LDR girlfriend had an abortion then said I wasnt there for her when she needed me. She now won't talk to me
Q. She had a miscarriage .She was bleeding for 20 days,both of us are not ready for a baby.Its a long distance relationship..so she went to the doctor alone..There was big tissue in her uterus..Doctor gave her some abortion pills..after severe pain for ...
A. 13 December 2016: You are still making all this about you. Guess what? YOU didn't have to go through the physical and emotional pain SHE did. You didn't even want to hear about it.
Give her some time and space and either she will be less HURT in a while or she will... (read in full...)
LDR girlfriend had an abortion then said I wasnt there for her when she needed me. She now won't talk to me
Q. She had a miscarriage .She was bleeding for 20 days,both of us are not ready for a baby.Its a long distance relationship..so she went to the doctor alone..There was big tissue in her uterus..Doctor gave her some abortion pills..after severe pain for ...
A. 13 December 2016: I'm an introvert too, but holding someone or just LISTENING is not that hard.
It's not a good excuse to not give her the support she NEEDS.... (read in full...)
Dogs versus the Christmas with family? I'm so angry right now, what do I do? I'm 32.
Q. I'm so annoyed right now. I've invited my parents to my house for Christmas but they've declined because I won't allow them to bring their dogs. They have 3 huge dogs and I don't want them in my house. I cannot believe they would rather sit alon...
A. 13 December 2016: Maybe instead of trying to get your parents to come, have your sisters/BIL/Nieces and Nephews? You know people who might actually WANT to socialize on Christmas?
Take some GREAT family photos if your sisters (et al) show up and print out some for... (read in full...)
Dogs versus the Christmas with family? I'm so angry right now, what do I do? I'm 32.
Q. I'm so annoyed right now. I've invited my parents to my house for Christmas but they've declined because I won't allow them to bring their dogs. They have 3 huge dogs and I don't want them in my house. I cannot believe they would rather sit alon...
A. 12 December 2016: Don't feel sorry for your kids, they will be fine. And while I get that you wish they didn't miss out on their grandparents and your parents didn't miss out on their grandkids - your parents have made a choice to NOT want to spend a couple of hours ... (read in full...)
What should I say? How can I find out where I stand, without sounding annoying to him ??
Q. Hi!! Back in October a 5 month relationship ended because we decided to give each other a little space. On one weekend I went to an ex's house because he was having a get together with a few friends. Sketchy as it sounds nothing at all happened...
A. 12 December 2016: The ball is in his court, so you need to step back and let him decide if HE wants to try again or not.
I'd say if he doesn't contact you over this next week, he is definitely NOT interested in getting back together and YOU need to accept and resp... (read in full...)
I'd like to offer her some money, but not sure how she'll take it
Q. a girl moved into the apartment below me in the same building as me (unit of 6 apartments). she has 2 kids aged 3 and 5, throughout the year we exchanged numbers, talked about things mostly info about the apartment or how to fix something etc. ...
A. 12 December 2016: I agree with Denizen.
Amazon is great for this (as are other websites of course) - I use it to send presents to friends and family out of state and since I have Prime it's free shipping, which is SO much easier than having to package the item, go... (read in full...)
My ex is trying to date my friend and I don't know how I feel about it
Q. Very long story... This guy and I were together for a year and a half and had been friends before that. We ended things last April but are still in the same friendship group so we see eachother most weekends. Since last April we've been up an...
A. 12 December 2016: I have to agree with " Youcannotbeserious' here. YOU need new friends, having "so-called friends" who traumatize and verbally abuse to a point of you needing therapy is ridiculous. (not that you needed therapy, but that you stayed "friends" with ... (read in full...)
I accidentally (kind of) catfished a guy I was interested in?
Q. I was interested in guy who worked the same company as mine..We worked in completely unrelated departments( very minimal work related contact).However, we would to run into each other ,walking in and out in the conference rooms,hall ways,staff rooms ...
A. 12 December 2016: Ah, crap...
EDIT: EDIT:
I wrote:
You can PLAY games with people like that.
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SHOULD HAVE BEEN:
You can't PLAY games with people like that.... (read in full...)
Is this sex?
Q. So me and my boyfriend were both in our underwear just simply rubbing and grinding. No intercourse. BUT, he slid my panty aside and stuck it in but he still had his boxers on... he maybe stuck a inch in but it was inside but not skin on skin. Im ...
