Should I end my it with my cybersex buddy ?
Q. Hello Dear cupid , I have a issue..... I have a pen pal in another country he is in the U.K. And I'm in the USA we met on Instagram it started out friendly but gradually got flirty and sexual we are both really attracted to each other and have ...
A. 21 June 2017: OP
I don't think it's realistic to stay "friends". If you started to date someone and he kept a girl he had cybersexed with would YOU be OK with that? If he claimed they were "just" friends now?
I think a clean break might be better for both ... (read in full...)
Does her telling me to move on really mean its over?
Q. Hello i was in a relationship with a woman for 17 months , she ended it because we argued, quite a bit , as she wanted to settle down,and i did , but not yet , she said at begining of april ,can,t say goodbye , so i,ll say goodnight, that was the ...
A. 21 June 2017: Good grief OP...
Women don't say one thing and mean another.. I don't know where you read that kind of crap... Some men's magazine?
That is like saying no really means yes with women, NO NO NO.
OK?
Block her number and MOVE on. IT IS ov... (read in full...)
Am I selfish or is he trying to guilt trip me?
Q. I feel my boyfriend has the most unrealistic expectations of me and it's really pushing me away. Hr told me this evening on the phone that his back went out of place so he had to take the day off work to rest as well as see a physio. He also ...
A. 21 June 2017: I think HE is the one being a BIT selfish here AND inconsiderate. Now I get it, he isn't feeling up to driving but still wants to spend time with you so he was hoping that YOU wanted that too and were willing to drive and pick up and then drive and ... (read in full...)
I even left my daughter at home for 4 days for the sake of my affair and now he's disappeared. I feel so lonely!
Q. I met this guy in Vegas over two months ago. He approached me and my friends at a club. I told him from the beginning I was married and he respected that . The night went on and everyone was having a great time. He would dance next to me because he ...
A. 21 June 2017: Maybe you should figure out your marital situation first? Rather than this "affair" with an almost total stranger.
If you ARE so unhappy in your marriage what are you teaching your daughter by staying? Life IS short. Why stay and be miserabl... (read in full...)
Should I end my it with my cybersex buddy ?
Q. Hello Dear cupid , I have a issue..... I have a pen pal in another country he is in the U.K. And I'm in the USA we met on Instagram it started out friendly but gradually got flirty and sexual we are both really attracted to each other and have ...
A. 21 June 2017: I think for him the "fantasy" ended when you decided to see someone for a date. Which is fine. The Cyber-thing wasn't going to last and there was no future in it outside of mutual gratification and a pseudo "friendship".
He IS giving you space be... (read in full...)
My girlfriend dumped me because she thinks I watch porn
Q. Long story short my girlfriend of almost 3 years broke up with me cause she thinks I'm lying to her about not watching porn. It's rediculous if you saw how beautiful she was you'd understand. We've been exploring our sexuality together and I went o...
A. 20 June 2017: I agree with FA,
It's not just ONE misunderstanding that made her drop you. Her world view is skewered in HER favor. If you do something she will NOT listen to an explanation because it's EASIER for her to make ASSUMPTIONS. That way YOU fit into... (read in full...)
Why did he give up his trip with the boys?
Q. My boyfriend turned down a golf trip with the guys next weekend. It's out of town and they go every year. He said it's because he knows I worry and he doesn't want to upset me. In the past I have given him grief. Many of the guys go to strip club...
A. 20 June 2017: He did it to both please you and placate you and maybe even to get out of going. Any f those 3 options could be the "one" true reason.
I think you are doing a BIG mistake in NOT encouraging him to do things with his friends. Because if you thin... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can stop from vocalizing the thoughts in my head?
Q. Good day everyone, I apologise for the long post. My problem is that I don't like the person I've become. I grew up as a very quiet child and teenager, often not saying anything when I should have. It affected my grades, at my work place and rela...
A. 20 June 2017: Maybe start by practicing some self-restraint and self-control. If you get mad or have a need to say something COUNT to 10 first and think it over what you want to say and whether it is appropriate. you will find that 9 out of 10 times they are not ... (read in full...)
I think my wife had experience before we married but I'm afraid to ask her
Q. I was a virgin until I got married. I did not know to use condoms. My wife taught me to use condoms correctly and after using dispose them also. Some where in my mind I am having a doubt whether she had experience before marrying me. I don't have ...
A. 20 June 2017: I don't know if teens are taught sex-ed in your country but in many places, GIRLS, as well as BOYS, are taught how to put on a condom.
