Why would a man of his age want to have an affair with a much younger woman?
Q. I am married and now having an affair with a man who told me he 70, but I did abackground check and hes 82!! My guess is he did not want to reveal his real age because I would have said no way. I really like him. I just think it's strange that a ...
A. 4 June 2017: Well, WHY not?
If a woman (AT any age) is willing to be a mistress why should the man worry about age?
And why would he lie? Well, he probably lies to up his chance of getting the woman to agree, he probably is USED to lying - after all, what ... (read in full...)
Is it bad to be 17 (nearly 18) and never had a BF but have had sex? Will that be an issue in the future?
Q. Hi, is it bad to be 17 (soon 18) and never had a boyfriend, but have had sex? I've had guys attracted to me lots in the past (not trying to sound self-centred just being honest), but I've never let things escalate with them because I wanted t...
A. 4 June 2017: Mostly because of social norms 50% of women and barely 20% of men regret their first time (and/or partner). So WHY should you feel bad about anything?
You made a CHOICE to have your first time with someone you care for and trust. So, it may not ... (read in full...)
Nearly every man I've been with seems to feel no need to compliment me. Is it wrong that I have an emotional need for a partner who can indicate to me that he finds me attractive?
Q. Why do some men think it ok to show obvious attraction and lust for women in porn yet not ever tell their wives or partners once that they are sexy or attractive in any way what so ever ? So they not think a woman will begin to feel hurt that he ...
A. 4 June 2017: I'm very much the opposite here. I don't NEED validation and compliments from MEN, be it my husband or anyone else.
I know my worth and don't need to be told that I look good, did good, am good.
BUT I totally GET that, people like some valida... (read in full...)
I am getting vibes but I don't want to misread them and ruin a friendship
Q. I'm just going to dive in here. I'm friends with a girl that I have a crush on. She had invited me over to her house, because she wanted to show me a gift I had given here the year before, that she had just found. Then later, she has asked me to ...
A. 4 June 2017: Stick to friendship, she isn't in a good place to date - ANYONE!
She puts herself in BAD situations and relies on YOU (and probably others) to pull her out of them - like with her "male friend". You think he just randomly decided to show up and h... (read in full...)
He used to like me, tells people he doesn't like me, but does he?
Q. I'm 15 and talking to this guy I've had a crush on for this whole year. He used to like me but doesn't anymore apparently. I was out with friends the other night and when they were picking me up at my house the guy I like said I looked hot asf, my ...
A. 4 June 2017: He is using you. He KNOWS you like him and he knows you will give him attention and talk dirty to him even if he doesn't really want/like you.
I mean seriously... Why talk dirty to a guy who doesn't make an effort to either GET to know you (tal... (read in full...)
I want to end our 3 year relationship its unhealthy and toxic but I don't want to hurt her
Q. Hi, I have been with my girlfiend for over three years since we were 15. The relationship has taken a massive downward spiral over the past few months and I have had doubts about this relationship for around 6 months. She has done many tihings that ...
A. 4 June 2017: Do you think she will do BETTER on her A-level if you don't dump her til AFTER the exams?
If so, I actually think that is a considerate and the "better" choice. BUT I would let her know that until the A-level exams are over you won't have much tim... (read in full...)
We've been dating for 5 years. Why does he need so much attention from other women?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 5 years. Throughout the relationship I have caught him engaging in online flirtation. He signs up for dating sites to chat with women, and he uses Facebook to chat with multiple women (sometimes the ...
A. 4 June 2017: Honestly? YOU know his excuse is pure undiluted bullshit, yet you continue to swallow it.
Do you think that just given enough time - he will STOP? You think if you have kids or get married - he will STOP?
HE won't.
If all he needed was ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with the negativity of ''friends'' judging our relationship? My Bf and I are happy. But the comments of others are hurtful.
Q. Hey, Now have been with the most amazing man for about 3 and a half years now and I couldn't been more happier. To us there is no issue whatsoever as we are still in love even though we're way past the honeymoon stage lol. I have plenty of fr...
A. 4 June 2017: You DROP the people who give you crap.
Now I can understand if YOU over those 3 1/2 year have come to them ALOT and complained, THEN I'd say maybe they have a reason to give you crap - but if you HAVEN'T I say cut them loose.
Who needs Neg... (read in full...)
