I'm trampolining with my crush! What should I wear that'll impress him, but is still comfortable?
Q. Hey everyone. So, on Saturday, I'm going out with this group of people, (including my crush). And we're going trampolining...And so basically, I just wanted some help on what I should wear. I mean, I know it's not a date, but I want to look good, ...
A. 4 February 2016: Awww hope you get over it asap.
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Am I just a "hopeful idiot?"
Q. I am a 54 Year Old Man in good shape and I believe I am considered attractive. I had the good fortune to meet an amazing woman 2 and a half years ago through work. She is a waitress and she is 32 years old. I have made a point to keep in contact ...
A. 29 January 2016: Yep. I'm with WiseOwlE
Cute as her text was... the FACT is... YOU are legally a married man. And that means... WHAT do you have to offer her long term?
IF you are looking to date this woman at some point (or ANY woman) get the divorce over and... (read in full...)
I am mentally dating myself--am I crazy?
Q. Hi agony aunts, my story stems from when I was 9 years old. I had just freshly moved out of my dad's house to live with my grandmother after him and my mother separated. So I was very bored and had this second world of thought where I usually ...
A. 29 January 2016: I think it's part self defense, part escapism. The turmoil of your parents divorce made you fabricate a fairy-tale romance that you have over time elaborated on to. It's a way to keep yourself in an emotional bubble, so you don't get hurt, but you ... (read in full...)
I have feelings for her and don't want he to change
Q. Hello I have a friend that I have known since middle school, they are one of my closest friends and I have had feelings for them for a long time. The only problem is they want to have a sex change from a woman to a man. As much as I respect her I do ...
A. 29 January 2016: Yep, to Ivyblue.
YOU can't. The surgery isn't about you, or anyone else BUT him. NOT only is is a HUGE decision for him to make physically, but emotionally and socially.
Let's say you start dating him, and he holds off on doing what he feels he... (read in full...)
Am I being too fussy with guys?
Q. I am back dating. I am looking for a longterm relationship. I have a good amount of male attention as I know younger and guys my age find me attractive and Im open and honest and told a great friend. I do feel like maybe Im not getting things right ...
A. 29 January 2016: I think dating "separated/newly single guys" only adds more complications, than you might want. Someone who is separated is NOT single, yet. He might not LIVE with his wife, but in the eyes of the law (and if you are religious) in the eyes of God, ... (read in full...)
I'm trampolining with my crush! What should I wear that'll impress him, but is still comfortable?
Q. Hey everyone. So, on Saturday, I'm going out with this group of people, (including my crush). And we're going trampolining...And so basically, I just wanted some help on what I should wear. I mean, I know it's not a date, but I want to look good, ...
A. 28 January 2016: Whatever you decide to wear - do a handstand at home before leaving the house, that way you know if anything slides up/down in ways you don't want it too.... (read in full...)
Why does an extra marital affair last 3 years and still going strong?
Q. What are the reasons an extra marital affair lasts going on 3 years?? Do most of them not end sooner? And realistically how much longer can it continue? Why does a married man stay this long with another woman? Surely it isn't a lapse in j...
A. 28 January 2016: Because the OW (other woman) isn't rocking the boat? Isn't asking for more. So he GETS his CAKE (marriage/family/wife) and some illicit sex with a FAMILIAR person on the side.
Makes me wonder why YOU settle for being an OW. Why waste 3 years of... (read in full...)
He's a good guy but I don't like the way he talks to me
Q. I have been dating this guy since November, we are not official yet but have told one another that we aren't talking or interested in other people. Lately we have been fighting, fights that I may cause but its because of how he talks to me. For ...
A. 28 January 2016: If you are constantly texting him while he is a work, I understand why he gets mad at you.
HE doesn't go to work to CHAT with you, but to do a job and MAKE an income so HE can live.
I say CHILL with the texting when he is at work, if he does... (read in full...)
He's moving too fast and its turning me off. Do I just end things?
Q. Hi all, a bit of advice is required here please. I met a guy on an online dating app and we've been speaking for about a week. He told me I'm the first person he's been speaking to since his 11 year relationship broke down so I appreciate he is new ...
A. 28 January 2016: He might be rushing for a variety. Here are a few:
1. haven't dated in a long time and really don't know how.
2. wanting to fill the void.
3. wanting to show interest, to make SURE you know he isn't playing games.
4. he doesn't have much... (read in full...)
How can I stop myself from mentally dating him and getting worked up about it?
