How do I raise this issue with my husband? So that my husband will raise the issue with the girl's mother?
Q. Hi, id just like some advice regarding children as no matter what choice i make i fear im going to upset someone. my husband and i have a son. My husband also still sees his step daughter from his relationship before me. He sees her two Saturday...
A. 7 October 2016: That did clarify a few things.
You husband CAN slowly wean the girl off seeing him, but is it fair to the girl? Just because her mom is a twat? You know what I mean?
And yes, the MOTHER of the girl needs to be the one telling HER daughter. An... (read in full...)
Should I tell my b/f I don't like his haircut?
Q. My boyfriend got a TERRIBLE haircut, it looks ridiculous and I'm not tying to be mean but it's the worst haircut I've ever seen. I didn't tell him I think that either. He doesn't really like it either but he's trying to grow a man bun, and I ...
A. 7 October 2016: Nope, if he doesn't like it, don't make it worse by NOW telling him you don't either. It's hair, give it a month or two and it will have grown out.
If he talks about it to you, suggest other hair styles for his NEXT haircut maybe?
And next ti... (read in full...)
He ended his relationship for me but I don't think I want to date, just want to be friends
Q. I befriended a guy at the gym I initially developed feelings for, but discovered he had a gf. My feelings for him eventually died down. However my friends think that he's interested in me. I flat out denied it. There was a rumor going around that we ...
A. 7 October 2016: I agree, you are not his friend and he is NOT yours. He doesn't see you as a friend, if he did... he wouldn't have ended it with his GF.
Friendships don't work when one person have romantic feelings for the other. It creates a different dynamics... (read in full...)
Losing V card in a hookup good idea?
Q. I've been considering this a lot...I was thinking a hookup would be a good idea. I like the idea because I don't want to be romantic with the guy or see him again. BUT everyone says it's a horrible idea to have a hookup to lose your V card and you ...
A. 6 October 2016: OP statistics show that 80% of females regret their first time and bare 40% of men do.
Why do you think that is? Maybe because it IS more common for a young girl/woman to have sex before she is ready, emotionally at least. And perhaps because ... (read in full...)
How do I win over macho' man?
Q. What is easiest way to turn my macho' husband into a total sissy who obeys my every command? ...
A. 6 October 2016: Yeah, good luck with that.... (read in full...)
Should we move to get away from this woman? How else can the situation be resolved?
Q. My husband is a very handsome man with beautiful eyes and he has many admirers. I am nearly due with my 3rd child and we are both really excited about the new addition to our young family and a little anxious while we wait for the big day. The on...
A. 6 October 2016: If she IS a psycho who has decided she wants YOUR husband, she isn't just going to stop. There is NO way you can control this person.
Suing (or trying to) her for harassment or slander is going to be tough to prove and costly to even TAKE to ... (read in full...)
I can't forget him but does he love me?
Q. A guy who was my classmate said that he likes me .Then we chated almost all over the night for 2 months.He was always online and replied my messages as soon as possible.He shears everything but never tell that he loves me.Now a days he reply my ...
A. 6 October 2016: I don't think he loves or loved you. I think he was honest when he said he LIKED you. He LIKED talking to you.
I think because there is a distance here, he has either pulled back because he sees no future or... he has met a new girl who is close... (read in full...)
Do you think he is selfish? Why does he have double standards over intimacy? Or am I overthinking?
Q. Sorry English is not my first language. I am dating my boyfriend from last 1 year. My problem is related to our intimacy. When the first time we got intimate he asked me will you please give me a blow job i want to go down on you but you are havi...
A. 6 October 2016: Could it be that since HE was a virgin too, he has no clue on how to "give oral" to a girl and thus is making up excuses?
That could be it as well, however.... I think he just doesn't WANT to give you oral and instead of saying: I don't think I ... (read in full...)
I'm hurt that my friend lied and deceived me over a man
Q. I still can't get over my anger and hatred for this ''friend'' who lied and deceived me over a man I was very close too. This girl pretended she was my friend. She said she had a boyfriend, but was hanging round this man (I was close too) all...
A. 6 October 2016: I agree that it seems like information is missing, though I will say this, IF this guy was serious about you and into you... I don't think he would have listened to your "friend" over little stuff, he would either have talked to you or ignored ... (read in full...)
