Is something going on behind my back? Should I trust him?
Q. Is it strange for your partner of 17 years not to add you on Facebook when he says it's for workmates ..which is a lie I've never met one person he works with in 8 years has been in the same job . By accident I came across a 3 year old Twitter ...
A. 7 June 2017: Enjoy your vacation!
And don't let him "borrow" your car and house while you are gone! Change the locks if he has a key.... (read in full...)
I don't trust him as he's still active on the dating site, but I really don't want to end the relationship!
Q. We met online dating site. Agreed to close accounts once established relationship. He agrees exclusively, yet is still active on dating site! He denies any chatting or meetingsd x but refuses to close the account. . I was with him when he recieved a ...
A. 15 May 2017: Yep, I'm with N91
He was trying to guilt trip you into thinking YOU are in the wrong. GLOSSING over (or rather omitting) his own behaviors)
All you can do OP, is think to yourself GOOD riddance, I can do better and HIS loss, and then STOP gi... (read in full...)
Why would my ex male friend partially ghost me instead of going to complete NO Contact? How do I end this madness?
Q. First he tried to ease me into a FWB, after agreeing to friendship. We spoke, text and video chatted practically everyday. We did have sex twice. He wanted to continue to have sex as an FWB. I informed him recently that I was not FWB material. I ...
A. 13 May 2017: There you go. Blocking him and deleting the contact info is the way to go.
Best way to get something done is to take control~
Best of luck.... (read in full...)
I'm upset my girlfriends parents haven't integrated
Q. So me and my girlfriend have been dating for three and a half years and renting a flat together for a year. We have a good relationship, are very much in love and plan our future together. There is, however, one issue that drives me insane. Her pare...
A. 10 May 2017: Not much you CAN do.
They aren't "refusing" to learn English to bother you or upset YOU (personally). They might SPEAK more English than you know but are too embarrassed to speak it in front of you lest they speak poorly - they don't want that ref... (read in full...)
What is considered the standard in talking to a girl in this modern day? Daily or...?
Q. I'm kinda new to dating after being out of it for the last 6-7 years... and I've been communicating to this one girl for the last 4 years as a friend. I'm trying to build our friendship into a relationship at someday soon(ish), and as of lately ...
A. 10 May 2017: No rules are set in stone. Some prefer more and some less communication. Some prefer more CALLS to HEAR the other person's voice and some are content with text and occasional video chats.
Personally, I would feel "pressured" if the chatter ... (read in full...)
What is considered the standard in talking to a girl in this modern day? Daily or...?
Q. I'm kinda new to dating after being out of it for the last 6-7 years... and I've been communicating to this one girl for the last 4 years as a friend. I'm trying to build our friendship into a relationship at someday soon(ish), and as of lately ...
A. 10 May 2017: 4 years and never asked her out?
Then I think she sees YOU as a friend. While I like the idea of being friends first, 4 years is a LONG time to wait to ask someone out. Too long.
So my question to you is, are you willing to toss the 4-year ... (read in full...)
I have a crush on a 16 year old. And I'm 18
Q. Now before i start 1. Please do not be too hard on me and 2. i am 18 now i got that off my chest let's get to the point: Okay i will admit i have multiple crushes at my school but there is one that makes me feel dirty. That crush is on a girl two...
A. 10 May 2017: I agree with Cindy.
It's not weird or totally EWW that an 18-year-old find a 16- year-old attractive.
Does it mean you should ACT on it? Well, that all depends whether SHE is interested in you and whether SHE is OK with a guy who is 2 years o... (read in full...)
I'm torn between boyfriend and a new guy. Do I stay with my Bf or go with the new guy?
Q. I am currently in a relationship with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. We have a huge age gap 11years??. We met at work and fell hard for each other. We've obviously had our ups and downs but grew stronger throughout the year. My boyfri...
A. 10 May 2017: I fully agree with Anonymous 123,
You should be with neither.
Your current relationship has run its course. You want things that your current BF have already done. Like, have a family, marriage etc. The new guy is more of a blank slate with... (read in full...)
Why would my ex male friend partially ghost me instead of going to complete NO Contact? How do I end this madness?
Q. First he tried to ease me into a FWB, after agreeing to friendship. We spoke, text and video chatted practically everyday. We did have sex twice. He wanted to continue to have sex as an FWB. I informed him recently that I was not FWB material. I ...
A. 10 May 2017: He is showing you WHAT and WHO he is.
Someone who DOESN'T care what YOU want, only what HE wants.
YOU called him on his BS, and told him no thanks to being "one of his women" and he tried various manipulation schemes to get you to change your m... (read in full...)