Q. Since starting her new job, my friend has been telling me that I’m well suited to one of her colleagues. Although I've never met him, she's also told me that he fancies me - based on what she’s told him about me and photos he’s seen. All this has ...
A. 28 January 2016: Pretend that he is a fictional character from a TV show and let the notion of dating him go.
The fact that she is creating ALL this drama over a guy, you have never even met is ridiculous. And I think her mentioning bad stuff about him is becau... (read in full...)
I slept with my brother's friend and hated it
Q. I recently slept with my brother's friend. I knew the guy for a couple years and had a crush on him. We get along well and share common interests like playing boardgames so we always play games together with my brother. Whenever I hang out with that ...
A. 28 January 2016: I doubt his LDR GF is OK with him sleeping around. But there you were offering up some NSA sex and he felt the chance of HER (the GF) knowing was zero.
THAT is why he ignored you afterwards. He is hoping you will take the hint, it was JUST sex... (read in full...)
If I have to ask "where is this relationship going?" the answer is probably "nowhere".
Q. I am a 54 yo female, divorced for 6 years, no children. He is a 60 yo male, divorced for 5 years, he has a 20 yo son who lives out west, another son who lives away as a college freshman and a third son who lives with him who is a HS sophomore. ...
A. 28 January 2016: I agree with Eddie and Aidan
It's going nowhere. The whole "forgetting" and "losing' your phone number constantly? it's just iffy.
Who is he REALLY hiding your number from? I don't think the sons, more likely he either already HAS a partner or... (read in full...)
Why was the sex so different between my ex and this man and which one is normal?
Q. A little while ago, I had sex with someone. I'd only ever has sex with one other person before this. My first "lover" was my ex. During the act, we did not really kiss or look at each other. Or talk much. Even when I lost my virginity to him...
A. 27 January 2016: There isn't such a thing as "normal" sex. It depends from person to person.
I think your first lover was a lazy and maybe inexperienced one, and your second one a much better and definitely more creative and relaxed lover.
Just like people enjo... (read in full...)
Am I just a "hopeful idiot?"
Q. I am a 54 Year Old Man in good shape and I believe I am considered attractive. I had the good fortune to meet an amazing woman 2 and a half years ago through work. She is a waitress and she is 32 years old. I have made a point to keep in contact ...
A. 27 January 2016: I think she likes you, but that doesn't mean she wants to date you or be with you. You really DO NOT know her.
But I think you need to slow down, Romeo.... YOU are not yet fully divorced and thus have nothing to REALLY offer her.
Some people u... (read in full...)
How can I overcome my emotions over this bad break-up? Feel sick with jealousy, anger, hurt and sadness
Q. Hi everyone. So I broke up with my ex girlfriend and ended up exploring my bisexual side. Since September 2015 I have been seeing This guy our meets were intense and we ended up having sex. I freaked out for a couple of weeks and ignored him. He ...
A. 27 January 2016: Guess HE did want a relationship, so I get why he stopped seeing you and went with the younger guy (who also wanted a relationship).
I think the the fact that you feel rejected in an way, even though he didn't reject YOU (as a person) but ... (read in full...)
What can I do in dealing with my abusive mama's boy husband?
Q. I am not getting along with my husband very well at all, it is an abusive relationship for one thing and then I have a big problem in that it is like he is married to his mother. He is at her beck and call always sending her money because his pare...
A. 27 January 2016: Is he the man you want to spend the rest of your life with? Are these things (like him worshiping his momma and spending all his money on HIS side of the family) something you will accept? If not... I'd divorce him.
Some of this I think is par... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend lie all the time?
Q. Hi, used to ask for help around here 5 or so years ago, and back again to ask for more help! I have 2 questions really, 1st one- Why does my boyfriend lie? He doesn't go out and then lie about where he's been as if he's been out with a girl and...
A. 27 January 2016: Why are you so desperate to have children with this guy?
Either he is "suffering" from Compulsive lying (yes, it's a thing)
http://addiction.lovetoknow.com/wiki/Compulsive_Lying_Disorder
Or he is pathological liar, someone who likes to mak... (read in full...)
Why do guys kiss and cuddle and then tell me they just want to be friends?
Q. Why why why.... Okay guys why would you tell a girl you like her. Cuddle with her. Kiss her or even try kissing her. Then tell her that you dont want to be more then friends this has happened to me in more then one account and im getting quite sick ...
A. 27 January 2016: Why do they do it? Because you don't set boundaries. And I think because they ARE testing your boundaries. If you are willing to cuddle, to kiss... well, maybe you are willing to do more without them having to put forth the effort of dating you.