Or she could have googled it. OR learn it by doing it.
IS it important to you to know? If you aren't sure ... (read in full...)
When I say I love you, he says thank you. Should we be in a relationship?
Q. I just want to know a thinkg ....my bf is a kind not intrstd in marriage he just says we will be in relationship for how long we can be.and if I say love he just says thank you...wat does it mean...I INA confused statsle now..should I finish this ...
A. 20 June 2017: Sounds like he REALLY doesn't want to be emotionally attached to you as he foresees marrying someone else at some point - maybe an arranged marriage? That YOU are the "hold over" until he has to marry someone.
So basically he is using you until hi... (read in full...)
If he liked me wouldn't he be texting me more?
Q. I think i know the answer to this but would love some advice anyway. Ive been friends on facebook with this guy for a while, i actually went to juniour school wkth him. Hes actually now a minor celebrity- he has his own television series. Thats no...
A. 20 June 2017: Personally, I'd say people are getting more dating inept as they rely way too much on tech to keep in touch. I'd say he would want to CALL you to hear your voice if he was really keen on you - but... I'm old fashioned.
If I were you I'd stop pur... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my friend who has a gf. I walked away.. did I do the right thing? Will he change?
Q. Hi there! Thanks for taking the time to read my question : ) I am a recently single woman, just started dating again. It's been fun going on dates, but no matter how great the guy is I keep thinking about my friend. At first we just studied ...
A. 20 June 2017: Yes, you did the right thing. FOR both of you.
You wouldn't have liked it one bit if he was your BF getting a little too close with another girl, right?
Don't BE "that" girl. The one that doesn't give a flying fart about other people's relatio... (read in full...)
How do I improve my body shape?
Q. I'm 15, and I am 10 stone, (145 pounds) and 5 foot 7 inches. I my noobs were a 34c, but lately they've gone smaller and now I'm like a B cup. I haven't lost any weight and my blobs have gone smaller. It's making my self esteem low and it's making ...
A. 19 June 2017: You boobs size fluctuate with your cycle (for some women a LOT and for some not much, you might be one of the first group.)
your value as a person and woman doesn't lie in you boob size, if that is what you think then you will have a limiting... (read in full...)
I can't have sex too often because its so painful but my partner feels unattractive because of this
Q. I am 28 and have been with my partner for nearly nine years now. I get cystitis almost every time we have sex. I have had extensive tests to find out why without conclusion. It has been happening for six years. We have also tried everything to ...
A. 19 June 2017: Do you two use condoms? Do you use the restroom (as in go pee) right after sex?
Both things can prevent UTI.
And find a new Gyno and get a full check up.
I found this link for you as well. Read up on how to prevent cystitis:
http://www... (read in full...)
How do I keep my dignity now it's over?
Q. Hello.. I recently wrote on here asking for advice about someone who I have been seeing, and I was trying to find a way in my head of knowing if they really cared about me and liked me. This person (who I work with) had hurt me before a few m...
A. 19 June 2017: Have as little to do with him as possible? If you DON'T have overlapping areas at work and he DOESN'T need your phone number (for work) I'd start with blocking his number.
Yes, dating in the workplace rarely works out and now you know not to do th... (read in full...)
Is it right to ask her out now she is divorced?
Q. I'm a single guy in my 40's. Two of my female friends have a friend that they used to work with who is in her late 30's - I'll call her Shirley. I met her a few times in casual social settings like going to the farmer's market and I always found he...
A. 18 June 2017: How long was she married? And how long has the divorce been final?
Saying you are ready for some "fun" doesn't mean she is ready for a serious relationship and it might also mean that 1. she is a BIT vulnerable right now and 2. you would only b... (read in full...)
Is it normal for husbands and boyfriend to follow lingerie models on social media?
Q. Is it normal for guys to follow all these girls on instagram and like their half naked pictures on instagram every time they post them? I'm a grown woman and single but I can tell u when I'm in a relationship I don't have eyes for other men and in ...
A. 18 June 2017: Should you "just" be OK with it?
That depends, do you expect everyone else to have the same values as you? at all times? OR not?
Is it "normal" for men in marriages and relationships to do this? I honestly don't know. I asked my husband and h... (read in full...)
My girlfriend dumped me because she thinks I watch porn
Q. Long story short my girlfriend of almost 3 years broke up with me cause she thinks I'm lying to her about not watching porn. It's rediculous if you saw how beautiful she was you'd understand. We've been exploring our sexuality together and I went o...
