Is AB more important to my Bf than he implies? I believe he loves me. But I only sharing him with AB?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years and some change. When I left for college he became really close with a female friend( I'll call her AB). I do know her but I don't know her that well because we were never friends we just all kno...
A. 29 December 2016: Now you may not like what I have to say, and I MIGHT be totally wrong but this is how your situation looks to me (based on your post).
You said that he knew her in Highschool but they weren't friends back then, at least NOT close friends - howeve... (read in full...)
Messy situation with my housemate...we had sex and were almost a couple and now he doesn't want anything to do with me
Q. I need help! I've gotten myself into a really stupid situation with a guy and I have no idea how to behave with him! I moved into a new place around 7 months ago, sharing with three new housemates. I'd initially thought one of them (a guy) was...
A. 29 December 2016: What a mess.
Well, if you don't want to move out, you really have ONE choice left and that is to ACCEPT that this guy is an immature guy who will woo you JUST enough to get you in bed and after that.... not much else.
You WAY over think his a... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a 69 year old man to have only one topic he wants to talk about, namely his 30 year old divorced daughter. Is it worth continuing this relationship?
Q. I am 54 years old and met a really nice man who is 15 years my senior. He is divorced and has two daughters one aged 34 and the other in her twenties. On our first date he made a toast to his eldest daughters success in getting a promotion. (i...
A. 29 December 2016: I think he is a proud papa, but also a man with little else to talk about. She is the center of his life, the apple of his eye and that will not change. I'd find it a little odd that he only talks about that older and not the younger child at all.
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He is clearly lying, but why does he keep doing this? I don't know why??
Q. I'm so confused!! I was friends with my ex for 3 years and seeing him the last year. The break up was bad as I accused him of seeing someone. He repeatedly denied it but he had lied to me a couple of times previously (just white lies he said...
A. 29 December 2016: You know this guy lies. NOT for your sake, or to protect you (come on OP, use a little common sense here). He lies/lied to PROTECT himself.
So now that you are NOT dating that is something he continues to do. LIE. It's easier for him in the shor... (read in full...)
Can our relationship work? we have a baby on the way but the father of the baby has an addiction. Should I break up with him and move back with family?
Q. We have a baby on the way and he is addicted to marijuana. I had my own personal addiction to it myself but after realizing I was with child, I don't need it anymore. I want my child to have the extra money instead and to use it to benefit as a fam...
A. 28 December 2016: I don't think long term this will work for you. I think you NEED to put the baby first, you already did that when you quit smoking, but what about when he/she is born?
I'd let him know that his "lifestyle" is not what you want for your family, ... (read in full...)
Mom told me I can't see my boyfriend. Should I take a taxi and go there?
Q. I want to go to my boyfriends house, but my mom told me I can't tomorrow! I looked at taxi services in my area and was wondering should I call a taxi and go to his house without my mom knowing and then come back home before she gets home?? ...
A. 28 December 2016: You want your mom to trust you and treat you like a young person, not a kid, correct?
So BEHAVE and start thinking LIKE a young person and not a kid.
She has told you that tomorrow you can't see him, so Skype, call, text him and talk. Find a... (read in full...)
Should I marry a man I don't love? Is it time to settle?
Q. Should I marry a man I don't love? I have a friend who really likes me I told him that I really like his company, I think he's a nice person but there is no spark. He told me that despite the fact I don't love him he would wait for me and marry...
A. 28 December 2016: Why marry?
I get that you don't want to be alone, but to marry someone you aren't in love with or even attracted to, seems a bit cold and calculated to me. What about him? I know you wrote "he would wait for me and marry me if I am not married ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for a man to look at and flirt with women other than his significant other?
Q. Is it wrong for a man to look at and flirt with women other than his significant other? Why or why not?...
A. 28 December 2016: I agree that it entirely comes down to the couple, the man and the intent behind the flirting.
So it's not an easy, yes or no question to answer.
Mostly, I'd say if you would do it in front of your partner and your partner is OK with it, go f... (read in full...)
Did he ever love me at all? Is he a narcissist?
