Falling for guy in long term relationship - don't want to be the other woman!
Q. I am falling for a male friend who is in a long term relationship. We met through work (at a social event- we don't work together so that isn't an issue) and have developed a connection which at first I brushed off, knowing he had a girlfriend. We ...
A. 25 December 2015: If you claim to not want to be "the other woman" then don't BE "the other woman" in EVERY way, simply drop the contact. HE isn't your friend, and you... aren't his. YOU both have romantic feelings or maybe just some lust for each other and that ... (read in full...)
Had the best day with my boyfriend but he did not rely to my Good night text. Should I be worried?
Q. I sent my BF a "Good night" text late last night. Till now (mid aft) he still has not responded. We spent the day together yesterday and he gave me a gorgeous crystal bracelet. It was the best day. And I felt we were very close. I texted him...
A. 25 December 2015: You have nothing to worry about.
Receiving/sending a "thank you text" is equivalent to a thank you note - neither NEEDS a reply.
And he is HARDLY ignoring you. He is just focused on his family who are visiting.
Chill lady, it's all good.
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My son lost his twin brother. Should we let him go to counselling on his own or as a family?
Q. I have 2 sons, 1 is always in my heart and the other i wish only to make his pain go away. Twin boys born 21st june 2001. We lost Matthew in February this year. Paul was, well he was inconsolable. In june he refused to celebrate his birthday, now he ...
A. 25 December 2015: I'm so sorry for your family's loss.
I do think it would be a good thing for him to go alone, he might have an easier time opening up and being honest about his feelings and thoughts without you and your wife in the room.
Whether he bl... (read in full...)
Is there something going on between my son's girlfriend and my husband?
Q. Son has been with his girlfriend 2 years, had to go in hospital for a couple of days, my husband said give her his number so she can text him to see how hes getting on which she did then recently She sent our son a message on face book to say she ...
A. 25 December 2015: I'm with Ciar.
I don't think anything odd is going on here either. She still has his number, he still has hers because MOST people don't delete added phone numbers. I have a bunch of numbers for my kids teachers from LAST year (which I really s... (read in full...)
Online dating: how do I make this work? When I suggest meeting up they back-off
Q. Dear Cupid After failed relationship, someone suggested me to try online dating, so I registered. So that was the easy part. Got a lot of hits and requests, and I tried connecting to few people. Almost everyone I talked to, never suggested to ...
A. 24 December 2015: I think if someone is seriously looking to meet a partner, they will not spend ages on video chats and texting. But it might be a good idea to talk (phone/text/e-mails) first to see if it's someone you REALLY want to met in person too.
I'd p... (read in full...)
Do I wait this breakup out? Or take a different approach with my ex Gf?
Q. Ex gf will not stop calling and texting. I have been patiently waiting it out thinking and hoping she would see her vain attempts and stop. She has gotten worse. Every other day, and several times a day. I am so tempted to call this harassing c...
A. 24 December 2015: BLOCK her number. If she also calls from work, block that number too. OR.... GET a new simcard/phone number.
IF you feel better, tell her you are going to block her.
YOU do not owe her to entertain her with various calls at all times of the day... (read in full...)
I want to spend Christmas with my mom and boyfriend and now he wants to spend Christmas with his mom. I'm not happy about this!
Q. Cutting a long story short. Last year my dad left my mum, she now lives with my two younger brothers, which truthfully they don't really care about her. This will be the first time she is on her own (brothers are going to dads) and it's the first ...
A. 24 December 2015: I agree with Cindy.
YOU changed the rules (you two having a quiet Christmas in your new house to adding your mom) and then you don't like that he felt, well if she spends Christmas with HER mom I will spend it with MY family. I don't see how eith... (read in full...)
My friends uninvited me for Christmas!
Q. I live alone and I decided to invite a couple (who are friends) to dinner on Christmas Eve. She accepted the invitation and said why didn't I have lunch with them on Christmas Day. I was pleased as I am often alone at Christmas. A few days later ...
A. 24 December 2015: I too agree, that it's rude.
Your friend might have been "over-ruled" by her husband and to keep the peace she cancel the second say of festivities.