How do you tell your partner you might have a STD ??
Q. I am recently divorced from a serial cheater. I'm ashamed to admit that a couple months ago I met my ex and in the heat of the moment, we slept together. I didn't really think anything of it beyond a stupid mistake, but after speaking with my ...
A. 6 October 2016: Get your happy ass to the doctors and get tested and then in 6 months re-tested. Until then, I'd decline to have sex. Then have a GROWN up discussion with your doctor about STI'STD's.
HPV, herpes, Syphilis, Pubic lice, also known as crabs and Moll... (read in full...)
Why does it hurt and feel like I'm missing ? Why?
Q. Hello everybody, If you have read some of my other posts about me wanting to move on for good and cut the boy who treats me terribly completely, i have finally finished with him completely i think.. Backround info for new readers in caswe you may...
A. 6 October 2016: Fighting for you or making grand speeches about how he will change will NOT change the past nor who he is.
HE is an immature dude dating a 19-year-old when he is 34 because no mature woman would take him shit in a relationship, whereas someone ... (read in full...)
How do I raise this issue with my husband? So that my husband will raise the issue with the girl's mother?
Q. Hi, id just like some advice regarding children as no matter what choice i make i fear im going to upset someone. my husband and i have a son. My husband also still sees his step daughter from his relationship before me. He sees her two Saturday...
A. 6 October 2016: Sorry, it's not your business to tell her he isn't her Dad.
Why are your only options to LIE to your son or TELL the girl the "truth"? Why not simply tell your son that "Anna" is Daddy's daughter whom he sees every other Saturday?
What do... (read in full...)
We've been living together for 18 months and my b/f still doesn't have a permanent job
Q. I don't know how to start this off but a bit of background... I've been with my partner for two years, lived with each other for 18months. We met when he was at university and moved in with each other after he finished. I didn't go to university...
A. 5 October 2016: Sit down, make a budget WITH him. SHOW him how you CAN NOT continue living like that. That it doesn't HAVE to be the end of the relationship, but the end of living together until HE has a steady income.
Find YOURSELF a new living situation (r... (read in full...)
I was offended by the comment my personal trainer made in assuming I wanted to have an affair
Q. Some of you may recognise my story. I met a Personal Trainer who works at my gym. Was not attracted to him at first then gradually got to know a little about him and started growing an attraction. I feel the attraction was mutual as I could read ...
A. 5 October 2016: This is what happens when people blur lines for business or by just NOT thinking. Him the first, you the latter. (sorry).
He is there to TRAIN people, to cheer them on, encourage, to promote the gym AND himself. HE should have STAYED profe... (read in full...)
Has he forgotten me? or is he just upset and stubborn/ getting me back? PLEASE HELP BOY ADIVE
Q. 21 year old girl..met a boy during summer but i go to school in a different country. we were seeing each other casually, i kissed someone on holiday stupidly!! I told him and he didn't talk to me for a week. i kept trying to see him and he was ...
A. 5 October 2016: I think you are not seeing it from his side at all, just yours.
First, you tell him, I want us to be together and then... YOU told him, I don't want anything serious and I don't want an LFR. He is free to do whatever he wants, just like you are... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said I was violent today while having sex. I hope that's good?
Q. My boyfriend said I was "violent" while having sex with him today. I was just really into it. And he likes when I am aggressive and take charge. This is a good thing?...
A. 5 October 2016: You should ask him.
Personally, I don't think violent sounds like a great compliment.... (read in full...)
What is proper funeral etiquette?
Q. Hey guys, thanks for looking :) I've been with my partner for 6 years now, living together for 2. We've had a few problems recently, and my boyfriend has started going out/drinking a lot more with this new group of friends... I've also seen some ...
A. 4 October 2016: You need to respect that this isn't about you.
His grief isn't about you.
He might not want to cry in front of you, he knows she didn't mean anything much to you but meant something special to him.
I'd respect that and go to work or just t... (read in full...)
Losing V card in a hookup good idea?
Q. I've been considering this a lot...I was thinking a hookup would be a good idea. I like the idea because I don't want to be romantic with the guy or see him again. BUT everyone says it's a horrible idea to have a hookup to lose your V card and you ...
