I don't know what to do, yet I don't want to give up on us.
Q. I recently read a post where the woman didn't know what to do because get man was still visiting online dating sites even though they are together and so neither of them are no longer single. I wanted to answer her, yet I can't honestly give her ...
A. 21 May 2017: My guess is you feel you HAVE to keep him around because he is part (in a way) of your little family and that quitting is not an option.
Unfortunately, you CAN continue with this man just know that NOTHING will change. You will NEVER be able to ... (read in full...)
He argues about everything! Will our relationship last?
Q. My partner and I have been fighting a lot ever since getting together 2.5 years ago. I love him a lot but often have doubts about whether we will work long term. Whenever I ask him to do something small (like take his shoes away from my front do...
A. 21 May 2017: IT was YOUR phone's "fault" that he screamed? I mean I GET the frustration trying to have a conversation and the phone cuts out.. it sucks. YOU, however, are BOTH old enough to know better than chatting while driving... yes?
He seems like a guy (f... (read in full...)
What do her words mean?
Q. hello, I've been seeing this girl now for 6 months, but out of no where, she been acting moody and distant with me lately and I don't know why. So I confronted her about it and ask if I was us and she said yes. she went on to say "I don't know h...
A. 21 May 2017: Sounds to me like she is done but doesn't know how to break it off.
Sorry. I'd just let her know that you wish her well and is going to cut the contact.
Don't be so desperate to have a GF that you will let a girl treat you like you aren't impor... (read in full...)
I feel used. Should I tell his Gf?
Q. I had been speaking to this guy that I met online.. we had been flirting away and getting on super well. Time passed as he asked to meet which I agreed. However he didn't make it and I found out it was because he has a girlfriend. I've accepte...
A. 21 May 2017: You could tell her. My question to you is this, WHEN you know the MOMENT he told you he had a GF that nothing would come of it (as far as romance) why didn't you just cut him off or block him? When he continued to "flirt", you could have AT ANY ... (read in full...)
He didn't invite me to a family function. Should I tell him how I feel?
Q. Hey, Thanks for taking the time to read my post I'm going to keep it short I've been with my partner 10 years I'm 27 hes 28 we've had a very happy time together no real drama or anything we have always been great together I cant imagine anyone in...
A. 20 May 2017: I this something he has done before? Sort of forgotten to "invite" you to family things?
It CAN be that whoever asked HIM to come didn't specify "bring your GF" so he didn't think about it. He might not be very detail oriented or very consider... (read in full...)
Do I message "his secret woman" and ask how many times he has seen her?
Q. After finding a 3 year old secret twitter account of my long term partner I was gobsmacked the tweets 4/5 times a day hugs and kisses can't wait to see you tonight etc he'd been working with her every night for 8 years in 10 years I've never met one ...
A. 20 May 2017: I agree with N91
You have written before and gotten great advice. I think, however, you rather ignore the advice to END it with him and stick to "blame" her and focus on her.
YOU can't change who he is, you can't control his actions. ONLY ho... (read in full...)
I'm 18 years older than him, I know its crazy but its so intoxicating!
Q. I feel like I've completely lost my mind here, so maybe someone can give me some perspective. I'm a 38 year-old mother of one. I've been divorced for years. I've always thought of myself as a rational person until now. For reasons I cannot explain, ...
A. 20 May 2017: 1. You ARE old enough to be his mother.
2. I think (personally) the age gap is too big - not for casual sex (though for me... it would feel way to robbing the cradle) for a serious relationship? Eh? The BOY is barely out of his teens. He has LITT... (read in full...)
Can a relationship work when you love their personality but aren't attracted to them sexually?
Q. I talked to a guy for a long time via text before actually meeting him. I loved talking to him and we share the same humour. Upon meeting him I continue to love his personality but I am not physically attracted to him. Can a relationship ever work ...
A. 20 May 2017: Short term? Yes, perhaps.
Long term? I don't think so. I think there HAS to be some physical attraction to build a strong relationship. Of course, there needs more than JUST a physical attraction as well. I say you need both. UNLESS you are both... (read in full...)
Does this look like a deeper relationship?
Q. I've had a FWB about 6 months now. We casually meet every other week, do our thing, split ways and just chat via messages the rest of the time. Lately, when I go to his house, he wants me to spend all night, go out to the movies, go eat, he kisse...
