How can I make myself seem unavailable when she never ask when we can hangout if she never ask?
Q. Hey guys and gals, i have a question and more advice the better. They say in a dating world or relationship, don't be available all the time, this will make them want you. No one wants a man that's always there, it's not valuable. With that bein...
A. 16 November 2015: So if you after ONLY a few months are having a break, I would make up my OWN mind and make it a break up.
If she doesn't KNOW why she is pulling away, I don't think it's shyness, I think it's because she isn't into you as much as she wants to... (read in full...)
I think my English teacher is attracted to me.
Q. I think my English teacher is attracted to me. I am a 19 year old college student and he is a man in his late twenties. My boyfriend is in his class with me. I feel like this teacher either doesn't like me being with my boyfriend because a couple in ...
A. 16 November 2015: He might BE attracted to you, but splitting you up from your BF in group work is not that strange. IF he as a teacher have picked up on you two being an item - it's because you are more focused on each other than the class. It's like trying to herd ... (read in full...)
I feel like I am talking to a robot!
Q. Hi Agony Aunts and Uncles, I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 6 years. The problem is talking with him is like talking to a robot. Only I initiate conversation, and when I try to ask him questions it's like pulling teeth to get a response. ...
A. 16 November 2015: If it feels so very one-sided I'd simply STOP making an effort for a while, SEE if he picks up the slack or not.
He is not feeling like you two are having a conversation, but he is being "interrogated" or being "made" to talk when he has nothing ... (read in full...)
I feel unwanted ....
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 5.5 years, and he is embarrased by me. Whenever he has an office party, I am not invited or he makes excuses about not wanting to go after he has invited me. Its hurtful, and it keeps happening. Cam any man tell...
A. 16 November 2015: Sounds more like he doesn't want to bring you, because he is not wanting to expose you to his co-workers.
Does he end up going alone?
If so, I'd call him on it.
... (read in full...)
We spend alot of time together but never overnight. Should I be worried?
Q. Hi, I have met a great guy 13 years younger than me. We speak on the phone 2-3 times everyday, meet up 3-4 times a week. we met approx 4 months ago, have had a couple weekends away more planned and a holiday in 3 months time. we spend a lot of g...
A. 16 November 2015: Do you grit your teeth and see how it goes?
YES. You have ONLY been dating 4 months. IF he is building bridges with his daughter and using Christmas to do it, then that doesn't mean he isn't caring about you.
You have already spend a couple o... (read in full...)
Clearly three women in succssion have not felt "that way" about me. What am I doing wrong?
Q. Hello all. I am a 33 year old guy with a 10 year old daughter. Her mother and I split up nine years ago but I have been ever present in my daughters life. I see her as often as I can and I pay my way with every salary. Everything is great but for ...
A. 16 November 2015: I don't think there is ANYTHING "wrong" with you. Well, maybe... maybe it's the "type" you are going for that just doesn't work for you?
I really don't understand why people (not just women) even GO on dating sites etc. if they are NOT ready to... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to meet with him in a public place in day time?
Q. I'm 16 and he's 20 and we met online. Before you say I'm a naive stupid teenager I've thought this through oh too many times. It turns out we actually live very close (like same town close). I know he wasn't lying about where he lived because I ...
A. 16 November 2015: I think you should ask your mom and dad what they think.
You may BE a mature 16 year old, he MAY be an immature 20 year old. So you may (the two of you) be on the same maturity level, but that doesn't mean you understand his motivations for tryi... (read in full...)
Should I be bothered? Does he want a girlfriend or a house-cleaner?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year. We are both in our 30's, never married before and have no children. We live about 40 mins apart. Here is what bothers me. His house is quite dirty from having 2 large dogs(160LBS) inside that ...
A. 16 November 2015: OH HELL NO!
I'm sorry but that is just NOT acceptable at all. One thing is to surprise him with helping out... but for him to TELL you that YOU should do this because YOU find his house nasty (which, no doubt it is) is the most buffoonish entitled... (read in full...)
Should I quit school and get a second job?
Q. I am in a bit of a dilemma. I work full time and take college classes full time. My days are 'split' my classes are in the early morning - to early afternoon time, and I work a 2-10PM shift at my job. The problem is I need more money. I ...