I asked my Bf to delete her from his SnapChat but he has not deleted her. Should I break up with him?
Q. My boyfriend has snap chat. My friend "let's call her C." added him on Snapchat when we first met him. C. seems to have a problem with me getting in a relationship. Every time I Do, she breaks us up by speaking to my boyfriends and making bad r...
A. 3 June 2017: I think instead of breaking up with your BF you should distance yourself from this "friend" C. She doesn't SOUND like a friend at all. And I would tell her EXACTLY why you can't be friends anymore. That her destructive behavior when YOU date someone ... (read in full...)
Was he leading a double life with me and someone else?
Q. So me and my bf or Ex, have not been speaking some time ago due to a misunderstanding (I believe it was kind of my fault, I did not handle the situation well) also after him finishing his studies he was leaving back to his hometown which is in ...
A. 3 June 2017: Honestly?
I have no idea. I DO think though that he wanted to end it with you but didn't want to be a MAN about it and break up, so he just stopped talking to you hoping you would get the point. What a coward.
I think it's time YOU move on and ... (read in full...)
Has my love faded?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for a few years now but for the last month I have been feeling bored with him.....When we kiss I don't feel any passion, and sex is pretty boring... I don't get any pleasure from it....Is it normal to feel like this? ...
A. 3 June 2017: Are you sure you WERE in love with him in the first place?
Sounds like you feel unfulfilled. If sex is boring and kisses are not passionate or pleasurable WHAT are you doing to change it? You waiting for HIM to read your mind and change things u... (read in full...)
Girlfriend doesn't want to move abroad
Q. We've been dating for only a few months, our first month I told her I have a dream to move to another country and she said "Yeah if you go we'd break up because I wouldn't leave my family behind!" We decided to stay together but recently a few d...
A. 2 June 2017: Should you break up?
IF you REALLY intend on moving to another country then YES, break up now.
If you are just toying with the idea? Maybe break up because it's NOT what she wants. And SHE shouldn't change her mind for you, nor should YOU give ... (read in full...)
Recently, my girlfriend starts to bleed everytime she orgasms. What could be wrong with her?
Q. Hello all, I've been with my girlfriend for around seven years. We are our firsts in pretty much everything. Love her to bits still. No fights, good sex life, nothing wrong really. However, something has occurred in our sex-life which I...
A. 2 June 2017: I agree with a visit to a Gynocologist. Cheating? No. It can be that she is starting to develop cysts in her uterus and sex makes her bleed. However, THAT is just a guess, she REALLY needs to a gyno.
Now it CAN be her birth control as well, bu... (read in full...)
How can I control my moods and my tongue? At times I'm vicious with my tongue
Q. How do I control my moods and temper?.. My life has been anything but easy I had a compulsive liar for a mum and my dad never seemed to care .. I went on to have two children that were born with a life limiting conditions. ..my eldest son died ...
A. 2 June 2017: Have you seen your GP and had a full physical including your hormone levels checked?
It might BE that you are a bit "off track" and thus faster to anger/tears etc.
As for therapy - it's not a fix - it CAN help to give you tools for YOU to deal ... (read in full...)
What should I do? My boyfriend got blind drunk and cheated on me.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 months and everything has literally been perfect, he's treated me so well tells me he loves me every single day and how much I mean to him and that he's completely infatuated with me. However I foun...
A. 2 June 2017: I call BULLSHIT on his excuse.
He remembered enough to make sure YOU didn't know. He stayed friends with her because he wanted to and he wanted to keep her quiet.
While this WAS really soon after you two got together I don't really think to ... (read in full...)
Living together is making me broke
Q. My question is about sharing expenses as a couple. I've been with my girlfriend for over 3 years, and we enjoy each other's company. We've been living together for 5 months, which has resulted in my expenses more than doubling. We both work and we ...
A. 2 June 2017: At least you found out now. She will not change her mind because it WORKS for her. She doesn't think you would ask her to move out.
She gets to pay off HER debts on YOUR time and basically on your dime.
I think you REALLY need to rethink this ... (read in full...)
What are his intentions if he messages me everyday?
Q. Basically, I have been talking to this guy for 4 months now everyday. We met over an app and I asked if there was anything else I could talk to him on, he asked to add me on facebook and he added me on snapchat. Without a beat, we text everyday; he ...
