My Boyfriend's Doberman comes first. It's making me miserable. What do I do?
Q. Hi I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We have a 1 yr old son. The problem is when me and my boyfriend met he had a Doberman but the problem is he treats the dog better than me. He takes the dog everywhere with me. The dog can do no wrong. T...
A. 22 April 2016: If you have already talked to your BF about it and he disregard what you say or dismiss it, I don't know WHAT you can say to him to make him see how you feel.
As Cindy mentions a Doberman CAN be a 1 person dog, not really a family dog. In your cas... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend's Doberman comes first. It's making me miserable. What do I do?
Q. Hi I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We have a 1 yr old son. The problem is when me and my boyfriend met he had a Doberman but the problem is he treats the dog better than me. He takes the dog everywhere with me. The dog can do no wrong. T...
A. 22 April 2016: So why are you still living together? Because you share a kid?
How can this be sanitary with a little one in the house? To have a big old dog piss on the furniture? And let me guess... YOU are supposed to be the one cleaning the sofa, yes?
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My ex boyfriend wanted the truth about his ED. Is ED a good enough reason to end a relationship?
Q. I had closure with my 45 year ex boyfriend last night. The problems around our sex life weighed heavily on this new relationship. Is it a good enough reason to end a relationship because I cant have penetrative satisfying sex? I love making l...
A. 22 April 2016: IF he felt he couldn't give you a "decent" enough sex-life, felt inadequate, then yes I can see why he ended it, or even why you ended it. If both of you felt stressed over the lack of penetrative sex, then again yes.
Sex is not the be all- end... (read in full...)
How do I get over him? Should I try to be friends?
Q. The guy i've been seeing ended things with me and i just cant seem to get over him. We've been on and off for six months which originally started as a friends with benefits thing and eventually we decided to start seeing each other. He's messed m...
A. 22 April 2016: No, don't try and be friends. Because you are not REALLY looking for friendship, you are looking for hope that he will change his mind and want to be with you again. He doesn't want that. AND that is good thing! He treated you like crap for goodness ... (read in full...)
Who is right? Why can't he compromise?
Q. My bf says we always do what I want but that isn't true at all. I want a treadmill, to be able to workout in our apt because I have a lot of anxiety and I also have stomach issues and exercising really helps. So I tried tling him all this, but he ...
A. 21 April 2016: You still seem to think that it's about being right or wrong. It's not. It's about finding ways to coexist with each other. OR not live together at all. I swear my hubby has PLENTY of annoying habits (and I'm sure I do too) but we have made living ... (read in full...)
He’s stood me up not once, not twice, but three times! Is he just unlucky or is he married?
Q. Ok I'm in a little shock right now. I've been stood up not once not twice but three times. I know many will say why would talk to someone who did this to you. Well he was so charming. He would say how beautiful caring I was then ask me out then at ...
A. 21 April 2016: A guy's WORDS should match his actions. As in, if he SAYS he adores you and can't wait to spend time with you.. he should BACK IT UP with taking you out and spend time with you!
IF I were you, not give a 3-4 chances to prove the mean what they say... (read in full...)
Could a man lose interest in a sex buddy as fast as a few weeks?
Q. There's this guy who I have started having sex with. (I told him that I wasn't looking for a relationship. He's fine with that.) So we started to have sex and he was my first time. A couple times he has gone a two weeks without needing to see m...
A. 21 April 2016: He got to take your virginity and now he is sort of done with you, on to the next girl.
Is it because you aren't fun? Or he didn't have fun with you?
Hardly, but there is no challenge for him with you. There are no feelings for you.
You made... (read in full...)
He seems to have lost interest, how can we get the positive energy back?
Q. I met someone recently and it seemed mutual that we were both hitting it off. Looking back at the beginning when we first started texting, the messages seemed more fluid and open between us. Currently they don't look or feel the same. Even though we ...
A. 21 April 2016: I think the issue is, that you somehow expect to carry on a friendship or relationship via text. It's not realistic.
If I were you I'd pull back and GIVE him the chance to step up. If he does, I'd say start planning some dates or outings face to ... (read in full...)
I like this guy. But should I heed my brother's concerns about this guy?
Q. I met a guy on tinder. It turns out that my brother has known him for 7 years. My brother told me he didn't see us as a couple but said that he's a good guy. I'd like to add that my brother is a recovering alcoholic himself and has been sober for 2 ...
