Does this woman have stalker tendencies?
Q. I'll get straight to it. I have had the same woman pop up at my apartment because she couldn't reach me via phone, deny me the previously enjoyed privilege of caressing her butt and after months of no communication, send me a birthday text. ...
A. 6 September 2016: It's not rude to be blunt (for the most part) so I wouldn't feel bad about that.
She probably WAS hoping for a guy who would give her whatever she asked for. Or she was testing your limits, either way, good for you to be honest with her and cutt... (read in full...)
Was it just an excuse? Or am I being selfish thinking 15 minutes away was not far?
Q. I have been dating a new guy recently and I have no car, so he usually has to pick me up and take me home. He ended things because I was too far away, despite only being 15 minutes away. Am I selfish for thinking I'm not that far?...
A. 6 September 2016: Well, Panda
When my husband and I met I was on vacation at a ski-resort in the US, I didn't think we had a future because there was 8,000 km (4900 miles) between us.
Yet, here we are almost 20 years later. Where there is a will, there is a... (read in full...)
How the people around us influence our emotional growth
Q. How important is who you surround yourself with? I firmly have always been influenced by who my friends are and who is around me. I obviously hold on to the friends that matter and I continue to connect with. But is keep friends who you had prev...
A. 5 September 2016: I think it's always best to stick to having positive people around you and not too many negative.... BUT it comes down to authenticity too.
To bring up your example of Johnny Depp... AFTER all the shit hit the fan with his soon to be ex wife... ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to change who who we are?
Q. My friend has a theory that people never change, he says he thinks that people have this illusion that they change but actually your core stays the exact same. Another thinks people can make small changes in who they are. I believe someone can chan...
A. 5 September 2016: What your friend base their OWN PERSONAL opinion on, is THEIR life experiences, just like YOU judge yours on YOUR life experiences. No two people have the exactly the same experience through life.
That is why... different folks - differen... (read in full...)
How can I heal this relationship? Should I stop texting him and treat this as a break-up?
Q. Hi all. Will try to make this as short as I can. My one year boyfriend recently told me he feels stressed when we meet up and he needs time to think carefully about what to do next. He made it clear he is leaning towards breaking up for his decis...
A. 5 September 2016: "He also said he felt it was too sudden and felt weird to just cut all intimacy while he considers his decision."
Wow.... what a selfish statement right there!
He wants to still have sex, but not REALLY be in a relationship, not ha... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to give me a rim job
Q. My boyfriend insists on giving me a rim job !! He has given me oral before but not a rim job. He says he loves my ass and wants to put his tongue in it. Can anyone else tell me about how this feels ?? ...
A. 5 September 2016: I can't tell you because I don't know. For me the butt is an exit only and not a sexual orifice. Others may think differently and that is OK.
If you want to try it, go for it. JUST for goodness same don't let him lick you in other parts afterwar... (read in full...)
What's his game? Why did he phone me after all his did in the past?
Q. My ex and I broke up over 8 months ago because he kept on registering on dating sites, after me giving him chance after chance. It was not long before he had met someone else. I stayed on my own. He has now got in touch because he has broke up...
A. 5 September 2016: My advice? wish him well and then him block him.
He isn't LOOKING to be friends with you and he hasn't changed. He just knows that you are still single and would possibly be willing to re-start things. He is playing the "friends" thing in hopes th... (read in full...)
Should I end the weird FWB relationship I'm in?
Q. So I don't really know what to do. I'm to the point I'm just about to ghost and say enough is enough. I've got this weird Fwb relationship for roughly a year. 90% of the time, I'll know what to expect from her. The other 10% she just baffles me....
A. 5 September 2016: You aren't a priority in her life, you a FWB.
If you still like her as a friend, call her up, sit her down and talk to her. Why not DROP the B (benefit aka the sex) part and go back to being friends only.
A "true" FWB is basically conven... (read in full...)
We argued. I sent apology. No reply. Do I give her more time alone?
Q. Been with my girlfriend for 4 years. After a major argument over the phone. Finished with her saying that she has had enough and then after the call she texted me to say "please don't come back here tonight". So for the last few days ive stayed a...
A. 4 September 2016: Leave her be, however... if you two SHARE a place... it's your home too. IF it's her apartment and you have stuff there call her and ask when you can come pick them up.