A. 2 June 2017: I agree, it's more the FUN of it, the fantasy than a precursor for a relationship.
I think a LOT of people LIKE to have people to talk to over tech - texting, IM'ing, PM'ing, Skype, whatnot. It doesn't have to MEAN anything deeper.
Maybe w... (read in full...)
Are sexual exchanges forms of cheating?
Q. I went snooping through my boyfriend phones because I felt like he was being off with me (I know snooping is wrong and I shouldn't assume from past experiences the worst but I couldn't help my curiosity) I noticed that he has snap chat under a ...
A. 2 June 2017: I agree with N91
Yes, it is a form of cheating. It's something he HID from you and then LIED about.
He will do it again and again - he will JUST be better at hiding it from you. So... YOU have to decide if this is OK in a relationship or ... (read in full...)
I'm worried saying yes to sexual experiment will affect our friendship!
Q. My best friend of 15 years last night was telling me how he's curious to try things with a guy and he went on about it a lot. He kept asking if he could give me head and in all honesty I wanted to say yes but I just didn't want to risk my ...
A. 1 June 2017: I think I would tell him no.
If he wants to experiment, that is ON him but don't be his sexual guiniepig. Especially if he decides that he is either too embarrassed to have done it with a guy or want to do it with a guy. Because you KNOW who he w... (read in full...)
Should I talk to my co worker about our fling, or let it go?
Q. Hey guys, need some work/relationship advice!! So I recently started working at my job a little over a month ago. One thing I love about this place is there are a lot of people my age and we're all motivated to work, but can still have a good time...
A. 1 June 2017: Well, it could have been worse :)
And don't forget you could have kissed HALF the employees (if you wanted too) and it STILL wouldn't be the "nosy" coworkers business.
It's OK to say:"I like to keep my private life private."
Going with the ... (read in full...)
Have I the right to feel narked?
Q. I have met someone and seen him a few times. I knew it was his birthday coming up weeks ago. I have asked him if he wants to come over the day before his birthday which he has said he would love to do. I mentioned my daughter working at a race ...
A. 1 June 2017: To be blunt, I don't think you have a "right" to be upset over this.
However, you FEEL what you feel, right or wrong.
His mates arranged a night out to celebrate him, these are people he has a LONG friendship with and will continue to have... (read in full...)
Is it over with my married lover? Or is he just cooling down?
Q. Hello everyone, through common friends I met a guy at a dinner and we clicked instantly. I have been single for 3 years and I'm very hard to connect with someone immediately. We spoke the entire evening and exchanged numbers. The next morning I had ...
A. 1 June 2017: OP, I'm not bitter at you - or other women who CHOOSE to enter an affair.
Walking away from that guy was probably the BEST thing that happened - I met my husband of 20 years a couple of years after this happened. It IS water under the bridge, ... (read in full...)
Is it over with my married lover? Or is he just cooling down?
Q. Hello everyone, through common friends I met a guy at a dinner and we clicked instantly. I have been single for 3 years and I'm very hard to connect with someone immediately. We spoke the entire evening and exchanged numbers. The next morning I had ...
A. 1 June 2017: To answer your last part of your post
"As for all the haters and people judging women who fall for a married man, why don't you start judging the man for manipulating us and dragging us to an unwanted path full of lies and despair. Not every wo... (read in full...)
Should I worry about the attention he gives her?
Q. I've been seeing a guy for about two months now. Everything has been going great. He's affectionate, caring, etc. We've dated before a few years ago and it didn't work out. He had cheated on me with a very permiscuous chick who has a reputation for ...
A. 1 June 2017: They have a sexual past. That would be my guess. They are watching each other to see if the other spill the beans.
It might also BE that he SEES in HER (the brother's GF) a younger version of himself. Someone who was VERY promiscuous and he might... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend?
Q. My best friend started dating a girl from our college. But I've had 3some with that girl before. Should I tell him this?...
A. 1 June 2017: Was she HIS GF when you "fucked" her?
If not, so what?... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend?
Q. My best friend started dating a girl from our college. But I've had 3some with that girl before. Should I tell him this?...
A. 1 June 2017: Why should you tell him?
So what that you had a 3-some with her in the past. Do you think THIS girl should tell ANY girls you might want to date that SHE had a 3-some with you?