A. 15 November 2015: I would not quit school, just yet.
Time to make a new budget. Maybe even enlist your parents in this. Perhaps they have other tips and perhaps they can help out a little here and there.
CUT everything you REALLY don't need. For us for example w... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing by putting my career before this man that I love?
Q. Is it real or is it craziness? I have dated this man off and on for many years. The first few years, we only went out a couple of times, and I didn't think he was really interested in me. But he kept in touch with me. He always told me that he ...
A. 15 November 2015: You two have been on and off for YEARS - so while he might adore you and care for you... I see nothing that shows him really making an effort, it's all put on you.
Yes, I get it - he has family there, a son so he wants to stay in the area. Fi... (read in full...)
My thoughts are that he can't be sexually satisfying because he has a small penis. What should I do? He's perfect otherwise.
Q. Hi, So this is quite difficult to write so bare with me. And please, I know this sounds shallow, but I'm not trying to be. Basically I recently ended a relationship with a guy (only 2 months) because he was a complete asshole to me. I mean r...
A. 15 November 2015: Does it make you a bad person?
Not at all. You know what you like and well, HE can't provide that.
You have every right to want a satisfying sexual life. Resentment will creep in if you are constantly left wanting more. And that will spread... (read in full...)
Why does my ex want to be friends with me and still want me in his life? He treated me very badly.
Q. My ex use to manipulate me a lot! I felt used, was treated badly and finally walked away after a terrible breakdown from the relationship. My ex tried to reach out to me many times and I ignored him. we didn't talk for 3 years. But we made up t...
A. 15 November 2015: He wants to continue to manipulate you. And you are "letting him".
Cut him off, you are getting NOTHING positive out of this. Unfriend and block him, you don't even have to explain it to him.
LET him TRULY go and focus on yourself instead... (read in full...)
How can I deal with my over-bearing selfish family?
Q. How do I deal with my overbearing selfish family? Do I cut them off or distance myself? I feel like they are being selfish and not respecting me, my husband or our decisions. I am pregnant with out first child and naturally have talked about up...
A. 15 November 2015: You don't have to cut them off, you just have to learn to say no and stick to your guns. and maybe... you need to learn a little .... diplomacy.
Honestly, if you mom drinks SHE shouldn't be watching a baby. And no matter how much she cries an... (read in full...)
My thoughts are that he can't be sexually satisfying because he has a small penis. What should I do? He's perfect otherwise.
Q. Hi, So this is quite difficult to write so bare with me. And please, I know this sounds shallow, but I'm not trying to be. Basically I recently ended a relationship with a guy (only 2 months) because he was a complete asshole to me. I mean r...
A. 15 November 2015: You do know that there are more ways to have good sex other than JUST penis in vagina, right?
IS he good with his fingers, mouth, hands?
If he isn't a good lover overall and you don't think he CAN become better, and sex is important to you... (read in full...)
I feel like I am a second choice, the back up plan. Do I stay? or go?
Q. Hello, thank you for reading this and hopefully you can give me dome advice. I think I am too close to see the truth anymore. I have been seeing my boyfriend for 5 years now. We had a very rocky start partly because of our 15 year age difference (...
A. 15 November 2015: Are you serious? He wants you to quit your job so you can act like HIS notion of a "good catholic wife" ? And when it doesn't work out, and he leaves you will be unemployed and not financially able to take care of yourself.
To me that also see... (read in full...)
His new girlfriend is making trouble for me
Q. When I broke up with my ex boyfriend in the summer, totally unintentionally I ended up having a short of fling with a guy who I had known for a while. I hadn't wanted a relationship but we went out with a group of friends and it went from there. We ...
A. 14 November 2015: Remove her from your Facebook, block her from your phone and e-mail ( let her e-mail go to trash or spam folder).
As for him, I'd say drop him 100% too. He is not a friend, I think he is actually getting a little kick out of her "possess... (read in full...)
I don't want to play games, but should I back off? Am I being too intense?
Q. Would like to ask the women a question. Met a woman a couple months ago, were in our late fifty's, been going out once a week, for a month or so. I really like her, like in falling for her, but should I stay the way I am? I treat her really good,...
A. 14 November 2015: It seems a LITTLE over the top with poems and sweet gifts. You can't buy someone's affections. So that IS coming on too strongly. If it was me experiencing a guy like that, I would be wary because I would question what ulterior motive there is ... (read in full...)
