My online girlfriend cheated on me.
Q. So, my girlfriend and i have been together for about 2 years, because of her age and my age we never told our family the truth...that and we live a thousand miles a part and have only gotten to see each other twice. Well a month ago my girlfrien...
A. 23 November 2016: Sure, people make mistakes. She is young and will probably make more mistakes down the road. And you might make some too.
For me, though, cheating isn't a mistake. It's a choice. Regardless of age. And for me, it's a total deal-breaker.
Being d... (read in full...)
Why would he? Potential date seems too much in a hurry to meet
Q. Hey all . Ive started online dating a month ago and been talking to a guy at the beginning he took his time getting to know me but suddenly he seems to want to meet fast like the world is going to end and he has to cram it in . Im careful and take...
A. 22 November 2016: Could be that he likes talking to you and is eager to see if there is any chemistry between you. I think a month is a good amount of chat before a meeting. Why drag it out?
I think he is interested and that is a good thing. IMHO. I don't see it a... (read in full...)
How do I turn down friends that wish to date me?
Q. Ok my problem is pretty simple - I am recently out of a long term relationship and since I've been single, a few guys I know (old work colleagues, classmates etc) have contacted me via Facebook and asked me out. Unfortunately I've not been attracted ...
A. 22 November 2016: I would just say :" Thanks for the offer but I'm not ready to date ANYONE right now and I don't know if I want to date you as I don't see you as more than a friend". Or " I'm flattered but I don't feel any chemistry between us, so that is a no."
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Did I give this much older man the wrong signals by giving him my phone number?
Q. I made a bad mistake. I have been in the US for few years but don't know much about dating as I moved here with my ex husband.I got divorce 2 years ago and I have never dated here and no interest to do so even I get lots of attention. Here is the p...
A. 22 November 2016: I think you should STICK to your gun and not go to dinner but keep it at a lunch OR meet for coffee. He can "insist" on dinner all he wants, just stick to lunch of THAT is what YOU are comfortable with.
He might WANT to date you, but that doesn't ... (read in full...)
Do I confront her about her ex?
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, I've been seeing this girl for about a month. We were set up through a mutual friend. I've grown to really like this girl. But when we first got together she told me she had went about with a guy who was a bit of a...
A. 22 November 2016: I don't think YOU (after only a month of "dating" can make demands like - don't read his letter and don't talk to him. I simply don't. It's controlling.
Now I GET why you aren't keen on it (who would be?) having some ex-bf looming over the two ... (read in full...)
Sexting and video chat is not enough for me ...
Q. So me and this guy talk but he lives like almost 3 hours away from me, and me and him sext all time but it's just not fun for me anymore... I feel bad because we can'r see each other and sexting is basically all we have... How do I make things fun ...
A. 21 November 2016: I think the initial fun and naughtiness have worn off and that is hard to get back. You two have reached a plateau in the interactions.
I presume sexting is more fun when you are feeling it's impulsive, spontaneous and not a "chore". Right no... (read in full...)
The guy who meant nothing to her in her past got to live out his fantasy while I, despite being her boyfriend, don't get the same privilege. Isn't it unfair?
Q. I guess the question I have is what do I do? About 3 years ago before my girlfriend met me she had sex with a girl while a guy she occasionally hooked up with watched. They were all out at the pub and the girl was interested in her and the guys ...
A. 21 November 2016: OP, your GF owes you nothing sexually.
Let's say you experimented with a male lover and you tried anal and didn't like it. That you allowed this other man to DO that to you because you were at a low point and you were hoping to do it would ma... (read in full...)
I've taken him back 3 times despite him having broken my trust, now I'm pregnant after a miscarriage and I feel he's straying again
Q. I keep taking my boyfriend back time and time again after he cheats on me or hurts me, and I really don't know why. At first I took him back because I generally felt I was to blame. I'm saying it was my fault, but I did a few stupid things at the ...
A. 21 November 2016: You need to rethink your priorities.
He should NOT be on the top of your list. YOUR baby and YOUR health SHOULD be the top ones.
You don't OWE him to stay with him is a relationship that is unhealthy and toxic because he supported you in... (read in full...)