If it's a SHARED house (as in you rented it together) she can't really TELL ... (read in full...)
Was I in the wrong at all here? Should I complain? Should I leave a bad review?
Q. Hi all! Some advice needed please. I've been going to this beauty salon for almost 3 years and they have a very strict policy whereby if you give less than 24 hours notice to cancel your appointment, you are fully charged. I have no problem...
A. 4 September 2016: OH yes you DEFINITELY call and complain to head office. First of all NO salon should have their phone go to voicemail during business hours, THAT is BAD BAD service. You should have plenty of proof on your phone that you called and tried to ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to rush. I really like him and want this to go somewhere. What can I do?
Q. I've been talking to this guy since December 2015. We have been on two date and speak pretty much every day. He works away offshore so it's hard to meet up with his as he is often away. Part of me wants to ask him what are we? As it has been s...
A. 4 September 2016: I think the taking things slow is a great approach... but ...
I definitely think after 9 months it's PERFECTLY OK to ask, what you are, where you stand. Even with only 2 dates.
However.... if you two have only met up twice in 9 months is this r... (read in full...)
My partner has become evasive. I gave him his marching orders but he wanted to stay. It was too late?
Q. Recently my partner has been going to a new church but he is evasive about where this church is or what it is called. Previously we used to go to church together. Yesterday he went to a church party which was apparently for one hour in the afte...
A. 4 September 2016: I agree with Aidan.
He wants to stay because it's convenient FOR HIM, not because he cares. If he can't share which church he is going to with his PARTNER, what good is that relationship? It's SUCH a small thing IMHO. He wants to belong to a chu... (read in full...)
My ex has contacted me. What might his motives be? How should I take this?
Q. so my ex and i are both in the military but are deployed to different places. we broke up a little while before deployment and went a month and some change with no contact. i broke up with him by the way. he of course was the one to reach back ou...
A. 4 September 2016: Maybe he knows how hard deployments can be and want to be there as support and have you as his support in return.
If you are interested in more than friendship, I'd take it slow and see what happens - a deployment is no place to figure that out... (read in full...)
How do I seduce my female college professor?
Q. I honestly think this is fate. I'm a college freshman, I was dreading my 4hr class with a professor I heard was tough and moody. I get to class and it's this young beautiful short girl with big curly hair. I immediately raise my hand and tell her ...
A. 3 September 2016: She is your teacher. She is there to teach. Not for you to hit on or hope to get a fling or whatnot with.
Use your common sense, girl.... (read in full...)
Our families are not blending. Is it time to move on?
Q. Help!! My partner and I live with our 5 kids. Two from his previous relationship three from mine. He's very bias towards his kids and I'm scared its damaging my kids. Two of my kids spend half the week with their dad and I was on my own with the ...
A. 3 September 2016: I'm sorry it didn't work out, but in the end THIS is better for you AND your daughter.
People who talk about wanting to change, don't. He is only telling you that to placate you. And I think you know that.
I'd honestly wish him well and block h... (read in full...)
Why would he do this? I've been faithful while he's been cheating. What do I need to do?
Q. This is not my first time on this site. Finally I made the decision to end a long term relationship that was awful. I had discovered my ex had been having online sexual chats with his ex, I left. After many ''I'm sorry's and she means nothing, I...
A. 3 September 2016: He doesn't care about hurting you because he doesn't think what he did was wrong, EVEN after seeing how it hurt you.
He wants to do whatever he feels like, and he thinks you should just suck it up.
In short...He doesn't care about you as dee... (read in full...)
We exchange texts regularly, but he hasn't yet asked me to meet outside work. Do I wait for him to ask me out?
Q. I met this guy through work and he had just came out of a long term relationship and we had been texting and then went on a date and he kissed me, but afterwards he avoided meeting up and he stopped texting me. He eventually told me it was beca...
A. 3 September 2016: If I were you I'd back away now.
He still isn't over her and you are a convenient rebound. The fact that HE seems utterly in change of everything, communications etc, makes it a bit uneven, don't you think?
Keep flirting out of the texting, reg... (read in full...)
How can I heal this relationship? Should I stop texting him and treat this as a break-up?
