Why do men show an interest in me and suddenly change?
Q. I am a gay man. I stopped dating for a year as I was just tired of being heartbroken. I started again a couple weeks ago, I met a guy who seemed so nice. He was everything I wanted in a guy, I honestly couldn't believe it. He was constantly ...
A. 29 May 2017: Why do you do it?
Because you want it, BADLY. Nothing WRONG in that. The only "bad" thing is how you went about it. And THAT is something you can change as long as you are aware of it.
KNOW your own value, OP.
If a guy seems to be VERY int... (read in full...)
Does she like me romantically or just see me as a friend?
Q. Not entirely sure with this, I'd like to think she likes me but I really struggle to tell the difference between what counts as friendship or relationship material. Basically put I met up with this girl who I got talking to online and I met up wit...
A. 29 May 2017: Have a great date :)... (read in full...)
Is there a reason I didn't have an orgasm the first time I had sex?
Q. Hi I'm a near 18 year old female. I lost my virginity a few months back and have only had sex with that one guy. We've always been kind of more than friends (well for over a year), but not quite defined as anything more. It just sort of happened one ...
A. 28 May 2017: Very few women HAVE orgasms in intercourse - masturbating is different and it really shouldn't be compared to sex with another person.
My guess is you weren't relaxed enough - when you CHASE a climax it can get elusive.
And secondly, you ar... (read in full...)
Should I date him when he had asked out my best friend and she turned him down?
Q. Hello, Please I need some advice. There is this guy asking me out. We met at my sister's wedding. I like him too. It turned out that he had asked my best friend out some months back but she said she was not interested. I asked my friend about ...
A. 28 May 2017: I'd skip him.
And I'd re-think the friendship too. I find it really odd that SHE called HIM up after you told her about him. Why would she do that after she rejected him?
... (read in full...)
Why do men show an interest in me and suddenly change?
Q. I am a gay man. I stopped dating for a year as I was just tired of being heartbroken. I started again a couple weeks ago, I met a guy who seemed so nice. He was everything I wanted in a guy, I honestly couldn't believe it. He was constantly ...
A. 28 May 2017: I think YOU need to SLOW down. You talk to a guy for a couple of weeks and then all of a sudden he is the "perfect" guy and THIS is going to be IT!
It might not. You need to not drop your heart at the first cute guy who flatter you and who tell... (read in full...)
I found a phone he'd been using to text a woman for 4 years!
Q. Hi I found a phone my husband had a few months ago he had been texting a woman for 4 years !! It was someone he had known 35 years ago and been out with a few times before he met me . He states that he thought they had slept together 35 years ago ...
A. 28 May 2017: What do YOU want?
You can't pretend it didn't happen, you can't turn back time. HE CHOSE to have an emotional affair for 4 YEARS with this woman. Whether they slept together BEFORE you knew him or not - it doesn't matter. WHAT does matter is HOW h... (read in full...)
I know my friend's boyfriend is cheating on her but my boyfriend says I can't tell her
Q. Hi; I have a boyfriend who I love dearly and me and him are good friends with another couple who we go out with and see a lot. I am very good friends with the girl of the couple and he is very good friends with the boy of the couple although...
A. 28 May 2017: I would tell her. IF that means YOUR BF dumps you, then MAYBE that IS for the best. After all, IF your BF is covering for his best buddy, doesn't that mean he thinks cheating is OK AS LONG as the girl doesn't know?
So how CAN you trust your own... (read in full...)
I made a fake account and my boyfriend chatted with it!
Q. i made a fake account recently and send request to my bf...and he asked who s this and then i started talking to him by telling fake family nd fake profession and all..he shared all his personal details with me he even send his pictures to me( fake ...
A. 28 May 2017: OP, what is there to stay for?
He isn't trustworthy. He is STILL looking for a partner - I don't believe people who CHAT up other people when they already have a partner are happy with whom they got, they want to see what else is out there an... (read in full...)
Does he feel the same way or did I make him uncomfortable?
Q. Hi. I'd love to get a third person's opinion I fell hard for an old friend but we live in different cities. He used to flirt back and forth and met a few times. I'm not sure of he had feelings for me. After 3 years and I finally told him everyth...