How do I ask him his true feelings, and ask about commitment, without it appearing as me pressuring him?
Q. I've been talking to this guy for about 4 months now. He doesn't live near by so we video chat, call each other and text more then we see eachother. I sense things getting serious by the way he starts talking about our future together. He consta...
A. 9 May 2017: Should the talk be about HOW do we move from LDR to a geographical location where we can see each other more often, rather than.. marriage and babies?
It's been only 4 months and it's an LDR. Don't go straight from talking and video chatting... (read in full...)
How do I tell my strict, military, religious father that I'm pregnant?
Q. I am a 20 year old who still lives at home. I just found out I'm pregnant with my boyfriend's child. My friend and I haven't been dating very long but I have known and been friends with him for over 6years. Because of this fact my father hasn't...
A. 9 May 2017: Start by telling your mom. Maybe she can even give you some pointers on HOW to break it to your dad in the best way.
I know it can't be easy to tell him and I strongly URGE you to have someone with you when you do.
Now IF he kicks you out...... (read in full...)
I do have trust issues. How do I resolve this situation with my ex?
Q. Please no negative replies!!! I feel low enough!! I was seeing my boyfriend for over a year. I had known him for 2-3 years before that as a friend. We split about 4 months ago but have kept in touch. The reason for the split was because...
A. 9 May 2017: You need to stop stirring the pot here.
HE is your ex, it's OVER. LET IT GO.
STOP all interactions and contact and jeez OP (I know you said go easy and I'm trying... I really am) but you expect his ex to discuss HIM? with you?
You and ... (read in full...)
I give my manager the cold shoulder but he still tries to be friendly!
Q. My head manager acts friendly with everyone. He is very helpful. All the female employees are attracted to him. Some even flirt with him. I just keep a low profile and do my job. But he seems to try to get my attention a lot. He tries making s...
A. 9 May 2017: My guess? he isn't used to it and maybe he is a drama queen? He is used to people liking him being friendly.
Think about cats... If you are a person who DOES NOT like cats you are 10 times more likely to attract a cat's attention in a room ful... (read in full...)
What should I do? Four years after we broke up my ex still hangs around, tries to get my attention and stares at me whenever he sees me.
Q. Hi I split from my ex boyfriend 4 years ago, after I had a miscarriage. Neither of us wanted to split up but after the miscarriage he ended it with me i moved on met another man and had a baby girl. Yet my ex still hangs around and stares at me an...
A. 9 May 2017: I think it comes down to quite a few things:
1. does he SCARE you when he stops and stares?
2. Have you told him (to his face) to go kick rocks? (only if you ARE not scared of him)
3. have either or both o you moved on with new partners?
... (read in full...)
How do I tell my strict, military, religious father that I'm pregnant?
Q. I am a 20 year old who still lives at home. I just found out I'm pregnant with my boyfriend's child. My friend and I haven't been dating very long but I have known and been friends with him for over 6years. Because of this fact my father hasn't...
A. 9 May 2017: Do you have a plan for how you will CARE for this child? Can you AFFORD a child?
Are you still in school? Or do you have a job? Where do you live? What are your plans for the future?
IF you live at home with your dad, with no job (still in sc... (read in full...)
Do you think he'll ever be open to friendship with me? Two weeks after dumping me he was back on dating sites.
Q. Hello, I am hoping for some advice and help to make sense of a situation I am in. Was together with a man for 9 months. He lived about 90 minutes away, and for various work and child matters we saw each other from Friday through till Sunday ever ...
A. 9 May 2017: What do you hope to gain by trying to have a "friendship"?
My guess is you hope that if you stay friends he will realize his "mistake" in ending it or that you have this guy to stick around and still talk to you. Neither is a good reason to being... (read in full...)
Why is my partner continuing to flirt on line with other women? What should I do?
Q. My partner and I met on a date site we both came off. Then he went back on so I had my broadband to block all sites. He now has a game on his phone where he can talk dirty to others. Why is he doing this? He never talks dirty to me ...
A. 9 May 2017: You can't control him, OP.
He is his own person. And a guy who WANTS to cheat, who wants VALIDATION and ATTENTION from other women will do whatever it takes to get it. He found a way around not having Internet, if you took his phone away he would... (read in full...)
Feeling upset. Is this just natural or am I wrong? I love my fiance.
Q. Well...not been on here for a while. I am engaged, pretty happy with my partner of 5 years then my mother goes and mentions my ex who split with me when times got hard on my family farm and I got very depressed and lost everything. Things got na...
A. 9 May 2017: Just like YOU moved on with someone else, so did your ex. Nothing strange in that. OR did you expect for your ex to remain single to the end of his days?