Q. I am here to vent/advice/ any input at all.. I am starting to think and believe my ex boyfriend was a narcissist. and wondering if he ever loved me at all. he and I were together for a couple years "in love" and would introduce me to friends and f...
A. 28 December 2016: He could be a narcissist. He could just be an immature dumb shmuck.
It IS very much in the narcissist MO to do the push/pull - the on/off, to date multiple people and NEVER taking real responsibility for how they hurt people.
That is just ... (read in full...)
No present - what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend of four years did not give me a Christmas present this year. Should I be upset? Because I am. Should I say something to him?...
A. 27 December 2016: I agree with Cindy,
He is a cheapskate. He could have gotten you a gift card to a store or coffee shop, or gone and bought a basket of bath goodies (those are ALWAYS on sale somewhere and can look very expensive even though they aren't). He could... (read in full...)
I can't walk away from my married guy but I can't handle the situation either
Q. I need help to deal with this situation without judgement please. I am having a relationship with my pastor. Well most would say affair but it is more than that to me. I'm 26 and a single Mum and he helped me so much and my wee girl. I ended up ...
A. 27 December 2016: You have gotten SO much common sense advice already and I hope you will read the answers and DO the right thing. FOR YOU and your CHILD's sake.
But my guess is you won't take the advice to heart and follow it. You will continue on this path of ... (read in full...)
Should I delete him?
Q. I have known a guy for a few years who shows me interest and then withdraws. He leads me on and then ignores my messages. The final straw was he acted interested again, ignored my message yet has been on the dating sites. Should I delete him off ...
A. 26 December 2016: I think you should delete and block him on FB and STOP checking his profile.
You know he really DOESN'T care, so don't worry if he "thinks" you are annoyed with him, YOU won't have to deal with this yo-yo anymore so what he thinks is totally ... (read in full...)
Why do some men say things to their partner the man thinks may sound supportive, and yet concurrently they collect pictures of women and porn?
Q. I know this might seem a dumb question but it's bothered me in a lot of relationships I've been in as I've noticed most guys seem to do it and think it's no big deal to lie about it . Why do some men say things to their partner like 'you're the only...
A. 26 December 2016: How does a woman know?
Well, I'd go slow (like REAL slow) when meeting a guy. Take my time getting to know him, his attitude towards things I wasn't a "fan" off, his values, morals etc.
To be honest, I have never been with a guy who would ut... (read in full...)
Ist it over for us?
Q. After, my boyfriend came back from school, he wanted to get in touch with me but I wasn't really available because I was writing exams. After the exams, my boyfriend has been ignoring me for one week (after writing the exams), he doesn't reply my...
A. 26 December 2016: Yes, I do think it's over. He just isn't "man" enough to let you know that he feels that way.
Personally? I'd ask him straight out. Not asking is not going to prevent the relationship from falling apart.
So decide is this a guy you want to ... (read in full...)
How Long Do I Wait? Does he want a relationship?
Q. We have been talking for about 5 weeks now. We are about a 2 hours drive away from each other. We are not in a relationship, just been talking. He has already said he loves me we have sexted and we are planning on meeting up soon. I want to...
A. 25 December 2016: I agree, you two are doing this backward and that is not a good thing.
Sexting is for people who ARE established (IMHO) and "ILY" are for people who ACTUALLY know each other (that means in person too).
You two might meet up and have ZERO chemis... (read in full...)
Why do some men say things to their partner the man thinks may sound supportive, and yet concurrently they collect pictures of women and porn?
Q. I know this might seem a dumb question but it's bothered me in a lot of relationships I've been in as I've noticed most guys seem to do it and think it's no big deal to lie about it . Why do some men say things to their partner like 'you're the only...
A. 25 December 2016: I think some men say things like this because that is what they THINK the woman wants to hear, other men... say it because in THAT moment they mean it.
And then the last group, they don't EVEN compare you to the thumbnails/porn/celeb photos -... (read in full...)
I feel fed up not knowing where I stand!
Q. I met a guy 4 years ago through a walking group. We were both interested in each other but for some reason we never got together. I told him I liked him and he had some sort of anxiety attack and panicked in front of me saying he wasn't interested ...