A. 28 May 2017: I don't think it really MATTERS how he feels deep dow, he REJECTED the idea of the two of you and hat is that.
My guess though? I don't think he feels the same. He likes you and enjoys having someone to flirt with and talk to - because you WERE... (read in full...)
I have literally no interest in pursuing girls anymore, is this normal?
Q. Hi all, I have a situation where I can't decide whether it's normal or not. Basically, I have literally no interest in pursuing girls anymore. I'm 25 years old, never had a GF, my sexual experiences are one night stands or brief flings and...
A. 27 May 2017: Is it "normal"? Maybe for you, it is. I don't think there is a "standard" of how much a guy (or girl) HAS to be pursuing romantic interests in order to be "normal".
If you feel like taking a break from dating and casual encounters, do so. I would ... (read in full...)
I thought we'd made plans but she hasn't texted back!
Q. Hey all! Need some advice here please. Earlier in the week a girl said I was amazing and that we should hang out this weekend. I texted her yesterday asking if the plans were still good and she said heck ya so I replied sweet that's what I like to ...
A. 27 May 2017: I would. (not text her)
You already ASKED her when and where. So GO make other plans. If she THEN contacts you, tell her you didn't think she wanted to meet up as she never replied so you made other plans but that YOU are available XX-day to go ou... (read in full...)
He has ED, should I stay with him?
Q. I am planning to settle down with this guy as I really want kids (I've wanted them for years) and I'd like someone to help bring them up. I've been dating for a few months and found out that he has erectile dysfunction. I am not in love with him...
A. 27 May 2017: If all you want is a kid, I'd use a sperm donor. I don't think it's fair to him to "settle" for him and I don't think it's fair to you either.
If sex means LITTLE overall to the both of you, then sure. Not sure I'd be to keen on being a guy's "b... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's best friend hates me!
Q. I have a wonderful relationship with my boyfriend . We have been together for over a year. We get a long very well don't argue. My friends and family love him and his family likes me as well. His other friends likes me . However , his best ma...
A. 26 May 2017: Whether his BFF likes you or not is kind of irrelevant, as you ARE NOT dating the BFF.
I think the BFF is a bit jealous that your BF (HIS BFF) have found a girl who means that much to him and that is why is tried to sabotage your relation... (read in full...)
Does she like me romantically or just see me as a friend?
Q. Not entirely sure with this, I'd like to think she likes me but I really struggle to tell the difference between what counts as friendship or relationship material. Basically put I met up with this girl who I got talking to online and I met up wit...
A. 26 May 2017: I think she likes you. If she was "just" being friendly - she wouldn't have gone for BOTH coffee and a drink after the game of bowling. And she certainly wouldn't have asked you to continue onward to have dinner with her friends.
So yes, I think ... (read in full...)
Why is it I feel I lost my soulmate? And could he really have moved on so fast?
Q. Hello again DearCupid. As I look back, I realized I have been posting on here on and off for about 7 years! This has significance because I was just broken up with my boyfriend of 6 years over the phone, and the majority of my posts wer...
A. 26 May 2017: I'm sorry about your broken heart, TIME will help you heal. I know it sounds banal but it's the truth.
My guess is he MET that girl a while BEFORE he wanted a "break" he was OVER the relationship with you LONG before he told you. He kept it going... (read in full...)
My crush of 2 years just got a girlfriend! Now what?
Q. I'm sure this has happened to people a million times before but this is the first time for me. Quite simply, the boy I've had a crush on for two years has just gotten a girlfriend. He likes her very much - he is constantly preoccupied, staring into ...
A. 26 May 2017: IF you have had a crush on him for 2 years you have had PLENTY of time to let him know how you feel but you didn't act on it and NOW that he HAS a GF you want to act? How does that make sense?
You really want to be "THAT" girl?
And not to ki... (read in full...)
How can I forgive my boyfriend for drunk cheating?
Q. My boyfriend and I have lived together since February, our one year is in a couple days. Last month he came home at 2:30 in the morning after drinking, he told me his car battery had died on his way home from work so he was stuck. i went through his ...
