Does a cheater cheat on everybody they are with and are they always cheating with multiple partners at once?
Q. Everybody always says cheaters are cheaters and will cheat on everybody they are with. Like it's gospel. So if you are with a man who has cheated on a partner in the past, it seems to be guaranteed he will do the same to you. Is this right? A...
A. 8 January 2016: I don't think there are a predetermined set of "rules" for cheaters that they ALL follow... If there were, we could all avoid ever being with a cheater easily.
I do think many people who justify cheating, think more of themselves and what THEY wan... (read in full...)
Do I let a work collegeague know that her fiance is cheating on her?
Q. I've come across something quite disturbing and need some advice please. Last weekend I was on a hen party spa weekend with my friends. We went to this beautiful hotel which also had a spa and was a 2 hour drive from our town. Whilst we were ...
A. 8 January 2016: I too would say something to her, and I'd try and be subtle - but like SVC I'm not a master at subtlety...
Like saying: "I was going over the pictures from the Hen-party I was at and I saw this guy in the background he looks just like your fia... (read in full...)
I'm crushing on my professor who I've heard sleeps with students
Q. I am a second year student at a university and am 18 years old. I took a class last year with a professor and I think he might like me, I just don't know if he wants me. He tells me I look nice, and compliments me a lot. He also hugs me and tells me ...
A. 8 January 2016: I agree with Auntie Bim
He is a dirty old man taking FULL advantage of his position as a teacher to not on "score" with young students, but to make them think it's OK or that he even care.
When I was in college we had a couple of "younger" tea... (read in full...)
I think he is selfish and only thinks of himself!
Q. I have a bf of 2 years. He asked me to help him to buy an iPhone 6 months ago with my credit card. I did and he's making the minimum payments every month since I know he had a job but was looking for another with better pay. He got the second job so ...
A. 7 January 2016: I don't think he is selfish in wanting to pay off his credit-card bills and feeling proud that he did... BUT I do think if he CAN'T afford a iPhone himself.. well then he shouldn't have gotten one. You can buy decent Galaxy for under $20 at Dollar ... (read in full...)
Was my hair an issue? Or another woman? Did he have a valid reason for not wanting to sleep with me?
Q. I had a big argument with my boyfriend just before Christmas and we ended up not seeing each other for two weeks. Whenever I'm seeing him or I'm around him a lot I make sure that I shave my pubic hair off because he doesn't like it. But because ...
A. 7 January 2016: My guess is you are NOT his only GF and he wasn't "repulsed" by your pubic hairs but by his own actions, yet it was easier to make YOU and your pubic hairs the villain.
Seriously? A guy is so disgusted by hair that he rather be on his phone th... (read in full...)
He keeps blaming me for changing, when I just grew up. I never cheated. How can our relationship be fixed?
Q. Ok, so to start off, I am 20 years old and he is 25. I have an extreme problem and I don't know what to do. When we first got together, almost 3 years ago, everything STARTED out great. As months passed, he decided he was going to start a new...
A. 7 January 2016: You have grown up a bit and he resents that.
You DO know there is no fixing this, right? He is not all of a sudden going to believe you over his family. He likes having the power of calling you a cheat when he gets mad. And maybe... because ... (read in full...)
She wants to leave me because I looked at photos of other women
Q. Hi my name is david I am in need of help Ive been with my fiance for 6 years now She has a problem with me looking at other girls And watching porn etc. I soon worked this out as around 3 months into the relationship i watched a film and sh...
A. 7 January 2016: Can you perhaps explain why you feel a NEED to download pictures of these women?
Any explanation SHE might understand?
... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't like the expensive present I got from a female co-worker. What should I do?
Q. Hi all Where I work, its mostly with women and as a result I am friendly and comfortable around women,although my wife isn't too happy about it.There's one particular girl who I work very closely with and I'll admit i get on particularly well wit...
A. 7 January 2016: I agree that aftershave can be considered a pretty personal gift over wine/chocolates.
And I would tell the girl thanks, but maybe to stick to less personal presents in the future.
Is it inconsiderate towards your wife to wear it? Well, while ... (read in full...)