He wasn't for you. He couldn't handle hard times.
In your mind's eye just WISH the ex well... (read in full...)
I still haven't met his teenage daughter after a year of dating and I'm tired of feeling like a mistress
Q. Hi everyone! I've been dating my BF for over a year now and he has a 14 told daughter. last year, two months into our relationship, he suddenly disappears for 2 months without even a text or a call. Although I had just started to date him, I w...
A. 9 May 2017: Maybe it's for the best if he DOESN'T move in with you? I mean honestly?
Seems like there will ALWAYS be an excuse to not fully commit to you.
And as for dating a dad, I wouldn't presume ALL dads would do this. This is JUST one man. (who ha... (read in full...)
I'm thinking about people in my past! Also I'm not satisfied with my sex life! Advice?
Q. A little back story before getting into my concerns-I have been married for almost half a year. We are both very much in love and have a great relationship and I'm treated very well. I'm happy! I lost my virginity to my husband, as he's the only one ...
A. 8 May 2017: Here is the thing OP,
The mind and our ability to fantasize is amazing. We all have a tendency to forget the crappy stuff and remember the happier things - which also means that a sexual or intimate encounter can seem SO much better years later th... (read in full...)
Why is my ex-fwb still contacting me after he ended things?
Q. I was recently dumped by my fwb because he and his girlfriend is getting serious. i wanted to end things when i found out he got back with his girlfriend but i wasn't strong enough to leave. after a week he ended things he texted me something that ...
A. 8 May 2017: Honey, just block, delete and move on.
He doesn't CARE about you. His text was NOT a "whoops" mistake - it was him testing the waters to see if you were still willing to have some NSA sex with him.
Think about it? HOW would you feel if YOUR par... (read in full...)
I don't trust him as he's still active on the dating site, but I really don't want to end the relationship!
Q. We met online dating site. Agreed to close accounts once established relationship. He agrees exclusively, yet is still active on dating site! He denies any chatting or meetingsd x but refuses to close the account. . I was with him when he recieved a ...
A. 8 May 2017: Don't confront him with the "false set up". You don't HAVE to confront him. And he DOESN'T have to remove his profile. Because? He will need it soon.
YOU might not WANT to end it, after all the work you have put into this relationship - but he i... (read in full...)
I give my manager the cold shoulder but he still tries to be friendly!
Q. My head manager acts friendly with everyone. He is very helpful. All the female employees are attracted to him. Some even flirt with him. I just keep a low profile and do my job. But he seems to try to get my attention a lot. He tries making s...
A. 8 May 2017: So what IS your REAL question here?
... (read in full...)
Are we really just friends with benefits?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been friends with this man since college and when we met he told my friends there was "something different about her" and was very into me. I was into him also but because he dated someone I knew we flirted a lot but it never ...
A. 8 May 2017: I agree with WiseOwlE
You are wasting your time if you want more than an FWB/F-buddy.
While he seems like a GREAT match in many ways you two haven't been able to make it work or even TRY anything past FWB and I think there is a reason for tha... (read in full...)
I give my manager the cold shoulder but he still tries to be friendly!
Q. My head manager acts friendly with everyone. He is very helpful. All the female employees are attracted to him. Some even flirt with him. I just keep a low profile and do my job. But he seems to try to get my attention a lot. He tries making s...
A. 7 May 2017: Why not grow up and ACT professional at work?
If he is trying to be friendly with the staff, that might just be who he is.
So what if he is friendly with other female staff?
You are not in high school anymore where you ignore the flirty bo... (read in full...)
How do I find out of this was just a holiday romance without making the wrong decision and hurting both myself and others in the process?
Q. I am 19 and have recently been on holiday. There I met a boy who I kissed and got along with really well. Him being there made the holiday. On the third day of the holiday we had a chat and he told me he had a girlfriend and that he didn't know ...
A. 6 May 2017: Honestly OP?
The reason you FELL for this "holiday guy" was probably because you aren't totally happy with the relationship you are in at home. While I don't understand why your mom would encourage you to cheat on your BF - maybe she meant to... (read in full...)
Is he being a friend or is he truly interested in me?
Q. So I've been friends with this man from my church. He is considerably older than me and he is single. He also has a 3 year old boy. We get along great and I babysit his child from time to time. I've had feelings for him for a few months and I don't ...
A. 6 May 2017: I think you need to be more careful about this.
#1. he is OLDER and single yet pursuing a teenager or BARELY out of her teen's girl (you). He has VERY grown up responsibilities such as 3 CHILDREN. One(?) of which YOU babysit. Which brings m... (read in full...)