Making love vs having sex
Q. how do you know when your making love and not having sex,...
A. 21 November 2016: I think BrownWolf's description is perfect. I'd just add that for me, making love means you are involved in the act mind, body and soul - you are ALL in. Having sex is well, more mechanical.
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He's so confusing and I don't know what to do..
Q. I am very confused; this is going to sound like a film but im in love with my best friend and I don't know what to do! So we've been friends since January and we've spoken everyday for the past nine/ten months but in September I told him how I f...
A. 21 November 2016: I agree with N91, tell him to stop playing games. And honestly, if you still have feelings for him and he is doing this back and forth thing, I'd stop the contact because it's only making you feel confused and hurt and WHAT is the point in that?
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My online girlfriend cheated on me.
Q. So, my girlfriend and i have been together for about 2 years, because of her age and my age we never told our family the truth...that and we live a thousand miles a part and have only gotten to see each other twice. Well a month ago my girlfrien...
A. 21 November 2016: I agree with Denizen
Let her go, she has a LOT of maturing and growing to do. You KNEW she wanted to be with a girl and well, she did it REGARDLESS of having this online "relationship" with you. Why did she do it? Because she WANTED to and she ... (read in full...)
Hard to read the sjgnals
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, I have a lady fried with whom my relationship was completely platonic.I found her attractive when we first met and she is a good person. We hardly communicate and when we do it's about work related stuff. In the past week, o...
A. 20 November 2016: If she tells you she is feeling low and sad lately why not ask her... "What can I do to cheer you up?" That way you are NOT overstepping any boundaries as SHE can choose to say" Oh nothing" or she can say: " I don't know what do you suggest?" or ... (read in full...)
How do I get this girl back?
Q. Dear All, First time writer and I'm really needing some desperate help. My story. About 6 years ago I met a girl. We went out and nothing ever come of it. I guess I wasn't really in that place at that time. But she held a candle for me...
A. 20 November 2016: You don't get her back.
You blew it. Have some care for her and stay away because it seems the two of you together makes YOU toxic.
Even if you claim to have changed SHE will ALWAYS remember how you treated her and it will mean she will NE... (read in full...)
How can I make co parenting work?
Q. Does anyone have experience in co-parenting? I recently split from my boyfriend, and we have 2 children. Things ended pretty badly, but I've accepted that we're through. I think he's taking it a bit harder than I am, but as a mother, you don't have ...
A. 20 November 2016: Get it in writing.
Decide on joint physical custody arrangement or =a sole physical custody arrangement with a set and firm visitation schedule.
Here is a website that offers suggestions of what to consider.
https://www.custodyxc... (read in full...)
How do people get over being bullied? I can't get over this bullying experience
Q. Hello Aunts. I am struggling to get over an experience which Is effecting my professional and personal life And I wanted to share with you. About a year ago I was working for what id call a "cowboy" firm. Bad accountancy practices, awful manageme...
A. 20 November 2016: I agree, if you have/had good evidence a lawyer could have a field day with this company.
Would counseling help? I think so.
Mostly though if you are sort of beating yourself up for sticking it out as long as you did, you need to stop. Unfortu... (read in full...)
She said she loved me and then completely blocked me. That isn't love is it?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 5 months. By both of our accounts it was pretty much the most idyllic relationship either of us had ever been in. The most we ever disagree about was where we were going to get dinner. We never ...
A. 19 November 2016: Do think it would be a great relationship where one person just cut the other one off without giving a reason? What happens next time she has some kind of trouble she needs to focus on?
YOU CAN NOT have a good and healthy relationship if it start... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want to work on our relationship he just wants to please himself
Q. Hello so i have a question i have been with my highschool sweet heart for 20 years things have not been good lately i have tried talking to him about how im feeling and maybe how we can fix our relationship but he says everything is fine with him ...
A. 19 November 2016: WiseOwlE, maybe OP doesn't believe in marriage ?
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What happened to our relationship?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship. Everything was going great until about half a year ago. Our daily routine for the first two years of our relationship is to Facetime for about an hour and a half to two hours, while having dinner and watching...
