My boyfriend hasn't told his parents about our child
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 yrs I hadn't met his parents till recently and I found he hasn't told them about our child whose almost 3yrs old...how am I suppose to deal or take that??...
A. 2 December 2016: Well, maybe he was worried what they might think if he already has 3 kids. They probably gave him "choice words" for fathering kids left and right.
But it does seem weird that he is OK with having kids, but not OK with telling his parents.... (read in full...)
Should I confront him about this Facebook friend?
Q. hiya everyone i was going through my friends list on facebook this afternoon just deleting contacts i dont speak to i noticed my boyfriend has added a woman who is very attractive and the type he told me he goes for i have looked on her profile and ...
A. 1 December 2016: Really?
It's your job to monitor whom your BF can be "friends" with on Facebook? Are you serious?
So what if she is his "type" - HE might not be HER type. She might be an old friend or just someone he follows for whatever reason.
Inste... (read in full...)
Shouldn't he ask I be included?
Q. My boyfriend and I live together. He has been invited to a wedding of a friend that I don't know. He has not been given a plus one but still wants to go. I feel that as we are a proper couple an invite should have been extended to me. If it is a ...
A. 1 December 2016: Yes and no.
I get your point of view, BUT.... these are friends you haven't met. So for them, it's NOT important to include you JUST because you are dating BOB (your BF).
And he SHOULD be able to do things without you HAVING to ALWAYS be includ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hasn't told his parents about our child
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 yrs I hadn't met his parents till recently and I found he hasn't told them about our child whose almost 3yrs old...how am I suppose to deal or take that??...
A. 1 December 2016: Ask him?
There are way too many variables for me to guess why he hasn't.... (read in full...)
I didn't even ask him anything. He seems shy. What am I meant to conclude from the remark he made to me?
Q. I go to a local university and a shy guy in my class is friendly with me, gets a bit nervous , stares , seems jealous when another guy talks to me. One day while casually talking to me he said " I treat you with higher standards than anyone else her...
A. 1 December 2016: Honestly? He sounds a little full of himself especially for a "shy guy". If someone came up to me and told me that he treated me with higher standards than everyone else, I'd question just how sane he was.
IMHO a person who treats you with a h... (read in full...)
Giving it another chance
Q. Hi guys, I'm in a bad situation at the moment and have never felt so hurt before. I've never really trusted my partner 100% and I was correct for that as I found that he had the intention of sleeping with somebody behind my back which is extremel...
A. 30 November 2016: You can't "work around it" you two HAVE to sit down and talk it out. He HAS to give you a reason as to WHY he wanted to do it, WHY he thought it was OK and whether is he remorseful for that choice or not.
"Working around it" is more of a "pretend... (read in full...)
My ex says she wants to be with me but won't leave her new boyfriend
Q. What should I do? I dated this girl for a long time , we broke up she got a new man and now has an baby she says she loved me and wants to start a family with me but I tell her when shes going to leave him and her answer is I dont know dont ask...
A. 30 November 2016: Let her go, OP
She likes to have you on the side JUST in case new BF doesn't work out. YOU are the spare BF. And think about it, DOES her words of love etc. match her actions? No, it doesn't.
She is totally fine with status quo of YOU still wan... (read in full...)
How do I get over my former friend's betrayal?
Q. Hi, How do I get my lying, cheating friend out of my head?? I was conned and lied to by a girl I thought was a friend of mine just so she could take my ex (we were on a temporary break)! I totally trusted her but she ended up ruining my life, wi...
A. 30 November 2016: I agree with Denizen.
It's harder than it sounds, but you HAVE to let it go. LET them go.
She wasn't the only one who betrayed you. Your ex-bf joined her willingly in that. He CHOSE to believe whatever lies she told, over you, a person he KNEW... (read in full...)
My girlfriend made a online dating profile and when I confronted her she lied. Where to now, with this relationship??
Q. So I found out my girlfriend had made a online dating profile and when I confronted her she lied straight to my face about it and after a little while she finally admitted she made it. When I asked her why she made it she told me she was bored an...
A. 30 November 2016: I think you should sit her down and tell her, that this has actually affected how you feel about the relationship.
Should you stay for the kid? What good would that do? For you OR the child? If you are miserable and SHE is BORED with the relation... (read in full...)