Online dating: When men say they do NOT want kids at 30, are they likely to change their mind later?
Q. Hi All Recently I decided to take the plunge into the scary world of online dating. I didn't know what I would find or if it would work for me (at present, it hasnt - mainly old men, people who are uneducated and those looking for a 'good time'). ...
A. 14 November 2015: I get it OP. And I do think you can meet a decent one online. But it might take a LOT more "wading" through a lot of not serious guys and guys who aren't a good match.
Honestly, I can imagine just how frustrating dating online is. People find it ... (read in full...)
Have I opened a Pandoras box by allowing my Bf to call me vulgar names when we have sex?
Q. I am having a big issue with my boyfriend. When we have sex he always calls me very derogatory names. I am very offended by this; but in some situations I have went with it, in the moment you know! Have I opened a Pandoras box? I never here I lov...
A. 14 November 2015: I agree with Ciar.
Tell him that you let it fly before but that it's a huge turn off.
If that doesn't work, try use some on him during sex. See if he likes it.... (read in full...)
How can I persuade my brothers to accept the fact that I may never find a partner?
Q. Problem is people seem to think i should of settled down got married and produced maybe 1 or 2 children in the process. Honestly that is just not how i feel. I have brothers and they have children and to me that is my family. I do not think get...
A. 14 November 2015: Just tell them.
"I don't see myself as a husband and father - I have "enough" kids with my nieces and nephews. It makes me happy to live my life THIS way. You are happy to live yours the way you like it."
"If I DO find someone special, you wil... (read in full...)
Should I break away from my parents and my comfort zone to move in with nice people?
Q. Hi all, thanks for reading, sorry if this turns into a long post! I just turned 25 and im in my first year of uni. It turns out its not what i expected and its really awful so im looking to change degrees but thats a different matter. Right no...
A. 14 November 2015: Stay in your comfort zone while you study. If your parents are happy to have you, and you are happy to be there with your parents I don't see a problem.
Why would you agree to move into a flat-share if you don't really want to do it? Learn to... (read in full...)
How can I make myself seem unavailable when she never ask when we can hangout if she never ask?
Q. Hey guys and gals, i have a question and more advice the better. They say in a dating world or relationship, don't be available all the time, this will make them want you. No one wants a man that's always there, it's not valuable. With that bein...
A. 14 November 2015: I agree with Denizen. FAKING not being available is playground games and not a smart move. YOU want to get to know her? THEN get to know her!! that doesn't mean play head games with her.
You could mention to her that you would really LIKE for her ... (read in full...)
Online dating: When men say they do NOT want kids at 30, are they likely to change their mind later?
Q. Hi All Recently I decided to take the plunge into the scary world of online dating. I didn't know what I would find or if it would work for me (at present, it hasnt - mainly old men, people who are uneducated and those looking for a 'good time'). ...
A. 13 November 2015: I don't think they will change their minds. I think most people after 30 have a pretty good idea whether they want the responsibility of children or not.
It may also be down to the fact that they don't WANT to date single moms as well and not ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend has changed his number
Q. My Boyfriend of 5 years just up and decided he wanted to be with someone else and live with them without telling me until months into him cheating on me. The other day i tried to call him just to get some closure and he had changed his number.. I ...
A. 13 November 2015: I have to agree with SVC
You have closure. The dude is over you two. He is a cheating bugger who thought him getting laid was more important than his partner's (you) feelings. He didn't just move out, he moved on.
LET him go. WANT more for yo... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend is starting to make it all about him and his rules how can I show him its not all one way
Q. i have been with my boyfriend a short time , he lives a 10 minute drive from me and we can both drive. he told me his dad isnt well so cancelled seeing me , previous to this i asked him how his dad was , he told me hes not at work but goes to see ...
A. 13 November 2015: I agree you are being a bit pushy and demanding. This is a guy you BARELY know. 2 dates in 5 weeks? Are you sure he is your BF ( I mean officially?) Because he is not acting like one.
Right now HIS priority is his sick dad, I don't see the prob... (read in full...)
My son is dating a girl who is pregnant with a child that isn't his. How do I talk to him about this?
Q. My 18 year old son is a senior in high school. Six month ago he started dating this girl "Ashley", just a few weeks after they started dating she found out she was pregnant (happened before she started dating my son), the father of the baby and his ...