Don't let it spoil your Christmas, I'd say find something good to do that day instead. Like.. ... (read in full...)
My online friend always manages to bring sex toy talk into the conversation. Its beginning to make me feel uncomfortable!
Q. Hi, I recently joined an online dating forum and have been chatting to a few people including new female friends which is great. The options on the forum in terms of what members are looking for are as follows: Serious relationship, fr...
A. 23 December 2015: I don't think you are being OOT at all, and I think he is using the, and I quote.... "he is glad to find a friend that he can talk to anything about" as an excuse to bring up subject like.. .the sex toys.
If you have told him that you don't fi... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's "catching" up with an old female friend is starting to bother me
Q. My boyfriend has been spending a lot of time communicating with an old female friend from high school. Now we have been together for a little over 4 years, so we have a lot of trust in each other, but I feel as if this is wrong of him. I'll tel...
A. 23 December 2015: I too wonder how much he has told her about YOU and his 4 year relationship. Or do you feature prominently on his Facebook, so she can have no doubt? Have you asked him? And I would also ask him if HE was OK with you catching up with an "old" male ... (read in full...)
I think my husband sees me as a boring woman now that I have had a baby
Q. Hi I been with my husband for 4 years and married for 2 years. Everything was amazing till we had a baby together. He is helpful and great in every way but we don't spend time together like we use too. Now I'm a full time mum and he comes home late. ...
A. 22 December 2015: Get a babysitter once a week and have a "date-night" - just you and him. Go out to dinner, a movie, something.
I don't think you have failed as a wife. Your priorities have shifted. Being a full time mom is a big job, add on all the house work etc... (read in full...)
He said he'd call but he didn't. Did I do the right thing by not confronting him?
Q. I dated a guy for 2 months then he stopped responding to my messages one day. I didn't confront him about it or anything, I was actually about to be going on a trip so I didn't have time for the drama. 2 weeks later while I'm on my trip he tells me ...
A. 22 December 2015: By confronting him you would have seemed like a drama queen. So, I do think for your own sake it's better to not give him any ammo or attention. I think by NOT bothering about telling him off you are sticking up for yourself a lot more than if you ... (read in full...)
Will going on vacation alone doom our marriage?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles ;) I am 35 year old teacher from Europe- happily married and with no kids. In summer I get to have a month off school. I have been in love with NYC ever since I was a kid and have been going there quite frequently since...
A. 22 December 2015: Sure why not?
If you and your husband are OK with this, what's the problem?
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Could you cure an STD without knowing it?
Q. Is it possible that you have cured you chlamidya (std) without knowing? so if you had caught Chlamidya and you didnt know you had it and took antibiotics for another reason such as a sore throat, would your STD also go away?...
A. 22 December 2015: Go see your doctor.
And stop having sex with someone who "claims" to be "cured" by accident from an STD.
Usually (I guess that depends on your doctor) but.. usually Chlamydia used to be treated by a single HUGE dose of a certain type of ... (read in full...)
We "click" but he's married! Did I do the right thing?
Q. Hello. Thank you in advance for reading this. My dilemma is that I met a man with whom I have a strong connection, understanding and physical attraction....but unfortunately he is married with 2 children. We met via a study forum and met ...
A. 22 December 2015: Is there a reason you HAVE to stay in touch? I mean let's be honest, if there are romantic feelings it's NOT a friendship. Which means the whole "let's be friends" is dragging out the inevitable - that either of you cut the contact or either of you ... (read in full...)
How can someone change so much so fast? I think it's his mother and his friends influencing him!
Q. He has changed so much in the past year, I do not even recognize him. When we met we were both in college but he was getting ready to graduate. He was a huge nerd always playing Magic the Gathering, and he was very sweet. He had like a 1930's cl...
A. 22 December 2015: Well, my take on this is... YOU dodged a bullet. You could have married this guy and had to spend your life with his nutty mother, and a guy who can't stand up to her. Next thing you know she would have been living with the pair of you.....
And t... (read in full...)
He can't take the time to shop for me and my kids, but he will for his kid and for her?