What can I do? I don't want to lose my relationship with my niece so soon
Q. Hi I know this is advice about love but I am writing about how much I love my niece and I think it is unfair that my brother in-law's parents get to see her on Christmas and I don't get to see her during Christmas at all. I help take care of her a...
A. 30 November 2016: Sorry Grandparents usually "trumps" aunt/uncles in the holiday priorities.
Doesn't mean you can do something special with her BEFORE or after Christmas, does it? From what I can glean she is rather little and Christmas isn't necessarily ONE day ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my controlling dad?
Q. Dear Cupid, I feel like my dad is very controlling and it's uncomfortable for me being that I'm a 19 year old woman. He is someone who doesn't like people and has something negative to say about everything. He works from home so he is ALWAYS home ...
A. 29 November 2016: Well, there is the option of moving out. That way you can live your life as YOU see fit.
For many parents, the rule is: "when you live under their roof, you follow their rules".
My guess is he is scared that something could happen to you. T... (read in full...)
He's playing with my head! What more can I do?
Q. Hello. I'm after so advise,I'm very confused I was seeing this guy since 2010 with him moving in with me, anyway 2013 he moved to another place out of town with me saying I think he had met someone else,we carried on speaking never saw each other ...
A. 29 November 2016: Do yourself and you daughter a favor and cut this man off.
He treats you like a revolving FWB - when he wants something he will be in contact, when he has stuff to do he won't.
Why are you settling for this?
So WHAT if he suggested a vacati... (read in full...)
Is my online boyfriend hiding something?
Q. i got this online boyfriend we never seen each other yet been in a relationship nearly 2months we always video call, phone call and chat. we exchange password before in instagram. 1st he trusted me his instagram and i get jealous to the girl he ...
A. 29 November 2016: I think you should just accept that this is NOT a good guy for you. He doesn't care if his actions hurt you, all he cares about is what HE wants to do.
He is an "online bf" so easy for you to end it and walk away. Find someone you can BE with, in... (read in full...)
Is she in the wrong more than me?
Q. I have been with C----- for 2 years, engaged for 5 month. Pretty solid relationship, love her to pieces but our communication is off, she yells at/threatens me to get her point across and I just plain ignore her to spite her. This situation is a ...
A. 29 November 2016: Good grief and you two claim to want to get married?
You are BOTH acting like brats. Seriously.
This is NOT about WHO is the most "wrong" - this is an issue with two people on the BRINK of marriage who both think it's about being RIGHT all ... (read in full...)
I asked him to remove my pics, he said he did, but he hasn't!
Q. Good day, So I've been friends with a guy for roughly a yr plus. He is cool. We talk relationships, future jobs etc. I like our friendship but he wants more and I could tell because he does these things like always tagging me in stuff, texting m...
A. 29 November 2016: You DO know that you can set your setting so he CAN'T see your pictures and thus can't "take" them? Right? PRIVACY setting. This guy is NOT respecting you or your wishes.
Report it to FB again. And KEEP doing it till the pictures are down.
... (read in full...)
I'm 16, girlfriend is 14 ... I am thinking of breaking up because we cant find anywhere private!
Q. Am a 16 year old teenager in High School. Am currently a junior dating my 14 year old freshman girlfriend. We've been together 2 months and its been working out. Me and her have kissed before a couple of times, but never making out. The reason being ...
A. 29 November 2016: Sounds like... you are dating her to have someone to make out with and honestly? She is 14. She may SEEM mature but really, she isn't.
And 2 months and making out is your biggest priority? Talk about raging hormones.
How about you DO spend the... (read in full...)
They're saying I'm too harsh with her little brother who has autism! Advice?
Q. Hello everyone! I need a hand with something concerning my girlfriend's autistic little brother. So this kid is great, I love him to death I have been with my girlfriend for almost 3 months and love her very much, I'd do anything for her. He...
A. 29 November 2016: I think this might not work out for you at all. You can't really change your voice and they aren't exactly telling you HOW to go about being nicer or gentler.
I seriously doubt you have a menacing voice. Seriously.
Seems to me that this family... (read in full...)
He says he is too old for me
Q. Dear cupid, this I been talk to on okcupid he is very nice guy hes59 and I'm 47 we been talk over a month he ask me if move down here if I go out with him I say yes and now he's say he's to old for me but he still wants to move down here he ask me ...