A. 19 November 2016: I agree, I think the LDR has run its course.
If he for a LONG time didn't want to spend time WITH you (in the capacity of Skype/Facetime) and then you find that you don't really want to do that either, maybe it's because it's become a more of ... (read in full...)
Why are so many men scared of the real world ?
Q. Why are men scared of life ? ive given so many men chances after they claim so many excuses . they get given 'gold' to say they darent do things and no joke it could be smal things such as meeting up in a pub for a meal theyd rather end things ...
A. 19 November 2016: You post lacks a lot of INFO, OP.
Are these men married men you talk to online? From dating sites? Where do you meet all these "questionable" men?
If they are married men or guys who are "just" playing around online then yes, they WANT the fa... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is too controlling and I feel like running away
Q. I've been in a relationship with a girl for 3 years now. I lost my job 3 months ago. I've been busy Monday through Friday teaching part-time and learning some new stuff. I told her that I'd be hanging out with my friends on a Friday's night. She ...
A. 19 November 2016: I agree with Cindy.
I do think you are leaving out part of the story here.
It really DOES come down to a few thing you left out. If your "Friday night with the boys" is you blowing off steam AND money ( that you don't have as you don't have a... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want to work on our relationship he just wants to please himself
Q. Hello so i have a question i have been with my highschool sweet heart for 20 years things have not been good lately i have tried talking to him about how im feeling and maybe how we can fix our relationship but he says everything is fine with him ...
A. 19 November 2016: So he is playing tit for tat, hoping that buying his "fake pussy" will make you so jealous you will instantly give in, to what HE wants.
He doesn't want more sex from you because he loves you and cares about you - but because sex is nice. It makes... (read in full...)
Long distance friend always says he wants to see me and then goes cold. Should I pursue?
Q. Hello, For the last 5:6 years, I met this guy on a dating website. We were in and out of talk for this time. We would have times we would talk and then not talk for months and talk again. We have so much in common and we both really want to m...
A. 19 November 2016: I agree with N61, where there is a will, there is a way.
Have you Facetimed or Skyped with this guy at all? Or has it been just texting?
Being in the Army (no matter the country) doesn't mean you are on duty 24/7 and never get any time off. So... (read in full...)
I feel strung along. How do I let go of him?
Q. Hey, okay so, I have been talking to this guy for 3/4 years who I met at college. We have met a handful of times but we haven't met in over a year but we still text, all day everyday and have done for 3/4 years. If we go without one day without ...
A. 19 November 2016: If this has been going on for 3-4 years and you have met a handful of times but nothing has come from it, then I'm sorry I don't think anything will (other than being text buddies)
I don't think he has strung you along on purpose any more than you... (read in full...)
She said she loved me and then completely blocked me. That isn't love is it?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 5 months. By both of our accounts it was pretty much the most idyllic relationship either of us had ever been in. The most we ever disagree about was where we were going to get dinner. We never ...
A. 19 November 2016: I'm sorry OP but you really have only one choice here. ACCEPT that she dumped you. Whatever reason/excuse her "friend" gave you , you will have to take it for face value, there is no reason not to. And there is NO point in trying to analyze her ... (read in full...)
Ex took my past and threw it in my face. Does he have the right to do that?
Q. I don't really like to talk about my past because I've done things that I'm not proud of. I spent a few years in counseling. I had a drinking problem and an anger problem. It all stemmed from an assault i experienced, as well as being in an abusive ...
A. 19 November 2016: I think he is a total ass, not just for throwing it in your face but for going through OLD PRIVATE e-mails to look for ammo. I find that a TOTAL deal breaker and it shows a LOT more of who HE is as a person than who you USED to be.
I'd end it w... (read in full...)
Is it disrespectful of me to enjoy my wife wearing something revealing?
Q. my wife and i have been together for 16 years,we have always enjoyed doing things together. She is my best friend,my wife has always been out going something i enjoyed but had to get better at myself and with her help i did. Once in a while my wif...