Q. Hi all. Will try to make this as short as I can. My one year boyfriend recently told me he feels stressed when we meet up and he needs time to think carefully about what to do next. He made it clear he is leaning towards breaking up for his decis...
A. 3 September 2016: I would decide within myself if I SEE a future here or not. And from the little you have written... I'm leaning more to not.
When people feel they need a "break" in a relationship it's usually because they WANT a break up, but they are wavering... (read in full...)
Frustrated by lack of libido
Q. ok I'm 81. Married but wife no longer able (because of illness ) not able to have sex. I used to be able to masterbate but now I can't get excited enough to get hard to accomplish. I take lots of medication. Any thing I can take that won't interfere ...
A. 2 September 2016: Best thing you can do is go talk to your doctor.
He/She will know what you can take that doesn't interfere with your regular meds. Viagra is NOT safe unless you CLEAR it with your doctor.
There is no magical remedy you can take that will give y... (read in full...)
Does this woman have stalker tendencies?
Q. I'll get straight to it. I have had the same woman pop up at my apartment because she couldn't reach me via phone, deny me the previously enjoyed privilege of caressing her butt and after months of no communication, send me a birthday text. ...
A. 2 September 2016: Is she a potential stalker?
Honestly? It could be. If she "claims" she wants nothing from you, but hang out.
BUT it could also be that SHE thinks you two are becoming friends and let's face it, FRIENDS hang out. Friends visit each other. She ... (read in full...)
I just found out that the LDR guy I'd been dating is married and has a kid. I've blocked him but should I give him a chance to explain?
Q. Dear Cupid, I found out yesterday that the guy I’m with is married and has a child. I blocked him in wechat and whatsapp. It was such a disastrous feeling with I saw his Facebook of his wife and the child’s photos and not forgetting his we...
A. 2 September 2016: What explanation do you think he can give that would in any way shape or form be acceptable when he is trying to cheat on his wife and kids? AND YOU?
There isn't one.
No, keep him blocked and move on.
The fact that he also went on the offe... (read in full...)
I can't work out his sexuality
Q. Hello. I am curious or rather confused about my friend's sexuality. I don't know whether he is gay or bisexual. When he is around me, he acts very masculine and straight. I catch him staring at women when we hang out. I am 25, he is 32 and married ...
A. 2 September 2016: It's none of your business?
He is your friend not someone you are dating. He is married so IF he has wanted to SHARE the "tidbits" of his sexual orientation, he probably has with his wife.
Why do you think you need to know? Because you are ... (read in full...)
Discouraged he won't deal with his premature ejaculation
Q. I have been with my partner for 9 months and I am in love with him but his issues with premature ejaculations is leaving me frustrated. He refuses to seek help claiming that he has always been like this (he is now 46). He gets hard and he has no ...
A. 2 September 2016: Also if he KNOWS he finishes after 20 seconds WHY isn't he at LEAST making sure you are satisfied? By hand and/or mouth?
He is a utterly selfish lover.
I would be very up front about it, because you WILL start to resent that "this" is the lo... (read in full...)
Ex and I are getting back but how can I get him to forget that I was talking to other guys while we were broken up?
Q. My ex and I are getting back together after being 2 months apart. I am so happy and have always been in love with him, and he feels the same way. Unfortunately, though he can't seem to forget the time we broke up and I started talking to other dudes ...
A. 2 September 2016: Why was it wrong for you to talk to others during the break up part?
I think that is ridiculous.
If he can't forgive it and ACCEPT it, then don't START back up. Because HE will USE that as an excuse for him to do thing in the relationship.
... (read in full...)
My Zumba instructor boyfriend was joking with a participant to stop looking at his butt! Did he cross a line?
Q. My boyfriend is a Zumba instructor. Classes are all women. The other day in his class he told a participant jokingly to stop looking at his butt. He said this was harmless flirting. Part of the job. Hmmmm. I am not so sure about that. ...
A. 2 September 2016: I don't think he crossed a line, personally.
Most instructors of gyms are by nature outgoing and flirty. Male AND female.
Even if his whole class KNOWS he has a GF, it might not stop many of the women for still wanting banter and attention.
... (read in full...)
What is my Bf trying to achieve? Why would my Bf make up lies about my gay GF?
