I don't even know my mystery guy's name! Does he like me?
Q. Hey everyone! I just need some opinions on a situation that has been developing between me and this guy at university, sorry if this is quite long! So back in around October I was at the pub with my friends and saw this guy, who looked like maybe a ...
A. 25 January 2016: Happy Man-hunt, honey :)... (read in full...)
He loves using the internet. Am I wrong to distrust him when he wants to stay up late while I sleep?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating and living together over 3 Years, we have had a lot of problems but seem to hang on... I have troubles with trust because he is a internet addict, talks to other women in a way he should not and also has been on ...
A. 25 January 2016: Thanks for the follow up OP,
And I agree with Ciar.
This doesn't sounds like a happy healthy relationship. The fact that he got you walking on eggshells over the things HE DID wrong instead of acknowledge them, talk them over and move on - he... (read in full...)
It happened once, why cant it happen again?
Q. Hello. So every weekend, I go over to my partner's house and we do it. Recently I had my first "orgasm"-- well that's what he said happened. A bunch of stuff just gushed out and I pushed him out of me. That new feeling happened so quick it was hard ...
A. 25 January 2016: Maybe what you had was a "female ejaculation"? It's hard to say. (some call it squirting)
And as far as being able to ALMOST get there and then feel like it just stops can be over-stimulation. Like rubbing on the same spot over an over (anywher... (read in full...)
I don't even know my mystery guy's name! Does he like me?
Q. Hey everyone! I just need some opinions on a situation that has been developing between me and this guy at university, sorry if this is quite long! So back in around October I was at the pub with my friends and saw this guy, who looked like maybe a ...
A. 25 January 2016: My guess is HE will find you. Sooner rather than later. It sucks with all those teams :( do they play in different colors? (team shirts?). Or try to go the the field where you saw him run off to today.
If he remembered you after 2 months, he isn't... (read in full...)
It happened once, why cant it happen again?
Q. Hello. So every weekend, I go over to my partner's house and we do it. Recently I had my first "orgasm"-- well that's what he said happened. A bunch of stuff just gushed out and I pushed him out of me. That new feeling happened so quick it was hard ...
A. 25 January 2016: Maybe, he should try and use his hands/mouth on you and not think that his penis is a magic wand.
Most women CAN orgasm from simulation to the clitoris but 80% can't with penis in vagina. The reason is, there are VERY few nerve endings inside t... (read in full...)
I don't even know my mystery guy's name! Does he like me?
Q. Hey everyone! I just need some opinions on a situation that has been developing between me and this guy at university, sorry if this is quite long! So back in around October I was at the pub with my friends and saw this guy, who looked like maybe a ...
A. 25 January 2016: Oh I forgot... Do the football team have a website/Facebook page maybe? Or a roster?
Might be a good way to figure out his name.
... (read in full...)
I don't even know my mystery guy's name! Does he like me?
Q. Hey everyone! I just need some opinions on a situation that has been developing between me and this guy at university, sorry if this is quite long! So back in around October I was at the pub with my friends and saw this guy, who looked like maybe a ...
A. 25 January 2016: Who knows what he is really interested in, but if he is on Campus you will see him again. And next time... ASK him his name!
If he is REALLY keen on getting to know you, he will find you... or you will find him.
You know he plays football, ... (read in full...)
Why are my friends giving me the 'cold shoulder'?
Q. Is there a way to tell friends that they are not being good friends without screwing up the friendship? I have known this couple for a very long time, but in the last couple of years it feels like they have been giving me the cold shoulder: I i...
A. 25 January 2016: Some people SUCK at staying in touch, even with people they really care about.
Stress, depression or the feeling that NOTHING exciting is happening worth writing about can make a person just stop writing to a friend. They instead isolate themselv... (read in full...)
Did I cheat and how do I fix it?