A. 18 June 2017: I'm sorry OP,
IF she has decided that you are doing things behind her back and that she can't trust you... there isn't ANYTHING you can do to convince her otherwise. And there isn't ANY point either.
My guess is, she was looking for a wa... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to buy a cheap car instead of one I can actually afford
Q. So I'm in a conundrum. My bf and I have been dating on/off for 5 years. We were friends for years first before dating. Currently, we disagree on a car, to understand the struggle, a lil history is needed. In the very beginning of our relationship...
A. 18 June 2017: I have to ask OP, HOW much overall have you "invested" in his crappy car? And was it out of guilt for totaling the car? Did you not have insurance (or is it like in MI a "no-fault" state insurance? - which I might add I TOTALLY hate!)
If you want... (read in full...)
I like him but didn't want to date a guy who has kids
Q. Hey guys, just in need of a little advice! I recently started dating a guy I somewhat work with. I work at a car dealership and I'm in new cars and he is in used.. I say kind of because I'll probably run into him once a week durin our Friday meeti...
A. 18 June 2017: I think you should stick to your standard (which is no single dads) and I think you should add "no dating coworkers" to you standards. It's not a great idea to mix work with dating. It makes things awkward when things don't work out.
While... (read in full...)
What could be going on with my new coworker-friend?
Q. There is a new coworker at my job that came to work for a few months. He seems fun. He acts gay, but seems bi. Nit sure how to put it. I am a girl. We kind of been getting along well from the moment we met. Talk and joke a lot at work. But I have ...
A. 18 June 2017: I have to agree with YCBS, gay/bi/straight men don't ALL behave in the same manner.
And I also agree that you are NOT a girl you are grown ass woman, ACT like one. You are not in high school where tickles and touchy feely stuff is OK - pretty u... (read in full...)
How do I tell my girlfriend that I'd like her to be my first sex partner?
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for 5 months now. I’m defiantly into her. We do a lot of fun things together. I have not had sex yet. She has told me that she has. I would like her to be my first sex partner. I think she is smart, cute, beautiful, ...
A. 16 June 2017: You seem quite capable of expressing yourself in a good way so WHY not just tell her like you told us?
If you are ready to have sex, tell her and let HER decide when and where?... (read in full...)
Both my partner and I cheated on each other. Back together now and I'm pregnant but he keeps using my cheating past as a way to justify all his wrong-doings
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for 8 months Within the first month of our relationship I found out his ex was still in the picture messaging eachother and she told me they had had sex. When I found this out I thought I was going to leave h...
A. 16 June 2017: You give him an ultimatum. While I utterly detest ultimatums he has NO real argument against you. Someone who lives in a glass house shouldn't throw rocks. you two talk and come to an agreement or truce that from here on out, the PAST stays in the ... (read in full...)
I don't want my g/f to go to the same college as me. It will ruin me making new friends and having my independence
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years of my life. This september I hope to go to university to study law. My girlfriend wasn't planning to go to university until 2 days ago when she moaned at me for not wanting to be with her through university ...
A. 16 June 2017: I think you are at a point in your life where it's OK to be selfish. UTTERLY selfish.
You will be out on your own, away from parents and "that" control, in a new place with new people, new experiences etc. So I TOTALLY get that you don't want HER... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wanted to use an old tube of lubricant during sex but I got upset because he's used it with previous partners. Am I being silly?
Q. Hi Everyone, So I have a bit of an awkward question, but genuinely don't know if I'm overreacting and too embarrassed too ask friends/family. So my boyfriend of 1 year has had a tube of lubricant in his drawer for a while, I noticed it a whil...
A. 16 June 2017: While I get that it's JUST a tube of lube.. I cringe at the thought of it too. I can't use someone else toothpaste (no seriously, I have my own that no one in my family touches) so something as intimate as lube? Yeah, there is no way I'd be OK with ... (read in full...)
14 months into the relationship, things aren't looking good, he is criticizing and we are arguing. What would you do?
Q. Help!!! I am sorry if this is a long post but I need some advice. where to start? ok, so about 14 months ago I met the man of my dreams. He is loving, caring and we have so much in common (or so I thought) we started off slow and then got into a ...
A. 16 June 2017: End it now. You already know this is JUST the beginning of his rotten behavior, treatment of you and general attitude.