Q. As most men do, my bf dislike shopping for anything. Especially xmas shopping.. So I've done all of it this year... Including a few little gifts for myself.. Then today I get a text saying that he totally forgot he needs to buy a gift for is ex from ...
A. 22 December 2015: In my house I do all the shopping (more or less) for presents. We make a budget, I shop, wrap etc. I shop for our 3 kids and and "his" 3 kids/my step-kids as well. Occasionally he has a brilliant idea for the kids and that gets worked into the ... (read in full...)
Should I leave her a note saying she has no morals?
Q. Hi. A few weeks ago a girl hit my car and damaged my wing mirror on a country road. She was speeding way to quick and didn't slow down. I've reported it to the police but they say cause its a country road that it would be fifty fifty. I'm replacing ...
A. 22 December 2015: I wouldn't leave a note either. It's not going to turn her into a decent person and do the right thing.
Hopefully Karma will give her a nudge sooner rather than later.... (read in full...)
Would this be a good opener to ask a nice girl going past me?
Q. Just a simple question. If I see a nice girl going past and I just say "excuse me, are you busy" or "are you in a hurry?". Wouldn't that be the best opener to judge if she's interested? Her response would show straight away if she has any interest...
A. 21 December 2015: No I don't think it's a grand idea. You have no idea where she is going or what she just left. And you obviously have no idea how vulnerable a woman feels even when out on the town.
Women (in general) don't like getting accosted on the streets ... (read in full...)
How can I help my bestfriend? I think her Bf is behaving like text book beginnings of a domestic abuser
Q. I'm extremely worried about my best friend and her new "boyfriend." This may get complicated without names so for confusion sake's, my best friend will be A. Her ex will be D and her current boyfriend will be L. I have been best friends with ...
A. 21 December 2015: I don't know if he is "text book abuser" but he is "text book nutter"!
You many not be able out "make" her see sense, but I'd say, sit her down and tell her that it isn't normal for a someone you have BARELY dated to text HER mother and involve ... (read in full...)
Is my fitness instructor boyfriend trying to score this other girl in his class?
Q. I have been dating my fitness instructor for the past two and a half years. I met him as a client in his class. As the gym has policies in place prohibiting such relationships, we have kept our involvement under wraps. I was in his class today ...
A. 21 December 2015: I'm not sure how justified your worries are, I think he could be pulling back while at the gym to avoid getting "caught" dating a client.
And don't forget he is there to WORK not flirt and goof with you. It can also be that he KNOWS you will kee... (read in full...)
She took the presents and ran
Q. Hello was dating this woman for a short time. I just gave her Christmas presents, then next day she broke up with me. Should I ask for them back?...
A. 21 December 2015: In the future save the gift for someone you have been dating longer.
Not much else to do.... (read in full...)
Am I hoping for too much?
Q. ive been in a 'relationship' for about 2 months, its official as in its on facebook so all our family and friends know. we havent slept together yet . its quite pathetic really because weve only met once a month ago his dad had a serious accident ...
A. 20 December 2015: I agree with Ciar.
If he is a man-child he is not going to "grow up" or "grow a pair" while YOU take a break from him.
This is who he is, break or no break.
I'd say make the break permanent and find someone who WANTS to spend time with you, ... (read in full...)
Am I a sexual interest or a potential friend?
Q. There is this married young lady who quite recently joined our workforce. From the first day she's been very friendly with me. I only work some of the day there as I go out every day to other places to do work. When I am in the area with her, our ...
A. 20 December 2015: Ignore it, that is my advice.
It honestly seems a bit creepy of her with those kind of questions, if you ask me. It's really none of her business.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend suggested an open relationship
Q. Hi I'm a 22 and so is my boyfriend. One year ago, at the beginning of our relationship I felt loved, wanted and I trusted him. I loved giving bjs, he loved receiving them and we had sex several times a day. Now it's a bit different. He...
A. 19 December 2015: I saw this quote and thought of your situation.
"You’ll never find the right person if you never let go of the wrong one."
— Unknown... (read in full...)
Do the things my flirty colleague is doing show interest in me?
Q. An Asian female colleague seems flirty toward me. Are these signs that she is attracted to me? 1) she was absent from work and the next day when I asked she said she had menstrual cramps so she took a sick leave 2) she leans with her should...