Q. I've just gone through a breakup and I really need an opinion on what to or whether I actually did something wrong to deserve being broken up with. I started dating a guy about 2 months ago. We went for a couple of drinks during the first week and...
A. 25 January 2016: The kiss was NOT cheating - you could have kissed 10 guys while broken up and that would have been OK you were NOT together. But the keeping #2 around and flirting with him, JUST in case #1 didn't work out after all - IS SHADY and I'd say it as ... (read in full...)
He loves using the internet. Am I wrong to distrust him when he wants to stay up late while I sleep?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating and living together over 3 Years, we have had a lot of problems but seem to hang on... I have troubles with trust because he is a internet addict, talks to other women in a way he should not and also has been on ...
A. 25 January 2016: You staying up with him won't prevent him from doing stupid or inappropriate things online. Same goes for him going to be with you. My guess is that because of his prior actions you don't trust him at all when it comes to online activities. (not ... (read in full...)
Am I afraid of being happy? Should I nip this relationship in the bud or let it grow?
Q. Background: I haven't been in a relationship since I was in a multi-year-long tumultuous relationship in high school (my first and only). It was a physically and emotionally abusive relationship and I have avoided relationships for almost six year...
A. 25 January 2016: I don't think you can "create" or "male" chemistry. I think you either have it or you don't and from what you write it seems like you don't have it.
It might also be because you are somehow waiting for the other shoe to drop (as in for him to t... (read in full...)
Whenever we argue he gives me the silent treatment, sometimes for a week at a time!
Q. Hi I just wondered if anybody had been in the same boat and could give a little advice. I've been with my partner 4 years and have a child with him. The problem is whenever we argue he gives me the silent treatment for days, sometimes ev...
A. 25 January 2016: I would be ECSTATIC if my husband took his clothes to his mom's for washing and ironing! So that part... maybe he think he is somehow punishing you, but in reality... it's his mom he is punishing (though she seems to like being "special" enough to ... (read in full...)
Suddenly he cannot get hard. How can I help him with this?
Q. A little background on us, we've been dating since the week before thanksgiving 2015. It was fun and very exciting to build this new relationship and the sex was great! But suddenly he cannot keep hard no matter what I try. I didn't rush him aski...
A. 25 January 2016: You can't fix this for him.
I'd back off from sex for a bit. Maybe that will get him back "up" so to speak.
Maybe he is a little worried about next week, maybe he is worried about how "serious" you two are. There can be many reasons. Stress,... (read in full...)
Is this the person she will always be? She hit me
Q. My girlfriend and I were studying together in an empty classroom when she decided she was cold and wanted to do jumping jacks to warm up but said it would be too embarrassing. I said: it's not embarrassing and nobody is here but me so who cares. I...
A. 25 January 2016: She seems very needy and dramatic, and THAT is not something that is likely to change.
You were in that classroom to study not for you to giver her affections, I mean seriously? How old is she?
And while you did your "playfully" roll... (read in full...)
Is it possible being a forced virgin makes you hate committment/marriage?
Q. Can being a virgin make you never want to get married? I'm so distressed about being a virgin and turning 23 in April. I have had sexual contact in the past but never sex. I used to like the idea of holding a girlfriend and having sex a lot and th...
A. 25 January 2016: Next time you see your therapist ask him/her how to help you DROP all these absurd preconceived notions you have.
Like you have to marry to have sex and then WHEN you marry the sex stops. That women ONLY wants jerks with experience, or that wom... (read in full...)
The widower I am dating removed his daughter in law's jeans and put pajamas on her because she was drunk. Was this inappropriate?
Q. I don't know if the following question has ever been presented in this forum before. I'm starting a relationship with another widower and heard this perplexing event from him. Many of us are snowed in this weekend with members of our families not ...
A. 24 January 2016: Why did he take a picture of her? That is more weird than putting her in her PJ's !
I think he might have meant it in a harmless parental fashion - drunk "kid" needs to go to bed, so let's put her in her PJ's.. but then why just the bottoms?... (read in full...)