A. 19 May 2017: I think he has been testing the waters as to how YOU feel about it. I think his "we should be more" is him basically asking you if you want more without asking you straight up because he doesn't want to be rejected or have you end the FWB.
So, h... (read in full...)
Why's my teacher acting so cold?
Q. My favourite teacher in the whole world is my art teacher. He's 30 so he's younger and is able to connect with certain students really well. He's the type of person who can make stupid or rude remarks that make you laugh, but he'll only do this ...
A. 19 May 2017: So is this the guy who you are "in love with"?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/hes-engaged-and-13-years-older-than-me.html
My guess is that he has picked up on your crush and he is trying to nip it in the bud. He knows you have developed f... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend wants to try to have a baby but we would still be long distance after the baby was born.
Q. hi guys and girls, i need some advice, i cant wrap my head around a situation what could happen. Me and my long distance relationship have been talking about the future, ( before I go into too much detail, we have been together over a year and a ha...
A. 19 May 2017: Personally, I wouldn't do it.
But... you are not me and I'm not you. IF you WANT a child and can HANDLE being a single parent (in most respects) and you WANT him to be the father - then perhaps it's not the worst idea ever. However, I think to... (read in full...)
He's engaged and 13 years older than me. Could things work out?
Q. How many years apart is too many? The man I love is 13 years older than me, I believe it's one sided, but I'm just curious on what people believe. He's also engaged, could this possibly work out for me at all?...
A. 19 May 2017: No.
He is engaged which means it's a PRETTY serious relationship and MARRIAGE is the next step on THEIR (not yours) journey. THEY (him and his fiance) have decided to enter a LEGAL contract, THAT is marriage. That USUALLY also involved being FA... (read in full...)
My crush is suddenly avoiding me!
Q. I met my personal trainer end of March 2017 and immediately we clicked. We had so much fun together we would laugh all the time. He inspired me to push harder and even to go to the gym. Sometimes he would touch me in an unusual flirtatious way (but ...
A. 18 May 2017: Yep, two things:
1. he has a GF - he was WAITING for her to show up (not you). And he was nervous because he knew he has crossed some lines WITH you and didn't want you to tell his GF. He knows you have a crush on him and while it might be flatt... (read in full...)
We've become really close and he likes me ... but he has a girlfriend!
Q. So, I've been friends with this guy for about 5 months now. Yet, somehow, I can't remember much of my life before our friendship. We've become really close. He has admitted to liking me but we never actually got together because he had a girlfriend. ...
A. 18 May 2017: He sounds like a complete selfish idiot, to be honest.
HE HAS a GF! and he is TOYING with your feelings. If he was REALLY so into you, he would end it with the GF and pursue YOU.
I think you are being naive and a bit... silly to go along with... (read in full...)
Can anyone advise on this embarrasing problem?
Q. Ohk so my question is me and my husband had sex and for some reason for the past two days have had alot air coming out of my vagina no pain but alot of air releasing.. ohk so now I guess my question I have tried so many things to release and the air ...
A. 18 May 2017: It depends a LOT on 2 things - the positions you two use - CHANGE then up and where you are at in your cycle. The vagina actually changes shape (a little) depending on where you are in your cycle, during ovulation you might produce more ... (read in full...)
How can I distance myself from a friend without hurting their feelings?
Q. I am currently a grad student in college. I used to be best friends with this girl all throughout middle school. We grew apart through highschool, and I am now a graduate in college. Half a year ago, I thought it would be cool if to reach out to her ...
A. 18 May 2017: You could be honest and tell her :" I don't really feel like we have a lot in common and I don't want to continue this friendship". Yes, it will hurt her feeling - but it's honest.
Or you can STOP being available, be slow in replying to texts an... (read in full...)
I'm worried how rude the nurses will be
Q. Im going into hospital tomorrow for a minor procedure and the nurses are known to be nasty, what can i do? Am staying overnight and on the ward im going to overnight on the nurses are well known to be sarcastic and cold... I have spoken to s...
A. 18 May 2017: I have never met a rude nurse - rude doctors - YES but not nurses. They are generally very nice (in my own personal experience). Does it mean that a nurse can't have a shitty day and not be super nice or cater to a patient's whims? Sure.
TREAT... (read in full...)
Do many females masturbate ? I feel ashamed when I do so.
Q. Do lots of girls/ladies masterbate? I get so paranoid that I'm abnormal for doing it because my friends never talk about it and sometimes someone will make a comment that it's more of a boy thing and I'll feel ashamed. ...