A. 19 November 2016: Is she OK with it? If so, I don't see the problem.
If she doesn't like doing it but does it to please you? Then... it's a bit of a gray area where I think you should not ask her or do the play dress up at home.
What does it say about you? That ... (read in full...)
Which should choose to attend? Tribute band or the comedy? Both on the same night.
Q. Can anyone advise me on which show to go to tomorrow?. There are two great shows on tomorrow night in the same city. One is a comedy show. The other is a tribute band to a band that I like. I have seen both of them before. I will be going wit...
A. 18 November 2016: I'm with Cindy -go for the comedy show. Laughter is such good "medicine" for the soul.... (read in full...)
What kind of game is my friend playing? She plays hot then cold
Q. Any idea what my "friend's" game is? She blows hot and cold. One minute she is all over me, asking to go out for a drink and a catch up, coming round to my house for a drink, next minute she cuts me dead and I hear nothing from her for age...
A. 18 November 2016: I don't think she is playing games. I think this is just who she is. Someone who isn't super great at keeping up a friendship.
So if you enjoy her company I'd say "mentally" downgrade her to an acquaintance you talk to, socialize with etc. her... (read in full...)
Does this guy have a girlfriend? I'm so confused!
Q. There is this guy who I used to date and have sex with, and all of a sudden, I saw a bunch of things that raise the question: Does this guy have an official girlfriend? -Firstly, he posted a picture on IG with a girl on Halloween and she commente...
A. 18 November 2016: Ask him.
He might be honest, he might lie. The thing is you and him weren't serious, you dated a little you say and had sex.
My guess is, SHE is his GF. The fact that she has met some of his family kind of does it for me. You don't introduce ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's excuse made me feel belittled
Q. The other night my boyfriend and I had plans for dinner. We talked about it in the morning and he seemed super excited about it. Well later on in the morning his friends asked if he could do a boys night in which he responded with “I don’t feel like ...
A. 17 November 2016: I don't think you are wrong for feeling the way you do. I do however think it's quite common for SOME guys to make the GF the "bad guy" instead of just saying sorry, guys I have plans and I rather spend the evening with the GF.
I can't even r... (read in full...)
What is wrong with me I want a relationship but I don't want sex?
Q. Hey Cupids,I'm still a young woman who is truly in to sex with men but I have been single for years and now I want to get into the dating world but not ready to have sex with anymore.I'm ready to travel and just do me but I do feel lonely at times ...
A. 17 November 2016: I don't think there is anything "wrong" with you, but I do think you have some unrealistic expectations. Like FA pointed out...
"I want him to be designed just for me." It's not going to happen. Sorry, to burst your bubble. There are people o... (read in full...)
Everytime I turn around she needs money.
Q. I am currently in a LDR and it has become frustrating how financially dependent she has become. We were in this situation when we lived in the same town, however, I was living at home and didn't pay any bills while working. Now I am living on my own ...
A. 17 November 2016: Learn to say no?
You are her partner, not her ATM.
Think about it, IF you put the money you have been given her over time away in a savings account how much would it be?
I'd be honest with her and tell her you can't afford to pay for her ex... (read in full...)
My ex friend is giving out my number to everyone until I apologize
Q. On Halloween I had a falling out with a couple friends when I got kicked out of a frat party for not paying to get in and they ignored me for the rest of the night. For a couple days after that I was angry at them and just completely ignored their ...
A. 16 November 2016: Change your number.
And if you FEEL like you REALLY do owe her an apology for the party debacle - don't you know where she lives? If you do send her a postcard with an apology.
However, I would NOT talk to her anymore. From where I stand SH... (read in full...)
Do women like men with deep voices?
Q. This girl at work, she's a sweetheart, always looks so positive and full of energy. I've been feeling like she avoids me a lot, so one day I talked to her about it and though she was really friendly, she said that i was a bit intimidating, my voice ...
A. 16 November 2016: James Earl Jones was not picked at random to voice Darth Vader in the original Starwars. He was picked because his voice stands out, it holds power and it can sound menacing and persuasive all at the same time.
Think Barry White? Not exactly ... (read in full...)
Why does my pastor ignore me?