Have some class.... (read in full...)
I've fallen hard for a one-night-stand guy. How do I move on?
Q. I got back onto the dating scene a couple of weeks ago after a year of being single. I went onto a dating app and I met someone there. He caught me off guard completely! I fell for him, hard. He was so handsome and charming! I couldn't believe ...
A. 1 June 2017: You said he was VERY upfront about what HE wanted and he started out with a naked picture?
So what you REALLY need to do is ACCEPT that you WERE just another notch on his bedpost. Nothing more.
Should you be embarrassed? That depends... Was t... (read in full...)
Is it over with my married lover? Or is he just cooling down?
Q. Hello everyone, through common friends I met a guy at a dinner and we clicked instantly. I have been single for 3 years and I'm very hard to connect with someone immediately. We spoke the entire evening and exchanged numbers. The next morning I had ...
A. 31 May 2017: If there os ONE thing I really dislike it's when people DISMISS blatant RED flags and claim they can't "help" themselves.
The fact (or it might be a lie) that he hasn't cheated before or in 9 years DOESN'T make him a great guy. HE is STILL ch... (read in full...)
How do you let gay men know which role you from the get-go?
Q. What do you do if you get the impression that other gay men think you're a top when you're not? I guess it's my appearance but that's kinda unfair. Has anybody ever experienced this? How can I fix this? ...
A. 31 May 2017: Get to KNOW the guy you are getting involved with before sex?
I don't know if gay men ONLY stick to one "role" (top/bottom, what not) but I'd personally look for a person who was willing to not put me in a "box".
The better you KNOW a person, t... (read in full...)
Should I tell my fiance how I came up with the name for our unborn daughter?
Q. Hi guys So I am 29, engaged and pregnant. To be honest life couldn't be better right now. My summer wedding is around the corner and everything's great. Here's my question. Me and my fiance are having a girl and have come up with the best n...
A. 31 May 2017: Absolutely not. UNLESS you are willing to change the name and sow doubt in your fiance's mind.
Do you really think it's the BEST name to give your child given the backstory to the name? THAt is the big question here.
... (read in full...)
Should I talk to my co worker about our fling, or let it go?
Q. Hey guys, need some work/relationship advice!! So I recently started working at my job a little over a month ago. One thing I love about this place is there are a lot of people my age and we're all motivated to work, but can still have a good time...
A. 30 May 2017: I agree, he is all fizz and no bang!
He wants YOU to be the one head over heels in love with him, and when you didn't react how he wanted he distanced himself. NOTHING you did wrong.
It's also easier to make THIS about YOU than himself.
He s... (read in full...)
I'm falling in love with a married woman who's in a bad marriage but will she ever leave her husband?
Q. I recently moved to a new location about 6 months ago, I started going to bar to hang out. I started talked to the a Server while I was the bar and every time I go in she always made a point to go say hi. Now she was cute, so I went more often th...
A. 30 May 2017: Don't - JUST don't get yourself into this mess.
You might think that you somehow can RESCUE her from her bad marriage, but in reality, only SHE can remove herself from it.
She is USING you to make herself feel better. You are like an illicit ... (read in full...)
I can't stop stalking my ex on social media and I can't get over the way that he dumped me mercilessly
Q. I can't get over my ex and stalking him on social media; this is pathetic and I don't talk about it beside my therapists that doesn't approve my actions but here it is and I am hoping that someone might have some advice - my relationship with my ex ...
A. 30 May 2017: You have to get to the core of this with the question WHY are you still so hung up on this guy?
Is it because you hope he will grow a conscience and APOLOGISE, that he will realize he made a mistake dumping you? Or are you hoping to catch him gett... (read in full...)
Who am I? I want to be bisexual as I think I like girls more than boys now. Hardly anyone I know is bisexual
Q. I have been out with loads of boys but I kissed a girl and I think I like girls now. I want to be bisexual, but don't know what people would think and well it's harder to get a good relationship because hardly anyone I know is bisexual or gay. W...
A. 30 May 2017: OP, we really don't get to CHOOSE out sexuality or whom we are attracted to.
I know for many people the notion of being bi-sexual means they have twice as many options, but that is not really true either.
Most people are not just "insert lab... (read in full...)
He's unbalanced and often will not take his meds. I'm scared of making another mistake but I know I have to leave him. How can my children and I leave him safely?