Does my ex boyfriend want me back or is he just playing games?
Q. So my ex boyfriend of four years broke up with me because he believed I deserved better and he needed to get his life together. However, according to his friends I was clingy and had trust issues, which weren't fully true. He wasn't being fully ...
A. 6 January 2016: I agree with Janniepeg.
HE is not trying to win you back. He is not having as much luck as he thought he would have and thus contacts YOU for sex.
I think the fact that he told your friends lies about you and the break up was to make himself ... (read in full...)
I am a beauty pagent winner who suffers body image issues.
Q. Hi. I have been struggling with body image issues and it's ruining my dating life as well. I have this friend/crush with whom I fooled around a couple of times. We'll be meeting up again but I'm very self conscious about my body and scared he might...
A. 6 January 2016: Skip this guy. He is either careless or callous. Mentioning your bust size is hardly any if his business.
And accept that there is no such thing as a "perfect" body, or perfect person. YOU are you. Finding a way to LOVE you, for you, is where yo... (read in full...)
I am feeling like a failure at sex with big butt women!
Q. My ex and I have been on and off for quite sometime. In the beginning of our relationship she was petite, and when we would have sex she would complain that she couldn't handle me because of my size (I'm not saying that I'm the biggest in the ...
A. 6 January 2016: Does it subjectively depends on each woman?
----------
Yes, the size of the butt has no merit on what she likes and her "internal" measurements.
Though for most women getting an orgasm is less about the size or the in/out of the penis and ... (read in full...)
Is online dating for the sake of companionship unhealthy?
Q. After college I have lived in my home town for about 18 months now. It's a great place to work and I like it, but there are not a lot of young people. I've been forcing myself to go to events and branch out. I know that it will take some time, but ...
A. 6 January 2016: Tindr is know for being a hook-up site, not a "let's be friends" or "date" site. So as long as you know that you might get guy on there who are NOT looking for friendship or relationships, but casual sex - then it is what it is.
However, IF you a... (read in full...)
I'm dating a man that tells me things I don't want to hear
Q. This is going to sound.. different. Ok so I started dating a guy who was really quiet at first. Somehow, despite the silence, we fell hard in love with each other. And now that things are becoming a little more serious, and he's talking more and...
A. 5 January 2016: He sounds pretty immature and insecure to be honest.
And I'm not really sure why you waste your time with him. He was quieter in the beginning, I BET, because he KNOWS from experience that his attitude towards women is SORELY lacking.... (read in full...)
I am the one who is hurt and yet my girlfriend is making it all about her and I want her to stop!
Q. I have recently had a bad accident, where I tore my meniscus and strained my calf playing basketball. So the last 5 days I have been in the bed on heavy pain medicine. I told my sister to call my girlfriend and tell her what happened because I was ...
A. 5 January 2016: I think your GF is one of those people who can't handle deviations in her life, such as you getting hurt. Oh sure she can order flowers, buy stuff, but emotionally she is stunted. It's something she can't fix by talking or by being there. Because ... (read in full...)
I've seen the drink destroy my family and now I am dating a drunk!
Q. I have been dating a man for a little over 6 months. When we first met, he would call me on weekend trips with his friends or when he was at the bar and tell me how much he liked me, etc, but he'd be so hammered and drunk we couldn't have a coherent ...
A. 5 January 2016: I think, no matter what he can't keep a promise of never drinking again or getting absolutely hammered.
And I think, if I were you, I'd call it quits sooner rather than later. You know what this disease can do to people. Not just those who HAVE... (read in full...)
How can I deal with my stressed out brother?
Q. I would like to hear some opinions on a situation I have with my brother. We were very close growing up, having to deal with a mentally unstable father who manipulated everyone around him and dictated how everyone should behave, say, and do. My ...
A. 5 January 2016: I honestly can see both sides here - to a point.
I would NOT want a little one to be on the floor where there is puppy pee etc. Nor would I want a puppy to sniff or lick baby toys. The pee is fairly easy avoided by taking the puppy out to pee ever... (read in full...)
