Girls, who do I choose?
Q. Question for the girls. You have a choice to go out with one of two guys. One is gorgeous and you find him irresistable but for some reason, which we will leave to the side, he only wants passionate foreplay no penetration. The second guy is ok in ...
A. 1 January 2016: Neither :) But I have never been into casual sex. It's.. just not for me.... (read in full...)
Is my trainer at my group fitness class flirting with me?
Q. I am not sure if a trainer at my group fitness class is flirting with me. He calls me out several times teasing me in front of the class about my technique. One class it was so bad and obvious I guess, that a couple of the guys in the class fe...
A. 1 January 2016: Ir since you have his number ( he texted you) maybe text him and tell him to dial it down, that you don't really appreciate being used as his "example".
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Is my trainer at my group fitness class flirting with me?
Q. I am not sure if a trainer at my group fitness class is flirting with me. He calls me out several times teasing me in front of the class about my technique. One class it was so bad and obvious I guess, that a couple of the guys in the class fe...
A. 1 January 2016: Sorry OP didn't see that you BOTH are married, so yea you should BOTH be off limits.
He may very well think YOU are a "safe" option to flirt and banter with (with you being married) but he obviously doesn't seem to understand the differen... (read in full...)
I'm six months pregnant but not sure who the father is
Q. Okay so before I start, I'm fully aware that I'm a terrible person for the things that I've done. I didn't come here to be judged, I just need advice. I am 6 1/2 months pregnant. In the past, when my boyfriend and I would break up or get into a r...
A. 31 December 2015: My guess is you worry because you HAVE cheated in the past on him. I just find it hard to imagine that you really don't know if you had unprotected sex with someone else or not.
I hope you are seeing a OB/GYN and that they know of your alcohol/... (read in full...)
My best friend has been ignoring me and I suspect his girlfriend is behind it
Q. I've been best friends with a guy for the past 6 years. We don't see each other very often anymore because we're in college, but whenever we're home we make a point to meet up, and we visit each others' colleges occasionally. Our friendship has ...
A. 31 December 2015: I'd leave it be. It's NOT worth all the drama that WILL ensue if you keep trying. You can bring a horse to water... you can't make it drink. And if HE has chosen to cut you out (choosing her over you) then that is HIS choice.
He SHOULD (no doub... (read in full...)
Is my trainer at my group fitness class flirting with me?
Q. I am not sure if a trainer at my group fitness class is flirting with me. He calls me out several times teasing me in front of the class about my technique. One class it was so bad and obvious I guess, that a couple of the guys in the class fe...
A. 31 December 2015: I'd switch classes, personally. Or gym.
Whether he is interested or not, I wouldn't really care or worry about - because what he is, is a rude dunce. He might think he is OH SO charming, but really he is putting you down in hopes that if he adds ... (read in full...)
How do I survive this nightmare of bitchiness at work
Q. I have a problem with the people I work with and I'm thinking of leaving as it's getting to me a bit. I work in a small local business and there are only a few of us. We all have to put rotas in the system every day for gas and plumbing enginee...
A. 31 December 2015: Keep taking the high road.
As for the new girl, I'd suggest you don't get into any gossip with her, she might be nice, but you don't know how much of what you say will be passed on.
Keep looking for a new job, but until then - DO your job the ... (read in full...)
Why? And how should I handle the fact that my brother deliberately ignores me?
Q. My brother and I used to be very close but now for some reason he doesn't even speak to me. At school he always pretends he doesn't know me, for example, My Dad sent me a message that I needed to pass onto my brother, so at the end of the day I tr...
A. 30 December 2015: Your brother is being an asshat. Quite simply.
I'd pretend it doesn't hurt your feelings when he ignores you. That way his little "game" isn't working.
If you HAVE to pass on a message to him at school and he tries to ignore you, just tell h... (read in full...)
He's engaged but he seems possessive of me
Q. Me and my crush used to work together now we work for diff companies in the same building, on the same floor. I’m 31 female and my crush is 41 male (with a 12 yr old son) He flirts all the time with me, passes by my office daily, touches me in some ...
