My fiance lied to me about his health
Q. Dear cupid , Ive been engaged for a year now , my fiance and i we're supposed to get married at the end of this year , but last minute he drops a bomb on me saying that he has financle issues he needs to take care of and cannot get married this yea...
A. 10 March 2018: Is he military?
If he is, at least THAT side of it (the taking care of the meds, testing him etc. should be on point).
Also, TRT can make people VERY up and down emotionally (not making excuses for him but there are times where some of the type... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is unemotional and giving me the silent treatment!
Q. Dear Cupid I'm living with my bf of 3 years , and he is nice most of the times, but he is very unemotional and practical and had not told me he loves me yet, though I said couple of times and no response So I got pregnant , we both agreed it...
A. 8 March 2018: You know where this is going. Why you are pretending it's all fine, I don't know. You might be one of those women who claim "but I LOVE him" as an excuse to stay in an unhealthy, unequal, loveless and maybe even slightly abusive situation ALL in the ... (read in full...)
Did I dodge a bullet?
Q. Hi everyone I guess i'm just looking for some encouragement or advice. I met a girl at the end of last year and I liked her a lot from the start. We grew closer and would talk often. Then I had to go abroad with university for 3 weeks and once ...
A. 8 March 2018: Yes you dodged a bullet.
First of all, visiting your grandpa in the hospital is WAYYYYYY more important than hanging out and IF she actually cared about you she would understand.
Second of all, you DO NOT have to respond INSTANTANEOUS to... (read in full...)
Do I have to be a bad boy to find love?
Q. I met some one new, my question is, so do I act like my self,which is a gentleman, kind of guy who opens doors, says nice things, I keep hearing from my friends that am too nice, act like I don't give a hoot, my friends say she will like me more, so ...
A. 8 March 2018: I think at your age (which is the same age group as myself) the whole "bad boy" is quite passé.
It's the younger women who goes for bad boys and IF they are smart they only do that once...
The thing with SAYING you are a good guy it's... a li... (read in full...)
His behavious doesn't tell me if he likes me or if its flirty banter.
Q. I started a new job over a month ago. The floor i work on is the same floor as my mates brother who I have never met before. i was introduced to him by mate ever since we been introduced he always makes the effort to come and talk to me in intervals ...
A. 8 March 2018: He seems like someone who likes to play games with girls. Because you jump in with both feet he up the game with the hot/cold.
Honey, you don't have a LIST of what you want in a BF, do you? Because that isn't realistic. You aren't shopping... (read in full...)
What should I do about my mum’s intrusiveness?
Q. Hi Everyone, not a love question but hope someone can offer advice... My mom is the most intrusive woman in the world (maybe over exaggeration but still..) I have two little ones (6 and 11) and i live on my own with them, self employed, and he...
A. 7 March 2018: I'd tell her if she wants to see the kids you can meet OUTSIDE your house, at the park, the Mall, her house etc. But you ARE done being belittled and nagged about your house by her.
If she does the whole banging on the letterbox, the police w... (read in full...)
Should I let my crush know that I am now single?
Q. I have a crush on an older man from out of state. He is 39 and I am 28. At one point he showed interest in me but he backed off after realizing I had a boyfriend (we met through a facebook group a year and a half ago). I didn't do much to encourage ...
A. 6 March 2018: Good luck and again thanks for the updates :)... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for expecting to change my loner boyfriend?
Q. Hi all. I am having this problem with my boyfriend of four years. We have a good relationship overall but he is a loner-independent type of a guy. He meets my needs most of the time and although we have differences, we have been able to compromise. ...
A. 6 March 2018: 4 years together and not living together? That seems... well, a little on the extreme. It's not just about being independent, it's about having his own little place to retreat to when there is too much social interactions.
Him saying it's your ex'... (read in full...)
He pursued me and now I’m in love with him, but he has a girlfriend. Do I tell him how I feel?
Q. Please don’t judge me too much for writing this.. but I’d really appreciate some advice. This guy works in a different department in my office.. we knew each other vaguely for 2 years and and he started messaging me randomly around 6 months ...
A. 6 March 2018: I think this will be a MASSIVE mistake, if you don't nip this is the bud.
First off, someone who is willing to cheat WITH you is willing to cheat ON you. You are not some special snowflake that he won't get bored with or cheat on at some point. A... (read in full...)
She wants my opinion, but if shr knew what my opinion was, she wouldn't want it!
Q. I've got a friend I've known since kindergarten. We've been through a lot and our friendship is strong. I care about her, but I'm not blind. She is pretty self-centered. Over the years we worked on our relationship and I had to set up some boundari...