A. 12 December 2016: Um yes, if HE stuck his PENIS inside your vagina - even if it was "only" an inch, you had sex. Doesn't make a difference if he was wearing boxer, overall or a Santa suit - his DICK was out of his clothing and INSIDE you.
If his penis was covered ... (read in full...)
Two different guys flirted with me before I found out they had girlfriends
Q. In the past two months, ive spoken to these guys (totally separate) and we have gotten on well. We spoke a lot and the first guy was constantly messaging and snapchatting me. Was going really well, both of us flirting a little bit then suddenly he...
A. 12 December 2016: Why you?
My guess is you are NOT the first nor only girl they have tried that with. So don't think that it's somehow YOUR fault or your personality that makes guys being dicks to their GF (and you).
My advice? Stick to nice platonic chats t... (read in full...)
I want people's opinions on friendships with the opposite sex
Q. My friends and I were having a discussion the other day about opposite sex friendships and dating. I was curious about the different perspectives of opposite sex friendships. My guy friends argued that a woman with a lot of guy friends is unaware ...
A. 12 December 2016: I grew up with mostly guy friends (my neighborhood had only boys my age till around age 12, when a couple of girls moved near my house) I have never asked them if they felt that way. I always kept things pretty platonic and I really never had a ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my new boyfriend what happened to me?
Q. How do you tell your friend now boyfriend you was put in a bad position on a date and dont trust new men around you or talking to you? I had a really bad experience not that long ago and only told 1 person but i dont want to bug them with my probl...
A. 12 December 2016: Amen to WiseOwlE's answer.
Stop playing the "victim" of some misdeed in your past. NOT all men will do what the asshat in the past did. YOU can not CARRY that around and live in a state of "fear" that someone else will do it too!
It's not heal... (read in full...)
I accidentally (kind of) catfished a guy I was interested in?
Q. I was interested in guy who worked the same company as mine..We worked in completely unrelated departments( very minimal work related contact).However, we would to run into each other ,walking in and out in the conference rooms,hall ways,staff rooms ...
A. 12 December 2016: I think the BEST thing you can do is BLOCK & UNFRIEND him and either delete that FAKE account or STOP using it.
You may think it was all fun and games, but PUT yourself in the GF's shoes... HOW would you feel if YOU were the GF and your BF did t... (read in full...)
LDR girlfriend had an abortion then said I wasnt there for her when she needed me. She now won't talk to me
Q. She had a miscarriage .She was bleeding for 20 days,both of us are not ready for a baby.Its a long distance relationship..so she went to the doctor alone..There was big tissue in her uterus..Doctor gave her some abortion pills..after severe pain for ...
A. 12 December 2016: She isn't playing mind games. She TOLD you exactly what she NEEDED from you. And you "dismissed" it and told her the less said the better... Yes, maybe BETTER for you, but not her.
SHE was PREGNANT! Carrying YOUR child. She was UNMARRIED and had ... (read in full...)
How can a single mom find a boyfriend?
Q. Im pretty active, I go to school and work 24 hours a week. I have a beautiful 16 month old son. The dad and me are still ok but he lives 4 hours away. It seems like the only guys I can attract now are guys who already have kids, have been in trouble ...
A. 11 December 2016: Honestly? Right now if all you "get" out there are losers, take a break from dating and focus on your son and being an adult and a great mom.
I FULLY agree with FA, WORK on you. (not for men, but for yourself).
A teenage mom is quite often seen... (read in full...)
Think he used my coat to masturbate
Q. I recently baby sat for a 15 year old boy while his parents went out for the night. He was mainly up in his room. I came upstairs to see if he needed anything I poked my head around his door and noticed he was on his computer looking at porn. ...
A. 11 December 2016: Sorry, anon male I don't think it was harsh at all, had he been 11-12 I might have been more lenient, but 15? I have teenagers in the house (females though) and I find the thought ABSOLUTELY gross that a 15-year-old would even consider jerking OFF ... (read in full...)
Should you take it personally if someone only replies to you when prompted?
Q. If someone only replies to your text messages when you prompt them and then they say have been really busy and don't take it personally... should you tell them that you do take it personally will it look as if you are retaliating, is it better to ...
A. 11 December 2016: I agree with N91
If you have to PROMPT someone to reply, they aren't really that interested in talking in the first place. IMHO
If it's non-important texts I'd personally not get my panties in a twist. If you send a text with things like plan... (read in full...)
