you, there is no real commitment. You share a child whom YOU do 100% of the raising/parenting. He on the other ha... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't respond in kind when I say "I love you". The last 2 times he said "Pardon???"
Q. I've been seeing my boyfriend now for almost 3 months and I really love him. I've felt like I love him for sometime but suppressed telling him because it wasn't quite the right time and it didn't feel like the right time. Then last weekend we were ...
A. 12 October 2015: I fully agree with YouWish.
3 months is kind of soon to say it, but he HEARD you and ignored it. He could have said thank you, or I'm not ready to use those words instead he said... Pardon?
He probably felt a little cornered. He he is thinkin... (read in full...)
Why would he contact me in the first place, offering himself as a friend or whatever, and then never call and ignore my message?
Q. I'm totally confused and need some advice. I dated a guy a few months back. We were incredibly close. We were emotionally, physically and intellectually intimate. Long story short - he fell in love with someone else and now they're together. Living ...
A. 12 October 2015: Oh, what an asshat!
First of all YOU might have felt a closeness, but he didn't. I mean if you had this very special bond I don't think he would have fallen for someone else. I think he used you as a rebound or "in between relationships" FWB arra... (read in full...)
Is sexting ok when you are in a relationship?
Q. It was a two month relationship. I found him sexting other women and I lost it,cried the whole night etc,didn't let him sleep but the lies he told the other woman was devastating. I have learnt my lesson to leave if anything like this happens ...
A. 12 October 2015: In my book, no never. While some see it as "harmless fum" to have these sexual fantasies with other people than their partner, 10 out of 10 would not want THEIR partner to do it to them.. So why would it be OK for that person to do it?
And l... (read in full...)
Sporadic texts received. Why does he do this? Does he like me, still?
Q. I don't understand why someone would sporadically contact someone ? A while back I got close to a male friend but he hadn't finished things properly with who he was with It fractured the friendship and we didn't talk for nearly a year but th...
A. 12 October 2015: Does he realize that he was an idiot?
Hard to say. The fact is, you would presume that IF he was interested in more or trying to "fix" it he would make more of an effort? But he is not. So IF you are looking to figure this out, why not ask him ... (read in full...)
I'm new to online dating. Any tips please on what to do and look out for?
Q. Dear Cupid I have been around 5 yrs with my ex and I broke up with me since he was v manipulative, selfish and took a lot of money from me. Long story short, I'm kind of moving on and my friend suggested online dating site. I have a date on weeken...
A. 12 October 2015:
Some rules I would stick to with online/non online dating:
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1. I would not wait around for months before meeting in person. If you are both interested set up a meeting - can be a short coffee/lunch dat... (read in full...)
I had a crush on her now I get annoyed if she looks at me!
Q. Hello, First and foremost, thank you for the responses in advance. There is this girl at my gym that's been coming there for some time now. We caught each other's attention, sometimes we would just start looking at each other at the sam...
A. 11 October 2015:
She MIGHT be going to the gym for ego boosts, just like many guys do. NOT to find a partner.
You seem jealous that some other guy "hit" on her first and now you feel like she still looks at you to rub it in. You don't know her at all. So what... (read in full...)
He discredits all I do do for him. Tells his family when we argue. Yet he's pressuring for marriage? What's his problem?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year. We do not live together- about 30 mins apart. Neither of us have been married nor have children. Just wanting some advice and opinions. It really bothers me how I help him out a lot and i don't feel lik...
A. 11 October 2015: 1. STOP doing things for him. IF he can't appreciate of validate that you actually DO these nice things, then WHY do them?
2. Everyone is different. Some talk to friends about their problems, some to family. Some over-share don't over-sha... (read in full...)
Sporadic texts received. Why does he do this? Does he like me, still?
Q. I don't understand why someone would sporadically contact someone ? A while back I got close to a male friend but he hadn't finished things properly with who he was with It fractured the friendship and we didn't talk for nearly a year but th...
A. 11 October 2015: HE was checking his lines.. (as in fishing lines) Seeing if you would still bite.
If you two had some going on before he was single, he knows that you were interested in him, so while he may not have been looking for anything serious with you, he ... (read in full...)
Why did he even bother defending himself and bother setting up a time to call me if he wasn't interested?
Q. I was casually dating a guy for a few months but then he started pulling back a little and giving confusing, mixed messages. He ended up disappearing for 2 weeks before I was going on a trip, not responding to any of my messages and he didn't even ...
A. 11 October 2015: Eh he sounds like a flake - not a special SNOW flake but someone who is not dependable.
I'd delete his number or/and block it and move on.
He didn't want to admit that he IS a flake. He was just hoping you would be so "overjoyed" that... (read in full...)
He seems to have a double standard when it comes to going out
Q. I really enjoy going out socialising and really love having a dance or meeting new people. I haven't been out for a long time because my boyfriend is older than me and has said he prefers staying in on the weekend than going out to drink. He's ...
A. 10 October 2015: Plan a girl's night out. I would not stop going out with friends because I was dating. Now HE might not want to go out for a drink at the pub, doesn't mean YOU can't once in a while with a friend/friends.