Q. I went out of town for a trip of 5 days. My bf has a key of my place and I left a key to my best friend also. My bf doesn't live with me. Last night my bf called me and said that he wanted to come see my cat and the door was unlocked and he ...
A. 1 September 2016: He said, she said.. this one is tough. Because they BOTH could have reasons to lie to you.
Her, for meeting up with someone and having sex at your place..
Him, to paint her in a bad light.
What you could do is invite then BOTH over for dinne... (read in full...)
How can I make new friends? My best friend is distancing herself from me as she has a new friend.
Q. Well i have a best friend who ive been best friends with for around 10 years. We have been really close. We go to different schools. A few months ago she became friends with a girl lets say her name is N My friend lets say her name is L, doesn...
A. 1 September 2016: You are in school, yes?
So that is a GOOD place to start making friends.Start slow and small by saying hi and talking to people. See whom you have things in common with and whom you don't.
Sounds to me like L doesn't WANT to be friends any more... (read in full...)
Is it a big waste of time trying to get back together? Will I be emotionally hurt again?
Q. Me and my ex have began talking a little again.. This is after I text him saying that I did miss and love him and he replied saying that he misses me but there just always seems to be a bad vibe about us and we can't seem to get along. We plan t...
A. 1 September 2016: Who knows?
Chances are you ARE wasting your time. It didn't work before and it probably won't work again. Some people can REALLY like each other and be a REAL bad match. I think you BOTH know this. So don't expect a miracle. And don't expect h... (read in full...)
Is Texting to guage interest a reliable strategy to determine how interested a guy is?
Q. From my experience, I know that texting all the time in the beginning doesn't necessarily lead to long lasting, loving relationship. I have always been able to figure out a guys interest through their texting habits and has saved me time figuring...
A. 1 September 2016: I wouldn't gauge a potential partner on how much or how he texts, but HOW much time he is wanting to spend with me IN person.
Texting is not the end all or be all. At least not to me. I don't particularly like to text. My husband and I use it a... (read in full...)
Now he wants to now "start over and fresh"? what's happening?
Q. So I asked almost the same question before, but some things have changed and I don't know what to do. Im a freshman in high school and there is this guy who is a sophomore. When i was in middle school and he was a freshman, we dated 2 times fo...
A. 1 September 2016: So what he wants is to be friends only? Is that what you think he meant with his "start over" ?
He wants to be friends, you want more?
At least that is what it seems like to me.
If you DON'T want him as JUST your friend, tell him. Tell h... (read in full...)
He's married. Wondering why he acted like that? Was he testing me, or was he seeing me as a potential client?
Q. Hi, I just wanted to hear others opinion about this scenario. I'm single mom, professional and attractive as others say. I am not dating and not interested in dating even after 3 years of my divorce. I always get attention and I don't care about...
A. 1 September 2016: My guess? This is his "spiel" his "MO" with women he finds attractive AND slightly vulnerable.
He is hoping by pretending to go the extra mile the woman will return the favor. So yes, he WAS hoping to get in your pants.
WHO cares about his ... (read in full...)
Cute guy at the gym alternates between staring at me and ignoring me. Why would he act like this?
Q. I noticed this cute guy at the gym that I became attracted to. My wing man helped me break the ice with him, so we had interacted a few times and say hi to each other occasionally. He would stare at me occasionally. He works out with his friends, ...
A. 1 September 2016: Push/pull "method"?
Makes you think he is interested an then ignore you to make YOU more interested. It's a lame tactic some guys use and unfortunately... it works on some women.
Or...
He actually has a GF so while it was fun to get attent... (read in full...)
Why do I get this burning sensation during sex?
Q. I'm a 22 years old female and partially sexually active since i am in a LDR and i get to see my boyfriend 4 times a year, when he isn't around i still masturbate and all but whenever i use a sex toy or having an intercourse with him, i get this ...
A. 31 August 2016: See your GYN - that is a given.
Also, GO pee before sex. USE a condom EVERY time.... (read in full...)
My friend is taking up too much of my time. How do I tell her in a friendly way?
Q. Hey , my propblem is about my friend . i work from home and have a child so tend to be busy but have more free time than someone going out to their work place , my friend doesnt work due to disabilities so has a lot of free time . She constantly ...
A. 31 August 2016: Just tell her, "hey can we cut down the texting, it's too much". It's simple and to the point without being to harsh. The use of "we" kind of soften it a bit.