A. 25 December 2016: I'd let this guy go. If a guy gets a PANIC attack when you tell him you are interested.... there really isn't anything to base a relationship off.
I definitely agree with Auntie BimBim... he is a WASTE of your time IF you are looking for more tha... (read in full...)
Does sending me picture of her stomach tattoo with the bottom of her breasts just visible mean she’s flirting with me?
Q. So I have a friend and we live far apart but we text a lot. I don't know her super well yet but I am getting to know her, I enjoy her company on the phone and she is kind of cute. We often send each other photos of our day to day life. We got onto ...
A. 24 December 2016: She might not be a very modest person when it comes to her body, she might be pretty relaxed about it and underboobs? Really not a humorously big deal.
Would I flirt back if I were you? No. Like you mentioned you aren't into her in THAT way, so ... (read in full...)
Am I behaving like a stalker?
Q. Stalkerish or Nah? Ok so..... I'm curious as to what people think. Grateful to anyone who reads this longness.... I just want to give perspective. I dated someone for about the last 7 months..... He was great, we were great, things were coo...
A. 24 December 2016: I agree you need to stop and let him be. Stressed in life is NOT a good excuse to treat you the way he did. THAT was a choice HE made. Yes, having no job or a new job and having to figure out about a roof over his head IS stressful, but... I will ... (read in full...)
No present - what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend of four years did not give me a Christmas present this year. Should I be upset? Because I am. Should I say something to him?...
A. 24 December 2016: Unless the statement: "You don't have to get me anything this year" have been uttered, I'd be a little upset too. For me though Christmas is mostly about the kids, good food, and good company. Still, a little something under the tree is nice.
... (read in full...)
Does sending me picture of her stomach tattoo with the bottom of her breasts just visible mean she’s flirting with me?
Q. So I have a friend and we live far apart but we text a lot. I don't know her super well yet but I am getting to know her, I enjoy her company on the phone and she is kind of cute. We often send each other photos of our day to day life. We got onto ...
A. 24 December 2016: Yes and no,
Can be she did it for the attention and "shock-value" she KNEW she would get from you.
Can be she is LOVING her new tattoo and want to show it off for any excuse.
I do think it's a bit flirty to mention: "I was going to take a b... (read in full...)
I just found his sex doll, I’m upset! What do I do?
Q. I just found my boyfriend of 4 yrs silicone sex doll. I haven't had a chance to talk yo him about it bc his mom has been in the hospital but is now coming home. I can't hold it in much longer. I'm upset what do I do?...
A. 24 December 2016: Be calm when you ask him. It could be a gag gift or a joke that he just hasn't tossed out... OR it could be his "sex toy" for when YOU are not around.
What exactly is your problem with him having one?
I am not judging you here, I'd be pretty ba... (read in full...)
I've been feeling anxious and I don't know why. I don't know what to do, any suggestions?
Q. Recently this past few months I've been feeling really really sad and I don't know how to fix that?? I am an honours student in university, I have a great life at home, I am well off financially, and I kinda have everything...not to toot my own h...
A. 23 December 2016: It could be a touch of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), you live up North (Canada according to your flag) so winter time there is a LOT less natural sunlight and it CAN affect people. I know it affects me.
I TRY and make a point of going ou... (read in full...)
Should I just move on? I don't want to be in the way of them remaking a family.
Q. I'm wondering if I'm being over sensitive to my boyfriend's need to "play family" with his ex and his children. Every week it seems, on his week's with the kids, she's over for some reason or another. He kept the house, she cheated on him a...
A. 23 December 2016: Yep, let him go.
This isn't a hard one at all. She wants her life back, he wants his family back.
You are no longer welcome around the kids, HOW is that going to work long term? *hint hint* it's not!
He was sleeping with her when he was fir... (read in full...)
Do girls start to like guys if they spend this much time together? Or will I remain as just a friend?
Q. Hi everyone. I have question about this girl I like. Main question is does she like me? Background info about the situation. I have moved to a new country 6 months ago. I met this girl 4 months ago at a meetup. Meetup is where you go meet rand...
A. 23 December 2016: I agree - BAD BAD choices here.
1. even with being roommates this has disaster written all over.