A. 21 April 2016: You brother speaks from experience, not malice. And that is why I think you should listen to your brother's advice.
While it IS your life, and your MISTAKES to make, why make life harder by getting involved with someone who has had quite a few is... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about his comment? Makes me worry about his bisexual side!
Q. Last August I befriended this guy. We remained friends until December, that's when we both admitted they we were attracted to each other and decided to see where things lead too. The thing he is bisexual, I have no problems with this because I am an ...
A. 20 April 2016: Being bi-sexual doesn't mean they can't keep it in their pants. It just means that they find BOTH female and males sexually attractive.
Being bi-sexual doesn't mean they have no self-control.
If someone uses being bi-sexual as an excuse to NOT... (read in full...)
How do I handle this? My friend and I have a problem because of our arguments
Q. So I have this 'friend' (we have a very complicated relationship and sleep together), and we have a bit of a problem with arguing. I consider myself to be a very easy person to get along with, and I absolutely despise fighting. Yet for some rea...
A. 20 April 2016: It's a pretty clear case of incompatibility if you ask me and maybe... a little bit of lack of respect for each other's views and feelings.
If she makes you miserable, if this happens OVER and OVER - why keep doing it?
She isn't going to c... (read in full...)
Does anyone else think that D*cks and sex are overrated?
Q. Now that I've been with a few guys I realize how small guy's d*cks are. Like when he's pushing it in, it can kind of feel big but once you get used to it, it's just not a big deal. And long and short lengths don't make a difference. The ...
A. 20 April 2016: This is not really a penis shaming site,so I'm not going to bite on that aspect of your question.
But let me give you a few free biology lessons here.
Penis size have very little to do with the ability to procreate. All the penis is, is a "... (read in full...)
My boyfriend insists on keeping in touch with his ex
Q. My fiancée still keeps in contact with his ex girlfriend by sms. He says that it's only messaging not talking and he only answers her messages. When i asked him why he did it he said he liked giving her hope and being a shit to her. Once when i a...
A. 20 April 2016: Seriously OP? He threatened to have two female friends names tattooed on his back?
I think this IS about him enjoying seeing you upset and then him playing innocent - like he can't understand for the life of him why YOU would be upset.
Which t... (read in full...)
He’s stood me up not once, not twice, but three times! Is he just unlucky or is he married?
Q. Ok I'm in a little shock right now. I've been stood up not once not twice but three times. I know many will say why would talk to someone who did this to you. Well he was so charming. He would say how beautiful caring I was then ask me out then at ...
A. 20 April 2016: You know the saying:
Insanity, is doing the same thing OVER and OVER expecting a different outcome?
That is you in a nutshell.
Are you so desperate for attention and empty flattery that you make up excuses for him?
Why not just tel... (read in full...)
Should I cancel the date? Or am I overreacting?
Q. Hi. Bit of advise needed here please! Been chatting to a guy online this past week, and we are meeting for a date tomorrow. We have both made no secret of the fact we are both dating others at the moment, and he went on a date last night. I pl...
A. 20 April 2016: I think it's ONE thing to date multiple people, (meaning go out ON dates )- but a whole other thing to sleep with more than one person. Or sleep with one person and also dating others... That would be a no-go for me.
I would not want to date a g... (read in full...)
Why do co-workers like to dig into other people's personal lives?
Q. I know these people mean well but I'm not interested in making friends at work. I'm just there to do my job and that's it. I'm not saying I act anti-social. I still talk to my co-workers about gerenal stuff, joke around, But, I don't like to talk ...
A. 20 April 2016: Just tell them that you are a very private person and want to keep it that way.
In this day and age of OVER-SHARING maybe they don't really understand the concept of not telling everyone private tidbits and honestly, that is their problem.... (read in full...)
What can I do? Why does my husband choose to associate with this bad company of friends? I'm feeling uncomfortable with this
Q. My husband's friends makes me feel uncomfortable. We just hit our 1yr anniversary and it seems throughout it all our major disagreement has been about the company he keeps. Majority of his friends are into fraud and bad business. I have checked...
A. 19 April 2016: If your husband's business is above board, why does he need these people?
"he will not stop talking to them because he needs them for business."
To me that makes no sense. No business sense either. Unless you see then as MORALLY bad comp... (read in full...)
Should you ever give flaky guys a second chance?