Boyfriend bought me a chastity belt and expects me to wear it
Q. I have been with my bf for 6 months now. last week we were out, i was sitting at this table and a bloke came over and we were just chatting but my bf was like super mad and he hates me to chat to any guy. He is such a control freek that way. but i ...
A. 11 December 2016: He sounds like a total dick.
He tells you WHAT to wear, who NOT to talk to and now to wear a chastity belt?! WTF?! Does he think we like in the Middle ages?
He treats you like you have no brain, no sense of self and that HE is somehow superior... (read in full...)
Is it off-limits for a husband to sneak around with wife's best friend?
Q. Is it off limits for husband to sneak around with wife's best friend. Then you find out 21years later about it. Wife's b.f. Was told by the other bf about it when she was drinking ? They played naked in her pool ,while they knew where wife was. ...
A. 11 December 2016: Of course, a husband shouldn't run around his wife's back with ANY woman, let alone HER best friend.
However, it was 21 years ago so there is NO way anyone can change that. It happened and it was wrong.
And while it IS old news, it's still... (read in full...)
He kissed me then the next day told me not to make a scene if he gets with another girl
Q. Hello, Im 16 years old and I really like a boy. He broke up with his 3 year old relationship one month ago, and he is trying to "live" his life right now.He does stupid things but not with the mean way. He doesnt care about others feelings as much ...
A. 11 December 2016: I think the BEST thing YOU can do for YOU, is to work on getting over this boy. You may think you "love" him but he isn't exactly treating you in a loving or even kind way. He USED you at the sleepover - he wanted someone to kiss and YOU were ... (read in full...)
Is it weird to give my boyfriend a personalised key ring with a photo of myself on it?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 years now, living together for 1. We both work full time, and despite being together for a long time have very few photos of the two of us together - and the photos we do have are not necessarily good ones. Anyw...
A. 11 December 2016: I think it's cute. I have keychains with pictures of my kids on my house keys (easy to find the keys in my purse with all the keychains!)
And I agree that you might want to consider a picture for his wallet as well :)... (read in full...)
I accidentally (kind of) catfished a guy I was interested in?
Q. I was interested in guy who worked the same company as mine..We worked in completely unrelated departments( very minimal work related contact).However, we would to run into each other ,walking in and out in the conference rooms,hall ways,staff rooms ...
A. 11 December 2016: I think you are both behaving appallingly.
You KNEW he had a GF and that he was moving in with her, but that didn't STOP you from engaging in dirty talk.
HE KNEW he has a GF and yet this "seemingly" complete stranger on FB he is willing to pu... (read in full...)
Am I settling? I'm 24 years old. Is it asking too much, to want more than this?
Q. I've been cooped up in the house for months on end and he doesn't bat an eye about it. He never takes me out or does anything with me besides eat sleep and watch movies. That's it that's all we ever do literally. I mean everyone works so wh...
A. 11 December 2016: Do you have any friends? Or do you rely solely on him for entertainment and adventure?
Because THIS is who he is. I get that you WANT him to do things with you (not a crazy request) but he doesn't seem to grasp the concept of wanting out of the h... (read in full...)
Think he used my coat to masturbate
Q. I recently baby sat for a 15 year old boy while his parents went out for the night. He was mainly up in his room. I came upstairs to see if he needed anything I poked my head around his door and noticed he was on his computer looking at porn. ...
A. 11 December 2016: Gross.
"boys will be boys" is the WORST excuse ever.
I'd call his mom and tell him. Maybe they need to consider blocking porn of his computer too? But yeah, I would not let it slide. At 15 he should know better. Maybe he did it to see how far h... (read in full...)
Is it time to leave this relationship? I'm starting to feel like a roommate or a good friend
Q. 29 F dating 29 M for approximately 1.5 years. My relationship has been rocky from the start. My boyfriend has always pushed the limit with flirting with girls or talking about them. Last month he texted a girl to send him pictures while o...
A. 10 December 2016: I agree with Cindy, you should have left already.
Yes, he is pushing his limits with you - but only so far that YOU feel like you can't "dump" him over them because he "apologizes" like a flipping 4-year-old who stole cookies from the cookie j... (read in full...)
Is it over? Was he cheating? I suggested that we finish the relationship and he just accepted it, as if he's given up.
Q. Hi i recently started distancing myself from my bf of 2 years as we were having a lot of problems(no intimacy for 6 months been the main problem+talking/flirting to girls online i suspected).. Plus told him after a month of hardly seeing him i wa...