He says one thing but phone record says another
Q. I've been with this guy for just over 4 months now. He's very insecure due to his previous 3 year relationship. We didn't meet in good circumstances as I left my boyfriend for him. It's going really well and I love him so much. He tells me he l...
A. 5 January 2016: I'm sorry to be the one to tell you this, but your relationship sounds doomed and pretty dysfunctional.
It's ONLY been 4 months and you are invading his privacy to go through his phone and he is lying is tail off to you. WHAT is there to build on... (read in full...)
When's it over?
Q. Pretty simple question really - how do you know when a relationship is over? Its been rocky from the start, one of those cant live with each other cant like without each other relationships. I feel I give 110% all the time but get nothing in retur...
A. 5 January 2016: When is it over?
When you realize that the good doesn't outweigh the bad. That it DOES take 2 people to make it work, but only one of you are making an effort.
I will use Auntie SVC's rowboat analogy:
Imagine yourself sitting in a li... (read in full...)
My married son is going away to meet up with a woman he is attracted to. Do I tell his wife?
Q. Hello. Thank you for reading this. I am having a problem with my son and his wife and I could do with some honest advice. My son has been married for 3 years to his wife. Prior to the wedding they had dated for about 7 years. They now have tw...
A. 4 January 2016: I agree with SVC
I wouldn't tell her either, it's all on HIM. And I too would NOT watch the kids so he can go hang out with another woman, Heck, no!
I'd tell him how about you tell your wife the while deal... see how she feels about it?! And m... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to meet up with my ex's mom and tell her why we broke up?
Q. So I broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years 2 days ago.. I'm not coping very well, I miss him dearly and never meant for us break up! We lived together with his mum and were planning a child this year and on moving out.. Him and his mum are really ...
A. 4 January 2016: I'd meet up with her, why not?
JUST don't expect her to fix the relationship and remember it takes two to end a relationship, to get to the point where it breaks down.
If you feel getting it off your chest is something you need to do, and SHE w... (read in full...)
I hooked up with the girl who used my friend and broke his heart. Do I tell him?
Q. I have know this friend for 11 years and he is a very nice guy, he is the most successful friend I have, he's a high end lawyer, and because of that people tend to use him. So when he started dating this very attractive girl I instantly knew ...
A. 4 January 2016: No, don't tell him - but stop messing around with her. If she fucked your friend over... why wouldn't she do the same to you?
Block her and move on. I mean seriously why would you even entertain any kind of interjection with someone who treated ... (read in full...)
Do you think I have even the smallest chance with my long distance crush?
Q. I really suffer from a breakup...Okay, to be honest, it wasn't even a breakup. It was a rejection. My long distance crush is 21 and I’m turning 16 next month. The guy is simply awesome! I can tell you he's worth all my tears cause all my friends ...
A. 4 January 2016: I think you should look elsewhere for a friend, HE isn't one.
He thought it would be a bit of fun to talk and flirt with you and once he realized you thought he was serious he pulled away. He isn't a nice fella, not a good friend.
Don't you hav... (read in full...)
Why would your boyfriend tell you to be a "good girl" before he leaves to go out of town?
Q. Why would your boyfriend tell you to be a "good girl" before he leaves to go out of town? What's that mean? And why say it?...
A. 4 January 2016: Why not tell him in return to be a "good boy" while he is gone?
I think it's "just" a phrase, thought perhaps a little odd when it's from a grown man to his grown girlfriend and not parent to child.
Maybe he thought he was being "cute"?
... (read in full...)
My soon-to-be stepson is jealous when his father and I show affection towards one another
Q. Hi, I just recently became engaged to my boyfriend of two years. My boyfriend has a 5 year old son whom I have a great relationship with. His son has always been a little jealous of the affection his father and I show to each other, but latel...
A. 4 January 2016: I think his DAD needs to have a little chat with his son. It is unfamiliar territory for a 5 year old. He might still think his mom and dad will get back together, he might think HE can "make" them do that by preventing you two from hugging and ... (read in full...)
How can I slowly heal from this and let him go and move on. What should I do when he reels me in ?
Q. I been seeing this guy while going thru separation . He and I worked together for 3 months or so. He used to be in to me until we started sleeping together then he slowedly distancing and emailing and texting me every 3 or 4 days. Then he always ...