A. 6 March 2018: I think regardless of what YOU think, she will do as SHE wants.
So I'd point out the usual. Being stable financially, having a home with room for a baby, having a support net, having the TIME to raise a child.
There are plenty of teens who do ... (read in full...)
Moving things forward from social media is he into me or just being nice?
Q. So I followed this guy on Instagram and he instantly followed me back. Our first chat was about the snow in uk then he invited me to gym with him but I said let’s take a rain check and rearrange We’ve had flirty banter I asked him his birthday...
A. 6 March 2018: Generally? I think Instagram is not a good place to be "trolling" for a BF - because all you see there is "fake advertising". It's all about look at me - look at me!
Not so much about "get to know me".
And maybe... going from talking vaca... (read in full...)
How to cope with spoilt favouritised sister?
Q. My sister is a spoilt little brat and I'm not just saying that out of anger or resentment. She doesn't respect my parents at all. She never says "thank you" but instead "can you get me this next?" She's twelve years old. I'm not even surprised s...
A. 6 March 2018: Have you tried talking to your mom at any point (without your sister being around). You mom, might be babying your little sister for many reasons. Who knows, but I think talking to your mom might be the best approach.
She might NOT want to hear ... (read in full...)
Should I let my crush know that I am now single?
Q. I have a crush on an older man from out of state. He is 39 and I am 28. At one point he showed interest in me but he backed off after realizing I had a boyfriend (we met through a facebook group a year and a half ago). I didn't do much to encourage ...
A. 6 March 2018: Enjoy life and single life. If you are looking for guys (in general) older than you... I don't think you will have a hard time (when you are ready) to find someone.
If the break up is fairly new, I'd definitely hold off on announcing it. But it c... (read in full...)
Why do you think he cannot climax when I'm very wet?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. We see each other about once every 2-3 months. When we see each other and have sex, he doesn't last long, only about 3-5mins. But after a few days of having sex for 2-3 times per day, he will...
A. 6 March 2018: If he is used to a "non-greased" tight hand (as in wanking himself off) when you are NOT there, it might be why the extra moisture makes it harder for him to finish. Even if you ARE tight, it doesn't FEEL as tight when you are super wet.
Why n... (read in full...)
Please help me!! No one is helping me.
Q. Posting Questipn again as no one answered before. Please help me. Don’t ignore me please! When people ignore you and your posts on social media, But respond to others what can do you do? Why do people do this? It’s like “Fomo” aka “ ...
A. 5 March 2018: Sorry, you feel that this is an answer that strangers can give you.
I didn't answer your original question because 1. I don't DO social media and 2. I call people, e-mail or text if I want a conversation and my family & friends ANSWER when I c... (read in full...)
The guy with the reputation treats me differently to everybody else, my friends don't trust him.
Q. I have a crush on this guy. He's known for being a playboy, so i'm not sure it he has feelings for me or if he's just flirting by accident. However, he's even acting different towards me than he was acting towards the other girls he's hit on. He's ...
A. 5 March 2018: When a guy has a reputation for being a player, you need to pay attention.
Him opening doors and whatnot for you is PART of the "game-plan" otherwise he would DO it for everyone. He has picked you out for special treatment for whatever reason, ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for me to ejaculate and not realize it?
Q. I have sex with my gf, 3 times in fact in a night till morning, first was 6-7:30pm and 2nd was 2:00am, it's unprotected sex and I did a pull out, it was successful, but on the 3rd time I did it around 6:30, I did not cum, or I think so.. I was hard ...
A. 5 March 2018: You don't know if your "pull out" was successful or not, you will know in a few weeks...
USE condoms, OP
If you feel you are old enough for sex, you are OLD enough to buy some condoms and protect your GF and yourself from unwanted pregnan... (read in full...)
I haven’t heard from him in 3 days!
Q. Hi guys thanks for reading. I need help please and advise on what to do. I’ve been talkin to a guy I met on a dating site. We have meet up a few times, talk on the phone and text. But I havnt heard from him in 3 days. I only sent 1 text saying ‘...
A. 5 March 2018: If he is busy with a new business AND going through a divorce the time for dating might be off.
Or he might NOT really being going through the divorce YET. One thing is SAYING he is going through a divorce, another is ACTUALLY going through ... (read in full...)
Why does he only stay hard in certain acts?