A. 9 December 2016: EDIT
He cold have someone else lined up....
Should have been:
He COULD have had someone else lined up.... (read in full...)
Is it over? Was he cheating? I suggested that we finish the relationship and he just accepted it, as if he's given up.
Q. Hi i recently started distancing myself from my bf of 2 years as we were having a lot of problems(no intimacy for 6 months been the main problem+talking/flirting to girls online i suspected).. Plus told him after a month of hardly seeing him i wa...
A. 9 December 2016: He cold have someone else lined up, he could have felt like you did that it wasn't working out. He might have been biding his time hoping YOU would be the one to end it.
If you didn't WANT to break up you shouldn't have suggested it. You should h... (read in full...)
Is my sexual wish too much to ask?
Q. Dear aunts, I have a gf who i love. I'm straight but a like girls to play with my arse. I just like the sensation. I'm afraid if i ask my gf to try a dildo or a strap on on me will make me less desirable for her. What do you think?...
A. 9 December 2016: I think it's reasonable to ASK, and it's REASONABLE if she declines.
Maybe talk about fantasies together? About what you would like to try WITH her? Ask what SHE would like to try with you?
I agree that IF she is prudish, it might be a total... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend likes to 'be in control' sexually
Q. hey everyone . Ive just started seeing my new boyfriend we spoke about lots of stuff how we like and dislike things in bed . He told me he likes being ' in control ' in the bedroom slight bondage stuff and various other stuff i havent tried . ...
A. 9 December 2016: Good for you OP!
Glad you made your stance known. Part of a healthy relationship is trust, mutual respect and being able to communicate clearly with your partner.... (read in full...)
Was her comment to her girlfriend about the dick pic normal?
Q. my wife got a picture of a dick texted to her from her girlfriend. She answered the text by saying the dick looked really good , once you get that dick you will never get it out of your mind , you can use him just for that dick . I never heard her ...
A. 9 December 2016: Do you have grounds to worry? I'd say no, I don't think so.
I think the conversation was a combination of several things.
1. Female "lockerroom talk" YES that is a thing, and I can tell you from personal experience that SOME women can get in... (read in full...)
He doesn't believe I'm innocent
Q. My boyfriend is accusing me of cheating and I'm honestly not I've even ask to give him a lie detector test, one minute he's down for it then the next he doesn't,he says he knows everything that i did cause he's a scorpio and he's very intuitive... ...
A. 9 December 2016: I fully agree with Auntie BimBim
He isn't going to "let" you change his mind. He is accusing you for a reason. Either to control you, put you on notice, make you defensive or because he is really convinced you cheated.
Staying with him won't P... (read in full...)
Feelings for my late husband's brother
Q. Hey, I am in a messy situation and not sure what to do at this point. I would like to make it less complicated, and I have no clue how to proceed. My husband passed away almost over a year ago from an accident. I was fortunate enough to be lov...
A. 9 December 2016: First off, let me say I'm sorry for your loss.
I'm wondering if this a mutual rebound for the pair of you.
You lost your husband and he is having a recently broken relationship that didn't work out.
So you both are looking for some cheerin... (read in full...)
I'm worried my boyfriend would leave me if his mother told him to
Q. I've been dating A for 5 months now and things have been better than all my other past relationships luckily. I've been thinking a lot about our future, but one thing seems to get in the way, and that's his mother. He's Mexican and his family is ...
A. 9 December 2016: But he is the oldest, correct?
Taking over the role as "man" of the house quite often falls to the oldest. And he takes that job seriously. Make his dad ASKED him to do this for the family? and he wants to HONOR his dad?
Or he is a total momma... (read in full...)
Wants to see another female but why?
Q. Hi there. My boyfriend told me that he wants to hang out with a female friend of his. He's mentioned her a bit in the past - they used to work together - but nothing more. He saw my reaction to it - I was immediately against the idea - and then he ...
A. 9 December 2016: Does this girl know about you? That he HAS a GF? If not, I'd find it iffy too. If she does... Less iffy.
If he sees her as a work-friend or former co-worker only, I don't see what coffee can hurt. Maybe he wanted to hang out with her because ... (read in full...)
I need some advice for a last minute trip to a London gig
Q. Hi. I hope someone can give advice on this trip. I am thinking of going to London tomorrow night to see a gig, but it's all pretty much last minute. I only found out a couple of days ago that someone was selling two tickets for the gig. Origina...
