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What's his game? Why did he phone me after all his did in the past?

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Question - (5 September 2016) 5 Answers - (Newest, 6 September 2016)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

My ex and I broke up over 8 months ago because he kept on registering on dating sites, after me giving him chance after chance.

It was not long before he had met someone else. I stayed on my own. He has now got in touch because he has broke up with his girlfriend and wants us to go out as friends only.

I am tempted but unsure why he phoned me after everything he did to me? What is his game?

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (6 September 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntOh please don't be tempted. He lied to you in the past, he probably wants to meet as friends, get in to your pants and continue to date others. Don't allow him to use you as a door mat. You deserve better, block all his contact details and show him he cannot walk all over you again.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (5 September 2016):

Honeypie agony auntMy advice? wish him well and then him block him.

He isn't LOOKING to be friends with you and he hasn't changed. He just knows that you are still single and would possibly be willing to re-start things. He is playing the "friends" thing in hopes that it sounds more innocent.

He doesn't WANT to be alone, and you are the last person he was with (except for the other girl who ALSO dumped him). My guess is he thinks because you forgave him SO many times you will be susceptible for some charming and maybe some "casual" sex.

You and him didn't work. What he did to you was not OK. Why waste any more time on this fella? He hasn't changed on bit. Which is probably why the latest ex dumped him.

He is a time waster and I doubt he will be a good friend either.

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A male reader, Been there Now over it United States +, writes (5 September 2016):

He wants you as "friends only" because he is looking for companionship (and possibly a temporary friend with benefits) to fill in the time slot until he finds another girlfriend. If you want this kind of relationship, that's cool. But if you don't, stay away from this guy.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2016):

The best advice I could Give is to take few moments to yourself, take some relaxing breaths and meditate on what your intuition tells you to do. If you clear mine the first answer to pop up to the question is almost always likely the answer. Learn to trust yourself, by asking what his game is there must be something in you say that there is something wrong. Or you can set boundries for yourself as well as him to make sure he know's where he stands.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2016):

His latest relationship has ended and he needs another one. It doesnt matter who with, as long as he has got one. Nothing will have changed. Tell him no and change your number, or block his.

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