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Is he being insensitive or really think of not wanting to meet so he plays this *game*?
Q. So Ive been in a relationship with my BF for 7 months. He likes to call me by 30+ pet names and at one point started playing a game where I should say my real name is not my name or he will count strikes and skip meeting days we meet up on. He even ...
A. 27 January 2016: Your BF is a manipulative little shit! Sorry, I have no better word for it.
He is playing games with the woman he claims to care deeply for, "punishing" you for not playing along. What kind of dipstick does that?
And of course, NOW it's ALL you... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my boyfriend's gaming female friend
Q. My bf follows a lot of cosplayers/models on social media. A lot of the time, he usually has a picture of one set as his phone or computer background, which he changes pretty regularly. This never really bothered me until now. One of the things he...
A. 27 January 2016: I do think it's a bit of overreacting, but I also see where you are coming from. I would not like it if my husband did this.
Depending on how many hours he is gaming he might actually spend more time interacting with HER than he is with you. Now... (read in full...)
I think her behaviour equals "playing games" with me. What should I do in this situation?
Q. I started talking to a girl and we hit it off straight away. We began talking as if we were together, everything got stressful, it was too much. We stopped speaking for a bit, to which she proposed we could be together in the future and whatn...
A. 27 January 2016: I think she believes she got you RIGHT where she wants you, and that is with HER in charge and you playing along.
That doesn't sound like a caring or happy relationship.
Maybe it's because she is immature, but those kind of manipulation tac... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to propose to her on St Valentine's day? She never revealed earlier why she broke up with me, previously.
Q. We went out for a year and then she broke it off. After about 4 months we started seeing each other. We have been seeing each other for the past 2 months. I am not sure why she broke it off. I am a healthy 65 she is 54. She has never been marri...
A. 27 January 2016: I think proposing is a bit premature.
Without know why she broke it off I think I would sort THAT out first.
What's the rush?... (read in full...)
My date was rude about his ex wife
Q. I have been talking to a guy online for a month. Yesterday he said his ex wife had put on a lot of weight after two children going up to a UK size 14 (12 USA) and that he struggled to find her attractive and things went downhill after that. I said ...
A. 26 January 2016: I think you are WELL within the "realm" of not wanting to see/talk to him any more.
Talking smack about an ex is rarely a good sign. Yes, there probably was some kind of bad blood there, but when it's a person who makes it ALL the ex's fault th... (read in full...)
I broke his heart because he said No to exclusivity. What causes fear of commitment?
Q. I met a wonderful man online (26) and we dated for two months. We were basically BF and GF without the title, and it was the perfect relationship. We never established or assumed exclusivity but considering all factors it’s highly unlikely he was ...
A. 26 January 2016: Maybe he just didn't like to be pushed or rushed?
I think (particularly) guys, who claim to have issues with commitment, mention it in the beginning so they HAVE a way out if they aren't feeling it. It's like creating an alibi, a preexist... (read in full...)
He lied to me..he was cheating on his wife with me. Do I tell her?
Q. Dear Cupid I was dating a guy for a month, I was not attracted to him physically but sounded a nice decent person with a great job and everything. I asked him so many times whether he is single and he said he is and he never married since he...
A. 26 January 2016: OP
Chalk it up to a mistake. I wouldn't be surprised if he has done this before and will try and do it again - whether the wife knows or not - this is ALL on him.
Don't feel bad for getting "played" or rather for being used. IT happens.
Som... (read in full...)
Tired of being Mr Nice Guy. How do I find women who will treat me as well as I treat them?
Q. Well,in the last two months, to failed relationships, so girls, would you rather be ghost, or cheated on, at least cheated on, you know why, it ended, so at fifty nine, do I change, stop being romantic, no more opening car doors, helping putting on ...
A. 26 January 2016: I don't know any woman who "loves" being treated like dirt, I REALLY don't. It's such a CLICHE, if you ask me.
Same with "good guys finish last" because I don't think that is true either. Every time I hear a guy say that he is a nice guy... I... (read in full...)
Why did my guy betray me and stop being loyal while I was busy supporting my Dad during Dad's terminal illness?
Q. I have had the worst year of my life due to my dad's terminal illness. This has took a lot out of me waiting for the outcome to happen. I had what I thought was an amazing man supporting me. I've now happened to find out that through all these ba...
A. 26 January 2016: My guess?
He felt he wasn't getting enough attention and affections from you, so he looked elsewhere. Whether he was ACTUALLY looking for a "replacement" of you or just to feel like HE was the center of someone's life, is hard to say.
