My Girlfriends seems to be jealous of my children. How to handle the strain this puts on our relationship?
Q. Hi everyone, I have a problem that hopefully you can help me with..... My current partner of 2 years and myself have a child who is 7 months old (the relationship moved fast). I have two more children from a previous relationship, all my chi...
A. 1 November 2015: I think your current GF is a tad immature. and not really very understanding of the whole situation. Which, well may not be entirely strange as she is ONLY 21.
There is a WASTE difference in what you can do with a 3 year old, a 9 year old and... a... (read in full...)
How do I cope with their arguing and nasty comments?
Q. I have just had a massive argument with my ex and his wife and I don't know what to do. I split up with him nearly 5 years ago and we have two children together. We share custody and after they have been to see him I pick them up from a child min...
A. 30 October 2015: Maybe you need a neutral mediator or... to use a 3rd party for pick up/drop off until they can be civil.
I would also suggest (use your solicitor for this) that you inform your ex that you will ONLY communicate with him, that his GF is no one to y... (read in full...)
He stopped replying to my texts! What should I do?
Q. Me and this guy- let's call him bone- sat next to eachother in a lesson last year in school during the school holidays he gave me his number after we had a long conversation on Instagram. We texted for shouted 4 weeks when I told my friends that I ...
A. 30 October 2015: His "best girl mate" shouldn't HAVE the right to "veto" what girl HE wants to be friends with or date... ONLY a GF has those "rights".
So I agree, if he stopped talking to you, because SHE doesn't like it... she is MORE than a "best grail mate".
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Is my girlfriend having sex with her personal trainer?
Q. Hi guys, I've been dating someone for 6 months now and generally it's been great. She has had a personal trainer (PT) for about 8 months. I was happy she had goals and wants to achieve them. I've started becoming concerned with the chat...
A. 30 October 2015: I'd cut my losses.
She might not HAVE cheated with him, yet. BUT I do think it's a matter of time before she goes further "above and beyond".
Now bringing him snacks is a nice thing to do, IF it was HER choice to do it, but he is asking her an... (read in full...)
How do I ask my lesbian friend to date me?
Q. I am a junior in high school, and I have a friend that I really, REALLY like. There's just one problem: she's lesbian. Well, from what she says, she's more bisexual, just on the women's side. I do a lot for her, just because she's my friend. I rec...
A. 30 October 2015: Honestly?
You two have known each other for 5 years, and nothing has ever happened. I DO think that is an indication that hse likes you, as a friend only. Add to it that she is bi with a preference for females. I know you are both still pretty y... (read in full...)
Slam bam thank you ma'am is all I get!
Q. Hi everyone! I've been with my boyfriend for around 5 months, we've been great, had various issues which soon got resolved. When we first got together we had sex constantly, he would always perform oral sex and we'd have an amazing time, but over ...
A. 30 October 2015: Is there something wrong with me?
Nope. You have a LAZY lover for a BF. In the beginning he made an effort to make the sex about you both, now? It seems rather one-sided. Because NOW he HAS you as his GF he can't be bothered to make sex fun for ... (read in full...)
My husband cheated and left me and now he wants to talk. What should I do?
Q. Hi, I was married for 30 years. My husband left me three years ago and went off with another woman who he met through as. He has been sober now for six months and I got the first text today from him saying he was sorry for all the hurt he caused and ...
A. 30 October 2015: It's OK that you still love him and that you always will. You don't OWE him to take him back or... even talk to him. THAT is entirely up to you.
Him being sober for 6 months is good (for him) again, not meaning you OWE him anything.
He left... (read in full...)
I have a very big problem with men who have a history of one-night stands. Am I giving myself no hope of finding love?
Q. Hi, I’m 23 and I’ve never been in a serious relationship. I hope it’s just a matter of not meeting the right person, but I’m beginning to worry that I’ll never meet anyone. Because of my family and religion, I have very strong values. I like the...
A. 30 October 2015: I think there is absolutely nothing wrong in not wanting ONS or casual sex, but an actual relationship.
YOU get to set YOUR standards. Everyone else does too, so no need to "judge" others for preferring something you don't.
I do think in this... (read in full...)
Should I go out on the date with second guy? I like them both!