A. 9 December 2016: I'd do a rain check on this gig.
IF it says you need photo ID, then you NEED photo ID - showing up with no photo ID means you wanted HOURS and countless Pounds for what? NOTHING to stand outside and miss the gig.
Find out when they are playing... (read in full...)
I know I should end things but I can't imagine him not being in my life
Q. I've been in a relationship with someone for almost 14 years. We became engaged in 2014. There are so many problems with this relationship it is impossible to list. Starting with alcoholism (him), cheating (him), lies (him), etc. I am no angel but ...
A. 9 December 2016: He is who he is, and you KNOW what he is like yet you STILL CHOOSE to get engaged to him and to LIVE with him.
LOVE is not going to fix him or change him. THIS is who he is.
Getting married will NOT change him either.
This is a guy who wil... (read in full...)
Should I date this man?
Q. Hi everyone, Thank you if you are reading this and offer some insight. I have a colleague at my workplace who I have always been attracted to but have hesitated to pursue much because we are colleagues and I am a not a big believer in work...
A. 9 December 2016: I think it makes sense for you to be cautious with this guy. He doesn't exactly have a very good dating track record AND he is also a co-worker.
Maybe go out to dinner with NO expectation of making this into a "relationship" but as a friendly... (read in full...)
What do you do when your partner out of nowhere suddenly says that they don't love you anymore?
Q. What do you do when your partner of 12 years (wife for 2 1/2) suddenly tells you out of the blue she no longer loves, feels attracted to you and knows without any doubt this is how she feels? I busted her whilst she was on a night out texting some...
A. 9 December 2016: I'd wait til after Christmas, but maybe look into to Citizen's advice and see how you go about selling the house. The boys will be fine not living in a house their parent(s) own.
And then I'd look for new accommodation. I would NOT keep paying f... (read in full...)
Why is my girlfriend crying over what another guy said when I have tried to reasure her?
Q. Few months back, we had a talk about losing weight. She did get upset over it, but it passed and we were talking normally for a month or two. Recently, a guy at school who she talked to called her fat ( either as an insult or for fun). Since we're ...
A. 9 December 2016: People who are NOT happy with themselves or how they look will BE upset with nasty comments no matter WHO says them, be it a friend, family member or random asshat - doesn't matter.
While the whole notion of "sticks and stones" (Sticks and ston... (read in full...)
It's not really a relationship anymore. Do I stay or Do I go?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am in a long term relationship of over 3 years, my man and I have both different careers and are both in University- we do see each other as much as possible. But the romance is dead- I've never been taken on a date, I can't re...
A. 9 December 2016: It sounds to me like you are asking for permission to break up with him and that is NOT mine to give. YOU need to decide if it's over or not. Sounds like it's over.
I'd like to point out a few things here.
1. You have made him VERY dependent o... (read in full...)
I'm worried my boyfriend would leave me if his mother told him to
Q. I've been dating A for 5 months now and things have been better than all my other past relationships luckily. I've been thinking a lot about our future, but one thing seems to get in the way, and that's his mother. He's Mexican and his family is ...
A. 9 December 2016: Well, getting pregnant so soon into a relationship may not be the smartest thing to do. 5 months in you know a person, but not deeply. There are still so many things that will and can surface.
Being there for his mom, being the "man" of the hous... (read in full...)
My partner is dismissive of thngs that are important to me
Q. Hi all, A quick one. My partner and I seem to be bothered by different things (or he's not bothered at all) and it often sees him accidentally dismissing what I deem as important or not meeting my needs. This has lately come to head twice. ...
A. 9 December 2016: My husband is a BIG procrastinator and it DRIVES me up the wall. Seriously.
I have learned in the 20 years together, that if I want things done (in MY time) I might as well do it myself. Given the fact that I also handier than he is, so it works... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend likes to 'be in control' sexually
Q. hey everyone . Ive just started seeing my new boyfriend we spoke about lots of stuff how we like and dislike things in bed . He told me he likes being ' in control ' in the bedroom slight bondage stuff and various other stuff i havent tried . ...
A. 9 December 2016: You NEED to stand up for yourself and you NEED to set some rather FIRM demands yourself.
I'd say:
1. NO filming. He can make ALL kind of promises they that won't end up on the net, but here is the kicker, PEOPLE LIE! If YOU are comfortable LATE... (read in full...)
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