A. 30 December 2015: Ignore him when he throws fit at you talking to other men, WHO cares if he has "hurt" look in his eyes!? He doesn't own you and you OWE him nothing!
Second of all, cut out the flirting. And let go of the crush, he is not this GREAT charming... (read in full...)
Are we through? I can't tell
Q. I have recently ended a relationship with a guy who I was with for 14 months. We had hit a hard patch and argued a lot over the last month or so, specifically over his army career which was hindering our relationship. I have been cheated on in th...
A. 30 December 2015: 1. ending it was the right thing.
He is blaming YOUR for his shitty behavior and that is just not right. If he felt you weren't paying enough attention to him... he should have TALKED to you about it, not gotten on Tindr and flirted with other gi... (read in full...)
My mother is having an affair with a married man. Worried that she'll be hurt. What can I do?
Q. Dear cupid, My mum is having an affair with a married man. It started 5 years ago when she was caring for my father who had dementia. He was coming around the house as his job is to teach computers and mum wanted to learn. I knew about it b...
A. 30 December 2015: I'd would stop trying to tell your mom what to do.
You say you argue all the time about this guy, SO drop the subject. Your relationship with your mom is based in things between YOU and your mom. Not you, your mom and your mom's lover. Talk abo... (read in full...)
I feel like she's put me on reserve while she dates someone else but I don't want to ruin things either. What can I do?
Q. Ok I'll keep this brief. I met a girl at the weekend in a bar and we chatted for a while and it was all great. I added her on Facebook and today I plucked up the courage to ask her to meet for a drink. Her friend and her both told me she was single ...
A. 30 December 2015: I get that it hurt your pride a little, you asked her out and she didn't jump at the chance.
What she is doing though IS IMHO the right thing, she has been talking to someone else and are currently going on some dates with him to see if they are... (read in full...)
He didn't contact me Christmas day. What can I say to him? Is my reaction reasonable?
Q. Hello everyone I have been dating a wonderful man for 3 months. We were friends for 4 months prior to that. He is kind, attentive, loving, considerate, reliable, funny, generous, always keeps his promises, and generally a good man. We get on...
A. 30 December 2015: I don't think he did anything wrong, I think you are WAY overthinking this. You talked, through text on the 24th and exchanged merry Christmas greetings and that is that. There is no need for a repeat the next day.
And IF you micro manage who's tu... (read in full...)
Broke up with boyfriend of 5 years, but was it the right decision?
Q. I was with my boyfriend for a little over 5 years. We broke up the 26th. A little rundown about what happened. We really did have an amazing relationship. We had serious talks about our future, kids, getting a house together, etc. It was my first ...
A. 30 December 2015: Don't think ending the relationship = throwing away the 5 years you spend together. Take it as a learning experience. We learn something from each relationship (good and bad) that helps us in the next.(hopefully).
He "claimed" to understa... (read in full...)
What could I say in a love letter to girl, without frightening her off?
Q. I need to write a love letter for this girl im going to ask out. Only thing is I dont want it to be one of those over the top corny love letters. I just want to tell her how I feel about her, a little romance is ok but i dont want to scare her off....
A. 30 December 2015: I agree with all the NAY Sayers. A "love" letter to a person you aren't even dating... is well, not the smartest thing.
A LOVE letter is a letter a person write to SOMEONE they love, someone they know (at least enough to ask them out).
If you ... (read in full...)
I trust him but I don't trust his really attractive female friend
Q. Hi, I'm in a relationship and although we've not been together for very long i love him,but i feel myself getting jealous of other girls already. It all started when he told me about his "good friend", that's like a sister to him. At the time i d...
A. 29 December 2015: Whether you trust her (who by the by is a total stranger to you) or not is irrelevant.
She can't "make" him cheat. If you trust HIM, like you say you do then why fret? It takes two to tango.
If anything "untoward" happened between them it ... (read in full...)
I just caught my fiance, cheating on me numerous times with tgirls. What should I do?
Q. I just caught my fiance, cheating on me numerous times with tgirls, CD, etc. He appears to have a serious t fetish. He claims to love me and wants to marry me. However, when I confront him with the obvious evidence, he denies everything. The wier...