He didn't remember my birthday
Q. I have been talking to this guy for a few months, our birthdays are several days apart. I got him something for his birthday and he seemed to love it. He told me how grateful he was, how good it made me feel and he was going to make my day special ...
A. 24 January 2016: Why say you weren't mad about the happy birthday when that was WHAT you were mad about!?
It's not just the "principle". Yes, he should just have admitted he forgot, but that would have been JUST as hurtful, so LEARN to mean what you say and say ... (read in full...)
I feel like my wife is providing absolutely nothing to this marriage
Q. I am not happy anymore IMy wife and i have been together for almost 6years, married for 1. Ever since we moved in together a few months before our wedding everything has gone downhill. I feel like a child and she is my mother most of the tim...
A. 24 January 2016: You need to sit her down and renegotiate the chores and the "free time" hobby thing.
Set aside time for hobbies - not just hers. And be clear with it. One thing with gaming though, it's easy to get caught up and not notice how the time flies. I... (read in full...)
Why is he still keeping in touch? Even though we are no longer having sexual relations?
Q. I did a bad thing. I was in a a relationship when I met a guy through a mutual friends. We exchanged phone numbers and started texting. After going out as friends for drinks, we ended up sleeping together. After that, we have done a few more tim...
A. 24 January 2016: Does it matter?
He is using you, and YOU are using him - for sex.
If you are contend with that... good luck.
If you are not, then cot him off and find someone SINGLE or... I don't know? Focus on your own relationship?
You don... (read in full...)
Shall I allow him a second chance ? Or should I tell him how I feel about his actions?
Q. I'm new to the dating world after being married for a long time and am just trying to navigate my way…would appreciate thoughts and opinions :) I met a new man out for a blind date last night. We kept it short. Just a drink and sort of a ...
A. 23 January 2016: If you don't want to go out with him again,. then just say that? I'd stick to the "I don't really see us as a good fit" and leave it at that.
My guess is he either DIDN'T want to be there or be seen... or get caught out dating - whether by frien... (read in full...)
How can my parents call truce when around me, then restart their fighting as soon as they depart?
Q. So, I suffered a hairline ankle fracture. I called my momma. She makes the 4 hour drive down to my campus. She picks up my dad. They are divorced. I hear them arguing outside my door. But then, they stop instantly when I finally get to the door. My ...
A. 23 January 2016: I'm with Cindy!
How can they NOT stop around you!! Just know that it wasn't about you. You didn't make them argue, they just still have some obvious unresolved issues. And then let it go.
Maybe one day they will grow up and realize that the... (read in full...)
Am I right to have reservations? Or is this guy a jerk?
Q. DearCupid, maybe somebody can help me. I've been looking online for answers to this question and it seems like there are kind of two "camps". I will explain the situation. Met a guy at college and we had our first date a couple of weeks back. He s...
A. 23 January 2016: The whole bullshit that "men are more visual creatures" is one of those lines I REALLY just hate. Because:
1. it's NOT just men who are visual, and 2. being visual doesn't excuse BAD manners. And staring at EVERY single female walking by him, when... (read in full...)
My husband left me for another woman. When does the shock go away?
Q. My husband of 7 years has left me for another woman and I'm very upset and not sure how I can handle this. My husband had been acting strange the last month or so and I've been worried, but when I ask him what's wrong he would always say he's ...
A. 23 January 2016: I am sorry, that is a lot to try and digest. HE has HAD time to emotionally detach himself from you, you haven't had the same opportunity.
I'd go with a cheap online divorce and do it ASAP. Get it done so you can move on without the baggage ... (read in full...)
I finally got a call for a job but now I'm feeling like I just want to stay unemployed. Why?
Q. hi Dearcupids, my problem is not about relationships or love etc... I am an engineer I was unemployed for last 2 years. I always kept trying to get a job, I was very keen to be self-dependent. I often felt so insecure when my college mates got a ...