Q. Hi I could use some help please, So basically I recently moved schools in the last 2 weeks and meet this guy and we've been talking he's totally in love with me and I dunno how I feel back I want to go on a date and meet up with him before I think ...
A. 29 October 2015: I have to agree. YOU do NOT have to commit to anyone, but SEEING two guys at the same time? Big no-no. And I would say the same if you were a boy.
TREAT others like you would like to be treated. Would you be OK with a guy seeing you AND another ... (read in full...)
I am the parent to my teen brother - our parents are deceased. My brother is now 14. How do I raise and discuss talking about sex and all that to him?
Q. When i was 16 i held my baby brother in my arms and said to dad "god he's small, i'm not baby sitting". Well i think i changed his nappies more times then mum used to. Honestly a few years later when i went off to university my biggest joy coming h...
A. 29 October 2015: He is 14, so my guess is... he knows a LOT more about the subject than you think. DOESN'T mean you don't NEED to have "the talk".
1. Talk about sex. SAFE sex. I suggest buying him some condoms and a couple of bananas and SHOW him how to put the ... (read in full...)
Should I stick by Him? Despite the rumours about him?
Q. Basically, there's a guy who I started recently seeing, what it is , is that we live in a small town so everyone knows each other business. Recently some rumours about him have come out such as he's been married a few times, controlling person a...
A. 29 October 2015: I agree with Denizen
Usually where there is smoke, there is fire. Which means rumors don't start for no reason. DOESN'T mean they are all true, but there is a reason rumors are flying about him.
So yes, DEFINITELY don't believe everything you h... (read in full...)
My Bf is going on a trip, with his sister, and without me. Do I have a right to be upset?
Q. my boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months now, and 5 months ago, him and I started planning a trip together. He would come down every weekend, we would look at various places to go, kept checking prices and overall, talked about it all the ...
A. 29 October 2015: Well, I'd call work and reschedule your time off.
And the money saved? Well I'd keep them in savings, it's always good to have some money put aside.
You can't really sit around and sulk because your BF decided to go with his sister over you.... (read in full...)
I feel like my Bf is pulling away. He rarely instigates sex now. Am I being needy?
Q. I feel like my boyfriend is pulling away. We've been together just over three years. Had our ups and downs. Just the past few weeks he doesn't really respond to texts and home calls. I mean we live together but he works until after 9 pm then ...
A. 29 October 2015: I'd say GO BACK on the pill asap.
If this is how he handles stress, DO NOT add a baby. Not right now. How do you see it working with a baby if he works every day till 9pm? THAT means YOU being there BY yourself with a little one. CONSTANT... (read in full...)
Why can't people just accept not everyone wants children?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 2 years and have no children because we chose not to have any- we are both very happy with our lives and children are not for us. My cousin who got married 8 months after us has just revealed she is ...
A. 29 October 2015: Because SOME people don't "like" it when other people make choices that are outside the norm.
All you really CAN do is accept that you CAN NOT change those kind of people. And not LET IT get to you. Because it's wasted anger. Some people are JUST... (read in full...)
Why is this happening now? Two years later? Now I'm plagued with dreams that remind me of his affair
Q. hi everyone. Some advice would be great. Cut a long story short my partner had an affair nearly two years ago now. We had been together for four years at the time, we both weren't happy and then I found out the reason why- he had had a six week a...
A. 29 October 2015: Honestly, I don't think what is happening is all that strange. While you two on an INTELLECTUAL level worked things through, emotionally there are still "left-overs". It's impossible to NOT have those. The broken trust, the lies, the deceit it all ... (read in full...)
Why now? Was it an excuse? Will we resume? He has said we need to take a break to focus on our children
Q. I am in love with a man, who loves me. I have 3 kids and didn't want him to get involved too closely with them so I made sure we started slowly. He has 2 children as well but from different partners (A little niggle). My question is he has sai...
A. 28 October 2015: I'd back off.
It's hard to say if his intentions was to "Have a little break" or... to dump you in a "nicer" way than saying "I'm done". I'm leaning more to the "dumped you" because when you called and asked for clarification.. he "grunted... (read in full...)
Does this sound like a marriage of convenience?