Q. Why does my boyfriend only stay hard if I give him a blow job or give him a hand job?? ...
A. 4 March 2018: Because both feels tighter. There is more friction.
He might have been used to masturbating by hand a lot and with a very tight grip which means your vagina doesn't feel that tight and he can't stay hard. (not!!! that there is anything "wrong" ... (read in full...)
Should I let my crush know that I am now single?
Q. I have a crush on an older man from out of state. He is 39 and I am 28. At one point he showed interest in me but he backed off after realizing I had a boyfriend (we met through a facebook group a year and a half ago). I didn't do much to encourage ...
A. 4 March 2018: I think as long as you don't jump in with both feet and overlook any red flags (like you did with your ex) then why not?
But be realistic. And GO slow. Having talked/chatted a little over FB/text doesn't mean you KNOW him as a person.
Also he... (read in full...)
I can't quit my job because I'm under government funded care
Q. I’m wanting to quit my job from a sports company I have worked for four years and can’t because I’m under government care which my mum is telling me I can’t get out of. my mum is saying if I quit the job I’m doing the so called profession as they ...
A. 4 March 2018: Why is the holidays with the family such an issue for you?
Is it because it makes you feel you have no say, no control?
It could be that you are "told" to go because you haven't shown your parents that you can take care of yourself. As you... (read in full...)
Should I let my crush know that I am now single?
Q. I have a crush on an older man from out of state. He is 39 and I am 28. At one point he showed interest in me but he backed off after realizing I had a boyfriend (we met through a facebook group a year and a half ago). I didn't do much to encourage ...
A. 4 March 2018: You are trying to have seemingly deep conversations over text/messages.. that isn't going to work. It might work for guys your own age but the subject of philosophy is... well, it's for IN person debates and discussions IMHO.
It might make you... (read in full...)
My wife is a liar, I've found out out marriage isnt legal. Do I walk away?
Q. I'm married for 3 years now and have observed what I would consider to be an inordinate amount/level of lying by my partner. After several of those 'untruths' I began to wonder if there weren't some other things which I had been deceived or lied to ...
A. 4 March 2018: You married a woman you don't trust from the get go. Someone who lied as smoothly about being a teacher when she was a maid, will lie about other things, that is almost a given.
And of course she gets MAD when you catch her in a lie. It's uncomfor... (read in full...)
Should I let my crush know that I am now single?
Q. I have a crush on an older man from out of state. He is 39 and I am 28. At one point he showed interest in me but he backed off after realizing I had a boyfriend (we met through a facebook group a year and a half ago). I didn't do much to encourage ...
A. 4 March 2018: Relax, OP
IF you JUST broke up with your now ex, take a bit of time to get over that relationship, where is the fire that you now HAVE to chase someone else?
Also have you looked PAST the "crush"? I mean is an LDR what you are truly looking fo... (read in full...)
I regret not saying 'Good-Bye' to him
Q. This is a weird situation - but years ago I lived in London (late 80s/early 90s). I was in my late teens and very emotionally immature at the time as I had never been in a relationship before. One evening at a gig I met a nice blond guy called ...
A. 4 March 2018: We all have someone in our past that we met at a time where we weren't ready for more or for that person. It happens. I think most people have that ONE person in their past that has become something more than they really were, in our minds and over ... (read in full...)
My husband spends the same amount on his son's girlfriend as he spends on me.
Q. Is this appropriate? I remarried 3 yrs ago and inheritted two stepsons (now 21 and amp; 23) my problem is with the gifts my husband buys for the girlfriend of his older son (23yrs old-lovely girl who I like v much). When we go away and they ar...
A. 3 March 2018: Ah, I can see why he bought her the gifts he did.
YOU tried to tell him WHAT he can spend HIS money on and WHAT he can buy for the son's GF and he decided HE can do what he wants.
So you picked a battle that is kind of pointless and lo... (read in full...)
Why is my husband still here?
Q. In 2016 my husband had affair whole that year I also fell pregnant with our third child during the mid of his affair. He ended it with mistress because he said he wants life with me and kids. Its now 2018 and its just hard for me now to understa...
A. 3 March 2018: Don't worry about her.
Figure out IF you really WANT the marriage to continue and if YOU are willing to work on it. IF you are, seek marriage counseling. And if HE wishes to stay, he will go too.
My advice? Fix it or end it. This neither her... (read in full...)
Why are other people so negative?
Q. Why are people always negative or trying to make me feel small. What is it that I do? From a young age, I have always had to deal with negativity. As a result I have become auto-pilot positive in response (could call it defensive). I often realised...
A. 3 March 2018: Maybe just accept that talking about careers and jobs is NOT something to do with these guys.
they can't be supportive when it comes to work and careers.