NOT tha... (read in full...)
I'm very self conscious about the cold sores on my mouth and worried about what others think
Q. I've been feeling really insecure and self-conscious recently because I have these two horrible cold sores on both corners of my mouth that look disgusting and really hurt! I know this may seem like such a small thing to be moaning about when there ...
A. 26 January 2016: If anyone look down at you for that.. then that is ON THEM. It doesn't mean they are right. I'm sure they are NOT perfect either.
And again, if someone judges you for this, WHO cares! You certainly shouldn't!
You can't control what others do/t... (read in full...)
He lied to me..he was cheating on his wife with me. Do I tell her?
Q. Dear Cupid I was dating a guy for a month, I was not attracted to him physically but sounded a nice decent person with a great job and everything. I asked him so many times whether he is single and he said he is and he never married since he...
A. 26 January 2016: I would definitely not say it's YOUR fault. You didn't make this guy cheat on his wife, you didn't make him lie to your face (and probably her face too).
This is ALL on him. He is a piece of $%^&. There is no way you could have known that.
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He lied to me..he was cheating on his wife with me. Do I tell her?
Q. Dear Cupid I was dating a guy for a month, I was not attracted to him physically but sounded a nice decent person with a great job and everything. I asked him so many times whether he is single and he said he is and he never married since he...
A. 26 January 2016: I'm with Cindy.
IF there is no real proof, how do you think she would receive that info?
No texts? No call log?
How did you meet? How did you plan the dates?
As much as it sucks, I'd take this as a lesson. CHECK a guy out BEFORE sex. You ... (read in full...)
Does my independence turn him off? I'm not chasing him!
Q. Cutting long story very short, I met up with my first love last summer. We had a few dates. Its like no time had past although it has been about 14 years since I last saw him. We got on so well. Eventually we became intimate. Happened twice. ...
A. 26 January 2016: Is it my independence that turns him off?
No it's his inability to commit. Nothing YOU can fix, but I'd suggest sticking to a non-sexual relationship till he gets his stuff together.
Are you really SURE you want a man with commitment issue... (read in full...)
Boyfriend left me for my best friend. Just found out they're getting married.
Q. Sounds straight out of a movie I know. I was with my ex from 2010-2013. We were both 23 and met at a party. We hit it off right away and started dating. I personally thought we had the 'perfect relationship' we never fought, we always knew exac...
A. 26 January 2016: Wow, that is the almost ultimate betrayal from BOTH bestie and BF.
And I'm sorry it happened to you. What a couple of $#%^&#$!
You know what? In the end what may have felt really hurtful and completely out of nowhere might BE the BEST thing t... (read in full...)
I'm very self conscious about the cold sores on my mouth and worried about what others think
Q. I've been feeling really insecure and self-conscious recently because I have these two horrible cold sores on both corners of my mouth that look disgusting and really hurt! I know this may seem like such a small thing to be moaning about when there ...
A. 26 January 2016: Since you aren't entirely sure WHAT they are... go see your doctor :)
As there is no cure for cold sore there is no instant-fix BUT...
There are many things that can make life easier for you.
This has a BUNCH of natural remedies you can ... (read in full...)
I don't even know my mystery guy's name! Does he like me?
Q. Hey everyone! I just need some opinions on a situation that has been developing between me and this guy at university, sorry if this is quite long! So back in around October I was at the pub with my friends and saw this guy, who looked like maybe a ...
A. 25 January 2016: Happy Man-hunt, honey :)... (read in full...)
I've developed a crush on my former FWB but he's moved on
Q. I was having a friends with benefits relationship with a guy in my first term at university and when we went home for Christmas we were texting all holidays saying that we couldn't wait to get back and carry it on. It was over the holidays i realis...
A. 25 January 2016: Let him go. He wasn't and ins't a friend. He is a former F-buddy who DID move on.
So he DID want a relationship, just NOT with you. With you it was mainly sex. Such things happen.
I agree with Aunt honesty - I think you are filling yourself... (read in full...)
He loves using the internet. Am I wrong to distrust him when he wants to stay up late while I sleep?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating and living together over 3 Years, we have had a lot of problems but seem to hang on... I have troubles with trust because he is a internet addict, talks to other women in a way he should not and also has been on ...
A. 25 January 2016: Thanks for the follow up OP,
And I agree with Ciar.