A. 29 December 2015: What can you do?
YOU can wake up and smell the coffee. Engaged or not, married or not, HE is a cheater and will probably keep cheating because he knows you won't leave (at least that is what he thinks).
WHY stay with a guy who is cheating on y... (read in full...)
Couples: How long is too long for separate vacations ?
Q. Question for the Happily married men : would you go away for 26 days to another country to visit your family if you're wife couldn't go? Would you book the trip without consulting her about the length of time? After I raised an issue with month...
A. 29 December 2015: It's not a month, but darn close.
I think you two are being absolutely silly. YOU are not married to him, he can go visit his family as he pleases and YOU can go travelling if you WISH to do so without him as well. Do you live together? Do you s... (read in full...)
What are my options? This guy is starting to scare me, but he's a relative of my coworker
Q. okay so earlier this semester I moved into an apartment with a friend who lives in the dorms with me and also her cousin and her cousin's boyfriend. all of us are really busy with school and work and all three of them are going to be gone until sc...
A. 29 December 2015: Let me explain it as simply as I can. YOU got yourself into this mess, because you haven't learned to stand up for yourself, and maybe because you also try a little to hard to please others, rather than follow you heart.
You should have told him... (read in full...)
I think she's a thief but what to do?
Q. Any advice will be appreciated please. Two weeks ago my colleague came round my house to pick me up for a course we both had to attend. She wasn't due to pick me up until 8am, however was at mine 30 minutes earlier (she said she arrived early as...
A. 28 December 2015: Personally, I wouldn't. Someone's reputation is at stake and there is no real proof.
Whomever counted that money ought to be the one going to the manager with the info about the charity pot.
I would however.... not invite that person to my hom... (read in full...)
He's nice and he's flirty. But is he really just a player ?
Q. I've been speaking to this guy for a while on snapchat, he used to live nearby but has moved away (apparently only for a year but I am unsure). I never knew him when he lived here but we went to the same school. I just never seen him as he was a ...
A. 28 December 2015: I guess if you won't block him, just talking less might do the trick. The thing is, at some point in your life you NEED to learn to say NO or NO thanks, to people treating you in a way that you KNOW is not good.
Just because he is older doesn't ... (read in full...)
Worth pursuing? Or should I let this online flirtation go?
Q. I have been taking to a decent guy online for the last 2 weeks. We seem to hit it off really well and within days were talking on the phone every day for hours on end. However I was the first person he started talking to as he had only subscrib...
A. 28 December 2015: I think I would just SLOW down if I were you. Meeting after talking for a week is not a bad idea, but it CAN feel rushed, like you are TRYING to make things happen and that in turn can seem desperate or pushy (in lack of better terms).
As fo... (read in full...)
Just online friends? But then he restarted being flirty. How should I handle this?
Q. This is really very confusing but please bear with me. There is this guy who I have been chatting to for over 6 months, he is like my best friend but we have never met (we have discussed it, just not really gotten to it as I live 2 hours away by ...
A. 28 December 2015: I think you have to ask yourself what you want out of this chatting. Where do you see it going?
From what you write he is bit immature, he is focused on sex (not abnormal) but he is NOT looking for anything serious, which would lead me think th... (read in full...)
Is it wrong not to call when you get their number?
Q. I've seen sites saying to get as many girls phone numbers as you can. To give you experience and therefore confidence etc. Other sites say it's cruel to get numbers and not call. On the other hand, girls sometimes give out false numbers or play oth...
A. 28 December 2015: Sure it's OK to chat to a girl without asking for her number. You don't OWE a girl to call her later or want to get to know her because you chatted for 30 minutes or 3 hours.
And I think it's WAY more honest to NOT ask for a number, but just cha... (read in full...)
Where do I stand in this? FWB but I get no respect and he insults me.
Q. Im a first year student who has got into a friends with benefits relationship with a guy who doesn't respect me. We had drunken sex in the first couple of weeks of university a few times, we then didn't see each other for a while but now it has s...
A. 28 December 2015: Cut him lose and then block him from texting.
It's NOT a FWB you have... you two are f-buddies without friendship and respect.