A. 13 November 2015: I would talk to HIM (not her).
And I would tell him that you are proud that he is being a good BF. Because he is. And yes I do think he is attached to the unborn baby - it would be hard not to be. And I see nothing wrong in that, it shows a mature... (read in full...)
Forgave Family Member For Being Rude, Now He's Provoking Me Again...
Q. My uncle remarried in March. I fell out with my uncle's stepson though he is much older than me (29). He used to be pretty rude to me in private, on the other hand he was occasionally decent like helping me with my speakers etc when I didn't even ...
A. 13 November 2015: Ignore - Ignore - Ignore. He is 29 and behaving like a 5 year old. You call him out? You are just as bad as him.
And I have to say going to your uncle because this guy said something "bad" about an ex GF of your, makes you look like you don't kn... (read in full...)
I'm pale but my genitals aren't.
Q. I apologize as this is quite personal. I am a 21 year old Caucasian female. My vagina lips are very dark, almost black. My anal area is the same but not as bad. I'm not sure why this is going on or how to lighten the area, it's quite emb...
A. 13 November 2015: Yep, pretty normal.
I have read that is more common in people of Hispanic descent, but not uncommon for anyone. It is by far more common in men than women.
Some of your most sensitive skin is in the groin area and wearing synthetic fabric... (read in full...)
I think I deserve better than my current girlfriend, but I also think that she deserves better than me breaking her heart a second time. But how long is too long?
Q. I figured out what my problem is: I think I deserve better than my current girlfriend, but I also think that she deserves better than me breaking her heart a second time. Long story short, we dated in the summer. Neither of us had access to re...
A. 13 November 2015: I'm not sure how you think you deserve to be treated, but facts are that her school work IS (should be ) more important than a BF. So is your school work.
But if she treats you like you are not important to her or she really don't care, END it. ... (read in full...)
My best friend has severe low self esteem and it's ruining our relationship!
Q. My best friend has severe low self esteem and its ruining our relationship. We've been friends for years and I use to be really close to her but lately her behaviour is getting hard to deal with and is effecting my life. She has the typical beha...
A. 13 November 2015: I'm sorry, but I think you have enabled her for far too long. I would sit her down and tell her:
- "if I catch you lie about me again and make drama with my boss, WE are done. If I catch you LIE about me to other people and make drama, WE are d... (read in full...)
Should I leave him? I'm at my wit's end! Advice is welcome!
Q. I am desperately unhappy. I have been with my partner for 5 years and we have a 2 year old child. For the first two years everything was great. he has never been very good at anything domestic, ie paying bills or doing DIY, but I just accepted this ...
A. 12 November 2015: I'd ask him to move out, and not come back till he has his shit together. Seriously. The guy is in his 30's.
Now he might be depressed because he is being "useless" - as in, he doesn't have a job, you take care of everything AND bring home the... (read in full...)
Guy gives me winks the whole time. How do I make sure that he truly likes me?
Q. I've known this guy for a few months. He used to flirt a lot and stare at me and he doesn't mind staring at me even though I catch him. He also made intense and deep eye contact which makes me feel that he had locked the whole secrets i hide. ...
A. 12 November 2015: Next time he winks, ask him if he has something in his eye or if he is trying to ask you out....
See how that goes...
... (read in full...)
His ex is driving me crazy
Q. My boyfriend lives with me, and I am completely in love with him. I am looking forward to our future and possibly a marriage (They were separated when our relationship begun).But his ex wife is crazy! She makes up lies about me and tells their 4 ...
A. 12 November 2015: 1. Don't talk to her. LET HIM deal with her. 100% of the time. She calls the land-line and he isn't home, FEEL free to hang up! You don't HAVE to stand in YOUR own home and listen to her abusing you.
If she calls your cell, either block her numb... (read in full...)
How long should a break last?
Q. So my problem is that my boyfriend of 6 years ended our relationship last week. I had noticed he'd been acting a bit strange for a few days, distant and things, but didn't really think much of it until he started ignoring me. It went on all day,...
A. 12 November 2015: I would NOT be the one to contact him. And I would give him a MONTH tops - after that I would presume the relationship over and done with. And I would NOT be begging or pleading either. If someone doesn't WANT to be with me, why should I want to be ... (read in full...)