This doesn't sounds like a happy healthy relationship. The fact that he got you walking on eggshells over the things HE DID wrong instead of acknowledge them, talk them over and move on - he... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said he has too much invested in me. What does this mean?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years. We were talking the other day. Some what if's type of conversation. I asked him if he would ever leave me or leave me for someone else and he said he has everything he wants and needs fr...
A. 25 January 2016: I agree with Ciar.
I think it's a really odd question to ask one's partner.
He can't realistically MAKE a promise to NEVER leave you, because he might think, RIGHT NOW that he won't, but who knows?
Why not JUST enjoy what you have with him i... (read in full...)
It happened once, why cant it happen again?
Q. Hello. So every weekend, I go over to my partner's house and we do it. Recently I had my first "orgasm"-- well that's what he said happened. A bunch of stuff just gushed out and I pushed him out of me. That new feeling happened so quick it was hard ...
A. 25 January 2016: Maybe what you had was a "female ejaculation"? It's hard to say. (some call it squirting)
And as far as being able to ALMOST get there and then feel like it just stops can be over-stimulation. Like rubbing on the same spot over an over (anywher... (read in full...)
I don't even know my mystery guy's name! Does he like me?
Q. Hey everyone! I just need some opinions on a situation that has been developing between me and this guy at university, sorry if this is quite long! So back in around October I was at the pub with my friends and saw this guy, who looked like maybe a ...
A. 25 January 2016: My guess is HE will find you. Sooner rather than later. It sucks with all those teams :( do they play in different colors? (team shirts?). Or try to go the the field where you saw him run off to today.
If he remembered you after 2 months, he isn't... (read in full...)
Considering breaking up, so why do I feel like crying, as if I'm losing something?
Q. Dear Cupid I'm dating an guy for past 3 months, I connect with him so well it scares the hell out of me. I really like him, he never said anything about liking me, he is not really vocal in showing affection; his action also confuse me Fo...
A. 25 January 2016: Why do you feel like crying? Well, I think because you are human and it's a pretty human reaction to want to cry when we feel rejected or ignored.
3 days without contact these days are not common in a new relationship - but when I think back to ... (read in full...)
I've completely lost interest in sex due to the health issues it causes for me
Q. I'm in a long term relationship (7Years). We are very happy together. I love him. However, I have to completely lost interest in sex. I think like main reason is that I get a bladder infection every time won have sex (been to doctors and had lots of ...
A. 25 January 2016: Definitely, TRY condoms and DO go pee directly after sex. Eddie is correct that it flushes bacteria (though not from the uterus, but from the urinary tract :) ). Using a condom will prevent the Ph of your vagina to change too much, with again helps ... (read in full...)
It happened once, why cant it happen again?
Q. Hello. So every weekend, I go over to my partner's house and we do it. Recently I had my first "orgasm"-- well that's what he said happened. A bunch of stuff just gushed out and I pushed him out of me. That new feeling happened so quick it was hard ...
A. 25 January 2016: Maybe, he should try and use his hands/mouth on you and not think that his penis is a magic wand.
Most women CAN orgasm from simulation to the clitoris but 80% can't with penis in vagina. The reason is, there are VERY few nerve endings inside t... (read in full...)
I don't even know my mystery guy's name! Does he like me?
Q. Hey everyone! I just need some opinions on a situation that has been developing between me and this guy at university, sorry if this is quite long! So back in around October I was at the pub with my friends and saw this guy, who looked like maybe a ...
A. 25 January 2016: Oh I forgot... Do the football team have a website/Facebook page maybe? Or a roster?
Might be a good way to figure out his name.
... (read in full...)
I don't even know my mystery guy's name! Does he like me?
Q. Hey everyone! I just need some opinions on a situation that has been developing between me and this guy at university, sorry if this is quite long! So back in around October I was at the pub with my friends and saw this guy, who looked like maybe a ...
A. 25 January 2016: Who knows what he is really interested in, but if he is on Campus you will see him again. And next time... ASK him his name!
If he is REALLY keen on getting to know you, he will find you... or you will find him.
You know he plays football, ... (read in full...)
He loves using the internet. Am I wrong to distrust him when he wants to stay up late while I sleep?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating and living together over 3 Years, we have had a lot of problems but seem to hang on... I have troubles with trust because he is a internet addict, talks to other women in a way he should not and also has been on ...
A. 25 January 2016: You staying up with him won't prevent him from doing stupid or inappropriate things online. Same goes for him going to be with you. My guess is that because of his prior actions you don't trust him at all when it comes to online activities. (not ... (read in full...)
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