A. 23 January 2016: It's natural to be a little scared when starting a new venture and specially one you have waited 2 years to get!
But what you NEED to do it NOT let the fear rule you. YOU can do this! Brush up on your knowledge and hop to it.
Go for it! Re... (read in full...)
Why is he still keeping in touch? Even though we are no longer having sexual relations?
Q. I did a bad thing. I was in a a relationship when I met a guy through a mutual friends. We exchanged phone numbers and started texting. After going out as friends for drinks, we ended up sleeping together. After that, we have done a few more tim...
A. 23 January 2016: Some people like to have a "spare bedwarmer", I don't think this guy is any different.
I think he is a bit scummy to claim he felt guilyy about cheating yet, wants to keep you around and well, my guess is he doesn't feel so guilty that he has told... (read in full...)
Why do people string others along?
Q. My problem isn't romance or relationship related, but at this point the stress I'm feeling feels like a rejection. I seek advice here. Last year October I met with a mentor of mine and I expressed to her that I was looking for a job in a parti...
A. 23 January 2016: Yikes!
I makes no sense in pumping you up like that and then ignoring you, add on the time spend helping you write resume etc.
Did you keep in touch or just reached out now that it was getting close to February? Might be he felt you weren't... (read in full...)
Could the teacher have us arrested because we kissed?
Q. A teacher caught me and my friend kissing at school. It wasnt the first time we kissed, we have known each other since we were little. We started kissing early last year but we always did it at each others home in our rooms. The teacher gave us such ...
A. 23 January 2016: No, I don't think you can get arrested, BUT if it's in the CODE of CONDUCT that student DO NOT kiss on school ground, then you can get suspensions.
So IF you and your friend want to kiss, DON'T do it on school grounds.
I think she said that to... (read in full...)
Did how I act merit her emotional outburst?
Q. Hey guys. I posted on here a few days ago and got some really good responses. I'd like to maybe get a new perspective after these past few days because now I feel a bit crazy. I had a regular friends with benefits and I thought things were goin...
A. 23 January 2016: Stopping implies feelings, BUT not the ones SHE thinks or the ones she mentioned (as in YOU wanting more than occasional sex). It implies that you KNEW it wasn't the right thing to do. That people DO NOT (or should not) take advantage sexually or ... (read in full...)
Is NSA the same as FWB?
Q. Dear Cupid I'm sort of dating a person for past 2 months and today after sex he told me he wants to do NSA and he doesn't attach emotionally to anyone (which he does to protect himself) and won't commit. Though its NSA he won't be seeing anyone el...
A. 23 January 2016: NSA means no strings attached - like booty calls and planned sex sessions.
I would DEFINITELY run now, IF you are looking for a BF. This guy WAITED to after sex to "inform" you that he wasn't looking for a relationship. And he did THAT on purpose.... (read in full...)
Is my friend telling the truth? Is it possible for a man to not be able to fall in love?
Q. Before you read this, I wanted you all to know that I have no intention of doing anything with this man. I am looking to get advice from people who are kind enough to give it. I have lost guy friends due to them having feelings for me and so wh...
A. 22 January 2016: Or maybe, he KNOWS you have feelings for him and is trying to SHUT that down as he doesn't see it going anywhere good.
To me, romantic feelings don't belong in friendships.
I have and have had a LOT of male friends, growing up there were no gi... (read in full...)
Second thoughts on my long distance love
Q. My boyfriend and I have been in a LDR for 2 years now. We see each other every month or so. When I first dated him, I knew that our lifestyles and careers were quite different. I work for a well known tech' company as an operations manager. I make ...
A. 22 January 2016: Dear Lady,
I get what you mean when you say WHO cares?! UP to a point it shouldn't matter... IF HE WAS in his teens! And then you mention quite a few things (that actually DOES annoy you, so YOU DO CARE!).