Q. I've decided to leave but I am scared. I've been married twice before. The first 14 years and two children and he cheated. The second was a rebound one child but he was abusive. I had 5 years on my own with my three children and we were happy...
A. 30 May 2017: Do you have a place you could go with your kids? As in RIGHT now? The house you have rented is it available NOW? As in TODAY?
If so, PACK up and go.
MAKE sure your name is OFF EVERY bill, CANCEL any bank cards he has had access too, CHANGE your... (read in full...)
I want to tell his wife that I was his mistress
Q. I am a 44 years old divorced woman. 15 years ago when I was 29, I dated this one guy who was an American soldier. I wasn’t very much attracted to him at first, so it took a lot of effort for him to get me into a relationship. We never said ‘I love ...
A. 30 May 2017: You didn't give a FLYING fart about her when you KNOWINGLY entered (or re-entered) an affair with this man, but NOW... you care?
I get that you feel she should know, but you don't want to tell her for HER sake, you want HER to hurt like YOU hurt... (read in full...)
How do I determine if this relationship will ever turn serious or not?
Q. I have been in an awkward type of relationship with a man that is 14 years my senior . I Have known my Partner for 13 years now and we have an oops baby that we both love to bits and pieces. we started out as a one night stand that became a fr...
A. 29 May 2017: To be very frank OP,
NO, I don't think you can "make" that happen. After 13 years and it's still nothing more than an "awkward" relationship, then the chance if that changing? minuscule, IMHO.
You can TELL him how you feel and what you want, a... (read in full...)
I am beginning to resent him. He has changed since we married. He is now sarcastic to me. How can this be resolved ?
Q. Apologizes in advance for the long post but I really need advice. My husband and I have been married for five months. We dated for 2.5 years long distance. I moved to his city post-marriage. During the time we dated, he was always very sweet ...
A. 29 May 2017: OP, I think THIS is who he really is. YOU just didn't see that side of him BEFORE you started living together.
Visiting each other is a LOT like a mini vacation rather than domesticity. I know this because I went through an LDR for 18 months a... (read in full...)
So tired of it, what now? I feel rejected again. We met, and then we were texting a lot. Now he is not replying.
Q. Hi! Just need some advice on not stressing out too much... I met this guy a week ago, last friday. We were at a party and kissed on the night and he was SO nice. He asked for my number and texted me the day after and told me how nice it was ...
A. 29 May 2017: What now?
Relax.
Accept that you CAN NOT get to know someone over text, not on a REAL level. And JUST because you two "talked" a lot over text doesn't mean you know him or HE knows you.
Maybe all HE was looking for was to sleep with you. A... (read in full...)
Am I too old to expect to have a physical relationship? Should I just accept it?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years rarely wants sex - maybe every 3 or 4 months. Aside from that he almost never touches me except for a peck on the lips. This is breaking my heart. I've talked to him about it many times and he says he's too tired but he ...
A. 29 May 2017: Are you too old? What? No!
Should you accept it? With this guy? If you want to stay with him, then yes. He isn't interested in more sex that you are having.
Should you accept it? (in general) no.
It might just be that you two are NOT a g... (read in full...)
Why do men show an interest in me and suddenly change?
Q. I am a gay man. I stopped dating for a year as I was just tired of being heartbroken. I started again a couple weeks ago, I met a guy who seemed so nice. He was everything I wanted in a guy, I honestly couldn't believe it. He was constantly ...
A. 29 May 2017: Why do you do it?
Because you want it, BADLY. Nothing WRONG in that. The only "bad" thing is how you went about it. And THAT is something you can change as long as you are aware of it.
KNOW your own value, OP.
If a guy seems to be VERY int... (read in full...)
Why do men show an interest in me and suddenly change?
Q. I am a gay man. I stopped dating for a year as I was just tired of being heartbroken. I started again a couple weeks ago, I met a guy who seemed so nice. He was everything I wanted in a guy, I honestly couldn't believe it. He was constantly ...
A. 28 May 2017: I think YOU need to SLOW down. You talk to a guy for a couple of weeks and then all of a sudden he is the "perfect" guy and THIS is going to be IT!
It might not. You need to not drop your heart at the first cute guy who flatter you and who tell... (read in full...)
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