If all you want is some casual sex, find a guy who will at LEAST respect you and not talk mad crap about you behind... (read in full...)
My second cousin wants to become my boyfriend but I'm nervous. What do you guys think?
Q. Okay so the past two weeks me and my 2nd cousin have been talking.. A lot and flirting and we have a thing. He's a few years older than me so growing up we didn't talk but I'm 17 now. I saw him over Christmas but we had to pretend we weren't ...
A. 28 December 2015: I think if you two can't hang out around family, well then you can't date.
A relationship where you have to hide your partner, the person you love... from the world, it's just not a good thing.... (read in full...)
Would I stand out if I go solo for a meal and maybe to see a band or a comedy performance on New Year's Eve?
Q. For the last five years I've been single and primarily friendless so I've stayed in watching tv trying to convince myself I wasn't bored. This year I'm still single, but my friends are coupled or will be out of town and I just can't stand the thou...
A. 27 December 2015: Have you considered looking into some meetup.com new years events? It might be fun to try that. There will be other singles there who just don't want to be alone (but may not be looking for a hook up either).
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How do I tell if he's being honest?
Q. I met this guy like about 2 months ago and he seemed interested in me and I was too, but when he would tell me to let him know to hang out he always had things to do so I would get upset. I've asked him if he's single and he said he doesn't have a ...
A. 27 December 2015: He isn't serious about you. He is still looking for the "right" girl to date. So he is "seeing" or hanging out with her and suggesting you two can "hang out" too...
I think if you are looking for a BF... he isn't it.
And yes, since he IS stil... (read in full...)
How do I deal with an interfering mother?
Q. Dear cupid, I am going to be 18 on the 1st of January. My parents still interfere in my life so much. I have been in a relationship for 8 months now. My boyfriend was over for dinner yesterday and we had a little argument after dinner (just the two ...
A. 27 December 2015: You live at home, she sees you as a child still. (she probably always will - parents do that kind of thing).
You could let her speeches go in one ear and out the other. If she gives you USEFUL advice, consider it, if it's not useful, disregar... (read in full...)
Is it wrong not to call when you get their number?
Q. I've seen sites saying to get as many girls phone numbers as you can. To give you experience and therefore confidence etc. Other sites say it's cruel to get numbers and not call. On the other hand, girls sometimes give out false numbers or play oth...
A. 27 December 2015: I agree with Boo
Don't ASK for number from girls you don't really WANT to call. This isn't 5rd grade where you have to impress your male peers in just how many numbers you can get...
If you need to "practice" asking for numbers, you no ... (read in full...)
What's the best way to call it quits?
Q. My question is: Is it acceptable to split up with a woman via email or over the phone. I have been dating for someone for about 4 months but it isn't going anywhere and I would like to end it. I want to do it properly in the right way. I was going ...
A. 27 December 2015: Personally, I understand your sister's attitude, BUT - it's a casual relationship and it's only been going on for 4 months... so I do think an e-mail would be OK - I also think it would be "nicer" to call her up, it's less impersonal and if she is ... (read in full...)
He didn't invite me to show his friend around the city. Was I overreacting?
Q. So my bf has a friend coming over from California. We live in Texas and this guy came yesterday. I live by myself and I know the lonely times sometimes are just annoying me. Anyway my bf told me today that he will come and his friend to my place to ...
A. 27 December 2015: I think you are being needy and a bit unreasonable. It's NOT just a "guy thing". If I had a friend come visit I'd probably take him/her out WITHOUT my husband and kids to show that friend around. So I could get some time to talk about the past, ... (read in full...)
He's nice and he's flirty. But is he really just a player ?
Q. I've been speaking to this guy for a while on snapchat, he used to live nearby but has moved away (apparently only for a year but I am unsure). I never knew him when he lived here but we went to the same school. I just never seen him as he was a ...
A. 27 December 2015: If he treats you badly, why do YOU stick it out with him?Because you think he is older so therefore "cool" ? Why allow someone to TREAT you in a way that YOU call badly?
And him suggesting he will GET with you when he comes to visit.. doesn't ... (read in full...)