Do it for YOU AND your kids. BE glad you haven't moved in with him yet! That makes it easier for you to either MOVE away fro... (read in full...)
How do I tell a good friend that I don't like him romantically?
Q. So..I have a guyfriend whom I've known for over 5 years. He once told me in the past he liked me but I didnt feel the same way. I never did. He texted he likes me and wants a response. How should I say I don't like him romantically. He's a good ...
A. 16 June 2017: EDIT...
I wrote:
Do beat around the bush...
I meant:
Don't beat around the bush...... (read in full...)
Has my boyfriend gone too far? He says its just porn but I've found him on swinger sites, looking up ex's
Q. Has my boyfriend of 8 years gone too far? I have recently found my bf has been watching porn. He knows I don't like this but I could have got over that. But I have also found he has been on swinger sites, sites with a list of girls to date, his find...
A. 16 June 2017: I agree with Denizen, he is full of shit.
Joining "swinger sites" is not "just porn" that is him looking to see what's available out there FOR HIM to partake in. Let's be honest because HE isn't going to.
Looking up exes, well it's no crime ma... (read in full...)
Who could this strange woman be who showed up asking questions about me?
Q. Can anyone help me make sense of this situation? I live in a house. I rent the downstairs portion. My landlord who owns the home told me that this morning a woman knocked on his door asking questions about me. I was not home at the time. She ...
A. 16 June 2017: I agree with YCBS,
Just tell your landlord to next time take a picture or call the police.
I can't see any company owed money who would send out a private investigator who doesn't identify herself. And no law enforcement either.
Unles... (read in full...)
I changed my mind about having children, he wants children would this be the end of our relationship?
Q. Hi everyone, this one is a difficult one for me. I recently got engaged to a man I love and think the world off, the time we been together we have had minor disagreements, but other than that the relationship has progressed smoothly. Lately I have ...
A. 16 June 2017: Lots of moms (in the US) goes back 6 weeks after they have given birth and I don't get it. 6 weeks! Maybe because where I come from there are decent maternity (and paternity laws) that allows them to stay home for the first year after that most of ... (read in full...)
The way he answered a question..wouldn't he have said if he had a girlfriend?
Q. MEN what does this mean? one day my crush had came late 2 pick me up and I said you're late and he said traffic, laughing and I said I hope you don't use that excuse on your girlfriend. he said nothing, he just laughed and smiled....and I smiled and ...
A. 16 June 2017: I think he likes that you DO NOT know whether he has a G or not.
He could EASILY have said,:"OH she doesn't like that" or " I don't have a GF so that is all good".
He didn't. Maybe he just doesn't WANT you to know.
If you want a STRAIGH... (read in full...)
How do I tell a good friend that I don't like him romantically?
Q. So..I have a guyfriend whom I've known for over 5 years. He once told me in the past he liked me but I didnt feel the same way. I never did. He texted he likes me and wants a response. How should I say I don't like him romantically. He's a good ...
A. 16 June 2017: Do beat around the bush, just tell him. Say:" you are a good friend and that is how I see you, I don't see you as a romantic option for me".
If you have already told him this before it should come to no surprise or shock to him.
If he likes t... (read in full...)
I'd like to be there for my friend but I don'f feel comfortable with everyone assuming I'm the one to go to
Q. Hello Aunts and Uncles, I'll try and keep this short and clear, or at least clear :) -this is a friendship question. Two years ago a new colleague came to the firm. She seemed positive, hardworking and nice. Since we live in the same neighb...
A. 15 June 2017: I agree with Chigirl and can't really improve on her post.
She isn't going to STOP "using" you unless YOU take steps. So contact family/BF and let them know That while you are a friend you DO NOT want the added responsibility of a caretake... (read in full...)
My partner is making me feel bad for not letting him live with me permanently. What should I do?
Q. When I first met my partner, I explained in the first 3 months my views about living together before engagement. I explained that I have lived with an ex in the past and it didn't work, so therefore I want to wait until engagement before living ...
A. 15 June 2017: My question to you, OP is - DO you REALLY see yourself with this guy as your husband?
Someone who thinks YOU should change your mind and standard to SUIT his needs? (aka he wants to live with you).
Now, myself personally, I think moving IN ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with a break up that I know in the end was for the best?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 and a half years broke up with me the other day and I honestly feel like I won't ever get over him. I still love him so much. It scares me to think that I may never find someone who I love that much again. Although I miss him, I ...