Should I feel bad for not inviting co-workers to my small birthday celebration?
Q. Hi there, I recently turned 28 and had a small birthday dinner followed by drinks with with some friends. It was 6 of us and consisted of 3 of my closest friends and two friends who are part of the extended group but not close friends. I'm clo...
A. 6 May 2017: I forgot to mention, you can ALWAYS have a night out with your coworkers and celebrate in a small way, can you not?
... (read in full...)
Why is he so cruel after I did everything to be a good girlfriend?
Q. I was introduced to this guy but I didn't find him attractive so I told him I wasn't interested. He persuaded me for 2yrs and I agreed to get to know him, I began to like him my friends and my mum thought he's a nice guy and I should give him ...
A. 6 May 2017: OP, why do you presume it's YOUR fault that he is how he is?
YOU didn't MAKE him treat you like crap, you didn't MAKE him break up every time things got rough.
YOU need to listen to your own INSTINCTS. The FIRST instinct you had of him was "... (read in full...)
Should I feel bad for not inviting co-workers to my small birthday celebration?
Q. Hi there, I recently turned 28 and had a small birthday dinner followed by drinks with with some friends. It was 6 of us and consisted of 3 of my closest friends and two friends who are part of the extended group but not close friends. I'm clo...
A. 6 May 2017: Why should YOU feel bad for choosing HOW you want to celebrate YOUR birthday?
No, you shouldn't feel bad.
ACCEPT that you can't please EVERYONE all the time.... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable? When is it okay to not feel comfortable having your boyfriends ex flings hanging around?
Q. Two months ago I started seeing this guy. Three weeks into our relationship he tells me he has to go away for work. He asked me to stay at his place and watch his cat. The morning he's leaving it comes up that it’s his ex from months ago who hire...
A. 6 May 2017: Amen to WiseOwlE's advice.
Words are SO darned cheap! He doesn't KNOW that he wants to be with you for the rest of his life after knowing you for 2 months. THAT is just how he THINKS he cam get you to stick around even WITH his shady dealings... (read in full...)
I'm annoyed because a friend likes me and I don't return the feelings. Why does it bother me?
Q. Hi I need some help to understand my feelings. A good friend of mine X confessed that he likes me. I had a hint but I didn't want him to confess because I don't feel the same. I used to text him like a friend but now I feel so annoyed every ti...
A. 6 May 2017: I think you are annoyed with X because you aren't into him the way he is into you. So when he texts it feels like you are tiptoeing around to not hurt his feelings and not encourage him either.
As for Y, is he annoyed with you? Maybe, maybe no... (read in full...)
New to gay dating.... what's going on?
Q. This guy asked me out he was eager talking to me gave me his number, we seemed to get on and have a lot in common he last messaged me 10 days ago and I replied but since my reply his gone silent on me, I've dropped a few likes and messages on socia...
A. 5 May 2017: He might have been talking to multiple people - you being ONE of them. And he might have fancied someone else more. My guess is that If that other dude/girl doesn't work out he will come round to you again... Some people are like that.
Perso... (read in full...)
The teasing in our relationship is starting to get to me
Q. Me and my fiancee are planning to get married in just over a year but I'm starting to have a few worries. We like to tease each other and give each other a hard time, its just part of the dynamic of our relationship, but lately I've been taking it ...
A. 5 May 2017: Definitely, talk to him about it.
I think banter is fine in a relationship but I also think that some of the banter is actually saying what they mean.
And remember to practice what you preach. IF you would like more appreciation les... (read in full...)
What do I tell my child if he wants to know about his father's side of the family? My ex has another son, do I tell my child about him?
Q. !6 years ago i was in a relationship and had a baby , the ex decided he didnt want us both so 'disappeared' moved away and denied it was his child. He was 8 years older than me i was 23 so not like we were young and didnt know about things. I neve...
A. 5 May 2017: I agree, answer questions as they come truthfully and as SIMPLE as possible.
You son might not have an interest now but that might change. Most people want to know where they come from at some point in life. He might also know that this a sore sub... (read in full...)
My husband is almost forcing me to have sex with my lesbian neighbor
Q. Hi, my husband has recently come home after a month away and suddenly started wanting me to have sex with my lesbian next door neighbour, he doesn't want to watch or be involved at all. We have known she has a crush on me for a long time and given ...
A. 5 May 2017: Say what?
I agree with Auntie BimBim,
Tell him to BACK off or get lost. You are NOT interested in sex with this or anyone else besides him. If he can't accept that... the DOOR is RIGHT there, don't let it smack your ass on the way out!
YOU ... (read in full...)
Why is my General Manager so hung up on whether or not I like him?