A. 4 January 2016: Unless you HAVE to communicate for work, why not simply block him.
Living with his parents might dampen the romance of make it a bit harder, but I think... him being FRESH out of a marriage that he LEGALLY hasn't even left is the REAL clincher... (read in full...)
How do I just "grow a pair" and approach a girl who hasn't shown any interest in me?
Q. When going out, I often have girls giving me signals of interest. Then there are some really good looking ones that seem uninterested. I would love to ask out one of the latter ones. About three times I've been told by others that after I lef...
A. 4 January 2016: How about you try not to think too far ahead?
Like, how about you start by TALKING to her, getting to know her a little?
If she turns you down or seems disinterested, don't swear it, AT LEAST you tried talking to her.
The more you practice... (read in full...)
My boyfriend left on a trip but he was not overly emotional during our "good bye" and I am wondering why?
Q. My boyfriend is leaving on a family trip to Europe tonight. He'll be gone for two weeks. He was just over at my place spending an hour with me to say good bye because that's all the time he had. He is getting ready so he can soon get to the airpo...
A. 4 January 2016: I think you are making way too much out of this.
He is going on vacation, not on a years missionary to Timbuktu with no internet or deploying with military service into the face of danger.
HE is going on vacation. Vacations are times to to rela... (read in full...)
Why is he lying about having a girlfriend?
Q. Long story short: "Why does he lie about having a girlfriend when he does not have one?" So I met this guy (lets name him X) in a game, he's pretty cool and we hit it off really well. We often talk on a group chat channel together with...
A. 3 January 2016: I too think she is fictional. He wouldn't be the first guy (or girl) to lie about having a partner. He did shoot himself in the foot with the whole "mute" thing, just proves the guy is not a great liar.
I have played several online mmo's and met ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me he loved me and the next day he moved in with another woman
Q. Need help dealing with what happened. I was dating a man for four years with the relationship never progressing or no talk of a future. Finally after 3 1/2 years he proposed but still wouldn't talk about marriage. We dated another six months s...
A. 3 January 2016: I think he was seeing her on the side - that is why he didn't want to commit in the first place.
And once he decided that her "grass" was greener he KEPT you around. When he got tired of THAT girl he went back to you and not off to another.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend dumped me after I slapped him
Q. Hi again.. I'm had a huge argument with my boyfriend of 2 years last night.. We argued over how he's getting to the airport when he goes on holiday with his friends in March. I'm upset he's going away for one and secondly I wanted to take him to t...
A. 3 January 2016: I'm with Ciar.
It's not about how sorry you feel, and not really about the arm slap - but the fact that you seem to think that what YOU want is more important than when HE wants. He was trying to be practical and just take the train but you HAD ... (read in full...)
I'm a manager and have fallen for one of our volunteers
Q. Feels weird for me to ask others for advice like this but guess I need some perspective, thanks in advance. I am a manager and work with volunteers. I have a dilemma and kind of need someone to bring me back to earth. I have strong feelings ...
A. 2 January 2016: What are the company's policy for dating/romance? I'd look into that before going on dates and declaring your feelings.
If you aren't really sure what the policy is, ASK HR. You only have to say it's a hypothetical question, no need for names or... (read in full...)
Why is he so confusing? Shall I just try to forget him?
Q. Ok, So I started talking to a guy 'C' a few weeks ago after matching on a dating site. He is 23 and I'm 20 and we live a few miles from each other. We got talking and he asked for my number. Things went really well for the first couple of...
A. 2 January 2016: He sounds like an idiot. And you have nothing to feel bad about. Asking to met up late night at a bar.. well, to me that is not how you get to KNOW a person (unless you mean carnally aka sex).
Just block him and move on.
My advice.. go slow... (read in full...)
The relationship is rocky and I don't quite know what to do
Q. I don't even know where to start... I don't know what to do anymore. Basically me and my partner of a year and a half now are on very rocky times, if you ask him he would probably tell you it's entirely my fault, but as usual only about 20% of his s...