Q. When I say flake, I don't mean cancelling or calling beforehand to reschedule or calls afterwards to explain the bizarre emergency situation in which he was unable to call. A flake to me , Is someone that makes plans with you. You set the date...
A. 19 April 2016: No, I think it's common sense to not let guys like that waste your time.
Feel free to block them and move on, not give them a second chance.... (read in full...)
Should I hint to him that I want this, or should I leave in the hope that he will ask instead?
Q. I had a drunken one night stand with a guy in my first term at university and we eventually became friends with benefits. This carried on for three months, until we both developed feelings and felt the best thing to do was end things as neither ...
A. 19 April 2016: Poor guy will NEVER be able to read your mind, so IF you want more than this FWB thing, ASK him out. Or tell him you would LIKE to date, go out together, do things together.
If he doesn't want that, well at least you will know where you stand.... (read in full...)
If I don't orgasm does that mean I was used for sex?
Q. I've been struggling with this idea lately. I want to lose my vaginal virginity, but I know I probably won't get off so...How do I deal with not getting off but knowing the guy will? I could probably come from oral...But I still wouldn't be gett...
A. 19 April 2016: Life isn't fair.
That is a fact.
Sex is not JUST about the orgasm. If it was... Women would have stopped having sex eons ago.
Now IF you are EVER with a guy who refuses to do foreplay - to warm you up, so to speak then get up and get dres... (read in full...)
Do I give him a chance? Boyfriend told ex girlfriend he still loves her
Q. Hi I've been with my boyfriend for about 4 months. I know that's a short time but I really care about him and am happy with him. Last night I was hanging out at his place and he went out with a couple friends to go eat. I wasn't feeling good and...
A. 19 April 2016: Here are some links to some of the other posts (some are from the EXES, but it's still the same scenario)
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/should-i-accept-ex-bf-has-a-gf.html
http://www.de... (read in full...)
Do I give him a chance? Boyfriend told ex girlfriend he still loves her
Q. Hi I've been with my boyfriend for about 4 months. I know that's a short time but I really care about him and am happy with him. Last night I was hanging out at his place and he went out with a couple friends to go eat. I wasn't feeling good and...
A. 19 April 2016: I wouldn't give him ANOTHER chance.
Maybe it took him a while to come to the point where he discovered he wasn't over the ex, but.. HE CHOSE to not tell you, so YOU would stick around... just in case.
You know in this week alone, I have se... (read in full...)
If I don't orgasm does that mean I was used for sex?
Q. I've been struggling with this idea lately. I want to lose my vaginal virginity, but I know I probably won't get off so...How do I deal with not getting off but knowing the guy will? I could probably come from oral...But I still wouldn't be gett...
A. 19 April 2016:
The simple answer is NO, you are not being USED for sex if you don't orgasm. But you CAN be used for sex if you have sex with a guy who pressured you or who promised a relationship if you two have sex etc. Or if you don't really want to have sex,... (read in full...)
He cuts me off in middle of me speaking. He said people do it all the time. Is this true?
Q. My boyfriend and I were working in the office yesterday. After a while he had to take over from what I was doing and I sat waiting for him. We were talking a little,but every time I was telling him a story he either wouldn't answer me or he would...
A. 19 April 2016: No need to apologize.
But TRY and start interrupting him, see how HE likes it. It might be that he REALLY isn't quite aware how badly he keeps interrupting. I'd point it out to him that way.
And I DO think that he interrupts because he isn't... (read in full...)
Do I end this friendship with my ex? I'm feeling very hurt and confused
Q. I'll start off by saving for the past 5-6 months I have been in an emotional tornado regarding my ex boyfriend. It has been hell for me, seriously. And I'm extremely confused about everything I was with my ex boyfriend for over 3 years, HE broke ...
A. 19 April 2016: First off, if he still loved you... don't you think he would TRY and work it out with you? WITHOUT having a GF?
Second of all, if their relationship was so boring and bland, why is he still dating her?
No one is forcing him here...
I thi... (read in full...)
Should I accept? Ex bf has a gf, but wants to start over with me as friends and see where things go
Q. I need to start off by saying I am emotionally in a bad place these last few days, and I may be all over the place with this. I severely need help from unbiased views. I feel uncomfortable talking with friends about this. An ex bf of mine (was ...
