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Is he flirting or is it just banter?

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Question - (31 January 2017) 7 Answers - (Newest, 3 February 2017)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Okay so there was a point I really fancied this guy but then he gave the impression he was straight

He recently snap shot two pics I took and drew a penis on them to make it look like I was sucking dick.... then text" bravo you don't like (the emoji in the pic) but enjoy dick lol"

?? (Winky face with tounge emoji)

"Hope your cool bud"

Is this just a standard joke between friends or is it flirting.... I'm unsure cause of the emoji sent is what I send to someone when I'm flirting

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (3 February 2017):

Honeypie agony auntGross.

If you call that flirting.... then I don't even know what to say. I agree with Auntie BimBim - seems more like a Bully using "joking" as a way to be rude and crude.

Personally? I'd drop him like a ton of bricks.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2017):

I would knock his smirk to the back of his head.

That was not a flirt, that was sexually-suggestive and disrespectful. If not outright insulting!

Send him the the pile of sh*t emoji, and you're even.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (31 January 2017):

So_Very_Confused agony auntthat is not flirting.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (31 January 2017):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntEEEEEEEEEEEEEWWWWWWWWWWWW!

How did it make you feel when you saw it? It would have made ME feel sick if I had received something like that.

I would laugh it off, just so he doesn't realize he has got to you, but perhaps block him from seeing stuff he can "edit" going forward?

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A female reader, Aunty BimBim Australia +, writes (31 January 2017):

Aunty BimBim agony auntI'm with the previous Aunt, its just tacky and really unfunny .... I am not picking up any flirting here, and seems more like the actions of a bully whose idea of fun is to hurt people and then say "oh, I was only joking"

Proceed with caution.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2017):

Hmmm. He could have just been joking. Lots of straight guys have this kind of banter going on.

My question is does he KNOW you are gay? I am assuming you are.

If he does, it might change the answer. He could be a bit flirtatious but he could also be innocently pulling your leg and just harmlessly joking around.

It is hard to tell based on this.

You will need to feel him out more to get more of an idea what he is thinking.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2017):

I'm sorry but I find that so tacky . I don't think he was flirting no . Is he straight .. who knows but honestly that's what you send ?? Sorry again but .. nooo

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