A. 19 December 2015: I'd say all the way down to your LAST line.. I would have said she likes you and feel comfortable with you... BUT then your last line...
"And also, she has a boyfriend"
-THAT's the linchpin here.
She has a BF, so she is off limits, or SH... (read in full...)
With a great partner but I'm tempted
Q. Hi - I met my boyfriend 2 and a half years ago during the first week of university and we've been together since. He's one of the kindest people I've ever met and is also funny ect. Honestly he makes me so happy and loves me completely, which I ...
A. 19 December 2015: Its' not really uncommon to get crushes throughout your life, EVEN when you are with someone super special and someone long term. It doesn't mean yo are no longer happy with your partner, just that you also notice other men. Pretty primal if you ask ... (read in full...)
How do I stop feeling used?
Q. Hi. So I got out of a relationship at the end of October and I really liked the guy. In the relationship he told me he stopped liking his best friend (who is a girl) after I asked if he still liked her because some metal friends were telling me he ...
A. 19 December 2015: How do you get over him?
By accepting he wasn't a good match. He did do something that wasn't nice, and that was date you while liking another girl too. And THAT is not your doing or your fault.
So he didn't end it with you because YOU did ... (read in full...)
She took the presents and ran
Q. Hello was dating this woman for a short time. I just gave her Christmas presents, then next day she broke up with me. Should I ask for them back?...
A. 19 December 2015: Oh wow! What a "insert any chosen expletive"!
Should you ask for them back? Well, considering the manner she has shown here... I doubt she would return them and ... a gift is a gift. There should be no strings attached.
I hope to goodness you... (read in full...)
Overwhelmed by gift house and don't know what to do
Q. Please can i get some advice! What I'm about to write may seem like I'm being ungrateful but I'm not. My fiancé and I have been together 6 years and were currently looking to buy our 1st house together. We both have decent enough jobs...
A. 19 December 2015: I can see why it upset you at first, as this in not your and your fiance's hose, it's your in-laws.
And if there should be a "break up" well, then it will be his.
But on the other hand all the money you two have saved up CAN be used to buy a... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a woman rubs herself during sex?
Q. This is weird. Anyway i just want to understand what it really means when your (a man) having sex with a woman and she rubs on her clit, does that mean u are not pleasuring her the right way so she has to do it herself, to reach organism.. ? No i ...
A. 19 December 2015: She wants to enjoy sex too?
It might be that you are not (yet) that skilled at pleasing your partner. Women needs more than a penis inserted. For some that doesn't even do much at all. However, WOMEN can enjoy sex without an orgasm - for many the... (read in full...)
I really felt we had a connection. But he blocked me. What can I do now?
Q. Hello guys basically a few weeks days ago I was contact by another guy I really felt a connection. He was jaw droppingly hot to we exchanged some photos none were saved as it was on snapchat and the photo is deleted after 10 seconds and will inf...
A. 18 December 2015: Is there anything you can do?
Yes, stay away, ignore, block, delete, remove him from everything. While he might have had a "moment" of curiosity he isn't accepting of that side of his sexuality OR of yours.
And while he MIGHT have wanted to g... (read in full...)
I feel weirded out by my housemate's iciness and then occasional familiarity. What should I do?
Q. So my housemate is gay and so am I. He asked to move in after we went on a tinder date. I'm starting to think he went on the date more because he wanted to move into my desirable apartment in an area he liked (but wasnt up front about it), and the ...
A. 18 December 2015: Well, I think your first interpretation - that he ONLY went on the date once he found out where you lived... so he could perhaps get a room to let in a nice area, IS correct.
And that can be fixed by ending his subletting/room-mate agreemen... (read in full...)
Does it seem odd that so many of my BF's exes cheated on him?
Q. My boyfriend had one wife and three girlfriends, all of whom cheated on him. He is hard to reach emotionally sometimes and I think he is guarded due to these past experiences. I have told him I am not them. I was thinking. Does it seem odd ...
A. 18 December 2015: Not to sound like a total negative Nancy, but...
I do think it's odd too. And I would actually take it with a grain of salt in the beginning. Specially since you ONLY know HIS version.