Q. Well, let's see if I can get good advice ^_^ I've known a man, he's English and living in the UK while I'm in the states, for about a year now...this September I went over and stayed with him for a month, came back to the states, and over Skype he ...
A. 28 October 2015: Does it sound like a marriage of convenience?
No, it sounds like you are about to make a HUGE mistake. OK so he is charming.... And British ( I know how many Americans have a thing for the British accent). But how WELL do you actually know him... (read in full...)
Both teachers have a crush on me, what do I do?
Q. First I want to say this is an adult's language school, so everybody is over 18. As part of my university degree I'm studying abroad at a Spanish language school. Somehow both teachers there have a crush on me, strong enough for all the students...
A. 28 October 2015: It could also be that she is inviting you out to suggest a "friendship" rather than looking to see if you two can have a relationship.
I think YOU really should back of with the whole "romancing" or trying to romance the teachers. They might fi... (read in full...)
He only texts me at night. What does it mean?
Q. A few months ago I met this boy in a different state and we hungout and talked for a while and he told our mutual friend that I was really hot and he wished I was older. He's in college and I'm a sophomore in highschool now. (I was a freshmen then) ...
A. 28 October 2015: So as a Sophomore you are 15-16, am I correct? and he is 18+
While you may not feel there is a big age difference here, you two are kind of worlds apart for now, and the fact that he called a 14/15 year old "HOT" I find cringe-worthy. I know, fo... (read in full...)
My mom is toxic! What do I do?
Q. This is a difficult problem and any help would be greatly appreciated. My mum has always been an attention seeking, malevolent narcissist. She likes to play the victim and does so at the expense of everyone around her. She has ruined her own and my ...
A. 28 October 2015: You work on moving out. Even a room-mate situation might be preferable to living with your mom. Do you have a job?
THIS is who she is. She is not going to change.
And seriously, she doesn't REALLY get away with being a "bitch", as you call it, ... (read in full...)
Should I arrive as soon as the party starts? Or should I arrive at a time that is normal for me?
Q. Hello. My boyfriend and his friends are throwing a very nice party in a couple of weeks. My boyfriend and I will be arriving separately. He with his friends and me with mine. The party starts at 10. Should I be there as soon as it starts like a...
A. 28 October 2015: If you are HOSTING the party (even if it's not in your home) showing up "fashionably late" is ridiculous because your GUESTS might come on time and you aren't there.
If it was someone else throwing the party you could do the "show up at the "nor... (read in full...)
Two years into a LDR and now I've cheated. What should I do now?
Q. Hi there this is the first time I doing this. I'm in a difficult situation right now, and I really don't know what to do. I've been in a long distant relationship for almost 2 years and I feel like things are starting to become dull between me and ...
A. 28 October 2015: LDR doesn't work unless there is a plan for being together in the same physical location at some point - some can handle LDRs with travel back and forth, others can't.
I think your LDR reached it's expiration date. You weren't getting your nee... (read in full...)
Why does my married lover remain with his wife if they've stopped sexual relations with each other?
Q. Been with my married lover for a few years now and the other night I asked him if he was sleeping with his wife? He didn't like me asking because I have kept mentioning it, anyway he said he didn't and if he was to cuddle his wife she would be ...
A. 28 October 2015: Why doesn't he leave?
Because he doesn't WANT to leave. There might be things in his marriage he is bored with or unhappy about, but he rather cheat on his wife (with you) than fix them or leave.
And claiming that they only "cuddle"? You se... (read in full...)
I am afraid I will never be my own man if I stay at this job
Q. So here I'm finished with college , single , and thinking of leaving my job. It all started after she left me (and yes i get how stupid this is) she was with me for so long I "changed" because of her and now she's gone; my parents and closest ...
A. 28 October 2015: I think it's more immaturity than loneliness, to be really frank. Or maybe there is a touch of depression going on.
You are over 18 so it's TIME to act like on. You can't rely on a GF to "make" you behave like an adult, and adult with responsi... (read in full...)
Is it possible to loose your virginity to someone without being emotionally attached?
Q. Hi, im 18 a virgin ,by choice, but i met this guy im thinking of loosing it to, but he doesn't want to be in a relationship but stills wants to have sex. on one hand im thinking to do it because i know the sex would be AMAZING so i would have a ...