You two aren't joined at the hip, so it's... (read in full...)
His substance abuse is making me think of ending the relationship
Q. I'm 21 year old female that's been in an on/off relationship with my high school sweetheart for 6 years. He loves me and he is gentle soul that had all the best intentions and I too love him. I have many issues however, with the type of Man he is. ...
A. 10 October 2015: Sorry - cat on keyboard.. his enter lol
This is who HE is right now. This partying, boozing and pot smoking guy. You might WANT him to change - but he doesn't (if he did he would already be working on it, right?)
I would NOT give him an ulti... (read in full...)
His substance abuse is making me think of ending the relationship
Q. I'm 21 year old female that's been in an on/off relationship with my high school sweetheart for 6 years. He loves me and he is gentle soul that had all the best intentions and I too love him. I have many issues however, with the type of Man he is. ...
A. 10 October 2015: You are right. You are trying to do ALL the work to make the realtionship a success, but.. for it to becomes a success HE now has to put in some work too.
YOU can not change this guy. THIS is who ... (read in full...)
Pregnant by my FWB but he doesn't believe it's his
Q. OK so I basically had a friends with benefits kind of relationship with a guy who is my best mates brother in law. It went on over 2 years and it was just once every few months we got together. When we were both single and if we met or whatever...
A. 10 October 2015: I think you should have NOT gotten pregnant with a guy whom you are not even in a relationship with. If you already had one miscarriage, I presume? that you were not using birth-control OR condoms at all? To me that makes no sense. IF HE didn't want ... (read in full...)
Why does he only text me during the weekdays? not the weekends??
Q. Wtf! okay once i'm sorry for asking so much advice but :( i need advice aunts. My ex boyfriend and I are talking again and we are not going out officially but he only texts me/calls me/video chats me on the weekdays (btw we live 6 hours away fro...
A. 10 October 2015: I think he is busy partying, catching up on school work, family and whatnot on week-ends.
If you have doubts, why not call him and ask? Or ask him when you are video-chatting with him? He IS the only one who can tell you where you two stand.
... (read in full...)
I hate hearing about how happy they are in the bedroom! What do I do to get over this hurt and jealousy?
Q. What can I do? I hate hearing about their sex lives and I'm hurt enough! How do I stop thinking about my ex and his new woman? My ex boyfriend was very sexual - sex obsessed I would say. I didn't date him for long as he wanted to move too quic...
A. 9 October 2015: Tell your friends to not bring him up and not show you pictures?
Hide his feeds if you see those on mutual friend's time line.
And why have regrets about sticking to what YOU felt was right? and that was to wait? He obviously wasn't THAT into... (read in full...)
What can I do to ensure he doesn't give up on me, when he's facing family pressure?
Q. please help.I am 20 and my fiance is 19.he still lives with his mother and she doesnt kno were still engaged.she hates me for no real reason and has been trying to force him to leave me for about 9 months now. she recently found out that I came to ...
A. 9 October 2015: I don't think there is anything you CAN do to ensure that he will keep his word.
I have to ask you, what difference do you think a year will make? His mother will still dislike you, and IF you marry him, that will not go away.
So what you i... (read in full...)
Is it wrong or illegal to pursue a relationship with a teacher at my child's school?
Q. Please can some one help me. I have fallen in love with a teacher who works at the school my children attend,and i was wondering is there a law that States a teacher cannot have a relationship with a parent? He has feelings for me too but he is sc...
A. 9 October 2015: It might come down to that individual school and their rules/laws. He should have a handbook or a guideline something that states what is expected of teachers/dating. Most schools have pretty detailed handbooks/rules about this.
Not sure in the U... (read in full...)
Did I assume too much about her? What's my next move?
Q. I came back tonight from work a bit disappointed. This is the situation. I work at a job that haves a cafe and the connection between me and one of the girls there is strong. She stumbles every time I am there and acts nervous when I apporoah her ...
A. 9 October 2015: It's not criticism, it's advice to respect a woman when she says no or no thanks.
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Did I assume too much about her? What's my next move?
Q. I came back tonight from work a bit disappointed. This is the situation. I work at a job that haves a cafe and the connection between me and one of the girls there is strong. She stumbles every time I am there and acts nervous when I apporoah her ...
A. 8 October 2015: Should you approach her again?
No. No means no. She told you no. Her saying :"she said I don't fraternize with employees" mean no I don't date co-workers. THAT includes you.
Just because YOU decided to take the risk ans tell HER doesn't mean... (read in full...)
I need advice! My baby daddy impregnated another woman and I don't know where to go from here
Q. My bby daddy has impregnanted another woman....i hv been away frm him for 9months and the girl is 5 months pregnant....i didnt want to forgive him bt i did even thou the other part of me is still hurt and confused....he took a leave frm work to come ...
A. 5 October 2015: I agree with looking to get child maintenance/child support from this guy and do it asap. You child might need it.
You call him "baby daddy" not BF, so I will presume that you are not a couple and that this guy seem to have a habit of knocking... (read in full...)
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