A. 4 October 2016: So you want to have your first time with a guy you don't know, who doesn't know you, doesn't know your boundaries, your body etc?
You have no idea if he is "crawling" with STD's, if he KNOWS how to please a girl, if he knows how to put on a condom... (read in full...)
Why does my friend's girlfriend hit on me, flirt with me and then run and tell him?
Q. I can't figure out my friend's girlfriend. When I am at his house and she and I are alone she likes to show me sexy,nude pictures of herself and she's always talking to me and touching my thigh quite often. Sometimes when we talk she tells me things ...
A. 4 October 2016: Come on, OP you can't be that dense? She likes the attention. Sounds like a classic attention monger behavior.
My advice, SHUT her down when she starts, tell her it's NOT appropriate for her to OVERSHARE those things with another guy beside h... (read in full...)
Girlfriend diagnosed with bipolar disorder! Break up?
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend for a year and recently she found out she has bipolar disorder. Now I understand why she has always been hot and cold with me, I'm thinking about breaking up as I'm not happy anymore. She' taking BP medications but ...
A. 4 October 2016: Bi-polar or not, if the relationship ISN'T working, no amount of meds will fix it.
While she hasn't chosen to HAVE bi-polar you don't HAVE to choose to stay in a crappy relationship where you feel unhappy.
Maybe the better choice is for HE... (read in full...)
Does prior promiscuity / lack of self care mean danger in a relationship?
Q. So.... a couple meets on tinder. They like each other, go for "the test". Turns out person A has an STD but makes out like they were just "unlucky" to have contracted it. Person B accepts and tries to move forward confidently. Person B had a clean ...
A. 4 October 2016: I would advice person B to walk away. ASAP.
NOT because of person A's promiscuity, but because of person A's lack of consideration and the level if person A's deception and level of carelessness.
It's NOT uncommon that people in the initial s... (read in full...)
The chatroom guy..are we just friends?
Q. There's a guy I met in a chatroom that I really like.I just want to find out if he likes me likes me.We don't flirt but he mirrors me alot in our chat. He private messaged me the other day and he always tells others in main rooms he doesn't do that ...
A. 4 October 2016: I think if he was genuinely interested in more he would ask for your e-mail or your phone number.
So just enjoy these fun conversations. Don't read more into it than it is.... (read in full...)
We broke up but I still think of him and miss him
Q. I dated a man for almost two years. We fought a lot and it wasn't the most heathy relationship. We've been broken up now since July and surprisingly, I'm having a hard time getting over him. I think of him often , laugh about the good times and ...
A. 4 October 2016: You miss the good times, nothing wrong in that, but maybe when you think of him and those 2 years YOU need to focus not on all the fun times but the reasons WHY you didn't work out. When you constantly try and convince yourself of the "good times" ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend ran into a guy from high school that made me feel insecure. I feel upset about their encounter
Q. Ive been dating a guy for a few months now. He has been very good to me , kind , caring, selfless, all those things. I hate that this has bothered me so, but it has. He shared with me tonight that he spent some time the other day with a guy I went ...
A. 4 October 2016: Ah, what a loser that guy is! To think his opinion of you holds true 15-20 years later or that ANYONE should care.
Honey, you NEED to IGNORE that kind of crap, it's USELESS information, tits on a boar. Seriously, why gives a single F about th... (read in full...)
The chatroom guy..are we just friends?
Q. There's a guy I met in a chatroom that I really like.I just want to find out if he likes me likes me.We don't flirt but he mirrors me alot in our chat. He private messaged me the other day and he always tells others in main rooms he doesn't do that ...
A. 4 October 2016: It means he isn't looking for a GF, I think. What he is looking for is someone(s) to talk to. And that he likes talking to you. Doesn't mean he likes YOU as a person, because he DOESN'T really know you.
IT means nothing to say he doesn't PM peopl... (read in full...)
Why can't I find someone to date?
Q. So about 2 months ago I broke up with my boyfriend. It has been my most meaningful relationship to date, because we lived together. At first it was all a dream. I was crazy in love, we had the chemistry that only happens in movies. And I felt loved ...