A. 15 June 2017: Why wouldn't you find someone good again? Half the population is male. The likelihood of you meeting someone else (when you are GOOD AND READY) is pretty high.
And the fact that you picked ONE good guy means you CAN do it again.
For now, thou... (read in full...)
Worried he will drop me if I don't go further
Q. I am 14 and i have been in this relationship with this boy we have been dating for 3 months and i really like him. The thing is normally we would shift and kiss and all that but he said that he wants to top me this means to take off my shirt and ...
A. 14 June 2017: You have to ask yourself, OP
DO I really want to be with a guy who is trying to FORCE me to do things (sexual or otherwise) that I am NOT ready for or willing to do?
He probably is more concerned about HIMSELF and doing these things so HE can... (read in full...)
We meet just once a month for sex. This isn't a healthy relationship, right? Should I let him go?
Q. I've been dating this guy for about 9 months and he works full time. I only see him once a month and when I do see him it's only for sex. I understand that he has a crazy work schedule but once a month? We've had problems before because he was ...
A. 14 June 2017: I have to agree with everyone here, it's NOT a relationship if it consists of texting and meeting up for sex once a month.
If I were you I'd let him go. YOUR needs aren't met here. And HE isn't going to change his mind anytime soon. He is content ... (read in full...)
Should his life choices be a dealbreaker?
Q. I met a man at my job and we worked together a few months. I since have left the job because I got something better :) I never date co-workers but we did flirt a lot at the job. Only after I left did i agree to date him. He revealed to me a DUI he h...
A. 14 June 2017: I think you need to stick to whatever standards you have. So if you do NOT want to be with a guy who drinks/smoke weed then don't.
He isn't the only fish in the sea.
If you think ahead for a bit, can you see yourself making a family with this... (read in full...)
My partner is falling for his ex and although I know I should end things I love him!
Q. I've been in my relationship now for almost 6 years and engaged for 2 of those years. (No date for marriage due to both of us being at risk of redundancy) and over 5 years ago we had a problem with my partners work colleague. To give a little ba...
A. 13 June 2017: I agree with Auntie Cindy and Ivy here.
END it. FOR your sake. Yes, you care, Yes you love him but you shouldn't ACCEPT this kind of behavior from a partner. HE is the one DOING these things, not the other woman, though she CLEARLY likes to play ... (read in full...)
I'm married and have fallen for a married friend. Do I pursue this?
Q. I am 29 years old. Im maried in 2010 with 2 kids (3 and 5). I met my wife when i was 15 and have been with her ever since. I have never cheated on her or even talked to another woman inappropriately. But the other day we were hanging out with some ...
A. 13 June 2017: I don't think anyone here was/is trying to "stone" you but to get you to use some common sense.
Cheating isn't the way to solve your OR her unhappy marriages and you know it. Otherwise, you wouldn't have posted on DC.
If you are BOTH miserab... (read in full...)
Why would a man decide, at the last moment, to not use a condom in this way?
Q. my partner and i was about to have sex and he went to get a condom. When he got it he was playing with the packaging for a few seconds and put the condom to the side. why? After having sex he started to play with that condom again before putti...
A. 13 June 2017: Are you on birth control?
If not, then I think it's rather dumb to not use a condom every time. You are both (I presume) 18-21 so having a kid is a bit early, don't you think?
Why does he play with it but not put it on? ASK him.
... (read in full...)
Do I stand my ground or make up with my mother?
Q. Hi folks. I'm in a bit of a predicament at the moment. I have my child's christening coming up this week and haven't invited my mother. Now I know that sounds awful but here's why (sorry for the essay) Basically all our lives my mum...
A. 13 June 2017: Wow.
I don't blame you or think you are cold hearted. AT ALL.
Personally? I think you have too high expectations of your mom. She will NEVER apologize for her antics. I think she could have the Factitious disorder (link below) - not that I'm q... (read in full...)
I'm married and have fallen for a married friend. Do I pursue this?
Q. I am 29 years old. Im maried in 2010 with 2 kids (3 and 5). I met my wife when i was 15 and have been with her ever since. I have never cheated on her or even talked to another woman inappropriately. But the other day we were hanging out with some ...
A. 12 June 2017: My question to you OP is as follows:
Do you want to ruin two marriages over lust?
If your wife isn't giving you what you NEED and you two can't work it out ( I'd suggest you try a couples counselor before tossing in the towel) then maybe divor... (read in full...)
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