A. 25 May 2017: He gave you chlamydia? Eww. Sorry, but that would be the straw for me. Why? Because it would mean he had UNPROTECTED sex with that girl to GET chlamydia to pass it on to you.
What's next? HpV? HIV? SHE obviously isn't picky about her bedfello... (read in full...)
Why can't men just say they are not interested in pursuing anything anymore rather than string you along with the crumbs?
Q. I did it again. I swore never to talk to another man online due to my past experiences of getting too close without having any kind of commitment. It took time to get over the last guy I spoke with for 18 months (I found out he was dating someone ...
A. 25 May 2017: I think Denizen has a good point. YOU get WAY too involved with someone you haven't even MET in person. MAYBE you need to be more guarded. And maybe you NEED to look closer to home for a romantic interest. NOT online and far away.
NOT saying t... (read in full...)
Does his invite mean he likes me?
Q. There is a guy I'm interested in and he has a son who is turning 3 this weekend. He recently invited me to go to a birthday lunch for his son with him and his family. We are friends from church, but he is not inviting any other of his friends from ...
A. 25 May 2017: Are you the babysitter perhaps?
Or is he looking FOR a babysitter (in a sense) at the party to help out with the little one?
Or maybe he has asked some of the people from the church that he socialize with, to come.
Have you asked him wh... (read in full...)
Should I tell my art teacher of my feelings in case I never see her again?
Q. So I'm a 16 year old girl I'll be 17 in 2 months. And I am in love with my female art teacher. Sadly she is straight and has a boyfriend. I want to tell her how i feel after I graduate just to get it off my chest but I'm afraid that she will never ...
A. 25 May 2017: No.
You have a crush on the teacher, an infatuation. JUST because you have feelings for HER doesn't mean you HAVE to tell her or that SHE return those feelings at all.
What exactly do you hope to gain from it? Other than making HER really uncom... (read in full...)
Haven't heard from my friend after I rebuffed his advances. What should I do?
Q. A friend came over we went to my room sat on the bed we talked them he touched me I moved his hands. Shortly after he left. Haven't heard him after that. He only sent me moving greetings via whatsapp. Should I try to contact him or walk away?...
A. 25 May 2017: I think he was hoping for more, and when you SHOT him down after taking him to your bedroom? He felt stupid.
Let him be for a while.
... (read in full...)
He broke up with me but keeps in contact. Is he trying to be a FWB?
Q. I am 39 and my ex boyfriend is 38. We both have two teens apiece and are single parents. I'm divorced. We dated for 4 and a half months. Things were good but he broke up with me saying he didn't think things were going to work out and he didn't wa...
A. 25 May 2017: I think YOU have to decide what YOU want. SCREW what HE wants. If you feel having him around (as in using you to have SOMEONE/ANYONE to text and talk to) is confusing and NOT helping YOU move on - then tell him so and BLOCK his number.
YOU D... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this? I'm hurt that a second man is asking about who is the prettiest of my friends?
Q. Hi all, So I dated this guy for a short while who really messed it up for me. He has a narsissistic personality disorder and well I bore the brunt of of it. One thing in particular which he did and I found very insulting was- he wouldn't stop ta...
A. 25 May 2017: I agree with Chi,
BOTH men were lacking class. Who asks about the looks of the friends of a woman you claim to be interested in? Seriously?
Think about it OP, would YOU ask a guy, hey who is your best looking male friend? My guess is no. The... (read in full...)
I cheated and had a one night stand!
Q. Hi, I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years. She honestly is the love of my life and I am very happy with her and would do anything for her. Unfortunately, I made a terrible mistake a couple of nights ago , had way too many drinks (which I know ...
A. 24 May 2017: I'm with Ivyblue.
HOW would you feel if your girl had done the exact same? Would you want her to tell you? Would you want her to bury it?
You sound like you SORT of regret it. But you regret the possible consequences more. If it truly WAS jus... (read in full...)
Despite out 6 year age difference, do you think this relationship could work out well for us ?
Q. Hello. I'd like to get some advice, as I've never been in a similar situation before. I've met a really good, caring and beautiful girl, and in short, we talked a bit, she told me she liked me since the last year, and later on, we kissed a few ...