2. she isn't interested and has already told you so (in so many words)
3. you are USING the fact that you live together to try and "creep" in wi... (read in full...)
Is my fiance's contact with his ex's normal? He has been married 3 times.
Q. I'm a divorced woman who was married for 27 years. I got married at 17, so I've had little relationship experience. I've been divorced for just under 2 years now. I have a boyfriend who I just said yes to marrying. What bothers me about my fian...
A. 23 December 2016: The fact that he even brought it UP that it was a problem in the previous relationships should tell you that HE KNOWS it may not BE very smart in a relationship to keep THAT close tabs on your exes.
Di you tell him, Oh no it's not a problem?... (read in full...)
I think I may not be the only one he likes
Q. I'm in love with a guy in my school, that's university.i met him in early September.My problem is, I don't really know whether he likes me just as a friend or more than a friend. Even though he constantly tell me he likes me, holds my hands often, ...
A. 22 December 2016: I agree, this isn't love, OP - you have a crush on him. Or rather you have a crush on who you "think" he is.
He likes to surround himself with as many girls as possible to get as much attention and affection as he possibly can. He likes for girl... (read in full...)
Should I worry that his first love is making contact?
Q. Hi my husbands first love is trying to get in contact with him. He's not sure yet if he will reply to email. I'm not sure how I feel about this,on the one hand I want him to do what he wants but on the other I'm a bit concerned about feelings being ...
A. 22 December 2016: I really think it comes down to WHY she contacted him. IF she knows he is married and she is JUST looking to catch up (for whatever reason, usually nostalgia) I don't think it's a problem.
IF she is looking for a shoulder to cry on after a "faile... (read in full...)
I'm in a FWB. Does his actions seem like he may like me more than sex?
Q. This is a question about FWB (friends with benefits) or a FB (f**k buddy) situation. There is a man that I have this type of relationship with. He confuses me because he is very affectionate with me around his friends, invites me to gatherings at ...
A. 22 December 2016: I agree with Chigirl, if you want more OR less, talk to him.
Seems kind of pointless to make such effort if all this is, is a FWB. But each to their own.... (read in full...)
Why does he ask? Why does he keep showing an interest in my dating?
Q. My friend's husband always asks me about my dating every time I see him and seems quite enthusiastic when he asks. Just before they got married a mutual friend said in front of my friend how her husband wanted to date me before they got together...
A. 22 December 2016: I agree with Youcannotbeserious,
Why he is asking is irrelevant. It's really none of his business. If he had REALLY been so keen on asking you out in the past, don't you think he would have done so? Instead, he dated the woman who ended up being... (read in full...)
I'm not going to stop seeing my LDR Bf because a friend doesn't like him. But how do I best handle the situation?
Q. I haven't been dating my boyfriend for very long. He treats me well, loves me and cares about me. We are long distance, so most of my friends have not met him. The thing is my best friend got offended by what he posted online because he has d...
A. 22 December 2016: You can't please everyone and really, YOU are the one dating this guy, not your friend. She doesn't HAVE to like him.
If she doesn't want to meet him or come to your party, that is fine, she doesn't HAVE to.
If she gets so triggered by what... (read in full...)
How common is rejection for the first ever date attempt in life?
Q. I've been doing a great deal of inner work lately, and I wonder how much it "wired" me when I was rejected the first time I ever asked someone out, at 17. It would help me to know if this is common or unusual. If you are a guy, were you or any ...
A. 22 December 2016: I think EVERYONE has been rejected one way or another. You can't let what happened at 17 continue to shape or control your life.
If you had been the ONLY 17-year-old who got rejected then maybe I can see it's a bog deal, but you aren't. All it i... (read in full...)
How could she have a three year sexual affair with this guy, and still have sex with me??
Q. I recently discovered that my wife has been having a sexual affair with a single friend of ours for the past three years, usually when I was at work.... he is single and has had girlfriends in this three year period..She knew this because he came ...
A. 22 December 2016: I think if she had stopped to have sex totally with you, you would have known something was up. So she was keeping up appearances with you and maybe? starting fights with you occasionally to avoid sex with you?
I absolutely with BrownWol... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to let a guy know you are a cheater?