Is he taking me for a fool and lying to me? How do I trust him again when he's so angry?
Q. So 6 months ago my boyfriend really hurt me emotionally. I caught him spending our money on porn. He used to always say how much he hated porn but it's turns out he didn't. He betrayed me, lied to me and the whole experience made me feel insecure ...
A. 12 November 2015:
Well, MAYBE you need to consider that the trust can't be rebuild.
And that snooping his phone, checking up on him WILL NOT prevent him from breaking your trust again. Just because you two live together and date doesn't mean you have EVERY right ... (read in full...)
Do I leave my abusive husband? I want to but I'm also afraid
Q. My husband has been abusing me for 4 years, he even went to prison for his abuse before. I am now at the point where I have lost all my self esteem and confidence and he is really trying to break me down now very badly. I feel so weak and like I c...
A. 12 November 2015: I will give you a list of websites you can check out.
http://thisisabuse.direct.gov.uk/
http://england.shelter.org.uk/get_advice/domestic_abuse/leaving_domestic_abuse
http://www.hiddenhurt... (read in full...)
How can I ensure that losing my virginity is special, and not a one night stand, nor a joke for the guy?
Q. Guys, would you ever take a girls virginity then that's it, never speak to her again? I'm 16 and a virgin and although I sort of want to lose my virginity I'm terrified in case it's with the wrong guy. I don't want my first time to be a one nigh...
A. 12 November 2015: Don't have sex till you have been dating a good while, till you FEEL love and being loved.
Now you and he may not work out long term. There are no guarantees on that.
I was older than you (19) when I met my first BF and we dated 6 months b... (read in full...)
He cheated. What do I say now?
Q. Bombshell dropped on me tonight. This woman I don't know facebooked me and eventually came out to confess she had slept with my boyfriend. I confronted him over the phone and he admitted he 'messed up' once. That he was not feeling good or ...
A. 12 November 2015: First of all I'm sorry you are going through both betrayal and the ending of a long relationship.
Here is the thing though, YOU are not responsible for HIS actions. He made the choice to sign up for POF, to chat with this girl, and then to go ha... (read in full...)
I want to live a new lifestyle, but I'm afraid of not being accepted by my family and friends!
Q. Hello everyone! I just want to say before I bring anything up, that this was a decision in the works for a long time, and it's set in stone for me. So, I'm 16 years old, and I have made the decision that I want to become a nudist. Or naturist, if ...
A. 12 November 2015: Whether or not your friend is a lesbian I think it's irrelevant, though she might herself have heard all kind of crap for her sexual orientation, however. One thing is wanting to be a nudist - go nude people! But that only works if you GIVE the ... (read in full...)
Is this friend trying to phase me out of her life?
Q. I have a lovely dog, who lacks confidence with other dogs but he has a best friend, who he meets regularly to play with. This dog's owner has become a friend over time. She's from a different walk of life from me. My husband and I love our life as ...
A. 11 November 2015: I'd say she is NOT your friend. A friend, or even an acquaintance wouldn't treat another person like that. She is a selfish twit and I'd block & delete her number.
Second thing I would do, is take some dog training classes, if you dog is high ene... (read in full...)
Does my wife really not remember what she did with past Boyfriend?
Q. Hello All, I have been with with my wife for 15 years together for 20. A couple of years into our marriage, we got on the topic of past lovers. My wife had 1 boyfriend who she never had sex with, but they did fool around with oral and touching. Th...
A. 11 November 2015: She doesn't want to really discuss it, because it's a non-subject. And maybe because she knows there is no point to hashing the past. So WHAT if they had oral or fooled around?
Why is it important to you NOW?
Be Elsa, let it go, !
And yes... (read in full...)
How to tell my Mum by Boyfriend is Bi?
Q. There's a guy I've known for a year from Glasgow who I got introduced to at a mate's birthday party... I'd like to think we're good mates, but we do have a friends with benefits relationship... Only problem is, it was one of his mate's birthday'...
A. 11 November 2015: His sexual preference is NOT her business no matter how close you are. IF HE wants to talk to your mom about it, that is another thing. I don't think it's for YOU to share.
Being bi-sexual should be irrelevant in YOUR relationship with him. All... (read in full...)
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