A. 24 May 2017: I don't think the fact that she has a child is a big obstacle (unless you really dislike kids) her being 6 years older and having a bit more experience might and it might not.
I say GO SLOW - very slow. And PLEASE don't get involved with the kid.... (read in full...)
How can I erase this mental abuse?
Q. How can stop measuring my value by a man- since being young my parents and grand parents have lived a life according to what society thinks is right. My mom married my dad and stayed in a physically abusive relationship only because she didn't like ...
A. 24 May 2017: Did you try CBT/CEBT? (Cognitive emotional behavioral therapy) or just a therapist?
THERE is a huge difference. YOU (if you have been diagnosed with OCD and have these VERY obsessive thoughts) need a therapist who specializes in this.
And yes... (read in full...)
How do I play it on the 2nd date?
Q. Hey guys, I'll try and keep this short and sweet, basically I met a girl on a dating site, after a few days of messaging, we went out on a date the other night. She said beforehand how shy/ nervous she is, anyway, we went on the date, and it went ...
A. 24 May 2017: I wouldn't put my arm around her in the cinema. YOU are still a stranger to her (and vice verse). It can seem a bit forced. TAKE it slow, cowboy!
Going to see a movie is NOT always a great idea for the first kind of dates as you can't really T... (read in full...)
He said he needed time away from me but still texts every day.
Q. So my boyfriend of a year and a half told me last week out of the blue that he needs time away from me. At first I thought he was joking and I said are you casually trying to break up with me and he said no that he stressed and that I've been mean ...
A. 24 May 2017: Did he say he is swamped with work and can't SEE you in person for a while? OR did he say he needs a BREAK from you?
IF he needs a BREAK from you! Just tell him that you want to give him space and thus will NO LONGER text and that HE shouldn'... (read in full...)
Advise needed about my husband's therapist!
Q. Hi all, I'm really confused and would appreciate your help. My husband's therapist wants me to LIE to my husband and I'm not comfortable with it. My husband has been in therapy for almost 10 years. The last shrink changed our lives 8 mont...
A. 24 May 2017: I agree, FIND another therapist.
Asking you to lie? What? Taking a patient of meds that he has barely seen? What?
First, contact your Family doctor and get a list of therapists.
There IS such a thing as "adult ADHD" so the therapist might b... (read in full...)
She's broken up with her boyfriend, is it too early to ask her out?
Q. Hey there everyone! Hope you all are well! I'd like some advice of you could. So I'm a 30/male this girl I need advice about is 25 I believe. She moved in to the apartment next door to me about 6 months ago. I instantly thought she was one of the ...
A. 24 May 2017: IF you want t obe more than a rebound, I'd say wait. Talk to her, keep yourself "fresh" in her mind but don't pursue her just yet.
SHE just broke up. While SHE was the one to break up and kick him out (which possibly means she has wanted to end i... (read in full...)
Do I date him or not? My mother says NO to dating him. My friend says Yes, or she'll not be my friend.
Q. So this guy likes me and i sorta like him back but people tell him not to date him but my best friend says if i dont she wont be my friend and people that said no because they wont let me date him and my mum says i should say no what should i do?...
A. 23 May 2017: Why does your mom say no to dating him? Is it to dating in general (for you) because of age or THIS particular guy she doesn't want you around?
Does your mom tell you NO for a GOOD reason or not?
And secondly! WHAT kind of friend DEMAND that ... (read in full...)
Does anyone act this way after a break up?
Q. Does anyone have this pattern of having on to an ex until someone else comes along- I have never "truly" gotten over someone until I got someone else. Example - my ex and this wasn't a long relationship left me- he did it in a disrespectful way and ...
A. 23 May 2017: I think, up on till a point, that it's "normal" behavior to question WHY someone treated you like crap.
I think it's universal (as in both men and women think this way) that after a relationship ends we rehash certain events, think back, wanting ... (read in full...)
I think I made a mistake in getting married to him as I don't think I can accept his culture and all the family involvement. What should I do?
Q. I am a vey independent woman who likes a lot of space and I do not like being told what to do. I rarely see my own family as I am busy with my life and they with theirs. My husband comes from Egypt and would like me to go and live there but I don'...