Why? Because men (especially) are VERY competitive when it comes to careers/status e... (read in full...)
My fiance lied to me about his health
Q. Dear cupid , Ive been engaged for a year now , my fiance and i we're supposed to get married at the end of this year , but last minute he drops a bomb on me saying that he has financle issues he needs to take care of and cannot get married this yea...
A. 3 March 2018: I'd give him his ring back.
You can not start a life together when hiding things like this. Why does he think it has nothing to do with you?
While there is NO way of knowing how BAD his medical issues are, maybe including YOU would have been ... (read in full...)
How should I reply to his text?
Q. Hi Thank you for reading. I dated a guy for 7 months last year. He dumped me in late December, saying that he felt that our relationship wasn’t moving forward as quickly as he wanted. He wanted me to move in with him and I didn’t feel ready...
A. 3 March 2018: I think it depends what you really want. Don't CONSIDER what HE wanted (as in staying friend - which he really didn't mean).
I think being honest is the way to go so yes, TELL him you don't feel in a place to make friendly chats, wish him well and... (read in full...)
I was happily single and living a full life ad then I met this man!
Q. I have been happily single for three years now and although missing the physical intimacy and all else that goes with having a close partner, have been busy with family and friends and not really been actively looking for a relationship. I ...
A. 2 March 2018: Honestly?
Keep it to a polite and professional level with this guy. The banter is fine, the having a laugh is fine but DO NOT try and turn this into a relationship.
You don't seem ready for one or even willing to have one at the moment AND T... (read in full...)
I’m a 25 year-old lesbian trying to figure out why I am almost exclusively attracted to older women
Q. 'm a 25 year-old lesbian trying to figure out why I am almost exclusively attracted to older women. I'm currently in a relationship with a woman 20 years older than me. When I was 19 I was dating men and women in their late 30s. Ever since I w...
A. 2 March 2018: http://psychology.wikia.com/wiki/Age_disparity_in_sexual_relationships
A short version? We like what we like. Some like the more mature partner or... (age-wise) immature. Unless it becomes a problem in your life and relationship I don't see what... (read in full...)
I'm offended that my FWB didn't believe me when I said I'd taken the morning-after pill.
Q. Hi all... So I’ve been in a kind of friends with benefits relationship with an older guy for almost a year, but we’ve had sex maybe like 10 times in all. Just some background, he’s separated and I’m just single. We have a good friendship, but we ...
A. 2 March 2018: Yeah, if someone you are casual with annoys you it's definitely time to move on.
Most FWB do have an "expiration date" and maybe this was just time little wake up call for you to see that.
But I do think you should tell him you are ready to mov... (read in full...)
How soon should I contact her for a 2nd date after a great first date?
Q. Hi , I'm a single professional guy of age 40. I met a cute/beautiful woman ( she is about 37) at a food meetup about 3 weeks back ( it was a group setting) I was sitting diagonally across he and we chatted quite a bit. I was definitely interest...
A. 2 March 2018: Yes, I never think ghosting is OK. Even if it's someone you barely know, if you have been out on a couple of dates you know them "well" enough to back out politely.
"do unto others as you would have them do unto you."
... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with my doctor.
Q. I have fallen in love with my physician. I’ve been with him professionally for 15 years. I’ve always liked him but over the years we have developed a friendship. He is 4 years younger than me but I feel that we are compatible. I realized three ...
A. 2 March 2018: I don't think you should continue to see him as your doctor.
You are NOT in love with him, you are infatuated with him. Why do I say that? Because you don't REALLY know him or his life. You have met him ONE time outside of his practice!
Being u... (read in full...)
My husband spends the same amount on his son's girlfriend as he spends on me.
Q. Is this appropriate? I remarried 3 yrs ago and inheritted two stepsons (now 21 and amp; 23) my problem is with the gifts my husband buys for the girlfriend of his older son (23yrs old-lovely girl who I like v much). When we go away and they ar...
A. 2 March 2018: Sounds like he is trying to impress her. That doesn't mean he has romantic feelings for her but he wants her to see him as generous and successful for his own ego's sake.
A tad... mid-life crisis thing?
I DO agree that perfume is mostly regard... (read in full...)
How should I react to this coversation between him and her?
Q. Ok, so I am going out with an older man, he is 16 years older than me(me 30 he is 46), divorced no children,we get along really well,and he treats me super nice,he is a gentleman and much more,we don’t have a lot of time of being together,yet we ...