A. 27 October 2015: I think he has you conned pretty good into thinking that HE can make your first time amazing! just because he is older and perhaps more experienced doesn't MEAN he is a good lover, a good teacher or even a decent guy.
I had my first time with my ... (read in full...)
Do I continue on and hope he will grow up? Or is it time to end our relationship?
Q. I feel stupid even writing this. I have been with my partner for over 5 and half years. I have a child from a previous relationship. My child is 10. I do love my partner but he is so immature. He is 32, i am 31. I feel like i behave more like...
A. 27 October 2015: He is who is he.
You can hope that he will grow up ALL you want, but if you LOOK at it realistically you ALREADY know that he isn't going to change. He isn't GOING to be the MAN you want him to be. Instead THIS is the guy you got. This immature... (read in full...)
Is there hope for us? Or, is she wanting a clean cut?
Q. Hi. I hope that my question isn't too vague. I have been in a long-distance relationship for a few years. Though I never met the girl in person, I know she's for real, as we had quite a few webcam dates, and it was magical. However, she recentl...
A. 26 October 2015: I agree with Tisha
How likely is it that you can HAVE a romantic relationship that is meaningful and real when you haven't even met in person? You have known each other a "few" years and never met. That to me is rather telling. Because meting t... (read in full...)
I'm trapped in a passionless relationship
Q. Hi Really in need of some straight forward advice! Been in a relationship with an older man (he is 14 years older) for 8 years now. We have a love for each other but it's far from what I need. We see each other once or twice a week and...
A. 26 October 2015: I agree with SVC
This isn't love, this is "we have been together for so long what if I can't find better"....
HE didn't really propose - he gave you a ring in an attempt to keep you around. But no date is set and you are still (after 8! years)... (read in full...)
Should I stop talking to her altogether and if I see her should I ask for any explanation re the bar incident?
Q. Never been in this situation before so I thought I'd ask for the insight of those perhaps more experienced than myself. So, I've been texting this girl I met met at a bar for about a month. So on the 15th we had drinks, made out, etc. So I hit ...
A. 26 October 2015: So this girl have been dating multiple guys (you included) and decided that she was moving onto the next dude without the courtesy of telling you.
It's apparently becoming quite common for people to "ghost" (that means drop contact and move on)... (read in full...)
Verbally abused and hurt and confused and now he won't take my phone calls
Q. hurt and confused,I been verbally abuse by my man sam,accused of everthing,Sam start argument and move out for two weeks,i secretly voice record him,what I heard sound like he was snorting meth or coke, when I ask him,he said he sick of this ...
A. 26 October 2015: I agree with Auntie BimBim
First of all if he is into Meth and Coke he is certainly not a prize of a man.
Second of all CHANGE your locks, stop calling him & block his number, pack up his stuff. IF you know any of his friends you can ask THEM... (read in full...)
Part of me wants to make my ex fall in love with me again
Q. It's been over 2 years since I last saw or talked to him. He wasn't my first love. We started dating when we were 16. But.. I broke up with him because of our mutual friend. She was saying that I ruined our friendship. That because of me, s...
A. 26 October 2015: You BFF was a deceptive and manipulative person and you fell for it hook, line and sinker. From what you write I think it's pretty obvious that SHE wanted to date him. She was envious of what you and your BF had. SHE wanted THAT.
So in short yo... (read in full...)
Am I being strung along?
Q. So, I'm talking to this guy who's not long been out of a long term relationship. When we first met up he said that he wasn't going to rush into anything as the breakup was still fresh and I said that was fine. We've spoken via text/phone call ...
A. 26 October 2015: I think he is going the speed he can handle right now, which is super slow and I DO think it's because he is not all the way over his last relationship. All he seems to be able to handle is texting and calling. So he WANTS a SOCIAL connection, but ... (read in full...)
Should I stop talking to her altogether and if I see her should I ask for any explanation re the bar incident?
Q. Never been in this situation before so I thought I'd ask for the insight of those perhaps more experienced than myself. So, I've been texting this girl I met met at a bar for about a month. So on the 15th we had drinks, made out, etc. So I hit ...
A. 26 October 2015: You met and made out with her on the 15th, and then didn't contact her till the 23rd? for a chance to hook up or what? Am I reading that right?