A. 18 May 2017: Good grief, YES!
It's satisfaction guaranteed! Why feel ashamed? Because it's very primal? Or because "good girls" don't touch themselves?
The BEST way to know what REALLY ticks your boxes sexually is to know your body - intimately. That... (read in full...)
So hard to control my feelings
Q. I've been in a problematic "relationship" with a married acquaintance from my work for the past few months. We aren't full-time co-workers but we work together alone enough when he's around. I'm 23 and he's around 39-40ish. I had developed a bit ...
A. 17 May 2017: How do you do it?
1. put yourself in his wife's shoes. JUST for a minute. (or long term GF, whatever).
2. you accept that he will NOT leave HER for you. He will fool around with you, he will USE you but he knows that he OWES his wife/gf some... (read in full...)
Boyfriend created fake marriage documents with his ex so that she could have residency in the US. Do I tell him I know? What do I do now?
Q. I live with my boyfriend of a year. We moved in together 2 months ago and everything has been wonderful from the start of our relationship. Today I finally unpacked our last box. I opened a notebook I didn't recognize and it was a journal he wrote ...
A. 17 May 2017: Do a background check on him. It's $20 max and it will tell you whether not this marriage was fake or not.
INS are not easily fooled when it comes to documents, so I am a bit doubting that they "so easily" could create fake documents that convince... (read in full...)
Help me with this family situation, my father thinks I'm avoiding an event!
Q. I have a difficult situation with my over 65 yr old parents Need advice please My parents live in another state that is a 1hour plane flight away I visit once a year and they come to my state, once a year to visit and and we talk on phone sometim...
A. 17 May 2017: Since it's not until August are you SURE you can't wrangle your schedule to take an extra day off for this?
TRUST me when I say, you WILL regret not going. Not because you dad keeps bugging you but because LIFE is short.
If I could have ONE m... (read in full...)
Why does she keep cheating on me?
Q. The last three years have been very turbulent ones. We have broken up and got back together so many times. Usually couples just stop getting on and end up drifting apart. Not in our case, because its only ever been one thing that has ever caused ...
A. 16 May 2017: OP, is cheating a deal breaker for you or not?
If you don't WANT to be with a cheater, you really only have one option and that is to end it. You can't change her and I doubt yo can REALLY change how you feel about it either.
She does it b... (read in full...)
I thought the online military guy from the UK liked me so how did he suddenly lose interest?
Q. Hey there Aunts and Uncles! I have a quick question for you guys, you may think it's stupid because it probably is. So a week ago, I created a profile on this dating app and met a guy pretty quickly. We exchanged face pics and added each ot...
A. 16 May 2017: I think reality set in faster in his end than yours. The likelihood of anything coming of this is minuscule. You are so very young and live half a World away. It might be fun to chat with each other and live a sort of fantasy courtship, but reality? ... (read in full...)
He's a nice guy but it's just not working out
Q. Why do I always feel so down? I have been with my boyfriend for five years and we have had several ups and downs. I can't seem to look past his flaws and at times he can't see past mine but we tried hard enough for so long.bThis has been my first ...
A. 16 May 2017: If you at 18-21 have been with the same guy for 5 years it might not be totally strange that you have either outgrown the relationship or outgrown him.
What we want (in a partner and out of life) at 15-16 might not be what we want in out 20's and... (read in full...)
Is his attitude to me just a phase?
Q. This guy I did like told me he liked me. And then his whole personality changed in attempt to impress me. He agrees with everything I say and seems to say stuff to just try and impress me, almost like he's googled something to just make ...
A. 16 May 2017: I do think it's kind of a phase. Women do this too.
He wants you to like him, so he is trying to show you just how GREAT a "match" he is for you. You two even have the same opinion and taste in things!! (or at least that is what he wants you to b... (read in full...)
On/off holiday friendship
Q. I met this guy on holiday. We got along really well and I thought he was, well, perfect. Then he had to move away and stuff cause his holiday ended. We exchanged phone numbers and we were texting for a while. After a couple of weeks of texting he ...
A. 16 May 2017: Glad that you took the advice we all gave you. And I'm glad you learned that saying NO to someone is PERFECTLY OK. Many women and younger girls have a hard to saying no to guys because they WANT the guys to like them, they want to be liked - the ... (read in full...)