A. 4 October 2016: You need to learn to SLOW down, you can't RUSH love or relationships. It's not like Cup of Noodle where you just add hot water and voila! Instant love!
Moving in together after 3 months? Generally WAY too fast. Next time, and I'm sure there wi... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting to their friendship?
Q. Hi, I'm looking for some advice regarding a guy. I'm seeing this guy for 6 months now. We both are in our early 40's, and it's going well, he's honest, tansparent. However, I'm struggling with a few things, and I'm wondering am I over reacting...
A. 3 October 2016: Maybe there is a lot more to the friendship than we can comprehend, given BOTH their backgrounds. Maybe she is a pseudo-sister since he "lost" his own family and the family he does have (brother) he doesn't get along with). So it's a VERY different ... (read in full...)
Is it normal that he's always hard around me?
Q. He loves me and has proven that to me so many times through his actions. I have no doubt in my heart that we connect very well. I wrote a post here before about my boyfriend not taking me out or do special things for me. We spoke about it and he has ...
A. 3 October 2016: IT sounds pretty "normal" for a guy that age who is around a woman he is attracted to and care for. Given that, you only see each other on the weekend it's not strange that he is all over you.
HOWEVER, DO NOT let him become a total "sex-pes... (read in full...)
How do I slow things down?
Q. After only 4 dates, but numerous messages and phone calls, we slept together. Everything is just SO perfect. This guy is truly amazing! I'm 54 years old, and feel like a love sick teenager, I'm falling for him, although trying to hold back and slow ...
A. 3 October 2016: Why do you feel like you HAVE to slow down? Are you not exclusively dating? Are you afraid that if it goes "too fast" it will burn out fast too?
I think you need to identify what it is that makes you think you need to slow down.
Why not let i... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting to their friendship?
Q. Hi, I'm looking for some advice regarding a guy. I'm seeing this guy for 6 months now. We both are in our early 40's, and it's going well, he's honest, tansparent. However, I'm struggling with a few things, and I'm wondering am I over reacting...
A. 3 October 2016: I think this is a guy who is a little desperate to cling on to his youth. If he goes out partying EVERY weekend to party with a bunch of people who are much younger than him. It's (to me at least) a sign of a guy who isn't all that mature. THIS is ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is in debt due to paying some of her adult son's expenses. Should I help her financially? She hasn't asked me to
Q. My gf works in a low paid job.I also work, and earn more than her, but not a fortune.Which is why I pay for all our holidays, going out to restaurants, and most of her new clothes (which she spends quite a lot on). On the other side, I live in her ...
A. 3 October 2016: I don't think you should pay for this. I think IF she mentions the debt, you could suggest that maybe giving her son a timeline for when he NEEDS t o find a job if the "art" stuff doesn't take off - because SHE will not be able to continue to pay ... (read in full...)
I can't date my co-worker but I think he likes me too. What should I do?
Q. I've been working at my retail job for almost 2 years, I am extremely close with everyone who works there and love going to work. Over the summer me and a group of people hung out a lot and this one guy in particular (lets name him T) started ...
A. 2 October 2016: Keep it platonic. If he flirts with you, don't flirt back. If he tries to kiss you tell him no. Maybe also stop accepting rides from him.
Seems to me that he is looking to get into your pants more than to date you. If he had wanted to date you... (read in full...)
Is it worth calling her up after 3 years? Or should I just let it go?
Q. 3 years ago I met a beautiful and smart girl at comic con and we hit it off right away. She was 19 and even though we lived 80 miles from each other, we made it work and saw each other every weekend. We got into a relationship and everythi...
A. 2 October 2016: She is 22 you are in your 30's... maybe that age gap was also part of the reason it didn't last longer than 3 months.
If she was interested in rekindling ANYTHING she would have reached out a LONG time ago.
While you may see her as some "the... (read in full...)
I miss my ex sometimes but am afraid to tell my girlfriend
Q. I miss my ex from time to time. We were together for 4 years. I have a gf and we are honest about everything. I feel bad for not telling her. We have been dating for 5 years. I never use to understand why people kept secrets between someone the...
A. 2 October 2016: Nothing good can come from telling your GF.
But maybe you need to consider WHY you are missing the ex. Is it because your current relationship is lacking? Are you getting a little bored in the current relationship?