A. 19 April 2016: I think you know exactly why this is something you are questioning. Because it's not right of him to ask this of you, while keeping a GF. You even asked him point blank and he gave you some blanket statement that you wouldn't be "dating" so it was ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for vaginal area skin to have darker pigmentation that the surrounding skin?
Q. I am a 20 yr old female who is Caucasian and my skin tone is quite pale. This is embarrassing but my outer vagina lips and also the area near my anus is a very dark brownish color. It's several shades darker than my inner thighs and the rest of ...
A. 18 April 2016: Yep, totally normal.
Just like your lips (inside and out) have a different color from the skin on your face, so does your genitals.
If you (at some point) look at a man's genitals you will also notice a variation of skin colors. When aro... (read in full...)
Why would my ex sign my son's birthday card this way?
Q. Hi, This may be a strange question... my son who is 12 today, received a birthday card from his dad (my ex)that was signed with my ex's name instead of love Dad etc. In brackets next to my ex's name he has written in brackets 'your daddy'. He has n...
A. 18 April 2016: If he was manipulative, controlling and abusive when you were together, I can easily see why this puzzles you.
MAYBE, he KNOWS that you would notice it and perhaps he hopes you will WANT to ask him why. So he can get back to communicating with you... (read in full...)
Do you think this short break from each other might bring us back together?
Q. Hi....i would like to thank everyone in advance for replies. My ex whom i adore still rings me most days.....pops in to see me.....helps me with jobs.....we have tea together and his body language suggests he has strong feelings for me. He says h...
A. 18 April 2016: Usually I don't believe in taking "breaks" in a relationship. To me that means people aren't willing or able to WORK through the tougher part and split up instead over and over.. And really... That just doesn't work long term.
In your case you... (read in full...)
Should I still visit my husband after he hung up on me from jail?
Q. Hi. This is a bit of a complex question, or maybe it just feels that way. But here it goes. I'm a 27F married with 3 young children. My husband was arrested and is currently in jail because he made a STUPID decision to help a friend and got wrap...
A. 18 April 2016: My guess is he hung up on you because he is JUST as frustrated as you are. After all... he is the one in jail.
TALK to him face to face.
And BE proud of yourself for stepping up for your family. Independence is a great thing for anyone.... (read in full...)
I'm furious my boyfriend exchanged pleasantries with his former mistress
Q. Hello everyone. Long story short. My boyfriend of 6 years was having an affair earlier with a married woman about 3 years ago. It lasted on and off for about one year so I was lead to believe. I don't think I was ever given the whole truth of the ...
A. 18 April 2016: I agree with WiseOwlE - please read and then re-read his advice - it's pure gold!
Your BF is testing his and YOUR limits. He also don't think he did ANYTHING wrong then, nor now. Which is why he is trivializing it to such an extend.
Sure he... (read in full...)
We've been dating almost 7 months and he wants us to marry and move out of province
Q. I'm a single mom with two kids, a four year old daughter and six your old son. I've been dating a guy for almost 7 months. He is great with my kids and they adore him. Last night he proposed ! I was not expecting it at all and he even said he knew ...
A. 18 April 2016: I think it's WAYYYY too soon as well. NOT because of YOUR ages, but because there are children involved here too who's lives will change a LOT.
And the whole aspect of income and work. If you move there now in the "heat of the moment" can you find... (read in full...)
My wife is secretive about her new massage therapist
Q. Hi, I hope someone can help me, my wife has booked a massage with a different masseur, but she is keeping it a secret from me. Should I be worried?...
A. 18 April 2016: So talk to her?
It makes life so much easier then trying to glean meaning out of little things.
Can be that she is comfortable now (without you there) to get a massage, and there is nothing wrong in that, is there?
... (read in full...)
Our manager has threatened to fire us if we don't close our Facebook group
Q. Okay, so where i work we all have a facebook ‘group chat’ in this group chat there is over 50 of us in this group so basically nearly everyone from work. We use this chat on facebook to organise nights out i work in a casino and the casino is a 24hr ...
A. 18 April 2016: I would check with your handbook and HR.
I could see if you all were ACTIVE on the group Facebook when you REALLY should be working, that it could be deemed inappropriate. And if some people are excluded for whatever reason creating friction... (read in full...)
Why would my ex sign my son's birthday card this way?