He is 30! and can't even be bothered... (read in full...)
Should I break confidentiality to protect a relative?
Q. This is sort of an ethical dilemma. I volunteered at a transitional home for women most of whom were recovering drug addicts who had child service cases. One lady there, who I will call Shelly, opened up about her story and how she grew up in a ...
A. 22 January 2016: You can't tell him, because it's NOT your story or info to tell. And it's UTTERLY unethical for you to even consider telling.
I DO understand your dilemma, you want your cousin to be happy and to not be "saddled" with a person who has lied to ... (read in full...)
He can't stay hard, says I'm too wet and yet he wants a threesome???
Q. Dear Cupid I'm dating a guy for about a month, we did hit off well and he was nice and everything. Fast forward we had tried to have sex a week back, he told me I'm too wet and when he was able to do it, he couldn't hold his erection, tried ...
A. 22 January 2016: My guess is he is WAY to used to his dry "tight" fist and doesn't seem to understand that...
1. a woman has no control over the wetness that is a thing the body does when aroused and READY for sex.
2. female wetness is 100% natural.
3. i... (read in full...)
My best friend's girlfriend becomes estranged from our friendship out of jealously/self-esteem issues... how can I help?
Q. Hi - I'm in a bit of a confusing situation right now. I'm very close friends with two people - Jack and Jill - who have been together for over five years. I've known (and have worked with) Jack for nearly four years, and have known Jill for nearly ...
A. 22 January 2016: I think she feels like the 3rd wheel in HER relationship and that is never a nice feeling.
I do think you need to back off with doing things with Jack solo so much. The fact that you and him might be more similar than HER and Jack might be playi... (read in full...)
Do people change over time?
Q. I don't know how to deal with a long-time friend of mine. Is it possible that people can wear one mask for years and then when something happens just show their real face? Or does success change people? We've known each other since we were kids...
A. 22 January 2016: I think (as much as it sucks) that the close friendship you have had all those years have turned into an acquaintance instead. It does happen.
So I would treat her as such. I would not go out of my way to include her or be available unless y... (read in full...)
I keep bombing on the Statistics exams! Help?
Q. Advice please? I only need ONE class to graduate with a Bachelors, and that would be Statistics. This class is kicking my behind not because the material is hard, but the exams are timed short and I simply cannot compute that fast and so I failed ...
A. 22 January 2016: Statistics SUCK! I almost failed the first exam and ended up retaking it to get a better grade ( I barely passed the first time).
FIND a tutor. Use a timer, and go through (however many questions you got on average on the paper).
Have you guys... (read in full...)
How can a man cut feelings out of his friendships?
Q. I have lost guy friends due to them having feelings for me and so when one of my married guy friends started to get distant, I asked him if it was because he was getting feelings. He said, "I dont really have feelings. I've cut feelings out of t...
A. 21 January 2016: I think it's what is called compartmentalizing where you put different people and emotion into little boxes and some... are perfectly capable of locked those boxes up and ignoring them, others... are not.
I think what he meant is that whether ... (read in full...)
I've lost my trust in him. I love him but am not in love with him
Q. ok so I have been with this guy going on 3 years and I already had one baby with my x husband n he stepped up to the plate n he loves her so within the past going on 3 years of being with him I have had 2 kids by him n hes a great father to them all ...
A. 21 January 2016: It's called keepsakes.
(the letters and pictures).
I have a box with old love letter, cute postcards and some pictures and a couple pieces of jewelry from my first love - some 25+ years ago. There are some pictures/letters from my second BF as ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever had an experience that felt like they met their soulmate?
Q. I know that it is scientifically impossible to state that there is a such thing as destiny, but it would be the same bias to say that merely freewill exists as well. I'm wondering if anyone here has ever falling in love with a person beyond the ...