Q. He is already liked by the entire staff. Especially the female staff. I am not sure if he is looking for "all" of us female to like him to boost his ego, but all he keeps mentiong is how he doesn't understand why I don't like him. I never gav...
A. 5 May 2017: Good grief! so he is WAY too old to act like a petulant 5-year-old.
I think it's overall a good thing that he is avoiding you, but careerwise is it good too?
Does this company have other branches? If so I might look into looking for a jo... (read in full...)
Why is my General Manager so hung up on whether or not I like him?
Q. He is already liked by the entire staff. Especially the female staff. I am not sure if he is looking for "all" of us female to like him to boost his ego, but all he keeps mentiong is how he doesn't understand why I don't like him. I never gav...
A. 5 May 2017: Next time your GM starts this CHILDISH stuff just tell him that you have no issues with him except that his behavior is unprofessional and then leave it at that.
Maybe THAT will give him a little food for thought.
He sounds like an immature... (read in full...)
I can't be what my LDR boyfriend wants me to be!
Q. My ldr watches porn stars mistress who dominate men . When we talk sexy I am extremely self conscious. It's simply not in my nature to be anything like that . That's not how I am as a person but I know that's what really floats his boat . I have...
A. 5 May 2017: I fully agree with Denizen,
You are NOT being unfair, you ae being YOU. If being some "fake sexy vixen" is NOT your thing WHY on Earth should you do it?
It comes easy for some to play pretend and for others it doesn't.
Now, how OFTEN do you... (read in full...)
His behaviour becomes embarrassing when he drinks
Q. I love my 44-year-old boyfriend very much but when we socialise he drinks too much. It has happened three times in the last five months. Once we were on a train and a random couple started chatting and before long the woman and he were being over ...
A. 4 May 2017: Eww, he actually BLAMED the "busty teenager" for "winding" him up as an excuse to be a little creepy?
He might think he is like an uncle to her... "funny uncle" as we call that kind of men.
Now some people DO become more "handsy" when in... (read in full...)
Is something going on behind my back? Should I trust him?
Q. Is it strange for your partner of 17 years not to add you on Facebook when he says it's for workmates ..which is a lie I've never met one person he works with in 8 years has been in the same job . By accident I came across a 3 year old Twitter ...
A. 4 May 2017: Why is he still living OFF/WITH you?
He is acting shady - and seriously did you "swallow" that "I went to visit her with coworkers when she broke her leg but nothing has happened" because I'd call BS.
Sorry, I'd wish him well and kick him out... (read in full...)
Need some advice on a love-triangle situation, please?
Q. Hello everyone, I would like some insight on a particular scenario involving two women, one of which is my current girlfriend and the other a friend and also pseudo-romantic interest. Let me explain the backstory. I met two different...
A. 4 May 2017: Do J a favor and end it with her.
YOU are not being fair on J, yourself or C. Right now you are playing the "what-if game" where you get to have them both and that is just plain wrong. YOU and C are not friends, you are people who have a shared p... (read in full...)
What can I do to prevent falling for other men while I'm in this relationship? And what do I do about the guy that I kissed recently?
Q. I've been in a relationship for 6 years. I love my man with every once of me. I cannot imagine my life without him. I care for him more than I care for myself. I constantly worry about his well being, whether he's happy, whether he's eaten, tired ...
A. 3 May 2017: We don't go "blind" to attractive people JUST because we are in a relationship.
You will notice people you find either physically attractive, emotionally or on an interlectual level. Someone who might be a little different than you partner.... (read in full...)
Unhappy in my relationship and I'm attracted to my friend but he's got a girlfriend.
Q. Hello dearcupid, I am a 24 year old woman, currently in a monogamous relationship with my boyfriend--let's call him K. We have been together for over five years, and a lot has changed during that time. He is about to turn 39, so there is an age ...
A. 3 May 2017: I agree with Denizen,
Do pursue your friend. HE has a partner. Instead, focus on your own relationship, decide (regardless if T's existence) if you WANT to continue with "K" or not.
My guess is that you have grown a lot of the 5 years you have... (read in full...)
I still haven't met his teenage daughter after a year of dating and I'm tired of feeling like a mistress
Q. Hi everyone! I've been dating my BF for over a year now and he has a 14 told daughter. last year, two months into our relationship, he suddenly disappears for 2 months without even a text or a call. Although I had just started to date him, I w...
A. 31 December 2016: I have 2 teen and one tween daughter, so I can easily imagine that this daughter of his doesn't WANT to meet you, the new GF. And I can also easily see why he isn't enforcing that she should meet you. I think guilt plays a major role here.
Do yo... (read in full...)
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