It's not the first time I have seen & read of people (both ... (read in full...)
Years ago a guy was found not guilty of harming me. It divided the community. Does it matter that I get few birthday cards now?
Q. I've gotten in to a massive argument with my boyfriend and I don't know what to do. A few years ago I was raped and it went to trial but the guy was found not guilty. I live in a really small town and the man who did it was my best friends boyf...
A. 18 December 2015: Does it make you odd? Not one bit. It's a defense mechanism, just ask your therapist. What you went through and are STILL going through was not some little matter, emotionally, physically and socially. I think it's a PRETTY normal defense ... (read in full...)
Why is he spending so much time with me if he doesn't want me? What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm sorry for the long post but I could really use some advice. My boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me recently but we still act like we are a couple. I want to still be with him and I've told him that. But he has said that w...
A. 18 December 2015: YOU can't MAKE him want to be with you again and by sticking around you are ONLY hurting yourself.
YOU can't change his mind or him.
I think you have BETTER chance of getting him to change his tune if you totally cut him off (show him what h... (read in full...)
Was it just a joke to him? He e called me PG and text me a pig cartoon
Q. Hi, Thanks for reading my post. English is not my native language I need advice. I am trying to the find right person. I started online dating . I met few guys but things did not work out. Its almost a month a guy tried to reached me. He ...
A. 18 December 2015: BLOCK his number and FORGET about him!
YOU owe him nothing.
Jokes are only funny when BOTH people involved understand and laugh at it.
What an idiot!!
He only apologized to keep you around, either to make fun of or to use as entertainmen... (read in full...)
We've been on 5 or 6 dates but he still won't add me to Facebook
Q. I've been on about 5-6 dates with this guy who I met on online dating. At the moment it seems to be going really well. He makes the most to see me in his spare time, even if he has other plans, he'll try and fit in seeing me.. He's taken me on lo...
A. 17 December 2015: I'm with Ciar.
Adding to Facebook or not is not important, you aren't dating an online persona, but a REAL guy. MAYBE he wants to wait a while (which to me seems like a good idea) till you two are established. Or maybe HIS personal FB is for HIM.... (read in full...)
Can I trust him? maybe I shouldn't even be with him?
Q. Often times we are advised not to judge our boyfriends based on his past... But I wonder, isn't it important to have a general idea of his past relationships and how he has handled them? Wouldn't having this insight give me an idea of his characte...
A. 17 December 2015:
So with your update, OP - do you really see yourself WITH him long term?
Do you think he will want to be with you to please his parents, but then NOT be faithful to you?
It seems like you have a lot of thinking to do. And then you have to con... (read in full...)
My boyfriend suggested an open relationship
Q. Hi I'm a 22 and so is my boyfriend. One year ago, at the beginning of our relationship I felt loved, wanted and I trusted him. I loved giving bjs, he loved receiving them and we had sex several times a day. Now it's a bit different. He...
A. 17 December 2015: Your post is NOT ridiculous at all, and I do understand wanting to try and make it work, however... HE is telling it's ALL your "fault". You should go on birth-control, you should act more slutty.. you you you. He doesn't take responsibility for ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex has been in touch with him
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. I am in a LDR of a year. We have had some ups and downs, but love each other and see each other every other weekend for its entirety and speak/text loads. I found out his ex has been in contact with him. She broke up w...
A. 17 December 2015: Have you asking WHY he has decided to being contact again? Because I think he OWES you an explanation. It's easy enough to say - "OH she reached out to him".. He didn't HAVE to be civil or to continue talking to her. He could have cut her off and ... (read in full...)
Can I trust him? maybe I shouldn't even be with him?
Q. Often times we are advised not to judge our boyfriends based on his past... But I wonder, isn't it important to have a general idea of his past relationships and how he has handled them? Wouldn't having this insight give me an idea of his characte...
A. 17 December 2015: How can you know for sure that he dropped the other 4 girls he "chatted" with online? It wouldn't be to hard for him to hide them from you as he did his GF. You two are LDR. Or he could have replaced them with other girls.
He cheated on his GF w... (read in full...)
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