Q. Hi, This may be a strange question... my son who is 12 today, received a birthday card from his dad (my ex)that was signed with my ex's name instead of love Dad etc. In brackets next to my ex's name he has written in brackets 'your daddy'. He has n...
A. 18 April 2016: Are you sure HE wrote the card?
Could it be his mom/GF wrote it?
Or maybe he thought that since your son is turning 12 he would word it in a more "grown up" way? By using his name as well as his "title" (daddy).
It's impossible to tell why. ... (read in full...)
My wife is secretive about her new massage therapist
Q. Hi, I hope someone can help me, my wife has booked a massage with a different masseur, but she is keeping it a secret from me. Should I be worried?...
A. 18 April 2016: Why do you think you should you be worried?
Maybe she has heard that this guy/girl is SUPER great and she wants to see if that is true.
Maybe the old masseur recommended him/her?
Maybe the old masseur is taking a vacation and suggested y... (read in full...)
My boyfriend insists on keeping in touch with his ex
Q. My fiancée still keeps in contact with his ex girlfriend by sms. He says that it's only messaging not talking and he only answers her messages. When i asked him why he did it he said he liked giving her hope and being a shit to her. Once when i a...
A. 18 April 2016: His reasoning as to why he keeps in touch is such a crock. I'm sure he also promised her that he would love her forever, that what they have is so specially nothing can break that bond etc.. ya-da..ya-da.
Is it a red flag? It can be, and it might... (read in full...)
Is it bad for a girl to initiate dates? And how to tell if a guy is losing interest?
Q. I have a series of questions I'd appreciate advice on. I want to know if it is bad for the girl to initiate the dates in the start of a relationship or should the guy take charge and plan dates for the two of them? Also how can you tell through...
A. 18 April 2016: I agree with YouWish
Sitting around waiting for a GUY to take the initiative is wasting your time. Why let life pass you by? If he is interested he will APPRECIATE that you ask him out, IF he can't handle a women to ask him out... he clearly ... (read in full...)
Is this older, married man, hitting on me?
Q. Can anyone help me understand what's going on with a older (48) MARRIED man from Church? I used to really like him as a friend/ advisor kind of role to me. Lately I have wondered if he likes me more than he should. When we talk only always rubs my ...
A. 18 April 2016: So even the wife is aware that HE is acting inappropriately? How long do you think it will be till the rest of the congregation knows? And guess who will be the one to get the dirty looks? *hint" it's you.
He isn't BEING a friend to you. He is be... (read in full...)
Am I being a controlling boyfriend?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for almost 6 years and we're finishing up college this year. We go to different schools but love each other so we've made it work long distance. The problem is that she's been partying a lot more. She traveled across ...
A. 18 April 2016: You are not her parent or her conscience. So telling her what to do and what looks "trashy" on Facebook IS controlling. Her Facebook... she can post what she wants.
While you ARE her BF, you are NOT in charge of her life. YOU can talk boundari... (read in full...)
Am I in the way of anothers love story?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for a month now, Its not official yet, he once told me he's fallen in love once, today that love, which he told me he burried texted him and said she still has feelings for him. I feel like i'm going to be left behind. I ...
A. 18 April 2016: He is not done with his ex. They still have feelings for each other and well.... you will be the one to get hurt.
I'd wish him well, cut the contact and block his number. It's only been a month and there is already this "ex-drama" lurking.... (read in full...)
My ex and I talk about reuniting but I can't compete with her current boyfriend
Q. My ex girlfriend and I talk about working things out on a very deep, personal, and regular basis, but her new boyfriend is ten years older, four inches bigger in penis size, and gives her drugs. She says she wants to get back with me and as soon ...
A. 18 April 2016: I think you need to re-think this reunite thing again. IF she was REALLY keen about getting back to you and HI she wouldn't let this guy distract her.
I think she is playing games, with BOTH of you. She is using YOU to make the BF jealous and she ... (read in full...)
Is this older, married man, hitting on me?
Q. Can anyone help me understand what's going on with a older (48) MARRIED man from Church? I used to really like him as a friend/ advisor kind of role to me. Lately I have wondered if he likes me more than he should. When we talk only always rubs my ...
A. 17 April 2016: It can be he is just being kind, it can be that he hopes to "catch" your eye. But it really doesn't matter, as he is married and you aren't interested.
Could be that he thinks he is being charming and helpful, and isn't aware that the creepome... (read in full...)
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