On/off holiday friendship
Q. I met this guy on holiday. We got along really well and I thought he was, well, perfect. Then he had to move away and stuff cause his holiday ended. We exchanged phone numbers and we were texting for a while. After a couple of weeks of texting he ...
A. 15 May 2017: I fully agree with Auntie Cindy.
You are nothing more than entertainment for him. He started texting you again because he was bored and hoping that maybe he could convince you to take nudes and send them to him, for his little spank-bank and perh... (read in full...)
Even though I work with kids I can't get close to these ones
Q. I have 2 "nephews"..they're not really, they're my fiancé's but when we get married they technically will be, but I have absolutely no bond or relationship with them. It's not that I don't want to have either. I care about them as much as I would my ...
A. 15 May 2017: All you can do it BE present and engaging when around them.
I have worked with kids when I was younger, and I meet kids I just don't want to engage or interact with - I know it sounds cold but I'm being honest here.
One of my nieces have 3 ki... (read in full...)
I don't trust him as he's still active on the dating site, but I really don't want to end the relationship!
Q. We met online dating site. Agreed to close accounts once established relationship. He agrees exclusively, yet is still active on dating site! He denies any chatting or meetingsd x but refuses to close the account. . I was with him when he recieved a ...
A. 15 May 2017: Yep, I'm with N91
He was trying to guilt trip you into thinking YOU are in the wrong. GLOSSING over (or rather omitting) his own behaviors)
All you can do OP, is think to yourself GOOD riddance, I can do better and HIS loss, and then STOP gi... (read in full...)
She's pushing but it seems too soon
Q. Hi, I feel like my girlfriend is trying to inadvertently pressure me into proposing to her on her 21st birthday. Her b'day is at end of June and she has hinted so many times at me proposing eg. showing me ring a she likes and talking about it. ...
A. 14 May 2017: My husband married his first wife at 19 - was divorced at 21. My advice? Don't propose, don't get "bullied" into something yu are NOT ready for. You two have your WHOLE lives to ahead of you. There IS no hurry to get married and start a family.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend needs time to figure his life out!
Q. I've written on here before about concerns with my boyfriend not saying I love you after about 5 months. However, we split up/decided to take a break yesterday although I'm unsure exactly which it was. Our relationship has been very happy...
A. 13 May 2017: I agree, tell him you will give space for now as that is what it seems like he wants/needs. That you won't hurry out and look for a new guy but that you CAN NOT promise to still be single when he down the road "figures" his life out.
I say this... (read in full...)
Why would my ex male friend partially ghost me instead of going to complete NO Contact? How do I end this madness?
Q. First he tried to ease me into a FWB, after agreeing to friendship. We spoke, text and video chatted practically everyday. We did have sex twice. He wanted to continue to have sex as an FWB. I informed him recently that I was not FWB material. I ...
A. 13 May 2017: There you go. Blocking him and deleting the contact info is the way to go.
Best way to get something done is to take control~
Best of luck.... (read in full...)
We are two very different people. I feel stuck in this relationship. What can I do?
Q. Feeling stuck between a rock and a hard place. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 and a half years, and we have lived together for 2. He is an incredibly kind guy, he always means well, and is all around just a nice guy. However...
A. 12 May 2017: I think the relationship is already over (from your side) but you are holding on because 1. it's familiar, 2. he is a good guy (just not a good match for you), 3. you still CARE (just not love) for him and 4. you feel responsible for taking care of ... (read in full...)
Why can't I get a girlfriend again? And a girlfriend without a lot of crazy luggage from her past?
Q. Hello Not a newcomer to this site, been here for a few years really but I've decided to post this anonymously. So I think I'm stuck in a rut with relationships. I've taken what's easy and made a few dumb decisions, and over the last yea...
A. 12 May 2017: I agree with Youcannotbeserious,
If you run around with the same crowd over and over, you just don't MEET new people. Which means your "prospects" are slim. If the ALL the girls you know around your own age are so full of drama it's DEFINITE... (read in full...)
If a guy is happy with his Gf then why does he act uncomfortable and angry towards his ex-crush?
Q. This guy, his girlfriend, and the girl he use to has a crush on, work at the same place. The "ex crush" is still friends with the guy's girlfriend and he doesn't reallly care for them to still be friends. He use to profess his love to the "ex ...
A. 12 May 2017: His actions are not that one someone in love, I'd wager.
... (read in full...)