Q. Dear Cupid,I am a firm believer if you do something to somebody it is right to return what has been done to you.I was in a relationship with this guy for years a little over some years.He would cheat,lie,and make babies on me. I would look past it ...
A. 22 December 2016: You made a "baby" on him as a kind of revenge? Because he cheated on you? Poor kids! Being pawns in some sick little game of tit for that.
If a dude doesn't TREAT you right, if he lies and cheats you LEAVE him. YOU don't jump down in the gutter a... (read in full...)
Why would my guy friend think I should continue to listen to him talking about his past relationships with other women? What should I say to him?
Q. Dear Cupid,my guy friend and I have been friends for a while and we wanted to take it to a next level but today we had a little spat it's crazy to me but it's whatever. Long story short he has a thing for high yellow complexed women and that's f...
A. 21 December 2016: I think you need to listen to your gut and lose his number.
Someone who is so enveloped in his past "failed" relationships is not ready to build a NEW and healthy relationshipPicture this in your mind... you and he are walking down the sidewalk... (read in full...)
What should I do? I feel that he does not want any commitment in our relationship
Q. Dear Cupid I'm with my current bf for 8 months. When we started he texted often, called often now we barely talk during week days. Though we meet on week ends he do his things like playing games (mostly) or reading about cars or watching shows a...
A. 20 December 2016: I think a guy in his 30's whose longest relationship was 12 months is just simply NOT a good BF. Sounds like he is a little stuck in a teenage behavior. He likes having a GF and that is why he put in a BIT of effort in the beginning with texting and ... (read in full...)
How can I stop her spreading false rumours ? How can I get her to fess up and tell the truth?
Q. I had a friend who I used to be close to some years back. I used to babysit her children when she was in hospital free of charge and generally be helpful. As the years passed the friendship changed. I moved to a more distant area and she rarely ...
A. 20 December 2016: You don't.
AS much as it sucks when people are telling lies and rumor about you, you can't "MAKE" them do or say anything.
My guess is she used YOU as the "bad guy" in her little story because 1. you had moved away and 2. to garner sympathy ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend's bisexual behaviour makes me want to call it quits
Q. Hi people! I'm seriously lost in a discussion with myself whether I accept it or not, but already when I'm doubting, I already know I don't... Anyhow. My girlfriend and her best friend are both bisexual and they have had a tight relationship as...
A. 20 December 2016: Definitely NOT her sexuality. THAT is just an excuse that she uses for this "friendship".
My guess is they BOTH want a same sex relationship, but aren't ready for EVERYONE around them to know this. So your GF dates YOU.
Personally, t... (read in full...)
Suspicious of my friend's invitation
Q. If you have a friend who you havent seen for some years but who has made it quite clear that he wants sex with you although not exactly in those words, then it doesnt make sense to visit him in his home does it? I imagine its probably best to not v...
A. 20 December 2016: Go out for dinner, lunch in a public place, IF you want to JUST enjoy his company but not feel cornered to have sex.
Though unless he is a rapist, I can't really see that you would HAVE to have sex with him if you went for a visit. He might tr... (read in full...)
Was it wrong to raise a glass at the graveside?
Q. I am involved in a bit if an argument. A mutual family friend passed away aged 49 from breast cancer. On her 50th birthday some of the family (not her family) and friends took some champagne and celebrated her birthday around her grave. The took ...
A. 19 December 2016: You know graves and funerals are NOT for the dead, but for the living left behind.
I think if ANYONE knew this recently departed it's her "family". And sharing a glass of bubbly at her grave is remembering HER in a way that helps THEM work thr... (read in full...)
Take a job I don't want just to keep in contact with a crush?
Q. Hi I'm Sam and I'm 17 years old. I have been working at a bar in the UK temporarily over the Christmas period. I was hoping that after this temporary spell, I would be offered the job permanently. However at the my shift last night, my boss spoke to ...
A. 19 December 2016: I agree - JUST ask her out. While you might want to STICK to the plan of asking her out in January, things have changed and you need to either ASK her out or let it go. Waiting til January is not going to increase your chances of her saying yes.
... (read in full...)
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