Q. Why does my Pastor ignore me? I started going along to a new Church with my Son's now ex gf. The Church seemed great, pastor was very friendly. Then I had a accident so couldn't get out for a few weeks. I have tried reaching out to him via text or ...
A. 16 November 2016: If I were you I'd go find myself another church. This one doesn't seem to give you any kind of joy, comfort or support.
As for the ex-GF - she might have dumped your boy for the pastor, she might not. However, it really is irrelevant. It is not y... (read in full...)
Can two people who have been in bad relationships with others find love again?
Q. Dear Cupid, I was wondering can two people who have been in bad relationships not together but with other people turn out to be the best couple knowing their backgrounds of relationships and will they need therapy.My friend and I are going to give ...
A. 16 November 2016: I fully agree with WiseOwlE
RESOLVE past issues first or you are more likely to repeat them or a variation thereof.
There are no guarantees in life, none. Remember that.
Having had a bad relationship in the past doesn't mean you can't h... (read in full...)
He is habitually late, and I am VERY punctual!
Q. The guy I've been dating for awhile is often late. . I'm not talking 10 minutes , I mean anywhere from 45 mins to over an hour. I'm a very punctual person so habitual latesness is my pet peeve. I've tried to tell him about this but it never goes ...
A. 16 November 2016: So he is never late for work or appointments, but can't be bothered to be on time with you?
To me, it just says a lot of how he prioritize and OP, you are on the bottom of the totem pole.
He gets mad because he doesn't like to be reminded of h... (read in full...)
I just want to know from a womans perspective what my wife may be feeling?
Q. What does intercourse feel like for my 26 year old wife, who has only been with me, until she started having an affair with a man that we both know from the past... we had a threesome with him, which didnt work for me, but my wife started seeing h...
A. 16 November 2016: I don't think you actually want to know. Unless you enjoy feeling "inferior" over penis size.
Some women like the big sizes some don't. It might be something BESIDES the size that made her cheat on you.
But if you WANT to know, ASK her. Yes, sh... (read in full...)
I want to focus on the now and on the future. But how do you forgive and forget someone who lied to you?
Q. How do you forgive and forget someone who lied to you? My boyfriend lied to me during the first 1.5 years of our relationship. I knew he kept in touch with his ex and I was fine with it, thinking they were platonic friends. But I didn't realize h...
A. 15 November 2016: How was the issue resolved?
Did you catch him and then you two talked about it?
Or did you find out and he supposedly stopped on his own?
Did he know and understand how it hurt your feelings lying to you and going behind your back?
Doe... (read in full...)
Did indulging in a little hot texting make him reluctant to see me? He didn't show up for a date. Didn't text me to say why, either
Q. Dear cupid I was talking on text. we were getting along good and we were planning to go out our first date But he had work over time so when we start text again. So yet it again another date we set place to meet and this time he didn't sho...
A. 15 November 2016: No. I think his wife found out. Or he never planned on meeting up in the first place. A typical TIME-waster.
Some people (men and women) will go online and have fun flirting with people, even setting up meeting and then be no shows because ... (read in full...)
Facebook jealousy is making me resentful and bitter
Q. I saw a question posted a while back similar to this, as I seem to have the same problem. I recently had to deactivate my Facebook account because everyone posting constantly about their wonderful lives is making me really jealous and resentful of ...
A. 15 November 2016: I think you SHOULD stay off Facebook as it is NOT contributing anything positive in your life.
And secondly, look at your life and figure out where you want to go and how to get there.
It's YOUR life, YOU get to make it as good as YOU can.
A... (read in full...)
He is habitually late, and I am VERY punctual!
Q. The guy I've been dating for awhile is often late. . I'm not talking 10 minutes , I mean anywhere from 45 mins to over an hour. I'm a very punctual person so habitual latesness is my pet peeve. I've tried to tell him about this but it never goes ...
A. 15 November 2016: This is who he is and he has NO inclination of changing that. So, you have to decide is that a guy I want to date or not.
Personally, I HATE people who are late for no reason whatsoever. I'm usually early, but I can handle someone being late by ... (read in full...)
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