A. 28 November 2016: I agree with WiseOwlE
BE careful here.
And honestly, if he thinks he is too old for you? CUT him lose and wish him well and then block him. It's not your job to find a home for some random dude off the internet....... (read in full...)
We are both still married. Should I get involved with my married friend?
Q. Hello everyone, Over the past few years, I have run into a lot of issues with my husband and have discovered that the large bulk of our problems stem from some physical and mental health issues which cannot really go away. This has taken a toll...
A. 28 November 2016: You know what, OP?
SORT out what you want to do with your marriage 100%. Stay or go and then DO it. Don't sit on the fence and think cheating will help you make a choice.
Sounds like your marriage is OVER, but you are in denial. Your hus... (read in full...)
My boyfriend makes me feel so bad about myself
Q. I don't know what to do, ive been with my boyfriend for about a year now and we've lived together for about 5 months, he's mostly a really nice guy, but he doesn't show me any emotional support whatsoever, i have told him i need him to emotionally ...
A. 28 November 2016: You should take him up in his words. MOVE out, either by yourself or move back home.
Like BimBim said, talk to your parents and see if you can move back in and get back on your feet.
THIS is not how a healthy relationship works. You shoul... (read in full...)
I am his great big secret!
Q. I have been dating a guy 16 years older than me for the last 6 months. He has been divorced twice and have 3 teenage/young adult children with his first wife and a 3 yr old daughter with the second. He divorced 18 months ago. I have 2 teenagers and ...
A. 28 November 2016: I think he is trying to put his kids first. Which I think makes sense. 6 months is NOT a long time to be dating. Even if he HAS offered for you to live with him.
He seems to me to be a guy who makes a lot of promises and who is a man of superflu... (read in full...)
Why was he being so open if all he wanted from me was sex?
Q. Hi Everyone, I meet this guy online February 2016. We meet up in March. We both have 9yr old girls, have stuff in common. We hit it off staright away. We meet up every weekend...days out with our children. By April it got very intease, we were...
A. 28 November 2016: Honestly? I think he was looking for a friend more than a sex-partner. But I don't think he is/was looking for a "real" relationship. I don't think he is there yet.
Seems like he is keeping his options open with you and then this new girl he ... (read in full...)
Is it a bad idea to hook up with a single mother?
Q. Recently I broke up with my girlfriend and now I'm single. I know it's too early to hang out with other women but there is this girl she's 09/10 rating hot brunette, younger, she used to be my coworker but she got pregnant, got married and now she's ...
A. 28 November 2016: Yes, I think you should leave her be. IF she is as good looking as yo u say, she won't have a problem attracting the kind of guy she wants (and sorry OP, you might not be "it".)
Most single mom's I know are not looking for an F-buddy or someone ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me to give another man oral sex.I am not happy with this!
Q. My boyfriend has been pressuring me into blowing another guy and I feel completely uncomfortable with the idea, I have told him this everytime he's asked and now he brings it up in the middle of sex or while he's dirty talking, I told him I'd ...
A. 27 November 2016: If I were you I'd tell him:" honeybunches, I have thought it over and there is NO WAY in HELL I want another man's dick in my mouth for YOUR pleasure,I find the whole idea degrading to me and THAT is not something I WANT to feel or do. IF it's VERY ... (read in full...)
Can't fathom the girl
Q. My girlfriend's brother's girlfriend often pops up on Facebook and talks to me, asking questions and generally being friendly. However, in person, she is very cold. I have only met her once for a week as she lives in the USA and after a year of ...
A. 27 November 2016: My vote?
She is a bit shy and she is trying to not create any jealousy with the BF. Some people are very "chatty" online and in texts, but in person, they falter. I think she is one of those.
Does she chat with your GF too? Or just you?
... (read in full...)
I think I deserve a straight answer
Q. I asked this girl out recently who I actually thought liked me back, given all the flirting, but as soon as I asked if she wanted to go out, she shrugged her shoulders and said, “I don’t know, I have to think about it, can I get back to you?” W...
A. 27 November 2016: You put her on the spot and she didn't know what to say. So my guess is... she is unsure, but more leaning to a no, than a yes.