If so, maybe she has realized you might not be as serious as she was or, she thought you had lost int... (read in full...)
Which issue could derail us? Our age difference? His drinking? Or his use of drugs?
Q. Please help me. I really do not know what to do here and I am desperate for advice. My bf and I have been together for 2 yrs now. We live together. My bf is now 27. Before we got together we discussed at great length the age difference an...
A. 25 October 2015: "Which issue could derail us? Our age difference? His drinking? Or his use of drugs?"
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I'm absolutely with Auntie CindyCares - it's actually NEITHER the age difference, the drinking or the drugs, but the totally differen... (read in full...)
I'm stuck on an ex..how do I get over it and realize we are over?
Q. Hi. I have been going through this since long and I just don't know what to do about it. I dated a guy for 5 years. He was my first love, first kiss, first everything. . We were really close, made each other so happy and had an amazing connection. I ...
A. 24 October 2015: Aidan is right.
You are holding on to the hope that you can have what you "lost" with him again. And as long as you hold onto that? You will NOT move on.
And neither will rehashing the past. The reason you two fought was (most likely part imma... (read in full...)
I can't last long in bed and I know I'm disappointing my girlfriend
Q. Hey All, First time posting here and I just want to thank anyone who answers in advance! I'll start off by saying that I have the most beautiful, adorable and amazing girlfriend in the world. She's really very fun, understanding and very honest ...
A. 24 October 2015: Considering the FACT that 80% of women don NOT come from penetration alone I think your "feeling emasculated" is more based on YOUR end of the deal than hers.
Women have MOST of their nerve endings (that help produce orgasms) in their clitoris... (read in full...)
How can I find out if family members are being honest with their charity work?
Q. This is probably a silly question but my instincts tell me something is wrong with what is happening. My Aunt and cousin both collect for charity, my cousin proud in her uniform even though i cannot ever recall her being in the armed forces. Last ...
A. 24 October 2015: I would ask your cousin what unit she was in, when and for how long. They could be doing fraud, it's not hard I have read about it people scamming (specially around Christmas) using fake Salvation Army tins to collect in. I can't imagine not knowing ... (read in full...)
My lady friend couldn't accept that my wife was in my life and ended things. I miss her!
Q. Hi People I am married but separated and live alone. My wife and I continue to be friends and I spend a lot of time with her and our 2 girls. Sometimes we share vacations. We go back a long way and I cannot imagine not having her in my life. 6 y...
A. 24 October 2015: One thing is thinking "we can always be friends" another thing is living it.
I think you both have SO much unfinished business that you are not able to give a partner very much of yourself and your time - so (IMHO) it's like wanting your cake and... (read in full...)
Is feeling good about yourself is a sin? Or am I expecting too much from him?
Q. Dear Cupid I have on and off relationship with my current be of 4 years. Yesterday I changed in profile picture , which is my really fav picture and I like how I look in the picture. Earlier I used to have low self esteem issues, never really lik...
A. 24 October 2015: You are not doing anything wrong, my guess is he PREFERRED the girl with the low self-esteem over the new version of you, the one who has EMBRACED and started to LOVE herself - see the "old" you were easy to manipulate and the new you... not so ... (read in full...)
How do I get this guy to listen?
Q. More guy troubles/ rant! Let's call his guy M. M and I have been seeing each other for a while now. For a while now, I've been feeling like I'm nothing but a booty call to him. I just want to hang out with him and everytime he initiates sex. Don't ...
A. 24 October 2015: I don't think you can make a guy listen who ISN'T listening or really caring.
For him, being in a relationship means that the GF drops whatever she is doing and comes running when HE calls.
In a month, (while his phone was supposedly broke... (read in full...)
How do I tell the girl I'm dating that my female room mate is actually my ex wife?
Q. Hi, well I met this girl two times, we are going out again, , I wonder when should I let her know, I have a woman roommate, but the thing, about it is, my room mate is my ex wife, we have teenager, I have custody, we are just friends, you see she is ...
A. 24 October 2015: Yep, tell her the truth.
And IF she is OK with it and you two start to date seriously -LET her met your wife, and your wife met her. That way there can be no mistake as to why you are doing what you are doing.
I will say this though, there ar... (read in full...)
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