A. 2 January 2016: Why do you keep making excuses for him ? And why stay?
I get that at SOME point he was good for you, and you were good for him, but now? It seems like the bad outweigh the good and that is not always something you can fix. Specially if he doesn't ... (read in full...)
Glad they're happy, but should I let them know how well sound carries in their house?
Q. not sure what to do .but recently baby sat for my son and daughter in law..as they may have been late home i stayed over..was nice that they went out .as ive been feeling that they not realy in love .as they never show efection or kiss around the ...
A. 2 January 2016: I agree with Ciar
Don't say anything. The FIRST time little man comes knocking at their door because he heard noises, they will either learn to be more quiet or move his room.... (read in full...)
He tends to go quiet after we're together -- will he do it again?
Q. Am I reading too much into my New Years date..? I met a guy 6 mths ago on match. There is a slight age gap he is 52, 12 yrs older. I felt there was a spark between us and we did meet up several times. He seemed interested but I got the impressi...
A. 2 January 2016: Someone who "vanishes" for months I can't imagine is interested in anything serious. Meeting up every couple of months is... well no way to build a lasting relationship.
And while the invitation for New Year might have seemed nice, I think (a... (read in full...)
Are her tantrums normal?
Q. My fiancée and I have been engaged for 8 months, and are waiting 4 more months until we make it official because her parents are paying for a huge wedding in Cancun with 200 guests (only 20 guests are mine). This big wedding has started to show ...
A. 2 January 2016: YIKES!!
I get that some brides get nerves and a bit crazy because they think having a perfect wedding means a perfect marriage. But she is beyond that!
She threw a fit in front of the cake people? If so, there is something seriously wrong ... (read in full...)
Does it take two people to be in love?
Q. Quick question, can a person be in love, but the other person not, or does it take both to be in love,if only one, is she or he, just stupid, to fall for a person, who, doesn't feel the same way, or is it the person's heart, is at fault...
A. 1 January 2016: I think it takes two.
If I loved someone ,but that person didn't love me back, I would be "wasting" my feelings on a person who isn't worthy of them.
And I think one-sided love is more of a crush or infatuation than actual love.
If you ... (read in full...)
Do other people enjoy being spanked?
Q. Is this normal ? My wife has a birthday in December and enjoys an annual thing, which is a good spanking!! This year on the night of her b'day I was in the shower and came out to her on all fours on the bed with a paddle next to her and she said ...
A. 1 January 2016: I think many does. Some have an partner who enjoy giving (or taking) some have a partner who doesn't understand it (like you) but complies.
For some people pain it PRETTY close to pleasure, sometimes it IS pleasure.
Does she do things for you t... (read in full...)
How soon is too soon for a second date?
Q. So, just a quick "how would you guys have handled the situation" question: Went on a coffee date with a girl from out of town on Monday. We met online and this was our first time meeting. Hit it off, stayed there well beyond what we were planning...
A. 1 January 2016: How soon is too soon?
I don't think there is a rule set in stone for that. I DO think EVERY date (in the beginning) needs a FEW days advance notice. The whole "hey I'm already here, wanna a join us?" seems... a little thoughtless. As you KNEW you... (read in full...)
Do you think I have even the smallest chance with my long distance crush?
Q. I really suffer from a breakup...Okay, to be honest, it wasn't even a breakup. It was a rejection. My long distance crush is 21 and I’m turning 16 next month. The guy is simply awesome! I can tell you he's worth all my tears cause all my friends ...
A. 1 January 2016: I don't want to break your heart, honey - but.. you can't MAKE people love you. And this guy, well... he doesn't love you the way you want him too, he likes you as a friend as that is it.
I think he did wrong in flirting with you in the beginnin... (read in full...)
Girls, who do I choose?
Q. Question for the girls. You have a choice to go out with one of two guys. One is gorgeous and you find him irresistable but for some reason, which we will leave to the side, he only wants passionate foreplay no penetration. The second guy is ok in ...
A. 1 January 2016: Neither :) But I have never been into casual sex. It's.. just not for me.... (read in full...)
| *oneypie's friends
These are mutual friends, so *oneypie has
added them and they have added *oneypie!
|