Her flirting was perhaps in all good fun with no purpose of taking it further than flirting.
Would it just be simpl... (read in full...)
I'm straight and not interested in my female friend, but I'd like to maintain our friendship. Can that still happen after she admitted romantic feelings for me?
Q. I used to have a female best friend, who fell in love with me. Trouble was, I'm straight and had a boyfriend. She got very jealous, and I spilt up with my boyfriend because I felt our friendship was nore important, which made it worse, because I ...
A. 26 November 2016: No, if you stick around EVEN as a friend she will think you might change your mind and love her back.
I'd just wish her well and let her know that you can't offer anything but friendship and that you show she wants more, so you will graceful... (read in full...)
I think my neice is actually my father's child
Q. hi im 67 years old and have this niggling problem i dicovered when i walked in on my father haveing sex with my eldest sister this was when i was 14 my sister see me but dad did not and they carried on i am sure that her youngest child who is now ...
A. 26 November 2016: Do you think anything good can come from revealing it? If not, I wouldn't.
You say they had sex, but I'd call that sexual abuse, not sex. And if your sister never told her daughter, I don't think it's your place to do so.
... (read in full...)
Why is my married former lover so jealous now that I've moved on to someone available?
Q. I'm doing my best to move on from the MM that i was dealing with. He wants to be friends and i first i found it difficult but since i was able to get some distance due to our temporary separation i decided to give a friendship a try. I also have ...
A. 26 November 2016: I think he likes the power he "thought" he had over you. And now that he DOESN'T like the fact that he has no control over you.
Some people (married or not) love having the attention of several people in a romantic manner. Stroking their ego. Whe... (read in full...)
Should my partner go to a family function? They don't approve of our relationship and I cannot go
Q. I am in a same sex relationship for three years now. When i met my partner i came out to my family and friends. My partner was in an abusive relationship and left it to be with me. We were friends for years first. When her family first me me thin...
A. 25 November 2016: She HAS to figure out what is right for her and while you might not like her family and the might not like you, they are STILL her family and some people just can't discard family, no matter how rotten they are being treated by them.
She stood up... (read in full...)
What does my best friend want from me? He is married but keeps asking for a secret relationship
Q. He is married for 7 months. And he wants me to be in secret relationship with him. We are close friends since very long time and back in our college days we used to like each other not genuinely but just like crush on each other. We got so ...
A. 24 November 2016: I will echo Denizen,
SURELY you have SOME sort of moral compass where you know that a "secret" relationship AKA sex or F-buddies is not appropriate.
HOW would you feel if your HUSBAND (if/when you marry) did that to you?
What you two ha... (read in full...)
Should I keep talking online to "her" if I have doubts about "her" ?
Q. I made friends chatting with a 'woman' online. Due to a bug, her e-mail address was revealed to me. (She doesn't know this.) The email address is a male's name. I'm just curious-- what do you think the chances are that this is a woman sharing an ...
A. 24 November 2016: So you probably got a catfish.
IF you are looking to chat with a woman, this might not be one. I'd look elsewhere for that.
... (read in full...)
Fiance issues. What should I do? What needs to change?
Q. MODNOTE two issues concerning fiancé combined. . . . . . . My fiancé a couple of years ago, made some very bad decisions and cheating on me many times as well as lied, hid a 2nd phone to be able to chat with other women, and was sleeping wit...
A. 23 November 2016: Honestly, OP?
I don't buy the "split personality" it's a little too convenient that "someone controlled" him and "made" him do "bad" thing...
I simply call bullshit.
He is a master manipulator, pushing and pulling. When you annoy him or ma... (read in full...)
Should I keep talking online to "her" if I have doubts about "her" ?
Q. I made friends chatting with a 'woman' online. Due to a bug, her e-mail address was revealed to me. (She doesn't know this.) The email address is a male's name. I'm just curious-- what do you think the chances are that this is a woman sharing an ...
A. 23 November 2016: My nickname is "male" - it's what people have called me from I was a kid (for the last 20 year it's been an English version, but still a "male" name). One of my e-mails ( I have two) is USING this name. So in short, if I gave you my e-mail it would ... (read in full...)
Am I falling for the same type of man all over again?