I don't feel I'm attractive to girls. How do I overcome my insecurities?
Q. I have a question, a lot of girls that i have dated don't seem to bother about my looks, and many people tend to tell me that i am goodlooking etc., But i find myself ugly, and i have big lips,etc , which i am made fun of sometimes, and i find tha...
A. 11 May 2017: While YOU may focus on the features YOU don't like many girls will focus on your personality AND the features THEY like.
So maybe YOU need to focus on the things about yourself that you DO like. Maybe you have gorgeous eyes, great hair, nice bod... (read in full...)
If a guy is happy with his Gf then why does he act uncomfortable and angry towards his ex-crush?
Q. This guy, his girlfriend, and the girl he use to has a crush on, work at the same place. The "ex crush" is still friends with the guy's girlfriend and he doesn't reallly care for them to still be friends. He use to profess his love to the "ex ...
A. 11 May 2017: I have to ask OP - who are you in all this?
Are you any of the 3 people - the BF/GF or the ex-crush?
If not, none of your business. That is THEIR little drama. Ignore it.
If you are the GF, MAYBE tone down the "friendship" with the ex... (read in full...)
What can I do? My Gf of 5 years says she wants to have sex with another guy.
Q. Okay so I have been with my girlfriend for 5 years. Recently I started noticing a big change in our sex life like she was losing interest. After a few months and started asking her what changed and all she would say was I don't know. After it e...
A. 11 May 2017: It will start with ONE guy she wants to do things with, then she wants another guy or MORE...
You have been together for 5 years, so the question is, WHY is she willing to throw that away fo easily?
I think you need to consider 2 thing... (read in full...)
A long term friend dated my brother, treated him poorly, and now she wants to reconcile with me, without explaining. What should I do?
Q. Sorry this is so long! My best friend from grade school went overseas for college and upon returning started a relationship with my brother. I was living in a different state by now and she initially wanted him to keep the relationship a s...
A. 11 May 2017: I would e-mail her back and wish her luck and that you will be TOO busy ALL summer to met up and that you have no interest in reintroducing drama in your life. THAT simple. and BLOCK her email (make it go to the spam folder)
She isn't a friend a... (read in full...)
How can I sort out this mess?
Q. The worst thing happened to me today, I planned to go on a date with my girl, and she brought some of her friends too, and i was with my friend too, so during the date, she was constantly trying to put up a fight with me, like insulting my character ...
A. 10 May 2017: What a clusterF### of a date!
I agree that you both acted really immature. She wanted to show off in front of her friends and you wanted to take her down a peg or two after she embarrassed you.
Don't drink if you can't handle your liquor - TH... (read in full...)
I'm upset my girlfriends parents haven't integrated
Q. So me and my girlfriend have been dating for three and a half years and renting a flat together for a year. We have a good relationship, are very much in love and plan our future together. There is, however, one issue that drives me insane. Her pare...
A. 10 May 2017: Not much you CAN do.
They aren't "refusing" to learn English to bother you or upset YOU (personally). They might SPEAK more English than you know but are too embarrassed to speak it in front of you lest they speak poorly - they don't want that ref... (read in full...)
Why would my ex male friend partially ghost me instead of going to complete NO Contact? How do I end this madness?
Q. First he tried to ease me into a FWB, after agreeing to friendship. We spoke, text and video chatted practically everyday. We did have sex twice. He wanted to continue to have sex as an FWB. I informed him recently that I was not FWB material. I ...
A. 10 May 2017: He is showing you WHAT and WHO he is.
Someone who DOESN'T care what YOU want, only what HE wants.
YOU called him on his BS, and told him no thanks to being "one of his women" and he tried various manipulation schemes to get you to change your m... (read in full...)
I don't trust him as he's still active on the dating site, but I really don't want to end the relationship!
Q. We met online dating site. Agreed to close accounts once established relationship. He agrees exclusively, yet is still active on dating site! He denies any chatting or meetingsd x but refuses to close the account. . I was with him when he recieved a ...
A. 8 May 2017: Don't confront him with the "false set up". You don't HAVE to confront him. And he DOESN'T have to remove his profile. Because? He will need it soon.
YOU might not WANT to end it, after all the work you have put into this relationship - but he i... (read in full...)
| *oneypie's friends
These are mutual friends, so *oneypie has
added them and they have added *oneypie!
|