A. 2 March 2018: Nope, re-read it... you are right Ycnbs - the pictures was before...
My mistake.
I have only dealt with real estate agents where we FIRST met in the office before doing house showings. Even with our current rental.
If she HAD NOT met hi... (read in full...)
I let her know I was interested and since then its cooled off.
Q. Hello, I guess my question is more towards women. Ladies, if you don't really know a guy but he has a crush on you and he's your biggest fan and he tries to create conversations with you, what's the fine line between coming off as too much? Re...
A. 2 March 2018: 1. you haven't met yet?
2. the minute you told her you were interested in more than chats, she cooled off?
If so, then she isn't interested in you, in a romantic way.
Having a crush on someone doesn't mean they owe YOU to feel the same. There... (read in full...)
How should I react to this coversation between him and her?
Q. Ok, so I am going out with an older man, he is 16 years older than me(me 30 he is 46), divorced no children,we get along really well,and he treats me super nice,he is a gentleman and much more,we don’t have a lot of time of being together,yet we ...
A. 2 March 2018: @ Youcannotbeserious
The text conversation and sending of pictures back and forth happened AFTER the showings... so it wasn't for safety reasons. (which could have made sense)
At least that is how the post explain it.
... (read in full...)
I'm offended that my FWB didn't believe me when I said I'd taken the morning-after pill.
Q. Hi all... So I’ve been in a kind of friends with benefits relationship with an older guy for almost a year, but we’ve had sex maybe like 10 times in all. Just some background, he’s separated and I’m just single. We have a good friendship, but we ...
A. 2 March 2018: If he is in the middle of trying to figure out whether to make his marriage work OR to divorce, I can see why a BABY is the last bit of "drama" he needs in his life. HOWEVER, maybe having a FWB isn't very smart for a guy in his position anyways. ... (read in full...)
How soon should I contact her for a 2nd date after a great first date?
Q. Hi , I'm a single professional guy of age 40. I met a cute/beautiful woman ( she is about 37) at a food meetup about 3 weeks back ( it was a group setting) I was sitting diagonally across he and we chatted quite a bit. I was definitely interest...
A. 2 March 2018: I would make the presumption that she isn't all that interested. 36+ hours before replying is (to me) low-key off-putting in my book. No one is that busy. Shoot, I even text people back I really don't want to talk to within a few hours. Not to be ... (read in full...)
How should I react to this coversation between him and her?
Q. Ok, so I am going out with an older man, he is 16 years older than me(me 30 he is 46), divorced no children,we get along really well,and he treats me super nice,he is a gentleman and much more,we don’t have a lot of time of being together,yet we ...
A. 1 March 2018: That is the weirdest thing ever!
Did you ask him WHY she would needs a photo and why he sent her one? He was LOOKING to rent/buy a place nothing more, correct?
I would ask him because it makes no sense why she'd need his photo OR send him hers... (read in full...)
How soon should I contact her for a 2nd date after a great first date?
Q. Hi , I'm a single professional guy of age 40. I met a cute/beautiful woman ( she is about 37) at a food meetup about 3 weeks back ( it was a group setting) I was sitting diagonally across he and we chatted quite a bit. I was definitely interest...
A. 27 February 2018: I think a kiss on the lips should come NATURALLY or "ORGANICALLY" not with a plan or agenda.
I don't think a girl who gives a cheek is automatically a "gold digger" or whatever - she might just WANT to go slow, she MIGHT be uncomfortable and she ... (read in full...)
How soon should I contact her for a 2nd date after a great first date?
Q. Hi , I'm a single professional guy of age 40. I met a cute/beautiful woman ( she is about 37) at a food meetup about 3 weeks back ( it was a group setting) I was sitting diagonally across he and we chatted quite a bit. I was definitely interest...
A. 22 February 2018: I think it VERY hard to distinguish between someone being VERY polite and friendly versus someone who is interested.
Especially in our age group. Because WE (most of us) have learned manners and as women were RAISED to not be rude.
I know ... (read in full...)
How soon should I contact her for a 2nd date after a great first date?
Q. Hi , I'm a single professional guy of age 40. I met a cute/beautiful woman ( she is about 37) at a food meetup about 3 weeks back ( it was a group setting) I was sitting diagonally across he and we chatted quite a bit. I was definitely interest...
A. 21 February 2018: Don't do the "wait 3 days".
If the contact isn't flowing well, maybe this is not quite the one for you.
The idea time to ask for a second date? I think is at the END of a SUCCESSFUL first date. IMHO.
So you can ask her out any time now. Bu... (read in full...)
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