I'm waiting for him to make the next move but it's killing me! Advice, please!
Q. I rekindled with my ex boyfriend this year and over the last 6 months we have dated a few times and have now become intimate. He came to my work xmas party and we had a great time. That was over 12 days ago. since then he has not called me or ...
A. 27 December 2015: Take the time to consider if you are OK with a partner "ignoring" you for 2 weeks and for you to decide to not bother contacting him either... and then act accordingly.
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My ex is calling me a whore and a liar. It bothers me! Would anyone else feel the same?
Q. I'm in a bad situation and I don't know what to do about it. Apologies if this quite a long question. I can't really talk to my family because they all have quite decent lives and I feel like a bit of a black sheep. Anyway I've been seeing m...
A. 26 December 2015: Please read Ciar and Anonymous 123's answers and accept that this guy IS bad news and he doesn't LOVE you.
GET rid of him. You know it was a mistake to get back together... so correct that mistake and end it.
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Online guy is making me confused. I had an accident and I believe he thinks I was lying about it
Q. hi everyone, first thanks for reading my post and marry Christmas and new year. I am trying my luck online dating. it's almost year ago I met a guy through online. we really like each other.But when I told him I don't want sex before marriage h...
A. 26 December 2015: You have been talking online for a whole year and only met once?
Maybe.... he really wasn't OK with no sex till marriage and he decided to go look for someone who is a better match.
To me I think he might have felt you "strung" him alo... (read in full...)
What good excuse can I give my bf ?
Q. My bf and I have been dating for 6 months. I am on vacation right now with my mom, because she just retired. My bf didnt want me to go on vacation, but I had to because my mom had purchased the airplane tickets and everything before I even me...
A. 26 December 2015: I agree with Sage.
No need for further "excuses" (read lies) just tell him I can't wait to see you on (insert date) - if he makes a fuss you can say what Sage wrote (just adjust it to your own language).
THERE is nothing wrong in going on vaca... (read in full...)
Is this fair? Do I have a right to be angry and upset?
Q. Hi guys.. So to keep it simple, my boyfriend of just over 2 years had this friend before we met.. His friend was a girl- he told me that they kissed once but it didn't feel right apparently so nothing else happened. He hasn't spoken to her since we...
A. 26 December 2015: I think you are a bit over-dramatic about this. He is going to VISIT her and HER mom. NOT just her.
It's a social visit. And yes, I DO think he should be able to go visit her and her mom without you going overboard thinking he is going to cheat or... (read in full...)
Why is it considered wrong to just want to date or just crush on people?
Q. I have this problem where I had crushes on boys before and I always look forward to dating and having boyfriend until I actually got one. he wasn't a bad guy he did nothing to hurt me but he was sort of laughing a lot and kind of mock me by sayin...
A. 26 December 2015: Well, your first BF was a jerk. Immature jerk. That happens. You dated him because you thought you should try and have a BF, not because you really cared deeply, nor did he care deeply for you.. And part teenage rebellion against your parents rules ... (read in full...)
Why would a girl ask me if I was gay if I prefer cuddling to penetrative sex? I do have some ED.
Q. I pick up girls quite often. I'm not interested in penetration only cuddling etc(also a bit of ED, but never had much interest in sex). I explain this to them beforehand of course and never was rejected because of it. The girls still seem to enjoy...
A. 25 December 2015: I think she asked because it's fairly uncommon for a guy to "settle" for oral when there is a "willing vagina" in the room.
It can also be that she is a "little" ignorant when it comes to sexuality. For instance, I might have thought you were bi ... (read in full...)
Falling for guy in long term relationship - don't want to be the other woman!
Q. I am falling for a male friend who is in a long term relationship. We met through work (at a social event- we don't work together so that isn't an issue) and have developed a connection which at first I brushed off, knowing he had a girlfriend. We ...
A. 25 December 2015: If you claim to not want to be "the other woman" then don't BE "the other woman" in EVERY way, simply drop the contact. HE isn't your friend, and you... aren't his. YOU both have romantic feelings or maybe just some lust for each other and that ... (read in full...)
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