Can you pinpoint what EX... (read in full...)
We had one date, thought it went great, but does it seem like she's blowing me off now?
Q. So I met this girl at a friends party two weeks ago. We talked for about an hour and I got her number. I asked her out via text, and she said she'd like to but couldn't that week because of a trip, but said she'd be up for it the following week. ...
A. 2 October 2016: I would block her number. Someone who rather "ghost" you and then when she has no "better" prospects comes back to you... IS NOT into you.
Consider this.... she is a flake with issues, so you dodged a bullet.
On to the next. No more wasting tim... (read in full...)
My ex broke up with me so why is she acting so weird about avoiding me?
Q. My ex was picking fights so we broke up and it ended messy. I tried everything to keep it going. At the time I thought it was completely my fault and I was doing something wrong but looking back now I know it was both of us but largely because of ...
A. 2 October 2016: Who knows what is going on in her head?
But really, she is now an ex, so STOP caring or worrying about it.
My guess is, it's part embarrassment, or she wants to see what you are up to without you knowing, and part trying to seem like she do... (read in full...)
Is it possible for your BF to have a tryst in an hour?
Q. Likely or unlikely? Possible or not possible? Your boyfriend goes to the Home Depot and is gone for exactly one hour. Is it possible for him to leave his car in the Home Depot parking lot, have another woman pick him up, take him somewhere ...
A. 2 October 2016: Jeez woman What kind of relationship is that?
Slap a GPS tracker on him and monitor him?! Are you his probationary officer?
It sounds utterly DYSFUNCTIONAL and TOXIC.
Why are you so desperate to stay with someone you don't trust at all? ... (read in full...)
He was my FWB. Should I just leave him alone, for now?
Q. About a year ago I had a one night stand with a guy i met on a night out, we got on really well and started texting and having casual sex regularly. Both of us didnt want a relationship so we decided to be friends with benefits. After a few months ...
A. 2 October 2016: He keeps coming back because YOU are convenient. He doesn't WANt a relationship WITH you, he just wants to F... you and hang out with you... when it suits him.If someone TELLS you I DO NOT want a relationship, LISTEN to that. Accept it or don't ... (read in full...)
I lost the ring my wife purchased for me. She'll be very cross. What should I do?
Q. My wife left for Paris last week, and instead of going to work, coming home to a lovely empty apartment and playing video games like I been doing, my brother convinced me to hang out with him for the night. When I got there all the boys were the...
A. 1 October 2016: I agree that your story doesn't add up. I call BS.
You don't lose a ring in a fight, necklace maybe, ring no. UNLESS it's way too big and then you could have lost it washing your hands. And if it was WAY big, you would have had it sized or left ... (read in full...)
How can I start talking with her, without coming off as desperate or creepy?
Q. There's this girls I like. Or I should say really like. I've asked my friends what I should do, but the advice they give me keeps on contradicting what they're all saying, so instead, I'm asking a bunch of strangers for advice. What I need help with ...
A. 1 October 2016: Where do you know her from?
School? Work? Some shop?
Next time you talk to her, ask her out for a lunch or tea/coffee see what she says. If she says yes, then she is interested - no, she is probably not.
There is nothing creepy or desper... (read in full...)
My future husband doesn't want to raise a family where I want raise a family. How can we reach middle ground and negotiate a solution?
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and I are the perfect match. We are contemplating marriage early next year which will take place in my families backyard in Atlanta. It will be a small, intimate wedding because we want to take the remaining funds we'v...
A. 1 October 2016: I think this is a MAJOR difference that needs to be settled before a wedding and before kids.
If you two can not agree, then what future will you two have?
It seems to me that HE wants to make all the "family decisions" and expects you to j... (read in full...)
We had one date, thought it went great, but does it seem like she's blowing me off now?
Q. So I met this girl at a friends party two weeks ago. We talked for about an hour and I got her number. I asked her out via text, and she said she'd like to but couldn't that week because of a trip, but said she'd be up for it the following week. ...
A. 3 February 2016: Just make sure when you ASK for that second date that you give her 3-4 days advanced notice.
And I agree, light funny texts would be the way to go.
I think she is just be a bit guarded.
And text the NEXT day if you had a great date.... (read in full...)
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