OR you can put HER number on silence and then answer IF/WHEN you feel like talking... (read in full...)
Our therapy dogs don't get along and my boyfriend has issued me an ultimatum. What can I do?
Q. I have PTSD and anxiety due to sex abuse. It started happening when I was in preschool. My boyfriend has Anxiety and PTSD bc of prison bc he used to be an armed robber and he accidentally murdered his ex. He became a dog handler in prison. He has ...
A. 31 August 2016: Sorry I agree with the rest, Pete is trying to manipulate you into giving up YOUR dog for the sake of his. And that is not OK.
He moved in with YOU.
I also find it strange that two therapy dogs weren't socialized better, but here we are.
... (read in full...)
He's shy and in a class above me. I think he likes me, what should I do?
Q. Hi, I am a freshman in highschool and there is a guy in the class above me who I really like. When he was a freshman and I was in middle school, we were together for a month but broke up because of school and time with sports. This year is diff...
A. 30 August 2016: If he can flirt with you over the phone he can TALK to you in person.
I'd suggest you stop flirting back and just tell him to talk to you when he sees you, that you would like that.
Say hi when you see him around school.
... (read in full...)
Why do I keep attracting married men instead of available single men?
Q. Dear cupid I have been single for some years now but the only men that seem to be attracted to me is married men. Why is this happening to me? Do I have some type of vibe that they figure I date married men? I just don't understand this.I been a...
A. 30 August 2016: First bit of advice I'd give you is to echo YouWish and say, STOP flirting with a guy whom you KNOW is married. You may think it's a fun way to spend you day at work, but be professional instead.
For some people flirting is just fun, for others..... (read in full...)
My ex and I broke up why is he doing this?
Q. My ex and i just broke up i left he sent me pic of woman with engagement ring on why i don't know then he texts me again say hes coming to my house to get something he left he has a lot of nerve why is he doing this...
A. 30 August 2016:
What a passive-aggressive twat!
Pack up whatever it is he "needs" from your house and leave it out on the front porch if possible. Definitely HAVE a friend there with you if you can't.
Seems like he is trying to play YET another head game wi... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has an adultfriendfinder account?
Q. A while ago I caught my long term boyfriend on a transgender dating website, messaging and making plans to meet up with transgender women and men. He was also responding to Craigslist ads and sending them pictures of his private parts. His profile ...
A. 30 August 2016: I'm sorry, you forgave it once with his "proof" but then he is right back at doing it again.
You know, people using someone else pictures CAN'T met up with anyone because they DO NOT look like the pictures so... why even steal them? Why use both... (read in full...)
Are my fears reasonable? I don't want to sabotage the relationship, nor invest emotion and time if he doesn't want what I want.
Q. I met a guy online, we text back and forth everyday, though sometimes it takes hours for him to text back, most of the time he apologizes other times he answers as though nothing happened. We have video chatted quite a few times and each session ...
A. 29 August 2016: Is it realistic that you two can HAVE a relationship? He lives far away, plane tickets are expensive...
So if you two decide to BE a couple... how much time you do really think you will spend in each other's company ? (and I'm talking about IN... (read in full...)
We met online. Am I being irrational about his actions? Should I be hurt ?
Q. I met a man a few weeks ago on a dating site app. He definitely came on strong and we texted quite a lot til I agreed to meet. I am very attracted to hm and likewise. He has some issues, recent divorce, job changes, relocation but seems very hea...
A. 29 August 2016: Yes and no.
It's only bee na few weeks. I don't see that he HAD to take you because YOU were free that night after all, or that he HAD to cancel his plans. Obviously it was a party with friends/family or people he knows well and wanted to spend ti... (read in full...)
Our families are not blending. Is it time to move on?
Q. Help!! My partner and I live with our 5 kids. Two from his previous relationship three from mine. He's very bias towards his kids and I'm scared its damaging my kids. Two of my kids spend half the week with their dad and I was on my own with the ...
A. 1 August 2016: Yeah, definitely time to end it.
While I don't think it's strange that his kids get away with "murder" because they lost their mom, I would NOT accept for anyone to make MY kids feel like crap. Nope, no way.
As for the kids? Well, kids fight... (read in full...)
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