A. 21 January 2016: I'm full on with Cindy's advice.
I'm not big on the "soul mate" idea personally, I think some people are JUST a MUCH MUCH better fit than others. My first BF was a 95% "match" and so was my husband- two other guys I dated were not. That is why m... (read in full...)
Do I let my ex know I'm angry about how he ghosted on me?
Q. my ex and i were on and off for years about 3 weeks ago he ghosted on me, after months of closeness, sleeping together, weekend visits, basically acting like a couple without the title. it felt like we were really close again. until he went silent r...
A. 21 January 2016: I agree with Cindy,
No need to tell him. Unless he is an utter moron he knows, but he also don't care one fig.
You don't really NEED any kind of "closure" here. The guy used you as a bedwarmer, and when he had someone new to DATE he "forgot"... (read in full...)
Why was my ex nice after the break up and now he's ignoring me?
Q. When my ex and I broke up, we decided to remain friends. In the beginning, things were great. We were talking everyday, laughing, having fun. Then one day be became passive aggressive. When I made a joke, he called me bitchy and then later said tha...
A. 20 January 2016: I agree with SCV
A lot of people can not really B friends after a break up, but they try because it's nice for a while to have someone familiar around to talk to.
I would just send him a text letting him know that he can pick the books at you... (read in full...)
How do I handle the wedding invite of a brother I haven't spoken to in 10 years?
Q. About ten years ago, I caught my brother stealing from me(about fifty dollars) so he could take his girlfriend (now ex-girlfriend) out on a date. He was a very selfish person. At that time, we live together at my parents house. Due to my ...
A. 20 January 2016: You should (IMHO) send them a congratulation card/note and if you do not want to attend, let them know that you won't be able to make it.
Maybe, your brother have grown up a bit since the days living at your parents house and this is his attempt ... (read in full...)
My FWB partner didn't seem right so I stopped the sex but then she was angry! Didn't I do the right thing?
Q. Hey guys, I am utterly shocked at the moment and need someone to help me clarify what happened. I have been in a friends with benefits relationship with another woman (both girls) for a few months now. Things have been amazing!! Sex was intensel...
A. 20 January 2016: Give her a little space and time.
Then ask her to met up and have a talk (sober). I do agree that she might have deeper feelings for you then she let on. And that maybe you two need to DTR.
(Define the Relationship) to sort out what's really up... (read in full...)
I know girlfriend is cheating behind my back, why didn't she just let me go?
Q. I found a piece of paper with several male user names and names of certain free dating sites, on the bathroom floor, but however much she denied it - I know my girlfriends handwriting. It got the best of me and I became quite obsessive about finding ...
A. 20 January 2016: It's not that YOU are not good enough - it's that 1. she takes you for granted and 2. she doesn't CARE enough about the relationships to drop all these dating sites and 3. she wants constant attention from men, not just you.
I really think th... (read in full...)
I think my mother is with someone who is going to use her but I can't talk to her and know I am losing the relationship with my mom
Q. Dear Cupid, My father passed away a couple of years ago from dementia. My mother started having an affair with a married man when he was ill (5 years ago). He was working for my parents at the time. She is 75. The relationship has developed...
A. 19 January 2016: I would just stop trying to interfere in her person relationships. She is OLD enough to know what she is doing, and while I "get" that you want to protect her... she needs to live her life as SHE sees fit, not as YOU see fit.
If she ASKS you what... (read in full...)
My FWB partner didn't seem right so I stopped the sex but then she was angry! Didn't I do the right thing?
Q. Hey guys, I am utterly shocked at the moment and need someone to help me clarify what happened. I have been in a friends with benefits relationship with another woman (both girls) for a few months now. Things have been amazing!! Sex was intensel...
A. 19 January 2016: She was drunk. She was angry over something else, YOU just happened to be there and being the verbal punching bag. Trying to have a sane or even reasonable conversation with someone THAT drunk is not going to happen.
I think you ABSOLUTE... (read in full...)
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