A. 23 May 2017: What's the best thing to do?
It's hard to say. You didn't put your own country of origin on so I can't even begin to guess how different your culture is from his.
But when someone starts to think they have made a mistake in the selection of the... (read in full...)
How do I get the spontaneity back in our sex life?
Q. How do I get the spontaneity back in our sex life. Since our second child or sex life has slowed down to maybe 3-5 times a month if that's a good month. It's always planned. She suffers depression.theres times I feel although she'...
A. 22 May 2017: Is she getting help with the depression? With the kids?
Do you two spend time together JUST the two of you?
Have you TALKED to her about how you feel and asked how SHE feels about sex and the relationship in general?
I agree with N91, peo... (read in full...)
How can I make my partner's ex not hate me?
Q. My current partner and I got together while he and his then wife were going through a slightly bumpy divorce. Our relationship evolved pretty fast, and I didn’t see this as an issue because they had since moved away from each other, living in their ...
A. 22 May 2017: Nothing you can do.
I'm sorry.
She rather BLAME you for the marriage not working (even if you didn't start dating till it was already broken and the divorce started).
I think if ANYONE can tell her to tone it down it's your partner. Howev... (read in full...)
How can I become more wet during sex?
Q. How do I become more 'wet' during intercourse? My partner often notes that I don't stay 'wet' long enough. I love my partner and am excited and aroused when we snuggle and make out, but I'm just not excited when we have intercourse because he is ra...
A. 22 May 2017: Do you two have SUFFICIENT foreplay?
You say you are not excited about sex - because he is small? YOU do know that you can get pleasure from other things than his penis, right? So hand, mouth, little bullet vibrator? Something?
How can you b... (read in full...)
5 years with girlfriend, losing attraction, annoyed and frustrated
Q. I been with my gf nearly 5 years, we are still living apart due to money issues and our permanent jobs. But things have changed. I'm avoiding her because I feel like i can't really speak to her like I speak to the guys. For example, I mentioned I'm ...
A. 22 May 2017:
You two lack in your communication skills. YOU presume she KNOWS how you feel, just like SHE presumes that all is well. Yet, I think you BOTH know things are not well. Sex has gone stale. The time you spend together feels more like it's done out ... (read in full...)
He says he wants a child and gets upset when I give my reasons for why it doesn't work for me now!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 months now and he just brought up wanting a baby with me. I've had an abortion in a past relationship. We are both still in college and as much as I want a kid I just don't see it as a good time to have one ...
A. 22 May 2017: I agree with the other ladies, this is NOT cute NOR a good idea.
It doesn't matter if you have known him for 10 years, you have only BEEN a couple for 3 months. YOU are BOTH still in college.
How would you two pay for the cost of raising a chi... (read in full...)
Does my ex have unresolved feelings for me?
Q. So I dated this girl long distance about 3 years ago. The relationship was fine until the very end when she started lying and treating me horribly. Long story short, she ended up cheating on me with her best friend (shd denied that she cheated on ...
A. 21 May 2017: I do think she is trying to appease her own guilt. It's not about you, it's about herself.
After all, SHE has had to live with the knowledge that she not only cheated on you but lied. THAT she was the reason the relationship fell apart.
My g... (read in full...)
I can't have an orgasm so I always fake them. Is there something wrong with me?
Q. I am in a relationship, almost a year now and we have amazing chemistry together. Every time we are having sex I can't seem to orgasm even if I try my best. On my own Its every time, so I fake it to not upset him or to get it over with.What do I ...
A. 21 May 2017: Faking it will NOT fix the issue.
SHOW him HOW you get yourself off - TEACH him HOW to make you orgasm.
You are not sparing his feelings by faking it. You are "letting," him think he is a better lover than he is, so you get "bad sex" becaus... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do, yet I don't want to give up on us.
Q. I recently read a post where the woman didn't know what to do because get man was still visiting online dating sites even though they are together and so neither of them are no longer single. I wanted to answer her, yet I can't honestly give her ...
A. 21 May 2017: My guess is you feel you HAVE to keep him around because he is part (in a way) of your little family and that quitting is not an option.
Unfortunately, you CAN continue with this man just know that NOTHING will change. You will NEVER be able to ... (read in full...)
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