Q. So I've been single for over a year, not been near anyone since and have been working on myself. My last breakup I realised was an entire lie... A lie which ended in a court case for me ex for assault... He should of got ABH if not attempted murder ...
A. 23 November 2016: Your ex-bf hopefully doesn't have a ton of clones out there. So he is not the SAME kind of many, but he MIGHT fit in the same "type" of men.
Can I suggest that you keep it to banter? This is a co-worker and that can make things extra weird. L... (read in full...)
Won't tell me how he feels
Q. Do actions speak louder than words? He my new guy in my life about 5 months is not one for being open about his feelings. I took a break from talking to him because I felt he didn't want to talk about us and our relationship. He said it takes a lot ...
A. 23 November 2016: He certainly wouldn't be the first guy who isn't good at verbally expressing his feelings. And yes, ACTIONS speaks much louder than words.
It would be "easy" for him to fill your head with cheesy lines to make you "think" he cares but unless i... (read in full...)
How much should I be involved with friends' love life?
Q. As I grow older I recognise things that make me hurt and angry. One of those things that trigger me is when good friends stay friends with people I dont think are nice people and are mean, Another is friends dating people i dont like, also when ...
A. 23 November 2016: I'm on the "none of your business". Now if your friend ASK:" so what do you think of Bob?" you can be honest... but they should NOT moderate whom they TALK to, SLEEP with or DATE to suit you.
That would be ridiculous. It has nothing to do with how... (read in full...)
Did he ask me out or was it just a joke?
Q. I got asked out today, or at least I think so. So I want to ask you guys on here if you think he said it as a joke, or meant business. We work at the same building, but not the same job/office. So we typically meet and just talk for 5-10 minutes...
A. 23 November 2016: From what you wrote you aren't really co-workers, you just work in the same building. Correct?
So yes, it can still be awkward if it doesn't work out and it IS something to consider.
And dating a brother's friend? Yes, that can be iffy too. But... (read in full...)
She broke her virginity with my brother and friend
Q. Well this happened Saturday during her 18th Birthday celebration, after I left for the night. anyways she had a threesome with one of my best friends and my younger brother and lost her virginity as well. (they did it about four times that night), ...
A. 23 November 2016: Seriously?
Why give her a second chance? And with someone who actually thinks a 3-some is a good way to have sex for the first time?
SHE had sex with your BROTHER... AND your best friend!
Are you sticking it out with her JUST so you can have... (read in full...)
My online girlfriend cheated on me.
Q. So, my girlfriend and i have been together for about 2 years, because of her age and my age we never told our family the truth...that and we live a thousand miles a part and have only gotten to see each other twice. Well a month ago my girlfrien...
A. 23 November 2016: Sure, people make mistakes. She is young and will probably make more mistakes down the road. And you might make some too.
For me, though, cheating isn't a mistake. It's a choice. Regardless of age. And for me, it's a total deal-breaker.
Being d... (read in full...)
Did he ask me out or was it just a joke?
Q. I got asked out today, or at least I think so. So I want to ask you guys on here if you think he said it as a joke, or meant business. We work at the same building, but not the same job/office. So we typically meet and just talk for 5-10 minutes...
A. 23 November 2016: If he wasn't interested in going out with you, he wouldn't have brought up your profile and he wouldn't have asked you out.
So yes, I think he was sincere.
... (read in full...)
Why would he? Potential date seems too much in a hurry to meet
Q. Hey all . Ive started online dating a month ago and been talking to a guy at the beginning he took his time getting to know me but suddenly he seems to want to meet fast like the world is going to end and he has to cram it in . Im careful and take...
A. 22 November 2016: Could be that he likes talking to you and is eager to see if there is any chemistry between you. I think a month is a good amount of chat before a meeting. Why drag it out?
I think he is interested and that is a good thing. IMHO. I don't see it a... (read in full...)
My online girlfriend cheated on me.
Q. So, my girlfriend and i have been together for about 2 years, because of her age and my age we never told our family the truth...that and we live a thousand miles a part and have only gotten to see each other twice. Well a month ago my girlfrien...
A. 21 November 2016: I agree with Denizen
Let her go, she has a LOT of maturing and growing to do. You KNEW she wanted to be with a girl and well, she did it REGARDLESS of having this online "relationship" with you. Why did she do it? Because she WANTED to and she ... (read in full...)
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